Episode 304: The Fallout

[00:00:00] You put some wine in there? I don't know if I'm straight or not, I can't see that far Foooshie! Oh my god, I love my friends man Damn, I can't wait to grow up Is that- Is that a decanter? Is that a decanter? It is a decanter, sir You didn't hear the soapy watching the whole time? You too-

[00:00:27] You too good for like regular wine just out the bottle? I am too good for you Yeah, okay, alright Respect Alright, yo yo yo Yes sir Turn me up, turn me up Oh Roger Man Turn me up Guru You tell this song, that Monday, y'all are strong, y'all fuck Go on big man, I see you going on with it, keep it up

[00:00:56] You gonna be able to focus today? I'll be alright, I'll be focused Okay, alright, just check Ready? Yeah You already know this motherfucker She must have a lover as always, Donald Peasley Alongside of LaShawn This is another beautiful day here being a muscle band hunk Damn, I had to do it It's been a long week but we here, by the grace of God Here to do what we love and here to talk to our people and talk to my friends here What's going on, how's everybody feeling? My week was trash Yeah, same

[00:01:24] So trash I won't get into it Me either I thought I would I chose to be non-verbal for the rest of the week Mm-hmm After the first After the first three things happened, two things happened I just decided to stop talking Mm-hmm I think it was better off that way Even therapy was trash I won't say trash but You just didn't have it in you I ain't have it in me All right Sorry, Lindo I'm sure she understands What about you, Dane? Dane's in the building

[00:01:55] I'm sleepy Like, I had a sleepy week So, I was really tired Yeah? But I'ma like fake some energy for the pod Cause... Y'all gotta fake it, bro So that's what you out here doing? You out here faking it? Damn Damn I thought it was playing nice today So what you, Joseph? Oh, I'm cool Not much new Still just going through the motions But uh Yeah, man My energy

[00:02:23] Like, Dane, I was really sleepy this week for some reason I got the sleep that I wanted I felt like, look LA hit me And was like, yo, like I tell him, I'm like, yo, I'm tired He's like, what you up doing? I'm like, YouTube Okay Hey, guys, just be on YouTube But, that's what I'm trying to do Like, just trying to sharpen my skills Got some new gadgets to play with You know what I'm saying? Shouts to them Shouts to gadgets, man! Shouts to the gadgets, man Shouts to the gadgets, man Shouts to the gadgets, man Learn how to use them and, uh You know, get better at the craft I'm always about sharpening my sword, so

[00:02:53] That's where I'm at Childish You know what? You know what? You know what? I should've helped out some of that one Y'all know what I mean Y'all know Y'all don't You guys are childish, alright This nigga said sharpening my sword is ridiculous While Kojo was telling his amazing story Well, not an amazing story But, you know, just telling us what's going on in his life LA just showed us who the baddest bitch in the room was He is the baddest bitch in the room He is the baddest bitch in the room What's your plan? LA, what's this new gadget you brought to the pod?

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[00:04:21] Support, support, man I love it Lashawn on there showing feet, guys If you into that kind of thing Yo, yo Hey, really? It's not the joke It's not the joke What you doing? That's the paywall Really? That's the paywall You saved that Yeah, that's the power of the product, man And we ain't really even push the button yet We did it Yeah, it's pretty chill We did it It's going to be a fun journey Lock in, y'all We want to send a special shout out to Kwanney You know, Kwanney's not here today Shout out to my brother

[00:04:51] He is trying to be the best boyfriend in the planet So shout out to him Shout out to his queen Shout out to Kwanney, man Salute to y'all Salute to y'all Salute to your relationship, bro Never let that shit go Why ain't you fuck We're gonna be 50 years old doing the same shit But, uh, let's see what happened in Oh, let's just get to the nitty gritty of it, right? What's up? Can't respond to Jim

[00:05:21] Yeah, yeah, he did He did I tuned in I tuned in But, you know Certainly You gotta, you know people's character Like, not Jim and Cam, but Cam and Mace Like, who's Between me and you Who's Cam and who's Mace? Between you and I? Yeah And Cam and Mace is just sitting there eating popcorn Huh? I said, yo, my

