[00:00:00] Yo, We already know that Smoke, Fever Lovin' as always Don Peasley Alongside a Little Short Son, I'm Glad Brian that hit it Yo, Boy, What the Yo, Shout out to B man Shout out to B And Shout out to them, I say shout out to the colors Why they go wild I'm wild Yo, Man, This one just found out there Yo, Don't put that on my man Jack, it told me Nah, That's not gonna be there That's brain fault nigga That's not gonna be there Oh, man, Stop doing that shit
[00:00:27] Fellas in the building, how's everybody doing? How's everybody week man? Did I say Alongside a Little Short? You did Oh, okay I feel like that's like a reflex Probably, cause I don't even know I said it How's everybody week? Week was okay, week was okay Solid week Got some good news to close the week So we're going into next week with some good energy And yeah, the weather was better than the week before So I'm rocking with that I love that
[00:00:55] Uh, but yeah man, we're taking this day by day Yeah I wasn't out in Miami with my legs out though Niggas just can't let me live my heart You know what I'm saying? Ankles showing You lucky Cheyenne not here Niggas wanted me to do bro Nah, I was happy for you Ankles definitely wasn't out though I was happy for you though I was happy for you Actually was, I mean Miami was cool Miami is Miami Um, stay at the Goodtown Hotel School Um Doing some shit for work Work stuff
[00:01:24] Running Um Everybody's like Oh, you're having a good time I was like, bro I'm literally waking up at 5 in the morning To work Until like 7 And then I gotta hang out with them Eat You don't gotta hang out with nobody Nah, I kinda do I kinda do It's like the worst of work trip, bro I gotta I gotta really Make sure I'm Solidified in that spot So I gotta sit there and chop it up with them I'm not going to bed till like 11 Waking up at 5 doing it again Doing it again Doing it again So we're doing like six collections Throughout the whole trip Um
[00:01:55] Well, yeah, it was cool I'm fucking tired right now Um Does it feel like work or does it feel like Productivity It felt regular It felt regular It felt regular Like, mad random Like, my highlight from the trip Mad random I saw Cuban Good and Junior Nah, mad radio Somebody suck that baby's dick I was telling G in the car I was telling G in the car I saw him Then I made the reference Everybody was like, Don, Don, Don I said, bro, what the fuck You don't know that? I said, y'all I'm around the wrong group of people
[00:02:23] Somebody suck that baby's dick He was already lit and wild Oh, wait That's how you saw him? I saw him, he was lit and wild He always liked that And he told me to a white woman I said, you know Yeah, yeah, that was Cuba You know his bullshit right? That was Cuba, alright Right, bullshit, but Wow, bro What an experience It's crazy how legendary your career could be And you only remembered by my baby One fucking thing, bro I had to literally play that beat Either that or him getting arrested A smile
[00:02:54] You know, this nigga Nah, he's like that That was a Cuba Good and Junior It's on radio Yeah, that was this one It was a good one all week, so Kinda like just Fucking gasp How about your life? Quanny, how was your week? With them Yeah, I always go last Week was pretty good Made a lot of money? Actually, no Well, I Eh, yeah But I On the market I lost Some money Well, I'm still in my contract So I didn't lose anything But Nvidia and all that stuff
[00:03:23] This week was very nasty So That was a bad part about the week But other than that Shout out to Deep Seek, man That's the new vibe That's the new vibe That's the new vibe Actually, I don't know about that You already know I'm there I'm there I ain't tap all the way in But I got it on my phone Yeah, yeah Before they pack that shit out I gotta get At least get it on my phone Right Nah, Deep Seek is Where it's at? I've been doing my whole week Um But other than that The week was alright Um
[00:03:52] Setting up for I mean there's V-Day's coming up So How many more weeks? Well, this is February 1st So you got 13 days It's a weekend You doing the whole weekend? Friday, Saturday, Sunday? Monday? And Monday's President's Day It's a four day weekend? Yeah Three days Yeah, get ready Kojo Hey That nigga said damn That nigga said damn That nigga did You just gotta spend more money
[00:04:22] And more money And more money Oh, we not outside all of them days Oh, you not gonna do a four day? It's quality time Nah, we can be together We not outside the whole four days I still make some money, bro Comes with the territory, bro I feel ya I feel ya I'm gonna go live The reason why I got off a little bit Valentine's Day I flew Shorty out To Miami for two days While I was out So that little bit A little bit slack Yeah, right A little bit of what? What that means? Yeah, right Yeah, right Huh?
[00:04:52] Exactly What are you talking about? That was in January It's a new month I'm gonna do something You're gonna go out to eat You're gonna do something I just realized this is the first What we doing here? Black History Month too Is it? We still got that? You're gonna tone it Oh, it is Look at that Oh, it is We still got that? You sure they didn't take that away from us? Yo, nah You gonna tone it down? I don't wanna go too crazy Alright You know what I always hate? I'm going to go another vacation in a few months I'm chilling
[00:05:19] Why does Valentine's Day always land on All-Star weekend for NBA, bro? It's always been like that Yeah, like why? That's the NBA's fault Yeah, is this your move it? Or can we move Valentine's Day? Oh, good luck with that Good luck with that You better off moving All-Star weekend Yo, I learned this at a young age, bro Like if a woman ever tells you that she don't care about Valentine's Day Do the opposite And make it the biggest thing ever I learned the hard way You've ever dealt with a woman who said she don't care? When I was younger When I was younger
[00:05:49] Mm-hmm I had that experience and I listened I'm like, oh, you don't care? Fuck it And you ain't do nothing Ain't do nothing Not one thing Not even a rose Nothing Oh, damn I was in college though But you know, I learned from my mistakes though What happened? What was the mistake? The mistake was that I didn't do anything And? And essentially she was sad about that The mistake was that you listened to her? Yeah You see how Kwame framed it? Huh? You see how Kwame framed it? I heard it man I mean she literally said something
[00:06:19] I followed directions I swear I did She was like, oh, I don't care about Valentine's Day That was a test You know That had to be Nice It had to be That had to be You know, what if it's the opposite though? You actually don't like you do the most And she's like, no, you're not listening to me, what I'm saying? I mean Yeah, that is a lose-lose Yeah Do I do like voltage? Whatever Um, like she, I remember she was really sad And she threw her diary at me What the fuck? Did you read it? For me to read it I remember that I just threw it at me Like, yo, what the hell?
