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Speaker: Um, Bud, what am I looking forward to?
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Speaker: Um, Bud.
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Speaker: What other bud am I looking forward to?
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Speaker: Um, so a few things on the horizon, but, um, we'll talk
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Speaker: about that when it.
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Speaker: Yeah, when it fully develops.
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Speaker: But, um, thorn for the week, we talked about it earlier in the
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Speaker: pod a few minutes ago.
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Speaker: D'Angelo.
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Speaker: Rest in peace to D'Angelo.
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Speaker: Rest in peace to D'Angelo, man.
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Speaker: Um, I said I was talking to one of my friends.
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Speaker: I was like, yo, bro, you know what song I play every day?
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Speaker: Going to work.
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Speaker: Devil's pie.
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Speaker: Mhm.
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Speaker: Like, just to hear that news when I'm literally just finished
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Speaker: listening to the song, bro.
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Speaker: And I've seen that, like, my
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Speaker: coworker was like, you saw the
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Speaker: news.
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Speaker: I'm like, what you talking about?
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Speaker: He told me.
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Speaker: I looked up in his face.
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Speaker: I said, bro, get out of my face.
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Speaker: Like I don't play the jokes, bro.
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Speaker: But, um, it's unfortunate bro.
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Speaker: That guy.
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Speaker: The first thing I thought about was the the children.
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Speaker: The children's children?
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: They lost their mom and dad in one year.
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Speaker: God damn.
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Speaker: In a few months, I think, um, she passed in March or something
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Speaker: at the beginning of the year in a car accident?
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: And then two was your dad to.
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Speaker: That was just.
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Speaker: That's tough, man.
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Speaker: Prayers go out to them.
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Speaker: Facts.
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Speaker: Um, uh.
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Speaker: The thorn.
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Speaker: I don't think I have any other thorn, man.
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Speaker: I'm just happy to be here.
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Speaker: Happy to be alive and just living in my purpose.
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Speaker: Mhm.
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Speaker: Yeah, I like that day to day.
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Speaker: Um, my, my roles is I'm at Allen
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Speaker: Iverson on Tuesday I went to his
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Speaker: uh his um that was in DC or in
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Speaker: New York.
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Speaker: In Philly.
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Speaker: Damn.
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Speaker: Oh he was in.
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Speaker: He's outside.
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Speaker: Yeah, yeah.
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Speaker: Um, he started his book tour.
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Speaker: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Speaker: So I went to the Philly stop, and I got to meet.
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Speaker: Funny enough.
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Speaker: Uh, I didn't have a VIP, but
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Speaker: Camille Rose was like, one of
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Speaker: the sponsors, and I was like,
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Speaker: yo, like, you want to do a quick
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Speaker: video?
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Speaker: I was like, sure.
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Speaker: Yeah, definitely.
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Speaker: And they gave me a VIP for that.
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Speaker: So I got to meet AI.
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Speaker: So that was cool.
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Speaker: Um, Rose, you said anything to him?
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Speaker: It wasn't that type of, like, thing.
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Speaker: It was like, yo, have the camera ready.
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Speaker: Have the.
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Speaker: Oh, okay.
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Speaker: Okay, picture this video.
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Speaker: Uh, yeah, I just got a picture.
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Speaker: You flicked the way.
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: That's nice.
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Speaker: You just had that little, you know, one, two, three, four.
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Speaker: You didn't post that?
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Speaker: No. Well, so we'll get to my thorn.
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Speaker: That's why I didn't post that or much of anything this week.
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Speaker: Uh, other rose was.
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Speaker: So I saw Freddie Gibbs again in DC on Sunday.
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Speaker: So that was this week.
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Speaker: And that completed my DC trifecta of seeing Chris Brown,
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Speaker: Dave Chappelle and the clips and, uh, Freddie on that Sunday.
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Speaker: So that was cool.
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Speaker: Uh, but what am I looking forward to?
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Speaker: Uh, the clips are coming, uh,
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Speaker: back to New York in December, so
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Speaker: I'm probably going to do that,
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Speaker: uh, the holidays, some stuff
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Speaker: like that.
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Speaker: Mhm.
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Speaker: Um what else?
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Speaker: There's some I'm looking forward to a bunch of things.
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Speaker: I'll say that there's a bunch of things I am looking forward to.
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Speaker: So.
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: And uh.
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Speaker: Thorn well first I had a chemical peel on my skin still
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Speaker: peeling, so I look all, like, weird and stuff.
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Speaker: Oh, you look pretty good.
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Speaker: Nah, but up here, see?
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Speaker: Like, right up here.
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Speaker: Oh, yeah.
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Speaker: Why you got a chemical peel so early?
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Speaker: It's not that early.
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Speaker: It's October.
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Speaker: I thought you we usually get it when.
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Speaker: No, uh, the winter officially starts.
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Speaker: No, no, fall is cool.
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Speaker: Fall is cool.
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Speaker: Okay.
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Speaker: Who did it, my boy?
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Speaker: It's a big word for Elmo.
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Speaker: It's a. Tricky word.
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Speaker: That's a tricky.
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Speaker: I'm not gonna lie.
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Speaker: Tricky word.
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Speaker: I'm not gonna lie.
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Speaker: That's my role.
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Speaker: That's Ryan bro.
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Speaker: Words.
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Speaker: Tricky words.
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Speaker: Tricky word for you.
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Speaker: I said, oh, that's a tricky word, but yeah.
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Speaker: So that's.
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Speaker: That was definitely a thorn,
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Speaker: like being all flaky and stuff
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Speaker: all week.
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Speaker: But the worst of it's over.
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Speaker: But yeah.
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Speaker: Nah.
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Speaker: My, uh, real thorn was, uh, Tuesday.
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Speaker: Man.
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Speaker: I, you know, opened Instagram.
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Speaker: I see that that, you know,
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Speaker: D'Angelo has passed and I'm
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Speaker: like, huh?
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Speaker: I deleted all the social media off my phone.
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Speaker: Oh, yeah.
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Speaker: Like I'm serious.
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Speaker: I deleted all the social media off my phone.
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Speaker: I wasn't even listening to music like that.
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Speaker: Uh, this week, uh, I cried like
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Speaker: I for sure cried hearing that
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Speaker: news.
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Speaker: Um, he means a lot to me.
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Speaker: Uh, and it was so crazy that people were checking on me.
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Speaker: Like people I've dated were
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Speaker: checking on me like friends,
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Speaker: like all types of sympathy
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Speaker: boxes.
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Speaker: It wasn't that.
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Speaker: It was genuine concern.
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Speaker: D'Angelo.
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Speaker: Disappointed.
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Speaker: Execute.
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: Could have got some brown sugar.
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Speaker: Could have got some brown sugar off of that gang.
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Speaker: Nah, son, I was I was devastated.
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Speaker: Uh, um, I y'all remember Brie's birthday party?
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Speaker: That was the, uh, day he was
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Speaker: supposed to perform at Roots
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Speaker: Picnic.
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Speaker: Yeah, he was right.
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: And so just, you know, because he dropped out.
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: Yeah, yeah.
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Speaker: He dropped out because of health issues.
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Speaker: So now I know it's like.
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Speaker: Oh, you was trying to give us one last one.
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Speaker: Damn.
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Speaker: You know, that's how I felt
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Speaker: when, uh, Nipsey last show in
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Speaker: New York.
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Speaker: Mhm.
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Speaker: The, uh, the woman I was dating at the time, she bought me
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Speaker: tickets and, uh, well, she bought me one ticket.
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Speaker: I didn't want to go by myself, though.
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Speaker: And then he died shortly after.
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Speaker: I regret that to this day.
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Speaker: Yeah, I remember that day.
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Speaker: Yeah, cause Mills went.
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Speaker: Mills went.
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: You asked me if you wanted.
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Speaker: I was like, ah, it's too late.
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Speaker: I'm ready.
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Speaker: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Speaker: So I kind of, I kind of regret not going.
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Speaker: Uh nip's.
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Speaker: Last show.
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Speaker: Well, it's it's funny you say that because, you know,
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Speaker: D'Angelo's definitely in line with all those.
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Speaker: We are we.
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Speaker: So we joke about the Na's dad thing.
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Speaker: Whatever.
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Speaker: But I didn't, uh, have a dad or a consistent father figure
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Speaker: growing up, like, um, I mean, you two did, right?
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Speaker: Like, I didn't have that.
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Speaker: So for me, music filled that void in a lot of different ways.
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Speaker: Right.
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Speaker: And D'Angelo especially, like,
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Speaker: uh, you know, his falsetto
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Speaker: embodies, like, peak male
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Speaker: sensitivity.
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Speaker: Right?
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Speaker: And being vulnerable as a man
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Speaker: and just being, you know, in his
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Speaker: words, he made black music,
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Speaker: right?
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Speaker: So it wasn't just, uh.
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Speaker: um, neo soul, which him, Erica,
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Speaker: and the Soulquarians are
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Speaker: credited for.
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Speaker: He made jazz.
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Speaker: He made, uh, funk.
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Speaker: He made gospel.
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Speaker: He made so many different things.
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Speaker: He was heavily inspired by Prince.
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Speaker: Like he was just.
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Speaker: He is one of the greatest, like, artists of all time.
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Speaker: One of the greatest, most skilled musicians ever.
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Speaker: So it was just super devastating to, um, like, get that news.
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Speaker: And it been affecting me all week.
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Speaker: But I do appreciate everyone that checked on me.
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Speaker: And, um, I love and appreciate him giving circle back.
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Speaker: Circle back.
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Speaker: Yeah.
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Speaker: Check on him again.
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Speaker: You know how real it was.
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Speaker: He was turning thirty and she was like, yo, you can show up
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Speaker: late to my party because I know how much he means to you.
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Speaker: Um, you know, so, um, so, yeah,
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Speaker: that's definitely, uh, my thorn,
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Speaker: but.
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Speaker: Yeah, um, my rose for the week.
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Speaker: Shout out to my boy.
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Speaker: Just.
