Episode 313: Sticky

[00:00:01] Yo, we can move on now, we can move on Oh yeah, we can move on We can start it Yo, this nigga You're right doing this man, it's Don Peasley man Alongside of LaShawne Yo, Fave Look at my colors You wear a figure green You wear a figure green This nigga's wild man Shoutouts to my Fave

[00:00:29] This shit's getting worse He ain't do it in January Hey, hey, hey, don't worry At least the way Perfect timing Holy cow First day Holy cow, bro That was funny, bro That was so unplanned What's the thing going, man? Oh man Joe is here, Kwani's here Yes sir G's in the building Dane's in the building Uh

[00:00:58] Patreon Gotta love it Gotta love it, man Gotta love it Shouts to all the Hispanics out there Sorry, that was one person Facts, shouts Shouts to all my names from Connecticut I was like I was like I was like I was like I was like You ain't here to get him? Yo You were like

[00:01:28] She been on the missions, boy That nigga on side missions, boy They can play Warriors Yo Nigga going to Yukon, bro For some box, bro I'm nigga putting mileage on for There you go Say what? You wanna see it There you go If that's Now you tell yourself It's alright Oh boy What's going on? Uh So This week Uh

[00:01:57] A part of my week and all I had a nice therapy session On On Monday Um But the funny thing about The uh The The therapy session Is the revelation That we were having Towards the end It was such a Eye opener for me I kinda wanted it to continue Cause I never thought about it But we were talking about Uh The stages of development I put the worksheet Uh In the chat

[00:02:26] But there are There are Hmm Eight stages, right? The first one is from 12 to 18 months The next one is 18 to 3 years The next one is 3 to 6 The next is 6 to 12 Uh Then it's 12 to 18 And then the The big one There's a big jump It's 19 to 40 And that's kinda Where we all are So it is Intimacy versus isolation And

[00:02:56] The love and relationships The young adults Must develop intimate relationships Or suffer feelings of isolation Now I know what you're thinking Oh here we go again With another romantic love episode No That is not what this is Right? And I'ma tell you why So I'ma just share some of the notes That I have Um The inability to form meaning Meaningful relationships Can cause isolation Which can then look at Successes and failures

[00:03:26] That can help you define Your relationship Navigating the virtue of love Is how you value it And if people are able to develop The virtue of love Then they'll be able to have Meaningful relationships Don't let defeat Don't let defeat have you isolate From what you want The defeat is what creates baggage Patience is going to be needed And that is the stage where you're at Right? So that's where we get through all the The lovey-dovey joints Because we was talking about AC

[00:03:56] And she was like Have you tried dating since AC? And I'm like nah So she was like You know, don't isolate whatever Because how you view How you She was like Do you think that relationship Was successful? And I was like No, because the ultimate goal Was the ultimate goal And she was like Yeah, but I think you look at success And failure's wrong And I'm like Alright, tell me more Blah, blah, blah And she was like

[00:04:25] Before you do that Tell me what What are some of the other things That you're into? Or what do you do? And I was like I told her about the podcast I told her about the podcast So she was like Do you consider So I told her all about the podcast How it got started Da da da da da So I'll be the patron Yeah, shout out to Linda So I'll be the patron I'm definitely stealing your notes And making them an episode But she was like How do you feel about the pod now? So I told her that we're doing The Patreon thing

[00:04:55] And this, that and the third And I want to give it to 35 She said, why 35? I said, a year and a half Is enough to develop Enough, you know Enough statistics And see what we could do in that time To see if this is You know, as lucrative as we all Imagine it to be And she was like What are some of the things That you feel like you could have done more Into the pod Or whatever, whatever And I'm like, you know Elevate the promotion This, that and the third She was like, what's stopping you?

[00:05:24] And I'm like, no We do what we do This, that and the third And she was like, so why do you need to 35? If... So I'm like... You're... She basically said You isolate from the pod at times Because you don't see it as successful Dang Okay, Linda And she was like... The intimacy And... The intimacy and isolation Isn't always equated to Romance

[00:05:55] So you... Even though you're involved with it You're not fully delved in Because you isolate Because of the thought of the failure of it So... If it does fail You're not as close to it As you once was To feel like... The heartbreak I was telling Rain that The other day I'm like, yo, you treat this shit like a hobby Cause you don't... You kinda like that similar... You just don't see the... You don't really see the success in it So you... You try to lower the blow By not really giving it your all Damn

[00:06:25] So she... As I realized this This was like... I said she's a 55 minutes She broke this down at me At the 50 minute mark And I was like... Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa Yeah, yeah, yeah I was like, yo, you could be late for the other class Right? Is that healthy or unhealthy? Um... So that's what we was trying to figure out My form of... Um... Intimacy and isolation

[00:06:51] I don't know if it... I don't know if I could say... Well, I guess to answer your question directly I don't know if I would say it's healthy But it does make sense to why One would operate in a space of... Defense Cause you are trying to lower the blow The blow ain't gonna stop it from happening Or the feeling of it happening But at least you like... Nah... I ain't put all my chips in this...

[00:07:20] All my eggs in this one basket For it to not work out So... I wanted to ask you... Especially you, Kwani Uh... Have you felt isolation... Ever felt isolation from it? Because of your view of... Success or failure? Oh no, before even that I'll ask a double part question Um... What is your view of success versus failure? In terms of Sandir or in terms of like... In general?

[00:07:51] Success... Uh... Uh... I would say success is more so just having the choice Or the freedom of doing whatever I want to And whatever space I choose to be in So... If I wanna be in my fashion design space I wanna make sure I have enough funds to do what I wanna do I don't wanna half-ass anything I don't wanna put out a... Half-ass collection or just like... Some willy-nilly stuff just to put it out Like I want it to be a certain way And I feel like if it's not like that

[00:08:19] Then that was a failure of a... Uh... Collection or a failure of whatever it is Yeah... Um... I don't know, it's hard to say Cause I've battled with my idea of what success and failure is With Sandir and a bunch of other stuff in my life But yeah... I'll keep it on Sandir Like I... I don't do pre-orders I pretty much buy everything And I buy a bulk of it So... I'm banking on success And I'm just hoping that everybody likes it You sell everything

[00:08:49] But everybody buys it, whatever, whatever And whatever is... Whatever is not sold At first I was looking at it as Damn, this is probably why nobody likes it xyz But then again, I had to look at it as There's so many people that just didn't see this So... Somebody in South Dakota or Miami or wherever They just didn't see it They might like it, they might buy it They just didn't see it yet Yeah, they don't know it exists Yeah, I've only had stuff out I'm thinking like...

[00:09:20] Maybe a couple of years Like it hasn't even been five years yet So like... It's okay if something doesn't sell like that And have a pop-up shop and it'll sell there True, we've seen that before Yeah, so it's like... Yeah I've had to battle with what I thought success was Because before it was just like Oh, I gotta have enough money I gotta... Yeah, yeah, yeah But it's like it's not even about the money per se Cause... I had this question the other day to my... I heard it but I actually thought about it for myself If you had all the money you want, what would you do with it? Like... A lot of people don't even know what they would do

[00:09:48] They just want the money just to have the money You know what's crazy? I know exactly what I'll do with it If somebody give me a million dollars today I know exactly what I'm doing with it by Monday But I know what I'm doing with it now And it'll all be gone by Monday But it'll be working into doing something else I would definitely... First thing I'm doing, taking it out of Chase Like... Screwing me bro Chase has been screwing me for the last... Interest racism? Nah, not even that bro Sorry to change the topic or switch it on you like that, Quanee I get paid on Fridays, right?

