Episode 330: Where Are You Meeting Them?

[00:00:01] Rock It Ready? Yup. You already know where this motherfucker's most of the lover, as always, Donald Peasley. Alongside of LaShawn. Welcome to Patreon. Facts, this is always... Patreon exclusive. If you're listening to this, you probably get the first couple of minutes. And then I cut it off right when it gets good. You know why? Because that's when you gotta sign up for that Patreon. We call that marketing. Yeah, facts. Real one, right Joe? No comment.

[00:00:31] I love Kojo. I plead the fifth. But this episode actually stems from a conversation that me and Joe had. But I'll start with the original point where I've made mention on maybe two episodes ago that Brie had asked me, yo, where am I meeting women at? Cause why do they all like... In the club? Yeah, man. Why they all lack communication?

[00:00:58] And I told Brie like, yo, like, they don't have a sign on their forehead that says, I lack communication. Like, I wish they did. It would be easier, you know? Hence, I think we asked what superpower we have. I can see that, you know? I can know the intent. I can read your mind, baby. You can read your mind, baby.

[00:01:19] But, but it did, it did stir up a conversation of me putting myself out there and what that looks like. And opposed to, cause then another friend, Brie, her name is also Brie, she was like, you don't try to shoot your shot at passengers? Nah, I do, I kinda... I tried, sis. I tried telling them too. Matter of fact, I peaked that you didn't respond to my texts. Which one?

[00:01:48] Check, text, look what I text you. You never responded, but I knew, I knew it was right before the Knicks game, so... Ah, okay. The D&D. Know your friends. Let's see. Um, but uh, but yeah, so it was kinda like, yo... That was Hillary Duff, man. Yeah. Yeah. Um, but yeah, so now it's like, alright. The social media thing...

[00:02:18] It's cool, it's been successful. It's been successful getting to the point of talking to them, but I don't know if going outside is going to change the experience per se, as far as meeting of individuals. So I wanted to hear y'all opinion on that. Yo, go get in the field, nigga. I hear my brain trust. Go get in the field, bro. Alright, so where you meeting him at? Where you meeting him at? Where you meeting him at? Grocery stores? You be in grocery stores.

[00:02:48] Whole Foods. Tracks. You watch your movies. But you've been at church for so long, so it's like you work in the church. My church probably won't. That's a little off, but... Where the last place you met a woman? Ha ha, you a bitch. I'm... I don't even use that. I ain't like... The thing about it though, he didn't even know he was doing that. Yeah, I didn't even know. You see? Okay, perfect. You went outside. Spontaneously, bro.

[00:03:17] You know what I'm saying? I would've been gay out there. So, maybe... They got that Sander shirt on, bro. They had good black Sander shirt on. You know what I mean? The ladies love it, right? So, just in case...

[00:03:47] But I didn't throw on that fit with the intentions of interacting or crossing paths with anybody. I just threw on... But just in case. I just knew I was going to go and support you. I wanted to look nice. Just in case. I don't see it. I thought you got to though. I wanted to let them know he owns his own shit. I don't know. So, you go outside with that intention though? So, where do you meet him? Yeah. That is a good...

[00:04:12] Yo, you know, I mean, outside of social media, I don't really know if I meet them anywhere. Or I at least put myself in position to. Would you do a dating app? For example, huh? I thought you would do a dating app. I've done it before! Because I be shaming people for that. I just think it's kind of a little odd. What's the shaming? It's too focused. It's like too focused on, I need love. Come find me. You're trying to bypass the wasting time.

[00:04:39] Everybody on this shit is trying to be in a relationship. Nah, let him expound on that. That's a promo thing. I feel like your brain can work two ways. Like you can just naturally find the person for you. You don't have to be like, hey, I'm here for this. I watched the Pop the Balloon show the other day. Some nigga gave a great answer as to why... They asked why you were there. And he was like, I'm here to find the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with. And I just like... I respect that as an answer.

[00:05:05] I think your way about going about it is kind of odd being on this show to find the girl of your dreams. I feel like there's other paths, but salute to you. So why don't the same people have that same mindset going on to whatever dating app that it is? That's what I'm saying. Yeah. I throw a little bit more shame on that because it's just like, yo, y'all... All that's worse about people who own dating apps, all they do is complain about them. Yeah. They get the fuck off of them shits. But you shaming them more than going to Pop the Balloon? Pop the Balloon, yeah. That's comedy, bro.

