Episode 315: Equally Yoked

[00:00:00] You already know this motherfucker, Schmose Her Lovers, always Donald Peasler Alongside the LaShawn Another beautiful day here, Whats A Good Guy, Mention Glad to have you here, glad to be here with my good friends And yeah, we're blessed Hey Sha, hey Joe What's going on? Yo, can I just talk how I wanna talk sometime? Yeah, CD 101.9, how that is? Let me ask you a question though, what's wrong with you? You alright? It's too early to have the sillies, alright? Alright He gotta hear that He feelin' himself, huh?

[00:00:29] Alright, what's going on, Shad? What's going on? I told you it was my nails Hey, my shit's crazy Yeah, my shit is cooked My shit's fraud right now, ain't gonna lie Wait, what's friend? You're right, you're right though Yeah, you're right, yeah Talk that to you The wolf's right NWO What's going on, man? What's going on? How's everybody week? What's going on? Do I go first, right? Yeah You go first? I thought... We'll be doing the thorn thing, right? Yeah, after last week Rose I need you to redeem yourself I need to redeem myself

[00:00:59] You don't have to redeem anything Because weeks like that happen But it's been a good week Uh-huh It's been a good week I shot Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles Which was mad fun Mm-hmm And also did Aliens Rose Bud Thorn Rose... Was... I'll say shooting Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles And just having a better week Um... Bud I'm looking forward to Getting What I've been praying for Um...

[00:01:29] Thorn I stopped going to the gym early So I'll go later So dealing with Afternoon niggas in the gym is not fun Gym pop? Too many... Too many... Gym pop is funny There's too many people Talking about their day While niggas working out And on their phones I don't like it But um... Yeah, it's been a solid week, man I'm blessed I'm happy What's going on, Joseph? Um... My roles for this week I would say Just having a way better week at work I feel like I kinda am understanding my job better now

[00:01:58] So... That's good Got over the anxiety Oh yeah, a lot of my work is getting like I don't wanna say high praise But people... People are seeing the quality Gold emojis? Yeah, man Getting a lot of that Uh... So that feels good Um... My bud I'm just... I'm looking forward to the good weather The spring It's on the horizon You know what I'm saying? I think Was the top of the week Was the weather good? Well, what was the days that the weather was good? But I just feel like

[00:02:28] It changes everybody mood Yeah, that one day was 51 Yeah, and I think I'm looking forward to The weather getting better Um... So we really get into spring Um... Thorn I'm not really sure I have a thorn this week I'm gonna... I'm gonna show up... I don't know if that's okay or not But I'm alright That's good though That's a good thing to have though I'm not gonna have a thorn It doesn't have to be anything serious It's like I didn't make it to the gym this week That was a thorn Stop! I gotta keep holding you accountable Why not?

[00:03:00] Let's see, let's see, let's see You don't have to have a thorn It's alright though Maybe... I got like two hours of sleep one of these days this week Yeah, okay, that's a... It was a random night I couldn't sleep Was it just work? Oh, it was the night that Knicks won That's why Just excited? Yeah, like I was too hype Too hype after that Mikael Bridges game Bro, I couldn't sleep I could not sleep And um... I paid for it in the morning basically Head was rocking when I woke up, bro I'm like, oh my god But...

[00:03:30] I'll be alright though It's still weak, I love to hear it Yeah, yeah Shaw Uh, Rose... My nephew's birthday was yesterday I love my tea So that was my focus My bud... Hmm... Wait, Keaton's 15 now? Shit! Yeah It's kinda... He's like way taller than me now Nah, he's a giant He's a giant Um, bud... I'm getting used to my new schedule Hmm... I haven't... Like y'all know, been in office for like 4 years So being there 3 times a week

[00:03:59] Has been a little bit jarring But I'm getting used to that My thorn... Oh, my foot has been killing me again Oh no That has sucked Oh no Yeah So Paul's on SoulCycle for a while No I did a peloton ride yesterday Yeah, for y'all I don't know Cheyenne went to the club one day Was standing on some couches She got too excited It got ugly Foot broke up That's kinda literally how it happened though So she says

[00:04:28] I don't know what the fuck happened to her but Well hopefully um... It feels better next few days Put her on walk through the day Ice it and do whatever you need to do with it Cause I know you're not gonna stop going to SoulCycle Nah Sean My turn Uh... My turn Rose is the good thing, right? Yes I smacked that court case Oh yeah, yeah, yeah Went to court Free that nigga out the free LA really a hood nigga cause the nigga beat the case and nigga called me Yeah, these niggas can't beat me In front of the court Nigga I saw he FaceTiming me I thought...

[00:04:57] Bro this nigga called me in front of the court Doing that shit, I said this nigga a hood nigga bro Demon holding pussy He's a half person Nah, that court case was immaculate Uh... first and foremost I'd like to thank God Cause he is the only judge in my life Second, I would like to thank the judge for understanding the circumstances That I was part of a heinous crime by the police department Um... So I was targeted as a black man? I was targeted as a black man They didn't like the fact that I was driving my vehicle

[00:05:26] Um... they saw two black sharp men in the car And they pulled us over on some ridiculousness Oh shit Um... you know And shout outs to Science Cause Science helped me beat the case I'm not gonna lie to you I didn't say LA beat it nigga LA was dead Wait that's what I was looking at now Why did you beat the case? I was in the car with the nigga LA ran through my three rap That's absolutely not true Um... You were the... That's absolutely not true Uh... so... Is that true? Code D? So... so here's what happened Oh okay

[00:05:57] Uh... Two lights... there are two... Yellow... Two lights right? And... Basically... Both of them have a speeding camera On both... on both... Which street road? Brooklyn Damn that's nasty Right there by uh... By Twisted Roots On Flatlands? Yeah So I was driving up... I was driving up Flatlands The cops said I ran both lights Oh? As the judge was uh... As the judge was moderating the case He was basically saying

[00:06:26] There's a six second difference Between each clock And I said that is true judge My car... Uh... can go zero to sixty In five point seven seconds So for me to run both lights I would've also had to been speeding And I did not get a ticket On none of those lights If the glove... And the glove... You must've quit That's what the judge said The judge said Well he got him there Think that the glove don't fit? You must've quit No... I didn't think that's cause Cause the uh...

[00:06:56] The police officer went first He said where it happened Uh huh... He did... Then when the judge... When the judge was kinda off Was like... He said I pulled him off... I pulled him over a hundred feet away From the incident He said why you waited so long If you ran one? And why you only gave him a ticket for one If you said he ran two? Mmm... I said judge... It's cause I had an edge up In the high up Judge it's... It's dead Did he catch you by uh... By high school? Wait wait wait wait... Where you stopped you at? Oh wait wait wait... He stopped me past the high school So you passed offshore?

[00:07:26] Yep... Caught him in the middle of the block Yup... So I said sir... He... He stayed in my vehicle... The vehicle is absolutely correct If you google search how fast that car can go from zero to sixty The speeding limit in New York is twenty five So for me to run both those lights is zero to sixty And you notice if you look up my uh... Parking records... My tickets records... I never got a speedy ticket on none of those days He looked... He looked at the kid... I mean the officer...

[00:07:55] Demon home pussy... Fight your cases bro... Demon home too pussy... Oh yo you know what I learned in court? What? Ooh I hope this don't get me in trouble... No don't say it then... Or say it and if you got to... Beep! Say it and then google it... Yeah... If it gets you in court then we can turn around it... There are a lot of illiterate police officers... Like they can't read... Nigga ain't worry about getting hurt... Nigga ain't worry about niggas politics... Put it matter though... So... They have to read...

[00:08:25] I was... I was the first one there... Right? But I was the last to go... Cause the officer showed up at the time he showed up... So I was watching everybody go... And to see these police officers like read... Their statements... One of the guys next to me... He's like... Oh this nigga can't read... Oh shit... So they turned around... You know... That was...

[00:08:55] Why you looked at the black guy first? Oh no what nigga? He said... He said oh he can't read... Oh but he didn't say... He said that word... He didn't say... No... This ain't disrespectful air racing... He said yo... He can't read... Everybody turned and looked at me... I said uh uh... Uh uh... Heads up don't shoot... Nigga L.A. said... I look like in the mall... Get my you know... Oh that killed it... Shout out to my employer... I like to thank my employer too... For providing the uh... The suit for the evening...