[00:10:18] I pay all my bills the same day Right? By... It's not until Tuesday The money don't come out? Yeah! Oh, there's still some money in there! Oh yeah! Yo bro! By Monday you got an overdraft fee How?! I'm getting rid of them bro I have to Cause I'm not gonna wait till Monday to pay my bills But with Chase... Yo bro, I'm like... I get the email Tuesday morning

[00:10:48] Uh... Not even... You, uh... 2500 has been sent to the... You know, the company for that handles the rent here But I already got the email Friday My rent was covered from the e... From the... From the company Why you now sending it on Tuesday? So now here comes the... If you don't put X, Y, and Z in the account By the end of the business day You will have to face a $50 Yo bro, why ain't you sending the money when I told you to send the money? You know what? I got something for your ass I'm gonna close this account

[00:11:18] So, million dollars? We going to Chase, we gonna close that We gonna go right to TD Cause they do it the same day They do it the same day I gotta go with... You know what I'm saying? For my check-in Okay Get Chase out of here But yeah... But yeah... So... Success... It's all relative And I'm still changing what I think success even looks like To operate in different spaces So... At one point, even in like my insurance adjusting When I was doing that I wasn't getting a lot of calls in the beginning

[00:11:49] And I had the New York license The one they said is the best one I'm thinking I'm supposed to get a bunch of calls I'm on rosters, this and that I'm not getting any calls Cause it's just a slow season But then when it picked up That shit picked up So... And in that... I found success in that And then I also found success in the slow seasons too Where it's like, okay, I can just like Kinda relax, make sure I get everything ready For when it picks up again And learn as I go So... Like I said, it's always changing So...

[00:12:18] I'll have an answer every... So often about what success I'm trying to do What about you bro? In your photography Do you have an intimate relationship? Or do you isolate from it? I feel like I isolate a lot Is it because I view the success of it? Yeah... Like, um... That's why I even like... I always try to come up with a plan B Like yeah, you always have to have a contingency plan But it's like, bro Do you have faith in what you're doing now? That you... You literally need a backup plan? It's like... How long do you give yourself for a...

[00:12:47] Until you have a backup plan? Or do you start with a backup plan? Start with a backup plan I got literally... Unfortunately... Unfortunately it's like I'm front, my nigga Failure is like... I wouldn't want to say failure is inevitable But... It kinda is But it's like if you fail... What? Do you get back up or not? But it's perspective though How is failure inevitable, bro? You think you're gonna win everything? You win every fight? Yeah, man Okay, that's a good thought to have But I don't think that's reality How... How do you achieve...

[00:13:17] How do you achieve... You just say you was heartbroken by the amount of disappointments you got in your job search But you get up and try again, right? So that's not a failure? So I don't think that's inevitable I don't apply like oh I'm not gonna get this motherfucking job I don't think that But do you get it? Do you get everything you apply for? I don't The reality of that is that failure is... Could be a possibility But it's not inevitable But that's... As my favorite podcaster would say Bro we live in a real, real world, bro No, I'm not giving you a real, real world But it's a mentality thing

[00:13:45] I know y'all probably call me an optimist and all that shit But yeah, I'm not going... I'm not applying for a job at Madison Square Garden Thinking that I'm not getting it Just... Okay, so I'm not saying I won't get it It's more of like, yo, it can happen It's literally an inevitable I could get this one and I will get this one by the next one So why don't we say success is inevitable? Good point Nobody leads with that Like success is inevitable Because you have the skills, the talent So you put in the work You just have made the sacrifices And that's why it's... It depends how you... You think so? See how...

[00:14:14] You see how you're very... You're very confident in the failure Because that shit is out of your control Like, I can't move like that I just can't... Like... Do you see yourself as being the biggest photographer in the world? Do you want to be? That's what... Do I want to be the biggest photographer in the world? It gotta start up here It gotta start up here Do I really wanna be? Do I wanna be? If you don't want that then That's why you can lean into the... I don't know I don't know Do I wanna be in my own world? Yeah, I would love to be that in my own world

[00:14:43] But to other people... Do you want your own world as in what? Like, to people you know Or like, your circle of friends What does that mean? Well, I wanna be the biggest photographer Yeah Is this your plan? I would like to view myself as that I would say that I would like to view myself... Fuck the world I would like to view myself as that That means what? As far as you getting paid a lot? Or you having a busy schedule? Even the paid a lot Cause I know a photographer that got paid to go one place He got paid a hundredk Okay, so it's... This is the pay Yeah, it's the pay As long as the pay is where you want it to be

[00:15:13] That's your level of success I'm cool with that because it's like, yo What's the point of all of the fame? Like most of the fucking artists that we love Niggas don't care about the fame They want the money They care about the fortune You know who Mark C is, right? Yeah He's somebody that you would consider a successful photographer Yeah Because of what he's accomplished Accomplished, yes And obviously, I guess it comes with money Yeah You don't see any alignment in like how Mark C is As a black photographer, a male photographer And who you could be Yeah Like you see that Yeah So is that not attainable in your eyes? Yeah

[00:15:42] The thing... I'm talking to my fucking therapist about it I think I've counted myself out so much that It's hard for me to see myself like that Okay And that's what defeat can do to you and cause the isolation I get it It's not going from nowhere It took me so long to be confident in myself Even when you made the joke like, yo this ain't got a tight ass shirt on My nigga even to me to wear that shit, it took me a lot It took a lot It took a lot So for me to be confident like, yo I could do this Even the job I have now like I got there the first day like, why the fuck do I work here?

[00:16:13] Do I deserve to be here? Well that's... That's impossible Yeah It gets to that point though Yeah, yeah, yeah You know what I'm saying so Okay, I feel you I feel you I just... I think that... That's why I just attach myself to that I think that hinders a lot of like creators and dreamers What about you bro? I mean I'm the opposite Right You've never isolated from graphic design? Not even a little bit? That shit just brings me so much like creative peace Like if shit is slow, if I open Photoshop and like I said, I...

[00:16:41] Flybridge Reimagined came from a time of like title Like I had nothing going, I started that like and that came from nowhere When I started doing these poster graphics, that shit, I just saw a fire picture and was like Okay, I'm inspired by We still didn't get the... Never saw the picture Send me the picture I'll do But uh... Yeah, it's just like I use... I've always used what I... My craft as... Yeah, I can make some bread off of it Or I can just sit here and do it With a lot Now question Everybody in the room What do you call it?