[00:05:35] You don't think the dating app is a little bit more intentional? Like, yo, wow... It's too intentional. That's what I'm saying. It's too intentional. But now we didn't shit out. I'm swiping this way. I'm swiping this way. I'm figuring out what I actually want. Niggas all that time to waste. And that's the other problem. That's the concept of how you decide. Very superficial. Swipe if you look good. Swipe if you don't look good. I've never been on one of those. I don't know. Is that how it is? Yeah. I mean, in person, that's kind of how it is too. So if you're not the most pleasant looking, I'm supposed to swipe to date you? Nah, not even. Not in person.

[00:06:04] Because in person, there's so many ways it could go. I wish she could laugh you out your drawers, Joe. Yeah. Not me. Not me. Not me. Not me. But, you know, I always say that. That's not what I meant, though. I always say, no ugly girls laughing me out my drawers. You've got to be a baddie. It wasn't ever going to happen. Trust me. Alright? Don't think you can giggle me out of... It's not happening. What? Giggling, Joe. Joe. What I'm saying... Joe doing that shit again. You know what I'm saying?

[00:06:34] But, what I'm saying is... When you go outside and you put yourself in the field... When you put yourself in the field, there's so many ways it can go, son. Like, that first meet with a chick outside, it might not be, oh my god, we're looking for love. It could just be a vibe at first. But my thing, Joe, where outside, though? Anywhere. There's not... There's not... You think that's a good spot to... No. Okay. I think it looks like, what does the field mean? Because, like, Berkerton Bowles, I don't want to consider that. I mean, technically, it is a field. To be honest. The field...

[00:07:03] I think the field is... Not being close off to it happening. I would say for, like, a more intimate... So, what I would say is I want to bring LA to... Scrooge has a shit on Thursday. It's like the den. Oh, the vibe. The vibe in there? It's more intimate. It's less clubby. It's more vibes. Like, you'll see nice little young ladies... You gonna throw the flyer right? Yeah. But yeah, you'll... I think that's something you'll enjoy, because you don't get the... But that's another thing. I told Skrillz that I want to support him more, not with the intentions of meeting people.

[00:07:32] I just feel like a part of me... I don't know if this is me being, like, the empathetic person. A part of me feel guilty going to Burgers and Bottles, and I haven't been to a Skrillz event all year. So, I was like, nah, I can't... That's just wrong. And me, I just feel wrong. So, but also... But maybe... Might be your queen in there. Maybe, right? Right, Ellen? What if you found a Burgers and Bottles? No, no, at the den. Or at... Maybe, I didn't know. I didn't know. Burgers and Bottles, bro, because everybody's lit. Everybody's bugging.

[00:08:01] Yo, bro, I'm not... If you see a beautiful woman, you're like, oh, bro, she fired. I thought I should fuck with her. And she off a third dime. And she off a bean, man. I'm good. She hot. She miserable. She annoying all the niggas here. You run down to her, my nigga. I ain't gonna fuck with her. She took the next nigga. Now you're a little tight. Like, what you doing? What is it, bro? Now I'm jealous. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Now you gotta fuck. We ain't doing that. It's all over the... The grand owner of grand clothing. Now he's... Now he's the field, huh? Yeah, bro. Now he's the field. I think you do need to run down, maybe. Like, actually approach.

[00:08:30] I think that would be a better... I think that would be better for you. Do you get anxiety though when you like... I get anxiety with mash it. Bro, you're a flight attendant. You literally talk to random people all the time. That's what, but the intent is so different. The intent is so different. Your work is different, bro. I'm telling you work is different, bro. You gotta train your mind in a different way. I have the luxury. Would you like, would you... Can I have some of your cookies and something to drink? I have some of your cookies. How you want your coffee? Like me? It's like... With the same welcoming thing you do at work, just apply it to the same.

[00:09:00] But it's different though. I know I'm not gonna see you again. You, I'm trying to see you every fucking day. I don't want you to leave. I can't. So it's funny because I have the luxury of having female friends and I get to talk to them like very direct and very honest. They ask me... They always ask me sometimes about their interactions with men in public. Even up until... What was that? A couple days ago? Who was that? Oh, yesterday. Yesterday, yeah. Yesterday, I'm talking to a friend of mine and I'm just explaining to her why men don't talk to you.

[00:09:30] Not... It's not because you're not pretty. It's not because you don't have nothing going for yourself. It's because of the way society has kind of created this... This, uh... This stigma of talking to women in public. Yeah. There's two or three ways it can go. You're bothering her. Yep. You're bothering her, right? Or... Oh no, that's it. No, that's it. Actually, no. That's it. You're bothering disrupting her day. That's it. You're fucking up her day by going into her space. Mm-hmm.