[00:09:24] I showed up... Head to toe... They were like... Oh you gotta go to work? Yeah I do... We gonna make sure we get scenes... So you could go to work... Yeah let's make this quick... They were like... Where you flying to tonight? Mind you I wasn't flying anywhere... And I'm going... I said... I'm actually working the 830 room... You're going to room? Look at L.A. was fucking full of shit... Is that what you get to do? Tell me all the places you went... I said I went to Venice last week... It's really nice... Did you know... They have to transport you through water?

[00:09:54] Like it really is sinking... They sold the whole story... Wait what's so... We got a woman job? No... I had the uh... I don't know what their role is... But they're... So... So... What's the proper name? I feel like you know that... You don't? Okay guys... Yeah... She was... She was... Oh my god... We're gonna... If he's not here by 3.30... You could go home... Cause I know you gotta go to work... Thank you so much... You know... Traffic is really bad around this time... I gotta go here... Where are you flying out of?

[00:10:21] Well you know JFK is the only international airport here in New York... Oh... She was like... I am a 10 year vet... You know what I'm saying? She was... No... She saw the extra thing... She was like... How long you been there for? I said July makes 10 years... You've been working there for 10 years? Yes... I have... It's a very wonderful job... You know... And I love what I do... You said the wife and the kids I have too... The wife and the kids... Yup... Cause I had my ring on... I'm ready for the ring on... That's all you're sick of the sicko bro... I had my ring on you know... I was like... Nigga sold this shit bro...

[00:10:50] I was like... You know my family... The real benefit of this job is the family... The life that my family gets to have you know... See the world... And she was like... You know... How do you feel about all the things... I'm just blessed... I'm just blessed you know... I'm blessed to be here... I could have been... That could have been me... That's the first thing that comes to my mind... Every time something goes down... That could have been me... Nigga ready for his head down... I shook his head a little sicko... I don't know what you're saying... And then he called me up... He was like... Mr. So and so... Yes sir... Yes sir... How do you plead?

[00:11:20] Not guilty... Not guilty today... How much was the ticket? Like two? Nah... It wasn't the fact... If it was a ticket... Ticket... It's the points... Nah... Anything that has points... I'm fighting that... I'm fighting that... Cause my insurance... No no no no... Everything going up... You not about to throw my insurance up for some points... I don't care if I was guilty... I'm not guilty sir... You gonna have to prove that I did it... And he couldn't... You know... So shout outs to the fact... Shout outs to God... That was my rose...

[00:11:51] Of the longest rose... That's the long... Long stem... That was... That was free... Uh... What's the... The bud is... The mid... Looking forward to... The mid... Looking forward to... Oh man... My next court case... In November... Yo bro... What the fuck? You got a gun top dealer? Nah... That one is crazy... I don't... I'm not looking good in that one... But I'm gonna try my best... So what happened...

[00:12:20] It was raining mad hard... Uh huh... And I was... I was behind a 16 wheeler... Mm-hmm... And you know when you behind those cars... That the water... The water from there... Splashing mine... Yeah... And I peeped that he was about... He was breaking... Mm-hmm... So I'm like... Oh hell no... So I switched lanes... No signal? No he won't pull me over for no signal... Tell me about that yeah... Now I'm definitely going to work... I mean definitely going there... In my work uniform... Safety is the number one priority... I had tried to quickly move over the lane...

[00:12:49] Because that would've caused the accident... The way the car... The 16 wheeler was breaking... You know... If I didn't do that... I didn't think about indicating... But if I took that split second... To turn my indicator on... I wouldn't be here in front of you right now judge... So that's... I'm gonna try to work on that... No bro... I don't know if you good or you... Manifficant... If a cop could sit there and say... I feared for my life... And that's why I did what I did... I mean okay... I don't even think he's lying... Nah I'm dead ass... That's not already though... You told me like that... I don't even think he's lying... I'm like yo... When he pulled me over... I said yo...

[00:13:17] You didn't see that 16 wheeler... You switch lanes without indicating... I see you... Alright see you in court... That I didn't even look at the ticket... I just know the date... I know the date sometime in November... I think... But... I also saw two people... Cases get adjourned... I mean get dismissed... Because the cop never showed up... So hopefully it's Thanksgiving... He don't come... So... Hopefully... Pray for me you know... I need all the prayers... But yeah... Shout out to the judge... Holding it down... Facts... Um... Something I'm looking forward to...

[00:13:46] Well you just said that... Right? No no no no no... That's not what I'm... The thorn is probably the... The thorn... The thorn gotta be court case... Nah the thorn... The thorn is... Uh... Yo they're putting me back on reserve... Full time... So basically... Uh... The company's under the impression... That too many of us is... Uh... Calling out... And it's... And it's affecting the... Uh... It's affecting the... Operation... So... They increased how many of us... Uh...

[00:14:16] On reserve for... So I was off of reserve for almost three years now... So they're putting me back on reserve starting next month... I'm not looking forward to that at all... Uh... It's a lot of anxiousness that come with that... If I could get rid of my reserve days... Uh... That'd be good but... You should have the weekends off though... I don't know when they gonna give it to me... To be honest with you... So... That's up in limbo... But I ain't tripping about that... I'll wait... I'll cross that bridge when I get there... Because God is the greatest... Because God is the greatest all the time... You know... Make sure the black man not in jail...

[00:14:45] Free me... Shout out to all the people who... Who's in my... Uh... Close friends watch me handle that court case... Showed me mad love... I respect that... I respect all of y'all... You know... Shout out to my peers... Your money on my books... Yeah... That'd have been taken care of... For real... For real... Oh... What else about this week? I had two therapy sessions... I noticed... Yeah... Facts... The first one was so great... I was like... Yo... You free tomorrow? That's how you know you're talking to somebody too much... Next time... Let's do it again... Like... Are you free tomorrow?

[00:15:15] Let's do this again... Um... So it went really well... We did a... Uh... She... She... Uh... Was... She was curious on my attachment style... I'm like... I know my attachment style already... And she was like... Yeah... But... The way these last two situations... Maybe things change... So we did one of them extensive joints... Not one of them all-lying joints... What you found... We did like... I don't know... I thought she was gonna... Diagnose me with something at the end of this test... That shit says secure... I'm like... Come on man...

[00:15:44] This is me baby... This is me... But she... But it broke it down into like... Four different sectors... So... Parental... Societal... And relationship... Uh... So I do have... I thought I was... I thought... All jokes aside... I thought it was gonna say I have an anxious... Uh... Attachment style... But... That's only... That only reflects in relationships... But everything else I'm secure... So the... Uh... The good outweighed the bad... Well it's not a bad... It's just how we can improve on that... And then... Um... She was like... You know...

[00:16:14] With a secure style... You know you can come off intimidating to others... And we gotta work on... Uh... How you can be less intimidating... I said nobody should be intimidated by me... Well... I... I thought that was weird... So I was like... Alright... We gonna run this back tomorrow... So... You don't think you can be intimidating? I... Nah... I don't... I really don't... I really don't... When she said that... We gotta work on how you less intimidating... To become less intimidating... I'm like... Nobody should be intimidated by me... Little old me... Yeah... Eh...

[00:16:44] What's they gonna be intimidated by? And then women... And we just... We just discussed it a few weeks... We discussed this shit for fucking weeks, bro... Women being intimidated by me... That's... That's preposterous, right? Cause... Women don't get intimidated by men... So that's... That's for... Right? That's my brother... You're also a liar, so... Oh my bad, Shayne... Uh... So... Defend yourself... Fight back... I'm not gonna lie... So... So... Real men and women... Correct... See, she threw that on me earlier...

[00:17:13] Just kidding... That... Anywho... Um... But uh... Yeah, so... We discussed how I could be intimidating... And how we gonna work on that... And then... Um... The session got cut short... And I had to send a very not... I didn't wanna be mean... But I had to... You know... Had to say how I felt... I'm like... You know, Miss Linda... I know you're up in age... So technology may not be your thing... Yo... But we are losing a lot of time... Due to your technical difficulties... Mm...

[00:17:43] And I would like some of that time back... That I keep losing... Of our therapy... So she was like... Yeah, I'm gonna throw on... 15 minutes before and after... For the next three sessions... I said, that's a good compromise... I'll take that... I'll take that... Yeah... Why don't you do a phone call then? Uh... Because it's through the company... So they... Yeah, we have to use a platform... The platform is called Spring Health... Uh... So it's through my insurance... And through the company... So they track it... They track it through there... Um... But she's up in the boonies...

