Episode 318: Bread Crumbing

[00:00:00] I'm not even a matcha nigga for real Matcha nigga man You already know what this motherfucker is She most would love it as always, Donald Peasley Alongside of LaShawn and Kojo You know I'm here L.A. hate that shit but I'd rather enjoy it I despise that shit The person who was suggesting that hasn't been here since she suggested it Do that, I'mma go but you guys do that and I'mma go, okay? See ya Fuck is she executive producer or something? No, not at all, she's not at all

[00:00:30] Cheyenne we miss you man I think there's a free agent Well I do She do whatever the fuck she want at this point But um, what's going on fellas? Ain't shit Thanks for all y'all for like, comment, subscribe And doing everything I do every week We do appreciate y'all Shout out to Ashley signing up for the Patreon Shout out to you Appreciate you gang Shout out to you gang Which is Ashley that was, not sure which Ashley but shout out to you Sorry we had to delete I accidentally put this on the lower tier And she was watching so I took it away really fast My fault

[00:00:59] Oh but if you pay a little bit more you can get it Come on Ash, you got it You got three jobs gang Ash, you too man What are you talking about? Where are you talking about there man? Oh yeah, you got money, you got money Come on man Come on man Nurse Ash I see you Nurse Ash I see you playing You ain't gonna say the other job But you got that one too This is sick I'm surprised you still there gang I ain't go over you I ain't for a nigga about eight jobs though She's finessing the Okay Alright Sorry guys I ain't gonna lie Sorry

[00:01:28] You got a little bit of snitching It's a little bit Not too much though Not too much But um Damn, what do we start? Rose butt throwing? As always Um Do it My rose this week Damn, I had a pretty great week man I love it I love you My week being great was my rose man Alright It was all It was good Um All seven days hit? You stacked some You stacked some good days Yeah, some great days man Um, my thorn this week Very random Yo, why you skipped the bug bro? My thorn My thorn My thorn My thorn was very

[00:01:57] It's some stupid shit Like I cut my toe I cut my toe with my other toe Oh my god When I was sleeping You ever rub your feet? You got tripped Damn I did I did I did I cut him wrong a little bit So I'm waiting I'm gonna hit Like oh shit Nah, this is not And that's like at four in the morning I sat there for mad long Like yo bro Why'd you do that? Bloody toe That's crazy That was a good sleep I was trying to rub my feet together But then Um, bud Looking forward to the summer man Shit me Looking forward to the summer man Um It's my first summer in the wild Where I feel fit Like I feel fit

[00:02:28] You're here this nigga? Yo boy I feel But I could Yo Oh you feel fit You don't look fit But you feel it Niggas just go Boy if I feel fit No no Yo yo He talking about his breathing and shit He ain't talking about his body bro I'm talking about my body too though What the fuck? Yo what's wrong with y'all bro? You wanna see photos of you the last two summers? Yo boy I haven't felt like that I ain't gonna feel Niggas just look it

[00:02:48] He ain't feel it That nigga say y'all 20% body faster That way I ain't going too far But uh Yeah it was a great week man That's what's up That was a great week man What about you Joseph? Shout out to you Sick LA about to look it up Yo verbatim Yo That's not what I want What his body?

[00:03:18] Yeah Well his body his choice His body his choice Don wasn't pro abs Now he is Washboard I want that I want Yo I want what I want Six pack? Yeah Yeah Sished on the show a little more Why you talking like that? I'm so good He feel He feel strong I'm so good I like it What's the highest amount of abs you can have? I'm not sure Like the six pack Or eight pack? We all got the two pack That's what it is Like glack glack The abdominals are two pack Okay

[00:03:48] I was going to six I'm good man Six My obliques is Look oblique Yeah Lats look crazy I'm happy man Yeah like since young I guess like If you drew a picture of the perfect body A nigga always had like six pack abs Like yeah Shout out to Dragon Ball Z Yeah Oh facts And they all had the six packs That's how I learned how to draw Nah shout out to that Then it was that weird S I don't know where that S ever came from Yeah but we all know how to do it Yeah that one I can't lie to you I didn't know how to do it You didn't know how to do it? I was not one of the niggas that did that I ain't in front I used to tell them

[00:04:18] Put this on my Throw this on my book Because I can't do it Three lines Three lines on top Three lines on the bottom Your last name start with S That should've been your simple Nah nah You should've been tagging shit up with that That was more mill shit I was like I tried it I was like Yo I don't like how this shit look I'm good Everybody know how to do it Damn That and that eyelid shit I was like What? What? No no no Nah what? It was some shit I wasn't doing when I was a kid Nah I don't know how to do that You know what? I'm a fart my nigga Me being the youngest I mean you the youngest too Yeah man Me being the youngest kid Nigga Mills do that shit That shit scared the shit out of me

[00:04:47] Yeah I don't play that with my eyes I didn't like that shit bro I just never was that kid My nigga You played Skelly with the paper? What you mean? Why don't you flick the When you made the paper? Yeah And Skelly with a quarter? Yes Yeah this is the shit I was doing though Nigga saying I wasn't outside I got scabs on my feet We all got that same cut on our knee Right here I got scabs on my knee I got stitches on my leg It be funny I be like If a woman is wearing a skirt And I look at her knee

[00:05:17] I'm like Oh so you wasn't always like this You was outside running around Like a regular kid That's a weird way to Nigga You got scabs No cause some of these women Act like they're so holier than thou Like you know what I'm saying We gotta remember though Certain moms was like Yo bro Be careful with running Be careful with the running shit Like yo My aunt used to be like Be careful with running Cause if you fucking be knee You're gonna look crazy You know what I'm saying Yeah How was your week though? Tell me about Rosebud Thor Cause I don't know How we started talking about Oh for me? It's cause you wanted to be I judge the knees

[00:05:46] Of a woman a little differently Oh no I didn't think it's wild Let me see If you got rug burn baby You got some rug burn baby I was looking at Those knees A little bit different Bro Nigga You got the scar of old scars So That's what I'm saying But I'm like Aw nah Your mom got that rug from Bobby's Oh my That That Bobby's rug burn Oh my gosh Shit flammable

[00:06:14] You was there for a long time Oh shit This nigga's a sicko This is wild Shout out to Flatbush Yo Okay Let me My rose My rose I'll give my rose to my nephew He crossed Kappa this weekend Okay Shout out to Niffin I'm proud of him Oh that's what you put in your close friends? Yeah Yeah Yeah I posted And I posted him on my page Not my page I posted him in my story But yeah Proud of Nori

[00:06:43] I know how long he wanted this He finished the job So I'm proud of him So I'll give the rose to him I was proud to see him do that Don't really got a thorn this week either man I think I'm I wouldn't say coasting But I'm getting through these weeks So far Just enjoying every part of it Not really having much to complain about Like even Even like Yeah Like even the things that I guess would Agitate me or whatever Don't bother you too much Like before I was saying the sleep thing

[00:07:13] Now Now I'm waking up Before the alarm And I noticed that when I'm posting I'll post my gym show I'm like it's an enclosure For the first time I watch it Like I'm not It's not as much of a headache So I'm kind of like easing into that So Don't really got a thorn this week And I'm okay with that I'm good with that My bud Just like you I'm I'm very very very Excited for the summer Or just even Even the spring Let's see how the spring goes The weather The weather just changes Everybody's mood And I know that about everybody So Yeah my

[00:07:43] And my brother My brother got us tickets To Vibes Cartel So That's why I'm about to go see Vibes too I didn't think that was on my thing Y'all going all as a family? Yeah me and my sister and my brother That's why That's why That's dope That's dope So yeah we gonna see Vibes on the 12th So that's gonna be fun I'm looking forward to that as well Ain't it great where everybody in the family got money? Yo we out Fuck it They would've took me I'm the baby I gotta know that They would've took me regardless They would've just asked me Oh you wanna come And I would've been there So yeah

[00:08:13] My rose this week I shot my shot corporately A couple of weeks ago Damn And I don't I ain't expecting to go there I'm gonna say yeah But That's so good though We're so good Yeah we're so good A couple weeks ago I just never sent anything I saw like this Real estate company They were They They started a podcast But they were shooting like on an iPhone Some bullshit Some bullshit So I kinda DM'd them like Yo if you looking to step your

[00:08:44] That's right Yeah Yeah Yeah If you looking to step your Your production value For the podcast You know that's something I do Da da da da da Then I Then I sent a cold email And it's been back and forth For a couple of weeks And Thursday I actually saw the email Friday But like They came to an agreement On the terms that I would want And they just want me to do The social clips Oh that's easy Money on Yeah So