[00:17:11] Isolating yourself if you do a lot of things at once? No, that's the reverse, no? No, no, um... Just so like, God forbid this fails I'm good at this, I can do this instead Are you doing it with the intention of... It's like a backup plan, without it being a backup plan like So I mean, I do a few things But I don't do them with the whole... Not the intent of one not working I do it with the intent of all these shit's working out And then... Yeah, all these are gonna work

[00:17:40] I'm just working on them slowly by slowly Like, Sunday I haven't really done much in about... Close to a year We still waiting on them Nah, nah, nah The factories are on vacation Yeah, man So as soon as they come back up I'm back in there But I have stuff designed I have stuff ready I was more so working on like... Making sure the... I was just working on it Making sure I have a... A longer game plan, I guess To make sure that what happened Didn't happen again

[00:18:09] So... I feel like if you have... If you do a bunch of stuff Like, alright I'm gonna start this You do it for a week If this don't work, I'm gonna do this Okay, that's... That's... Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah... But if you're doing like, alright I'm doing this... Okay, I have enough time to do this too Bet I'm gonna add that to this I have enough time to do this I'm gonna add that to that That's probably a... Well, that's what I do at least Do you view every relationship That didn't work out as a failure? No Okay, so what were some of the success factors Of the ones that didn't work out?

[00:18:39] I just learned what I liked And what I didn't like I learned what I can tolerate What I can't tolerate I learned what my triggers are What they aren't I learned what I don't What I thought I cared about I didn't really care about I learned some ugly parts about myself Like what? What are you spitting right now? Just... I'm dismissive sometimes I'm stubborn If I've made up my mind in my head I don't really care to listen to anything else Dang Yeah, like I've...

[00:19:08] That's how I felt about y'all last part Probably I've learned all these things Which is to why I can say them so freely And so like... Willy nilly as if... Not that they don't mean anything But it's like you can't tell me that about myself I know it already I've been through the experience And I've done the work to understand it And understand when it's okay to be that And when it's okay to not So that's why I'd be like I reserve the right to do this and do that Cause yeah, some of those things are okay sometimes

[00:19:37] And most times they're not But... Yeah, you learn a lot I learned a lot about myself through relationships What about you, Joe? I agree with Pony, 100% I don't think they're failures You gotta take... I haven't been in many relationships but... Yeah, I know Just really just kind of... Why is that? Cause you're... It also comes down to the intimacy and the isolation You're a very intimate person So why... You said why haven't I been in a lot of relationships? Yeah I don't know I don't know

[00:20:05] I really don't have the answer for you I got what? I've been in three Yeah And at a 32, going on a 33 year old man I don't... I can't really tell you Like if we just doing math That's one every 11 years Dang In a sense, you'll be 33 this year, right? Yeah Yeah, that's one every 11 years Not to say that your first relationship was It was At 11 years old Well, 11 Well, you know what? Maybe... Maybe Einstein was on a date too

[00:20:34] With this math shit Maybe he hit the nail on the coffin Shout out to make the chili But I'm like... Man, I Intimate like what though? Huh? Intimate like what? How is he very intimate? No, no, no I'm not talking about the 11th thing You said he's a very... So you surprised that's why he hasn't been in a relationship Oh, yeah Cause Joe... I'm not gonna say Joe is a lover boy But Joe isn't all isolation either Okay Yeah, yeah, yeah So you would think a person who likes... Joe has a bunch of friends Yeah He's always social

[00:21:04] You would think a person like that would at least have more romantic experiences Now, granted they were long-standing relationships It wasn't like he was short-term with them But you would think he would have more than three That's all I'm saying Cause he likes partnership Joe will collab with people that he... Collab is mad for me Yeah, I'm trying to be like... Collab is shit

[00:21:34] And I think Joe tends to believe in people a lot Whether it's good for him or bad for him But he still believes in people And then Joe will do whatever it takes To make sure their belief comes into fruition So romantically I can see how that can transpire too Joe's also a talker, so... Does this tie into like... Not saying you... The topic you brought up Does that tie into like... I guess having a fear of commitment to something? You not really buckling down

[00:22:02] Yes, it does It does Cause we talked about this too But at the same time That would also make me shocked That Joe also has three relationships Because I don't see Joe as a person who has commitment issues He's always committed to the cause He's always optimistic He's always like... These traits These character traits of people Don't strike me as Yo, I've only had three relationships Do you have commitment issues? No, I actually think I have them in reverse

[00:22:31] You have loyalty issues I might like... I commit to something and I don't wanna see it go Question... You don't have to answer Depending on the question You don't have to answer Or you can at least... You can give me a ballpark if you want to answer How many situationships have you had? Cause relationships are... That's the commitment thing That's why I brought it up But if you have a fair commitment Or you struggle with commitment

[00:23:01] I don't have a fair commitment But I think I... There's a lot of situations In between for sure Okay, so... You was okay with... You was okay with dipping your toe in But you was okay with... He don't like water so I don't think he was dipping his toe in I don't know, yo, honestly I don't know, man So is that the isolation? Cause we was talking about the last episode Kinda... I kinda got started young And... I have a lot of experiences

[00:23:30] But like my first relationship came in college And it was... It was... Long for what it was And after that, you healing through that And you... You don't know where the next one's gonna come from I wasn't just like... Oh, you next Like I wasn't even that It was just figuring out Like you said, what you like What you don't like more about yourself I'm going from a young kid in college Trying to figure out how I'm gonna get a job What I'm gonna do next And then the next one comes along You're just like... Okay, this might be real Spent a long time with that person Go through ups and downs

[00:24:00] After that, that doesn't work Once again, you don't wanna just... I didn't wanna just throw myself back into another relationship You start to think about... Okay, how... What's next? What do I like about myself? I'm much older now Mmm... What did I tolerate before that? I won't tolerate any longer Very true Like, it's just... So in between that I guess you can disconnect from the seriousness of... Of what a relationship is By meeting people and like, you know, being involved Talking, texting, dating, all that stuff Focusing on yourself Focusing on yourself still, but...

[00:24:29] And it's less pressure I don't think... It is! I'mma... I'mma save everybody by saying that this part Way less pressure, bro It's way less pressure than it is like... So, I've been... I've heard before, yo How can you date somebody new But me and you couldn't work out? With this person, it's no pressure If I don't like you by the end of this day I don't have to talk to this person again You on the other hand We have history We got much more respect We got a rapport

[00:24:58] So, it's a lot of pressure trying to maintain that Versus... Here today, gone tomorrow You can ghost them I can ghost you if I wanted to I can isolate faster With this person who I really don't know much about Versus isolating with you It will hurt more So, that's how I see that Now, for me, it was... A part of that session was How do we look at the relationships that I did have And not look at them all as failures And we also talked about what I did learn This, that, and the third

[00:25:27] But for me, even though... I may have had more relationships I'm... I wouldn't say I'm committed to the cause But the same thing like Joe I don't wanna let things go But now with therapy It's kinda like... I let things go a little bit faster Cause I'm way more equipped on... Yo, this shouldn't be happening And if this... Not even... I wanna say red flag I just don't think you're knowledgeable Of your own actions

[00:25:57] And how they impact others And... Nah, cause... Cause sometimes... I try not to be hard on people On what they don't know Okay... Like you knew better... Yeah, I just may not have the patience Where they talked about Where that was one of the notes that she said For somebody to realize They have something they need to unlearn And then relearning I don't know if I have the patience

[00:26:25] To stick that out Yeah... So... So yeah... So that causes me to isolate But I also think that's not fair To a person as well But... I don't always think... Fairness in a relationship Or... Not in a relationship... In dating... Uh... Holds as much weight As people make it out to... Be... The fairness in...