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Speaker: He's bringing back his fitness
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Speaker: clothing line called, uh, fit
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Speaker: just right.
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Speaker: So that's what I'm wearing right now.
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Speaker: Uh, what am I looking forward to?
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Speaker: My schedule.
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Speaker: My work schedule came out today.
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Speaker: I got all Chicago's.
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Speaker: My first trip is a thirty hour layover in Chicago.
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Speaker: Might catch a Bulls game.
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Speaker: Oh. Also, uh, my rose, um, the
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Speaker: Dodgers are going back to the
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Speaker: World Series.
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Speaker: I don't know if y'all saw that performance.
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Speaker: Uh, on Tony, just put on one of the greatest baseball
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Speaker: performances of all time.
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Speaker: Three home runs, ten strikeouts, never to be done before, never
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Speaker: to be duplicated.
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Speaker: I'm letting all y'all Yankee
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Speaker: fans now know the bandwagon is
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Speaker: open until game one of the World
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Speaker: Series.
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Speaker: Once the first.
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Speaker: No matter of fact, once the national anthem is done, the
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Speaker: bandwagon is closed.
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Speaker: I'm saying this because the
00:10:41
Speaker: Dodgers originally originated in
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Speaker: Brooklyn.
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Speaker: So you know all y'all Bronx niggas with the Yankees, all or
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Speaker: Mets fans and queens.
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Speaker: The Dodgers have some of New York still the essence, you know
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Speaker: what I'm saying?
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Speaker: Ebbets field, if you know, you know, you know what I'm saying?
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Speaker: Just come back home with tradition is at we're about to
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Speaker: go back to back.
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Speaker: We are eight and one currently in the World Series.
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Speaker: We haven't seen something like this since the Lakers.
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Speaker: We running through the MLB.
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Speaker: I'm just saying we gave that man seven hundred million and every
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Speaker: penny has been worth it.
00:11:20
Speaker: It's so much that we let him gamble illegally and his man's
00:11:25
Speaker: ain't even in jail.
00:11:27
Speaker: So like I said, y'all have up to game one to join the bandwagon.
00:11:33
Speaker: You know, put that Yankee hat down, put that LA hat on, put
00:11:38
Speaker: that LA hat on.
00:11:41
Speaker: Alright.
00:11:42
Speaker: So that's my uh that's my role.
00:11:44
Speaker: Something I'm looking forward to.
00:11:46
Speaker: I already set my work schedule.
00:11:47
Speaker: Uh, Basketball season is about to jump off on Tuesday, so I'm
00:11:52
Speaker: looking forward back to the NBA.
00:11:53
Speaker: Um, my boss, I don't know what we doing, but we still number
00:11:59
Speaker: seven in attendance.
00:12:00
Speaker: I will be in the Chicago Bulls game next month.
00:12:03
Speaker: Um. Thorn?
00:12:07
Speaker: Thorn.
00:12:07
Speaker: One of my thorns.
00:12:08
Speaker: Uh, two thorns.
00:12:10
Speaker: Uh, one of my thorns is watching
00:12:14
Speaker: somebody you love become your
00:12:16
Speaker: opp.
00:12:17
Speaker: Damn.
00:12:18
Speaker: Yeah.
00:12:18
Speaker: That's, uh, universal.
00:12:22
Speaker: That's not a direct thorn of
00:12:23
Speaker: mine, but watching watching, uh,
00:12:25
Speaker: somebody you care about become
00:12:27
Speaker: your opp.
00:12:27
Speaker: That that's a thorn and another thorn.
00:12:31
Speaker: Uh, this one's kind of directed to me.
00:12:34
Speaker: Um.
00:12:37
Speaker: Real.
00:12:37
Speaker: When you cut somebody out of your life and you let them back
00:12:41
Speaker: in, they remind you why you did it in the first place.
00:12:44
Speaker: Yeah.
00:12:45
Speaker: Who I thought I'd give you a chance.
00:12:48
Speaker: Oh my bad.
00:12:50
Speaker: Fool me once.
00:12:52
Speaker: It's not even once.
00:12:53
Speaker: That's the.
00:12:54
Speaker: That's the crazy part.
00:12:55
Speaker: Um. And it's never the once.
00:12:57
Speaker: It's the tenth billionth time.
00:13:00
Speaker: Uh, so you're blaming yourself, but.
00:13:03
Speaker: Yeah, but obviously, you know, they they, uh, they have some
00:13:06
Speaker: sort of impact in your life that you kind of let it in, bypass
00:13:10
Speaker: it, bypass it?
00:13:11
Speaker: Yeah.
00:13:11
Speaker: Yeah, yeah.
00:13:12
Speaker: Um, but today's episode is called Feed My Ego.
00:13:19
Speaker: And I have two reasons why I wrote this down.
00:13:22
Speaker: The first one I was going to save this for, my ex showed me.
00:13:25
Speaker: But I don't feel like we got enough, uh, content this week to
00:13:28
Speaker: make a full.
00:13:29
Speaker: My ex showed me episode, so I just put it in this one.
00:13:32
Speaker: I saw this thing that, uh, this tweet that this woman said, yo,
00:13:37
Speaker: to keep it a buck with you, to get a man to do whatever you
00:13:40
Speaker: want him to do, you should just feed his ego.
00:13:43
Speaker: Y'all really?
00:13:44
Speaker: Y'all got the game fucked up wrong.
00:13:46
Speaker: Stop trying to, like, ask for money or whatever.
00:13:49
Speaker: Whatever you feed his ego, he willing to do whatever for you?
00:13:54
Speaker: Well.
00:13:58
Speaker: Say say more and and and when I saw that tweet, I was like,
00:14:03
Speaker: well, you know what?
00:14:05
Speaker: Hold on.
00:14:06
Speaker: I think I'm about to talk to my shorty because she even say some
00:14:10
Speaker: things lately and I been giving her what she want.
00:14:12
Speaker: I thank you for saying that, babe.
00:14:14
Speaker: Matter of fact, get some lunch.
00:14:16
Speaker: Okay, here's some flowers.
00:14:17
Speaker: Okay, okay.
00:14:18
Speaker: But.
00:14:19
Speaker: Okay.
00:14:20
Speaker: So cool.
00:14:21
Speaker: All right.
00:14:21
Speaker: I'm glad we got there.
00:14:22
Speaker: Right.
00:14:23
Speaker: But the second point about this
00:14:26
Speaker: is, uh, somebody had asked me,
00:14:28
Speaker: yo, on some, like, regular
00:14:30
Speaker: talking shit, she be like, yo,
00:14:31
Speaker: you ever dated somebody who just
00:14:33
Speaker: got you?
00:14:33
Speaker: Like, they got it?
00:14:34
Speaker: Like they they understand you.
00:14:37
Speaker: And I was like, nah.
00:14:38
Speaker: And then.
00:14:39
Speaker: But no. Hold on, hold on.
00:14:40
Speaker: I was so caught up in the
00:14:42
Speaker: conversation, I was like, yo,
00:14:43
Speaker: you know.
00:14:43
Speaker: But ain't nothing wrong with teaching somebody how to love
00:14:46
Speaker: you, blah blah blah blah blah.
00:14:47
Speaker: But she was like, no, like, you don't really think there's
00:14:49
Speaker: nobody out there who, like, just is just don't get it.
00:14:52
Speaker: Yeah.
00:14:52
Speaker: Without all that teaching, like, they just get you.
00:14:55
Speaker: I'm like, no, I don't really think that's, you know.
00:14:58
Speaker: And then let's say that conversation was at five
00:15:01
Speaker: o'clock, just randomly.
00:15:02
Speaker: By nine o'clock, I was in bed like this.
00:15:06
Speaker: Yo, damn, nobody's ever really got.
00:15:09
Speaker: Nobody understands me.
00:15:11
Speaker: And then nine turn into eleven.
00:15:15
Speaker: Eleven turned into one.
00:15:16
Speaker: Oh. And I'm like, oh, nah, this kind of suck.
00:15:21
Speaker: Wait.
00:15:21
Speaker: Damn.
00:15:23
Speaker: So we'll touch on that point.
00:15:26
Speaker: Uh, next.
00:15:27
Speaker: So now let's let's go back to
00:15:29
Speaker: the original, uh, reason for
00:15:31
Speaker: this episode.
00:15:33
Speaker: What ways do you guys like our egos fed?
00:15:38
Speaker: I ain't gon front.
00:15:39
Speaker: Just tell me I'm doing a good job.
00:15:41
Speaker: That's all I need, bro.
00:15:41
Speaker: Just tell me I'm doing a good job.
00:15:42
Speaker: What you're doing is you're being seen.
00:15:45
Speaker: Mhm.
00:15:46
Speaker: That's it.
00:15:46
Speaker: I'm cool with that.
00:15:48
Speaker: Um. I'm, I'm pretty bare.
00:15:55
Speaker: Minimum and basic.
00:15:57
Speaker: Um. Yeah I'm pretty bare minimum and basic.
00:16:01
Speaker: So just simple thank yous.
00:16:03
Speaker: Appreciation.
00:16:04
Speaker: Just acknowledgement like when I'm trying to make an effort.
00:16:08
Speaker: Mhm.
00:16:09
Speaker: That'll you know that keep me going.
00:16:12
Speaker: That keep me going.
00:16:13
Speaker: So. It's unfortunate because of the response on that on the on
00:16:22
Speaker: that on that thread.
00:16:23
Speaker: Right.
00:16:25
Speaker: She also doubled down and say yo men are easy.
00:16:28
Speaker: All they just want to do is feel
00:16:30
Speaker: appreciated and their ego is
00:16:32
Speaker: fed.
00:16:34
Speaker: Yeah, women hate us.
00:16:36
Speaker: I didn't want to share that point.
00:16:37
Speaker: Right.
00:16:38
Speaker: So okay, I have another question.
00:16:43
Speaker: Because in this, in this, in this conversation, you know,
00:16:47
Speaker: we're not going to kind of somebody could put a negative
00:16:50
Speaker: light on having an ego.