[00:06:49] She threw it at me And I read what she had wrote about how it made her feel And that shit made me sad I was like, damn Why did they just say this? Yeah, why Like, why did they just tell me? Man, she threw it at you after Valentine's Day? It was after Valentine's Day Okay After the weekend had passed and all of that Like, I was just like, damn You just hung out? What'd you have to do? He didn't even link her He played ball Nah, nah He went to practice It was so long ago I don't even remember what I did that weekend And probably watching All Star Weekend
[00:07:17] Oh, that might have been Aaron Gordon Don't count as you Oh, damn Maybe I'm not sure Damn I know I was in college I remember watching that But, um, yeah, I just After that I learned I was like, yeah If you're dealing with And I And it's funny he was talking about Brian to start this episode Because I'll never forget Brian was messing with this chick Mm-hmm And Throw his business out there I said, throw Brian business out there Yeah, no, cause I need to Cause of the way you wanna say But he was dealing with this girl, right? And
[00:07:48] I met I met my boy Mike Cribb We was watching the Super Bowl This is the week before the Super Bowl This is the week, you know Valentine's Day, we close the We were watching the Super Bowl And You know, he telling us about his love life And I'm talking to him This is from a person who learned the hallway I say, yo He's like, oh, we have Valentine's Day coming up But I ain't really gonna do nothing I say, yo, bro At least Get her flowers At least You ain't gotta go to dinner You ain't gotta, ah, ah, ah You ain't gotta do all that At least get her flowers He's like, nah, it's not that serious Like, nah, nah, nah Mind you, he likes shorty And she like him
[00:08:18] But did she Did she say she didn't like No It's not about what she said Okay She didn't say guys How are you paying attention? It don't matter what they say No, I don't even know what she said All I know is that Brian decided that He wasn't going to celebrate Valentine's Day with her Or for her Or anything about He wasn't gonna acknowledge it Probably the text message or something But He learned the hard way That's funny Lost his shorty Lost her And you know why He had to try to get it back in blood He went and cashed out a couple times after that Cause he still He was still making up for fucking up that day
[00:08:48] You still didn't get it? No Damn I was talking to a chick Like we just started talking Ironically she live in D.C. Ironically she had kids She had twins How you doing? Ow Alright, alright, alright, alright Alright, alright, alright And It was Valentine's Day No, it was the day after So obviously it was the 15th And she was pressed
[00:09:17] She was like, yo, I know we're now starting to talk But you ain't even at least text me Happy Valentine's Day Yeah, we're great, dude Oops You ain't care? Nigga, no! Why not? We just got low Bro, we was just starting to talk to each other And you in D.C. What you gonna do? Beat my ass? That's a bad mentality, my brother No, it is Just acknowledge the day Look how romantic you are You know what I'm saying? We had this episode Like you a romantic nigga Why not just like show her who you could be What she could get
[00:09:47] Bro, you know what I'm saying? How many? Yo, bro, maybe like three days Oh, get the fuck out of my way Oh, three days Yeah, you ain't saying a lot I said we just started Just started is a month Two months Three days though Imagine you get her something shit out with another nigga Now you tight now No, bro, it's only my third day here The specifics make it different I don't know, what's going on? Why nigga, she can be You bought her some flowers Now another nigga She was like, yo, you can at least You can at least say happy Valentine I think I still got the message I'll allow it Nigga, have a good Tuesday, man I thought you were saying like two months
[00:10:17] Like a month, two months type shit You know what's crazy? I remember because I was I think I was in front of the restaurant For Shayna's birthday So I definitely remember us Us talking about that Shout out to her and her kids, man She good? I don't know nigga Damn Three days Three days, bro I was only there the third day And that was our first I think I think that was our first Phone conversation too
[00:10:47] And shit like that Why don't you keep on the phone? Negativity? Nah No, no, no That was our first phone conversation Like the day before Oh, okay And then Valentine's Day Came by like maybe two days later What you want me to do, man? That's like getting a shot Running down on the shorty I talk for a week It's our birthday, man I don't do that That's an awkward place to be I don't do that
[00:11:16] It's an awkward place to be In any like I've been there In any gift giving season Face birthday was Two days ago Face Who I always talk to you about her face Oh, I peep I didn't even know niggas was friends like that though Nah You know what's funny? I'm like, niggas out on dinner, man? Nah Nah, nah, nah If you paid attention I like that you peep But I peep She just so happened to be at the restaurant Oh
[00:11:45] When she tried to zoom in It was a nigga across the table But she didn't zoom in fast enough Damn So that's like me being at a restaurant I see G there Shout out to my nigga, bro I'm just fucking around I'm fucking around Damn She don't date niggas with kids She don't date niggas with kids See? You gotta have your standard, bro Like snuck into town See yo boy Yeah, she was here for
[00:12:15] I think she was here for career day She so happened to be at the same restaurant She zoomed in But she's... That's funny cause she listened to the pod So she know who we gonna talk about She know who we talking about Hey, I tell ya boy But she was zooming in Happy birthday so and so But you could still see a nigga in a white shirt A little big in the size And Tatiana don't be having group tables like that So that was a one on one table And it was center table You know what I'm saying? Oh, sorry for the... Yeah
[00:12:44] You gotta pay attention to certain things What's going on, man? Okay, I got it It took me a while My bad Okay, I feel like... What the fuck are they talking about? I got it I said face Yeah, but... You know Come on, man Slow, man Shout out to my friends Nah Work was solid Nothing crazy happened at work this week Nice three day I said at work
[00:13:15] Relax, you know Let us build Yeah Then the same day I get home A couple hours later The flight The American airline flight happened Yeah And... And it just shifted the industry Like... The entire industry Because it was a bunch of How did that happen? Um... You said it was what? It was a bunch of what?
[00:13:44] How did that happen? Oh, oh Like HF control did anything Like what's... Then... You know, then the details start coming out And then... I think we said it on a recent episode Where it's like... It's not really like a... A competition on who... Who's better We're just all like... A part of the same fraternity And it's like... Yo, damn Like... Nothing about that situation Can make another flight attendant Not think, damn That could have been me
[00:14:14] You know? And it's not... And it's... And you really don't even know what to say To other crews To... It was just a regular procedure There's nothing in the... In the six to eight weeks training That teaches you about that You know? They're probably five minutes away from landing So... If you're five minutes from landing You probably already did your safety checks You already in your seat You already strapped in
[00:14:43] You probably now getting service You probably texting whoever You know? That's when everybody's probably at the most ease too Right? You're about to be there That was the problem That's the problem For me... I'm not even at the most ease Until... We at that gate Yeah, because... Because landing still Landing... Landings could be rough Sometimes you land and be like Damn, I was a... We need to fix the pavement in this airport That was a rough landing Felt like we hit a pothole And then sometimes, you know People... We land and people wanna get up
[00:15:13] And go to the bathroom And sometimes planes collide On the active runway So until we literally park up And the pilot release the brakes That's not until I take my side, you know? Um... So... That kinda shook the industry Because that was the first collision Like that in 16 years So that's not something common And then now you realize
[00:15:43] Like, okay... There was a... There was a halt on... Air traffic control hiring The FAA leader got... Got fired earlier this year And you just realizing like Yo, who's running the show? And you know... I always have a saying Control what you can control But that even seems insensitive Cause you couldn't control that You can't control that You can't control that Um... A lot of my flight attendant friends Have talked about quitting
[00:16:14] Damn Yeah It's like a process Wait, wait What's the mentality behind that? Yo, bro You just... You just think about... You just think about... I think the main thing is like Yo, that could've been me Yeah But isn't that with any plane crash? It's not, I thought it was with anything My nigga who signs up for that, bro? You know what I'm saying Like I remember... It was a... All these episodes ago I used to say like Yo, you do a job where like Anything can happen in the air Until it happens Right
[00:16:43] And then it puts things in perspective Like... Did you sign up to be a... A flight attendant without knowing that? No, so... Alright, so there's a... The training they do show you All the horrific things that happened over the year And even that week for me I really had to think about I said it before like I don't know if I care about people enough To put my life on the line To save somebody else Mm-hmm So, when you have that realization in itself You... You still gotta think about
[00:17:12] You still have an opportunity to say Hey, I wanna continue with this training or not Yeah But then, you know You think about probability And numbers And the chances of certain things happening Slim to none Until it happens, you know? Um, I don't think... I think it would be interesting to speak to somebody In training right now Who saw what just happened Mm-hmm... On Thursday And be like... Oh, nah, I still wanna do this
[00:17:42] So... Yeah, a lot of people are thinking about A lot of people that I've spoken to Have thought about, you know Just getting away from that sector of the job Um, which is understandable Because it's a lot of... It's a lot of fear now It's a lot of fear in it Because you... Then you really, really understand Like, yo, there's so many parts You just do your part But then... How did y'all not know this plane? And then you listen to the... You listen to the, uh...