[00:26:56] Don't always apply Because what you think is fair Versus what I think is fair May not be the same thing Whereas in a committed relationship You have to... Try your hardest to meet in the middle I don't necessarily have to meet you in the middle In the getting to know you stage Because... I feel like there's way more other options in the world So I'm gonna try my luck over there Versus... Figuring it out with you And then realize...

[00:27:25] Alright, so this is where the failure thing is Come for me When I know I should've left And I still stuck it out Cause I could've saved myself so much You know how women be like the male intuition Yeah, that gut of ours That tells us... Alright, get out of here Get out of there Or it's... They say niggas don't leave relationships They say men don't know how to break up with women I call bullshit Nah, I agree Nah, I agree with that I agree

[00:27:55] Because... For me... I never wanna be the bad guy So I'd rather you leave That's a problem with niggas I'm not gonna... Bro, niggas will do anything but say This is over Not having fun It's not... It's not it, yo It's not sticky It's not sticky no more It's not good Yeah, because... For me... For me, it would be more of...

[00:28:25] These words that I'm about to deliver They're about to hurt And I don't... I don't wanna hurt this person After a month, you're not even gonna care Nah, a month you will care after that We're talking about a relationship, Kwanee But if you wanna go Oh, you feel free? If you want to go You're not... I think what Bonnie's saying though You're gonna feel like I'm gonna hurt him But once you say it And once you out of that shit No, don't go, no, no, no Until you wanna spin the block Until you wanna spin the block, right? That's the thing, you don't know Yeah

[00:28:54] When you say it and you stand on it But you've been on that block before What's the point of spinning it for? I feel, I mean, that was your girl from However long it was Yeah, dog please But if you're ready to go It's like, that ain't no dog please You're ready to go because of what it is But then you start thinking about what it was too I'm like, that nigga's not ready to go I'm talking about a nigga that's... I'm talking about a nigga that's... You're done, you're fully done, you're nigga I'm talking about a nigga that's ready to go Like, with end like... If I don't see you after today, I'm good I'm talking about that type of nigga

[00:29:23] That means you should've been left Yeah, nigga that's what I'm saying That's what I'm saying That's what I'm saying So you should be focused more on Yo, I'm getting the fuck out Like, you looking ahead though? More so than whatever it sounds like to you Are you looking ahead at the next joint? No, I'm getting out Oh, okay That's what it is If you wanna go out It don't even matter who's there, who's outside, nothing I just don't wanna be here That's when you know Yo, this is... I gotta get out of here If you thinking about it like I should leave but Nah, she wanna go Then you might still have some time

[00:29:52] Cause I try to reserve the right to be like You know what? I'm not the best So maybe she's feeling like this too And she's sticking it out So maybe I could do the same That's what he's saying He's saying men Men don't ever get to that point Nah, niggas be there Niggas be there But they don't... They comfortable They comfy They don't wanna go out To go get the new box To get the... They don't wanna do all the The spending to get the new joint They already comfortable with what she got What she knows They don't gotta do too much They're not happy They aren't even doing anything Cause they're already not happy

[00:30:21] Damn, we gotta be better I'm not even... Yeah, if I'm already not happy Cause at that point, what you gonna do? She's gonna get fed up and she's gonna leave You don't even care Cause you're not happy anyway Yeah It's gonna hurt you She's gonna hurt you more If she leaves then you leave her That's how you feel? But no, no, you... You think so? You don't think so? Cause you don't wanna be the villain Cause I want her to leave I might put her in a situation When she leave me That's the whole point of you not standing there Yeah Hey, bro, you might even be manipulative Even way You fake doing shit to get her tight Yeah She can cut and then you... So you're not the bad guy

[00:30:51] So it's her idea Yeah Niggas are sick You gotta put up a little fight To pretend that you can't No, I can't do this Baby, please Bro, niggas They been together for six years Nigga, not... The first year you wanna pick a fight Next to Valentine's Day You just start doing anything now Her birthday I got a trip somewhere Or my this, that You just start doing anything to just... And you prolonging it Niggas are free selling Yeah Damn, but that's worse on you Cause then she can run with the story Saying like This is who the nigga is

[00:31:20] At that point, you don't care you out That's a stain on you though That's why That's what I think about too Like yo, I just don't wanna be the bad guy Maybe So if she be like It's a lose-lose I think I'm doing bad So maybe she feel like I'm doing bad But I still kinda I don't wanna do this anymore But I don't wanna be the bad guy If she bring up the issue like

[00:31:50] Yo, I'm not happy You gotta do what you used to do Maybe Maybe we should end things If you're not happy Hey, your friend Hey, your friend Nah, that sounds too crazy She gon' be like Oh, so you win this the whole time No, but if you're not happy then What about you, nigga? How do we fix this? Nigga said fuck it How do we fix this? That's a... Maybe we can't That's a nigga that does not want to be Maybe Maybe we can't Maybe we're better off happy

[00:32:19] Maybe we outgrown each other Maybe we outgrown each other It's crazy Too much talking, bro Yo There's too much lying going on Too much talking, bro All the fits, man, man Nah I don't like any I'll fight to the very end What if she start crying? How do y'all feel about crying at that point? Do you wanna leave or not? That's the biggest thing Do you... If you want to leave Nothing is stopping you from leaving She start sharing a few tears Hey, hey Hey, hey Hey, here's a tissue

[00:32:48] I don't believe you that cold, bro Why is it cold? It's not cold Here's a tissue? That's not cold, bro How the fuck is that cold? It's kinda cold She's crying Am I supposed to stay? Okay, I'm staying No, no, no, but here's a tissue It's also kinda wild too Let her cry without any... Without nothing Like, shit on... You can run it back You can run it back You know what I'm saying? Niggas... Niggas hear my man's all that Here's a tissue Yeah, makeup I'm not saying... I'm not throwing a ball of fucking tissue at her face I'm saying... Here's a tissue I understand it's hard

[00:33:18] But this is what's going on This is the reality Yo... Yo... Everybody's reality is what they make it Okay? I'm saying... I'm saying... I'm saying... If you want to leave... You will leave Nothing will stop you from leaving If you wanna stay... Anything will stop you... Anything will make you stay A tear... If you gonna stay over a tear You didn't wanna leave Imagine the niggas... Imagine the joints that leaving they girl They leaving they boyfriend

[00:33:47] And the nigga like... Oh no! Nah! I'm gonna do this! I'm gonna do that! Okay... Oh shit... I'm gone nigga! Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait And nobody will tell her that she's wrong Cause she's done She's shut up He's talking about the women that put their foot down The women that put their foot down Yes Why is it... Oh wait, he be like... He wanna hurt himself? Or do something... Like just... And they just... Oh well! Alright, she don't kill me Yeah, she's... So the nigga gotta sit there Yeah, nobody... You gotta sit there and eat that my brother

[00:34:15] I was trying to show you what you brought up I was trying to show you what you brought up Alright, see ya I wanted to eat it one more time That's the worst, bro! Are you wanting some closures? That's the worst! Damn, what if you didn't know What if you didn't know the last time was the last time? That'd be the worst! That'd be the worst! That'd be the worst! That's why I always try to act like it is If you... Buy me some more time Jessica, she wanted to leave That's about two weeks in That's about two weeks in If it wasn't your call You gotta say, yo Damn, that'd be the worst! Last time? When you think, I got one more We got one more