[00:05:50] Don't fuck with that It depends what the ISO is for I think we both have the ability to Like, you know I don't know I've seen that LA was like wild LA was like I don't really see him Like You know what I'm saying? It takes a lot for me to get to that You can You can You can Nigga had shit but ended Nigga, dog just sat next Like, nice Look at this one episode Nigga, LA just talked by himself Like, I didn't say one word My nigga LA just talked to him Like, I just like Yeah I would To answer that I would say

[00:06:21] In a mile away LA is Cam and you are And you are I don't see myself like Going crazy like Yeah, yeah, yeah But you know I definitely expected I expected that From the rip Like Like Once the word Once the word Dick was thrown out Oh yeah, now we going Yeah To all him nigga? You took it there Yeah, you took it there And you know I got a question I wanna I wanna Does your loyalty And your friendships Have an expiration date? No

[00:06:52] Nah, but you could Hmm? I'm thinking about You could push up faster If it's disrespect involved now Hold on I'm gonna try to Understand that question Like Yeah If I'm still friends with anybody Nah, say we had a falling out Then we're not friends Then it's kind of friendship So then loyalty goes away with it Right Okay Okay Is there any type of respect still though? Yeah, you're speaking to like Like honor and just like Being classy and having class Yeah Yeah, that's uh Some niggas are classy And some are Like that's what that is

[00:07:22] So it's a lot of stoop to your level Since you wanna be disrespectful? I think Kim kept it relatively mild Yeah, yeah, yeah That also, also Yeah, like you know the killer That we grew up on? Like Yeah He, that was a That was a I gotta say something And I'm gonna say something And Not for nothing Even the shots he took He was like Yo, like you cool with niggas that like Niggas that shot at you But then he goes But not for nothing That's not a bad thing Like we grown Like this is 50 Y'all shouldn't still be Take them out of it Take who out of it?

[00:07:51] Cam and Jim Okay Now let's make this universal Uh oh Have y'all experienced any male friendship falling outs? Like somebody you was cool with Yeah Yeah? Yeah We start throwing friends at each other like that? Like Toby and each other like that? I, I put it I put you in a weird scenario Joe Me? Yeah, you and Reign fall out If If you and Reign fall out Uh huh Reign disses you on the track You respond You respond What's your response?

[00:08:21] I'm calling ya ya That's insane Will you, will you share your grievances publicly? Or just deal with it behind the scenes? Definitely deal with it behind the scenes I mean Him publicly, you know, you know, putting whatever issue is out there That's on him That's his, that's his avenue That's, I guess that's how he, you know, expresses his, his self If that was to happen I'd slap the shit out of you But um I wouldn't, I wouldn't do that because then it becomes

[00:08:50] Everybody, everybody's in our business Everybody's in your business regardless though Now people gonna look at you like you weak Cause they don't know how I'm handling it But I'm okay with that Mmm I don't rap, so what am I supposed to do? Rap back? Nah Or do I But people are looking at you like you ain't doing a few minutes So go like that We have the files Shut up Put that on Patreon That's true That was hilarious You know what, that was a good idea But um Yeah like, I think If I go to social media with it And like, you know, go on this rant on Twitter

[00:09:18] Like, post embarrassing photos Or whatever I don't even know how messy people get put up That's just, that's also not in my character Even if like, like, like Like when Shorty was trying to embarrass, embarrass me about the logo years ago Right? Like I didn't go online and like, shoot back Or throw the frank Or none of that Like, I mean, I dealt with it internally You know what I mean? I said what I had to say But I'm not about to go into a muscling war with nobody Especially not somebody that I used to call my brother That's the tough part, right?