[00:18:12] The tower and their conversation They're asking, yo, who got an eye on the... The Blackhawk? Mm-hmm And then boom You know? So it's like... Somebody's mistake And then you think about it That person, no matter... They may get fired They still get to go home It's 67 people The most heartbreaking one was the, uh... The guy who was sitting at the airport And his wife texts him Yeah, that they were landing Yeah I didn't even watch that video
[00:18:41] That shit would've fucked me up I watched it And it was like... He was... And then the, uh... The news reporter was like, you know Can I see the text message? Yeah, yeah, yeah He shows the message And she was like, you know I'm landing in 20 minutes And then you think... In 45 minutes you get to take your wife home Now you never see them again And it's... For me, it put things in perspective For real Cause I was like... At that time... What was I doing at that time? Or whatever
[00:19:11] And then... Like, damn... I've landed later So it can't be like, yo, I'mma avoid night flights Mm-hmm I've landed later than that, you know Or I'mma avoid DC That's kinda hard to avoid That's a major airport Or, you know Then you hear about All these other, uh... Locations that, um... The air traffic controllers are short-staffed And then you really... Then you...
[00:19:38] Then I go in depth on how difficult that job is, you know And why the... What the stress factor is so low I mean the stress factor is so high And why they retire around 50 Or why it's a... You know, so you really think about Your life is in the hands of somebody else And then you can't even... It'd be tough to be like... Cause I had posted something But then I realized that, damn That might've been insensitive too Cause I was like, yo, after that plane crash
[00:20:07] You were like, yo, I thank God every time I... You know, I make it home safe But then who's to say nobody on that plane don't believe in God too? So how can... You know, I try not to... You just don't know what to say in those situations Because, yeah, I'm grateful that I made it But somebody did it 67 people did it So... It's tough It's tough I can't lie, first thing I did was Look to see if it was, uh... Your airline Yeah The first thing, I'm like...
[00:20:37] A little bit at ease, right? But then I start thinking, man He's not the only flight attendant I know Then I started like... Just figuring out who I know And what am I at, but... Come to find out One of the flight attendants went to my high school So I was just like, damn Yeah, and that's another thing too She's 34 She only one year older than me 34, bro With two kids and a husband You know? So it's like... It do put a lot into perspective
[00:21:11] Ironically, yesterday was the day I started my training three years ago So, it's... You know, we all spoke in the group chat yesterday about how we feel And, um... Where's everybody's mind at? A lot of people took, like, a leave of absence Nobody want to touch a plane It's all... Yeah, it's all... The anxiety... I'm sure the anxiety is super high at this point
[00:21:39] Because then you gotta say, the next day another plane crashes in Philly, right? Yep Everything is... It's like, you know, what's going on in the world? Mm-hmm But don't you think it's gonna get to a point, kinda like... Post 9-11 Where everybody felt the same way, even worse maybe And then eventually it goes back to normal Do you think that it would eventually... Everybody would start... Cause... You always hear that it's safer in the air than it is on the road I used to hear that all the time I used to have anxiety about being in the air I used to get on flights and just be like, you know what? It is what it is
[00:22:07] Like, I never really had like too bad of anxiety when I started to get in the air on the regular But do you think that it would eventually get back to a point where everybody's like, alright Like, there's people at these jobs that are trusted to do what they're supposed to do And it's just gonna be a regularity Cause it's not like flights stopped going out yesterday or the day before Like, everything still was moving and they were supposed to You know, so do you think it would get back to a point of like regularity? Eventually, yeah It's a sense of normalcy, you know, they put up a new towel
[00:22:35] But it's tough for those who went through it to still... You know, like they interviewed Which I'm shocked because we got like media clauses in our contracts or with our jobs But the... A lot of these people don't know like the planes is like tag Like you bring a plane in and it go back out Sometimes you work the flight back, but you hand it over So...
[00:23:02] It's like me getting off the plane and you coming on You know, the small talk, yo, how is the plane? Is everything working? Cool, cool, cool But these people know each other So, it's like, yo, I just saw Kojo I just got off the plane that blew up You know what I'm saying? Damn My belongings is still there because I'm probably gonna work that flight back in the morning Because that's how planes work They play time So, it's just as simple as like
[00:23:32] I don't know, for me, it made me It made me think about life a little bit different Like, well, I got... Like if it ended yesterday or whatever The day that the accident happened Am I alright with how it went? Now, the other flight attendant The gentleman He's a beloved guy within the industry Everybody knows him Everybody works... have worked with him And...
[00:24:00] He seemed to be... have been the life of the party You know, he's the one that would take the crew out and have drinks And... He's an older guy, I think that was... That's tough too, everybody's walk of life That was a two man crew, I've never worked with the two... That was also odd to me Because I don't think I've ever been in a plane with a... Well, well, um... It's the regional flights Okay... It's the regional flights that you know, you really...
[00:24:27] And those flights people think are the easiest to work Cause you not in the sky that long Yeah, that's what I thought, I'm like, yo, if I'm going cross country I'll be alright Yeah, so... That plane came from, I think, Wichita to DC That's not a long flight You know, there's a bunch of kids on there though That's true... That was the other part Yeah... Just kids losing their life... And that's why I can't even say, yo, um... We be like, yo, we can't... We gotta stop saying life is short For them, life is short They had a whole future ahead of them They wanted to be Olympians
[00:24:57] They were figure skaters Yeah, it was... So sad... I was on IG and I ended up with one of the kids who passed away's page And he still had an active IG story Yeah... Yeah, I saw that same... Just taking a picture outside the window of the thing Like... You gotta think about how many people like... When you get that close to the ground You get to see like the skyline The city skyline So you flying into DC Somebody is taking a picture of their phone recording the landing One of them kids was probably preparing to make a TikTok You know...
[00:25:27] Just being regular... And it's one of those situations where like... You're solely reminded that um... That uh... Life is short! And you gotta make the best out of it That shit made me real... Made me look at like... My relationships and shit like that Like... My good person... Even on that flight yesterday, like coming back Even... Like I'm literally woke up from like a 20 minute nap And then I see the Philly shit I'm like bro, I still have an hour left on this fucking flight bro
[00:25:57] Yeah, bro, I was like yo bro like... And then you wanna sign up for social... I was like yo bro, I could not go back to sleep bro And I thought about it, I said bro, God forbid this happens to me right now Like I'm okay with hour left everything Am I a good person? Like will I be allowed up there? Like... Yeah, that shit was... That shit had me emotional for like the first two nights I was... I was... Not a light turned on, Con Edison Don't get a dollar out of me bro Turned on a light, barely ate I appreciate everybody that checked in
[00:26:27] You know, but... It sucks man, it sucks Cause I was... I didn't have work that next day So I'm like, usually I pick up a flight Thursday That shit happened I'm like... They kicked his feet up Not even kicked my feet up I was truly interested on how all of this happened And then you look at who's running the show in this country They asked them like yo...
