Episode 308: "Montoya!!!!"
In this episode, we're diving into revenge, forgiveness, and knowing when to let things go—or double down.
We start with 50 Cent's viral posts about Irv Gotti, Big Meech, and Lil Meech. Were his posts distasteful, or was he completely justified in his response? Is revenge ever warranted, or should we just let karma handle it? (12:33 - 18:10)
Then, we get into one of the most insane moments in reality TV history—Montoya from Temptation Island watching his girl have sex with another man. 😳 This shocking moment leads us into a deep dive on forgiveness—when it's necessary, when it's forced, and whether we ever truly let things go. (21:59 - 31:55)
We break down:
🔥 The four stages of forgiveness (33:48 - 1:16:42)
🔹 Are we truly forgiving, or just letting things slide?
🔹 Can we forgive people who aren't directly connected to us?
🔹 What does real forgiveness look like, and is it always necessary?
This episode is raw, hilarious, and guaranteed to spark conversation. Let us know—do you forgive, or do you hold onto the grudge? 👀
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[00:00:00] Y'all ready? Yeah. You already know where it is. I think so. You already know where this man is Dom Peasley. Alongside of LaShawn. Just have a beautiful day here hanging out with my friends at um LA's mansion. Um, So on his base in this bitch. Not enough. Not enough. You don't want somebody taking up lawyer? I need more, I need more space for more people. Really? Yeah. Naked one kids bro. Damn how we, you just be, you just be over, you be just. You can't make up your mind. Oh you know why, you know why? After yesterday?
[00:00:30] After the day I had yesterday, I literally sat on this couch and said I need help. Niggas I'm cleaning up my fridge. I'm like this nigga. He ain't just clean up his fridge and I'll hear from him. Niggas clean up the whole crib. I was like, yeah, so nigga playing 2k for five for two hours in advance. I said, yeah, he's done for. He's out of here.
[00:00:55] Can you imagine you gotta come home, long day of work, cook clean, and take care of somebody else? Nah, I need help. And imagine the kid don't take a, um, defrost a chicken? I can't even think about that. I, I, I can't get mad at that cause I forgot to do that too, so. Still forgetting to do that shit? No, no, no. That one time taught me well. But still, I was mad at myself. So I can't be mad at somebody for doing the same shit. You only after a long day of work, you're not gonna be mad. Bro.
[00:01:23] You say I think you say that now cause you know, bro, you just ordering. Fuck it. Yeah, just remind me I forgot to pay pitch. See? But yeah, but see, come home. You know, it'd be somebody help you around this place. You know, speaking of chicken, then they like shut down, um, the live poultry, uh, houses in New York. So you can't like, oh, the poultry? I thought you said poetry. Poultry. Poetry. Oh, you took my, they did?
[00:01:55] What bro, what the, yo, is this the last days? You feel like it? Sometimes it feels like that. Bro, there's one thing, there's another thing. It's the president. Snickers a fucking virus. But how's everybody? How was everybody's week? Start off with Joe. Well, start off with you. You're going around the wall. Okay, my week was pretty cool. Had two shoots, had no assistance. See? You need help in life, bro.
[00:02:24] Nah, most of the, most of the team was in, um, Arizona. Um, doing, doing, doing, doing some reflex. Sorry. I actually said that in my head when I said it. Um, doing some golf shit. But other than that, it's pretty cool. Jim. You was, oh, they was golfing? Now they were shooting some shit for something like a golf. Part of the brand. But, um, applying to jobs per usual. And just doing the things. Applying for work at work. Actually, I think my, the art director saw me applying to jobs.
[00:02:54] So he's like, yo, what you think about this? I think I'm contracting. I don't give a fuck. I don't give a fuck. I think that's the purpose of self. Why would I tell the truth? This guy's funny. I'm doing fucking great.
[00:03:24] See, that's my face. I love it here. I feel like I'm overly dedicated to a brand. Yeah, man, you gotta sell Every day I look at Ralph Lauren to see if they're fucking hiring. Oh, that's what you want to end up. We'll love that I won't do something serious like the job is cool But what if you say something like that I got this is a cool job. It's like I want to you know make it said I want to be I'm trying to get ass out here
[00:03:53] I'm trying to be serious. I feel you now Ralph Lauren is where we got For now we gotta run down on them. I Have to hit up pad to talk to somebody Pat knows somebody at Ralph Lauren Oh, yeah Timmy patterns related And they They don't want who came up with the kissing custom thing
[00:04:29] To the country You still gotta drive around everyone. You know what's crazy? I had caught ice on name I I I I I I I I I I
[00:05:06] I Got it to chill on that Friends like that, right? How was everybody else's week man? I
[00:05:35] Had a real good week, man. I love it I will real good in every sense of word. I guess you could say what I print the I say is productive encouraging and folks will I Would use them words to describe my week. That's good. It's good If you listen to this if you're listening to this on Monday say a prayer for a nigga, you know, sir For nigga
[00:06:01] For sure though, but yeah had a good week man. I can't complain and Ready for summertime Am I ready for summertime? Absolutely, bro Like I was on the phone my mom she over there complaining about the heat in Ghana. I'm like your mom we bout to get Snow the day, bro. We want to get snow. Don't tell me It's too hot. I can't finish my rice. I'm too high in the kitchen get out the kitchen and go sit in the living room Like what are you telling me right now? There's reason but um how I miss remote work I'm definitely definitely definitely ready for the summer man
[00:06:31] Cuz I feel like I'll be in a position to enjoy my summer better than I have in a while We're gonna start another thing too as well called um rosebud thorn So the rose would be the great thing that happened to you for the week The bud would be the thing that you're looking forward to and it will be the thing that you just like You do we can start that next week. I've learned that from the white people at my job I think I think you go I hate following Kojo because Kojo be going on and I'm like, oh, it's great
[00:07:01] So, come on, try to try to try to like I just can't talk about why it was great yet Okay, so I'm like I gotta Pay for negative. Yeah I mean the blessing already I'm just waiting for extra at this point Oh, I think it's being Greek She want her cup to run it I ended it would show me how good it can get I'm waiting on the I love that actually Yeah, that's tired Shawnee, how was it work for you? Cuz really I think we were all worried about you Oh, cuz I was back on that plane Once I saw a new location
[00:07:31] Once I seen Texas I was like this thing That first flight boy I took the anointing oil I think it's mad and smack inside the plane walking on that It had to be the best the blessed plane And the bad news still rolling in all week My mom wanted to text me to save those while I'm on the plane I said, okay, mom you see my location, right? You think this is a good idea to show me a plane? I'm sorry, we show now I'm sorry, Thomas Son
[00:07:59] I got there mad early with the anointing oil Yo Touched every chair Every chair in the plane? How? Everybody blessed Everybody blessed So you make sure everybody was happy Everybody blessed We gon' be good guys We gon' be good The crazy part is the first flight only had 34 people Oh damn man So that was an empty flight, bro Not in the air, bro Yeah, I never
[00:08:27] Cuz I usually work the 6am flights going anywhere in the world That's the I get my day over with I ain't never see a 6am flight that empty Peace So first flight was smooth I think once we got up and went down It was kinda like, alright, I'm back into motion Um But I worked the 2-1-1 What's that? Speak for the people who don't know what it's like Two flight The first day was two flights The second day was one flight The last day was one flight That shit worked Easy bruh Beautiful That's when you say you get back by 4am
[00:08:56] I'm like, bro, how is this 12? High credit! What's your usual? 2-2-2? Probably 2-2-2 Yeah, yeah, yeah Probably 2-2-2 I avoid doing 3 flights in one day That shit is a lot of work The Tampa joins, ain't it? Yeah, and I didn't go through Florida Yeah, that was a beautiful I gotta find those I gotta find those type of trips No Florida No Atlanta You did Utah this week, didn't you? Yeah Yeah, I was in Salt Lake I didn't see that I didn't see that one I was in Salt Lake Uh The last night The first night I was in Houston
[00:09:27] Shows down to Houston I had a good time in Houston Why you saying it like that though? I spent my whole Houston layover talking to Dane What y'all was talking about? Don't worry about it My bad My bad My bad Um Went for a good walk Went for a good walk Killed Madtown Um How's the weather in Houston? That's beautiful as ever Better than this shit Beautiful as ever Salt Lake was nice weather too Yeah, Salt Lake was alright too Um
[00:09:57] Then came back home Landed by like 10 10.30 Went to go get a haircut Came home Got straight to cleaning Domestic you a domestic I really am And that's why I need a domesticated woman Bro, we gotta go 50-50 on this shit bro Fuck all that bullshit They talking about We need it We split and rent bro Nah, I won't do that I won't do that I won't do that I'll handle I'll handle Clean the cleaning and cooking like shared
[00:10:25] Yeah helping nigga out please Helping nigga out Yeah It depends It depends I'm fair though Cause if her week was just as hard And I got home first I ain't sit here waiting You know Woman No, we stop Nah I thought we had an agreement How about that? How about that? But yeah, that shit did make me realize Yeah I gotta I need I need God help me out with some help Please send the help Do you want me to help you out eat too? Or are you good all free?