00:16:53
Speaker: What is your, uh, what makes you egotistical?
00:16:56
Speaker: Like what?
00:16:57
Speaker: What makes you what boosts your ego in a healthy way?
00:17:02
Speaker: So I'll give you a quick example.
00:17:05
Speaker: Oh. Arose this week.
00:17:06
Speaker: I'm.
00:17:06
Speaker: I'm sorry.
00:17:07
Speaker: Rose.
00:17:08
Speaker: This week, me and Don, I needed motivation to go back to the gym
00:17:11
Speaker: and for for me to actually go get motivated again.
00:17:14
Speaker: I have to go with somebody.
00:17:16
Speaker: Mhm.
00:17:17
Speaker: Not to work out with them but to hold me accountable to going.
00:17:20
Speaker: So if I say I'm gonna be
00:17:21
Speaker: somewhere I'm going to be
00:17:22
Speaker: somewhere.
00:17:23
Speaker: So see you on Monday.
00:17:25
Speaker: Facts.
00:17:26
Speaker: Fitness facts.
00:17:28
Speaker: Um, that was a that was a thorn for LA.
00:17:30
Speaker: I hated that.
00:17:31
Speaker: I want I want to do that to that company.
00:17:34
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:17:35
Speaker: You never know who who will give a ad.
00:17:36
Speaker: I mean, I mean, they got they
00:17:38
Speaker: got some good spots, some
00:17:39
Speaker: locations, but, um, but, uh, if
00:17:43
Speaker: you ever worked out with Don
00:17:46
Speaker: post workout, the man is in the
00:17:49
Speaker: mirror.
00:17:50
Speaker: Oh, you have to.
00:17:53
Speaker: Do his little.
00:17:56
Speaker: Oh, you don't you don't show that part.
00:17:57
Speaker: I don't show that part.
00:17:58
Speaker: You're not gonna see that because it's for your I don't I
00:18:02
Speaker: don't want people to feel bad.
00:18:03
Speaker: Like.
00:18:03
Speaker: Oh, no. It's also respectable
00:18:05
Speaker: because, you know, when you were
00:18:08
Speaker: in a relationship, you can't do
00:18:09
Speaker: certain advertising.
00:18:11
Speaker: I can't do I can't do that.
00:18:12
Speaker: Okay.
00:18:13
Speaker: Free promo.
00:18:13
Speaker: That's good.
00:18:14
Speaker: Yeah.
00:18:14
Speaker: So as for me, though, I. Don't wear shirts anymore.
00:18:22
Speaker: So I would say your post you you working out and you looking in
00:18:26
Speaker: the mirror feeds your ego.
00:18:28
Speaker: Another thing is to, um, I look
00:18:30
Speaker: look at, look back at some of my
00:18:31
Speaker: work that I've done photography
00:18:33
Speaker: wise.
00:18:34
Speaker: That kind of boosted my ego.
00:18:35
Speaker: I look at what I did with, like my first shoot with Keenan.
00:18:37
Speaker: I was like, bro, what the fuck is this?
00:18:38
Speaker: Now look at it.
00:18:39
Speaker: Now I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:18:43
Speaker: But yeah you before can't fuck with you now like at all.
00:18:47
Speaker: Mhm.
00:18:47
Speaker: Mhm.
00:18:48
Speaker: Oh okay.
00:18:48
Speaker: So seeing your own growth.
00:18:51
Speaker: But do I have to shit on myself though to make myself feel.
00:18:53
Speaker: It's not, it's not a shit on yourself.
00:18:54
Speaker: But that was the best that you could have been then.
00:18:58
Speaker: Yeah.
00:18:59
Speaker: And now you are better now.
00:19:01
Speaker: So I think that grace period, you know, um, I think, uh,
00:19:06
Speaker: giving myself words of affirmation boosts my ego.
00:19:11
Speaker: I would say getting dressed, but, like, music as well.
00:19:15
Speaker: Like, there's a theme, there are
00:19:18
Speaker: theme songs to, like, my
00:19:20
Speaker: wardrobe and what, what boosts
00:19:22
Speaker: me your attitude and my
00:19:24
Speaker: attitude.
00:19:24
Speaker: And before I walk out the door.
00:19:26
Speaker: So, uh, what's what's what's your song, though?
00:19:29
Speaker: Like, what's your.
00:19:29
Speaker: If you were to have, like a theme song, what would it be?
00:19:33
Speaker: Getting ready.
00:19:36
Speaker: It just makes you feel good.
00:19:37
Speaker: Like it gives you that drive.
00:19:38
Speaker: Like.
00:19:38
Speaker: Yeah.
00:19:38
Speaker: I'm him.
00:19:40
Speaker: if not the lyrical content of
00:19:43
Speaker: the song, but the song I'm Still
00:19:45
Speaker: Fly.
00:19:47
Speaker: I feel like the weight of the music, the beat cuts I'm so fly.
00:19:50
Speaker: You said yeah.
00:19:51
Speaker: Banks by banks.
00:19:52
Speaker: No no no no no I'm still fly.
00:19:54
Speaker: Uh, I think it's, uh, Big Thomas.
00:19:58
Speaker: Oh, okay.
00:19:59
Speaker: Okay okay, okay.
00:20:00
Speaker: Yeah, I might say, I might say, damn, you really a queen again?
00:20:03
Speaker: Um, any.
00:20:05
Speaker: Not the the rich luxury.
00:20:07
Speaker: Ross.
00:20:07
Speaker: Music.
00:20:08
Speaker: Okay.
00:20:09
Speaker: Uh, drug dealer, drug dealer,
00:20:12
Speaker: hoes, drug dealer, hoes, drug
00:20:13
Speaker: dealer, HOV.
00:20:14
Speaker: Um, there's certain Drake
00:20:16
Speaker: records where he talking his
00:20:17
Speaker: shit.
00:20:18
Speaker: Like where he belittling, like small brands and like hotels
00:20:21
Speaker: that he would never walk in and stuff like that.
00:20:24
Speaker: Apple of my eye.
00:20:25
Speaker: That's a good one.
00:20:25
Speaker: Yeah.
00:20:26
Speaker: That's my that's my shit right there, boy.
00:20:29
Speaker: Uh, legend.
00:20:30
Speaker: Yeah.
00:20:31
Speaker: So certain music boosts my ego.
00:20:33
Speaker: Um, I can't listen to Ross anymore.
00:20:35
Speaker: What else do we canceling Ross?
00:20:37
Speaker: No, he just.
00:20:38
Speaker: He He's just doing too much talking, bro.
00:20:39
Speaker: I need you to.
00:20:39
Speaker: Oh, yeah.
00:20:40
Speaker: Yeah, yeah.
00:20:41
Speaker: I can't listen right now.
00:20:42
Speaker: Yeah.
00:20:42
Speaker: Um, but what else?
00:20:45
Speaker: Boost my ego?
00:20:46
Speaker: Also, you also being told, like, yo, you're doing a good job, I.
00:20:50
Speaker: But see, you smell good.
00:20:53
Speaker: Yeah.
00:20:57
Speaker: You know what boosts my ego?
00:20:58
Speaker: I can't I can't describe it, but
00:21:00
Speaker: it's like a look a woman give
00:21:02
Speaker: you.
00:21:03
Speaker: Like she's not saying nothing.
00:21:05
Speaker: It's just the way her eyes.
00:21:07
Speaker: She's admiring you, she's admiring you.
00:21:09
Speaker: She like what she's seeing, and she's up.
00:21:12
Speaker: And she might be.
00:21:13
Speaker: He might be easier, bro.
00:21:14
Speaker: Yo, bro.
00:21:15
Speaker: In in looking at the
00:21:16
Speaker: conversation that the person was
00:21:18
Speaker: having with other people, I
00:21:21
Speaker: don't know if I have like a bare
00:21:23
Speaker: minimum or my bar is the bare
00:21:25
Speaker: minimum, because who wouldn't
00:21:27
Speaker: want a partner that, like, sees
00:21:29
Speaker: you?
00:21:30
Speaker: And actually it's one thing for somebody to see you, but the
00:21:33
Speaker: voice that they see you.
00:21:35
Speaker: Yo, I appreciate how hard you've been working.
00:21:37
Speaker: I appreciate you know what I'm saying?
00:21:38
Speaker: I think, um, in, in, uh, I was in a I was in a relationship,
00:21:45
Speaker: and for a while, I couldn't figure out why I stopped, um,
00:21:52
Speaker: not loving the person, but liking the person.
00:21:56
Speaker: And within therapy, my therapist at the time was like, well, all
00:22:01
Speaker: the things that you do for her, does she ever acknowledge it?
00:22:05
Speaker: Like, has she ever said, when's
00:22:06
Speaker: the last time she told you thank
00:22:07
Speaker: you for this or acknowledged
00:22:10
Speaker: that?
00:22:10
Speaker: And I'm like, you know, not really.
00:22:13
Speaker: And she was like, well, that's
00:22:14
Speaker: probably why, you know, one, you
00:22:17
Speaker: stayed with her because you kept
00:22:18
Speaker: trying to get a thank you out of
00:22:21
Speaker: her.
00:22:21
Speaker: The things that you were doing was to at least hear some sort
00:22:24
Speaker: of gratitude and to, um, the callback to the episode.
00:22:30
Speaker: She ain't never really feed your ego, you know what I'm saying?
00:22:33
Speaker: She didn't make you feel like.
00:22:35
Speaker: But see, here's the thing.
00:22:36
Speaker: I don't want nobody to feel like they're dependent on me.
00:22:40
Speaker: Like they can't, like, survive without me.
00:22:43
Speaker: Yeah, that that.
00:22:45
Speaker: But then there's this, uh, I forgot what Drake song it was,
00:22:48
Speaker: but he said, why do I feel like I need an independent woman to
00:22:52
Speaker: feel like she need me?
00:22:53
Speaker: Because he's toxic.
00:22:54
Speaker: But I get it, I get it, I get what he mean by that.
00:22:59
Speaker: Because I don't know about y'all.