[00:26:53] Cause you know, usually when certain things happen within the country They, you know, the president, the active president Yeah Go to that... Go to the location and see what happened And that's in... It was in DC Yeah, so they asked him yo, are you gonna... Are you gonna visit the accident site? He said am I supposed to go swimming? Oh, he's a dick So it's kinda like damn, that's the active president who's saying... No comment You know what I'm saying? It was to the point where I had to fact check it Cause you know now...
[00:27:21] You had to go watch it for yourself? Yeah, yeah, you had to make sure that like Oh, oh, I searched that quote And Google to see if he really did it So I could see... I'm like yo, bro like... Why did so many people want this guy as president? So there's a... Just talk of this whole like DEI thing and all of that Which is... You mentioned the firing of somebody, right? Yeah Do you think that was a... Kind of a direct impact on this? That... No, I just...
[00:27:50] What I saw was that... Who was in the towers watching the traffic in the air At that specific area Because it's such a busy area out of DC They mistaked... One plane that was... Leaving... For the plane that was coming in Which is why they said it was clear For the... For the Blackhawk to be flying in that... In that vicinity But you can't even... Yo... A job like that... There's no... There can't be no mistakes, bro Yeah... Because...
[00:28:19] And if you look at the tracker That Blackhawk accidentally hit another plane Yeah... Well, it was about... It was close to hitting another plane Prior to hitting... You know? So... I don't know, bro It's just one of those situations Where you just gotta reevaluate And then... My homegirl... She worked for... She worked for United She listened to the Pond too And she was saying like Yo, at a time like this
[00:28:48] She wants a compassionate partner And then you gotta think about the people who... Who are single in this life And you... You know, you going through that shit The job's already lonely And then you really got nobody to vent to about this shit Or at least somebody who's understanding So... I get it I get that For the people who don't wanna do the job anymore I get it For the people who are... Who are scared to go to work I get it
[00:29:18] Um... This ain't really one of those Yo, this is what you signed up for Because I don't think nobody signed up for that part Um... Is it... Do you think it's comparable to like... An athlete, right? Where... You play in a contact sport And you get hurt Where you get injuries involved in it Nah... Where... You don't think it's comparable? Like you don't think... Anything's possible Like... When I was younger and I saw Shawn Livingston leg pop out It never stopped I never looked at it like... Shawn Livingston played again
[00:29:47] These people can't live again Yeah, I know But I'm saying like I still don't wanna ever break my leg You know like... But you understand... Shawn Livingston... Shawn Livingston didn't live up to his potential Because of the injury, right? Because of that, yeah Uh... He's... But... At the end of his career He's known for one of the best mid-range jumpers ever And he's a champion Yeah, no, no I'm saying... I was just thinking about just the mentality of changing your path of life
[00:30:15] Based off of the risk that is there in the path that you choose Is that something that like... Can be attributed to everything in life? Nah, not this one Occupational hazard? Is that what it's called? Nah... Nah... Because... Like I said, it was a mistake on a... On a... On... I don't even wanna put it on nobody But it was a mistake It was a mistake Somebody made a mistake And it cost some... Cost 67...
[00:30:44] Lives Not even just 67 lives Because now you think about... They own their whole families Everybody... You gotta multiply that That man had to... Yo, you just gotta think about it You drove to pick up your girl from the airport I couldn't watch that shit You gotta drive back home Without her Not even... You had to go... You gotta go deal with the cops and the hysteria and all that You gotta go confirm that you're... Well they said no survivors So yeah, like... Yeah, so... Nah, that ain't...
[00:31:13] And it landed in the water, right? Mhm Ain't no surviving that They said the water wasn't even that deep It don't gotta be, bro That impact alone Yeah You not... You not surviving that, bro It's fucking happening It's just... Nah, so... I just... Yeah, cause we said it I always just always think about how like When we're preparing for landing on a flight That's literally the time where I'm just like Finally... I know you say you don't... You do it when you get to the gate
[00:31:43] But I'm just like, yeah, I've been on this shit man long Like, alright, yeah, we finally about to be in the crib When that shit touched down That shit still don't bother you? No, nah What's... My ease... My ease like... Is like... Because I feel like the tough part is in the air I do But I don't know anything I was landing... I was landing and take over always bother me the most I like that Turbulence shit don't bother me no more Really? I don't know why, but it's just like, it just doesn't bother me Yeah But pray it, pray it's to everybody That's fucking unfortunate That shit lost terror, buddy, bro
[00:32:11] I saw this post that kinda go with it And I think it was dope That it puts everything in perspective It said, uh... A good friend of mine unexpectedly lost his wife A couple months later we were golfing together chatting about nothing He asked my... He asked my dinner plans And I told him my wife wanted some homemade chili and cornbread But I didn't feel like stopping at the store We go for a few more minutes And then he quietly said, make the chili
[00:32:40] It took me a few minutes to realize we're no longer talking about dinner It's about going out your way to make something special for someone you love Because at any moment you can... They can be unexpectedly taken from you So today I'm sharing with you the wisdom that was handed to me by a dear friend That I would've thought of many times since that day Next time someone you love wants you to go for a walk Watch a football game, play a board game Or just put on the phone, put the phone down and give them your undivided intention
[00:33:09] Just do it, make the chili So I thought that was, you know Cause you always... You always think you gon' come back You leave the crib, I'll be back Yeah Sometimes you don't come back home So, yeah, I saw that post and I was like, yeah, I felt that That's the toughest part of our life is that Make the chili The statement and the sentiment is so true, so real But it's just... It also feels impossible to always make the chili
[00:33:41] Because I'm sure the gentleman at first didn't want to not make the chili Cause he don't love his wife Yeah Whatever was blocking it first time Is what it was The only reason why his friend had the wherewithal to let him know Like, nah, it's important to make the chili because he dealt with a tragedy Yeah You know what I'm saying? It's hard to... And you gotta imagine, yo, bro Imagine somebody on that plane Beefing with they significant other Like, hey Yeah
[00:34:12] And then you realize, yo, what's this? Worth it Whatever we was fighting about Never worth it Now, that don't mean that whatever y'all were arguing about wasn't serious But then when you think about the sensitivity of life Like, damn it's what we beefing about You know, so Hug your person a little tighter And then, not to bring up that but We talked about it, we made a joke about it Like, yo, I said I don't like going to sleep without telling the shorty You know what I'm saying? Beefing with shorty because shit like that
[00:34:40] It's real shit though, we make jokes about it but it's real shit though It's real shit though, Monica like But now, now, you know? That's Don's point, yo, make the chili It's like shit, anything can really happen, bro Yeah, cause I can't imagine I can't imagine me beefing with somebody and then Waking up on the news And the thing is, that could happen in all walks of life, right? So right now, if we think about anybody who we're now on good terms with
[00:35:09] That is fixable, are we gonna leave here And the first thing we gonna do is Prioritize fixing that? Is that how we move? Is the relationship worth it? Don't look at me like that, LA, I'm just saying Is the relationship worth it though? No, not only relationships, I'm just talking I'm talking about with friends and all your brothers Like, is it worth fixing this shit? If it's not, am I okay with it being like that? Cause tragedy can strike at any moment It could be happening right now Just, God forbid, obviously But... Yeah, man
[00:35:41] That was just fucking tough I know, I know I know, I know, I know This is all this week Yeah, the Philly crash was yesterday Okay And uh... Wednesday, right? Yeah, Wednesday night at 9pm Back to back days Probably 24 hours Yeah, I wasn't really on social media Yeah, nah, it was a rough It's a rough week for aviation right now
[00:36:10] Them playing that shit in the airport, bro Oh, it's on the news up there In the news in the airport, I said, bro, this is not... Yeah, that ain't make sense That don't make sense I ain't gonna front, I don't have anxiety going on planes, bro I really was like, yo, I ain't gonna front I think I'm about to take the bus down there, bro I'm good Like, that shit fucked with me that much, bro Yeah, my co-worker making jokes about it I'm just like, bro, what's funny? But that's how some people get through that I know, I understood that I had to think about it I was like, he's being funny Cause he kept making jokes He probably got worse anxiety than you He kept making jokes And I was like... Yeah, he was like, yo, I ain't gonna front We'll take a shot at Don Holger On the company called
[00:36:40] I was like, I'm good You gonna do that with him It's like, yo Yeah, man I was kinda thinking like Yo, okay, if I gotta go anywhere Like, can we drive? Like that That's it And in my mind though That shit dangerous too But in my mind though I'm looking at the flight attendants I was like, yo, bro Like, I could see the anxiety in one of their faces I was like, I was like, yo, bro I was talking to... I won't say her name Is that her airline though? No No, she's at... She's over at...