[00:09:48] Because it's like That was or is You know, cause brothers fight Yeah But it's what happens during the fight That kinda, you know Y'all seen me in rain almost Y'all seen me in rain almost go at it A couple times And he was gonna lay a mirror I'm full, bro Cost me a mirror I'm full, I'm full I'm full, I'm full Cost me a mirror Like, that, like it can get intense But that, when you talk about loyalty Like that's still my brother no matter what Like, you know what I'm saying? And then

[00:10:17] Once again, this is, this is not a realistic scenario But I mean, if that was shit was to happen I think I'd handle it as mature, maturely as possible Cam and, and, and Jim are public figures Their problems are, are, you know Playing out publicly They, there is They might be doing work behind the scenes But there's still public figures that have to, have to be on camera Have to be on camera You think so? Yeah, that don't You think just because we're on camera Like something publicly transpires on camera or in the public

[00:10:46] You have to respond publicly Have to, no But can you contain yourself? Right? You have this opportunity If I came in here today And took out something else instead of that Right? Like something was on my spirit Mm-hmm And, let's say the, like this thing just brought the topic up or something adjacent to it It'd trigger me to be like, you know what? Nah, let's talk about this shit Like, and that, and that, and I think Cam, Cam, especially Cam, like he doesn't even have that luxury of having to like, you know, be eased into it

[00:11:16] It's just like, no, this is what's necessary to talk like, we, we waiting for this Mm-hmm You know what I'm saying? Because Jim's conversation or his comments were made publicly and everybody was like, yeah, we waiting, we waiting to hear what comes from this So, but we're afforded that luxury to be able to pick and choose if we want to like air our grievances out publicly for sure

[00:11:34] This is just my assumption, right? You, I don't, is there a possibility that, or matter of fact, have you ever took a side of a beef on the strength of your man and that man squashes it? Facts I got to look with that And how you have to move with that? So, for example, let's say me and Don, me and Don, Don don't like Dane

[00:12:05] And I beef with Dane Because Don Because of Don, and I may be even taking a step farther That's what I was gonna ask, how far are you going to take it? I'm taking a step further, right? But now, they squash they beef, and they're now doing a show together It's like that shit kinda like, aww Oh, you're talking about, okay, I see you watching it Or they're, they're back in the coolings with each other

[00:12:27] Yeah, so, you know what? I don't know if you're gonna like this response, but how about you just go follow the method that Don did to resolve the issue so that you can also be on that side too Instead of locking in on the side you chose, cause if you, if you picked up the beef based off of your mans, and he let it go, then let it go, like your mans did I feel like we gotta get in the room and talk to each other then Yeah And we should be able to We'll have to do that before that, I have to like talk to you, then talk to you Yeah, like, yeah

[00:12:55] Cause if you know how I'm carrying it, you owe me the courtesy and respect of like, yo, alright, we're cool now, here's why we're cool, it's, it's over, let it be over You feel what I mean? That's taking a high road cause I'm in situations with my mans at that, it's like, that's your mans Like, how far, did you take it, was, too far to where it's like, no, it's not in here? It got to the point where, nigga, you about to start, Chant's about to get fired bro, like we talking, you talking crazy there Were you there too with him? What you mean?

[00:13:26] Your mans is doing too much Your mans is doing too much Your mans is doing too much Your mans is doing too much Like, we gotta like You know, we gotta hold people responsible in that situation Like, Don is also in some type of control Like, yo, you see your mans going that, that far off of you, you gotta be like, yo, I'm not even there bro Like, I know how you are, but I'm not even there right now, bro Like, let's, let's, let's calm down because If he does take it there, right? He throw his whole life away cause of you But Now you gotta, now you gotta go, yo, free my man

[00:13:55] But, Cam brought up the good point, he's like, yo, bro, like, I think you got into whatever shootout with Sun Are you cool with Sun now? Yeah Why you can't be cool with this thing in there? What's going on? Yeah, sure It's like, yo, bro, you holding on to past beast That shit fucking up your bread now Cause, cause Mace taught him how to rap Like, and Jim says Mace taught him how to rap So like, outside of their situation, I just don't see It's just really nasty all the way around Like, it's just, it don't gotta be that They've known each other too long, they're too old Like, the truth is, it don't gotta be like that Even, even if you take it outside of them And like, look at us or just people in real life