[00:10:00] So when she says, oh, men don't know how to talk. Yeah, they're more confident in your DMs because there's a safety barrier there. Like... There's definitely a wall. Yeah, he can think about what he's going to say. He can try to respond to you in a way based off of what you're saying to him. That's why you... You try to talk to somebody... Somebody try to talk to you in public, you realize they've been in your DMs for all these months and you're looking at your shit like, well, damn. He is kind of handsome. Why haven't I talked to him? It's because... It's your fault. I had to tell my homegirl like, yeah, it's your fault.

[00:10:30] Like, son, it's the same person that you told me that, yo, who's your friend? I told you who my friend is. He showed you. You ever tried to talk to you, you ain't trying to... That's why niggas don't talk to you in public. That's why... I'm trying to bring it up. Right, right, right, right. Yeah. You talking to yourself, you guy. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I was wrong. I can be wrong. That's what I'm saying, you know? Close to harassment. That's why... And that's why it's tough for men to come sometimes navigate. They see a showdy outside. That's actually interesting, because I don't know if I would...

[00:10:56] First of all, I know I wouldn't be in somebody's DMs that many times without a response. I'm talking to myself? Yes, you're saying. But if I realize I'm talking to myself and I see them in person, I don't think I would... Yeah, that's... I'm not gonna remind you that. Talking to myself. I actually... See, that's the courage that comes, that confidence. Maybe I need to, you know, whatever that is. Yeah, that's crazy. That's crazy. You wanna talk to me now, but what happened with this? Like, I wanna... That's the thing. If I need that... You need that. Yeah. It don't matter what's going on, nigga. I need that. I need that. Nigga, God put you in person?

[00:11:26] If you needed it and she asked you... I need it. And she asked it for you. You gotta do it, bro. I need it. I need it. I think you operate with that, but you have a lot of... I don't wanna look this way or I don't wanna come across this way, but... Nigga, fuck all that. If you need some, go get it. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. In response to my 60 Day thing that was going on on the internet, my mans have responded to it like, yo, 60 Days is crazy.

[00:11:56] He's married. And I told him, I said, you telling me 60 Days is crazy? How long you was running down on your wife? He's like, now that I think about it, like six months. Get on my DM then, brother. What you want, you gonna go for. No matter how long. Fuck how you look, now you married with a kid. Brother? 60 Days. I don't wanna speak on that man's situation. Hey! I don't wanna speak on that bad situation. But if it took me half a year to get a drink, like damn. You better make it work. Now you settling. Settling? Yeah.

[00:12:26] Six months? Six months? And then you ultimately marry her, bro? That's cool though. That's cool. You be alright knowing that your wife settled for you? You saw what I said to my other man. Let me give this nigga a chance. I'm actually every six months. Every chance I get a match on your wife. What's up with someone? I think I said one of the things. I think I speech on it. But you saw what I said to my other man. I said, what's 60 Days till the rest of your life? Nah. Oh, come on with that. Come on with that, bro. I hear you. I hear you. But it don't fly the same when they say, it don't take a man this long to know what he wanna do. I'm supposed to know as soon as I see you.

[00:12:56] That was a good counter. That was a good counter. I'm supposed to know what I wanna do. That was a solid counter. I'm supposed to know what I wanna do as soon as I pull up. Before I even say a word to you, I'm supposed to know if I wanna take this serious or whatever. You telling me I need six months for you to know what you wanna do with me? Crazy. I think he knew. It's just she was. No, she, what you mean? Wait, so she went. Oh no, I don't know the situation like that. I don't know the specific. But I'm saying that whole applying pressure shit. Like, if I'm supposed to know, why the fuck you don't know? Yeah. We gotta start holding women more accountable. Fuck, I'm applying pressure.

[00:13:26] Well, apply the pressure but like, no. Don't take too long to know. I'm gonna ask y'all a question. When were y'all, at what age were you comfortable walking up to women and trying to get the number? 16. That's when I worked at American Eagle. Same thing. Yeah, I was. You at American Eagle in Jamaica? No, I was here. Oh. I moved here when I was 10. I worked at Green Acres. So that's my first. Wait, wait, wait. That's one of the Green Acres. Yeah. Oh shit, I remember seeing you. You said I remember seeing you. Really? I worked at the Bulls.

[00:13:56] Yeah, I worked at Green Acres. I worked at American Eagle in Journey's Kids. So when, wait. I moved, I lived in Jamaica. Uh huh. I was born in Jamaica. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I lived there until I was 10, but in that, in those 10 years I was back and forth. Going back and forth. Oh, so you was, so you, alright, so from the last episode you knew your privilege since 10. Wow. Yeah, nigga, I was vacationing in New York. Oh, I thought he said it in 17. I thought he said 17. No, but at 17 he knew already. Yeah, yeah. Oh, okay. I was vacationing in Queens back then I guess because I was living in Jamaica, so. But yeah. Oh, God, yeah.