[00:37:09] Nah, she's at United She's at United And she was like, yo It was hard for her to even read the safety... Mm Announcement You know, she said she started... She started choking Getting emotional Getting emotional reading the safety announcement And I'm like... Because... In reality None of those safety tips helped Bro, but yeah, but bro I'm not gonna lie, that's the first time I see everybody paying attention That's the first time I see everybody paying attention We talked about that last week
[00:37:39] Where they don't pay attention And I'm literally doing it... As she's doing it... I'm doing it with house like, yo, bro She's like... She did this shit? She was like... She's right here... Pulled on the tab... I say your bride knew everything I'm about yo, bro It's my first time really paying attention but I knew everything I'm about yo, bro This is fucking insane that we're now listening to this shit, bro Oh man... Cause when reality really strikes, it's like, nah, I ain't gonna front I gotta pay attention, like... I think that was just a harsh reminder Yeah, harsh reality like... That was just harsh Really, really harsh Like I wanna check on you more I'm like, I'm not gonna bother him, bro Cause he's already in his mind already So there's no reason I can't...
[00:38:08] I asked you one time, you good? I don't really wanna talk about how I'm feeling My conflict is the worry of... Of... Of... Of... Okay, I know my man has a dangerous job And then the... The way I thought this thing Does he wanna hear about the morbid shit that... Like, I was like, yo Like, uh... Let me just... Let me just leave this I know... I know... I know he didn't wanna talk when he was like, yo You brought your xbox with you? What? What's he asking about? If I brought my xbox, I said, yeah He don't wanna talk but he wanna be a little social Word, word That's it I ain't gonna fuck that shit That shit... Made...
[00:38:38] Like, I was this close to contacting AC, bro Mad close And I'm like, nah Cause that... Cause... Like you said, like Are we gonna fix everything that... Mmm... But I'm like... You're three years in now Right? Yeah Yeah, so... In three years, you haven't had none of this happen Yeah I mean, I've dealt with the... With the... Saving somebody's life Yeah
[00:39:09] You know, medical emergency Nothing is dark Nothing is dark Yeah Every time I had a medical... You know, I ended up Not even directly you You... The fear is coming from what had happened Yeah, but the... But it is directly me It's just not my plane Yeah, no, that's what I mean It's still the same Yeah, but... It's still the same You still feel it Like nah, you still feel it You still feel it Cause you've been on that path It's just like... To me, it's like yo I walk through a hood Like if I drive through a hood And then I go home And I hear like...
[00:39:39] Somebody got shot Yo bro... Nah, it's not even like that It's like yo The week before I told... We talked about the flight attendant Who got stabbed in Denver Yeah Yeah You know? And I was in Denver this week Yeah, I peeped that I'm on the same block That it happened So it's like damn Like... You know? That's why I don't really Play outside too much I say it all the time One thing I try to prioritize Is yo Do my job and come home
[00:40:09] Did you contemplate like Changing professions? I did I did I spoke to my manager about Doing the other thing That you tell me you want to do Yeah But I don't I didn't I didn't want to make it seem like I'm running from it neither You know? Cause... At the end of the day You know? We all gotta go But it's just the way that This is the way they went That shit just didn't make It don't make no sense It wasn't
[00:40:39] Certain shit like I could literally test by saying Life ain't fair That wasn't fair to those people bro I had the same fears Obviously when Kobe passed I was in um... I was in DR And... Obviously you gotta fly back And I'm just like My anxiety was still That was the worst Cause like That was tragic So you just gotta think about that I'm like yo Mhm Eventually you get over it
[00:41:07] And I've been on a plane after that Do you? Do you really? Like... I'm talking about in the moment anxiety Right? Like I'm talking about Kobe dies this day I'm going to flight the next day I'm just like Damn That could've been me That could be... This could be me It's a dark ass plane ride back But then you obviously I get on planes after that And then I think about Kobe You know? I'm not thinking about Kobe I'm just like alright I made it safe last time So I'm gonna make it safe this time It has tough man It's always easier said than done People always say Oh you'll get over it You'll be fine Just let time pass It's like...
[00:41:37] But some people it doesn't work like that I gotta... And then in other news Which is crazy But I kinda wanna ask y'all a different perspective Are y'all up to date with this academic situation? With the grooming thing? Not at all I'm not a... I don't tune into his tough Nah it's not... I'm not really trying to speak on to the... To the details in itself But... He...
[00:42:07] He got his sponsorships clipped for uh... Presumably grooming uh... A young boy And um... That shit also made me think about yo... Were you groomed? In a sense or pressurized? Either you? Yeah... Cause I... When I... Not that um... I don't... I don't agree with anything he said But those...
[00:42:37] Those conversations have got brought up like... Oh you 16 years? You ain't lose your virginity yet? Or... Why is that so fucking glorified? Yeah... Yeah... Damn it... That's another thing that's like yo bro did I know I was groomed? That... That's what made me uh... Think about like... Damn like... So... I think in the... In the midst of it um... Um... So... I think the guy... The one of the kids was 15...
[00:43:06] Right? And... Uh... Academics was like... You know if uh... If so and so threw you the box... Would you smash? And the little boy was like no because I'm 15... And then academics was like... You know what that mean? Um... Uh... And then the little boy was knowledgeable for 15 years old. He was like you know... She's above 18.
[00:43:36] That's what somebody said. And if she's above 18... You know that would be considered grooming. So he was knowledgeable... Okay that's... Or just statutory rape. Yeah but he was knowledgeable... To know that as a kid... As a 15 year old was like you know... But then you think about it... You think about it like... These young kids... Even your situation... What's your situation? Not your situation? What's your situation? My fault. I said that really wrong. My fault. Where uh... Shorty in high school.
[00:44:06] Oh you told me we were just talking about... Yeah we was talking about prior to that. Like... We was both in high school though. Yeah but... Her having a child. Yeah. Him having a child. Y'all being so young. I was 15 in high school. That was the last thing on my mind but... When you hear about... When those conversations... You at the lunch table... You hear about people having sex... And this that and the third and... You know... People first time being with somebody they ain't really care about...