[00:34:45] Yeah, one more! Make sure I get an extension is crazy Last one? They didn't even make a last call It's just click Why you didn't even tell me? They didn't even tell me the ball was close What's up? They usually make an announcement Right, yeah Get your goal, man Get your goal, man Get your goal, man Let's go Yo But nah, yeah, so I was... It's just my outlook on me being intimate and... Versus isolation I isolate on something What do you do? The gym

[00:35:14] Cause it's like me too? Cause I don't... I feel as though as the minute I drop off And I don't go for a day or two days I just isolate I wanna go, but it's like I have to go back I have to get I have to go through that like weeks phase Mine is different I isolate when I'm not seeing the results Yeah I feel like that ties into mine Cause I'm not going enough So I'm not even committed to going I'm not seeing the results Yeah, but you say you isolate after a day So your routine gets broken Yeah, but when my routine is broken Yeah, yeah Then it's like, damn I failed So then like I try to get enough time

[00:35:44] Yeah, no, me is definitely You in there You feel like you're doing the work You eating, right? You doing everything You're supposed to be doing But the way you view yourself You're not seeing Me is different Me is different Because I know what I used to look like That That be the hardest part Trying to get that back That was Slim eyes That was That was Yeah, it's just motivation But it's tough to get back Yeah, it's tough to get back Yeah Yeah, my body different Yeah, you gotta

[00:36:24] You gotta You're young, you're young But you're younger so you could Yeah, yeah Once you get 30 It's gonna different You're looking for three weeks Oh, quite a nasty eater Hey Yo, this thing is crazy Hey, like What? What? Do we? Alright, how much better? I didn't see what you did with it I just didn't see what you did Because why would you That's not my message Because why would you say anything? I'm just drinking water, bro Yo We just drinking water LA's a criminal He's crazy

[00:36:52] This nigga's crazy, bro He like it's sticky I'm about to make that new quote Man, I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna You're gonna You're sick, bro Yo Yo That nigga threw the water in his face, boy He nigga missed his car Yo, it's on camera I didn't even do that, bro It's on camera The funny Man was having replays all the time The funny point

[00:37:21] The funny part I'm gonna make sure it cut to his You're talking about I'm younger, so I'm gonna see the results quicker Yeah, no, your metabolism is gonna change once Literally Maybe the day after 30 You see how like After Life gets serious After you get off of your parents' insurance The second time it gets serious Is when you get When you hit 30, bro 26 and 30 30? Facts Facts But that's all part of the We talking about the age thing But that's all part of the young adulthood

[00:37:52] We just try to You gotta develop your intimate relationships Or you'll isolate Even that with work Sometimes with work Like when you don't love your job You find every Every and Every reason not to go Call out You don't want to go in The happy hours Nothing Yup Or the fun shit You don't want to go to the Christmas party Nothing Yeah Sound like a little Damn You love your job But you can tolerate your job I definitely isolate from my job a lot

[00:38:22] You say you like your job or you tolerate your job? I think my job My job is just my job I've never looked at it as more than quote unquote a job Not too late Yeah Yeah So I don't have an intimate relationship I don't have an intimate relationship With the job But at the same time I guess

[00:38:51] It pay the bills They tolerate it Yeah Yeah I felt like that with the last one This one is more like Alright I can enjoy this one Because I'm literally taking photos I'm fucking doing what I love Like sometimes I feel like I'm not even at work So it's like cool Yeah you're doing what you love So you're intimate with it Yeah so Yeah Pop another one? Nice Yo if you're the go to guy at your job Do you think you're successful then?

[00:39:22] As much as I get in my own head I feel like I'm successful now Just to have that job I feel like that's a piece of success for me Thank you Because I always wanted that Like I always wanted a job that could fly me some way I'm literally shooting on a beach With models and just doing certain shits Like nah that's success You're not getting the paper you want But it's a check though Do you Is success having this be the only thing you do? I wanna do more Like what? I wanna do more have a studio Oh all within the same room?

[00:39:52] All within the same room Okay Even that just um Reaching to other shit that's That's another story but But you think for you it's It's photography in the creative space Yeah in the creative space Oh okay Just even having the fucking The village Having my brothers It's like nah that's a creative space I have a brother that's a graphic designer Other brothers an animator like You know The love for it is there You're how? You're 33 you said? Mmhmm I'm 33 this year Yeah

[00:40:22] 31 this year I mean so I guess I'll ask What does What does 40 look like for you guys? What is success like? At 40? Yeah Oh! I'm not away for work Cause this is more This is This is more serious Than when I ask my friends I would want the next Seven years of my life For me to be dominating in my field Or not Well next I would say five out of the seven Well I guess Question before that Do y'all feel like y'all found What y'all wanted to do?

[00:40:52] Yes Or what y'all want to do? I do No Okay Uh uh I don't think that's in the cause for me Finding what you want to do? Yeah I just gotta make the best out of my situation And make a good life out of it Okay Okay I can't even add that Yeah Cause LA is not living the life where It's like when he was in like junior high school Or high school He said yo I wanna be a flight attendant And now he's doing that Yeah Like he wasn't Like that wasn't his dream That he wrote down on his Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah I didn't have

[00:41:21] Like what I should be asking Manny When he got out of his school Is What's his aspirations In life You can ask him that too You can ask him that first Let it go Elie Let it go Not asking which chick is making his penis tingle Alright Nobody said anything Nobody That's what we said bro Nobody said Nobody said anything like that But uh Yo But yeah Yeah I wasn't Raised to On a path of like What you wanna be And you know

[00:41:50] I didn't find something Quote on quote That I'm good at And then pursued it So you know It's just making a good living You know Which is fine Yeah which is fine I'm totally okay with that I don't live with the regret of like Damn I didn't do this I didn't do that But So trying to make that shake Success at 40 Married Married hopefully By 37

[00:42:20] With a good woman Bad My bad joints days are over With a good With a quality great woman They could be both of our clients They could be both of our clients They could be both of our clients That means they gonna marry some men They could be both of them The rest of them though Once in the past I could be hell I didn't even settle with that That's crazy They could be both That means they don't look at me like I failed Yo Max Does that bother y'all by the way? Well It's the outside world Looking at you like you're a failure Looking at me like I'm a failure?