[00:14:26] So you was running down in American Eagle? Yeah, cause that was the first time I like, outside of high school, that was the first time I like had to talk to random people. Yeah. So I kinda got rid of all the, I don't know what she gonna say. I don't go, who cares? I'ma just, I'ma say something. You think you're a signature move? Huh? Yeah, what was your signature? No, I ain't no signature move. No. Back then? I was trying to figure shit out, nigga. Let me tell you, my niggas, we used to, you know, I went to high school in Coney Island, we used to take the train all the way to Atlantic Mall after school and that was where

[00:14:54] all the BHA girls was at, the Bannica girls was at, and the Lachlan girls was at. So we had a mall full of girls. This is before Barclays Center was built, nigga. So like, we was in a mall and it was just mad chicks. So you just, you had practice every day. You said whatever, nigga. Yeah, bro. And sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. You know what's funny though? I was never, I never did that though. What? Yeah, I did it one time and I was like, I'm good. This shit made me too nervous. To talk to gail? To walk up and I'm like, what's your name? I ain't gonna find him like that. There was one time it was me, Mills, and my mans.

[00:15:24] He was on the Ave walking. He was, I'ma run down in the drawer, I'ma run down in the drawer, I see niggas talking to straight, I said, damn, I gotta do something. I'm a fucking loser. Sometimes your brothers put you in a position. I ain't, that's how it goes. I understand it though. My talk? You're not no chump, nigga. I could never do that. You've never seen a girl outside and was like, hey, sweetheart. Let me buy you a drink, what's up?

[00:15:55] You ain't never buy, like you ain't never? You ain't buy nobody a drink? Nigga, that's the easiest way to start a conversation. That's what he's talking about. I'm not even that easy. What are you drinking? Yeah, you got the bar, a joint is right next to you. What you drinking? LA, you got the funny nigga in the group, nigga? Yo, bartender, whatever she's having in this. I'm shy, brother. Yo, my brother over there, he think you cute. Nigga, don't ever do that. Nigga, don't ever do that. Nigga, don't ever do that. Why?

[00:16:24] Now they need to do that to me too. That's the alley. No, no, no, no. Tell him that yeah. Why not? Why he being shy? That's not even made me feel the worst. I'm leaving there, bro. I'm out of here, bro. So you keep pick one, my nigga. Come on. Pick one, bro. How can we help? What you doing? Nigga, I don't want you to stop. As long as I ain't the nigga that's saying, yo, I ain't from where the hoes at and get quiet, that's a different story, bro. I hate those niggas. I'd rather be the... I'd rather be shy brother than where the hoes at. That's it. Facts, facts, facts. And get quiet in the corner, like.

[00:16:55] I'll be the corner. Yo, why are your friends so quiet? Yeah. But don't do the whole, yo, my mans wanna talk to you. My mans wanna talk to you. No, no, no, no. Don't laugh. My mans, my mans, he a little shy. Nah, nah, nah. That's even worse. That's like saying, yo, my little brother like you. You pick one. I literally say, yo, my man over there, his dick mad small. All right. Do something with him. So what you want niggas to say? Sorry to point at you, Dana. He was out of here. I was just kidding. He pointed past me. He pointed past me.

[00:17:23] Nah, Dana didn't catch no strings as well. He was looking at me, so I didn't think you... Nah, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Misinterpreted it. So what you want niggas to say? I don't want niggas to do anything. I got a question. That was just a talking point. So me and my... All right, so I'm out. One of my woman friends. Yo, that's your friend here in the corner? That's different.

[00:17:54] That's a... Of course. So how come you... You know my resume. How come you're not leading with the charm? You don't have to be loud, nigga, but like... You know what I'm saying? How you doin' love? You never just tested it out. Let you get some shit? Like you... Let it all repeat. Let it all repeat. Let it all repeat. Like, cause you're well dressed nigga. You smell good. Like, you know what I'm saying? You smell good? On the walk-in. You got good skin. You said try it on some men? You ain't got good skin. You ain't got... You ain't got... You ain't got men?

[00:18:23] Let me tell you. You ain't practicing in men. I said... But look, look, look. You said... LA got good skin. His teeth straight up. Got waves. Well dressed. Got... Got his own car. Got his own money. Good job. Fuck is you outside not letting these women know that this is what you come in with? I think that's how you sling dicks. You know what I'm saying? What the fuck is we... What are we doing nigga? House clean. Got fridge full. What the fuck are we doing bro? Cook cook.