[00:09:13] Shit me So I'm I'm happy about that So that's extra money You were showing them The proof of concept Like look what we do over here Yeah I showed them What's a good guy Which clip did you show Nah I just I showed them the IG page In the The clips we do So they kinda wanted that And then I took their podcast And made the I gave them a free clip Oh yeah Here you go Showed them what it could be Yeah You know what I'm saying This is what y'all doing This is what I could You said real estate right Yeah And you can do them things too though I

[00:09:43] I offered that Two for one I offered that service too I kinda wanted to be like Their in house video thing For like Cause I really wanna do Real estate videos And you've done it before And I've done it before If you need to If you need a drone Let me know Get them aerial shots Nah but they said They just want the social for now So we got a nice number And I'm gonna agree to it Monday And that's a new That's a new venture for me now Congratulations It's not new That's who you are Yeah Hopefully

[00:10:12] It's just a Not new New source New client New client So I got a new client That was my rose My buzz Something I'm looking forward to That first deposit From them Respectful Oh facts They were nice enough to say Yo this video This clip that you gave us Was so good That we gonna pay you for it What? Yeah facts Oh yeah fuck with y'all Y'all gonna get my book Yeah facts So hopefully it grows Into a nice relationship Where I wanna do Some of their like Videos As far as

[00:10:41] Not the podcast Cause I do wanna leave That eventually And get into like Real estate videos Cause that's something That I feel like I'll be around For forever Um My thorn Yo I said yo My thorn is for like Niggas who be cheating Right Stop talking to me As if I cheat too Niggas be like You feel me right?

[00:11:12] Verbatim I don't feel you Verbatim Stop talking to me like That bro You know what I mean right? No I don't Nigga I don't Like yo you know How we giving up We Don't know how you got me In that conversation My fuck You don't know me like that Bro Nigga said we Wait but where You going with that? Like How was that a thorn to you? Cause That's what happened On this work trip Oh okay Homie was just talking like That was all Weak niggas Was doing that bullshit

[00:11:42] Nonsense bro He was just talking nonsense He kept saying we In front of the other two No there's no we No No Yo your infidelity That's on you nigga My faithfulness This is my thing Don't make your dick Our dick Nigga acting like I went on a two man Nigga I'm not seeing you After this trip brother Oh shit So I don't want to see you After this trip That was That was

[00:12:12] Is it because of the way That the women That you also don't know Are now going to perceive you Because of his foolishness Fat Yo he was He was talking like We was men's from before I just met you I just met you Like Yo me and my bro Bro He a man He know what I'm talking about My brother in flight Stop My brother in flight Yo please He a man He know what I'm talking about Bro What are you talking What are you doing bro Yeah yeah yeah yeah Stop doing that bro One I ain't gonna front Matter of fact You scaring the hoes a little bit

[00:12:42] My nigga Let that be my bud I'm looking forward to the day That stops Don't group us all together Like Yo you a flight attendant How many How many of them You knocked How many Yo bro Stop None I'm a I'm a I'm a version In this in flight life Bro And even us having a conversation With our mans On Xbox about this shit Shout out to Scrap I ain't gonna say that nigga name Because it's sicko Scrap is the only bro Boy he was just like Yo he said something He was like You know what I mean don I said yo bro You don't even say that Nigga in LA

[00:13:12] I said yo Why the fuck you said Don on April Nigga Nigga say yo Don you know what I mean Right nigga You got a girl Nigga no You be as crazy Yo scrap set I'm in my kitchen yelling Like my dad's looking at me You good Scrap set verbatim Yo you gotta cheat first Just in case they get They look back Right dog I said yo bro What the fuck I missed that class brother Like why is this Why is this like a norm I feel like we had this I feel like you doing that shit Just in case You doing it just in case

[00:13:41] It's kind of crazy Yeah facts Facts Let me cheat first You know my nigga like Just in case if she cheat Nah bro Then you gonna throw the we in there Ain't no we in here It's just you I don't That shit don't sit right with me bro I can't front you Yeah that was my thorn bro That nigga was doing that shit For three days straight bro And talk I thought you switched after I thought you switched after a few days Nah we was on the same crew For three days Oh damn Oh y'all family So That's what y'all got

[00:14:11] You all his brother That's what he meant Stop doing that That get on that flight That's your man You get to the hotel You play the bar You know how it is Oh so he gave you his whole like Routine And was like He gave too much He gave too much I ain't gonna say any more than that Shout out to McDonald Who got Who got

[00:14:40] Yo this nigga's a sick individual bro Bro I don't want I ain't gonna front me I'm so sure I love LA to death I love LA to death I don't want no one inside With y'all niggas no more I'm done I'm fucking through Matter of fact Let me tell you what the nigga said The nigga's gonna say Don Nigga said I'm not in a relationship I'm in love I said alright gang Hold on Niggas is losing me I don't know

[00:15:10] Yo what I said alright gang Yo Now My question Did it work? Cause I'm sure he had a mission I went to my hotel room Okay I closed the door It probably worked Whatever worked after that It probably worked man Cause he probably done this before He probably did it on the last trip I'm still trying to figure out Why the fuck would he say that to you That was my question He spun the box What happened? Nigga had to laugh Bro Why the fuck would you ever Say some shit like that?

[00:15:39] Nigga sit with the nigga For three days After he said some stupid shit Bro LA please come back to me I need you to explain What your reaction was bro Come back and explain What your reaction was Nigga put on a towel Like Rocky Balboa Tell me what the fuck His reaction What was your reaction When he said that? I walked away bro I didn't want to be a part of that conversation Don't associate me Don't associate me And this I can't fret This is the most I talked On a trip though You ain't had no You older than him Or younger than him What you think?

[00:16:09] Nah he older than me What? Oh damn He a professional cheater Is there an age That nigga was trying To put on a A TED talk Yeah He was trying to give games On infidelity Just in case you wanted to Pick up where he left off Nah I feel like there should be An age limit to that So What? Like you You gotta stop You gotta stop at some time I'm trying to get my mans to stop I don't want to talk about that nigga I don't want to talk about that nigga I don't want to talk about that nigga I'm trying to get my mans

[00:16:38] I don't want to talk about him For a few weeks Bro I'm trying to get my mans We had that conversation Matter of fact That is interesting Matter of fact Gooch had that conversation In the chat He was like Yo bro We gang We kind of Nigga why you still Why do you still want to do this? You still the youngest In the group chat But you not young anymore Yeah So You older than me A lot of niggas getting older But they never grow up man That is That's how I go There you go This is Kojo's first promo So is that So was that them just holding on to the past?

[00:17:09] No I feel like that shit come from Like a deep rooted trauma bro I ain't gonna hold you Really? Let me tell you why Why I think so As you As we get old enough As men We've dealt with enough women To understand the Crazies Okay Or how We all get to a point Where we understand One is enough At a time right So to keep

[00:17:39] Dealing with multiple personalities That's tiring As you get older And your time is And we talking about You got a job You got responsibilities To deal with all of I feel like it's To continue With that type of Extra I don't I don't know what I feel like it's deep rooted bro I don't know when I change Because that should be me my nigga Like you We talked about how I will write like multiple women When we at work But that's not a real commitment though What you was doing back then

[00:18:09] I think it's more of a I'm just I don't think you would do that now Even if you were single I don't want to talk to too much people at once bro That's too many people I got to talk to Oh good morning Good morning My nigga I'm sending a blast text right now bro A blast text And then I got to see I got to see at least And then I got to see at least four of y'all a week probably And then what's the end goal right? And it's expensive And then what's the end goal What's the end goal? The end goal Pussy? That's a fact What? That's a fact Like yo I'm gonna go through all this work To send a blast text To multiple women Just for some

[00:18:37] That shit might sound crazy Like on a man In a man scale But like really If that's just the end goal Like come on That's it though Because if you Because if you Because if you Looking for something In one of them You wouldn't be Fucked with the rest of them Yeah That's what That's what I'm saying I feel like as a deep Men who like Cheat like that What's the trauma though? Like seeing it done before Or like I mean that could be one Like them being Is it like them being touched Or like what is it? It could also be the

[00:19:07] I'm gonna get my lick I'm gonna get my lick before Even when Even when Scrap said Revenge He's like yo bro Just in case They weren't loved as a child And they looking for like Infection Everything Attention And Yeah but What you mean You can get that in one person though That doesn't have Does that have to result In multiple What if that's you Yo I can't What if you put that person To settle So you just You still looking though Ah Or you greedy Ah I'm gluttony I don't front Yeah you greedy It could be greed It could be greed too