[00:14:25] Like, you could just not fuck with people So does beef have an expiration date though? It depends It should Mmm Well, it depends what happens Cause we so on Method Man Everybody say Mmm Stop Hell, that shit ain't on We saw a Method Man thing Up forever For sure Yeah In this new stage of life that I'm in Where forgiveness is the focal point Amen Praise the Lord You do kinda wanna at least get it out your spirit

[00:14:54] Yeah, cause that shit That shit You don't wanna carry that You know? He got it out of his spirit When he caught him in the gym That was the release Yeah Yeah On the last two of them And was like She said oh There she go And went over there and did what he had to do You know what I'm saying? But in the male friendship I think it's tricky I think it's tricky Because We don't We We try to go through everything in this machismo way Right?

[00:15:24] Mm-hmm So the real space for vulnerability and talk and say Yo I'm jealous that you hanging out with y'all too much You know what I'm saying? That's bothering me Like We should I should be there Wait, we got beef? Or No, no, no, no, no But like Just I mean shit, I'm a perfect example, right? Cause I'm relatively new I've known you guys for years But I'm newer to the friend group So if like Me and Well me and Don They start hanging out everyday Yeah

[00:15:53] But LaShawn was like Why you with Dan on this? Yeah You know what's crazy? You know what's crazy? As funny as it sounds I feel like that's how I was getting introduced to Don's friend group I felt that way being introduced to other friend groups You don't think anything about you like that? I think I know Like yo, who this? For sure Not even Who's this Brooklyn nigga? I was gonna say that first time You know Yeah, this thing is not from a quiz Oh well You know

[00:16:20] Even with the idea of Don potting It was never supposed to be me I forgot You know what's funny? I forgot about that whole shit Yeah, it was never Niggas was really salty I'm about to restart the issues Yo, niggas was really salty that niggas in the podcast I ain't gonna fart, I really forgot about that That's a core memory And they got episode 300 304 So yo You take a concept of Don wanting to start a podcast with his friends Mm-hmm Right? It was...

[00:16:50] My memory's so sharp It was called the Leisure Club It definitely was Mm-hmm Right? And now you in the Run Club So that's the Leisure? So Don The original concept of Don's podcast was the Leisure Club Mm-hmm And they were gonna pod It was him and his family and friends Mm-hmm For whatever reason They was moving slow But Don was really passionate about Like Don would not eat on his lunch break

[00:17:20] Nigga looking up Sit on computers Yeah How much I need for Mike This, that, there, blah, blah, blah And he pivots Mm-hmm And he does... He asks me to do the show Right? I could see his friend group being like Yo, even if the show never took off Mm-hmm You went and did it with somebody else Who is this nigga? Mm-hmm Who is this nigga? Now, also what may affect their feelings I can't speak for them but I'll put me in that position

[00:17:49] Oh, this shit working Yeah Yeah Like I'm, oh, nigga like Niggas, I go for a initial time Like you don't want it to happen But you gon' hate a little bit It's one thing, it's one thing It's one thing for you to go and do it Mm-hmm And that shit work, nigga? Oh, it, oh it works? Like nigga, you making it You can make it 70 plus million Over this shit It's like nah, bro That nigga's, that nigga's doing something well So I could see his friend group I felt the energy at first Yeah He was like What's this nigga? Yeah And I had the same energy coming in I'm only here for Don

[00:18:21] So I'll be polite and greet but like That's as far as it's gonna go Give me that, give me that white chair That's all like it's third and a half leg In Don's backyard And I was sitting there And just enjoy it till we all get comfortable and used to each other You know what I'm saying? Yeah They all got their little hair shake You see the hair shake they be doing? Yeah, mm-hmm And it's like damn Like oh they were tight tight Yeah, but I I could see that It's egos like you said though Yeah, for sure It's literally egos But then as a man