[00:44:34] But they just wanted to do it so they can say they did it. That's an old form of social grooming in a sense. Damn I never thought about it like that though. That's why I'm glad my first time... So happened to be with somebody... I want cause I never told this story. But... I was pressured like... The reason why I almost got jumped in front of Brie Voight... I always tell the Brie Voight story... But I never say what I was doing by Brie Voight. Of course. Yeah. So...
[00:45:03] It was Rubens Manz... Shout out to Leroy. Nah Leon. His name is Leon. He was dating this girl named Chantel. Oh I thought he was gonna say... Nah he was dating this girl Chantel. And Chantel had like this... Chantel's aunt had this crib down the block from the high. And she had the free crib to it. So... I already had a cut schedule. And they were like yo... She was smart guys. They were like yo... LA come through. We going to Chantel aunt crib.
[00:45:33] Blah blah blah. So and so gonna be there. Blah blah blah. Back of my mind I'm like... Nah I should just go home. Nah come through bro. It's about to be late. Stop being a little. Love a good club party. So we go over there. I get there. I get there. The shorty had a crush on at the time. She was uh...
[00:46:02] Let's say she was a conductor. For lack of better term. Yo! Not the A train. Facts. Conductor. She was a conductor. What's your function? You know. And um... And um... They were like yo LA go through. Go through? Niggas told you to swipe your metro.
[00:46:31] Niggas actually was last on the train. But uh... Time out. Yeah. The girl you had a crush on? Yeah. Yeah. I didn't know she was giving it up like that. Oh my God. Nah. You thought she was the sweetest thing on earth. I did. And um... And she probably still was. That'll be that she not in his cojo. Catch what B's on her. You know?
[00:47:01] And um... So we get there. And my man, my man Leon was like yo. Don't even trip. Like I know you was feeling her butt. Don't even trip? It's crazy. But like yo. If you go in the room that you don't do your thing. So he passed me two condoms. And I'm like nah bro. He was like nah don't go in there raw. So I'm like nah I'm good. Like I'm good. He's like what you mean? Like you saw you was feeling shorty.
[00:47:31] I'm like yeah but... So and so leave. So and so leave. So and so. So I'm like nah I'm out. Me leaving. Me leaving is why I ran into them niggas. At Brevoit. So that's where you not supposed to be. Where you not supposed to be. I should have been home bro. Or on a train. Nah. On a train? What you mean by that? Could have been on a train or in the crib. Could have been in the crib.
[00:48:01] I prefer that I was in a crib. Yeah so. I was like that's kind of like damn like. You in a weird situation where you try to. Socially like I felt uncomfortable like damn. But I'm not gonna. I'm not losing my virginity on a train bro. That's social grooming. What the fuck? Mm-hmm. I had a situation like that before too. It's like yo bro. Niggas like walking around. I said I walked in the room. She had clothes up. I said yo bro. What the fuck is going on? Like I'm a kid man. I'm like 13 years old bro.
[00:48:30] Niggas is older than me. I'm like nah. I'm good bro. Like. It's like I don't. I want my kid to enjoy his fucking. My not. His. Whatever. Enjoy their innocence my nigga. Yeah. Yeah. It's the same. It's the same thing that um. That happened uh. In a sense. Uh. Manny. What you mean? Oh with the girl or the dude? Mm-hmm. Or he had a little crush? Nah. So um. Still doing probably for.
[00:49:00] So yeah. A girl was sending him notes. The notes. Oh yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then it's like damn. Like he wasn't even hit to all of that. They tried to flip it on him too. And then they tried to flip it on him to say that he initiated it. But having that conversation of like. You know. Don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do because. Everybody else is doing it. But the definition is the action or behavior used to establish an emotional connection with a vulnerable person.
[00:49:29] Generally a minor under the age of. Uh. Under the age of consent. And sometimes is the victim's family to a lower inhibition of objective of sexual abuse. It can occur in various settings including online, in person, through other meanings of communication. Children or grown may experience mental health issues including anxiety, depression, post traumatic stress, and suicidal thoughts. Damn. So I think what the main thing for me was like. Sorry.
[00:49:58] A 15 year old peeping that. Like peeping what was happening. Knowledgeable about that. Well yeah. He might be raised well, taught well. I wouldn't say raised well or whatever. But he's, you know. He obviously got the information from somewhere. Right. But then it's like. Well then it's the same thing. It's like you gotta explain that. That's what LA would do. Even with economists. Like bro. Going that in depth. We don't usually think to go in that in depth with our children. Like yo bro you have to learn this. You have to know this. Sometimes we'll fuck around to skip over because you don't expect it to happen. Is there any.
[00:50:27] Is there any like space to speak about the people who. Who do the grooming. Right. Because I feel like those things are passed down. Yeah. Where it's like. I've never done it. All jokes aside. Like even to save you. Remember that conversation with. When Lil Wayne said how he lost his virginity. That's definitely grooming. Yeah. Same thing with Boosie. When Boosie said. They don't speak on it as if it's a problem. That's just a terrible thing. Yeah. They say as it's glorified.
[00:50:57] I think in our culture for years and years. It's never really ever. And when it comes to me talking about men and young boys. It's never seen as yo. This is a terrible thing that's happening. Nah. You gotta get some box. It's always seen as yeah. That's like a rite of passage. That. As crazy as it sounds like. That's our bar mitzvah. Nah. You know what I'm saying? Oh you a man now. Yeah. Yeah. And it shouldn't be like that. It shouldn't be like that. You telling that story just now about.
[00:51:26] That whole scenario with the train. We found little ways and pockets to make it humorous and laugh and talk about it. But. Is that something that we should be doing? Is that responsible? Is that something that should we be like. Like. Like serious. Maybe it's more serious about. Mm-hmm. I don't know. Maybe it's not. It's not normal for us to be like. You tell me like. Yo. You just mentioned that. Niggas opened the door for you. When there's a young lady sitting there at 13 years old. We should be fucking appalled. Yeah. We just kind of like. Damn. And my thing is.
[00:51:55] I was thinking more in depth about it. It's like. Bro. Who told her that? Why does she. Why does she think that's okay? Yeah. Yeah. You allowing four or five. Whatever amount of men to do that to you. I don't. I just don't. I never sat right with you bro. It's a sick cycle. It's a sick cycle. Yeah. So. I've never participated in a train either. It's not a. It's not something I don't. I saw that be cute. Which is why I shouldn't have made that joke to LA. But. It also feels like. Yeah. You were part of the problem. That's what I meant.
[00:52:26] Cause imagine. Imagine never participating in something. Be like. What you ain't had. 250? Yeah. 250 on your car. It's 290. I wouldn't know. See. That's why I don't take trains now. I'm just scared. It's expensive. It's scarred. It's scarred. Yeah. See. Even while. Even me saying we shouldn't be laughing at it. We still fucking laughing. No. You still fucking laughing. It's still. Find funny in it. I don't know. You know. Sometimes it's just a. Yeah. It is.