[00:18:12] So... Oh, she'll be kind of... So her service... Yeah, her service is not... Is not the best... She live a good life though... Shoshan... I mean, she's gonna get a wife... Or extend her or some shit... Yeah... It's nice of her to even do that though... The 15 minutes and... Oh, if she wasn't gonna go... I was gonna go to her company... And make them... Yeah... You talking about it? Yeah... Because that can't keep happening, bro... Because if it's coming out of my pocket... And we got 55 minutes... And we only getting maybe 40 minutes per session... I can't get my full thought out... I can't get my full thought out... Yeah, man...

[00:18:42] That nigga love therapy... I do... Shoshan did that long road by thorn... We were getting that... He's getting... He's getting... Yeah... Yeah... Man, I love therapy... Shoshan Sataki... That was a funny joke... That he told me this week... But he only... He said they're gonna be the most... He was thinking in New York City... I'll put that shit... Just for sure you see that shit... You should probably listen to this shit too... I don't think so... I mean... Yeah... But yeah... But um... I don't wanna get into this... Deep topic...

[00:19:11] But it did strike a... A conversation that I wanted to have... Not necessarily about preferences... But like... What we... Not even the red flag thing... Did y'all see... Shout out to someone from Milan... Did y'all see Doshi and Milan's... Hot Wing thing? I didn't watch it... I saw a clip... You saw the clip? I didn't watch it... Did you see the infamous clip? Of course... So... One of the clips... Uh... From Milan...

[00:19:40] I was gonna hit up Milan too... But... I don't know... Um... They asked Doshi what's a red flag... Oh I actually seen it... Yeah... Yeah... And um... Her response... Was... Straight men... Right? And I took it as... Candid banter... But it... It caused the uproar... Um... But... It... Uh... I was talking to my therapist...

[00:20:09] Also about being equally yoked... And I... You... I mean it's so like... Me too! Me too! But... But... Cause she's married... She's married to a pastor... Who's your? My therapist... She's married to a pastor... And... We also... She also talked about... Cause I told her... I... Cause she... She is so pro... LeSean maybe you should date somebody in the church... I'm like... Nah... Because... Been there... Done there... That too... But...

[00:20:38] And I'm a freak... That... That three... But... Um... I'll get... Tell her that... You know what I'm talking about? I know this... Now they... They ain't got a company on you... Yeah... Bro... That... That three... But... At four to... The... The... Damn... I don't wanna be offensive... I... You know how somebody take on something... You know what we was just talking about... Where people take on something...

[00:21:08] And it become their personality? Yes... The... Yes... The... The... Church is everything... Personality... Mm... I'm not... Yeah... Yeah... Cause now you're not listening to Drake... You're listening to fucking Todd Tibbetts... Hell, dang... Yeah... Like... I like... I like sexy songs for you, bro... It's fast... No... It's like... No, baby... Say to listen to Drake... Let's listen to some gospel rap... Let's... Let's enjoy that... Nah... It's a little crane... You're like...

[00:21:37] I don't wanna go with crane... I'm on it... So... So... We was talking about that... And she was like... LaShone, you gotta find somebody who's equally yoked... And I said... Yo... I hate that term... I said the same thing Kojo said... And she was like... Uh... Let's... Let's dive into... How are you equally yoked... And it's like... Being like-minded with people... Okay... It doesn't necessarily mean that y'all gotta follow the... Same path... Right... Right... But y'all just have to be like-minded... So she was like...

[00:22:06] Let me correct you on something... And she was like... Don't think because a woman has a child... Y'all are not equally yoked... Yeah... Oh... No, no, no, no... She was like... Having a child is a responsibility... Not a... Not a crutch... And I was like... Yeah... But... But... The factor of where we're not equally yoked... Is I may be more needy... On time... Or our times aren't... The same... So she was like...

[00:22:36] Okay, cool... We're gonna go on... We're gonna... We're gonna dive in on... How you're equally yoked... And stuff like that... I was like... Yo... But... You know... You don't crack an egg... And the yolk come out the same way... She was like... That's not what that means... Now you're just pointing... So let's be nothing... Because... That's what it sounds like... Equally yoked is... Morals, values, beliefs... But also it's really just to create... Like mutual support... So it's less about...

[00:23:05] Like we have the same thing... Or we think the same thing... But like... Are we aligned in the places... That it matters to us... Values... And like... Lifestyle... Why? So... But people usually just use that... Like lifestyle and financial... So when you hear it... You're like... We're not equally yoked... And a lot of people use it... And they leave out the part... About their morals and beliefs... Right... Mutual support... Right... You're hearing... If she makes six figures... And I don't... We're not equally yoked... Yeah... That's not really what it means... Yeah... It would have been... Yeah... Equally yoked has been poorly marketed... The internet... Yeah... The internet gonna fuck something up... Yeah... Yeah... So...

[00:23:35] So... She was like... I do like that term... She was like... Yo... Tell me some of your dating history... And what... What these... What the women were doing... And I could tell you... How you were... Weren't equally yoked... So I tell her the story... About the time I was dating a drug dealer... Ssss... A pharmacist? No... No... Yeah... What the hell? We talking about Casa Bak... She's moving in with... So... I tell the story of... How I was in church one day...

[00:24:05] And I called her after I left church... And she couldn't pick up... And she texted me like... Yo... I'm on the aux right now... I can't pick up... I said... Nigga... We always talk while you on the phone... So... Later on that day... She called me... And we was talking... I'm like... Yo... You was moving funny... She was like... Yo... Yo... What? I was working... I'm like... At your regular job... She was like... Nah... I had to make a move to... Tennessee... Oh... It's definitely driving me...

[00:24:34] Yeah... So I'm like... I think that's where it hit me like... Yo... What am I doing? Hold on... Wait... Did you know she was a drug dealer when you were there? All right... So... She's made mention that she's done things before... Did that excite you? I'm very confused... I think that... I think that got a heart on this thing... I'm very confused... You think he had a good old Griselda, huh? It sounds like she was the one putting her hand on his side... Yeah... Don't worry about it... I take care of it, baby... Don't worry about it... Yo... Um... No, it didn't excite me...

[00:25:04] You know what it was? Because... She was... No, not was... Because she is... She is a God-fearing woman... And she sell drugs? That's what I'm saying... Balance is fire... Balance is fire? That's how she make them state... That's how she cross state lines back and forth... Because God got her... So... So, nah... She was... Um... So... We got close... Through... I don't want to say the Bible app...

[00:25:34] Yo... I think LA is a movie, bro... Hey, bro... You be freestyle... What? But... I know, it's crazy... What you say... I think you're freestyle... You start to think about therapy... Saying half of this shit out loud... You... You're probably like, what? Nah, we got a phrase... We got a phrase from... What was this? Chill... Chill is crazy... Chill... I ain't gonna lie... I'm about to start making my... Then? And before... So, I'm like...

[00:26:08] So, so... So, boom... Um... So, this is sick, bro... When I... It kinda hit me like... Oh, nah... You need deep in this shit... Like, you not even... You not even pitching... You... You... You the queen pin... Yeah, it's nice... Don't fuck... But... But... But... But... What I was trying to tell... My therapist was like... Yo, I see the other side of that... She was like... That's... See, this is where you... You took the glasses off... For sure...

[00:26:36] You gotta look at the whole picture... Yeah... Especially, like... In dating... You gotta look at... You can't look at the good... All the good... And just... Ignore this big ol... Thing... And I'm like... Big ol' red flag... I wouldn't consider it a red flag... You wouldn't consider selling drugs a red flag... Like... Yo... Yo... What? You talk... Why you talking to my man? Hold on... I'll just try... But the crazy... If this was me... Y'all would all be like... What are you even doing? We wouldn't be... I ain't gonna be... You'd be surprised... At least one of the... At least one of the smarter...

[00:27:06] Responsible people I know... No, my man is the guy I was talking to... Oh yeah... Well... Yeah, you're wild... Yeah, you're freestyle... Yeah, you're freestyle... But see... You know... Also... One of the benefits of... Of... Dating a drug dealer... Is get whatever you want, right? Nah... Because she never spent a dollar on me... No problem... So she wasn't buying... Oh my...