[00:10:56] You wanna clean my house? Nah, I'm saying like Nigga, Joe over here giving up free labels for you If that's you doing, you let me know brother What you mean? Nah, I mean if you need me to like, you know, help you out With the help that you need Nah, I think You've done enough You've done enough You and Kwame have done enough You know what I'm saying? Nah Nah, I think Nah, I think that ship sailed I think so Shipwreck Um What else? What else happened this week?
[00:11:26] That's it I think it's been like a productive Like pretty chill week Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah And it flew by It did It did It did See and it flew by by for me I was in Tuesday for three weeks Tuesday? Oh, I had I had therapy this week I was there I ain't like it I ain't like it One of the weeks? Yeah She was talking about shit I ain't wanna talk about She was trying Nah, nah, I'm being past that She was trying for us Oh Converse Nah, nah, nah, nah No air conditioner
[00:11:56] Oh, yeah Yeah Oh Speaking of that When I got to my hotel room in Houston My AC wasn't working And I was like Damn, that's two ACs That's not working These are two ACs ain't work out It's crazy Hot Nah, nah Nah, nah, nah Nah, nah, bro Shout out to you Yeah, thanks Shout out to you Wherever you are in the world Wherever you are
[00:12:23] Wherever you are Yo We should be laughing at you Oh my god You gotta laugh at the pay bro You gotta laugh at the pay bro You do But yeah What we talking about today, bitch Oh Let's see Oh God I'm watching Irv Gotti Recipes There's a lot that goes into that When I saw that post But the unfortunate part was When I saw him Like that he passed It's a person that I saw that posted it Who, 50? Yeah Oh yeah, he was wild
[00:12:53] I was like, oh, you think so? I mean For me Like I don't play with that No matter what Or who it is So like If Honestly, God forbid could pass away And I'm still gonna say You know Bullet fools Even my Even my worst enemy When they pass I'm not saying nothing, bro Like nothing this bad Like I'm not gonna like Spit on their grave Literally a figure Won't pee on it? Pee, piss, shit None of that I wanna do anything I'm
[00:13:22] Because yeah, cause they ain't on front Cause the universe universe is missing foul shit to you 50 though But that's tough to say That's a crazy That's crazy to say The universe would do some foul shit Cause what if He was part of the universe that did foul shit to you? So it's just a bro You retaliate? I guess the universe? Yeah What if he was part of the universe? That did something wrong to you? I mean, that's the that's year-long smoke So it's like that smoke literally never cleared like Niggas stood in like each other Niggas Niggas
[00:13:52] Got cool with everybody else except for him like that But you see the people who use cooler whoever was cool So it was like Yeah, the thing is that you You also wouldn't expect to do anything else I think he's consistent in his In his wild His wild antiques and her behavior but You know, he's certain things I gotta sit out It's just corny He's perpetually corny Did you see a shanty shirt? Did you see a shanty shirt? You seen a shanty shirt? I wouldn't have said nothing either way I think I'll shout out for taking the high roll How'd you feel about that too? I think it was She took the high roll? She took the high roll?
[00:14:21] Yeah, she took the high roll I don't know what I would have to do that She took the high roll She she she I didn't see what she said What she said It was basically just like You know, we didn't get along at this time But would you definitely did my career? Yeah, that's a high roll Cuz if you ever watch her Interview with Angie Martinez Yeah, dude And all that he did dog Yeah, yeah That's the high roll That's a high as fuck That's a high ass roll I can't front That's a high roll I'm glad you there Cuz like is there a better road to take?
[00:14:51] Isn't the high road always the best road to take? Sometimes you don't gotta even drive Like say nothing Yeah, say nothing Yeah, sometimes it'd be a head-on collision Yeah I could literally be like I bet Yeah, so Sometimes you just don't even get in the car, bro Or you could be the petty person Depends how you wanna be For me personally I know if anybody that I was at odds with passes away You don't expect me to say anything I won't be in the car at all I rode well rode with none of that Are you gonna? Would you do it privately is the question?
[00:15:23] No Like not posting You're just not saying anything at all Not at all I have nothing to say That sucks Yeah You know what's crazy? The inner thoughts might be as negative as like Okay You know what I'm saying? Like I get I can understand like Feeling like See I'm just wondering if you're like If you think about it in your mind Like oh wait Yeah, yeah, yeah For sure like I mean One less person in the world Well that's lying I'm like I feel like we all have those dark thoughts I'm like I've never like said nothing out loud Not like that Like What being said All ops Remember that
[00:15:54] You We don't Now turn it off the lights Is it? I've been I was morning I didn't see the light till I was a man I'm gonna have to watch that shit again That shit was too good That's how dark it gets I'm gonna refresh your spirits for your money I love that shit I love that shit That shit so well So Goodbye I understand uh 50 side You do? Yeah Y'all done heard me Yeah
[00:16:24] Y'all done heard me on my stance on particular people I can't wait till they dead I see I can't go I can't I ain't gonna front I understand that But I understand Joe at the same time I was like I can't go that far I don't think I can go that far Like there's people I was like I ain't gonna front Clap you right now I'm sure that's real That's real like That's that But I don't want that to Cause that shit Fills you up bro I can't I don't want that Aight Cause so now right As a human just observing
[00:16:53] Obviously we're not in their situation We're not we don't have No like we don't have any ties to what they got going on Do you think that's something that you could be like I'm not supporting 50 no more Like that was like too far No cause we We know this is who he is You think so? How we We know this is who he is This has been him forever Yeah He has public beef with his child I would never I would never And then Vic hates him I don't think But I don't think if Marquise passed away Like What?
[00:17:23] I don't think 50 is doing that What he did to Err I said alright would you be surprised? Would I be surprised? No But I don't think he was surprised I think I'd be surprised You'd be surprised if he did it to his son? I know he doesn't like his son But that's like I think it killed off Sean And that's how No But it's like yo bro It's like I can see the It but takes life Yo I'm thinking like The nigga killed off his son in the show I was like I was really like that It's really like that It's like my nigga so you dead to me Yeah, that's not crazy I wouldn't be surprised I would I wouldn't be I wouldn't nigga but
[00:17:54] It's only got one kid now So she like that like He said that already Yeah, he's been saying Yeah, he's been Yeah So I don't know I wouldn't be surprised though That would Anything that he does that's like Quote-unquote ill taste Yeah, that would be surprised I want so So what about the big beach situation? Cause that was what happened this week I believe Big Beach took a picture with Rilus Yeah, it did the whole like promotion thing They were doing this Party They go
[00:18:24] Pause but they gonna slut me show money He just came home They gonna have mad parties with him But it's mech party himself It's his party that they promote So he he low-key having a festival type shit Yeah For his welcome home party Ross's I guess one of the headliners And they were just doing promo for it But obviously, you know 50 had the rights to be a mess and all of that So It's like a businessman, but Where's the party? Ellen I think I think it's in Atlanta I'm wondering why this thing I'm wondering why this thing is so out there
[00:18:54] It's in Houston It might Yeah, it is They talked about it Okay Yeah, yeah So it is in Houston Didn't even know I'm little me shit happen this week Yeah Yeah Both happened Both happened this week So Actually like Do you understand Spity's Anger In a sense we're kind of like It's like When If one of y'all go through y'all breakups And y'all girlfriend Disassociates with us too Nigga, I was on your side She don't want nothing to do with him
[00:19:24] Or any of his friends What's the difference? Your father did some nut shit I'm not putting money in your family pocket No more, right? Nigga said what next season? What season? I get it I mean people disassociate from The person and all of their peers So that nigga's not loyal? I bet So you don't think Big me should have been like Like Congress said Or the fact that Yo Somebody who has Been That's not That's not my smoke That's not my smoke though It's not his smoke But like
[00:19:54] Just like the level of like Awareness like Yo Somebody who's actively helping me And hasn't been helping me And helping my family And my legacy's name Does not Does not get along with this other individual Should not publicly be aligned with that person Like it's actively happening Like people are waiting for a season 4 Or season 3 Or whatever season is being met Like Should you should Should big me to be aware of that Like yo Nah, like 50 to me hold up Make that real for Unless Rawls at the middle I mean business is business, right?