00:23:01
Speaker: I've dated a lot of hyper
00:23:02
Speaker: independent women, and they
00:23:06
Speaker: have, like, this way of making
00:23:08
Speaker: you feel like because you did it
00:23:11
Speaker: for them, did something for
00:23:13
Speaker: them, it doesn't matter because
00:23:14
Speaker: they could have did it for
00:23:15
Speaker: themselves.
00:23:15
Speaker: Yeah.
00:23:15
Speaker: You're unnecessary.
00:23:17
Speaker: So yes, you could have did it yourself, but at least say a
00:23:21
Speaker: thank you that I did it.
00:23:23
Speaker: You know what I'm saying, right?
00:23:24
Speaker: I, I can do a lot by myself.
00:23:27
Speaker: But your assistance alleviated some sort of stress in my life
00:23:32
Speaker: that a bare minimum of thank you could have went.
00:23:34
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:23:35
Speaker: So. Huh?
00:23:37
Speaker: I'm sorry.
00:23:37
Speaker: The song's in my head now.
00:23:39
Speaker: Yeah.
00:23:39
Speaker: Um. I think it's called redemption.
00:23:41
Speaker: Yeah.
00:23:41
Speaker: Redemption song.
00:23:42
Speaker: Yeah.
00:23:43
Speaker: When I think about.
00:23:44
Speaker: Yeah.
00:23:45
Speaker: So I think I gave you a nickname to someone else.
00:23:47
Speaker: I'm sorry.
00:23:47
Speaker: Um, so.
00:23:49
Speaker: So that, for me, would feed my ego.
00:23:51
Speaker: But I feel like I need some
00:23:53
Speaker: more, because that can't just be
00:23:57
Speaker: it, right?
00:23:58
Speaker: They just feed my ego, and that's.
00:23:59
Speaker: That's it.
00:23:59
Speaker: No, no, no, what I mean by what,
00:24:01
Speaker: uh, other things that could feed
00:24:03
Speaker: my ego.
00:24:03
Speaker: It can't just be, uh,
00:24:05
Speaker: acknowledging the things I do,
00:24:07
Speaker: because then, see, the way she
00:24:10
Speaker: said it was low key, not well
00:24:15
Speaker: made.
00:24:15
Speaker: No, no, no, no, let me not do that.
00:24:17
Speaker: The way I interpreted what she
00:24:19
Speaker: said could play on a
00:24:20
Speaker: manipulation like, yo, just feed
00:24:23
Speaker: his ego.
00:24:23
Speaker: You want a nigga to do something for you?
00:24:25
Speaker: Feed his ego manipulation.
00:24:26
Speaker: So now I'm thinking like, damn, are you genuinely.
00:24:29
Speaker: That's how you.
00:24:30
Speaker: Is that how you really feel?
00:24:31
Speaker: Yeah.
00:24:31
Speaker: And I don't ever want to question that because that would
00:24:33
Speaker: fuck up the vibe like, you know what I'm saying?
00:24:35
Speaker: Shawty telling me, yo, I love the way you just, you know you
00:24:38
Speaker: do you make sure.
00:24:39
Speaker: Yeah.
00:24:40
Speaker: I don't want to do that.
00:24:41
Speaker: Because then what do you mean by that.
00:24:42
Speaker: Oh that's gonna be it.
00:24:43
Speaker: Yeah.
00:24:44
Speaker: You just fucking up the whole vibe.
00:24:45
Speaker: So I you hold on.
00:24:48
Speaker: I'm a complex, I got, I got I you don't.
00:24:52
Speaker: Uh, in the words of a great man, right?
00:24:54
Speaker: Manipulation isn't always bad.
00:24:56
Speaker: Shout out.
00:24:57
Speaker: Shout out to that great man.
00:24:58
Speaker: I hope you know, you great brother.
00:25:00
Speaker: We appreciate it.
00:25:01
Speaker: It's not always bad.
00:25:02
Speaker: And also, like you've never had a woman manipulate you in a good
00:25:07
Speaker: way that you liked it, but it wasn't disrespectful because
00:25:09
Speaker: there is a thin line.
00:25:11
Speaker: I'm trying to think.
00:25:12
Speaker: I'm trying to think she just smooth.
00:25:13
Speaker: Sometimes they're not good people.
00:25:14
Speaker: So she smooth with the just like, uh.
00:25:17
Speaker: Um.
00:25:20
Speaker: Okay.
00:25:20
Speaker: Boom.
00:25:21
Speaker: Perfect.
00:25:21
Speaker: Uh, bartender.
00:25:24
Speaker: Right.
00:25:24
Speaker: One time, uh, she had me park her car for her.
00:25:30
Speaker: Right.
00:25:31
Speaker: But the way she acts was in such a like a it was like, all right,
00:25:35
Speaker: fine, I'll do it right.
00:25:37
Speaker: And I said to her, I was like,
00:25:38
Speaker: yo, I gotta know what you just
00:25:39
Speaker: did.
00:25:39
Speaker: But it's cool.
00:25:40
Speaker: I like it.
00:25:40
Speaker: Like, what did she do though?
00:25:42
Speaker: I don't know, it's just the way she carried it.
00:25:44
Speaker: It's just she was just, like,
00:25:46
Speaker: wise enough, cultured enough
00:25:48
Speaker: woman enough to know how to
00:25:50
Speaker: like.
00:25:50
Speaker: Okay, I want this man to do something I can do for myself.
00:25:54
Speaker: So was she fake struggling to park?
00:25:57
Speaker: No, no no, no, it was, uh, she
00:25:59
Speaker: was about to work an event or
00:26:00
Speaker: something, right?
00:26:01
Speaker: I had linked to her because I was just nearby.
00:26:03
Speaker: I just happened to be nearby.
00:26:04
Speaker: Right.
00:26:05
Speaker: And, um, I was helping her, you know, unload the whatever, but
00:26:10
Speaker: also was like, okay, well, you need to set up.
00:26:12
Speaker: I can just go park the car for you.
00:26:14
Speaker: Like, it did make sense and it
00:26:15
Speaker: wasn't like a huge ask or
00:26:17
Speaker: whatever, but yeah, it's just
00:26:18
Speaker: the way that she acts was
00:26:19
Speaker: charming and it was, you know,
00:26:21
Speaker: it was manipulation to a degree,
00:26:23
Speaker: but I didn't mind a woman with a
00:26:25
Speaker: good charm.
00:26:27
Speaker: Yeah, I don't know.
00:26:28
Speaker: Beautiful and dangerous thing, I
00:26:29
Speaker: don't mind, I don't run over
00:26:31
Speaker: you, bro.
00:26:31
Speaker: If you if you're not paying attention.
00:26:33
Speaker: Well, which is why you're not.
00:26:34
Speaker: Well, which is why, though I, I made a point to be like, I know
00:26:38
Speaker: what you what you're doing.
00:26:39
Speaker: She's like, all right.
00:26:40
Speaker: Like, yeah, but I'm like, it's
00:26:42
Speaker: because you gotta be wise enough
00:26:43
Speaker: to.
00:26:43
Speaker: Not, you know, be run over.
00:26:45
Speaker: It is a thin line.
00:26:46
Speaker: But see, here's the thing, right.
00:26:47
Speaker: Like some of the characteristics of what will make somebody.
00:26:51
Speaker: One able to feed their ego.
00:26:53
Speaker: Feed your ego has to use a little manipulation too, right.
00:26:58
Speaker: So for you to see somebody's charm, they gotta possess, like,
00:27:02
Speaker: you know, what they doing?
00:27:04
Speaker: Yeah.
00:27:04
Speaker: And I like you enough to let you do it.
00:27:06
Speaker: Right?
00:27:06
Speaker: Right.
00:27:07
Speaker: So. But for me, like I said, I just need.
00:27:11
Speaker: I can't like you acknowledging that you see me.
00:27:16
Speaker: Can't be just it, though.
00:27:18
Speaker: For me, I think I need a little bit more, but I'm not sure what
00:27:22
Speaker: that more is.
00:27:22
Speaker: So how do you boost your ego then?
00:27:24
Speaker: I was gonna ask you that
00:27:25
Speaker: earlier, but since you asked me
00:27:27
Speaker: first.
00:27:28
Speaker: Um hmm.
00:27:31
Speaker: How do I boost her ego?
00:27:33
Speaker: I tell her, good girl.
00:27:35
Speaker: I knew he was.
00:27:42
Speaker: I just hit her with it.
00:27:43
Speaker: Good girl.
00:27:46
Speaker: You're my bad bitch, ain't you?
00:27:50
Speaker: Oh, you're triggering me.
00:27:53
Speaker: Uh. I I, um.
00:28:01
Speaker: I don't want it to sound
00:28:03
Speaker: manipulative because I'm
00:28:05
Speaker: genuinely not doing this from a
00:28:06
Speaker: manipulative, a manipulation
00:28:07
Speaker: angle.
00:28:10
Speaker: Whatever her, if she's working
00:28:11
Speaker: on an insecurity and I see
00:28:13
Speaker: growth in that, I highlight
00:28:15
Speaker: that.
00:28:15
Speaker: Mhm.
00:28:16
Speaker: So say she, uh say she's trying to lose weight.
00:28:20
Speaker: Mhm.
00:28:21
Speaker: Oh you looking great in them jeans.
00:28:24
Speaker: And and it's true.
00:28:26
Speaker: I genuinely feel like.
00:28:27
Speaker: Yeah.
00:28:27
Speaker: And I genuinely feel that way like oh you you killing it all.
00:28:30
Speaker: Like, you know, even things that she's naturally good at.
00:28:33
Speaker: Say she she know how to, uh, say she know how to to cook.
00:28:38
Speaker: Yeah.
00:28:38
Speaker: Facts.
00:28:39
Speaker: I let her know.
00:28:40
Speaker: Yo, I really appreciate.
00:28:41
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:28:42
Speaker: Her dinner, um, highlight her,
00:28:46
Speaker: uh, her acts of service, her
00:28:48
Speaker: giving access.