[00:18:52] You've been taught to like Not express that So you gotta show your frustration In other ways Whereas maybe us Giving people cold shoulders Cold shoulder, animosity, you know Okay, but when do these people Well, when did When did those people look at themselves like And look at the mirror Look in the mirror and say Well, I'm a part of the reason why I feel this way Because I was dragging my feet And I did I mean I think After a while After a while one of them I mean we don't have to

[00:19:21] Rob was We did an episode with Rob And Rob admitted it Like he had to look at it like Damn, alright That's kind of my That's all me Yeah, cause I mean Once you do that Then all the issues go away You realize like You know what? This really probably only happened Because I did this And that's on me I can't even put that on LaShawn Or this new Like this new nigga I know I'm told you Niggas still wanting to do the part, alright? Oh, I never do that Yeah, it does Hey man And that's the other part If we talk about in a podcast sense Like Yeah, they can do what's a good guy And then I can go do the leisure club too Like

[00:19:50] They both could work It should've Maybe I should've motivated y'all Like oh, this shit is possible Let's see if we can make something happen I said I didn't wanna do it though But I think what Yeah, that's what I was gonna do I don't wanna do it It's over now Cause after a while It's like yo, I don't I feel you I think what fixes it though Is two things First is Those people who might feel insecure With time they realize Oh no, like my spot in this person's life is Here Like it's not going anywhere They still fuck with me, right? And then second What episode of the pod is this? 304 304

[00:20:20] Like 304 episodes in Coming back after a break Y'all met each other for a reason It was kinda meant to be You know what I'm saying? So like Tom tells that Shows that too Cause I've met people like Y'all know I got the studio, right? And like I met Tyrell Tyrell's my newest friend Like You would think we know each other entire lives Your friend group That's good Your friend group I don't know their names But one of the guys He's a big guy Drew Charles my nigga Drew

[00:20:48] Did they ever express like Damn like you fuck with this This You hang on These things a lot now Like Nah Nah Cause I was the new person in their friend group Right? Like I just come around and I be myself You know? Like I'm genuine I'm just me I'm just Dane And then like people gravitate to me For whatever reason Like I don't necessarily try to But If we click We click And you know

[00:21:18] And they They're still my main friend group If I'm being honest Like they're Who I speak to more And Well that's not even true I don't speak to or see anybody All I do is work All we do is work That's tough for me because like My core friendship group Right? Cause my friendship group Could feel the same about y'all My high school friends My boys and girls friends, right? Cause it was like I We saw and spoke to each other

[00:21:47] Every day Like we was inseparable Now you hang out with a Lincoln nigga It's the irony, right? But you know what's funny about you saying that? I do I One of my high school friends His birthday was The 16th Aaliyah's birthday Right? Rest in peace Aaliyah Um I went out for his birthday Last night And then I went out But before I went to his birthday outing I was at My home girl Erica

[00:22:17] Her birthday outing Right? So like You kinda make it work And manage and jungle Like your friend groups As you can But you know Cause With my With the high school friendship Like we was Going Going After graduating We kinda made a pact Like yo We gonna stay tight That was kids Nah True But we made it work for I would say a very long time Even after that Like we went to each other's college graduations

[00:22:46] We spent These things go to Chicago And they didn't fucking go Yeah We just got back I just got back from Chicago with Ruben You know We had a blast Um Right So what's the... So you've maintained that? Yeah but I I would say that I'll speak for me Me and Me and Deshawn was like Batman and Robin Mmhmm Not even Batman and Robin Batman and Superman In our own right Right? Mmhmm We was crazy Our Our high school friendship Started off of Deshawn trying to cut my ass In

[00:23:16] In science class Mmhmm And Shout outs to Miss Myrtle She had like a Um She had like She was We was We was in lab And she had like Uh This bottle Or whatever And I said Um You'll see it And I raised I raised I raised my hand right? I said Miss Myrtle By any chance Was Deshawn a test tube baby? Oh shit Mind you Deshawn was cracking jokes on me