[00:19:37] I feel like Or just the Or just The societal pressure Of being a man And just I'll never forget I watched Eddie Murphy Raw when I was younger One of the funniest comedy specials I ever watched Be careful There's some jokes in there Yeah but that's what I mean The joke I'm talking about Is when he said Like you As a Your job on Earth As a man Is to conquer as much pussy As you can right When I was younger Watching that And listening to that I'm like Is this nigga right Like is that why We put on Earth And I could see that Being something that Men just carried A wrong

[00:20:07] Yo Yo Yo Yo Yo But he used the word conquer Like he used the word conquer In that special That angle front That word is pretty But he said it on a pod Stop Let it go Let it go Let it die Nigga trying to Just apply his fuck up What did he say I'm just repeating what he said But yeah nah Like that's what I think it's that like

[00:20:37] Cause I remember When I was younger I had somebody who I Somebody I consider like You know somebody I looked up to Somebody Somebody my man's Like family Had told me something similar Like yo yo You still young Like just like Just like don't worry Like you gonna be You gonna be alright Get as much Like do whatever you got And you know I kinda took that Like for real Like I ain't that You know what's wild though I don't know if I said this On a pod before You know my mom Told me that shit before right Really Yeah From the Yo you know what My mom

[00:21:06] I never said this publicly I was always jealous Of how your mom Let you fuck as much Like the way The way The way your mom Will hold it down Like yo Don had a Monday Tuesday Wednesday I still think I'll start You watch the podcast She definitely Watch the podcast And my mom And Don Don Mars Would be mad Cool with it She's like I just don't want hair I don't want Bro I try that shit With my mom My mom She don't want hair She don't want hair That shit

[00:21:35] Alright so what you gotta do Tell her I don't know if I ever Told this joke From my parents My parents I don't know They cool But they not cool I haven't told this joke About how I asked my pops I asked my pops To help me with something I was like You never told me this He said You making a noise In the room I never told you that Yo my shorty right there My shorty is right next to me Bro Bro I ain't gonna front My nigga

[00:22:05] I think my shorty Was there And Cyrus is right next to me Cause my It's me My shorty is Cyrus Yo my nigga The nigga Cyrus is dying Like your pops Be wild for no reason Look at him He gave me a little smile Yo boy why the fuck My pops My pops Said the same thing He said You came out alright That's what my dad Always tell me You came out for me You're pretty alright Nah son Nah but In front of me Growing up My mom's like Yo bro Like

[00:22:39] Got to the point Where she's like I ain't gonna front You're doing too much Fucking now You're doing too much Doing too much Fucking I got to the point Where I was like I ain't gonna front I don't want Like you used to always But you're bringing Too much joints To the crib Yeah I was Well Too many joints Or too much noise Too much Not too much joints To the crib So it's like I'm That nigga had a Sunday through Saturday line up Bro I was That was I ain't gonna front And I look at it Now as an adult I was like You nasty bro That's what I'm saying I feel like You do grow out of it I seen You would hope Some people would though

[00:23:09] Yeah Yeah Cause even talking With Scrap Right He older than us Scrap older than us But Scrap's reclining Is pretty like He's asking for Is he asking for a lot Nah but Scrap Scrap said it He was like Yo I want what I want He ain't gonna settle For anything But at the same time You I feel like you wasted So much energy With things that you know Don't even quantify To the things you want So why even You know But I think even

[00:23:40] We talk about like Temptation And we talk about like We always talk about the flesh So I'm like Yo bro He always talks about Instagram Instagram joints I'm like yo bro I ain't gonna front You gotta Like I know you get Your business from there But you gotta sign up For that shit sometimes bro Cause that's gonna make you Keep Oh I wanna fuck with this joint I wanna fuck with this joint Bro you gotta cut You gotta cut off At some time bro Nice It's an addiction Y'all ever like You know I know you haven't Have you Well Have I ever go I can say no On a siren What cheated

[00:24:10] Yeah No no no no I haven't cheated Cheated on Huh Cheated on He said you would never know And I I don't ever wanna know I don't ever wanna know If any of my What you think is better What you think is better LA No or not know Not know Alright man Yeah I'd rather not know Please I don't even wanna Like if we went our Separate ways And we got back together I don't even wanna know that Yeah I wouldn't be mad at you But I don't wanna know that Don't yeah Cause now I'm in my mind It don't even feel the same Yeah bro Might just go back Please

[00:24:39] Go back I don't wanna I better off When I got back With Shory Shory was like Oh no I don't wanna hear it Listen listen listen I don't wanna hear it Take us to the next level Listen This is what the pod Nah Shory Relax Jocelyn tell the stories Nah Shory said yo Give the people what they want She said yo Did you do anybody I said what I said And she was like Days later She was like yo I know she never asked me I said I ain't gonna Don't What What Why the fuck Why wouldn't know that Stupid shit What the fuck

[00:25:09] We talking about here bro Yo Listen If he was That wasn't my business Please I gladly wanna mind my business In this case Cause I They're running jokers She always be like Oh you know You was my first You my first boyfriend Yeah good That's all I wanna hear I wanna hear that I wanna hear that I'm saying And the same goes Even for my man's girlfriend Like if you cheated on my man's Don't tell me bro Don't tell me I don't wanna know What if you closer to her I don't wanna know I don't wanna know Are you telling You telling

[00:25:39] Your peoples though Nah my ain't business Word My ain't business I think I'm doing it For those two reasons I don't wanna lose My innocence in you And looking at you In this way And I don't wanna be In a position To where I gotta You look at them With innocence still I mean but like Don't wanna be in a position To have to tell my man's Like yo She out here God forbid one of your mans You cool with both of them Your man surety Is cheating on him You not saying nothing I Mom I put it to you like this If I know I gotta say something I put it to you like What I was just about to say

[00:26:08] If Joe Like say I was with Joe's homegirl Right His former co-worker And Joe caught her Cheating on me I would not want Joe To tell me Really No I would've brought pictures I don't know son That's a I don't know son That's a tough spot though But I don't want you To be oblivious She's like I love this relationship So you telling me You telling me If we caught your girl In the spot Going crazy Going crazy We probably would've Flipped the spot

[00:26:38] You would've heard it I appreciate that That's good enough That's good enough Somebody wall out You want us to come back And tell you Figured I should've Made it to you Before we got out the spot But the thing about it is though I'm in a relationship And I'm feeling happy Everything is good And that's happening Yo You got a whole trip In June coming up And she said I ain't gonna front my nigga I'm going on a trip by myself Nah I'm not Don't expect me to tell y'all bro Damn Nah so that's like Then it turns into Oh you knew the whole time He ain't saying nothing to me Yes Yes Nah I don't want to look like that

[00:27:08] I don't know I don't know bro I think that hurts more That hurts more Yes bro You had me in bliss Yo let me tell you why I did that once The nigga got mad at me For sure See Alright see You got to play about How he took it though If you do the other side The same result may happen So you're kind of like A lose-lose Yeah That's why I'm in my business Yeah so just do what feels right Yeah I would say Do what feels right I feel like I should pop up Cause I go back You go back Yo Don No there's no way Boom boom boom We saw boom boom boom

[00:27:38] But we packed the nigga out Cause we thought We thought he was pressing up Come to find out They together You get mad Blah blah blah I can't see that happening I can't see you being mad at this Six months Eight months later They back together Fuck off I know I know I know I see I don't I don't I open my mouth for We put We done put Arms Legs Down But that was reactionary though. He and Coach O'DT. Nigga, D-Ball, get the table.

[00:28:07] We didn't turn into the Dudley boys and fucking the Swanton Bomb. That nigga's crazy, nigga. All for you to get back with the show? That's insane, though. You want to tell me you love him? Then I'm all my business. You say, yo, she made a mistake, my brother. Yeah, yeah, facts. What was the mistake? What I needed from you in that moment was to support, you know? If you really love me, support my decision. So you want to be told, yo? No, please. Don't tell you? No, tell me anything. So you're just going to stay happy and then just figure it out later? I don't want to know. Nah, he going to find out

[00:28:37] when he find out, bro. God will tell me. He didn't put y'all on the earth to break that news. Let my God tell me what's going on in my life. Exactly. I told you about how my man's like, he's trying to find out if his story was cheating and nigga asked God for the password to phone. And God gave it to him. See, you didn't have to tell him anything. See, the thing is... I'm crying. I can't ask God for that. I'm not asking God... You ask God for strength if he give you the password... I'm not asking God for the strength to go through the phone, though. I'm not doing that no more. I say, oh, God, make me weak. I don't want to do that, bro. So you'd rather ask God

[00:29:06] to keep you oblivious? I would ask God to break it to me in a way that I can properly, you know... So not to not crash out. Yes. You know, I want to be able to... You think if you find out you're going to crash out? At this stage in my life and the person I am, absolutely. I think I've been... Absolutely? I'm crashing out, bro. What? I didn't expect you to say that. I think you've seen me at some of my worst. Don't question it, brother. I walk from my crib

[00:29:36] and shit, you don't niggas screw. I'm on the phone with Joe and that nigga Joe Black and phone for about 40 minutes. Oh, bro. And that don't happen a lot, so Joe started walking. Don't question it. What I would say is, though, like... Damn. I'm actually shocked you would... Because you fight the urge to... I think certain things are just the trigger. Okay. You know what I'm saying? Like, I had... How fucking could you? Not even that. I had a dream that somebody, like, was chasing my sister. Oh.