[00:18:53] Come on. Cook cook. Nigga take care of himself. He can take care of you. Say that. Say what you said. Oh God. God, bro. Hold up. This nigga's a man out. Oh please. Now? Yeah. Yup. Yup. That's a new thing that they're saying on the internet. Stay away from the men that God fear men. We're not doing that bro. We're not dealing with the internet. The internet woman is... The thing about when you say all that stuff it's like Why shouldn't they run down on them then? Cause women don't run down. They don't know that! Cause no no no. Quanti. Cause women don't run down. It's not natural.

[00:19:23] How you figure? That's not true. That's not natural. There are... Men are the run down. Yeah you're the man bro. I told you this. I said the episodes ago. I need that bro. If you see that you go get that. I'm like I need that. Bro come on. I ain't gonna front. If we went out. Be assertive? If we went out. If we went out and LA saw some fine shit. And he left us and just pulled her to the side. Yo bro the way I be over there like. You know what I mean?

[00:19:53] You understand? You understand? You understand? I buy a bottle just gone. Like on real we need some attention. Come on man. Like yo real shit bro. Get a bottle of more and put it at the table right there. Yo this is for y'all. You know what I'm saying? Yo enjoy y'all stuff. Okay alright. What type of person, what type of man would you want to be in that if you was doing all that? Yeah. Like if you was a person who's already, you run down. How would you want that to sound or look?

[00:20:23] How would a woman describe you? Yeah facts. How would, you talking to a woman. You know LA run down on me? What? What do you do? That would be so foreign that most people might not even believe it. Right. Who? LaShawn? Yeah. Which LaShawn? Stay focused? Yeah. He was focused that night. So how would you want that to look? You want to be like the smooth nigga, the nigga that's, what you drink? Oh what's this? What's that? You need some. Are you the funny guy? Yeah. I don't have that bag.

[00:20:53] So I don't even know what that would look like. To be honest with you. Yeah. So what's your? He got a wall to break. He got to break that wall first man. My thing was, I think I started at, I started in group settings. Like if I was ever talking to one. You was the funny nigga? Nah, not really. I was just the cool nigga that dressed good. And you don't really say much but until like we in a group. Were you mysterious? Oh! I see what you're saying. Like yeah, like we in a group and I see a shorty and I like her. Then I'll use the group to work on a conversation.

[00:21:22] And then I'll just move up. Yeah. Until I got to the point. Fucking eat this. You ain't eat this. I think about, I also know it was funny when I was in high school. I actually went on YouTube and I typed that in. How to talk to girls. I remember this shit to this day. Just think about just the first thing you see and you like, just say it. Mm-hmm. That's it. Don't think, cause if you think about it too much, you're gonna start thinking about her responses. Yeah. Shit that she didn't even say yet. Right. She probably never said anything about that to her. Yeah.

[00:21:52] You know what's funny though? Watching, sorry to bring it back to forever. Your soft beat is amazing. Oh, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. They don't think you ran through. You gotta, you gotta, you gotta. You gotta, you gotta, you gotta, you gotta, you gotta, you gotta. You gotta, you gotta, you gotta, you gotta come on and ran through. Try it though. Fucking try it. Try it. Nah, hell no. Your makeup is real nice. I like your makeup. What they gonna say is they gonna laugh like, how you know that? And then that's another conversation right there. I like that you went with the 40 millimeter. Oh, you know what the fuck it is. The four millimeter lashes? The lashes, the short ones.

[00:22:22] Those are four millimeter. You going too far. I know what you're talking about. You going too far, bro. My cousin is the lash tech nigga. You going too far. Even if you know what them shits is, you're not even supposed to say. What is that? Yeah, I don't even know what that is. Nah, those niggas let me go, oh, you got the cat eye 14. I'm like. There's no cat eyes, that's Rick Veg. I don't know what that is. I don't know nothing. Smokey smokey eyes. Smokey eye. Come on. But y'all watched forever. It was like, how Justin was moving, what short? That's how I used to be though. Like just, um, um. Just happy to be here?

[00:22:52] Um, uh, yeah. Um, um. I got a song for you. I can't see that, bro. I ain't gonna find, I made a joke out of it, but that's really shit. That's how I used to be though, bro. Super nervous, my nigga. Really? Yeah, that's why I understand later. I can't run down with you. You're making this seem like you was running downtown. It took me a while to get there, but. When I met Don, Don, Don and Don. How did I get there? How did you get there? How did you start? Because that wasn't your natural form. Um, I wasn't bro. Like I, you know, front it took me like a little after high school to get there.