[00:27:36] Yo, boy... You better play with that brick... Get the money! What the fuck are you talking about here? Y'all LA... Zelda... Griselda... Griselda... Griselda... Griselda... Yo... So that was one of... That was one of like... She was like... Wait, you did what? And then she... She tried to get tricky... She was like... Is that why you work for the airline? No! Yo... She thought she was in it? I was like... You think LA's dad... I think I can check that response? Yeah... It's gonna be ugly for you... How about...

[00:28:06] No, I'm like... Nah... I just... I just knew that's something she partook in... For... For Brett... And... She... But I was like... Outside of that... Where you know the person... And she was like... Nah, LaShawn... You can't... You can't keep doing that... You can't keep... They the same person... They all the same person... I used to mess with a real crip girl... That was enough for me... Oh, for real? A real crip girl... Like, she was really crip... When... Okay, now I got to... She like... She bang, bang... Like she... My senior year of high school... I met her... So while you was... No, I was...

[00:28:35] I was out the streets, man... That's right? Yeah, but she had a crush on me forever, but... I wonder what she's doing right now... So y'all were taking pictures like that... I was not doing... With the red and the blue... You got the flag up? Nah... I'm saying... You're acting like a cap on the AK... That was like... The Lord said... Eat the sea... That's good right there... That's good right there... Nah, yeah, nah... But once she started showing her little... Her... Her... Crip side too much... I was like, yeah, I can't do this...

[00:29:03] I got an invasive question... Oh my God... Go ahead... If you were to say something about it, period... I don't know... Keep it to yourself, bro... He was about to ask her... No, he... He was about to... Bro, keep it to yourself, man... I don't know... I don't know... I wish this was Patreon... This should have been... No... I was 18... It's whatever, bro... Nah, I know... That's the... Okay, okay, cool... Since you was 18... I can't tell you, though... Is that right? He pawned it now... So what would she call you?

[00:29:33] Like, would she... You had a K in your name... Did she replace that? No, that would be crazy... Calling me Kojo with a C is crazy... What the fuck? Soko? That would be Kojo still... Yeah... She never did that... She was never that... She was never that crazy with it... She just really loved me, though... She ain't love... Did you tell her to drop a flag? No... She ran down on another girl... Who liked me at the time, too... That's when I... Yeah, that's when I knew... Like that? Yeah, that's when I knew... It was a problem, like... And she took gangsta, like... That was the first time... I was in between, like... Two girls, like... Fighting over me...

[00:30:03] And it was mainly because of... That felt good... Low-key... Low-key... Low-key... Low-key... Okay... Do you... Is she still... I don't know what she been with, bro... I don't know what... And where she at... Can you give us her name... I want to look her up on Facebook... She has to be on Facebook... She has to be on Facebook, yeah... Yeah, most Crip people... She's like two kids, man... She got to... Yeah... And she probably... She probably is... She probably into the church now... Real-so... But now... He's going out... That's crazy, man... That's the type of stories we need... That's crazy... The more you learn about people...

[00:30:32] I don't know if I told too many stories... About shit like that... I'm good... Damn, what's... You know how people on Facebook... Don't be putting their real name... Yeah, she got... She's not a real name... Crip name... It's not... What was her Crip name? It's something... It's something princess in there... It's something princess in there... I'm telling you... Toast now... You still know that shit... Put the niggas... Niggas name Sue Montana on Facebook... Wait, do we know her? Or is that... They don't have that kind of... Is that like... I don't know... A wide network? Yeah, I don't think... Was she reigning? Yeah, worldwide... Why does she act like... I know her brothers... She's like... I know her brothers was deep in this shit... Yo, Sean... Why you acting like those niggas Greek...

[00:31:02] If it's a worldwide network? I mean... Nigga... Brooklyn Crips know each other... In some way... You know what I mean? For real... No? Most fun... Maybe he knows shit... This was Lincoln... Or this was just high school... She did not go to Lincoln... She went to Grady actually... That made... That... Yeah, that tracks... Yeah... Wow... This is so... The more you know about people... I don't know... My spirit... It wasn't a girlfriend or nothing... It was just like... She was feeling the kid... Don't say that... I was available...

[00:31:32] She might hear this... I was your girlfriend... And run down on you flags... Right... I was your girlfriend... My bad... Okay, so now that we have... A better understanding of... Equally oath, right? Um... You can be low... I'm sorry... I think he couldn't help himself though... I'm sorry... I don't blame you though... I could not... That was a great one... I could not... Bro... I could not... That's what I was here... I'm sorry... Oh shit...

[00:32:02] Yeah, he got... Bro... Bro... Bro... Bro... Um... Alright... Damn... This is... There's a lot of pressure... It don't have to go out... But do you feel like you're equally yoked with your partner? Um... So I'm gonna give you the... Uh... So... Same faith... Values... Spiritual goals... Fostering unity... And mutual support... Yeah... That's good... What about you, Joe? Yeah... Okay... Um... So...

[00:32:30] We talked about... Like spirituality... I don't think I ever told you this... I think I did... I think I did... But I never went too in-depth... Remember the... Uh... There was this girl shooting her shot mad heavy... But I was like... I can't date her cause she Muslim... Yeah... I think I remember... I think her L.A. would've been sick right now... Practice... L.A. You not gonna practice Ramadan with your queen? No... You know what's crazy? You know what's crazy? I had this conversation with Cyrus yesterday... I actually... She actually probably wouldn't wanna be here...

[00:33:00] Cause that bacon would've been... I had him on Friday... Bro, I'm not pushing her on... I never... I never told you I fucked with the Muslim show before? Nah... And she used to come to my crib and order pork fried rice? Oh my god... I told Dana the story... I told Dana the story... Bro, she used to come sneak to my crib... Like, yo, you order Chinese food? Let me get me a pork fried rice... I'm like, yo... Nigga, you got a hijab on? Yo, like, yo... Go ahead... She listens still? Nah, she don't listen... There's another one I used to fuck with... My nigga coming with hijab on... She's like, yo, let's roll up... Like, who out of the world?

[00:33:30] What? Y'all niggas come to my crib... They do this devious shit, bro? I mean, it's like the PKs... Oh, very true... Bro, they're still kids... They're teenagers... So... Very true... Very true... But yeah...

[00:33:55] I don't know if we could consider... Dane celebrating it... I think he's practicing... Yeah, he's practicing... Observing... Yeah, facts... I've seen that... Trent asked Dane... What's the difference between Lent and Ramadan?

[00:34:24] Because he was like... She was like, why don't you just do Lent? But the practice of it involves more than that... But like I said... I personally couldn't do it... Because we just don't align spiritually... And the same faith... Is a little bit different... And then you think about when it comes to raising children... Because that's heavy on my mind... I know that Kojo brother has successfully done it... Yeah... But he's probably...

[00:34:53] Went to a lot... Not even... Not even... I think he... His brother was just... One of the better stories of that... Because then you hear about... People having different goals... Period... And things just drifting apart... The spiritual world is just getting too tight... Matter of fact... There was one time I was... I dated a girl Catholic... She didn't practice it though... She didn't practice it at all... But she was talking about...

[00:35:23] What is it called? The christening... Of... If we was... Because we would talk... You know you get into that stage of the relationship... Where you talk future stuff... And we was talking about the christening of our baby... She was like... I'm gonna christen my child Catholic... That was probably one of our biggest arguments... I'm like... You don't even practice the shit... Why would we... I'm the one who go... I'm gonna kill you... Yeah... I'm like... It would happen at my church... So now we're doing the whole back and forth... And then you kind of... It's not gonna work... The signs of... Yo, we're not yoked... Yeah, we're not yoked...

[00:35:52] Really shows in like... The serious conversations of the relationship... Because you're not gonna tell me... A religion... Or faith... That you don't practice... You wanna put our child through... Because you did it when you was a kid... And you wanna... And then I think the family... I think... If I'm not mistaken... The dress that the child has worn... Has been passed down... So you want that... I say... Yo, we not doing... We not doing this for Instagram pic... You... No...

[00:36:22] So then there was this awkward silence of... Yo, how do we recover from this conversation? Yeah... I mean, we still... We just moved on... But I know that... Now, my thing is though... If you notice that you're not equally yoked with somebody... And you still go like... You ever did that before? You're not equally yoked... And you kept going? This is me... Yes... But who... Wait... In that situation... Y'all come to a crossroads...