[00:42:50] Joe you think You care about what a lot of people think So you can't say no I do I did I'm getting better at not caring Um Yeah I would do I want a scale you know? How can you say that about me? You're lying brother Like yo honestly Think about what I What I came from What I come from And what I like What I've accomplished Is no way But we gotta be real Like every opinion So that wouldn't bother you though A failure? A failure? Somebody calling me a failure? It's a lie bro We talking about from the POV of your ex scene

[00:43:19] Who you go on with? That's what you do actually Oh that's what you was talking about? That's what he I thought that's I was talking about people The outside world regardless Seeing you as a failure Yeah Wouldn't bother you? Would it bother you? Oh bother me? Um I would have to see myself as a failure first For then for the outside noise Yeah To affect me Because Yeah I would only care if I agree Yeah Yeah If I didn't agree then I wouldn't give a fuck Yeah yeah yeah Because then What is their version of Success for me

[00:43:49] Versus what it is for me Like Somebody could look at us and say that Oh the podcast failed They didn't reach the heights that You know That was supposed And if I agree with that Then I may It may bother me That may bother me But if If If I don't view success in that manner then Nah That Yeah It It holds no It holds no merit I won't allow it to hold merit But 40 Uh

[00:44:19] At least one child Married by 37 Um Skyrise Skyrise Floor to ceiling windows So you wanna sky rise with a With some men No Come on LA I ain't like I ain't like He's making point I ain't like At least the view would be I don't know I love all those I think she's sitting right there I don't know Like oh Babe babe babe move on I'll allow it

[00:44:48] I think I'll allow it Yeah Yeah Family A nice place to live Um The accounts are great. That's it, yeah, for sure. You see the way you describe it? And by 40, I will be seven more years in. If I'm still flying, seniority will be great. The pay would be immaculate. Barely after work.

[00:45:18] That's a beautiful life that I look forward to. So yeah, 40-40 would be nice. 40, that'd be successful. I'd be able to spend time with my family. I don't have to be at work all the time. You know what's crazy? When I was younger, maybe like 10 years ago, I probably would have thought 40 was like old. Yeah. I'm looking at it like, yo, that's another leaf-turning age where you could just figure out some new cool shit to do at 40. That's also in my card. But also, everything that you got to mention. Except the maid. Except for it. Jake said definitely, though.

[00:45:47] Well, I don't know about Skyrise. I think I would probably want a home. White picket fence. That's about a home. Nah, I would replace the home. Yeah, I don't want that. Skyrise does sound wavy, though. You know, floor-to-ceiling window and all that. Yeah, that does sound wavy. I want... Nice loss. At 40, I want to start writing a book. All right, I like that. On what? On me. My... You going to tell what happened at 11? What? Tell all the books. It's crazy. Nah, it's kind of just like an autobiography.

[00:46:17] That type of vibe. That's a part! So I'm basically a safe thing you just said. No, I'm not included in that part. We're skipping that part. But yeah, that would be something cool. Because what I want to be able to do is be able to kind of tell the story of how I got to where I'm at. Or where I see myself being at 40 years old. Because I think my story could be inspiring to somebody else. I truly believe that. Like, at 32 now, I'm watching niggas like Rich Paul and all these people who got books.

[00:46:46] They're just telling their story. And I think that shit is dope. And that's something I want to be able to do. So that's the goal. What about you, dawg? I want to be that white picket fence guy. Simple guy. On the grill. That's... Every time I'm on the grill, that's what I really feel like. With your Birkenstocks on? Siga, fuck that. I'm putting them sandals on. I'm putting them sandals on, bro. The Jesus Christ fools. Come on. Y'all at my crib with fucking... Y'all peoples. We all just chilling, bro.

[00:47:15] Reminiscing in the past, bro. Like, I have a beautiful family. I got you beautiful families. We just happy, bro. We got the bank accounts look good. The kids running around. I'm visualizing it right now. Niggas, the LA guy has been... He just... Nah, my man not coming. He just made the junior. Say, baby, stay home. The walls be clean. Yeah, bro. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, but... Yeah, bro. I don't want the...

[00:47:44] I don't care for the glitz and the clam. How about... I like to enjoy it sometimes, though. Yeah. Yeah. Just remind myself, yeah, you got it. What? You know what I'm saying? You can spend if you want. You're still good. I mean, younger me was reaching for the stars. I wanted to be in the league, which means I would be a millionaire and all that stuff. And like I said, the older I get, the more I realize that maybe was not the thing for me. I would have gladly taken that. You were like... How much... What? How much space does that take up your life?

[00:48:13] Like, do you really feel like you need all of the glitz and glamour? 15 years in the league type of jobs? Like, you just did glitz and the glamour, bro. Like, you just did glitz and the glamour, bro. Like, you just did... I never wanted to be famous. Maybe that's also why I somewhat isolate from the pod, too, because I always just wanted to do it and then still, you know, not diving in the face-to-face. Yeah. Or trying to find a way to get from in front of the camera to behind the camera. Fame was never a thing for me.

[00:48:42] I don't think I would do well being famous. So maybe the success of the pod can cause fear at the same time. Or being successful could cause fear, cause you can't take one thing without the other. It's a package deal. So being willing to give up all the privacy, you know? In case we're gonna block.

[00:49:11] Yeah, I like to hear the stories of the millionaires that still take the train to work and stuff like that. You sitting next to somebody and not knowing who they are or most people don't know who they are and they can live with that and still be wealthy or be successful. I kind of want to teeter that path in life. So yeah, but at the same time, you know, we also partake in something that can make us

[00:49:41] super popular and wealthy and give us notoriety. And we don't have acid. And we don't have acid. So, you know, but if I had to choose, it would be a nice balance of the two. But I know one is either one or the other. If this pod elevates to another level within this year. That's the same when? When? Okay. Mr. Optimistic? I am Mr. Optimistic, but I'm speaking from... Nah, go ahead. When? Uh-huh.

[00:50:12] It's not like LA is going to be like, hey, slow down. Slow down, brother. I ain't here. I ain't here for all that. You ain't going to do that. Yeah. You're going to accept everything that it comes with. I wonder how that's going to... How that would work with my job though. You being like a... Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, because that'll get real sticky. Oh, I mean... I meant that at Jenny. Oh, yeah. My hot clown. My hot clown.

[00:50:42] Yo, guys. Because, yeah, you'll be on flights and I'm like, I'll watch your pod. Yeah. Watch your pod on the plane. Yeah. That would be dope. That would be dope to ever see somebody do that. On a short flight, you just put it on... Hey, what you watching? I wouldn't even... I wouldn't even... No. And now we're going to have to have a whole conversation. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, no, no, no, no. If I ever peep somebody doing that and they... Take a picture in the cup? Yeah, probably. Wait, hold on. You're telling me you get on one of them flights and you see somebody on a plane tuned into what's the other guy? Us.

[00:51:12] Us. Just looking at us. You're not going to say nothing? Uh-uh. Until he look like... Yo! And they probably not going to look at that person's direction. Yeah, yeah. I wouldn't say anything. Yeah. He sliding down the guard. Then, yeah, you can say something to me, but I'm not about to... Yeah, no. Yeah, like, what if the... What... Quanny is in the spot and he sees somebody wear a sanded? Yeah, I'm not going to go to him and be like, yo. Yo! I made that. You wearing my shit, my boy? My opinion on that is that those are the people

[00:51:40] that you should approach. That's the community that you should tap into and let them know. They want to feel that connection because you... We talking about somebody you don't know. Oh, now I'm tangible, huh? That's a good thing, right? Is it? You're talking about somebody you don't know because I'm sure you see me out in public with it. It's nothing. It's like, oh, Joe has it. Oh, it's on here already. If one of our friends is watching the pod, it's not affecting you differently than when a nigga you never met, never heard of, didn't even know you could reach

[00:52:08] is indulging in your stuff. Nah, let them enjoy the show, bro. Yeah, but think about what it could build on top of if he also goes back to wherever he's from and says, yo. And then he tweet, yo, I saw LA on but he not only does he do, he goes home but he goes home and he tells his friends like, yo, like these niggas is, like I met, I met the nigga on the, he a cool nigga. Like he starts to spray because not only, it's not only an experience that he wants to enjoy,

[00:52:38] he wants to now share because you connected with him. I'm in, I'm in, I'm in full agreeance. You know what, you know what, that could be considered a level of intimacy that you make that one-on-one connection with a supporter of yours and be like, yo. But then at the same time there is a, I don't know if that's in our head, what is like a level of corniness like, oh, you watching my shit. That's like me being on a road and I'm at the light and somebody pull up playing Rain record and I'm just like, like what? Nah, that's great. That's crazy to me, bro.