00:28:49
Speaker: I mean, her giving love language
00:28:51
Speaker: where she say she loves, uh,
00:28:54
Speaker: gift giving.
00:28:55
Speaker: I'll I'll I'll, um.
00:28:58
Speaker: I'll embellish.
00:29:00
Speaker: If I like the gift, I'll
00:29:02
Speaker: embellish how much I like the
00:29:03
Speaker: gift.
00:29:04
Speaker: I'll show myself using the gift.
00:29:07
Speaker: Um, kind of show off the gift in the sense like, yo look, blah
00:29:13
Speaker: blah blah, like yo blah blah blah, you know what I'm saying?
00:29:17
Speaker: Um, what else?
00:29:19
Speaker: What else?
00:29:20
Speaker: I do?
00:29:21
Speaker: You ever give them an easy layup?
00:29:24
Speaker: Like what?
00:29:24
Speaker: How?
00:29:24
Speaker: Give me an example.
00:29:25
Speaker: Actually, you set them up for, like, to do good.
00:29:34
Speaker: I'm sorry.
00:29:35
Speaker: Yeah I pre Jack.
00:29:36
Speaker: So when I come.
00:29:37
Speaker: Damn, Shorty.
00:29:42
Speaker: Yo!
00:29:44
Speaker: Woo!
00:29:46
Speaker: Yo!
00:29:46
Speaker: Do you see this face?
00:29:47
Speaker: You gotta stop.
00:29:51
Speaker: Damn, man.
00:29:52
Speaker: It's been a while.
00:29:54
Speaker: Yo.
00:29:55
Speaker: Um. Let me see.
00:29:58
Speaker: A easy layup.
00:29:59
Speaker: Those are tricky because when you give them an easy layup and
00:30:02
Speaker: they botch it.
00:30:05
Speaker: Yeah.
00:30:05
Speaker: One.
00:30:05
Speaker: You had one job.
00:30:06
Speaker: Yeah.
00:30:07
Speaker: And they blow it.
00:30:08
Speaker: It's kind of like.
00:30:09
Speaker: Damn.
00:30:09
Speaker: Like that's that's kind of the indicator.
00:30:13
Speaker: Like, this may not work.
00:30:14
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:30:15
Speaker: Because you're getting an easy
00:30:16
Speaker: layup or whatever the case may
00:30:17
Speaker: be.
00:30:18
Speaker: Um. But what else ways I could, uh, feed my.
00:30:23
Speaker: Well, damn.
00:30:24
Speaker: What did you feed your girl?
00:30:25
Speaker: You go the same way you said, like she's in the gym now.
00:30:28
Speaker: So I'm like, yo, I'll tell yo, bro, you're doing great.
00:30:30
Speaker: Like, look back in your pictures, bro.
00:30:32
Speaker: Like you.
00:30:32
Speaker: You killing this right now.
00:30:33
Speaker: I'm so proud of you.
00:30:34
Speaker: I just, I just say like that.
00:30:35
Speaker: And, um, when she cooks, she does anything for me.
00:30:38
Speaker: I appreciate it.
00:30:39
Speaker: Yo, yo, you being strong, and I'm proud of you.
00:30:42
Speaker: You pushing through?
00:30:42
Speaker: You still doing your thing?
00:30:43
Speaker: That's a fact.
00:30:44
Speaker: Yeah, because a lot of people
00:30:46
Speaker: would have folded where you was
00:30:47
Speaker: at, like you and you still
00:30:48
Speaker: rocking.
00:30:48
Speaker: I'm proud of you.
00:30:49
Speaker: Yeah.
00:30:50
Speaker: Mhm.
00:30:50
Speaker: I'm your biggest supporter bro.
00:30:51
Speaker: I'm proud of you.
00:30:52
Speaker: Mhm.
00:30:53
Speaker: And I always say supportive I say I'm a fan I'm proud of you.
00:30:56
Speaker: Yeah.
00:30:56
Speaker: But that but yo that's, that's
00:30:58
Speaker: why I don't think it's
00:30:58
Speaker: manipulation.
00:30:59
Speaker: Not if you're telling the truth.
00:31:01
Speaker: Not if you mean that shit.
00:31:02
Speaker: You mean that shit.
00:31:03
Speaker: Because what's like what's really manipulation, bro,
00:31:05
Speaker: doesn't have to.
00:31:06
Speaker: It's supposed to help you, though, isn't it?
00:31:08
Speaker: If it's manipulation.
00:31:09
Speaker: Yeah, because.
00:31:10
Speaker: So to the original post, it said if you really want a man to do
00:31:16
Speaker: things for you, feed his ego.
00:31:19
Speaker: So that in itself could sound
00:31:21
Speaker: manipulative because you may
00:31:23
Speaker: just be doing it to get
00:31:24
Speaker: something, but in the gist of
00:31:26
Speaker: it, Yeah.
00:31:27
Speaker: If you make somebody feel appreciated, I'm gonna go.
00:31:30
Speaker: I'm gonna continue to go above and beyond because you naturally
00:31:33
Speaker: pouring into me.
00:31:34
Speaker: Yeah.
00:31:34
Speaker: Like, aren't we.
00:31:35
Speaker: Aren't we each other?
00:31:36
Speaker: This might be manipulative.
00:31:38
Speaker: Aren't we each other's investments?
00:31:39
Speaker: Aren't we investing in each other?
00:31:41
Speaker: Facts.
00:31:42
Speaker: Facts.
00:31:44
Speaker: So I'm gonna pour into you.
00:31:45
Speaker: I'm gonna keep buying that stock.
00:31:47
Speaker: Watching it grow.
00:31:48
Speaker: Facts.
00:31:49
Speaker: Facts.
00:31:50
Speaker: That's very true.
00:31:51
Speaker: Hey, man, I clock that tea with that one.
00:31:54
Speaker: I think I choose to, I choose to.
00:31:57
Speaker: Was it a tweet or like, what was it, a thread?
00:31:59
Speaker: What was a tweet?
00:32:00
Speaker: So I think I find it right now.
00:32:02
Speaker: Yeah, I choose to receive that
00:32:04
Speaker: tweet as you're in a good
00:32:06
Speaker: relationship or whatever, or you
00:32:09
Speaker: have actual interest in someone
00:32:11
Speaker: and it's just the easier way to
00:32:14
Speaker: like communicate and have a
00:32:15
Speaker: smoother, you know, fruitful
00:32:18
Speaker: relationship.
00:32:19
Speaker: Like it's about the approach is what I think the point was.
00:32:22
Speaker: Now don't be a sucker.
00:32:23
Speaker: Like don't just let women.
00:32:25
Speaker: uh, tell you sweet things and say sweet things and do sweet
00:32:29
Speaker: things, and they get whatever they want out of you.
00:32:31
Speaker: Now, are you able to be a sucker in the relationship, though?
00:32:35
Speaker: See, that's the problem.
00:32:36
Speaker: I think I saw somebody say some shit about, um.
00:32:41
Speaker: The work, the reason why.
00:32:46
Speaker: The reason why?
00:32:49
Speaker: I guess dating for women has changed, which will probably go
00:32:52
Speaker: into the next episode.
00:32:54
Speaker: Um. We are labeling some of the.
00:33:02
Speaker: Masculine things.
00:33:04
Speaker: So me going above and beyond for my girl is now saying, oh, you a
00:33:09
Speaker: sent you a sucker, you a sucker.
00:33:12
Speaker: Don't talk like that.
00:33:12
Speaker: Don't talk.
00:33:14
Speaker: Don't call me no sucker.
00:33:16
Speaker: Um, so now you kind of devaluing or emasculating a man for doing
00:33:22
Speaker: the things that kind of they supposed to be doing, or at
00:33:25
Speaker: least being celebrated.
00:33:26
Speaker: Gordon.
00:33:27
Speaker: And yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:33:28
Speaker: It's different.
00:33:28
Speaker: It's different now because, um, you know, people are clowning
00:33:33
Speaker: you for those sad things.
00:33:36
Speaker: Um, when do we lose the plot?
00:33:39
Speaker: When romance got, uh, romance
00:33:42
Speaker: has got devalued throughout the
00:33:44
Speaker: year.
00:33:45
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:33:46
Speaker: It's it's it's the.
00:33:47
Speaker: There is a reason why people
00:33:48
Speaker: keep saying, yo, bring the
00:33:49
Speaker: lovers back.
00:33:50
Speaker: Bring real love back.
00:33:51
Speaker: Bring this, that it's hard to bring.
00:33:52
Speaker: They ain't going nowhere.
00:33:53
Speaker: They just been hurt so many times.
00:33:54
Speaker: They ain't, they ain't, they
00:33:56
Speaker: ain't willing to go back out
00:33:56
Speaker: there.
00:33:57
Speaker: Bring that wall down.
00:33:58
Speaker: Yeah, but I don't know that that's true.
00:34:00
Speaker: I like I said and then it's how you figure that it's getting
00:34:03
Speaker: clowned on too.
00:34:04
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:34:06
Speaker: You can't tell.
00:34:08
Speaker: Obviously if people are
00:34:09
Speaker: screaming, yo, bring something
00:34:10
Speaker: back, that means something's
00:34:12
Speaker: missing or the essence value
00:34:13
Speaker: seem different.
00:34:14
Speaker: Yeah.
00:34:14
Speaker: The essence of.
00:34:15
Speaker: Ah, yeah.
00:34:16
Speaker: Um, to the point where, uh, there was, uh, there was a post
00:34:23
Speaker: that I, I saw, I actually hit, I hit up, uh, I hit up one of my
00:34:30
Speaker: she listened to the pod, so I won't say too much, but on
00:34:33
Speaker: Instagram and now shows you what your friends are liking again.
00:34:39
Speaker: And then, um, she had liked that.
00:34:42
Speaker: Uh, I had a cheating good man.
00:34:46
Speaker: Was it post or a video?
00:34:48
Speaker: It was a video.
00:34:48
Speaker: Oh, and she was like, you gotta you gotta do all of this stuff.