[00:23:20] When I met LA at that point, my nigga was already over with, bro. I was pouring. But me getting there? It's not caring though. Yeah. It's not caring. It's not caring part. When the overthinking plus I was, I'm me and Joyce in the spa, I'm drinking bro. So I really don't give a fuck. But I don't want LA to go do that. Why the heck? I'm a little too old to start that approach. Yeah, yeah, yeah. For me, I know it started young. Um, no, just having the confidence. Yo, what? Hey, hey, hey. Even if, even if.

[00:23:50] Don't laugh. That was a very good story. My father. LA you laughing, but him saying that is breaking the same time. Even if, don't laugh. You misunderstood me. Don't laugh. Not funny. But no, I mean like, my confidence started young. Because I was always funny. I was always the funny kid. Okay. But, like, it was turning point was like fifth grade. I was on a fifth grade prom. The first girl to ever liked me told me that day. And that gave me like this boost of, oh shit. Like girls like me?

[00:24:18] That like, it was like, oh, she had to talk. She told our teacher to tell me like, oh shit. Yes. Oh shit. That gave me. And the teacher told you? That gave me. Yo, Miss Ramad, I'll never forget. She pulled me to the side. She's like, no, I didn't like you. I'm like, really? Like this is right before prom? I'm like, I bet. So I carried that into junior high. And like I said, my sister is two years older than me. She's in eighth grade. I'm in sixth grade. So now I'm the cool kid with the cool sister with the, oh, you know, the eighth graders. Oh, the confidence was through the roof. I never was. You was running out on the eighth graders.

[00:24:49] Yes. Plus I was playing ball. So, sports charm, popularity. Cha-ching. Had no fear. I had no fear, bro. I had no fear, bro. I had no fear. I mean, I think it obviously develops. You get your own personality. You don't have to lean on those things anymore. But that was a good start for me. So I was in the fire from a youth. So this is the, I want to make a pivot. Me and Joe was talking, I don't know what day of the week it was, but we was talking about, Coach Joe has this theory that what's a good guy's not going to pop until we get

[00:25:18] a white guy on the team. Oh, I've been saying that since, what was that Joe Budden Live podcast? What year was that? What white guy we're going to have though? Welcome to some. Hey, I've been, nigga, back then we could have found a white boy. So now it's like, what positions do we put ourselves to find the white man that's going to help market us? How do you think that's going to work? Well, you were saying we're not outside. Yeah. I got it. Yeah. I know what I mean by that though, right? Or do I need to reiterate? No, I mean for the content purposes.

[00:25:44] Oh yeah, for the, for, so everybody on Patreon, you guys are clearly dedicated to what we have going on and we appreciate y'all for that. Thank you. Um, my theory is LA and Don are very lax sometimes when it comes to promoting their universe. You don't see them outside. Right? I want you to cut team. I want you to cut team. No, you don't see this nigga outside. Don, you'll see him outside. Um, like it's not fun. It's, it's not fun.

[00:26:12] When, when they show up, they show up as themselves, as individuals, as LaShawn, as Don. You don't see them and think, and, and, and they don't lead with, oh, yo, you fucking with the pod or like pod isn't the thing that's going to, you know what I mean? It's not the thing that they are going to shove for lack of better words in your face. You know what I'm saying? With consent, of course. And I, and I say that because I noticed that other people, we are successful podcasts

[00:26:38] also want to make that clear, but the other successful pods, they lead with their, they lead with the, this is their brand and this is what they have built and this is what they want you to know them for. Nothing else actually. This is, this is my shit because I want this to change my life for real. I want this to change my situation. So there is, I don't give a fuck. You don't, don't tell me about nothing else I'm doing. Talk to me about this. That's what people lead with. And I feel like sometimes y'all are very chill about it. Like very like, yeah, we 300 plus. Good. We've been doing it. Somebody was talking to yesterday. Was like, yo, I didn't even know you.

[00:27:07] I went all the way back on the IG. I'm like, yeah, niggas been doing this for a long fucking time, but they not here. They're talking to me about it. Did they subscribe? Yeah. She, she was like, yo, I saw your clips. I was like, I can't even watch this on Instagram. I gotta go. I gotta watch the whole full episode. I'm like, yeah, but I'm here. This is me. Like they're not going to be here and you're not going to be able to. I told, I say, yo, every time something like this happens, I used to take my phone out and call a Sean. Like, look, somebody is talking about you. You know what I'm saying? But I don't feel the need to do that anymore.

[00:27:36] Cause last time you did that, fuck my life up. Low key. I think about that. I don't know if you think about that, but that's what I mean by that. Like I know for me, if I, when I built, I built every brand that I've built, I'm leading with it. I want people to talk to me in public about that shit. Like, yo, I saw what you did or I like this or can I help? Can I, can I be a part of this? Like, yeah, I'll walk around with it on my chest. Not literally, but like, this is what I want to show up as. So how do you do that? All right. So your podcast nigga, if you need to, but how do you do that?