[00:30:06] And I woke up... Angry. Angry. Angry. Like, who is that nigga? So when it comes to the women in my life that I love... Mmm. If that... If that... If the betrayal... What if you know the nigga? I'm killing somebody, bro! I'm not going... I'm not going... I'm not going to crash out that far. Oh my God! I ain't going to front. Somebody might have a twisted jaw. That's a different story. But yeah, no. For me, I don't want to know. How do we get here? I don't want to... We're talking about this topic of, like, cheating. Yo, your man. Your bro.

[00:30:39] And the crazy thing about it... Don't ask you on the job. The crazy thing about it, bro... Day one... You know me, day one. I'm to myself. Da-da-da-da-da. But I'm... Oh! I forgot to tell you... What? You think you were giving me parts of the stories, right? I walk in... I walk on the plane. Shuri goes like... Oh, I know you from somewhere. All right. No, I'm like... She was like... We worked together before. Okay. I'm like, no, we didn't. She was like... Oh.

[00:31:09] It's a quirk. Missed that attitude. It's a quirk. Yeah. Yeah, what's up? What's up with you, L.A.? Fuck. I know we never worked together before. Okay. She was like, how you so confident? I couldn't say why. Her ass was... That nigga, L.A. saw... Maybe he said, I would've remembered the best. I would've remembered the best. I already know how L.A. was it. No, we haven't. Because that's the first time I've seen that. It's our big bumsy.

[00:31:38] And I don't want it to be the last... I don't want it to be the last... I was like, no, we haven't. She was like, you look mad familiar. I said, yo, you're a flight attendant. I'm a flight attendant. Walk around the airport. You probably saw me in passing, but we never worked together before. So... She goes... She goes... She goes... What she said? She said something that was mad flirtatious. Mad flirtatious. Putting it right here for this nigga, bro. And I spotted that shit. Hell no.

[00:32:08] Not at work? Not at work. Hell no. Keep it professional, shorty. You ever thinking about, like, grab a drink one time with a coworker? No! I got another question. No! Okay, so boom. Definitely not. I bet. Let's say you're just walking down the Ave right here and you saw her. Street clothes. You in street clothes. You wearing Prada, though. Right? So you could. Shout out to Michael. You went to the corner store real quick. Oh, yeah. Shout out to him, because I'm running down on your mans, too. But you not going to stay,

[00:32:38] stop by, like, yo, I know you from somewhere. You ain't going to hit it with that? Mm-mm. All the duty, bro. Walk past it. Yeah, hell yeah. You going to turn around, though. What happened to shooting your shot, man? The fuck? At work? I'm on the Ave. We on the Ave. That was my first mistake. I should have been on the Ave. But you was going to the corner store. You had to go get a... He going to Target or something. Yeah. Nah. Okay. So.

[00:33:08] That's fair. So. Long story short, she was only there for the first flight because she banged out the second flight. Then we just started rotating people. So then, I'm talking to my, the A, come to find out she was there when we were there. Mm-hmm. And she tells me this story about how she was dating another flight attendant. That's when homies start talking. Da-da-da-da-da. Right? So now he's starting his whole infidelity. He saw her bumsy. He saw her.

[00:33:38] That's what triggered it. Yeah, right? He saw her bumsy. So now they all talking about they dating life within the company. Mm-hmm. Then I looked at homie name. Okay. I'm like, yo, this name sound mad familiar. So I hit on my homegirl. This is day two. So Marjorie, I already got two days of information on how you've been wilding out. I hit on my homegirl. I'm like, yo, what's your baby father name again? Crack it.

[00:34:11] Yo, your life is a movie. The smallest of worlds. So she's like, yeah. See, that's why I want to know. That's why I want to know. Because now I, this, mind you, we get all this information. Mm-hmm. He talking casually. All the wild shit he done do. Nigga whiling though, bro. That's why I mind my business. And he don't even know you know his BM. Why niggas? Me and her like this. Mind my business, bro. Niggas be yapping though, bro. Mind my business, bro. Mind my business, bro. Because imagine,

[00:34:41] imagine you was a, you was a chatty patty. Well. And now the nigga, you said, the nigga, the nigga talking you like this. Yeah, keep going. Not even. I don't even have to do that. He just told his whole story. I mean, in theory, you probably not thinking about it. Like, yo, there's no way this nigga gonna find out my poor name, man. Oh, he probably, he probably getting away with the revolvers though. Keep game. So the homegirl gonna hit him. Oh, you working with my, blah, blah, blah. Next day he see me. So you know my whole life story. Nigga, I didn't ask for it. Yeah. Yeah, bro. They both chatty patty's in.

[00:35:10] They both chatty patty's in. But we know. You know, that's why, just mind my business. Who am I to interrupt a happy home, man? That's why the farm gotta stay on the farm. E-I-E-I-O. He interrupting a happy home. Well, maybe not. Come on, you won't get that sooner or later. How'd that song go? Wait, what'd you say? E-I-E-I-O. Sing the original song. Oh, McDonald had a phone. Oh, oh, yeah. McDonald's thing.

[00:35:40] This nigga's a sicko. That's why I eat at Wendy's. That's an insider I have no clue about. That's why I eat Wendy's, bro. Oh, this nigga's wild. That was, this nigga went three for three. But, um. Fuck, bro. I ain't gonna, I'm kind of conflicted because I would want to know, son. I don't want to sit there unhappy. Don't call me. I don't want to sit there happy. What you mean? You're not gonna be unhappy. You're gonna be happy. They're not fine now. After the, after he lose all our weight, yeah. You want that six pack, right? Hell, I don't want to like that, God. I don't want to like that.

[00:36:10] You want that six pack, right? Nah, enjoy, bro. Enjoy that happiness, bro. Enjoy what that love bring for you, you know? Being bliss. There was a matter of fact. I would, I don't, damn. There's an episode that we did coming out soon. Real world. Where Kwani asked, would you rather be willfully ignorant? Ignorant? Yeah. Come on, bro. Let me be willfully ignorant in this shit.

[00:36:39] I ain't gonna front. I usually like sway my thoughts, but this time I can't. Nah, son. Bro. So if she told you. If she told me? You see how you say you didn't ask because you didn't want to know? Yeah. What if she just told you? Like, I was, this is what I did. Yeah. Word. Like, word? Word. That's my first response. Like, word? And I gotta start thinking like, yo. Nah, bro. Yo, get the fuck out of my face, my nigga. Yeah. Mm-mm. I'm scared of the anger that would come.

[00:37:08] You know what's funny though, son? I seen one of my mans cheat on his shoulder, you saw him, so many times. Nigga found out his shoulder was cheating. That nigga was furious. That's what women always say. When I say furious? Nigga say, let your girl text a coworker back. And nigga just split in his head. Nah, I can't believe this bitch did that. I said, nigga, you done stuck your dick in mad shit, bro. Mm-mm. But like, how though? How could you? I thought he was... Oh, no, no, no. No, no, no. Like, how could you do that to me? Nah. Nah.

[00:37:39] You know what always kept me from cheating? My mans has... Karma? That's great. Karma? That's great. Let me tell you something. But cheating and camera, that's a... Yeah, that's a tough one to explain. That's my meme. I think it's a wild boy. That meme? There's like this meme out there that says, uh, it slipped out and she put it back in? Son. I said, the visual, bro. The visual. You had a chance to opt out, bro. You still re-stopped?

[00:38:08] You had a second to think, like, am I doing the right thing? And you said yes again. So that's twice. You cheated twice. Because it stopped. You wanted it to continue. I am for niggas. This is really sick, bro. Yeah, bro, no. Niggas, I only cheated on you once. You cheated on me twice. I'm thinking about my man said, niggas, yo, I ain't really cheating, my nigga. I had a condom. I said, yo. I said, yo, bro, the logic you just came up with to tell me that stupid shit, bro? It's crazy, bro.