[00:53:08] I'm gonna roll the window down and be like, yo. How you know about that? Like that, that, it's gotta... And now I have to think about it, bro. What the fuck you talking to me for? Now we have an issue. Yeah, nah, see. I'm gonna tell you why I'm talking to you, bro. No, see, I agree with him and I agree with him. I'm okay with that but I'm okay with it happening with the person saying it to me, not me going over there and saying it to him. Yeah, okay, kind of. He can still have the same reaction. He can still go home and tell him everything but the difference is he came up to me and said it. Yeah, I didn't. Because if I see it and I peep it, I just look and I'm like, oh, that's how, oh, okay, that's how people wear it.

[00:53:38] Okay, cool. Nigga, we're gonna analyze it. Okay, I bet. Cool. I'll go back about my business. What if a nigga woke up to you like, you wearing sandir too? Yeah. Like, what you know about that? That's that? I can see that happening. I can see that happening. My nephew did that to Vic from Tear. Like, my nephew walked up to Vic because Vic had his jacket on. He was like, yo, what you know about that? And Vic looked at him like, what? Why would Vic do that? Not initially. Initially, it was like,

[00:54:08] why are you asking me what I know about the shit I created? Yeah. But he realized like, okay, you must not know who I am. Yeah. Vic doesn't have his face plastered on. Right. Yeah. So then he tells him, oh, my uncle, da, da, da. Then he's like, then Vic hits me like, yo, your nephew pressed me by a blind. Funny thing. But then it's like, if Vic was on something like, oh, no, just some cool shit. I'm from New York. Then he doesn't put a face to it. Now my cousin, all he wants to do is wear Tear because he has a connection with Vic. He also has a connection with me. He's like, it leans onto it. Now his friends want to wear it and all that stuff. I get it.

[00:54:37] I would rather the opposite of you literally just not knowing me being tied to the brand because I want the brand to live on its own without having me attached to it to a certain degree. Yeah. I want, because people in Peru or people in Cali, they don't know me. I want them to know the brand. Yeah. So if I see somebody in Brooklyn and they don't know me and they got the brand on, cool. Amazing. If you see me, you want to talk to me, you recognize me, I don't even know how you want to. You know what would be interesting though? If you saw somebody wearing

[00:55:05] something from the friends of the house. And I don't know them. Yeah. That shit would be weird as hell. That would be interesting. Why'd you get that? Yeah. Like, who do you know? Which one of the bros? That would be one. That would go to them. Which one of the bros? Jacket, you wear it. I know exactly who has every, I know who has it. Who getting it sticky over there? Yeah. Matter fact, matter fact, I'm not even going to do, I'm going to take a picture. Yo, bro. identify this. Hold on, who's this? You know who, you know who has what color?

[00:55:35] I know exactly who has what. Exactly who has what, so. You know what? I'm wearing them on tonight. That's where Dane went to, what's that Jewel? Was it Jacob that he went to? It was somebody in Manhattan. Oh, you said you want Dane? You said? Yeah. He was like, where you get this rock and roll? I made every piece. Thanks, I'm taking this now. Kwani, take the friends of the house jacket back. We see what size this is. Take the shit up the back. Give me my shit. Every,

[00:56:05] every, everything, especially the things that I did that's not even out yet. I know exactly where it is. A black cardigan, top and bottom set? It's in Houston. It's in Texas right now. It should be with one person. One person should only have that shit. I know exactly where things are. A brown, a brown varsity? It's in the Bronx. It's in the Bronx. After his jacket, the salmon color joint is in Canarsie.

[00:56:34] I know exactly where everything is. I know where it is. And even if you don't have your name on it, I know where it is. I know exactly where it is. But yeah, that, that is that. So basically, that's kind of what I wanted to talk to y'all. uh, how y'all view y'all successes and failures and does that affect the way you're intimate with those said things? Yeah, I have a question. Uh-huh. I thought you were asking this earlier,

[00:57:04] but you weren't. So when you're out with your lady or you're out with your person, um, if people compliment them and say, yo, like, do you think that's like, you won, you successful? Like you think, or if people, if you good, if people, if people don't say nothing, they don't say nothing to this. She don't even get a, she, you bring her on the, your family. They don't even bring you to the side. Yo, she love that? Nobody, nobody say nothing. Nobody say nothing.

[00:57:34] Nice to meet you. That's it. Do you feel like that's a failure? It depends on who's saying it. No, no, I'm talking about like, your cousins, your woman friends. Like I said, it depends who it is who complimented. Because if one of my cousins say, oh, that's a flyer, we got a problem. No, no, I'm not talking about, no, nothing like that. He's saying it, if nobody say nothing. Like honest shit, like, like you bring somebody around, your cousin's like, oh, Don, yo, Don, she's flyer, yo, yeah. As opposed to, oh,

[00:58:04] hey, nice to meet you. Nice to meet you. Back to playing my phone. Do you feel like, oh, I both submit. She don't stop the room at all. I both submit in a spot. Or are you, or do you not care? And you're successful, you're successful anyway. I'm not gonna lie. Niggas said I'm gonna fail, nigga did. Oh man, you can't afford to. That ain't gonna happen everywhere, bro. No, no, of course not. I'm talking about like, your family, like people you, people who you care about, people who you care about, their opinions.

[00:58:32] If you come in and niggas don't say nothing, and, oh, hey. Yo, they're heavy signs. Yeah, oh, hey. I'm trying. All right, so, I like when, um, like when we're out on dates, and people tell, like I'm with my shorty, and they be like, they compliment her, like, oh, you look so pretty. That's success to me. Yes, baby. Okay. Yeah, yeah, like we go out, or we're at the restaurant, and they be like, oh, I love your hair.