[00:23:45] Like I was by myself Deshawn was trying to make I think Deshawn was trying to Make a thing for himself Make a thing for himself in class Mmhmm Especially in front of this girl Yo So So I was like Yo But I raised my hand Like I always do And That's it That's the whole class down though Cause We was talking about We was making Laughs We was doing You know You know what uh When they gave us the frogs The dissecting all of that Back in the days in high school So I was like

[00:24:14] Yo by any chance Was Deshawn a test tube baby? Like how How can we figure that out? The whole class just started crying Like You proud of this nigga And it was like You gotta imagine This kid me Mad solid Mad solid Mad small In the corner by himself And I just got my lick back through Asking a regular question Uh huh To the point where Miss Myrtle couldn't even kiss her She She Yeah it was bad It was bad She Cause she knew I was getting picked on too Mmhmm And it was just

[00:24:44] And from there on out We was just cool But you gotta respect that though It's like I ain't gonna frog's wild on him the whole time He said one thing That's your death for you He got it So now like As crazy as it sounds I go through my whole life Thinking like Me and him are going to be Mmhmm Like the best of friends in the world And Not that anything I think happened But somehow Life just took us In two different directions Yeah So I wanna say it was like A friendship breakup

[00:25:13] Cause that's still my brother for life But it was kinda like Damn like In this space of life Like How are we still not close? Mmhmm You know? And um He has a kid And What's it called? The pack? The pregnancy pack? Mmhmm You had a pregnancy Y'all had a pregnancy pack? Yo Niggas been waiting for LaShawn Yo I gotta get this out now Bro Yo That is sick

[00:25:42] Yeah so I I could even say Yo When he Not that Not that We had the pregnancy pack What? Like What? We We talked about our kids growing up together Right, right, right You know what I'm saying? The Shawn's son is about to be three Yeah Like It's like a skin for me Yeah nah They can stay trying to pressure me to have a kid So they can grow up together I'm like Y'all keep seeing you strong And even if when I do have a kid

[00:26:10] The age gap is gonna be different You know what I'm saying? Mmhmm Call them big brochures Right So Even that Dealing with that I think Not last year Maybe two, three years ago That's when it dawned on me the most I think when he had his kid It was like Damn like I'm not even a godfather of his kid Oh Damn Okay So you know That's what I'm talking about Yeah okay But like When you have that friend And you think that You know Y'all gonna be tight forever

[00:26:40] And You know You see a lot of that movies And shit like that though I can't speak on it But y'all still have a friendship Yeah But it's not the same Uh huh It's not the same Like we don't We don't Is somebody at the door? I got it Alright We don't even talk everyday But In that manner Which uh It could be worse though Like y'all could've had a bad falling out Y'all could've had like a friendship True That was beautiful That was like ruined and tarnished You know what you're describing Is just something that's like We just learned that's a part of life

[00:27:10] Like You grow up and move in different It sucks though Yeah but I mean Other things suck worse to me You know what I'm saying Like Pause He's phrasing He's phrasing Phrasing yes Um And And not for nothing It's not like there isn't room For y'all to like Get closer again As life changes And like all of this shit I'ma talk about the jealousy thing Right? He got Spanish friends bro Yo That makes me the best of him The fact that I got cool with him I said y'all ain't gonna lie my nigga We don't get the engine

[00:27:40] What's going on my nigga? I have a friend like that too It's It's what it is Yo bro They hooped down the block from my crib He ain't come over yet These niggas play basketball or some shit like 2k I say my nigga you ain't never invite me They play at the BQE park Yeah The BQE gym The gym with the graffiti Yeah That's down the block Yo bro come see me You know what I'm saying So it's kind of like Damn like you know So I could see it from like The friend aspect of like