[00:20:23] Business is business a person knows personal I don't 50 plus 50 plus 50 plus 50 cross those lines a lot Like he feel like just because Well It I can assume That if I do business with you He don't like that You associate With people he don't like On a personal level That don't make no sense Cause I don't think he would tell that Who Up front of his show Stars? Yeah I don't think he would go and Stars his corporate office
[00:20:51] If they give Ross a show and say I'm not doing business with Jembo He's I don't think so But the thing is He had friends of these stars Every year Over Other shit That has nothing to do He would go to fucking epic I was like Out of there for If Ross get a show on this But for a person that has a lot of smoke I don't think you could Yeah That's what I'm saying You're all like It's not a smart move though But it's like You're all like half the population But that's a crazy part It's never really effective He's always been successful You know with all his enemies From the rip Like the music The music stopped
[00:21:20] And then he turned into a media mobile And it's crazy how somebody with that many enemies Still succeeds And I know I'm a supporter I've watched every fucking season of Power Every season of Ghost I've watched every season of Every spinoff I've watched Spinoff I've watched Be A Man I've watched everything bro I've watched everything I've watched everything Forrest Dan He's thinking my birthday twin So I got feelings sometimes But like I'm not like him man No way though Nah that ain't go from I'm not like I'm not I wouldn't do what he did Like I wouldn't do that bro
[00:21:50] You got your moments But I'm not I ain't been shot by nine times That much By the grace of God I don't want that much too much Wait what's on the doctor What's on the doctor Oh My favorite part I looked forward to this And we are So A part of my layover I was laying down in my room Scrolling aimlessly And then I just saw this shit in Spanish
[00:22:20] And We gonna turn to our Spanish correspondent And that's exactly what I did I was like yo bro We're gonna chat yo Why is this mean? But But It seemed like a A love island type of Reality show It's called temptation island Temptation island Well That mum That island was full of temptation Absolutely Matter of fact Is that Is that the same thing as the
[00:22:49] The temptations resort In Jamaica? I've never been I've heard I've heard stories about that place I'm dead Oh You said kinda? Not that I'm dead Oh So I think I don't know what the Oh the show is called temptation island That's what I was told The show is called Montoya to be Montoya That's That's all I know right? Now The reason I have my laptop Is cause we gonna watch this in live action We gonna We gonna
[00:23:19] Cause best believe We gonna react live We gonna react live So So Have I seen it? Oh no? I'm 20 I don't even see it You can be slightly on the VCR We have no work to do today We Definitely definitely You're not To Okay I'm not Are you?
[00:23:50] Are you? Yeah, you wrote it in chapel We must talk about this all week boy We was talking about this all week So I See this part of the wall That's just alright I see the pool Why you think he crashed So he was He was He was watching His girl That nigga was crashing out That's his girl He watching his girl
[00:24:22] I ain't proud of everything bro That nigga went streaking He did some shit before He did some shit before I knew That was part one That was part one I didn't see it before That was part one He did some shit before He did some shit before Alright, so let's talk about that Kwani Kwani said he did some shit before So let's Let's go Yeah, like kept all of this shit as a scene That's what That's what she
[00:24:51] That's what she Why nigga 69? No, this is This is her watching him Wait, Kwani, where'd he say Is he really Earlier in the day? Um, we were having a good time No, he didn't have something Is that multiple women or just one? Nah, that's one That's him though That's buddy back Look, so that's That So that was earlier in the day So that's how we get out of the idea Alright, let's talk about that I'm glad you said that That old criminal I watch out
[00:25:21] I watch out Be honest Can we be honest? Can we be honest? That wasn't good I'm still watching it No, no, no, no It gets worse Oh, she did that Kill me She was she Yeah, yeah, wait, I'ma show them I'ma show them We gonna get there We gonna get there This question is not Yeah Cheyenne Yeah Ask the woman that speaks for a woman No, we gonna ask the woman who speaks the language
[00:25:51] You have told a story of how you know You've been uh Your your ex wasn't faithful You ever got your get back? No Did it? No That's a good woman LeBron Well, but That's a good woman LeBron That's a good woman LeBron That's a good woman LeBron I've never been one to believe in get back If you're gonna cheat, cheat first Because you wanted to Don't be a follower Be a leader I like to be a leader So if I wanted to cheat I was gonna do that But I'm not gonna do it because you did it to me
[00:26:21] No I've never heard of him as a leader But shout out to Be a leader That's a good woman LeBron That's a good woman That's a good woman Now Fellas Have y'all ever stayed after to get back? Listen, I don't know if I ever been cheated on Oh she's good I don't know evil That's ridiculous I don't know how I would fuck you up Jack I'm not gonna lie I'm not gonna lie You make the thing I'm on roids I'm wildin' bro I'm raging bro
[00:26:51] I'm gonna go lie Oh my god And that's like He's not gonna get cheated on He's getting embarrassed He's getting embarrassed He's getting embarrassed He's getting embarrassed Alright so let's watch it Let's watch it Let's watch it Let's watch it No no no do that I'm not gonna I'ma say this As a person who has Who had aspirations of a producer Of creating content What we're about to watch Is a producer's dream He's hitting the switch Go go go Everything
[00:27:19] That you can think worked Plus more shit that you didn't even think The lightning Bro let it roll Are you gonna add the producer? I can confirm We have to watch this Listen listen listen listen Oh she can lick her face? Oh lord I'm just kidding We got the English translation text Of course Of course You're going to regret this Oh my god Maria I can't believe you
[00:27:50] Yo I'm gonna think I'm gonna Nah say it What's that? I'm like No it's like nothing is going on in there too So you risk that Yo why she's What? You know how she said Nothing My man had the bitch He kicked the laptop And she bought the big screen You know when you had a good day in school And they rolled the television You know when you had a good day in school The view The view is in back It's on lights So How about Frida's gonna cry at the beach?