[00:38:37] Let's check the topic list. After 40 minutes, we love having a sidebar combo, y'all. That was insane, bro. I got this shit called, quote unquote, breadcrumbing. What was that? I was accused of breadcrumbing a while ago. Right? It's a dating behavior where someone intimately

[00:39:06] communicates or show interest but leaves a trail of breadcrumbs to keep someone interested without committing to a serious relationship. Okay, visually, I'm getting it. Right? I feel like I should do more breadcrumbing. You give too much? See who really wants to follow the trail? Nigga giving the whole loaf. Yeah. Yeah. That's why... Be a little mysterious. That's why I thoroughly... When I got accused of that, I thoroughly disagreed.

[00:39:35] And I feel like there's a difference between breadcrumbing and pacing yourself. Okay. That's all right. Talk your shit. Yeah, like I'm taking my time revealing so much. Matter of fact... What's the difference between that and pacing? Breadcrumbing. Yo, who made up that dumbass fucking term? It's not bad. It makes sense though. What the fuck? All right, continue. Sorry. How much is breadcrumbing? It's a term. It is a term. What I will say though is I can see somebody

[00:40:05] feeling like you're breadcrumbing them especially if they had the loaf already. So if they knew what the... They took a bite of their potato bread? Yeah. And you just giving them some... A little bit, yeah. Yeah. You got any bread over there? But think about it. But I feel like that makes you want more though. It do. But then it... It could also be a manipulation tactic in a sense. Well, what are you

[00:40:34] manipulating them for? You stalling them out. For what? That's what I'm saying. Like, what's the end goal for the manipulation? You just holding on to them. I've also been... Not I've been... I've been hurt after the space filler term. So when you breadcrumbing them, you giving them enough to stay but you don't want to commit because you went into the real person to come along. That is foul actually. That's... Is that what... That's what breadcrumbing is? It could be.

[00:41:04] It could be. Damn. Yeah. So here's the... Here's a more in-depth why it happens. Manipulation. Breadcrumbing can be a manipulative tactic to be used to control a relationship to keep one in a state of uncertainty. The lack of commitment. Some people may not be ready for a serious relationship so they use breadcrumbing

[00:41:33] to keep their options open. Okay. Okay. Ego Boost breadcrumbing can provide a temporary ego boost for the breadcrumber as they enjoy the intention without the responsibility of a real relationship. Okay. Okay. If you put it that way, we've all done some breadcrumbing in our lives. It's not that bad though. Listen. It's not that bad in my opinion because... Dane sent me what I just read too. In reality, right? Dane really produced in the pod, man. He's taking shit serious. Yeah.

[00:42:03] I'm not thinking nervous he's talking about I'm fucked with. I'm not going to start glitching or it's crazy. Is it not camera four? But yo, like, I think everybody's allowed the space to do some of that in life, bro. Like, not everybody is like obligated to see somebody know what they want and pursue it and execute it right all the time. Sometimes they can fucking up sometimes. Women do the shit too. Like, it's like, you know what I'm saying? Tell us more. It's not like a

[00:42:32] one size fits all type of thing for men only. All these niggas out here breadcrumbing. First of all, I've never heard this term until today. And it's very strange. I feel like we've used another word to describe this behavior before. But, you know what I'm saying? Like, whoever said that to you, I'm sure they just learned the word and was like, let me throw some spice into this conversation this time. Because that's what it sounded like. Did everyone tell you breadcrumb? Nah, nah. Nah, Miss Linda didn't do that. It was somebody else. Oh, so,

[00:43:02] even in the biblical aspect, Amen. they would say like, the, like a, you ever see like a dog eat off the table? Yes. Or things, a dog, something on the table and it fall off and a dog eat it? They say, applying that aspect where it keeps, it keeps them at the master's feet. Wow. Dragging it. Dragging it. You can leave,

[00:43:31] baby girl. Like I said, like I said, it makes a person want more though. Yeah. What are they getting out of it? They getting something out of it, right? So, true, but see, here's what it is. It gives them like a false hope. But that would be intention. Maybe I'll be chosen one day. but your intention has to be that you are not picking them in the end and that's how you can get to it. But they wouldn't know. Only the person who was doing the breadcrumber

[00:44:00] would know if that's their intent. You can't call me a breadcrumber if I really want to marry you. Just taking my time or just doing it at my pace. You know what I'm saying? Like, you're calling me a breadcrumber because you think I really just want this other chick over here. Maybe she'll eat it and now you're just holding it down. But it's all about how you're perceived by the person calling you that. That's how it really is, bro. Because if you see me as somebody who's dead ass taking you serious but just right now in this stage

[00:44:30] that it does feel like I'm dragging you along or whatever the case may be then you might have the patience. I know last week we talked about grace. You might have the grace giving me the grace that okay, he needs to get to the point of where he wants to be with me. But if you see me as the person that yo, oh you fucking with her and her and her and you dragging me along, yeah, you're going to call me a breadcrumber. But you also are still following the trail. You have all the power to stop eating the breads, bro. Or the crumbs. Go on a low carb diet. Yeah. I agree. How much time are you giving somebody to break from me? You said how much time? Yeah, yeah.

[00:45:02] That's like six months is like more than enough. Like, all right, enough. You know what's interesting? Not to change the pace or not to answer your question with a question, right? You tell somebody you love them, right? You say it first. I love you. Right? They not there yet to say it back, but you didn't say it for them to say it, right? How long you giving them the... God damn. Hey, you got about 48 hours.

[00:45:32] 48 hours. You better figure out if you love me or not. Damn. Wait, so then do you... Wait, so? Do you feel like they breadcrumbing you? Damn, no. Well, okay. Is that where you're going with that? Yeah. No. Who am I? Okay. That turns into a lot of thought. My mind starts moving after that. Let's say... Come on. Yeah, that shit. I'm my fucking brain. You fuck with another nigga, son? What's going on? Who you still love? Who do you love? That's blocking you from loving me.

[00:46:02] What's making you not love me? Fuck, I do everything right for you. Man. Okay. So boom, right? I'm going to say another giant. Yeah. Pivot, pivot, pivot. But... Oh, shit. Okay. I'm hearing Mr. Accountability. Do you ever look at yourself like, damn, do I got to do more to make her fall in love with me a little bit more? Nah. Nah. Like maybe her sauce is just... I mean, like she got me, but I ain't got her. But I ain't got her? Yeah. Mm-mm. Never look at her like that? I don't think about that. I wouldn't say it's breadcrumbing,

[00:46:32] but then I feel like... You know when you ever see like a... A dinner table full of food. You don't know where to start. I always know where to start first and foremost. Where the rice at? Real eater. Nigga be biting at the place. Yo, real eater, bro. If you know where you going to start. I ain't like, you a wild nigga. I ain't going to lie. You know what you want, brother. What do you think? But he's like, yo, like this is just too much. This is too much. Too many options. Right.

[00:47:01] So I kind of draw back in that instant. After she doesn't say it back? Yeah. Then I maybe start breadcrumbing. Mm-hmm. Because now it's like, all right, maybe there's too much breadcrumbing. Wait, you have the power there when you do that? You always got the power, Joe. Wait, so... Hey, man. Hold on. Let me see if I understand this. Let me see if I understand this. You always got the power. Let me see if I understand this. So you're saying, if you tell a woman that you love her and she doesn't say it back, you can then breadcrumb her along? I would...

[00:47:31] Okay, that sounds crazy. I'm going to say it like that. Yeah, yeah. I'm just wondering. But you kind of would draw back because it's like, oh, you're not there yet. Ah, okay. I see what you mean. All right. So instead of doing all of this, matter of fact, I'll tell a real life story. Uh-oh. Um, I had like this shit exquisitely planned. I had, boy, like, real rose petals, the bathtub thingy where you could put the thing, that and the third. And I realized I was doing too much.

[00:48:01] I gave it to my man. So his anniversary was coming up. So I gave him the rose petals, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, nah, because I'm doing too much. Well, how you knew you was doing too much? I felt like I was doing too much. So you only felt... The fact that you have to feel like you're doing too much is an issue, though. When LA starts feeling like you're doing too much, that means he did too much and he now realizes it. Like, oh, shit. So nothing happened that triggered me? That made you like, yo... That triggered you saying, oh, shit, I'm doing too much. Like, you don't deserve this yet. You just came to the realization on your own?