[00:36:57] Yeah... Because I feel like you made a valid point... Mm-hmm... Maybe the way you said it might have caused some awkwardness... But you were correct... If... If... If you're more well standing that... Yo, you don't practice this religion... I practically practice mine... I would feel more comfortable with my child being under that... If she just don't understand that... That's one thing... If she gets to a point where she understands that... She would not agree with you... She would have to accept it... If... If... Yeah, but for her... Because I clearly wasn't moving... Yeah... Absolutely not...

[00:37:23] Her accepting it will have to also involve her letting go of a family tradition... And that is tough... Because she... If we had a child together... That would have been a fourth generation tradition... Oof... So I understand it from that perspective too... So you would never let her have that? That's not some... Okay... That's not something that I want to chalk up to... Letting someone have... Like you know in battles especially... You just... You just let her... You got it... You got it... You know what I'm saying?

[00:37:54] I live to see another day... Happy house... You know what I'm saying? Happy wife, happy life and such... I don't ever say that... Because we leave out the man being happy... So we're not going to do that... I don't like seeing people have men... Happy spouse... Happy house, happy spouse... Cool... Both people, you know? But at the same time... Everybody want equality, right? Stars and ass... But at the same time... I don't think that was something... I was willing to sacrifice... Because that's a big decision...

[00:38:21] So I understand you having your family tradition... To show me the dress and everything... It's mad cute... Oh? My baby ain't... But we ain't going to do that... Just for... To continue your tradition... Well I'm not going to do that... To continue your tradition... So... There was mad signs that like... Damn, okay... She also was practicing her religion as a child too... You know what I'm saying? Like... She got to a point where she stopped... Same with me... I was in church every day... Practicing the Catholic religion... Until I just stopped going to church... Mmm... Um... But I still go to church... So does it...

[00:38:51] Does it take away if I don't keep going? Yeah, does the consistency mean like... I'm not practicing? Yeah... But I might pray every day... I might still... Observe Lent... She's like... I have to be in the house in order to... No, no... Not at all... Not at all... Not at all... Because... Uh... I'm not a person who believe in... Just because you go to church... You're a good person... I don't believe in that at all... There's a bunch of assholes in there... Uh... Don't qualify her as not practicing... She just wasn't practicing... She... She... Don't... I've been with... At the time we were together for...

[00:39:21] I don't want to say that... Because that's going to give away who that is... Um... Well we were together for a long time... So you know... I know enough about... Her... Her family... Her faith... It was... It was to the point where... The next steps... On where we were going... Had to be discussed... So... We knew enough about each other to... To get that done... So... It was like... Nah... I've never... I've never even...

[00:39:51] Seen you... Talk... We've never really even talked about... Faith-based practices... In your life... In my life we've had... You know... But I've never seen you... Practice your faith... In any shape... Way... Form or fashion... Right? Cool... So... In this situation... It was kind of like a... Uh... It felt performative? No... It just felt like... It was more...

[00:40:21] Damn... I can't be too revealing... I can't... I can't be... I can't... I can answer this question very adequately... But... That would really give off... Who it is... And... That's not for this... But... I just know that... It was more so because of... What the family lost... So you're trying to maintain that... Going forward... So I did ask... I think... I did ask... Well... How do you feel about... Us doing too?

[00:40:51] So... So... You have yours... And then we have mine... What did you say? Now I'm not... 1000% sure... But I think... The... Uh... I think... Over... I don't want to say over on their side... Because that sounds crazy... Um... You gotta sign something... Okay... And you can't have two... You can't have two documents... So now... So now we're getting technical... Okay... Because my compromise was like... Alright...

[00:41:20] Baby can get Kristen twice... I just saw my back was in the car... The other day too... In the car? No... That's not... I had to go in the safe... To get some paperwork... Oh... Right... So that... That... I don't think you can have two... I'm not sure... So... I leave room to be corrected... But I don't think you can have two... And... It... She would... She would want to have... Hers done first... And then... If it's done at my church... It go undocumented...

[00:41:49] That seems performative... That we gonna practice... We gonna do it mine... Yeah... No... No... So... So those serious conversations... I think... I mean... There are some that you see... Early... Like... Dating a drug dealer... And then you see later on... When it gets serious... And we all at that age... Where the serious conversations... Are getting brought up... Or should be getting brought up... Or at least thought about... So you get to see where you at...

[00:42:19] Have you ever... Um... So that... That goes... Circles back to another point... Where I'm like... What if you realize... That you're not equally yoked... In the sense of... Uh... They may not... You may not be... Where you're at for them... Do you... Do you... Do you... How do you work on... Evening yourself out... Evening yourself out... Or do you just go find someone... You're the chair...

[00:42:48] Equally yoked with... So what I do... Do I quit a challenge? Yeah... You up for the challenge... Up for the challenge is a question... Yeah... But at the same time... It's applying a lot of pressure to yourself... I think sometimes the pressure is... Is needed... Yeah... I mean I think it's less about pressure... And there's room for growth... I think like... Because if you try to change yourself... Like if you're framed as... We're not equally yoked... And I'm trying to rise to an occasion... That can be resentment... But if it's something like... Let's say... It's spirituality... You both...

[00:43:16] You practice your faith in a certain way... She's a little more... Further along in her journey... You're like... Oh I would like to strengthen my relationship too... To kind of get there with you... I think that's different... Than like... Feeling like... Oh I have to... Get myself to this point to meet you... Because then that's like... You may not feel like that's a flaw to you... Or it might not be something... You really thought about working on... And that can make you start to hate... The person you're with... Because you're like... I'm doing all this... That doesn't even really... I don't want to do this... And that's when you know you're out of this... What's that say Joe?

[00:43:47] Well... I'm optimistic about everything so... If I... If that comes to my attention... Okay... If I'm noticing that... Okay... We're not on the same page... I think I'll... I'd leave with a sacrifice... And figure out how I can get to that point... Before... The other option is... You know... Skedaddling... Yeah but... Have you ever done that before? Like just dip? Like I'm... Okay I'm good... I'm not a dipper... What you mean? Like it was like... Yo... I gotta work on this... Nah... Nah... I don't wanna work on this with you... Probably...

[00:44:16] I actually don't like people that do that... Yeah... Why you leaving? Yeah... I just... Okay... I literally just thought about it... I have to work on letting go... Well... I think I've... Not mastered it... But... I think now that I know... What I know now... Letting that go... When people start pulling that shit... Yeah... But I don't... I don't believe in... Abandoning a situation... Just because I'm unprepared for it... Or... Feel pressured by it... Nah...

[00:44:46] You just... You just step up to the plate... Feel like it's supposed to happen... I think anything that comes your way... You either... Um... You take it on... Or at least try... I would attempt to try... I'm not so quick to... Uh... Tell myself I can't do it... Or... I'm willing to find out... But I understand people don't wanna waste their time... Time is very precious and valuable... So... I don't know where I stand... I know where I stand... But I know how tricky it could get... When it comes to that... So like for example...

[00:45:15] The biggest thing in the world... Is when you don't have your money to all together... And you know... That... I've been in those situations... Where it's like... Nah... I should leave this situation because... But then what if you have a partner that's understanding... Yo I know this is a rough time... Do your thing and we get back when we get back... So it's not always... Leaving is not always the only option... I think being forthcoming... Is the hardest part... Yo I'm down on hard times... I can't...

[00:45:44] I know how... The way you met me... I can't maintain that right now... Are you gracious enough to... Allow me to fix this... And not hold this against me... Next time we get to... So you tell me a nigga... Went broken with that... Yo I'm out... I'm breaking up with you... Yeah we talk about this all the time... I'm like... Nigga I'm broke... I'm breaking up with you... I have to figure this shit out... I can't figure it out... I'm broke... I'm breaking up with you... Bro seriously... Skrillz has said it all the time... Bro can't... He breaks up with a girl... If he goes broke... He said yo bro I can't... I can't focus on us...

[00:46:14] I gotta focus on me right now... My paper fucked up... Skrillz has done that... We've talked to him about that... Plenty of times... You don't get in your head like... I ain't gonna fuck my... I can't provide this right now... I have to put Skrillz business out there... Sorry bro... Or some men will just make you do it... They'll just be so miserable... Yeah you know... You know technically... Make it seem like you want to break up... That's the easiest way... Let you feel like you did it... You know... It's your fault... You abandoned... And then you hit her with the... Yo you abandoned me...