00:34:51
Speaker: Like, he's not going to treat me bad and I do all this shit.
00:34:54
Speaker: She was like, yo, my ex.
00:34:56
Speaker: I definitely see what I saw, like that sick fuck.
00:34:59
Speaker: So I hit her up and I'm like, yo, bro, like, you shouldn't be
00:35:02
Speaker: liking this shit.
00:35:03
Speaker: She was like, yo, my ex did everything for me, but he he
00:35:09
Speaker: just kept cheating or he wasn't.
00:35:11
Speaker: Yeah, I think it was cheating or something like that.
00:35:13
Speaker: And um, she was like, I'm damn
00:35:16
Speaker: sure not going to date anybody
00:35:18
Speaker: else.
00:35:18
Speaker: That's not going to do half that and still, you know.
00:35:21
Speaker: Mhm.
00:35:21
Speaker: Um, so I would say, I would say yo if, if, if it became not cool
00:35:29
Speaker: again, but if everybody stood in their truth on what they want
00:35:35
Speaker: and wasn't embarrassed by it, live their truth.
00:35:38
Speaker: If you was like if you were a
00:35:39
Speaker: real lover, then be a real
00:35:41
Speaker: lover.
00:35:42
Speaker: Mhm.
00:35:42
Speaker: You know, I think what it is
00:35:44
Speaker: people are concerned so much now
00:35:47
Speaker: on what they're getting in
00:35:48
Speaker: return.
00:35:50
Speaker: Now Don made the point of yo you making an investment so you're
00:35:54
Speaker: not going to blindly invest.
00:35:56
Speaker: You know, so there is a medium
00:35:58
Speaker: of having some level of
00:36:00
Speaker: discernment.
00:36:01
Speaker: Like just don't put all into something and not know what the
00:36:05
Speaker: return on the investment is.
00:36:07
Speaker: Um, but still invest confidently, date confidently.
00:36:12
Speaker: Be who you are confidently, even
00:36:14
Speaker: if it even if it's not socially
00:36:16
Speaker: accepted, be who you are
00:36:18
Speaker: confidently.
00:36:19
Speaker: Be so confident in it that it now aligns with you.
00:36:24
Speaker: So it's no longer weird.
00:36:26
Speaker: That's just that's how they give it up.
00:36:27
Speaker: That's days.
00:36:28
Speaker: But my thing is, though, even in your past, in years as well,
00:36:33
Speaker: like it's sometimes it's not received though you.
00:36:37
Speaker: But how can how can you be confident in something and then
00:36:40
Speaker: like when you try it it's not received multiple times.
00:36:42
Speaker: It's like, damn, maybe I gotta switch this up.
00:36:44
Speaker: Oh, well, um, I don't know.
00:36:47
Speaker: To to me, there's no guarantees with with it.
00:36:51
Speaker: And no one ever told us that there would be.
00:36:54
Speaker: That's a fact.
00:36:54
Speaker: But you gotta like that be the part that bothers me.
00:36:57
Speaker: The real lovers or people who say that they want love or
00:37:00
Speaker: whatever, don't put themselves out there to date and do the
00:37:03
Speaker: work and potentially get hurt.
00:37:05
Speaker: No. You're signing up to get potentially hurt.
00:37:08
Speaker: Yeah.
00:37:08
Speaker: Like you can't you cannot
00:37:09
Speaker: pretend that that's not a part
00:37:10
Speaker: of this.
00:37:11
Speaker: And if that's then get out the way, you know.
00:37:13
Speaker: But you don't get to have it both ways.
00:37:15
Speaker: That's a fact.
00:37:16
Speaker: Yeah.
00:37:16
Speaker: That's just scary.
00:37:17
Speaker: You gotta, you know.
00:37:20
Speaker: Is it scary?
00:37:21
Speaker: I don't think it's scary if you don't think about it like that.
00:37:24
Speaker: I don't go into every situation thinking it's going to be bad.
00:37:27
Speaker: Well, not only that.
00:37:29
Speaker: So you're going.
00:37:29
Speaker: So you, uh, you you ultimately going in there like, yo, this is
00:37:33
Speaker: going to work every time?
00:37:34
Speaker: No.
00:37:36
Speaker: Um.
00:37:37
Speaker: Oh. You okay?
00:37:38
Speaker: Yeah, I'm saying you.
00:37:39
Speaker: What about you, Danny?
00:37:40
Speaker: I go in with my ego, knowing I
00:37:42
Speaker: can recover from this, however
00:37:44
Speaker: it goes.
00:37:45
Speaker: Damn.
00:37:45
Speaker: So you just.
00:37:46
Speaker: Yeah, like I always say that.
00:37:47
Speaker: Like I had my.
00:37:48
Speaker: So, so so so I know that I'm built for.
00:37:50
Speaker: So are you.
00:37:51
Speaker: I know how to build myself back.
00:37:52
Speaker: So my thing is you're walking in
00:37:53
Speaker: there with a negative mindset,
00:37:54
Speaker: then?
00:37:55
Speaker: No, I'm walking in knowing I'm
00:37:57
Speaker: gonna be straight no matter how
00:37:58
Speaker: it goes.
00:37:59
Speaker: But I'm gonna do the work, so it goes well.
00:38:01
Speaker: But I think the part that keeps a lot of people from it is I
00:38:03
Speaker: don't want to go through, you know, that part where I could
00:38:06
Speaker: get hurt and stuff.
00:38:07
Speaker: But I went through that part and I survived.
00:38:09
Speaker: Yeah, that's that's a good that's a good POV.
00:38:12
Speaker: I've went through this already.
00:38:13
Speaker: Yeah.
00:38:14
Speaker: Because even for me, like, uh, so does it.
00:38:16
Speaker: So. But it still hurts the same though.
00:38:18
Speaker: No, Not me.
00:38:19
Speaker: No no no. Mhm.
00:38:22
Speaker: No. So do you feel like you're getting a little desensitized.
00:38:25
Speaker: Like is it maybe.
00:38:28
Speaker: Yeah.
00:38:28
Speaker: But that don't mean I don't um
00:38:30
Speaker: you know, that don't mean that I
00:38:32
Speaker: won't love my wife deeply and
00:38:34
Speaker: more than I've ever loved anyone
00:38:35
Speaker: else.
00:38:35
Speaker: I'm just saying, when I was
00:38:36
Speaker: young and I got my little heart
00:38:38
Speaker: broke and my feelings hurt,
00:38:40
Speaker: right?
00:38:41
Speaker: I didn't deal with it the best.
00:38:43
Speaker: But I learned a lot, and I can
00:38:45
Speaker: deal with it better going
00:38:46
Speaker: forward.
00:38:47
Speaker: And I think I think, uh.
00:38:50
Speaker: Mm. I think the ego, the ego part of me now allows me to
00:38:58
Speaker: always feel like I got something out of whatever.
00:39:02
Speaker: You psych yourself up.
00:39:03
Speaker: Nah, I'm psyching myself up.
00:39:05
Speaker: Mhm.
00:39:06
Speaker: So I'm always gonna feel like I, you know, I learned something
00:39:11
Speaker: from every situation.
00:39:12
Speaker: So now every situation don't always feel like the end of the
00:39:16
Speaker: world because that's how I used to carry it.
00:39:18
Speaker: Yeah.
00:39:18
Speaker: My, my, my heartbreaks used to feel.
00:39:20
Speaker: So, uh, I don't want to say
00:39:24
Speaker: extra because I always looked at
00:39:26
Speaker: it like it was the end of the
00:39:27
Speaker: world.
00:39:27
Speaker: Crippling.
00:39:28
Speaker: Yeah.
00:39:28
Speaker: Like, damn.
00:39:29
Speaker: Like it's so much.
00:39:31
Speaker: It's so much damage control that I gotta do emotionally now.
00:39:34
Speaker: And I look at it like, uh, that ain't work out.
00:39:36
Speaker: And it ain't work out because, uh.
00:39:40
Speaker: Or if I don't know why it didn't
00:39:41
Speaker: work out right now, I'll
00:39:41
Speaker: probably know in a couple of
00:39:42
Speaker: months or this is this didn't
00:39:44
Speaker: work out to create new space for
00:39:45
Speaker: something new.
00:39:46
Speaker: I'm gonna psych myself up.
00:39:47
Speaker: Imma tell myself something that's going to allow me to feel
00:39:51
Speaker: like there's a positive reason why this negative, this
00:39:54
Speaker: negatively, didn't work.
00:39:55
Speaker: This door closes.
00:39:56
Speaker: Another one open.
00:39:57
Speaker: Yeah.
00:39:57
Speaker: Facts.
00:39:58
Speaker: And to your point, it's it's not the end of the world.
00:40:01
Speaker: It's just the end of the world that you had with one girl.
00:40:04
Speaker: Get out of here, boy.
00:40:06
Speaker: All the drink references.
00:40:08
Speaker: Yeah.
00:40:09
Speaker: That's a that on time because that's a good way to end it.
00:40:12
Speaker: Fifty seven.
00:40:13
Speaker: Nah, that don't align with the, uh.
00:40:15
Speaker: Well, I mean, the actual.
00:40:16
Speaker: Yeah, it's probably shorter than.
00:40:19
Speaker: Damn.
00:40:20
Speaker: Oh, okay.
00:40:21
Speaker: Um, I have one girl.
00:40:23
Speaker: What the fucking song is that?
00:40:26
Speaker: Uh, that's the one with the Stevie Wonder doing it wrong.
00:40:28
Speaker: Doing it wrong?
00:40:30
Speaker: Yeah.
00:40:30
Speaker: Take care.
00:40:30
Speaker: Yeah.
00:40:32
Speaker: Take care.
00:40:32
Speaker: So, um.
00:40:34
Speaker: Okay, um, let me ask.
00:40:38
Speaker: How do you think, Dean, if you
00:40:40
Speaker: could give a woman's advice, she
00:40:42
Speaker: comes to you like, yo, I really
00:40:43
Speaker: like your mans, and you now have
00:40:46
Speaker: to coach her on how to feed
00:40:48
Speaker: Dane's ego.