[00:48:31] Man, that's tough. Come on, Bonnie. To feel like... To say like, yo, to say like, yo, show you, you don't deserve this yet. Like, you... I don't think we did. Nah, so the L word came out. Okay. She didn't say nothing. Right. Okay. I'm love bombing you now. I feel like I'm love bombing you now. And we can't do that. Or you can. So I had to return the bath bomb. Oh, yeah. There was a love bomb put on there for sure. No love... No bombs. I haven't listened to bombs in Baghdad since. But, yeah, so you kind of... I'm like, all right.

[00:49:01] But that's also what I did. What Joe said earlier about like, oh, do you up at another level to make her fall in there? I felt like doing all of that would probably go to that point where like, I'm not going to try to convince you. Then it becomes a lot though. It becomes an other person though. I mean, you meet a stranger and you are trying to convince them that you are lovable and they should love you. No? Nah. No, no. I actually don't want to do that no more, bro. I don't want to do that. So this wedding that I want to attend is not happening. I'm not saying I don't want to be a lover boy anymore.

[00:49:30] I don't want to do the convincing. Bro, that is... You should love me. No, bro. I don't want to do that. I don't want to do that. You should love me. I'm a great person to love. Yeah. I talk about the story how I told... I told him, sorry about how I told you I love you. Bro, I was scared to tell her that because I don't know if she don't say that shit back, bro. That was my fear. And I thought that wasn't the real lover. You saw that Lady London clip? Not Lady London. It is Lady London, right? It is. Was she talking about... Shorty from Philly? The rapper from Philly? No, she from Jersey. Lady London from Jersey?

[00:50:00] Yeah. She right across the bridge? Yeah, she from Jersey. I'm out of here. Let me go fire. Was it with C? Swaggy C? Yes. She was talking about yo, I don't want to beg somebody... Yo, I felt that, bro. It's the word choice. It's the word choice. The way she say words? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I get it. She say whatever to me. She's great. Convincing was the wrong word, but like I said, you meet a woman. She don't know you. You don't know her. That's the start of you showing that you're worth

[00:50:29] being loved to her and her doing the same to you. It's a journey. All right. Okay, cool. You're right. If she did her part and you just didn't do your shit, I was going to say, I was going to tell you, you're not moving at the same time. Let me slow down this journey. Okay. Because I felt like, all right, at this point in time, we not there yet. It's so much more. You making a decision for two though, bro. Not one. No, not necessarily because she don't know. Yeah, because you... She didn't know

[00:50:58] I had all of that planned. But she could have if you just waited an hour or two or a day or a week. Like you would have known. Or a month or two. I don't know how long or far ahead. How much weight do I have to do in order to figure that out? If you... You know the front row tear, stay till after the part. That's what we talk the most. Then I can explain that part. But on the part itself, I felt like, okay, so much has happened. You know what I'm saying? And I feel like people, the love word gets tricky,

[00:51:27] but I always respect if you don't feel it, don't say it. Don't say it back just because, you know what I'm saying? But then you realize, okay, maybe I'm overextending myself. Let me not do too much. Let me not do... Let me bring it back a little. Let me... I'm here. She's here. I'm not going to try to force you to come here. And I don't want you to think I'm trying to convince you by doing... Because that would have been mad swaggy. Right? But I'm not doing that. I reserve the right

[00:51:55] to conceal the lover boy. Conceal. Yeah. I don't like that thought. Get that back in the top. No, it's not. No, it's not. I'm alive and healthy. Yeah, that's... I'm on 20 side. But okay, do you think everybody's deserving of the best version of you? No. Absolutely not. But you thought she was and then something happened and you're like, oh, I can't. I can't. No, let me hold back then. And then at some point you're going to feel like you're not doing enough. Huh? You know what I'm saying? You don't want that thought of like, I'm not doing enough. Even when you said it was like, yo, maybe you're not doing enough. Why would you want that

[00:52:25] thought in your mind? It's possible. That's why. But maybe I think I'm doing... You're weighing no options. And so maybe I think I'm doing my best. So my thing is... Then you start love bombing. Now my thing is to up it even more? No. Now you turn to... Nigga, you're doing too much. It's like, all right. I'm about to say this. I'm about to say this. Hold on. So you're saying you tell a girl she love you, you love her, she don't feel that same way and you just be like, all right, do this over. Oh, thanks, boo. Fuck out of here. Look at you, dragging it. Stop dragging it. It has it, bro. She said dance. To you? No, no, no. This is crazy. Fucking insane.

[00:52:55] You know what? She was like, I know. That would have been more fire, right? I know or not? Yeah, exactly. Yeah, thank you. Say thank you. The real life example is she might lie and say she love you back. I don't want that. You would never know. That's true, too. You would never know. You can feel it, though. Niggas be like, I miss you. I miss you. I miss you, too. Niggas just say that on impulse. That's not true. I say what you miss. What you miss. Explain yourself. This nigga's explaining his life with you, bro. No, words mean things. They do mean things.

[00:53:25] Tell me what you miss. They do. And I can get it for you. We'll do it to you. Like, you know, I've seen this conversation for years, right? A man proposes to a woman, right? She gotta say yes, right? If it's public. She gotta say yes. You can't embarrass this man like that. But once he proposes, right? She says no. The relationship is over, right? Because where are we going? I understand that part. Why did you say no? You think it's over if you get a no? I can understand that more. Yeah, okay. I can understand that more. I don't think, you know, you should work out your issues. However,

[00:53:56] if you... Level one is I love you, right? That's when we're getting serious. If you're not there yet, I don't think that's grounds to cut the fucking relationship. But I didn't cut it. I just didn't do... I didn't go over the top. Let's pull back. Did you slow down the process to eventually get there? Did y'all get there or did it fall? No, I didn't get there but I didn't stop it with the intent of it. So you did have hopes that she would get to love you. So why'd you slow down? It wasn't a...

[00:54:24] I would say I said it and it was like... You better say this shit back. What's up, dog? Like it wasn't that. You understand the person wasn't there yet. Cool. And I can understand that. I respect the not saying it back because you're not there yet. But... But... Alright, cool. I'm not gonna continue to OD. And that's where men fuck up at is that they think that we have to work for two. No. Do what you do. Continue to make her happy and hopefully she gets there

[00:54:54] but that's the work she gotta do. When you... And then she don't get there. When she did it. That's life. And then I can say oh, I didn't... At least I didn't do this. At least I didn't do that. At least I didn't... What you protecting her? Of course! You definitely protect yourself. That's 100%. You are protecting yourself. That's not self-sabotation. It is self-sabotation. It is. Because... That's for y'all. Because in my head, right? Eventually she will get there if you are doing the right things. Hang on, friend. You definitely put a wall up though. It's literally self-sabotation.

[00:55:24] Yeah, because what you're saying is that you pulled back. I'm doing too much. That means you did less. Which means you became less of the person that you were. You weren't... You weren't the LaShawn in full capacity. The less version of me is still a great quality. The fuck? Which is probably true. It's probably true. But it also slows down the process even more. How so? It's not progressive to pull back. It isn't. I disagree. How is it progressive to stop to do less? I disagree. You know what? That kind of like causes... Maybe it would cause fear

[00:55:54] in the woman to be like, oh, I got to do more. He not doing the same thing. That's where shit might get fucked up at because now she's like, oh, nah, this nigga ain't even doing what he used to do. I'm out of here. Oh, see, now you're saying what he used to do. I never did it. So it's not like... So what'd you pull back? Like, what'd you pull back? You didn't do it. Yeah, that's... So, okay. I had something planned. In the midst of everything that was... Joe, you know who I'm referring to. Maybe. You do. Okay. So you know what... You really don't?

[00:56:23] Not in this... Maybe my memory is fucking up right now. Who's the last person? Okay. All right. Okay, okay. All right, cool. Come on, man. So in the midst of all of that transpiring... I wasn't sure. Sorry. So mad things took place within that. I mean, I'm not going OD. You know what I'm saying? It was a lot of... A lot of confusion arose in that situation that made me take preventative measures. But when you humanize it, I can... I can...

[00:56:53] I can... I can sign with you. I was a human from the start. I got it. Because honestly... I was a human... I was totally speaking from a perspective of generally. It could have been anybody in the room that I was talking about. I was just talking to you. But when you humanize it and obviously I have more information than most, I can see what you mean. And I can say you probably made a better decision for yourself. For yourself. Facts. Not for the situation, but for yourself. But for myself was most important in that. Yes. Yes. Unfortunately. Yeah. At what point does it become a yowl thing

[00:57:22] instead of just a you? You realize it's a you for them too. I'm not going to be yowling and you youing. Yowling. You crazy. Yowling and you youing. Oh shit. Hell no. I'm alright. When I realize, okay, you going at it. You worrying about yourself. You ain't worrying about us. Yeah. Facts. Nah. And you say you don't do it for two. Or you want me to do it for two.