[00:46:42] During my hardest time... Lois... Here I go... Don't worry about it... They always leave... They always leave... Just like the year you... Next... You're like the wrestler... They're like just gone... You said you don't do... Those type of things... You said you would never... Do nothing like that to me... Here you are... I'm never gonna tell you... I'll never do something... I might start nevering one day... He is... Never say never... What um... What are some things... Some of the things... Y'all look for...

[00:47:13] Equally yoked wise... Cause in theory... It's both uh... In the partnership... Y'all both carrying the same weight... So... Um... The mindset is very important... Like yeah... I know religion and... Spirituality is important... But the mindset is very important... Uh uh... Like I'm... You've seen me talk to... That Spanish young lady... Like I always have to bring her up... Cause it's like yo bro... Like... Island Front... That was the... That's probably one of the biggest freestyles... I've ever made in my life bro... Like... Where were you at mentally... When you took that on?

[00:47:43] Huh? Niggas know what made... What made you... Cause you asked... You asked him that earlier... When he was debating... The other block... The nigga said what made you go with that... Versus crazy bro... What was that... Where... Cause I feel like... Where we're at mentally... Can affect... Like I... I've taken on... People where it's like... Oh LA you freestyling... Right? Mmhmm... But I wasn't in a good... Uh... Hmm... I wanna say insecure... But I wasn't...

[00:48:12] The securest in myself... Mmhmm... Or... I ain't wanna be lonely... Or... I just wanted something to do... When there's nothing to do... I would think I was in a dark space... Where I needed laughs... Nigga was funny... In front... She was funny and shit though... Oh shit... She laughed you out your drawers... After the was though... She laughed you out your pants... A couple times... Then I go front... I seen it... After the was I stopped laughing... I was like... Nah this shit... I was like... It was one day nigga... Millsley... And my nigga... Why do you keep... I was like... Oh shit... My life's a joke... Nothing funny anymore...

[00:48:42] Nigga so I ain't gonna lie... Nigga Mills when he sat me down... I was like... I ain't gonna front... I never talked to you like this... Yo my nigga figure this shit out bro... I know he was disappointed... Nigga ain't making no eye contact... He's like this whole time... Nigga figure it out bro... I said yo my nigga right here... Nigga figure it out? Like what? Nigga what? Damn... It was that bad... That's just... That's sometimes you need that... That tap on your shoulder like... Yo this ain't you bro... Yeah that shit... Shit just started just getting worse... I'm like nah... I lost my job at Delta... I was like yeah... This... Nigga... I ain't trying to blame it on her... But I'm like my nigga I ain't gonna lie...

[00:49:11] You got a little bad vibe with you... My nigga... I don't know if they had a drug dealer... He could have got a scammer... I ain't in front of the nigga... The nigga could have... The nigga could have got some shit... The nigga could have got a booster... Is it Miami? I ain't in front of the nigga... You went to the... You went to the... The nigga's at... The nigga's at those block parties... Niggas scammers don't throw block parties... Yeah... Come on... Nah... Move those loads from... And then this day... You know what's crazy? She had a plan... She had a plan... She was like... Get out of the game... And... Nigga you fucked up... Nigga what? This is... This is in a condo nigga... Nigga... What's that? Tasha St. Patrick...

[00:49:40] She had a plan... That yo... She was gonna do this for a little bit... To her brag get right... And transition into what she... That nigga's gonna drug you for a minute... Fuck it up... Yo... Are you serious? I'm dead serious bro... She told me her plan... And she's sitting there like... She told me her plan... We brainstorming though... On a couple odd days... Oh wait... So you in it? Oh this nigga LA doing the books... Shit... Why are you trying to get me indicted? Nah... What? That nigga LA on the books is crazy man... Nah... So she wanted to do...

[00:50:09] She was using the bread... To fund a business... That she wanted to create... Which was a legit business... Bro... She was laundering money bro? No... She's gonna start doing taxes... And um... LaTron's gonna take her picture... With her... With a blade... Like this... Yo... Everybody guys... You can't be... See... And that's what I like about... You know... The God I serve... We can't judge each other... Cause who am I to judge... I said it earlier in my speech right? God is the only judge in my life... So I can't... I can't...

[00:50:38] I can't judge her... So it's your new thing now... You're gonna look at... The whole person instead of the good side only? Yeah... I'ma try to... I'ma try to... I'ma try to... But I just... Uh... I think the like-mindedness is... But that was another thing that um... That could come off... That she said could come off intimidating... How fast... I show... Show who you are? Yeah... You show too much too fast... Is it... Cause you... Is it a comfortability thing? Or is it just like... I want you to know who I am so I don't have to...

[00:51:08] Nah... I just never factored... And I'm probably still not... I'm never gonna factor that... I may come off intimidating to someone... That just... Seems... Weird... Especially for me like... Do you think the... The whole healing... Heal thing... Is that an intimidating? Exactly... Nah... Is that... You don't think that's intimidating? How could it? That's... Could be bro... E? No, no... It could be... It could be... You did it... That's what I'm thinking about the whole episode... You know what?

[00:51:37] I can't accept that... Bro... Let me tell you... I'ma... Cause is the worst... Are we so damaged... As a people that... Look at him, look at him... Look at him, look at him... It's a... Intimidating factor... Let me tell you why... Like damn... Like I always... Am I for to cut you off, Joe? Like I said before... It's like... I gotta look in the mirror now... Nah, my nigga... I don't wanna do that... And if that's how you come in... There's an expectation of her... If she doesn't... If she's not confident in herself... Then you have now... Intimidated her... You know what I'm saying? It can't... It's not always... Oh... You're just a good nigga... Nigga, I see the Griselda Blanco... My nigga... You think I can't?

[00:52:06] Nah, I feel you... She don't know that... Nah, she don't know... She don't know the story though... She don't know... Now she know... I know she why... She doesn't know you... She doesn't know you... She doesn't know you... Griselda... Griselda... But yeah, like that... What could intimidate her is like... Damn, like I was just in it for the fun... This nigga was serious... You know, we could be... Yo, you know what she... I think I said... I don't know if I said it... I would never... At this big age... We could be frank... I would never accept that... Yeah, she just wanted to wrap up... Nothing around you... We could have done that... We could have done that, right? But... Here's... Here's what's the crazy thing, right?

[00:52:36] Cheyenne can attest to this... Because she's a woman... You don't want a nigga doing all of that so early... So you play it calm! Look... That's a lose-lose situation, right? I play it too cool... I'm too heeled... I don't care... I try to touch up freely... Oh, he a freaky frog guy... Just here... Which one is worse? Which one is worse? I'm trying to be too heeled... Too hot and... Yeah, you thought you'd tell people... To those niggas... Niggas touchy, man, nigga... Yeah... Man, let it go... Yo, this nigga too stiff...

[00:53:06] Blah, blah, blah... He too heeled for me... I'm telling... I'm telling people... I'm too stiff after... Dude, what you mean by that? Because that could go either way too... Right? Or then you go... Oh... Nigga too touchy-feely... Blah, blah, blah... Which one hurt more? Without... Yeah... Fuck you, fuck you? Which one hurt more is worse? Uh... Oh... Nah, we'll talk about that after the par... Off air... But... So yeah... I just don't... That has... That has shifted my mindset this whole year... But I just...

[00:53:34] I won't let that one situation... Throw me off... Throw me off... Yeah... I did try to... But we have to... I don't... Don't take it personally... That... Right? But at the same time... I'm never gonna let somebody tell me I'm too heeled... Because ain't that the... Ain't that the shit about life... That we're supposed to get to a point? Mm-hmm... So... But I don't think... I have to find a way that I don't make that intimidating... Like you said... Make a person... Or you said...

[00:54:03] Like make a person feel because they don't have their shit together... Because the equally yoked part is... Us pulling the same weight together where things don't feel heavy... So I could've... I could help... You know? But... I'll take my time with revealing... I'll be a little bit more mysterious... Yeah, it gives them one more... Yeah, I'll be more mysterious... Oh, wait, can I come over... No, I think that's too soon... Let's get to know each other a little bit better... Alright, don't... Now the...