00:40:50
Speaker: The only thing I can say, I
00:40:51
Speaker: wouldn't even I wouldn't be ego
00:40:53
Speaker: driven.
00:40:53
Speaker: Probably a brochure for him.
00:40:54
Speaker: The way he showed for you.
00:40:56
Speaker: That's my nigga right there.
00:40:58
Speaker: That's it.
00:40:59
Speaker: That's my.
00:41:01
Speaker: That's it.
00:41:02
Speaker: That's my advice.
00:41:03
Speaker: The same advice for you though.
00:41:05
Speaker: Same same bro.
00:41:07
Speaker: Show up for him the same way he
00:41:08
Speaker: show up for you or show up more
00:41:10
Speaker: so he knows that he's
00:41:11
Speaker: appreciated.
00:41:12
Speaker: Mhm.
00:41:14
Speaker: That's it.
00:41:15
Speaker: That's that's any one of my niggas, bro.
00:41:17
Speaker: Y'all niggas put a lot of work into your own life.
00:41:20
Speaker: Y'all pray about your futures all the time.
00:41:23
Speaker: Your future should be bright
00:41:24
Speaker: with somebody that appreciates
00:41:25
Speaker: you.
00:41:25
Speaker: That's it.
00:41:26
Speaker: We gonna leave down out of it.
00:41:28
Speaker: Because nobody should be, you know, um, they twice.
00:41:31
Speaker: They twice a day.
00:41:34
Speaker: Twice.
00:41:35
Speaker: Um, my lady man, somebody, uh, somebody comes to you like, yo,
00:41:39
Speaker: I want to holler at LaShawn.
00:41:41
Speaker: Um, what is something you would tell her to feed my ego?
00:41:47
Speaker: Uh. Well, first I would say be direct and don't waste his time.
00:41:55
Speaker: I like that.
00:41:56
Speaker: Yeah, like don't like, he's not,
00:41:57
Speaker: like, for the, like, just, you
00:41:58
Speaker: know.
00:41:59
Speaker: Yeah.
00:41:59
Speaker: Please don't waste my time.
00:42:01
Speaker: Yeah.
00:42:01
Speaker: Just.
00:42:02
Speaker: So be be straightforward.
00:42:04
Speaker: Tell him he's he's such and he's such a strong man and fold up
00:42:11
Speaker: and encourage you.
00:42:12
Speaker: Right.
00:42:13
Speaker: Because I, I feel like I. I know
00:42:16
Speaker: that with the right woman by
00:42:18
Speaker: your side who's really a
00:42:20
Speaker: partner, it'll just amplify
00:42:21
Speaker: everything you're already going
00:42:22
Speaker: to do because you say, yo, like
00:42:24
Speaker: you just got to show up for
00:42:25
Speaker: real.
00:42:25
Speaker: Because I have this whole thing
00:42:26
Speaker: mapped out and planned out
00:42:27
Speaker: already.
00:42:28
Speaker: It's true.
00:42:28
Speaker: I believe you, I can see it.
00:42:30
Speaker: But the right person who could
00:42:32
Speaker: be a star in that role as your
00:42:34
Speaker: wife, as your lady, as your
00:42:35
Speaker: partner.
00:42:37
Speaker: Yeah, that's that's what she would need to do.
00:42:39
Speaker: Just be a team player.
00:42:42
Speaker: Okay, so if a woman came to me, she wanted a piece of Dane.
00:42:47
Speaker: Here we go.
00:42:48
Speaker: Mhm.
00:42:49
Speaker: And I gotta tell her how to boost Dane's ego.
00:42:57
Speaker: As crazy as this sounds crazy.
00:43:02
Speaker: Give him a threesome.
00:43:03
Speaker: Nah.
00:43:03
Speaker: Oh, well.
00:43:06
Speaker: Well, you hear it?
00:43:07
Speaker: You heard it here first.
00:43:09
Speaker: Um. Be a good accessory.
00:43:13
Speaker: Estuary, huh?
00:43:15
Speaker: I did good on pieces.
00:43:16
Speaker: Yeah.
00:43:17
Speaker: In a in a sense where, like, if you ever watch Dame dress, it's
00:43:22
Speaker: not more so the main pieces, it's the accessories.
00:43:25
Speaker: So like for example, for the
00:43:27
Speaker: example, if you put the camera
00:43:28
Speaker: on you.
00:43:31
Speaker: And bring the scarf up, it's the scarf.
00:43:32
Speaker: And bring the other one.
00:43:33
Speaker: Yes.
00:43:34
Speaker: It's the scarf.
00:43:35
Speaker: The the chrome.
00:43:35
Speaker: Ha.
00:43:36
Speaker: Yeah.
00:43:37
Speaker: It's the scarf.
00:43:38
Speaker: You know, it's the.
00:43:39
Speaker: Yeah.
00:43:39
Speaker: It's the little handkerchief.
00:43:41
Speaker: It's this pinky.
00:43:42
Speaker: It's his, it's his, it's his, it's his earring.
00:43:45
Speaker: It's never the main, uh.
00:43:48
Speaker: It's never the main piece.
00:43:51
Speaker: Get ready with me.
00:43:53
Speaker: So I feel like if, if, if you could be complementary, um, in
00:43:58
Speaker: any way that it doesn't have to necessarily get in the way of.
00:44:02
Speaker: But it highlights.
00:44:03
Speaker: Yeah.
00:44:03
Speaker: And hold value.
00:44:04
Speaker: Yeah.
00:44:05
Speaker: So like, you don't have to get in his way per se because Dane
00:44:08
Speaker: is a little hard headed and yeah, when he's in that mode.
00:44:11
Speaker: But if you can be like, a nice accessory to that.
00:44:15
Speaker: Um, just walk the path with him.
00:44:17
Speaker: It would.
00:44:17
Speaker: It would make a lot.
00:44:20
Speaker: It would, it would.
00:44:22
Speaker: And you know what's unfortunate?
00:44:23
Speaker: Yeah.
00:44:23
Speaker: This is way better than a threesome.
00:44:25
Speaker: It's not.
00:44:25
Speaker: It's not.
00:44:26
Speaker: I would tell her, yo, so many
00:44:28
Speaker: women have failed, that it's an
00:44:30
Speaker: easy layup for you, that he'll
00:44:31
Speaker: notice it.
00:44:34
Speaker: Like it's not.
00:44:35
Speaker: It's not.
00:44:36
Speaker: And no offense.
00:44:37
Speaker: I want you to take that wrong way.
00:44:38
Speaker: No, they just don't like me for real.
00:44:39
Speaker: But it's like.
00:44:40
Speaker: It's like, yo, all you gotta do take that much.
00:44:44
Speaker: All you gotta do is just average fifteen point five on this team.
00:44:47
Speaker: You might get the All star
00:44:48
Speaker: because everybody has sucked so
00:44:50
Speaker: bad.
00:44:51
Speaker: That is kind of like shooting three for nineteen.
00:44:55
Speaker: Yeah.
00:44:56
Speaker: All you gotta do is play off game.
00:44:58
Speaker: They ain't a good average.
00:45:01
Speaker: Throw a few assists, no turnovers, no turnovers.
00:45:05
Speaker: Don't turn the ball over.
00:45:06
Speaker: Just play a decent game and you know you'll you'll you you see
00:45:11
Speaker: the difference already.
00:45:12
Speaker: Benefits you reap.
00:45:13
Speaker: You'll you'll reap star player benefits for sure.
00:45:18
Speaker: But like I said, it's so triggering because now I'm gonna
00:45:22
Speaker: speak for me.
00:45:23
Speaker: It makes me feel like, damn, that's just the bare minimum
00:45:26
Speaker: that I'm asking for too much.
00:45:28
Speaker: No, I'm saying that's make you start thinking.
00:45:30
Speaker: Am I asking for too much?
00:45:32
Speaker: No. It makes me feel like I'm not asking enough.
00:45:36
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:45:36
Speaker: Like it's.
00:45:39
Speaker: It's it not just a simple gesture.
00:45:41
Speaker: If somebody do something nice for you to say thank you, then
00:45:44
Speaker: I'm not here.
00:45:45
Speaker: Then nobody teach you manners.
00:45:45
Speaker: Did I not hear?
00:45:46
Speaker: Thank you for so long that a thank you is going to excite me.
00:45:50
Speaker: Damn.
00:45:50
Speaker: Yeah.
00:45:51
Speaker: That's why it's kind of confusing.
00:45:53
Speaker: But that's why I kind of want to figure out what other ways my
00:45:56
Speaker: ego could get boosted in a healthy way in a relationship.
00:46:00
Speaker: I have a question.
00:46:01
Speaker: Because that can't just be the simple, uh, is that is that only
00:46:06
Speaker: a romantic thing?
00:46:08
Speaker: Like, why is it such an issue
00:46:10
Speaker: there when you can have so many
00:46:12
Speaker: other types of, uh, you know,
00:46:14
Speaker: productive relationships,
00:46:15
Speaker: friendship, family, whatever,
00:46:17
Speaker: like that only is that only a
00:46:18
Speaker: relationship?
00:46:19
Speaker: Unfortunately for me, unfortunately, I mean, not I
00:46:21
Speaker: mean, fortunate enough, my friends say thank you a lot, and
00:46:24
Speaker: they say they appreciate me.
00:46:24
Speaker: Appreciate me.
00:46:25
Speaker: Okay.
00:46:25
Speaker: So that's not.
00:46:26
Speaker: Yeah.
00:46:27
Speaker: And and I think, uh, so it can be done.
00:46:30
Speaker: It shouldn't be foreign to anyone to be able to do that.
00:46:32
Speaker: But it's to the person I'm
00:46:33
Speaker: intimate with that makes it more
00:46:34
Speaker: intense.
00:46:35
Speaker: And you gotta understand, uh, even if right now it don't it
00:46:39
Speaker: don't feel like it, you are going to be with this person
00:46:41
Speaker: majority of the time.
00:46:43
Speaker: Okay?