[00:59:03] We're like, bitch, okay. We're like, oh, you look mad pretty. I love your dress. In the back of my mind, yes, I ain't with no men. Ain't no men. Especially old ladies. Yes. When the old ladies, when the old, the old black lady, be like, oh, you have a beautiful wife. Yes, speak it over me. Yes. Yes. Cab drunk pulled up like, yo, your wife is beautiful. I'm like, yo, you just got, that's, that's like, yo, bro, that's a 50 point game right there,

[00:59:32] bro. That's, that's how I know, like, you see, you know what I'm saying? You see me, nigga. See what's going on, nigga. Now, now, when they don't say nothing, down backyard. That's a little different. I want everybody to keep their mouth closed. Don't say nothing. I might. How you shit ain't going on down backyard. That's an isolated spot, nigga. Oh, down backyard, nigga. Cause niggas going to be, there's going to be a people,

[01:00:02] it's going to be a five people in that corner by the grill. Niggas, no one's going to start being silent. What's the music getting silent over there? Say that shit, brother. It's probably LA, LA, they're getting too quiet. It's a problem. When niggas get talkative, you brought some minute down backyard. Like conversation, nobody stopped. You see that? Niggas still slamming the domino. Yeah, you brought some mid to the backyard. Nobody's from there. You got random out of laugh. Matt. There's an issue. See a nigga pick his phone up? Yo, nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga,

[01:00:33] nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga. You brought some mid. Like nothing stopped? Nothing stopped? Were y'all ever the mid? Nah, Fuck out of here. Nah, don't bring your ego into this, nigga. Were y'all ever, were y'all ever, you ever went over there drawing, like nobody said nothing to her? I don't ever get that. I think that works different. I don't ever get that, bro. Yeah, I think that works different. I was probably, I was that one time. I was there before. After I was chunky, I was definitely there before, bro. Oh, you were saying you were mid? I was the mid one time. Nigga, it was bad works.

[01:01:03] Bad works. Oh, that's your boyfriend. Oh, hey, how you doing? Sure, you give me a hand shaking. Oh, sorry, shaking my hand. I ain't gonna lie. Oh, you ain't getting no hug? No, ain't no hug going on. I said, oh, shit going down. I'm going down the bag right there. That's Don 13 reason? That's why he in the gym? Hell yeah, that's crazy. It's tricky because I just, I think, you know, women probably don't receive. That process that different, yeah. That compliment from like, Oh, you can't, you can't do that. Yo! No, they got to compliment you both. Yo. If they compliment you both,

[01:01:33] They had to say both. If you, if you, I'll tell, I'll tell you a situation where I wasn't mid. I was on fire. She was out to leave. I wouldn't say that. I was like, pain. I hate you, but if you, if you go to my page, there's a page, there's a picture where I went to the veranda and I had my green BMW jacket. Okay. I know that. So, me and Shorty go on a date. Okay. Shorty takes the picture. Shorty takes the picture from, for me, right?

[01:02:03] Mm-hmm. The hostess. Now, if you look, it's at the bottom of a staircase. Yeah. The hostess that, that checked us in, she comes all the way downstairs. And she's like, I love your jacket. So now my girl, my girl, at the top, caught a whole attitude. I love your jacket. Oh, they love that. They love that. She's too a loser. But usually, usually, your little girlfriend. Bro,

[01:02:32] usually that's where the buck stops. Oh, now she kept going. The hostess heard it. Oh. And turned back around and said, I love a man who could put an outfit together. Oh! Yeah! She's like that. So, so now... So now she exhortates. yo bro, that was the one. That was the one. She wanna leave the scratch. She woulda throw you, you hit her up with total directions. Now! You gonna let her talk to you like that? Nah! You still ate there? Huh? You still ate there? No, this was, this was at the end of the date. Oh,

[01:03:02] this was at the end of the date. Nigga, that was the worst meal. Nigga, play with a... So I had, I had the, uh, my sixes on, the champagne sixes on. I see the fit! I remember this. And they glow in the dark. I remember this. So she realized that too. She was like, and they glow too? Oh, now she dragged it. But I felt, I told her, I was like, you should have made that slick comment. Cause it ain't even about me being handsome anymore. You, she trying to get under your skin to see if you pop off. Now, the funny thing, I never told this part, but you see how Quanee was, Quanee, uh,

[01:03:32] teased the whole situation. Yo, you ain't gonna talk to me like that. Cause you ain't talk to me. So next time we got into an argument, I said, oh, you got a whole lot of lip for a person who let the hostess talk. now Ella, you call her pussy? I did. You see it bro. You see niggas don't be, niggas don't be following me to the edge bro. Niggas be leaving me on the edge bro. You know what? You, you, you, you, she was tight. She was tight. She was tight. She was tight.

[01:04:06] openly expressive. It was another date too. Oh, when we, uh, when I wore the all black sand air joint. Oh, so I bought the black Swan tee, the black pants with my, with myself. Right. You gotta put these up on the screen. So, so, so, um, we went to Nobu. Okay. And I posted the pictures on Twitter. Okay. A girl retweets and says the things that's coming to my mind, looking at this picture.

[01:04:35] Now, I never tweeted. Okay. Nothing to do with that. I did though. Oh, you tweeted it? Oh, okay. I did. I did. I did. I did. Cause I was like, say what you want. Oh, provoking. Niggas engaged in the fuckery. That niggas, I'm a bad. You said, that's pretty your mind, baby. Nah, cause. Oh, he said on timeline? Yes.

[01:05:05] And I definitely responded. Under underneath the repose. Underneath the approach. She was like, yo, the things that's coming to my mind. I'm like, well, what, what are they? I'm just curious. Share with the class. I was hoping she responded with, under. She took it to the DM. As you should. Class, huh? Yeah, class. Classy, not trashy. Yeah. Now, can you express what we're saying? I think. Things that a man shouldn't hear when he's in a relationship. Did she do these things? Huh? Did she get to do these things? No.

[01:05:34] I was in a relationship. Well, you know that. You know that. You know that. No, I did. Nah, I never did. And so many times, so much time has passed since then. What that mean? What that mean? She had the thought? Like, you got better clothes, man. What we doing? We got your own crib, man. Nigga here isolating himself. I'm like, man, I revisit mad thoughts every day, bro. You sure? She can revisit that thought. Remember why she was talking? Like, we got some ways to do it.

[01:06:03] We got some ways to do it. Remember what? Remember what? How about that? So, about this. Right. About this tweet. He said, yo, this came to mind right now. Oh, shit. I gotta put this on my brain. Oh, yeah. I just told y'all get. So, yeah. Nah, I've been in both situations. It is, I like when, it is funnier though when guys compliments you while you out with your girl. They be like, yo, I fuck with that fit, gang.

[01:06:33] You gotta make it. Yeah. They gotta make it. They gotta make it. Be like, yo, that shit, yo, that shit hard. Fuck my head niggas with the Jay-Z. Niggas be sick, man. I'ma start hitting niggas with the Quan-E. Like, you looking, gang. I do like getting complimented off my sneakers and stuff like that when I'm out. Like, yeah, you bodied that shit. Yeah. But that's how you know, that's how you know you really got a good fit on for a nigga to compliment you. He got out of his own ego. While you with your girl? Oh, yeah. Yeah.

[01:07:03] One time I was with your man, she was, she literally said it like, why he on your dick like that? I'm like, yo. Imagine hearing that. Yo, be nice. No, no. Now you on my dick. Cause the nigga was telling me something. Why you couldn't agree? Now that's an argument. Yeah, why you couldn't agree? You hating now. That's a whole nother topic. When your girl become your hater? Oh, man. Let's get out of here. Yo, it's a sad thing.

[01:07:33] That's a sad thing. We put that on the topic. Yo, yo, yo, yo. Yo, yo, yo. Don't have that shit on there. Yo. We put out another qu- It's in the real world! That's a number one, man. In the real world! Yeah, you ain't know- You gotta quiet down the fun. What she get on the phone. You gotta leave the spot just to go talk. Yo. Oh, shoot. Yo, you rain know. Yo, boy. Yo, you rain know what it is, man. Stop.

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