[00:54:33] Allegations... Is this nigga don't want a pussy? Girl! Girl! Now I'm in the group tab... I'm on the phone! Let's see again, man! I can't... You gon' grab that one? Oh, yeah, he'll fly that thing... Nigga say, yo, girl, put him in that chat! Put him in that chat! Go check out somebody fuck on him! Put him in that chat! I'm telling you! I'm telling you, bro! How you... No, that's your own dumb shit! Oh, that's your own dumb shit!

[00:55:01] I'll be tight if I ever saw my image in one of them shits! Boy, I have to respect... Please... But yeah, so... So I have relearned what equally yoked means... I actually didn't know what that was... No extra harm in the equally yoked... No extra harm, yeah... Thanks... Shout out to Linda for saving that... Saving me from that... The hatred of... The hatred of that word... I hated that shit, too... I hated it, too... But now I understand that people take the... Like Cheyenne said...

[00:55:29] People hold something... And make it fit their narrative... And then it catches... And now everybody think... But you know you just find yourself around like-minded people... Because... She was like, do you think you're equally yoked with your parents? I'm like, oh, now you potting! Now you potting! And I was like, nah... We're not... How can you be equally yoked with your parents? Like, somebody explain to me like I'm far off! Um... So... The parental aspect of it...

[00:55:59] Is... You know... They have good morals... Good... A good mindset... And they pass it on to you... And you grow and you develop your own morals... Based off of the foundation they've built... So that's how you could be, quote-unquote, Equally yoked with parental... Where a lot of their traumas... Because we also talked about spankings... And how that can... How you receive or perceive handling tough situations... Which make people...

[00:56:29] You could tell a lot by a person... The way they express themselves... In uncomfortable or difficult situations... Based off if they were spanked as a child or not... So we kind of went into the psyche of that... Which was kind of interesting... Really? Yeah... Which is crazy... Because I feel like everybody I know got their ass whooped... And we all do our things differently... So... The violent niggas got anger issues, though... Yeah... Or... They only see... They don't see multiple ways of... Result... Result... Result... Result... Yeah... Or... Or even if the situation...

[00:57:00] Doesn't involve being violent... Where being violent... It's just extremely unnecessary... Shutting down... And they shut down because they can't speak... Is because they were... Shut down as a child... And it just... Shut up when a grown-for-a-person talker... Or stay in the child's place... Or... Even when the parents are wrong... They don't apologize for it... So they carry on that same mannerism... So... Damn... That... We learned about that... And then we talked about societal... And um... So yeah... Question for the room...

[00:57:29] You ever gave your parents advice before? I just gave my mother advice the other day... Oh Tom... I just gave my mother advice the other day... She was talking about switching to a different department... In the hospital... And I was like... Nah... You don't need to do that... Like... Nah... Don't do that... At all... She wanted to be in the nursing home... I said nah... Not with your mouth... They say anything to you wrong... Why is it that... Dementia popping them... Yeah... And they get angry... They hit... They start hitting... Yeah... Like nah...

[00:57:58] I've heard stories about them hitting... She was like... Nah... They hit me on a box... I said ma... That's exactly why... Them bills gotta get paid Jack... I said ma... I don't think that's a good idea... Just do what you gotta do at work... And leave that department alone... Because the next thing you... You going to jail... And you don't got 20 years... 20 years is crazy... At 60 something... You ain't gonna make it a month... Crazy...

[00:58:27] She said as long as we watching... Drill... She was like... We wanted to be at a... She was like... Sean... Don't people put their hands on me... Exactly... See how you talking to me now... Yeah... You ain't even... Fire... You think about the goblin... You already defending yourself... Trayton... So I'm like... Nah... So... Yeah... I'm at that stage... Where my mama... Shoot some... Shoot an idea... I can't get her pops... Exactly... All the time... That's what the equal... Yoke that I thought about... Showing her pops... Yeah... Cause he... Cause he a free spirit... And Cheyenne is very like... You know better... Like you act like a parent...

[00:58:57] Like you know better... My dad... Especially with my other siblings... Like they have very different relationships... So I wouldn't say advice... But he definitely feels comfortable to vent to me... Like he's going through something... With one of my other siblings... He will definitely bring to me like... That's fire... My buggin... And usually I'm like... Yeah... But... Yeah... It's like... We're cool though... Like we have a very... Like we don't... It doesn't... I always say like... My dad doesn't really... Feel like my dad sometimes... He's like... Bro... My... He's like my... Cousin... My grandbrother for real...

[00:59:27] I respect him as my dad... But when we speak... It doesn't give that... Your grandbrother is crazy... Do you... Who's your... I'm buggin'... Friend... That you text... Like yo... Am I buggin'... Accountability partner... Which one of your friends... Do you have... That you... If I needed somebody... To tell me I was buggin'... It would be Danny... But I rarely ask her... I really don't ask people... I'm buggin'... Cause you don't ever think you buggin'... No... Cause I know what I'm buggin'... I be like... I'm buggin'... But... And I don't...

[00:59:56] I might as well keep going... Yeah... Like I don't... Fucking Leo's man... Nah... I gotta... I gotta... I got... I think I'm equally yoked... In my friendships... So I... I think I can hit up anybody... Especially in this room... And ask... I think it's... It's... Actually appalling... If... You... If you don't have... One of those friends... In your circle where... At least one... Yeah you gotta yes... You gotta yes man group... That's good... That's another thing... That's for you man... That's good for you then... My...

[01:00:26] My uh... Linda... Miss Linda... She... I don't know... I don't know what made her ask me... She was like... LeSean... When you get a girlfriend... Are you always up under them? Do they get to be there with their friends? I said... I actually want that... I'm like... I'm with my friends... Like I... And sometimes... I don't wanna be bothered... So... Yes... Cause she was like... That's very important to make sure... Whoever you're dating... Has a social life... Outside of you... Who's active... And if they have friends... That they can... You know... If... If...

[01:00:54] Your girlfriend is in the wrong... And your girlfriend goes to speak to her girlfriends... Are her girlfriends gonna check her like... Hey you're wrong... If she don't have... You got a problem... Yeah you got a problem... You have a problem... Mm-hmm... Because I will hope that you have... Your male friends... Or if you have a woman friend... And you express to them... And they can at least say... Hey LeSean you're wrong... Mm-hmm... You need to go fix that... But if her girlfriends... Yeah... Are going to encourage... Yeah girl go do that shit... Yeah... Put them in the chat...

[01:01:24] Yeah... So she was like... Make sure that you know... Within her friendship... She has that... At least somebody... That'll be like... Uh-uh... You messing... Don't mess with that bitch... Yeah... I don't want... A man prays for that friend... And they... You need that... Because they be having friends... With the crash every time... Yeah you need that... You need that... You need that... Let's not do that... You willing to sacrifice... One of your friends... So she can have that... I'll lose a friend... So my girl can have...

[01:01:53] A friend... Not even like a trade... You can take one of my friends... Hold on... Not like a trade... But like... Alright I'll use me... Right... I'm dating somebody... She doesn't have... A friend... Of that likely mind... I'm dating... Introducing... Yeah Cheyenne... Hang on Cheyenne... And then they... They develop their own friendship... I'm trying to... Like Cheyenne... Sprinkle some of that over there... I hate when people do that... Go go go go go... I throw... Do what you gotta do...

[01:02:23] I throw in the first rounder... And Cheyenne... And a... Mix it... And a... Throw a little bag in there... Like yeah... Look look look... Here's a Soul Cycle class... Go run... Go puddle... Look at that... Go pedal together... I don't mind it... If I was already friends... With them separately... But I... I prefer that not... Because... I like to keep church... And state separate... I've had some situations... Where it just doesn't... It gets really weird... It doesn't pan out always... And people don't know... How to be regular after...

[01:02:53] It's very rare people... Know how to be regular... So I just... I would do that... When they break up... I don't... But usually... That's always gonna be... A sense of... Especially with men... Men actually be more upset... Like they'll do that... And then be like... I can't believe you still friended her... You sent me the Soul Cycle... Every day for six months... She's cool... You know what? You liked her too... You know what? You liked her too... She... She's right... She rogue at the same time... You gotta break up with her... Because y'all broke up... Absolutely... Where the loyalty is... I told my mother the same thing... No, no, no... Maybe you got them do that...