[00:28:19] You will regret this for the rest of your life Enjoy Oh she about to enjoy alright Oh she about to get down I'm out of here bro
[00:28:49] This is where it's a production dream Look at him running Show up With the lightning With the lightning With the lightning flashing My son running full speed This is where they just stopped The music start going My man is running Through the sand To stop his girl And she over there riding Look
[00:29:19] Boom boom boom boom He's like Everybody Everybody Everybody Everybody Riding Can you imagine as you run in Can you imagine as you run in Can you imagine as you run in Somebody just jump on her shit? He's gonna see it After He gon He gon smell a room But why about like yo chill Yo chill what? Nah, you know You know what the crazy The craziest part about all of this Is the dude she cheated on
[00:29:48] Is consoling her while she's crying To get back with her man Oh Yeah Yeah Watch watch watch She didn't even change her shirt Now she's still smelling like Eh he hit raw He hit raw Alright They probably edited He pulled it to the side He pulled his shit He pulled his He pulled his He pulled his brief He pulled his brief They usually have them in a little nightstand Yo that nigga is
[00:30:17] I ain't gonna fraud went for a swim I'm like I'm done I'm like I'm like I'm like I went for a swim I'm done He would've probably went to water He would've probably went to water The ground room bro You know why? You don't deserve a tear from me That's what she said Bro, she did All the nigga did with a little striptease What he doing here? He got a lap dance That's all he did You still stand by that one thing? Yo Yo I nah In this life
[00:30:46] In this life In this life I think you should Finshot him Finshot him Finshot him They on a show called Temptation Island He opened the door At that point And you don't have to go low We just talked about that Right? You just said You don't even have to get in the car I wouldn't but I also wouldn't be on a silly ass show called Temptation Island She's also on the round Look look look look Look look look I want all man back And she took off Now she running This is an athletic ass couple
[00:31:17] My nigga They used to be a gym shark with Miami Not this show Yo She knew the way so much her shirt I said it please What? Niggas still smelling like a man Yo Are you freaking me? Why you touching me for? What we doing here? Oh wait this is This is Yeah, it's just starting to piss me off You gotta cut it off Oh this is This is like in Love Island When they go to Casa Amor You see that picture right there? So they're not supposed to go to see each other this time I need to talk about this
[00:31:46] I didn't want this on I didn't want this on I'm still stuck on Shayan saying yo bro he deserved that I didn't say he deserved that I didn't say he deserved that He opened the door Nah bro She went in there I didn't say that She went in there and made herself a sandwich though bro I don't like that I don't like that I don't like that He was Huh? He was drilling her shit yo
[00:32:16] Yo Yo What would you do if you was uh If you was the cheater? I mean you was the guy that she was cheating on with I ain't in front If I was a guy If I was a guy If I was in the room You still hit Why am I coming outside? What nigga called her solo huh? Still beat thump Yeah What? As soon as that scene cut Yo you wanna finish? I be hate nothing you can do that Yeah bro And I found the next episode He was on Tommy Bro the nigga went like this one
[00:32:45] Uh Montoya He just went back He was on Tommy Who wanna start We wanna start watching this Yo I was trying to see if they had it on Plex I'm already gonna get in This nigga sick I wonder how that content made it Made it onto like American It was it's just great TV bro Great TV go find you bro Yeah That was a dream Like at first of all That needs to win an Oscar I said
[00:33:16] The language the language difference It ain't bad bro You felt it You felt It's like listening to bad bunny I don't know what you saying It sounds good Track 3 I don't even know how to say it Track 3 on that album Yeah Luke that shit You know you know man I'm sure you know what track 3 is I don't even know what I said But I'm gonna say But I'm gonna say That shit is great That shit is great That shit just suck me up I'm gonna say I'm gonna say I'm gonna say You're sitting there like I can't believe this shit Alright so
[00:33:44] This actually goes into the episode That I've always That I have written down At the top of the ear right The 4 stages of forgiveness Oh shit Now we all We all try to be I mean everything we talk about About forgiveness Yeah you see how it worked out Alright cool So stage 1 Is uncovering one's anger I don't think we need to uncover We know that shit come from We know that shit come from But
[00:34:14] In the world of trying to forgive somebody I guess you have to You have to What I was told was You have to really understand What you're mad at And that will help you In the forgiving process So I think that's easy I think You think it's easy to understand What you mad at? Yeah What if it's not one thing though? What if it's Like I know we talk about it all the time Like what's a build up and build up and build up a thing And then you crack? So
[00:34:45] Your anger could In the realization could be You're upset with yourself For giving them so much So you're lashing out Not really Cause it's not the straw that breaks the camel's back It's all the haystack that's there And then you just get overwhelmed But you may get You might realize you're upset Because You allowed this to happen For so long So your real anger may not be With them but you Yeah Damn I feel like that's a hard pill to swallow though Cause you volunteered Yeah
[00:35:15] Oh there she go So that's the real uncovering Yeah that's the real uncovering Realizing what you're really mad at And then stage two is The interesting thing Deciding to forgive Is The decision Cause you Because Because you may just wanna be in that Oh I hate this person forever Or it's up forever So if you have that mentality of
[00:35:44] Somebody do you wrong and it's up forever You're never deciding to forgive though Yeah So Even if you figure it out like yeah No I know exactly why I'm I'm staying like that Yup You think that's healthy though? Nah not at all Not at all Not at all Hmm? You said she thinks so? You think it's Oh yeah come on Cheyenne We here we here There are people you cannot forgive And I don't think it impacts me negatively Like there are people I just won't forgive I don't really think about it but There's never gonna be a time like Like you hate that you hate them No not that
[00:36:13] I'm indifferent like they Once you do something to me Where I know I'm not forgiving you I've made like a Proverbial funeral for you in my head So like God bless you But you don't exist in the same plane as me So I don't even think about it Oh plane is not a good word please Oh God Um Dimension Thank you Well What if it's somebody you still have to kinda Um be around and interact with In certain ways And higher control Don't you think that will Like yeah you can say that they're dead to you You know
[00:36:43] In whatever way but What if You have to be around them and You start to develop actual like this name for them because of That's the exposure That should be I don't really I don't know what situation I have to be around somebody I don't You're in a relationship with them Now that Alright That's crazy Hold up What? Hold up How you gonna Yeah That should give me your plan Um Am I being held hostage? I don't think
[00:37:12] I don't think everybody breaks up with the Uh person who hurt them the most They don't So There's a lot of resentment I mean I'm a I'm a product of Uh I'm a product of Staying Staying Staying together for the kids Yeah Right So Yeah My parents decided to stay together For the sake of Raising uh A family Right?
[00:37:41] But I can definitely attest I can speak for both of them and say they didn't forgive each other Or for whatever hurt They both put each other through So That's a That's a situation where you could be around somebody And you're You have a disdain for them But They The main thing is the main thing And let's raise these children I don't know Now go ahead But was it Was it to the To the level of Where Cheyenne saying that Either one of your parents was on something like Yo Yeah Yeah yeah yeah For sure Oh If
[00:38:11] If If If If If If my father goes before her She's not going She's not going She's not going No She would actually laugh if prop somebody calls And be like yo you coming Yeah, so I know it's like that Damn Yeah, so That is That is That smoke Right That's why I can That's why this 50 thing Yeah Okay, so
[00:38:41] So Hearing what How his mother do Are you on that same type of energy would you What you just said about like if somebody If I Decide to stay with someone We're gonna have to know Not that Take the Take a delicious part We gotta get back to that Oh yeah, what should you want to but I'm saying in general Where she's like Like she likes If If your enemy or somebody I did your wrong you I wouldn't laugh I don't think it's funny I wouldn't engage No, I said
[00:39:10] No, she's not gonna laugh that he's dead Someone asked her Like somebody asked if I'm going to the funeral Are you coming? Yeah, no Like why would you even ask that? I would just say oh no I'm booked I nailed it I have a nail appointment That's what I'm saying I brought you laugh That's what I'm saying It's a wash day I'm fine What'd she say that she wanted to respect me though? Oh The uh If I decide to stay I'm gonna forget That's what I want to talk about But we're gonna get back to that Stage three
[00:39:40] Is the work phase And that's the active stage where Individuals actively attempting to understand The person who hurt them Developing compassion towards them And is in the beginning process of letting go of the resentment We call that maturity You know what that sound like That sound like the mature ass shit I'm about to pod Hey bro, get your shit off We should've saved this for Patreon Nah man Fuck This is how we get them work
[00:40:08] Let me tell you why this Was the realization for me When uh When I was speaking to my therapist about this That particular part I was like oh that's why me and Arisia can't work Cause Or wasn't able to work Let me say that Let me say that Because of the work phase that I wasn't willing to do To forgive her Nah she ain't put me through no Montoya shit There's enough damage done But But
[00:40:38] But But But But But um But um I know I didn't put enough work into Cause it's hard to put
[00:41:06] To give the person who hurt you compassion Cause you're still angry Fuck I'm giving you compassion Yeah Yeah If you're angry but that's a part of stage Yeah You know you know That's what I was thinking about when you said it I was like No but No but it also says And is in the And it's the beginning process of letting go So you ain't let go So you ain't let go You're now starting to let go But you may be You may think you are okay And then Another argument happens
[00:41:35] But you're angry You get angry again But you thought you was okay But you get angry about something else Like the actual argument Yeah but the truth Not the shit that you But remember what we were talking about About the uh The straw that broke the camel's back You still got all that Yeah That you didn't really let go of So you may think You may think you healed You read to a space to Phase two Phase two Phase two Is The uh Deciding To forgive
[00:42:06] So I could I'm like you know what I'm gonna let go of this shit that Joe did last week I actually want Nah I'm just I had a thought as well Is letting go and forgiving the same thing? Deciding Essentially Because we're gonna get to uh Phase four That's all I'll figure out Yeah Don't think about it like So letting go Letting go Essentially yeah you let go Give it to God You know You know Jesus take the will But at the same time You like Did you fully let go?