00:46:43
Speaker: Outside of your your friend group.
00:46:45
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:46:46
Speaker: So. With your friend group, I
00:46:50
Speaker: don't really think, uh, man to
00:46:53
Speaker: man, man to woman, woman to
00:46:55
Speaker: woman, that they kind of they
00:46:56
Speaker: they not that you don't need
00:46:57
Speaker: your ego fed, but it's a good
00:47:00
Speaker: you, you know, you're poured
00:47:03
Speaker: into.
00:47:03
Speaker: Yeah.
00:47:04
Speaker: Whereas it's kind of like when
00:47:06
Speaker: people be like, oh, people are
00:47:08
Speaker: quick to cut their friends off,
00:47:10
Speaker: but, uh, give their partner so
00:47:13
Speaker: many chances.
00:47:14
Speaker: And it's truly because I want this person more to get it right
00:47:18
Speaker: than my friend do.
00:47:21
Speaker: I want there's something more
00:47:23
Speaker: that I want out of this
00:47:25
Speaker: relationship than I do with this
00:47:27
Speaker: friendship.
00:47:28
Speaker: And it's because certain friendships just have a cap.
00:47:31
Speaker: Like, I'm not looking for Don to be here every day, right?
00:47:36
Speaker: Or I'm not looking for Don to show up every day.
00:47:41
Speaker: Yeah.
00:47:41
Speaker: Whereas this person that I'm investing in, I'm and I'm and I
00:47:46
Speaker: personally want the reward out of investing into this person.
00:47:50
Speaker: I'm gonna be more forgiving with
00:47:51
Speaker: that person as opposed to a
00:47:54
Speaker: friendship.
00:47:55
Speaker: I mean, that's just the reality of it.
00:47:56
Speaker: It's not like, you know, um, or
00:48:01
Speaker: I have other friends that pour
00:48:06
Speaker: into me the same way that gone
00:48:08
Speaker: do.
00:48:09
Speaker: So if I lose one extra person who always highlights.
00:48:13
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:48:14
Speaker: I see what you're saying.
00:48:15
Speaker: I can be more sad.
00:48:16
Speaker: You know, I got you're putting more on one person.
00:48:19
Speaker: Friendship is spread out.
00:48:20
Speaker: Yes, exactly.
00:48:22
Speaker: Yeah, exactly.
00:48:23
Speaker: Okay.
00:48:23
Speaker: Exactly.
00:48:24
Speaker: So I think that's why people sustain the rocky relationships
00:48:30
Speaker: than the friendship that kind of like it's steady, but it's like
00:48:34
Speaker: if it falls to the wayside, I get it right.
00:48:36
Speaker: I don't think it's right, but that's just me looking at it
00:48:39
Speaker: from an open minded perspective.
00:48:41
Speaker: Like, you know, if if, uh, if me and will don't talk no more.
00:48:45
Speaker: I got other friends that either do more for me than will do or
00:48:51
Speaker: just the same versus I don't have other women.
00:48:54
Speaker: Right?
00:48:55
Speaker: You are my only woman.
00:48:56
Speaker: Get it together, miss.
00:48:58
Speaker: Yeah.
00:48:58
Speaker: Yo. So you'll notice it sooner, too, because Will might be able
00:49:01
Speaker: to slide for me.
00:49:02
Speaker: Wait a minute.
00:49:03
Speaker: Will ain't been to a this this that.
00:49:05
Speaker: Yup.
00:49:06
Speaker: Because Cause everybody else's right, right, right.
00:49:08
Speaker: Versus if I go to an event and
00:49:10
Speaker: everybody's there and my shawty
00:49:12
Speaker: not there.
00:49:13
Speaker: Yeah.
00:49:13
Speaker: Yo where your girl at?
00:49:14
Speaker: Like something missing, yeah.
00:49:15
Speaker: Versus where.
00:49:17
Speaker: Oh the whole.
00:49:17
Speaker: Oh yo.
00:49:19
Speaker: All the LA friends are here.
00:49:20
Speaker: They ain't gonna think that we're not here.
00:49:22
Speaker: They still going to say all LA friends are here.
00:49:24
Speaker: Whereas LA shawty not here.
00:49:27
Speaker: Damn something's up now.
00:49:28
Speaker: Niggas gonna check to see if we following each other.
00:49:30
Speaker: You know what I'm saying.
00:49:31
Speaker: Like are they still good blah blah blah.
00:49:33
Speaker: Yeah, it's it's more highlighted that way.
00:49:35
Speaker: People really be in people's business.
00:49:37
Speaker: Oh for sure.
00:49:38
Speaker: People are in.
00:49:38
Speaker: The people are in the mind.
00:49:40
Speaker: Your business.
00:49:40
Speaker: Business.
00:49:43
Speaker: Ain't gonna look a job as my man Rose.
00:49:46
Speaker: So.
00:49:46
Speaker: Yeah.
00:49:47
Speaker: Um, but, yeah, that's something I want to give more thought to
00:49:50
Speaker: on on how I would like my ego to be fed, um, in in better ways.
00:49:59
Speaker: Yeah.
00:50:00
Speaker: Until then, I'll keep you guys
00:50:01
Speaker: updated on how I figure that
00:50:04
Speaker: out.
00:50:04
Speaker: Oh, also, before we get out of
00:50:05
Speaker: here, Um, I have another rose,
00:50:07
Speaker: actually.
00:50:07
Speaker: Um, shout out to Cheyenne.
00:50:09
Speaker: Um, shout out to Cheyenne
00:50:10
Speaker: because she put me on to a job
00:50:11
Speaker: and she heard they had, um, I
00:50:14
Speaker: got rave reviews or something
00:50:16
Speaker: like that.
00:50:16
Speaker: Oh, nice.
00:50:16
Speaker: Oh, nice.
00:50:17
Speaker: Um, shout outs to shout shout
00:50:19
Speaker: outs and shout out to pop and
00:50:21
Speaker: creative.
00:50:22
Speaker: Um, it's a ad agency, so shout out to them.
00:50:25
Speaker: Well, shout outs to you being a pop and creative.
00:50:27
Speaker: Damn.
00:50:28
Speaker: Thanks.
00:50:29
Speaker: Thank you for putting the camera in my hand again to God.
00:50:33
Speaker: And thanks for Dane for making
00:50:35
Speaker: me serve people, um, legal
00:50:36
Speaker: documents.
00:50:37
Speaker: And, um, I don't know what that has to do with anything.
00:50:40
Speaker: Put money in my pocket, brother, I appreciate you.
00:50:42
Speaker: Okay.
00:50:42
Speaker: Fair enough.
00:50:43
Speaker: Yeah.
00:50:43
Speaker: Put your people in position.
00:50:45
Speaker: Y'all comfortable with a shorty?
00:50:46
Speaker: Putting y'all in position?
00:50:48
Speaker: Yeah.
00:50:49
Speaker: As long as I don't fumble, I'm cool.
00:50:50
Speaker: Yeah, but don't don't don't shit
00:50:53
Speaker: on me, though, I'll tell you
00:50:55
Speaker: that much.
00:50:57
Speaker: Well, if she was wise and she in
00:50:59
Speaker: the business of feeding your
00:51:00
Speaker: ego, she would never bring that
00:51:01
Speaker: up.
00:51:01
Speaker: Mhm.
00:51:03
Speaker: Right.
00:51:05
Speaker: Because that benefits her.
00:51:06
Speaker: Yeah.
00:51:06
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
00:51:07
Speaker: If I if I put you in a position to make more money and some some
00:51:12
Speaker: of the coin you make, you spend it on me.
00:51:15
Speaker: Yeah.
00:51:16
Speaker: Whereas you wasn't employed and
00:51:18
Speaker: you couldn't spend anything on
00:51:19
Speaker: me.
00:51:20
Speaker: Why would I kind of, like, negatively affect your ego when
00:51:25
Speaker: I'm trying to boost your ego for my got my got me my first
00:51:29
Speaker: production job, the PBS.
00:51:31
Speaker: Oh, nice.
00:51:31
Speaker: Come on, man.
00:51:33
Speaker: Investing.
00:51:35
Speaker: I'm supposed to work at Bet before the pandemic.
00:51:37
Speaker: I think I ever told you guys that.
00:51:39
Speaker: No, you told me.
00:51:39
Speaker: Yeah, you told me.
00:51:40
Speaker: Told you?
00:51:40
Speaker: Yeah.
00:51:40
Speaker: Yeah, you told me that before.
00:51:41
Speaker: Okay.
00:51:42
Speaker: Heartbroken.
00:51:43
Speaker: But till next time.
00:51:45
Speaker: Till next time.
00:51:45
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00:51:48
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00:51:57
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00:51:59
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00:52:01
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00:52:03
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Speaker: SoundCloud SoundCloud and and Apple.
00:52:10
Speaker: You know how easy you know how easy I was when it came to
00:52:14
Speaker: feeding my ego?
00:52:16
Speaker: All a shorty had to do back then was tell me.
00:52:19
Speaker: You know, I think what you say on the pod.
00:52:22
Speaker: Oh, God.
00:52:23
Speaker: Hell.
00:52:24
Speaker: Oh, brother.
00:52:25
Speaker: When I, when I was in a space
00:52:26
Speaker: where I don't know if the pod
00:52:27
Speaker: was working.
00:52:28
Speaker: Hey, how long was.
00:52:29
Speaker: You know, you you affect so many people.
00:52:32
Speaker: Oh, yeah.
00:52:33
Speaker: Oh, your voice, your voice.
00:52:35
Speaker: La hit it.
00:52:36
Speaker: He's like doing it.
00:52:40
Speaker: You fucking got him.
00:52:43
Speaker: They talking.
00:52:44
Speaker: They talking la like this.
00:52:52
Speaker: I don't usually do this but.
00:52:55
Speaker: Nah.
00:52:55
Speaker: See I would never say that line because I usually do it exactly
00:53:00
Speaker: how it goes.
00:53:01
Speaker: God is good.
00:53:02
Speaker: God is the greatest.