[00:57:51] If I'm operating... As a leader, yeah. As a leader, as a man. You know what I'm saying? I'm operating from that mindset of yowl. And you only got this you mindset. Mm-hmm. I... Is it... That's more. Yeah. I mean... I'm not talking... I'm never talking generically. I don't say it playfully. I don't say it playfully. But yeah. Like, and most women that are serious about men and being wives or whatever the case may be will tell you. Like, they want their man to be a leader. So it may...

[00:58:16] That may start in that beginning form where you see her not on her shit and you grab up. Not physically, but you grab up and be like, nah, I'm taking us to where we need to get. You know what I'm saying? Whatever that is. And that could be situation. So you would be confident if you took, using my example, her to the love level and not let her get there on her own? I would... Not... And it would not solely be me and my work.

[00:58:45] It would be letting her know that I am supporting her doing the work to get there. And knowing that she is not alone in the journey to get there. But I want to see that for her. You know what I'm saying? Like, I could put it in basketball terms. If I know my man's could shoot, but right now he in a spot where he in a slump, I'm still kicking it to you. And after every miss, I'm like, yo, I got you next one. Like, that's it. Now, I'm not going to the corner to shoot for the nigga. And I'm not passing him the ball. I'm going to keep...

[00:59:12] But wouldn't it be in your best interest to pass it to somebody else who's in a better shooting rhythm? Yes. But if they keep leaving your ass open, that means the opportunity is there, right? And that's where... If you're not leaving it, if you're not going to leave it, and that's the opportunity, the opportunity is there for y'all to build, I'm going to keep feeding you. That's how I would see it, me personally. And I think I switch that as an analogy as a leader in a relationship for a woman. She's going to want that.

[00:59:41] Like, she's going to want to know that if in this part, that my man, he's under me, pushing me to the top. If I fall back, if I'm falling down, like, that's what they want. I'm speaking for women because she's not here, but... But you're talking in the dating aspect. Yeah, dating. I mean, in the relationship. Dating or relationship. Because I think they all kind of are one and the same. Like, if you find a woman that you're dead ass serious with, dating is just a term to say that y'all aren't together officially because y'all didn't make it official.

[01:00:09] You're not really fucking with a bunch of other girls, and she's the only person you're dating, and it is like a relationship without a title. So I think they're both in the same... I'm saying in that aspect. So, like, if you're at that point where you're telling somebody you love them and y'all not together, y'all might as well be. Y'all might as well be. So, yeah, that is your girl. We see y'all in the street. Oh, okay. Y'all. See the y'all again. But when you ask her, you, she'll say she's single. Mm. You confident in that? Confident. Would you say it too? No.

[01:00:39] You wouldn't say you're single? Mm-mm. Like, that's my baby. Mm-hmm. Okay. That's the difference. So I'm not doing all of that. That is the difference. So if we, we in the, let's say we in the same spot. Mm-hmm. We mingling. We rubbing shoulders. Right? So that means niggas can run down. So somebody come up to me. Yo, you talking to anybody? Yeah. Come on. Niggas in the air? Yo. Talk to the head, because you don't got a bed. I do that, right?

[01:01:09] And I'm hers over there. Right? She's over there. Yo, who you? Niggas in her air. Facts! Come on! And you still want me, when we come home, the bathtub and all of that. It's like, come on. Joe! I just say, be sure. Just be sure. Just be sure. Fuck out of here, bro. Bro, that niggas think I'm chump, bro. Shout out to the breadcrumbs. Niggas gonna think I'm a mutt. Hey, a lot of shout out to the breadcrumbs on that one. I just swear. Niggas gonna think I'm a mutt, bro. No.

[01:01:39] Fuck no. Now, in the minima... It's a tough word. It's a tough word. That's a big word for LA right now. My tongue, you know? Nigga not getting no exercise. Niggas, that nigga on a bike start biting at the police thing and wallop, bro. Shit's not rolling off. Like, it's been so long. You need to stop doing that, okay? You need to stop. Yo, I'm hot, bro. You need to cut it out. Yo, it's too warm outside for this, bro.

[01:02:10] So, now, I can say, okay. She's experienced that. Then I start pulling back. Now I do a little bit here and there. Then it's like, okay. Now you breadcrumbing me because you done... I done experienced that. I done had everything already. Exactly. So, let me not give everything so quick. Don't be the quick draw McGraw. You know what I'm saying? I don't think there's nothing wrong with that, though, in the beginning, though. Before you give the low. When you play Call of Duty, you get all your attachments right away? Nah.

[01:02:41] All right. You got to earn them. You got to earn that slope, motherfucker. That's all I'm saying, bro. I'm not going to come out with the full loadout. Yeah, we always... Hang on first. Yo, yo, yo. No, he's right, though. He's right, though. He's right, though. He's right, though. He's right, though. He's right, though. Nah, I feel you. I feel you, bro.

[01:03:02] But I don't know if I'm a fan of giving 100 at first, bro. Exactly. I mean, and I don't. I'm just saying, like, the mission is always to go up here. That'd be a full fact, though. It's always to go up. You don't want to stay at 50 the whole time. 50 be fun sometimes, though. That's why I don't think the breadcrumb. All right, so boom. Here are some signs of breadcrumbing. They make you feel important but respond to you inconsistently.

[01:03:32] That's not nice. They talk about making plans but never affirm them. That's not nice. Yeah, you're not doing that. They ignore or change the topic when you try to make plans. That's not nice. Their actions don't match their words. Yeah, humans. They only compliment you when they want something. Oh, that's tough. That's actually disgusting. Oh, my God, you're so beautiful. They flirt but never ask you out. Oh, that's tough. Oh, this is definitely leading somebody on. They're hot and cold. Well, that's subjective. Damn.

[01:04:01] That could be emotional. I've dealt with hot and cold people. I feel like... Boy, I had a good joke with that. You got the joke right off. Oh, man. This would have been the perfect day to have that on. Yeah. It's hot outside. What the fuck? Wait, it's hot outside. Never mind. Yeah. Will you turn on it? Oh, oh.

[01:04:30] A little slow. Sometimes it's a little bit. A little bit. Sometimes. I'll be there though. I'll be there. I got that one. I got that one. They prefer to communicate with you at odd hours. Oh, yeah. We're not doing... It's like acting like... We're odd hours. I'm going to sleep. It's like acting like a manufacturer, bro. Keep that shit to yourself, bro. Or they only... You act like quantity manufacturer at you at 1 a.m. They only talk to you when they drive it? Nigga trying to pass the time, man. On the phone or on the text? On the phone. Oh, in the car? Pass the time. I ain't with that shit.

[01:05:00] Yeah, I got this 30 minute ride. Let me call you. That's crazy. Well, you... That means you a space filler. That's a little real... Damn. Yeah, so yeah. I feel like... Yo, bro. I know I've been breadcrumb before. I have been too. Damn. You know what I'm saying? Enough to keep you around. I probably have been too. I think all men probably have. Women ain't good people all the time. Just keep it out there. Just keep it out there. Just keep it out there. Just keep it out there. If it don't apply, let it fly. Like, I taught that by a woman. So, yeah. True. True. They quick to tell you that, right? Quick to tell you that.

[01:05:30] I ain't talking to you then, miss. If the heel fit, man. If the heel fit. If the heel fit. If the heel fit. You don't see a lot of them walking on them. I'm sorry. What are you saying? The New Age woman can't walk in heels? Is that what you're saying? Not the new ones. Damn, that's tough. Got to get an old scallywag. But, yeah. So, they give you enough to keep you there. And then they back on their bullshit. When they want you, they communicating as much as ever. And then they hit you with the silent treatment. Yeah.

[01:05:59] So, people will breadcrumb you. Yeah. Damn. Come on, Corny. Follow up. Follow up. Nah, I'm just thinking about it. That's... Yeah, you know you got to get up. This is the main part. Nah, I mean, it's about breadcrumbing. I've been breadcrumbed before. I think it only works... Well, being breadcrumbed, I think, only works if you don't really... Your self-esteem isn't, like, super up.

[01:06:28] You don't really care about, like, how people treat you or, like, how you treat yourself type thing. What if she's just pain? Who won't help, Corny? What the hell does that mean? If you've been with pain before, it's just another one. It's just somebody... I feel like you've been somewhere that's crazy. I feel like you've been here before, yeah. I feel like if you've been around a block enough, you know how it feels to be treated well, how it feels to be treated, all right. How it feels to be treated badly, and then the breadcrumbing thing. So, you kind of know what someone's doing at that point.