[00:28:07] I guess with Dazzy knows best. I'm depending on the setting you're in, how do you just leave? Same person I'm talking about was like, yo, I saw yeah. I met Yaya. She came to the Coco Mo. Boom. I'm like, oh, you're the person she was talking about. Like being able to cut somebody being able to say, yo, I was able to give your somebody that you've promoted to me flowers in person because of you. And you may not even have to me, not even having to come back to you immediately and say like, I did this because of, you know what I'm saying?

[00:28:34] That's, that's how I know that when I show up in a room, people are like, oh, you the nigga that is helping other people reach other places that they wouldn't. You know what I'm saying? So that's what it is to me. And that's why I'm proud of that shit. All right. So where are we going to meet this white man? What's your strategy? I don't have a white man. I don't have a white man. A white man is just a theory because like I said, with Joe Budden back in the day, it was, you know, Parks and Rory and Ian, right? And I used to be, we was at the same, that same live recording.

[00:29:02] I was just like, you gotta have a white person in your team, man. Yeah. And that's just, and I think we'll be walking out the spot, Joe's like, yo, we need a white person. And I don't mean it in a literal sense, but it's just that, that differentiating piece that's gonna go into them other rooms. And that person that's in the rooms that we want to be in speaking for us. Yeah, right. Represent, it's just a tough reality of America that, the privilege that we be talking about, they have it. You know what I'm saying?

[00:29:30] And if you find, damn, this sounds crazy to say out loud. But yes, if you find the right white person to put into your circle, bro, who can use their privilege to benefit you and they're authentic and genuine and ain't doing it for like no underlying, no under theme. I think it helps. And that's in all avenues. Pawnee, you get a white person on your team, bro, shit might elevate. What you gonna give me? All you. What? Oh, you mean as percentage? What am I gonna give them? Your shit. What you gonna give me?

[00:29:59] No, you gotta add them to the brotherhood. That's it? Yeah. You gonna use all this privilege? Yeah, bro. You gonna use all this privilege? You just pull up to the dog backyard? You pull up to the dog backyard? I'm like, what white boys? I mean, that's not the first white person to die. Oh, it's not. Yeah, so. I think they're gonna give me mad white people on my head. I can count three, no two, three. Three? Solid three that's been there. I thought it was only two. Only one that I know personally. I feel like it's been there. What was my peoples? Uh huh. You got Nicole? What was Cole?

[00:30:29] Uh huh. Who's the other one? Oh, yeah. Okay. Yeah. Oh, yeah. It's 100% that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So yeah, shout outs. It's a caucus. But um... You gotta add them to the brotherhood. You gotta add it to the brotherhood, man. Miami, obviously. All right, so. Which comes to an interesting point, because me and Joe were saying all these things. Oh, bro, you need to be outside. With what Tom? That's the thing.

[00:30:58] Yeah, that's what he hit me with. He said, yo, I time travel. Nigga told me he time travels, so you know. That's not what I said to you. That's not what I said to you. Yeah, but that's... I said with what Tom? Yeah, he doesn't have time. If essentially everything for... Like we went to Ruben's dinner. I couldn't even enjoy it. You know why? Because what was I doing? Oh, you enjoyed it. No, I could not fully enjoy it. So you still put it in the park. Yeah. But that's just life. Right. So how do I have the time to... Go out and... Go out and where am I supposed to find this time?

[00:31:27] I think you pivot by utilizing your time on the internet differently. Right? That's the ultimate reach. Oh, run down on white people? No. Fuck the white person for this part. Right? I'm talking about... Just being outside. All that downtime that you can't physically be outside is that you're not just posting your close friends. And you're not posting on Instagram for two years now. Three years, I think. Two years now. Right? And you are on the timeline giving your opinion and people know that you exist. You're alive.

[00:31:57] You're breathing. And you can say, oh, I made a comment. And you might... Your opinion on one thing might change... Might have somebody traffic their way into clicking on your page and seeing your pinned tweet is, oh, what's good guy? What's this? Click. Oh, shit. Y'all got to go for that. Oh, good podcast. Uh, things like that. It's simple. It starts that way. That leads to you being outside a little bit more than you were before. Cause if you ain't doing that at all, nobody knows anything. You're still that guy on Twitter. I just want you to understand that, bro.