[00:42:36] Like letting go is like I I know what they did But next time If we ever get into an argument And She brings up All the things that I've done I don't bring it up I could But I don't And I ain't never get there Cause I was going Tit for tat too You did this to me? Oh well Oh I did this to you? You did this to me? And now we arguing about What we argued about When we used to argue about
[00:43:05] What we were arguing about Yeah So That's That's not really letting go So That's what I was like I I can't always put that on Her on why we didn't work out Cause essentially I never did the work So Phase three does it just a very mature One thing I think it's the hardest Phase of them all Because It's It's the work part It requires the most The most work The last part The compassion is That's fucking me up bro Like
[00:43:36] How bad is they cut you out? Let's not I don't want to just use her But I Whoever How bad is they? We can Think about it like our parents We just Yeah Like we talked about Understanding why our parents Act the way they do Because of where they come from That's finding compassion for someone Who may have Hurt you Okay I feel like a lot of us get there At some point It may be different I got there A part of me got there Yesterday Like I I know I joked about How Tired I was
[00:44:06] But that shit was a Deadass realization That like yo My mom worked two jobs Came home Cooked Clean And made sure We were good You know what I'm saying? And I'm like I ain't even And she had a I had a head start I got home at 11 When She was getting home Four five o'clock Dinner done by eight I'm doing the same shit again Clothes My clothes was pressed An iron for school The next day When she got time to sleep And then I was like Damn
[00:44:36] Yeah Yeah And that's like a Monday through Friday Type of shit Then Saturday morning She going She going to the grocery store Coming back Clean Oh well Season the food Then clean the house Sunday she cooked Then Monday It's like damn What was life like for her? So that So for me That's the compassion part That I'm now getting to Because I guess I have to put my foot in her shoes As trying to fend for myself It's a dope thing man Yeah I didn't Yo listen Listen listen listen
[00:45:05] You know what? I ain't signed up for all of this shit And let me tell you something To the people out there That's with people that They don't really like Leave that person bro Life is too hard to be doing this shit With somebody you don't like You just torturing yourself Hey Yeah nah Or at least they don't help Like no type of assistance Like I'm talking about like Generally helping Like you know Don tired Let's say like Don got a big shoot He tired But he already cleaned his camera lens For tomorrow
[00:45:35] You know what I'm saying? Like Yes Hell yeah You know what I'm saying? They can definitely make me launch the other day You know what I'm saying? Just anything that will make your day easier So even Okay Don cleaned his lens He just gotta open the fridge Grab and go That's a Anything that could save me time Help my life That shit made me realize Alright I know what I really want In life now Trying to do this shit by yourself Yeah so To be considered You know I think I'm jacking that I don't think it's the highest form of love
[00:46:04] I ain't taking that I ain't going all the way there The extra thought But that yeah To be a Compassionate partner That shit That shit is That shit is swaggy Um But the work phase Yeah I think that's the most Difficult part Because you have to Under You have to give somebody Compassion for hurting you Wow Like you did this to me Like that's why That's why Even going back to the 50 thing He don't have compassion To anybody who's associated That caused them all But dude
[00:46:34] Then it comes to the point Like do you blame Exactly you Or maybe You just not capable You're just not capable Of doing it I doubt it He is capable I've seen him Forget people He didn't fuck with him before He called Fat Joe Fat Joe Jada Kiss Yeah but I think But as we talked about earlier It's like what'd you do to me He took it there though But he took it there Yeah he took it there And they They didn't have to forgive him Yes but I think It's realizing Who the nigga is And realizing like Yo shit he wanna work things out
[00:47:03] Like I guess we stick But like I said though What'd you do Like Gotti And And ruling him Let's go Yeah So it's like And then you could go a little deeper Essentially working towards forgiveness By trying to see the situation From the offender's perspective And accepting the pain caused by the offense It's considered the core part of forgiveness Where healing truly begins So Great starts nigga
[00:47:33] What So now you have to look I'll go get there Now you have to be like Now you have to put themselves in Now you have to put yourselves in them In their shoes And attack you And understand why they attacked you like that And be like What made them do this? I can see I wanna be pussy Or yeah Well Or I can see how I drew that reaction out Yeah I'm like this might be too mature What? Yeah
[00:48:04] Alright look Listen let me read it again One more time Work it towards forgiveness By trying to see the situation From the offender's perspective And accepting the pain caused by the offense It is considered the core part of forgiveness We're healing be Jesus I might have to go back to therapy bro I wanna know Well okay So Hearing it again
[00:48:32] That's how we're forgiveness begins That's that That's where it's healing Yeah You can forgive somebody You're still not be healed Yeah for sure Or In that phase Where you Where you forgive them But you're now trying to be healed You know? So Yeah Damn Do I truly forgive people? Cause I don't Cause well open my eyes Or do I Or do I let shit slide? Yeah there is a difference There is a difference Why do I let shit slide like Letting I forget
[00:49:06] Cause you don't wanna face That's a ball up top? Nah Sometimes Sometimes Sometimes It's a new play It's a new play But let this slide means That you still got that person In the uh Like Yeah Yeah but ball up top isn't Ball up Yeah if we're talking about The origin of ball up top Yeah I think it's very avoidant Yeah it's a Letting things slide Is a avoiding thing Because you're You're not directly Uh Addressing it And the person may not know you let them
[00:49:36] Let them slide Like somebody could say something Really offensive to hurt you And you don't wanna do the back and forth And you feel like you'll get over it yourself And they never know they offended you That's my life story That's not good I'm avoiding the net attack That's not good either I'm with you I'm with Joe in there I don't wanna argue I don't wanna hear this Nah It depends how How much it bothers me Nah I have to advocate for myself Whether it's small, middle, or Okay I mean Or really offensive I think I don't know when I developed this like
[00:50:05] Belief that A lot of shit just ain't that serious And I will be I will be frowning my own I don't know when I developed it But it has carried me through a lot Damn But it is that serious If something bothered you it's that serious Yeah that's what I'm learning too That minimizes you I'm with you Joe I'm with you Joe I'm like I'm with you I don't know what you're saying Because there are also times where I've been writing that statement like Yeah I got over it And I'm like okay Yeah that's true That's true But at least the person know Yo don't cross that line again Yeah You're not you're not giving the proper
[00:50:33] Parameters of what's the threshold to play with you Because if you let me slide two times But the third time is when you say something I can always say But I said all the time Yeah I make this joke all the time Then That's the last time Okay Now Now that's where That's where That's where you would put yourself in my shoes as the offender Be like Yeah, I did let LA slide those two times You probably thought it was okay
[00:51:02] But now I have to say something And that is like okay I could forgive you now Because I That's a great way to put it Yeah So like if we make a joke that you know like don't laugh Bro I don't But the defense It's like a defense mechanism It's like I don't want to see my god Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah True But at the same time like yo don't play with me like that It's okay But if he but if he does that I fight that Like you're not even Joe but fuck if you put Joe in the seat It's like It changes the whole energy of the room though All right
[00:51:31] Then just do it after the After always when we speak in private Just go pick up the phone and be like, you know, bro Like I know you said it in a playful manner But can you not do that? You know It's a joke laughing because you do hear Joe saying it Because Joe could Joe look at it as being soft I can take a joke though Yeah, but But when it bothers you yeah Cause it's a joke at your expense like it's like Yeah, so If a joke bothers me Uh-huh
[00:52:00] Security within myself as Maybe but that don't mean that somebody get to play with your insecurity Yeah Yeah, cause man imagine you come in one is a bad day You don't want squabble Yeah, like You know Yeah He go I don't want you to talk about me and jobs I don't want your co-op on this shit I don't want your co-op on this shit Cut the fuck out Yeah, so I have a better understanding of what y'all What y'all mean with the letting the shit slide there I don't let everybody slide by the way Don't like
[00:52:30] Nobody should slide I mean certain people Don't come in them comments acting like a sweetly We don't got games I know I will turn up Yeah, no It's not a it's not a uh Not letting everybody slide You just don't let people slide period And they don't let nobody slide Not not if I'm not if I'm offended by it or if it hurt my feelings I May not flat out. I may not flat out say yo you hurt my feelings, but I'm gonna let you know What you did? Yeah Oh, yeah
[00:53:13] That's a More masculine Then you not my friend Now we get Now we get Now we get into the process of elimination Now we chopping people off the chopping block for real We taking people out the wells We We We lowering the uh the wedding invitations Yeah, what you mean? Okay. What you mean? You're not gonna deflect that cause you don't take something serious All right, babe. You're not a serious ass nigga. My life is very serious. I'm bad So God since we got We didn't even let you slide How would you think about