[01:03:23] Like... I told my mother... Like... Just don't break her around me... But yeah... Nah... I told my mother the same thing... Bro... Like yo... Once it's over... It's over for you and her too... She was like... I'm back... She was like... Sean... You can't introduce me to people... And I take a liking to them... Uh-huh... And then... Because y'all done... Yes... That's exactly... You're my mom... No, I fuck with all dudes on that... Go ahead... You a liar... What? Oh, yeah... I ain't gonna lie... You can't... They both... They both... Coach...

[01:03:53] If niggas... If niggas was cool... You know what... Yeah, I... Yeah, I... It don't depend on the... It don't depend on the breakup... Bro... No... Like... What if it was wrong? Like... What if it was wrong? I'm here... I'm here... I'm here... I'm here... I'm here... I'm here... I'm here... Imagine you have somebody new... And they still... It's like... Yo, bro... Your mom... Fuck with the new joint... Like that... Your mom's laughing to the... Everybody's faces... It's crazy... That's... I'm gonna tell you... I do... Oh, God...

[01:04:22] I just gotta paint it in a better way... I think you're gonna tell me a story about this... Imagine you come in the crib with your new joint... And then you... Your mom and your ex in the kitchen bake it... Yo, who's this girl here? I don't know... I think that's a co-worker... Oh, no... I don't even know, man... I don't even know, man... You just volunteered at the boys and girls... Yeah, like... The girls... Your orphan... It's... You know, my mom be helping people from the shelter... From time to time... Like, how would that go over... Like, that's my ex? That's my ex is... Sean, if you was to hear that... What would you...

[01:04:52] What would you... What would you immediately throw? I would start laughing... Like, because it's so funny that I heard that... Yeah, I would start laughing... I'm like, you're dead. Oh, fuck! So, what would... What would you do after that, though? I don't know. Yo, bro, I left. I left my own house. I'd have to process, like... Shit, shit, shit! That's weird. That ain't weird, bro. But see, for me, like... When I say I don't like it... Because men be more mad... I will ask up front... Like, when y'all break up... The day y'all break up... Yo, do I have to break up for her? And niggas always say, Nah, it's fine. I don't care. Don't test me. I'm gonna fail every time.

[01:05:21] You give me the option... I think we have to be specific... Like, yo, be cool with her? I just don't want to see her around me. You can set a boundary with your mom... Like, your mom. Exactly what the rules are. Not mama. What's your... With who, mom? If your mom is that bold... On staying with your ex... Tell her she can't cut her down. My mom heavy on loyalty... So, hey, that's one thing... I ain't gotta worry about too much, bro, nigga. Nigga, let's fuck her no more! I ain't bad nigga fuck her then. It was... It was... It was the point... I was checking the phone bill. Ah, you're lying. It's called on the 15th. Yo, that... It was crazy. That's crazy.

[01:05:49] You know when you open up the T-Mobile app... And it says, If you detail, I don't see any stuff on them. News checking numbers. Makes sense. When an nigga's talking at 10 a.m. for... 10 a.m.? 10 a.m.? 10 p.m. Oh, no, no, no. For three hours. What y'all doing up? Bro, you was down the hall talking to my ex? Oh, your mom had her feet on the ceiling? It's crazy. Not equally yoked, bro. I don't know what I would do, though. I don't... Depending on how early on it is, I'd probably peep out. That's a little messy. Y'all don't have children, so there's no reason for...

[01:06:19] No, I'm there. I'm cool on that. What if you don't... What's that? What's that? What's that second mom? That's a second mom now. Ah, yeah. Look how niggas just making life difference. You ain't be down on mom? Yeah. I'm not going to your career and baking with your mother. So... Yeah, you ruined the whole... I feel like it gets awkward. That's just awkward. Yeah, I told my mother. I told my mother straight up, yo, the day I get married, I'm gonna let you know the night before. Yo, pull up. She probably gonna have a post on her? No, it's too late. Yo, your dress is already done.

[01:06:48] You know what I'm saying? No idea. Yeah, you get your makeup done there. Just pull up. When I get to meet her? Tomorrow. Oh, I got somebody I want you to meet. LA is crazy. I got somebody I want you to meet, mom. Tomorrow. You agree? You about the nigga that didn't invite his parents to the graduation? Yeah. She'll make it out of here. I'm like, yo, I got somebody I want you to meet. I really like her. I think I'm about to take things to the next step. I think I want to marry her. I think I'm gonna take the next step with her tomorrow. His invitation. His invitation. And I'm gonna introduce you to her tomorrow at the same time.

[01:07:17] The next step is y'all two introduce her. Oh, where we at? Church at, church on, uh... Yeah, facts, facts, facts, facts. Around, you know, um... I think the, uh... The ceremony starts at three. Ceremony? Yeah, my wedding's tomorrow. The wedding's tomorrow. You getting married at New Life? No. Mm-mm. I wouldn't, I wouldn't. The whole block will be lit. I actually, I actually want to get married in, uh, Italy. I do, I do.

[01:07:47] It's a little bit cheaper. So you gonna fly your mom out? Yo, yo, yo, there's this flight that you gotta take. 9 a.m. tomorrow. Can't miss it, ma. Bro. Everything is packed. Take off of work. You gotta pay my susu tomorrow. What do you want me to do? Nigari paid it, bro. I'll come with it, ma. No. Matter of fact. You know I gotta pay this money. Nigga, shut up. Let's go.

[01:08:17] I covered it. I covered it. So yeah, I hope, uh... I hope everybody is, got, like, they're equally yoked partners, friendships, parentals. It's too late for some of our parents. You gotta be equally yoked to all your friends? I think it depends on the level of the friendship. Yeah, cause I don't use, I don't use friends loosely, bro. That's why you have to tier it. My tier A friends, we need to all be one day on the sound. You start getting to... I hate L.A. so bad. I hate L.A. so bad.

[01:08:47] I don't think that's too... It's not too far off from my tier A and tier B friends. Wait, A and Bs? Yeah, they're not too far off as far. It depends if you started as a B and you stay as a B or you're at A that you kind of just... The closeness has waned, but it doesn't mean that I don't fuck with you. You're just like tier B. I look for like, if you were my A tier, you A for life. Yeah. Ain't nothing... None of my A friends dropped out. You said they A for life? Yeah, you... I don't think none of my A friends dropped out. They have. My A friends? Oh, yeah. One. Yeah, bro.

[01:09:17] Some people drop out. There's friends I've always been cool with since third grade, man. It's like C now. If you call me and need me, I still pick up. Then that's not C. That's probably B. Yeah. Okay. A C friend called me... But they don't communicate. If your A is a present in front of your life, you have no man, you calling them. If you haven't communicated and that person is so long that if you see them calling you, you'll probably instantly pick up because... You know, like... There's no reason. This person don't call me for dog shit. So if they calling me, there's gotta be a fucking reason.

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[01:10:46] everybody's home, we don't have to laugh, so fuck it. Dan said, yeah. If you want to hear this topic, man... You got cashed at all of us, not there for... I need the personal pocket. That's in there. It's in the notes. It's in the notes. That literally says $600 tier, I think. Yeah, and you can't be on that episode either, just because. It's good. Don't want to... Everybody checking that shit now, it's hilarious. Nah, that's a... It's not in the notes. Well, don't forget to like, comment, subscribe. That's a good guy coming out of your list.

[01:11:15] Oh, no, it's definitely there. And, um... If you see his post or anything on Instagram, share it, man. As a man... Wait, it says one thing about a woman she gonna find some shit to complain about, even where everything is all good. And we put it right there, $600 tier. Oh, oh. Because the day we address that shit... So you think that I'm... Oh, God. Kwani said it. Joe said it. I can front him and everybody else would be like,

[01:11:45] that'd be the worst. That'd be the worst when I was dating and, like, Kwani would say something or Joe would say something, you would say something. She treated me like I said it. Like, you wouldn't stop her. What'd she say? Something, something, something is agreement or something, something... Silence is agreement isn't worth it. Silence is consent. Yeah. It sounds good like that. It's shit like that. Silence... Silence... I don't think... I don't think silence is consent. Oh, that's all she said?

[01:12:15] Oh, Mr. Stiles is wrong. Come on in. Let's go, let's go, let's go. Let's get out of here. Oh, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.