[00:32:26] Like, if you start posting again on Twitter, bro, what's up? The timeline's still there. I ain't gonna lie, bro. Follow is still there. Niggas know you. I still don't understand the point of not posting. Like the dead silence? Yeah, I don't... Like when you're like, the dead silence. I just wanna say at the top of the year, who said they was gonna take over the Twitter? No, I'm talking about your personal account. Not your... Not the way... I'm talking about you as an individual. Yeah, I never understood you. This is not about the team. I'm talking about you as an individual. I ain't gonna lie. If it wasn't for this pod, LA would be a ghost here. I understand that.

[00:32:56] I don't understand that. If that's the thing though, that's cool if you don't have the pod. You got it. And that's him in nature. And him in nature is, ah, well, I don't really care to do this. Fine. But if we also, in privacy when we speak and say, why isn't this happening? Why isn't this happening? You have to then look at your nature and say, maybe that's why it's not happening. Because all the successful people that are in our avenue, they are out there. They are talking. They are giving their fucking opinions. It ain't some dumb shit though. Yeah, but you're a wise person. I ain't really saying dumb shit, bro. But you're a wiser person.

[00:33:26] You know how to navigate a little better. You're smarter. You got some experience. So yeah. Fresh in the space. Yeah, you watching them fuck up? I ain't gonna do that dumb shit. I know how to navigate better than that. You've watched enough. You know the game. You know, I'm not gonna comment on Diddy and I'm not gonna say, I'm not gonna say that, oh, she looks like an accomplice. You're not gonna say that on the fucking timeline. But you are gonna, if you are gonna speak on it, you're gonna give wise and responsible takes where people might be in agreement with you.

[00:33:54] And the disagreeance part is the, that's the part right there. He's not trying to argue with nobody. You don't have to argue with nobody. You don't. You're a podcaster. You don't really gotta, you might just, don't switch it out just to the, but them knowing you're alive is enough. We've been saying we're gonna do a live show forever. Niggas ain't getting in front of the live show yet. Y'all got live show money? I can find live show money, man. And we have live show resources. I know that much.

[00:34:16] So, it's like, when you wanna, when you, when you, when you want to reach a, when you want to reach more, you gotta do more. And can we honestly say that we've done more? Other than upping the quality and, and- Okay, so what, what we, what would you say when I was on the timeline at, uh, active? We was having no same talks. Yeah, but we were still- We're still having the same talks now. Yeah, but we did less. We're doing more and then, and you, you, we did more. And you showing less?

[00:34:46] Showing less. That's backtracking. That's how I like them. Yeah. That's the backtracking is that, I wish people were now able to engage with you instead of saying it to me, or saying it to this person or that person. And they can follow me. I see where they can follow me every day. You know what I mean? I know. What's the point though? What's the point? What's the point? What's the point? What's the point? You know what I'm saying? Like, you have such a, you have a bright personality. You got mad, mad wisdom. You're somebody that, the person that you show up as on mic is the person that you

[00:35:15] actually are. So if people can get that off, off the camera, not only on Monday. So he's trying to say the regular Instagram. Alright, so flick me up. We'll be outside just go LA. Flick me up. Nigga, you don't bring this camera out no more. I really don't. Like, we used to do that. Like, I used to have a cam. It seems to be the fucking truck. I mean, like, where the athlete took a picture, bro? I don't know. Come on! If he didn't selfie in the uniform, I don't know, bro. I mean, I wouldn't post that one, but yeah. You might be some people's favorite and they don't have a way to talk to you or see you outside of this.

[00:35:46] Right. I said it already, right? Yeah. You can ask me who I'm hiding from. For Don, it's different. Cause he is. Don don't hold sex symbol, but see, this is all respect to T. I love T. Yes. But when Don got a girl, that's when the pivot changed. Cause now niggas couldn't slur Don out no more. I know I was getting a lot of listeners from that. I was cool with that. When they, when they, with the idea of that, like we were both as crazy as the sounds, fuckable.

[00:36:16] I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I know bullshit you know. One of them shot, they shot at LA. She's like, oh, LA not with it. All right, we shot, we shot at Don. And then there was another time one shot, they shot at Don and they came to shoot at me. So now that we're no longer, well, Don's no longer, tangibly fuckable, then I felt like that was a change too. When Don became like super serious in his relationship from the go, it was like, oh shit. Oh, he's serious.

[00:36:44] And then the speech changed, the mannerism changed, the guests changed, the environment changed. So I get, I get that point. But speaking of, uh, super fuckable, I want to tell a story that happened to me this week. That's crazy. Where a girl, uh, talking about where you meet him at, she, uh, she told me I had to pay for pussy. What's going on y'all? If you listen to this episode, don't forget to subscribe to our Patreon.

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