[00:28:09] Damn son He probably feel the same way Like that's the thing Y'all probably both feel the same way And that's why I said as men It's kind of weird How do you even O.P.O. bro Good point Dane Cause he could also be like You know thinking like Okay what What What hasn't LaShawn done You know to kind of strengthen the relationship too Like you know what I'm saying It could be on both sides Y'all probably just have to It definitely Y'all might be Y'all might be have to be in the show Just yeah just like Y'all just not Y'all just not Y'all are just not Y'all are just not It's not a priority for the one of y'all

[00:28:39] Me and Ruben had a falling out Ironically we just came back from Chicago together Me and him had a falling out I thought girls had fights when they go on Huh? I thought it was girls that had fights when they go on No no that was before they went off Okay alright Yeah And um Matter of fact When we went to the NWP party And we took all that That group picture You notice If you notice I'm on one side and Ruben's on the other side Y'all We were not talking Y'all I didn't know that We were not talking And the crazy shit about it I have no idea what we fell off

[00:29:08] Not even important You know what I'm saying But Noah and Ruben Is probably Ruben's fault Oh Damn bro Bring up this topic I never thought about I never thought about this shit bro I had a friend that literally used to come in my crib My mom used to cook him food and all that That was the show Niggas got two kids I met his daughter once Never met his son Mm Sheesh I'm cool with baby mom Baby mom's just like my best friend Uh huh Talked to her more and I talked to him It's like There was one time She FaceTimed me and he was on the phone And I was like Yo what's good? What's good? What's good? My guy? I don't call that nigga my guy My guy is crazy

[00:29:38] That's why I was like yo bro Cause I don't talk to this nigga bro But the nigga lives three blocks away from my crib No Wow So it's like damn my nigga like Wow It's good to the point like My nigga we got smoke? Nah this You know how they be like Yo there's different people in your life for different phases Yes There are certain people I don't wanna lose ever Mm Aw Then do the work Keep them That's not necessarily true I thought you would understand as a friend though Not everything is workable Mm In a sense

[00:30:07] Like in these situations that we named It was just probably growing apart Right? So you could probably try to Okay okay But then you don't wanna overextend Yo let's grab lunch Or you know come over blah blah blah Why? They not available Mmhmm Mmhmm You know what I'm saying Then you feel like you're trying to do the most to maintain a relationship And we all got busy lives now So maintaining a friendship is a part of that Tough But I do think Do you think What I would say I say

[00:30:38] How can I say this? If we were to fall out We said we Like us? Mmhmm Oh man let's see where you go with this How we all handle it? Mmhmm good question Okay And it's nothing Nobody disrespected anybody You know what I'm saying? So you mean we just like stop First of all we stopped potting Yeah We don't talk to each other And then we don't talk to each other We don't play video games or more See?

[00:31:07] It sounds asinine That's the asin that we do But it happened Yeah yeah Hold up Okay when y'all stopped potting for the time For the break Mmhmm Did y'all friendship grow during that time? We worked on that Yeah that was work Work was done Yeah that was work Like okay get through the offer stage Then work for you I don't think it was an hour We didn't work or we were just talkin But nah that's what I'm saying I visibly saw y'all friendship get stronger It took work because one You weren't even in New York anymore Yeah you know what I'm saying?

[00:31:36] I think it took life to hit both of us Here we go Here I go again trying to maintain The long business relationship But that's my point They made the effort to Cheyenne's getting out of here I beg of you Six of all Nah like I think I think Yeah we've all met each other through this pot and shit But I think we've all built friendships and bonds Mm-hmm That extend beyond it Like Yeah we pod once a week But we talk all week It's not like you know what I'm saying? It's not like we only speak when we get here We only talk about shit when we get here Like Mm-hmm We spend all that time

[00:32:05] So if we wasn't coming in here And podding and putting on this production for everybody We'd still probably find time To you know Pour into each other Mm-hmm I personally believe that You know what I'm saying? But that's why I can't really foresee like a falling out Mm-hmm You know And I don't I obviously wouldn't wish that And I think we Think about the time that we're in right? We are all in our 30s I know you just got here brother But you know what I'm saying? Some of us Some of us are not 30 Some of us are not 30 Some of us are not 30 I'm in my 20s