[00:52:55] Sometimes it's the only way you can get through shit. My nigga. Just laughing about it. It's like. Yo bro. Shit is the worst shit in the world. I think what makes it worse. But on the academic side. Is that. Niggas already been waiting to like. Yeah. They been waiting to hang. You know what I'm saying. So he kind of just. He shot himself in the foot. Because a lot of people really don't like. You know why he shot himself in the foot. He didn't give him. He didn't give him. He didn't give him. He didn't give himself the opportunity. To unlearn something that he thought was normal. Yeah. Because naturally he's like. So what. Yeah. He was trying to defend himself. He was getting some pussy at 15. Right. So yeah.
[00:53:24] I'm passing that on. Nah. You was wrong for getting pussy at 15. Like as a. As a Jamaican seeing him talk about it. Like bro. Yeah. That's how old cousins. When I was eight years old. Right. I was like bro. Why the fuck is. Why do you think that's cool? I don't play my Game Boy. The thing is. The comfortability of somebody saying that. It's just. Why age you lost your shit? Yo. I was young. So you was groomed. I'm not. You see niggas laughing.
[00:53:53] You see how niggas can't take it serious. But. Yeah. Essentially yes. Essentially. We're calling it. We're calling it what it is grooming. Yeah. Essentially. Yes I was. You knew what you was doing? And. And. I was aware of what the acts were. Did I know that it was wrong back then? No. It wasn't. It wasn't presented to me as wrong. I didn't think. That. Oh. I didn't think that.
[00:54:22] That was. The only fear was. Getting caught. Getting caught. Getting caught by our parents. Or things like that. That was the only fear. But it wasn't that I thought that it was like. An illegal thing. Or something that would be. It would affect me. 20 years from now. Or whatever the case may be. That was never the case. But did you see that as something that was. Like. It'll. It'll make you a little bit more. Not popular. But it'll. It'll help socially. Yeah. I thought it was like. Well. It's not like. I didn't walk around. Bragging about it though. I got some box though. But if the conversation. If it came up.
[00:54:52] I could. I could. I could contribute. Yeah. Yeah. That was. That's the truth. Cause you not getting a box at certain ages. Looked at you a little weird. It's not like I knew what I was doing either. That's what I meant. Essentially. Like. No. I mean like. Like. I didn't know. I didn't know. How to have sex. That's what I meant. Oh yeah. I didn't think just because you was African. You know. Come with the territory. Like you knew how to swing from one tree to the next. My nigga. Nah. Yeah. But. Yeah. I could say that I.
[00:55:21] I was a victim. Oh. Damn. What about you Gwani? When did I lose it? Yeah. I think. 13. 14. Jesus Christ. Nice. Yeah. I was in high school. At 13? Like. Yeah. Meeting up to. Yeah. No. I was in like. My first year high school. My first year high school. God damn. This is like bro socially say yo bro you look good. No no no I wasn't groomed. There was a.
[00:55:52] Mutual decision? Yeah. I went to middle school with the girl. Do you think you was. You like. You like. We rekindled when I was in high school and then. She asked. I was like okay. She asked. 13. I don't even remember what my dick was at 13 bro. I mean. I guess at that age. I mean. That's where your hormones start like. In the mic bro.
[00:56:19] At that age that's when your hormones start to like kick up a bit now or you start to like. No. So I mean. I wouldn't. I wouldn't say I was groomed or anything. I hear all the conversations and everything. I wasn't really too. You didn't allow peer pressure. Yeah. I wasn't really too into the peer pressure thing. So I was like. Oh that's cool. I don't. I don't have a free crib to do this. So it's like. I'm not finding ways to do it. So it was like. Oh that's cool. I mean. Whenever I move out. That sounds good. Yo. I think that's why.
[00:56:49] It made me more like. Want to do it more. Socially. And I had the free crib. My mom's go to work at 7. My pops go to work at 9. Mm. So from. Once I get out of school. And I'm. Blocked away from my crib. Niggas not coming home till like 6. I got a little window. You know what I'm saying? I got a little window. I'm bringing joints. What homework? It's like. And that's the problem though. That's the problem though. I chose that over that. I actually regretted that. When I started growing up. I was just about to ask y'all. That's crazy as it sounds.
[00:57:18] This is going to be crazy. Yo how did I pass. Are you. Are you content with who you lost your virginity to? Like you feel like your life would have went into a different direction if you held out a little longer? No. Nah. I don't think that even plays a factor into my life honestly. Absolutely not bro. I understand the question though but I don't. Yeah. I don't think it plays a factor in it anything. That's like yo. That's like me thinking of all the parts I had after that and we're like oh she should've been the one. How about go about it? You know? My first one ended up being a thot. I just figured that out.
[00:57:48] That kind of pissed me over. Same way you figured out shorty ended up being a thot. Yeah I saw that live action though. That is a fucking problem. Yeah. Stand clear of the closing doors please. New. New. New. New. New. Oh yeah but nah I never had that. I never had that. Can you ask for a passage as a man? Figuring out the person you like isn't the person you thought they were. That's a horror. That's a horror. I went through something. It wasn't necessarily a train.
[00:58:17] It was just more I heard it the next day. It was like some seven minutes in heaven shit. Oh. Bro cracked. I heard it the next day. I was like what? Seven minutes. He cracked while playing that game? Yeah. That was the joint? Yeah. Not my joint but we was talking. Same thing we was talking and it was like okay we're getting somewhere. Find out and I knew it too. Oh look what I saw.
[00:58:45] The craziest part about it is it wasn't even no beef. It was more so like why would you do that? How could you do that? Like why would you like. Like you would've been okay with a little peck. A little kiss right? I mean I guess yeah but like. He went all the way though. In the closet? In the closet. Do you not have shame? Seven minutes? You not have shame? You not embarrassed? No. Write a passage bro. Damn bro. Damn everybody you ever felt that pain before?
[00:59:14] Sure that you fucked my nigga. That's your sharing gun bro. That's your sharing gun bro. That's your sharing gun bro. Every trauma goes up. Son. Nigga said Shorty was in this fucking. It holler. What's she doing in Harlem? I don't know. She was in Harlem with niggas in the staircase. Six niggas with biggies on. I just couldn't. I couldn't stop thinking about that. I said how you fucking dare you? That was real popular at that time. For whatever reason. What the staircase? Yeah and like just doing that whole like. The staircase was.
[00:59:43] I couldn't get with the staircase. I felt victim to the staircase. Did? In high school? Like in school or like in a. Freakmont over there. That's a shorty though so it's different. He was, he was, he was, he was a, he was in the, in the school staircases going crazy. Shout out to boys huh? With his queen. I couldn't do that. He's standing down at college. Damn boy. Yeah. Freaky thing. I don't know. I feel like, I don't know.
[01:00:12] Maybe if I never lost it where my life would have been. But then like I said I lost to somebody I was with. And we were together. We lost it together so. That's kind of what I was banking on. But um. I don't know. It sucks. Not that it sucks but I ain't really think, I ain't really give too much thought about being groomed until this whole academic situation got brought up cause I'm like damn like. I just saw that's peer pressure when I was younger. Yeah. That's kind of how I looked at it too.
[01:00:40] But I'm like, you trying to mold somebody to do something they don't really want to do or not. This is why I've always, when people are like you shouldn't be judgy. I've never been in an agreeance with that. I've always been, I've always been a judgy person bro. But what if somebody judge you after hearing you have sex at 13? No that's cool but I'm saying for what the conversation is right now if someone is like this older horny ass nigga just talking about sex, damn freak ass nigga. Yeah. Damn yeah. I can't even find out.