[00:53:43] How you think we going forward? How are you going? How we operate? I gotta figure it out cause I don't wanna I don't wanna be nitpicky though You know what? Cause I think I don't front To be honest with you I think so I think so Process your emotions Cause look I could be considered as sensitive cause a lot of shit be bothered magic What's wrong with being said? I don't I'm gonna fry some nice to cry a lot as a kid so now sir shit bother me. I'd be like Don't wanna fight now I'm okay You're like You're like
[00:54:10] But you process your emotions you you you can sit there and say yo am I being sensitive about this or you realize You don't be impulsive in your reactions like as soon as something pop, you know what that hurt my feelings Nigga you ain't even process your feelings enough to know if it really hurt or you just you just watch him out You know I'm saying so you you do the work to to sit with it, you know Think about it and if it's still on your mental the net you go to sleep and you wake up and it's still bothering you
[00:54:38] Then I can't go see I can't go see from angry I think I'd be scared of a nigga I would become if I was like Not delicious Well, no you have to look you have to work on your your multiple reactions on things because you only know maybe one or two different ways to react Like so that's why you're afraid of that because you don't want to turn into that person But if you knew more than if you knew how to fully communicate yourself in a manner that doesn't result in those Ways that you are fearful of you get the same results
[00:55:08] Okay, if people truly fuck with you all the bus but yeah I'm I don't know if y'all are aware but Kanye went on his his annual tweet. Yeah, he said a lot offensive Mm-hmm And I think I've gotten to the point where it's just like you letting that shit slide, you know, it's like he said things that are offensive and You know, I should be taking to heart. Oh my god. He's saying these things But you think the blood of slide how that ain't in close proximity that don't affect you look you a Lincoln Kanye tomorrow
[00:55:37] For example, if LeSean will own a tirade being all types of phobic that impacts you because now it's like you stand by that that's different Yeah, it's just like you just can withhold your dollar and you could not like that That's a thing too. Yeah, I remember buying a Yeezy You can separate the music from the person like you could do shit like that And you don't have to. Some people are I think I don't Yeah, I don't Yeah, I don't really do that Yeah, I don't do that either You don't separate the people from them? Nah You don't listen to R Kelly and you don't listen to that Hell no, I'm not 40 What am I feeding into listen to R Kelly? You've been in a barbecue
[00:56:07] So it's Yee now in that list of people It depends on your moral Yes What about you? Uh I can't tell you the last time I really No, I can't tell you the last time I really bumped Yee like that But I'm not gonna do what we did when we was at that party and the DJ was playing R Kelly What is? Was that? Join us baby channel? I think so We walked up to the DJ and like, you'll turn that off bro Turn that shit on What you doing? Young nigga, young nigga Not really cognizant like like your serious into the situation Play it all kind of like
[00:56:36] Yo bro you got buggy And a baby shower? Yes I think he wasn't cognizant I think people do it for attention now though Maybe He seems to not really understand why Yeah He was it It was turning to a teaching moment at the end At the same time that we could It wasn't really young We could have everything associated with him Probably for his gig or son Do we cut off everything associated with him? I'm gonna say you have to have a song I'm gonna say you have to have a song I'm gonna say you have to have a song I'm not looking through the uh The credits of every song I listen to Like shit You know what I'm saying? I still like clubbing by Marcus Houston That shit That shit's my shit
[00:57:06] And he wrote it That's the Macula beat That's the Macula beat So, but I'm not doing that But like There's certain songs that you know You had on that playlist when the mood was right You got it Take that out I haven't been stopping no Biggie songs from Boyan actually Like if they come on they come in all of them I've avoided that too I can't avoid no Biggie bro I mean I mean yeah But that's what I'm saying It all depends on your moral compass One of me and Cheyenne's best friends moment was like our day 26 concert right?
[00:57:35] Like I can't imagine But that's different They were just crying the other day When I'm talking about like dissociating from certain artists If that's what you decide to do I don't take it out on the people that work with them Cause that's directly stopping their bags Like if day 26 still get their money by touring those songs Yes he wrote them I'm not gonna say like oh he wrote them Yeah, well So I'm not doing it That's a little bit extra I don't do it that way But I don't know they bump Kanye And I loved Kanye But like Yeah I don't He's not in my everyday Yeah it fades out It fades out bro It would make me like so upset
[00:58:05] It's just like Damn I guess I'm just wilding it That's my alarm You know how I feel about Cole right? What if Cole was the perpetrator of anything? Okay Don't say that other one I'm not in the mood Okay yeah we'll leave you know what you're up And we talk about forgiveness in this episode right? Cheyenne you cannot forgive somebody You don't know that man bro I don't know him at all When he hasn't been the soundtrack of my life for the last 15 plus And that's okay Hey Find a new soundtrack I shouldn't forgive him if he apologize You can do it
[00:58:34] You should do whatever You can You just trying to do mental gymnastics I'm like you have to sometime bro Do I go through the same process? Do I go through the same process? Do I go through the same shit as the episode? I don't want to hear this I want to keep listening I love this music I don't know what I'm asking Do I have to go through the same like forgiveness process with somebody who I'm not like Like this with or connected to? You wouldn't be one of the people that he perpetrated the offense on so your forgiveness does not matter What if he did something like what he said something about African women
[00:59:04] You know, don't be So you're not having all business for your people Damn Yeah You You're not going to hear the first you a dream villain A dream villain? A dream villain? A dream villain Yeah So you're saying Drake I had to I had to So Drake does If you're not forgiving If that If that That would That would affect my My My list If Drake was a perpetrator of something Diddy-esque Right?
[00:59:34] Like if that affects how I listen to him going forward I'm not going to be like Damn I have to forgive him and I'm going to Get away my Moral compass My My moral compass and sell my Uh nothing was the same autographed CD Damn Yeah, it's just I I can't The music was the music This is who you are in real life And that's it It's the same thing if any of one of us did something wild And niggas be like Damn but that pod really got me through some tough times
[01:00:03] I can't I can't fuck with that nigga no more so I'm not listening to the pod Thank you for getting me through those tough times But here we are now and it's Clint I figure out something else Yeah! We talk about forgiveness though But you are not someone who need to forgive them Yeah! Well I need to forgive Drake This forgiveness man is I'm talking I'm talking about If what this person does No! Cause I don't idolize these things bro They How about that? I feel like If I have to forgive Drake
[01:00:32] That means I idolized him at one point I'm trying to ask If only people that you are directly connected with are people that you can forget No! Not necessarily Not necessarily I put music artists because I feel like there's a connection I put the I put the I put you I'm not talking about Let's not put music right? Let's say Let's say Hmm
[01:01:01] Let's say Cheyenne gets a boyfriend Right? Cheyenne do some Uh The boyfriend do something To Cheyenne Cheyenne hurts Cheyenne's hurt We help her through it She forgives him and get back with him I We She brings him back around We gonna ice him out? Or we gonna forgive him The way Cheyenne did We ain't directly You know what I'm saying? That's what I'm asking So yes I don't have to answer You can't You can't
[01:01:29] I don't want to use the extreme of Drake or Cole Because they're not like Tangible to us in this situation They provided a service We enjoyed the service Cheyenne on the other hand We have no connection to that boyfriend We have no connection to that boyfriend But Cheyenne We We helped Cheyenne through her hurt You know what I'm saying? She complained But he didn't do nothing to us Exactly So we can still forgive him So my thing Okay Can I Can I Can I Can I Can I Can I Can I
[01:01:56] Can I I used to be the person that Yo If If Niggas did something to Joe Is fuck them niggas Now if Joe get cool with them niggas still I still feel fuck them niggas And then I realized like I didn't say forgive me I'm so mad Why am I holding on to this? If Joe let it go
[01:02:26] Now my thing is Now my thing is though like I don't think I can forgive them I don't think I can forgive them a situation like that God that's tricky We could paw for this public So we ain't gonna do that one That's tricky Yeah Let's go back to Joe's original point You're talking about forgiving people If you wanna go back to Latonya Can people be forgiven? Yes But when people also show you who they are That's a fact This ain't his first go around And he's going on homophobic Anti-Semite Yeah That is who he is
[01:02:54] There is something you can't forgive Poor morals or like Being an awful person He is displaying being an awful person Yeah That is not up to us to forgive If people in his life wanna deal with that Yes But like I wouldn't If somebody close to me was doing stuff like that I love you I'm not going If someone Up to bat for you If you are this type of person I'm cool We had a great run Facts I'll keep the pictures up on Instagram I won't post no new ones God bless Facts The same songs I might still listen to