[01:06:58] And then I feel like if you know all that and you stay around, either you like to be breadcrumbed... Sign up for that shit. Or, like, this is an equal exchange. And when you're breadcrumbing is, nigga, it's cool because I ain't really trying to... You feel me? I ain't really trying to get that much. Man, I've been breadcrumbing a few times. What the fuck? Yeah, sometimes it's... I don't want that much from you, so this is okay. And in the midst of me trying to figure out my shit, this is okay. This is all right. I don't really need that much. This is cool.

[01:07:25] But it's only bad if I want so much more and you're doing this. So, it's only bad if, like, it's a one-sided situation. But it could be positive, depending on how you look at it. Damn. I guess... But I feel like if you give a fuck about yourself so much, nobody could breadcrumb you. I've been breadcrumbed a few times. That's not true. Everybody's doing it. Nah, I feel like that. Because you can still care about yourself. You know what?

[01:07:53] I'm going to have it done to you and be like, nah, I don't want to... I'm not accepting... No, I'm talking about, like, continuously. Oh, okay. I'm not talking about, like... What's wrong with someone? I'm personal with most people. Once you realize what's going on... Yeah. All right, I'm out. But once you realize it and it's like, oh, nah, let me... Uh-uh-uh. Then it's like, all right, you don't really care about what's going on right now. But then... But then... You're doing worse. You're pulling back. You're leaving. You're leaving. Because you're not treating me how I'm supposed to be treated. So, I'm not even... My tolerance is not even there to... We're not doing that.

[01:08:22] So, I mean, you can give a grace period of, I told you what it was. You need to treat me this way and that's it. Or you can just go. It depends on how you are. But I feel like if you care about yourself enough, you're not going to let that go on for more than a few weeks or something like that. Or maybe a day or so. I feel like sometimes we don't notice we're getting breadcrumbs sometimes. Because you're not even... You don't care about what's going on. Oh, you so head-ass. Yeah. I feel like sometimes we'd be so lost like not...

[01:08:48] But if you so head-ass over some breadcrumbs, you ain't been nowhere. This is your first runaround. So, maybe go through this. Get some knowledge real quick and then go through life some more. A lot of people feel like... If that's your first go-around and you don't know what's going on, you're too green. I'm not going to front. A lot of people are used to breadcrumbs and that's it. They got to wake up, brother. They got to wake up. You got to eat five more meals? Because you could tell somebody, yo, that he ain't really or she ain't really... But until they realize, they don't care.

[01:09:17] They're going to think that this is normal and this is what they're supposed to be getting. But until they really realize like, oh, nah. I've seen better. I felt better. Bro, I... This is not it. I got a man. He used to take his shorty out once in a blue moon. They used to do shit for their anniversary. Every year, I'm like, what you doing for your shorty? We going to chill in the crib. I said, yo, bro, every year? You feel me? I ain't got to do shit for real. I said, my nigga, what you talking about? How many years did they make? We've been together for like at least eight years. So boom, even that. Like her necks.

[01:09:45] She may not realize she was breadcrumbed until she dates somebody else and she going to date everybody. Are niggas really doing this? I love those. Sorry, man, but you're easy. I actually don't. I don't. I don't like to be the first. You don't like to be the first thing? Nah, like, what? This is not... Not that it has to be normal, but it's like, don't do that. And now I got to say, this is like shit. Nah, don't do that. When she sold their nuggets? Nah. Nah.

[01:10:13] Then you take a Tatiana to get a little empanada, a little vibe. Oh my God. But then when she been there already? Oh. So you want the person that had it already or that hasn't had it? I want the person that has it already. You can actually be missing with it. They know how to treat somebody that's giving that to them. Okay. You don't even know how to treat anybody that's giving that. You know what? That's sometimes that's... I like that. Because... It could have its other effects. Because it's difficult to wow her? No, no, no. Because you thinking this shit is some big bullshit.

[01:10:43] And she's like, nah, nigga, this is regular. Or like, I'm used to this. This is what's been done to me before. That's not a... That's for you to say, okay. I feel like that do show less appreciation. Just because you experienced something before doesn't mean that you dismiss... It depends on the person if they don't appreciate that. She can still appreciate it. But you're thinking that this is some big shit. But she's like, no, I appreciate it. Thank you so much. But I'm not about to jump over the fucking... Over my head. Like, yeah. No, not no dude more. But it's like, this is... Like, I've done this. Yeah. Eventually she will get to the point. Yeah.

[01:11:13] Eventually you're going to realize like, oh, this is kind of regular. I kind of would need to do some more to like, you know, because she's already had all this. This is the benefit of hoping that people are nice people. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I mean, that's what I'm saying. If you see that they're not... Oh, all right. Later. You start shaming you a little bit. Yeah, because I'm not... That's like, oh, there was one time... Well, the context is a little bit different, but in the gist of what she was saying.

[01:11:39] So like, I dated somebody, obviously, and we traveled a lot. I was talking to somebody new and they were like, well, traveling with me ain't going to be all that special because it's something you did a lot. And I'm like, no, that's not necessarily true because we can go to new places and experience new things. Even if we go to the same place, it may be a different experience. So she kind of dismissed like the traveling aspect of what we could have done because I did it already.

[01:12:09] That's hate. Like, that's not... That's better as some hater shit, bro. Worry about yourself. I literally just... You worried about everywhere I've been before? Yo, I ain't been everywhere. You ain't been everywhere. How about we worry about that? Experience it together. Yeah. And like, what you worried about? Like, come on. I don't want to go there because y'all went there. We ain't go there. That's what I was trying to do. Like, literally, we ain't go there. But in reverse, it's kind of like... Well, not in reverse, but in a different perspective, I could...

[01:12:39] I don't know if... I just would hope the person, even if they experienced good things before, they could still value or appreciate it just because they're used to it. You know what I'm saying? They can because they could be appreciative to know that, all right, you're that type of guy. I picked the right person. So you're doing the things that I'm used to. And I assume that you're going to do the things that I want you to do. So yeah, it's a positivity in that too. So not everybody is a piece of shit. You know?

[01:13:10] There's good people out here, man. I'm going to be honest with you. There's a lot of pieces of shit out here, bro. But I feel like if you're self-aware enough, it's not hard to, you know... Yeah, just to pick them out. I mean, eh, people show their good side in the beginning. Tolerance low. I'm unapproachable with the nonsense. People put up a hundred. After a while, it'll drop down so significantly. You're like, bro, what the fuck happened to you? Well, eh, they love to say it. Don't introduce me to the vibe you can't maintain. So if you... Eh, only way is up.

[01:13:40] Everybody got their down days, down period. But, you know, it can't go that far left to where I'm just like wondering what's going on and I'm continuing daily wondering what's going on. Too many mental gymnastics. Can't do it. Somebody going to appreciate me. It don't got to be you. It's okay. You know what I'm saying? Like, it's okay. It's all right. So, if I come to that realization and still do the whole bath thing, I'm an idiot. Yeah. Yeah.

[01:14:10] That's why they do it. What do you mean? You're the same realization where you say, yo, I... Well, I was speaking from the perspective of... I heard someone say, you love this person. Right. Right. So, if you love this person, then you love them. But you can still come to that realization even after you say it. But coming to the realization as you're... The thing about it, he came to the realization like, yo, bro, I'm doing too much. Like, literally after you said I love you? Yeah.

[01:14:38] While you're doing the flowers and shit, it's like, I'm doing too much. So, you said I love you. You're doing the flowers and all that. And in the midst of doing that, you realize that you're doing too much. No. No. It's okay. The episode's okay. Yeah. We can talk about it afterwards. We can talk about it afterwards. What, um... I don't have the full copy. We're not doing this for the other tier. The other tier are maybe not... Nah. It's only one tier that sees this. Okay. Oh, okay. Just making sure. Oh, shit. Yeah. This is... Yeah. This is... If you hear it right now, get that Patreon. Get that Patreon.

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[01:16:07] But yeah, follow me. Joe Got Game. Shit me. Underscore. Oh, Joe Underscore got Game of the Last. Now they're about to follow some... Damn. Well, follow him too. Follow him too. And let him know I want that at name without the underscore. Somebody really has it? Yeah, yeah. Facts, facts, facts. Some white guy from Mississippi or something. I think so. Yeah, yeah. Some Joe. Shout out to you, Joe. Damn. We already know till next time. God is good, baby. One time. God is good.