[01:01:10] Sometimes uh certain sexual conversations do make me cringe. Like yo. What are we talking about? Why are you talking about this? That's why I always say like yo but I reserve my judginess like I'm cool. I can judge some shit and I've always been this way. My face has always been like fuck. Yeah so. Yeah like I'm mad uncomfortable. Yeah. And I'm always, I don't even talk to people like that so I could just, I'm very short. I've always been like this. I always leave so I mean not everybody's like that but these things do happen.
[01:01:38] Yeah even then being in those situations where uncomfortable conversations taking place and you don't want to look like the, the corn ball to, to mess up the mood. I just excuse myself. Like. Yeah. Yeah. You don't want to be like, you know what you're doing with somebody else. What do you actually do? Yo that's not, yeah that's not cool. I do that all the time. I've done that before like yo what we doing? What we doing? We shouldn't be talking about shit like this.
[01:02:09] That's just, nah. Like why are we even telling no little kid about that? Like even then it's like I even have to be careful asking Manny if he got a girlfriend. Yeah. Damn. If you got a girlfriend he'll call me and be like yo he like a shorty what he should do. Cool. But I ain't gonna make him feel like that's something he should be focused on. I think that shouldn't you just be like this? Nah. I don't want to be that. What? Make sure you focusing on school. Yeah. 11, 10, 11. 11. 11, 10, 11.
[01:02:36] But the thing about it bro, we start thinking about it our parents just right bro. Focus on school bro. Yeah, but come on. What do I say? Come on bro. Nah, nah. You not gonna tell me that. I'm not saying there's levels of that conversation. You don't have to go full force and say oh you don't got a girlfriend blah blah blah. You can ask the kid in school like yo you around other people like what's happening? Do you like anybody there? Do you like what is it? He in school for other reasons other than that. If he bring it up, he bring it up.
[01:03:05] I mean you just be being blinded to shit. Why don't you shut it down when he bring it up then? For what? Yeah, why would I do that? I still have to be informed. I still want to make him feel like he could talk to me about things if I shut him down. As soon as he mentions having a girl or liking a girl. Isn't there like time, age and place for certain things? Yeah. So you think as age he should be even having those things? It's not about should or shouldn't, it's just what happens. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. That's why I'm not gonna shut it down. So he'll tell me. Okay.
[01:03:35] I remember when he was having his first date. He was like yo. Wait, Tomo. Mm-hmm. See this is what I'm saying. Mm-hmm. How old is he? He's 10 now. 10 years old. Yeah. What do you mean a date? That's what I'm saying. Bro, he's three years old. What happened to this? So what happened is it was chaperoned. What movies? They going to the movies. Yeah. He's going to the movies and he was like yo. His mom already okayed that. So I can't even be on something like nah, this not happening. Not your child.
[01:04:02] So he was like, exactly. It's not my child. That's why I shouldn't date women with kids because it's not my child. Oh God. You know what I'm saying? There you go. Nice call back Joe. So he was basically like yo, what should I do? Da da da da da. Can I have your cologne? This, that and the third. He know, you know what I'm saying? But I'm like, first and foremost, what you doing? Where y'all going? So he told me the details. Oh, we going to the movies.
[01:04:32] The mom is taking them. Blah, blah, blah. I'm like, okay. The most you should do is flowers. That's it. Keep it calm. You know? But even then it's like, I'm not going to dismiss. Yo, you shouldn't be doing it. Blah, blah, blah, blah. He already got the okay from his parents. So who am I to? But I had a conversation with his mom. I'm like, are you sure? This is something. Yeah. I think that's a little excessive. Not even a lot. You know? I don't got kids. A little bit of speak. So question. What if you still, okay.
[01:05:01] So let's say you still have these same, everything you just said is the same. Where you just asked them one day, like you're just in the car and you just had a thought like, like, yo, you in school for a while. Like, how is it? Like, are you talking to anybody? Is it, what's, what is wrong with, I guess, asking that question? I'm not saying go in the deep end and you're trying to pressure him or anything, but just ask him like- What if he's got a kid that's not expressive? So it's not- Yeah. My thing is like knowing what you know now, what if he just don't know, he just don't say it or whatever.
[01:05:30] What if he just would want someone to ask him or whatever it is. Like what's, I guess the big issue with asking. That's a good point. Because you, there are kids who just don't know how to break that ice. Humans still don't know how to break that ice. He's like 10. So going at this 10 is like as mad weird and confusing as it is. So I'm not saying what you're saying is wrong. I'm just asking what is the difference in- Just not doing it. Just not doing it. Well, you're past the point. So it's- You just stand on what you believe. Yeah.
[01:05:58] If he, he's going to school for a few things, finding a girlfriend, it's not the prerogative. If he brings- Yeah. But he could also answer your question and say, oh no, I ain't talking to nobody. And now you're just aware that- All right. But then I don't want to shape his story. Or maybe, should I? But you shape his story by telling him to go get flowers, bro. But at the same time- But he asked, it was brought to me. I didn't say, yo, you going on a date. But you still have an impact in his life where he takes what you say as sometimes law, sometimes advice. Right?
[01:06:26] So if you tell him, yeah, go get some flowers. That's the most you should do. And now in his head, now he knows. The next time he goes on a date with a girl- Get us some flowers. I can't- Right. But how does- what's wrong with you asking to understand where he's at in the life of- Because you can still say the same thing like, oh, you're gonna- I don't think you- you should- you could do X, Y, Z, but at your age, I don't think you should be doing any of this stuff. That's exactly what I told him, but it was already done at that point. But you can do that by inquiring about if he's doing it. Because if he's doing it and not telling you, you have no knowledge, then you can't give him no advice.
[01:06:54] You can't teach him the right things to do. The reason why I'm on the fence about it, I hear what y'all saying. I hear what LA's saying. It's like, yo, but at the same time, it's like- you gotta remember social. He's around other kids in school and they- Putting shit in his mind. Exactly. I do have to inquire. But I don't want to push too much. I don't think- That's not- But that's what I'm saying. I'm not saying you're pushing anything. I'm just asking- You're just asking your little- your man's a little question. Like you in school, I remember when I was in school, nobody asked me none of this shit. Hmm. So- I mean, you still fucked at 13.
[01:07:24] That's not- The problem would be if you had intentions of grooming Manny into going on a date or going- Or having sex at a young age. Yeah, because my- if you're saying- If you don't have none of that intention and you just really want to- If you're curious to find out where your godson is at that age in school, because you know how these kids are, I think there's nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with inquiring to make sure you're aware because he just might not be comfortable telling you. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, and sometimes you gotta pull things out of people, especially kids.
[01:07:53] I'm not pulling that out of my godson, bro. What? I'm sorry. To each his own. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Facts. Do we have an understanding? No. We don't have to have an understanding. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I would ask him why he literally- No, I thought he would understand where we coming from. Okay. Don't matter. Okay, okay. All right, fuck. He could hear you and not agree. Yeah. He don't gotta agree. He could understand where we coming from, though. I choose not to. Yeah. It doesn't matter. I hear what you're saying, man.
[01:08:21] I don't understand why he wouldn't just ask, I guess, but- You know what, you're right. I see why. I mean, I would just ask. You like to agree on everything. Yeah. That's what makes- I say it all the time. Makes it a great show. See how boring it would've got if we all agree. You know what, you're right. Yeah, right. Well, you know, good show, guys. Two minute show. That's how it'll be. Seven minutes of heaven.
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