[01:03:24] Because that's what they meant to me But I won't be like Check it for your new shit I'm also not posting it People be trying to have attention Listen in your house In silence Yeah cause I can't front If we get out just for that I was about to say I don't listen to him at all I was about to say Am I off to You're nothing to me bro Chill That's it And then you took it He just hates black women Oh my Oh yeah Get him the fuck out of here
[01:03:53] Get him the fuck out of here bro And Sha-chan get you out of here It's crazy It won't work It won't work I was never a big fan of the story I got to him that fifth Chick tape And once he did all that So I'm cool Nah so so What I will say What I will say What I will say is right They They Uh He got like Four No three songs that like That shit That shit That shit help No no no no no That's what I'm saying like When I was in a bad mind
[01:04:23] He got he had like two records He got he had two records That was like Got me in my back You have to like You can't let whatever service somebody provide Stop your moral compass Yeah Nina Nina's a great song I just thought about that I love Adidas bro Maybe When I was homeless I was like Yeah That shit helped me I can't cry I still listen to Kanye I'm sorry That shit helped me a lot I still listen to Kanye I can't
[01:04:53] Nah but there's songs like I wonder Yeah that's that's That's my alarm That's that really puts you in a space of like Yo I'ma keep trying Yeah But that That person is no longer that person Yeah So it's kinda like I this song serves this purpose for Inspiration whatever whatever whatever So it's kinda like when they was trying to say Um Martin Luther King Was a sex addict So he would go his speeches by day And go Go Go
[01:05:19] And then go slam dancing with prostitutes at night Am I not gonna Is that what your black ass remote? I'm just saying How did he get here all the time? I don't know Because Because What What What people are trying to say is Oh because this person did serve this thing And he takes away from that Yeah It can But it all depends on your moral compass Now I'm not gonna see him be like Oh, I don't forgive Martin Luther King Nigga I don't say to forgive him for He ain't doing nothing to you right You actually inadvertently Proving Joe's point
[01:05:49] He wasn't gonna clear bro No I'm not What What What I'm not agreeing with Joe Yeah You're actually proving Yeah I'm not agreeing with Joe The point I made with Kanye was If The thing that he said offended you I said When I used to call example I said if he did something that offended me Okay I'm not directly connected to him Or Yeh in any like personal way But they could still do something that offended me So Do I just go to the same Forgive this cycle Yeah but I guess
[01:06:18] I guess it wouldn't be that deep for you to get to phase one through four Yeah Versus A person close to you Cause you mentioned like ideology Like Idolatry and shit like that But like you know It's just I know that You know if it was calling In my sense I feel like the closer the person is to you The harder it is to get through the phases For sure Versus somebody who's not that close to you And you're not gonna see them every day Yeah You don't know somebody can live Yes Yes Yes That's That's the That's the
[01:06:47] That's the That's the That's the That's the Yeah Like Like all these alpha niggas is mad dirty That could offend you What the fuck does that have to do with me Nigga you're an alpha They're just you They're just you They're just you You You have to realize Just because you don't like something Or That doesn't affect you It can't affect other people You're not the only nigga on the earth You should be more like that
[01:07:17] I wouldn't wanna be like that I wouldn't wanna be like that It's not It's not Yeah You can't do that You can't You can't do that I don't know What am I gonna say to them I don't know you nigga I don't even know who my alpha's you know It doesn't It doesn't It doesn't What line you talking about Alright I I But your world is not everybody's world bro you have to stop doing that
[01:07:52] I'm gonna use you in the sense right a person don't know you but disrespect T. You can't get offended by that Yeah, all right. Yeah, what we talking about bro? What we talking about a person don't know dog or don't know you right? They don't know you don't know Don right disrespect your lady in the store, whatever You don't got a right to get offended. Okay, then you don't know that nigga directly You can't even
[01:08:18] Direct exactly exactly so you can get offended by somebody else doing something I just got angry It got me a little angry Yo, there was one time yo bro, there was one time I'm on the phone. I was on the one time on the phone with Larissa I'm mentally having a fight right now. She's in the store. She's in the store And somebody said some nut shit You was right Yo bro, I thought they was talking to her. Yo, bro. I never got into my car so fast Never got into my I did she had to tell me oh, they weren't talking to me
[01:08:47] But the fact that You said that like to a person to an individual or for example We've been on public transportation we ought to see What's up all the time last decade last decade Where we see people going back and forth be like yo, bro, you doing too much Nigga, you're not involved in that altercation Like yo, you do it Yeah I got pipe Relax bro Or the nigga that gets upset yo, you slowing the train down move from the fucking door
[01:09:17] You can get upset or offended by other people that did not directly Chose to shoot at you It's civilization And that and that shout outs to you being so stoic, but Everybody's just not like that If there are more people like quantity We be all monks everybody minding their business Extreme individualism too, which is not great. So You get out I think the quality of the world
[01:09:42] The quality of the world matter, but I don't think everybody should adopt that mindset because then that would apply to a lot of things Because if people aren't offended by things that don't directly impact them, we would have activists because Not all activists are in the group They're not saying what people should They're not saying what people should Focus on themselves and not decently
[01:10:11] I'm not talking about your girl being fucking Nigga, yeah, like that's crazy Obviously, you have a right to fucking go God, they get fucked up I'm talking about Nigga, I don't know what Kanye said I don't give a fuck about what Kanye said Because we're spares They know that people care It's mad He offended Jewish people Yeah, yeah So he he said He said shouts to the man with that start with a H Yeah What? He put out a swastika I didn't know how to say it right Swastika?
[01:10:40] He also have a strong dog class Yeah He's on my free diddy Is he cool with fucking um Who owns his fucking twitter again? He left Actually, he is He's cool, right? Yeah, figure Elon Musk Yep So the last The last phase of forgiveness Is probably Where I'm at In life Where I'm at At the end of it all And it is The deepening phase
[01:11:08] Explain that I will tell you the deepening phase That's where my therapist was getting And Matt getting me upset about Cause I didn't really want to talk about Did you tell your therapist They were upsetting you? I told that at the end Oh I told that at the end Uh The deepening phase is The final stage of The forgiveness process It's when a person begins to feel Less negative emotions About the unjust And may find a new purpose In their life
[01:11:38] People may find meaning In the experience They may feel more connected With others They may experience A decrease in negative emotions Like anger Bitterness Or resentment It's that R word That I have to work on Cause I feel like I do resent a lot of people They may feel A renewed sense of purpose In their life They may recognize How they've grown In the result Of this experience So Maybe I do forget Oh You know this is The
[01:12:18] You should've Never played me like this I hate you forever You know what I'm saying This bothers me forever So Um How can one person How can people Work on forgiveness Empathize They try to understand The circumstances Or motives behind The hurtful act They make a conscious decision You write down The commitment To forgive Or share With someone And view forgiveness As a gift Consider forgiveness As a gift To yourself And that's what
[01:12:48] She was trying to tell me She was like Yo you know The cliche thing You know Forgiveness is not For them It's for you I've heard it A million times I told you You're not the first I'm hoping You're my last Therapist Because I Really fuck with you But I've heard this before It's easier said than done But that That When you When you Try to put yourself In that position Of like What was this person Doing this action Supposed to teach me About likes Bitches ain't Shit
[01:13:18] I ain't gonna I ain't gonna You got The sillies right now You got the sillies Sorry Sorry Um What is it Teachings of our life So Oh Hold on Hold on Hold on Hold on The last person Or the last thing You had to forgive them For Don't say it out loud Just think about it What was Phase four For you Like For y'all to Operate In Cahoots I'm not forgiving I'm not forgiving
[01:13:48] I'm not forgiving That's lady I've been Last shit Slide Mmm Your last time Forgiving somebody It don't have to be Don't always Think forgiveness Has to be like A grand offense I picked up a lot Of obstacles You know Last 365 days So I'm There Yeah I'm I'm Be honest With you
[01:14:19] I don't even know I think Years ago Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah I stopped Hanging out with him Everything You dead He hasn't been to a barbecue Since still Forget that man bro He hasn't been to a family Fuck You realize Don is now Like the The The head of his family Now When it comes to like Social gatherings Nobody else does it Yeah
[01:14:48] Nobody else does it But I'm kicking him out Like he really hasn't been in the backyard Since that shit But um I hung out with him When I went to Miami Over here So Just a little back story There was a time Where I was Doing this young lady Um And we went to one of my friend shows And we hanging out One of my cousins My cousin Said cousin walks in And he like He sees me with her And he was like Oh you wanna go I got went to go do something else He was like
[01:15:18] Yo you wanna go smoke in the car To her She was like Yeah She said yes Yeah I was just like Yo boy I actually wild her I was like Hey on front You gotta Use your brain If you wanted to do that You let me know I'm done But um He knows my story The funniest thing This is the funniest part To me He acts as a yo Do you like dim sum I see apparently She's Asian Um And it took me so long To forgive him But it was like Yo to the point I'm like Are you a kid I won't put myself In a situation Where you will
[01:15:47] Close to one of my joints Like that But um Why you Why you ain't let me slide No no no no no I didn't Go to a barbecue For my home Why weren't you more mad With shorty though I was all serious With her As you see And you never saw her Again Yeah Nah you better Kick the both out He caught ice on her too All right You know what This is episode 400 And whatever She's still listening to the pod though Oh she knew Hi I knew we had one Asian listener Oh
[01:16:20] I seen it in the analytics Like oh we made it that far Oh it's lit Niggas seen the anime emojis crazy But yeah So that That's the That's the drill Yeah bro Forgiving is It's not easy It's easier said than done People say I forgive a lot But I think I think a lot of people Yeah Confused the two The letting shit slide Versus I don't want to Forgive somebody You want to deal with this shit You got to sit here Tell about her feelings
[01:16:50] I'm Yeah Hold on to the bridge Until it become a fly That's why you stopped trying Until it I want to therapy Why you ain't forgive your therapist No she's cool I'm so sorry Talking about my feelings Oh Look at you being avoided We were circling the drain I'm like bro Who you talked about this before I'm like I know my issues I'm not really doing the work I'm paying up 150 bi-weekly Like let's just That's it Oh you had a scoop Damn Oh you're a little toxic ain't you Oh yeah Y'all not realizing I know
[01:17:21] She's Puerto Rican and Dominican Are you fucking Are you crazy Are you mad She's hella toxic After she said Yo Actually said The nigga deserved it I never said that I said he opened the door So he deserved it Y'all interpret it You interpret it I feel like you're blaming it I asked y'all Y'all think y'all would've been able To watch that I ain't gonna front If you see how shorty I showed y'all with my fourth swing I hate water When I would've been Drought out of it I'd have been in that shit like this bro
[01:17:50] I can't even watch them when I like Post after getting a haircut I'm gonna throw up That I would be stupid Why? Why you want attention? You gonna post You gonna post the same picture You sent me On Instagram That's crazy That's That's striking That hurts I can't Oh you're for the streets I can't front I don't think I would love I would love I would love to see the man Who feel like he's strong enough To That he wouldn't have crashed out like that Like You'd have been like You know Fuckbridge is giving money Like Like Like
[01:18:20] Like Ball up top Right? I told you Ball up top Was hurting I think I was just tweeting I ain't gonna front You see I ain't gonna front I ain't gonna front Somebody need to go check on boys bro Somebody need to go check on that man son I ain't gonna front His reaction was warranted bro I ain't gonna front Ripping the shirt And all that shit In the sand Oh Yo bro Like You know how many times I feel told Like Yo You can't just watch things For enjoyment Because I'm always thinking Like
[01:18:49] Oh that wasn't color graded That was ugly That was just Yo I would've been I'd've been in the green room Screaming like I want a chip Like Yo This is This Let's release this tonight Matter of fact Hit the live button Put this on TV Yo That That was just That was just Perfect cinema Bro The score was amazing
[01:19:19] I'm actually gonna watch The music was just Yo bro The lightning flashing As he's running shoreline What is this streaming on? Did this show Who cares? Put it on 2P I don't care Telemundo They still got Telemundo Put it there bro Nah they need to That's why That's why That's why That's why Straight stories on there Nigga That was days of my lives Bro Shouts to him bro
[01:19:49] You know the great one man Thanks for everybody showing up And as you always know man It's down the camera guy You can follow me at StayFocusLA Don't forget to like Comment and subscribe All things What's a good guy Coming out every Monday At 8am But If you're on a Patreon You know You get these on Sunday And you get a bonus episode And Oh Next week It's the anniversary Technically it's the 11th But We're gonna record Saturday
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[01:20:49] He played video games And then he got wings and shit You got wings and shit? I do I don't know We gotta go somewhere We gotta do something Um But uh But yeah We're gonna take a swing And go in live We'll go live We'll be old No you're not drinking So please sign on to the Patreon So I'm gonna have glam Yeah And please sign on to the Patreon That will be the only time That tears for everybody Because we're celebrating The anniversary But if you want us If you love it
[01:21:18] You wanna see us live You wanna spend your Saturday mornings with us Or afternoons That's gonna be insane You know Oh yeah This gonna be the quietest This place ever So How's your wife and kids? We have five seconds of delay Or Nah It naturally comes with a five second delay Yeah It naturally comes with It's actually ten You gotta tell everybody Get the sillies out early Yeah I'm on a soul cycle that morning We have questions back Oh we gonna We gonna just mute it He's gonna get back He's gonna see everybody wildin' He's gonna see Quan with the vein on it
[01:21:48] What the fuck y'all talking about? That's it So yeah We gonna try to take a swing At going live Um This weekend Let's see how that goes Also I wanna randomly shout out My brother for asking me Oh So what do I get with this Patreon? Oh yeah After you literally told him Yo bro He signed up the same day We talked to my land As soon as we all signed off He's an eye man Yeah Good shout out to Bill Shout out to Bill Um But yeah We gonna have more We gonna We should also do Live reaction to shit like this That was great I'm telling you I wanna do an insecure Rewatch
[01:22:17] With my Fully cooked brain It depends It depends on what episode It's just Something that should start triggering me After a while I'm gonna pull the episode Are you happy? That Are you happy Lon? Which one? Yo you have a Oh niggas ain't gonna tell the truth What's your home? What's your home? What's your home? When Lawrence pressed her like Are you happy? Yo you happy with that nigga? What's she doing? What's she about to move in with son? I know I want to I want to I want to I want to I want to I want to I want to Save y'all girl Yeah You happy with that nigga? I've had it happen to me I had to really think if I was happy Well till next time
[01:22:50] I can't front When Lawrence did that shit I was like Waving it Oh that's a nice bag Cause that shit will have you thinking on the spot Yo am I happy with this girl Or do I miss home? That's manipulative If she say yes Well I miss Then you just That's it But usually A nigga ain't gonna pull the Are you happy bag If he ain't confident It's gonna work That's That's actually not true Men have to I have blind I ain't gonna fight There are men that will look me dead in my face And be like
[01:23:20] I just need 10 minutes in a room where Rihanna I can bag Men Not all men have men We talking about like a Lawrence No Connection with Issa You not going You not go Yo listen It's been I've had men that I haven't spoken to In three presidential administrations That say silly stuff like that I'm like what are you talking about? You know what I would like to Start up maybe a Reddit page Or like a male community Of niggas that dated Cheyenne I would love that I would love to just I would fuck Yeah Support group Because
[01:23:50] We are here We are here We are here The emotional abuse She would put a nigga through They did stuff to me They were mean Like can you imagine Can you imagine You and your girl Or you know You know We see something on the timeline You said it to your girl Y'all chat about it And your girl just says Well he opened the door for that Oh nah I need insurance on this relationship Because Insurance on their relationship That's a fact Geico does it
[01:24:18] So if you ever dated Cheyenne You need an emotional support group And you need somebody To talk to DM us Subscribe to The highest tier of the Patreon And then maybe Facts See you do that Nah They just want to Well they didn't Everybody always say Well um This is a topic for this week Executive producer Why did you say that to me? I got a question I just want to I want you to know That Cheyenne was a problem I can't even front I wouldn't even put that In the notes I'm just
[01:24:49] Blindside Cheyenne So Yeah we spoke to This is Instagram as well We'll point up right there In the corner Everybody can see that Live reaction That nigga Cheyenne ain't gonna Are you gonna see the code on? Okay guys Now I only think maybe One would say I was the problem The fact that you have to think about it It's kind of Well cause He's no longer with us Okay He was online Yeah he's the only person He would say I was the problem And I apologize to him for that That's what he used to say Everybody else
[01:25:19] Everybody else Is that one with you? No Okay no no no There was two There was one Oh here we go He's never starting to add up But he wouldn't say I was the problem He didn't know I was the problem I knew all this problem And he kept going No I didn't Emotional support group Yeah for sure We're so cool He wishes me a happy birthday I know that move Let's get out One day is gonna be taken We're gonna celebrate it together Don't worry about it God is the greatest All the time