[00:32:35] I am in my 20s He said no age really I am in my 20s I am in my 20s Talking about like The bonds he built as a child Right? Young adult Child right? 14 to 18 Yeah Teenager child Yeah It might be easier to maintain And you're going through your early 20s Mm-hmm And then like That switch of life is like Yeah, I'm 25 now I'm 26 now Things are different I think now at the age that we're at We're a bit more mature Our brains are a little bit more developed We might be able to handle The switch of Or handle the um

[00:33:05] The I don't know what word I'm looking for But handle the way life is You know Mm-hmm Given to us a little bit differently Than uh, you know Like cause look You talking about We talking about kids, marriage, all that stuff now Mm-hmm It takes a bit of a more mature mindset Yeah, same thing Same thing with Corey Like Corey lives across the street from me Mm-hmm I can't tell you the last time I saw Corey Mm-hmm But you understand Yeah, but I understand Corey married Yeah, mm-hmm Once Corey got married Yeah, he got him It's kinda like You kinda respect that Now do you take it more personal If it's a family member?

[00:33:34] Like a family member you're so close to Nah, I You know what's crazy? You know what's crazy? I cherish my friendships more than family Dang I can't even I think like the family Family I was born into But like my friendships I curated Yeah, it's a family you chose You know what I'm saying It's like a perfect playlist of like Mm-hmm, mm-hmm You know Yo, that was beautiful That was poetic Yo Of course I'm using it tonight But yeah, like my friendships My friendships I kinda, you know You deal with them more

[00:34:04] And they know more about me Mm-hmm You know what I'm saying? Like they handle Like even last week's pod We was talking about like Our funerals and stuff like that I know my friends Got that down pack Mm-hmm They be more telling my mom Yo, LaShawn don't want no funeral No Jack You know my mom probably don't know all that Mm-hmm He be popping up on the couch That's what he said I know you don't believe it I know you don't Look, here's the point Look, he said He said it right there Nah, when you bring up family That's kinda It's kinda, it's kinda tough Because

[00:34:34] Yeah, like Sometimes It's just You don't You don't rock with your family The way you rock with your friends And you just That sucks to say I always wanted like I do I can't say this for myself Like I wish I had more of a Like a Like a Stronger bond with all my family I just guess Because we're all so spread out Mm-hmm Uh, I got a lot of actual blood family In like Ghana Or like London Or whatever the case may be And kinda like my My immediate family Like we're like the only ones that came to New York You know what I mean? So it's just like

[00:35:03] Kinda building family You know This was like building that bond with family Was tough for me So Obviously really all I did have was my friends You know what I'm saying? And that's That's kinda They became my family Y'all became my family So it's like You know That's all I got You know what's funny? Even growing up my dad used to say Yo bro Don't follow no friends bro You got family, you good Like If you've been around me you know I got Fucking huge family to the point niggas But yo you sure that's your cousin? Type shit like Yeah So just to have family members Like move a little funny

[00:35:33] And I don't really fuck with a lot of my family members It's like yo But I fuck with my friends It's like I don't really need y'all niggas For real Yeah Niggas don't do nothing for me my nigga But you know what perspective your dad is speaking from right? Like I think that's a protective thing from a parent It's like He don't know who your friends So he don't trust your friends Yeah But he had his own experiences in life So it's like alright hey Yeah he passing that down Be so for like I'm trying to protect my son You know But him saying all of that shit bro The nigga got mad friends So it's like my nigga Why? You just a fucking hypocrite my nigga But you know what's funny?

[00:36:00] You know what's funny about friends becoming family? We all went to Don's father's birthday box That's a fact Niggas been pointing my top shit Niggas just chillin' Yeah So it was kinda like And I didn't feel awkward at all I'm like yeah we gonna go We offered him shots Yeah I'ma take a shot I'ma take a shot I'ma take a shot Shot o'clock Yeah so it was kinda like That's what I'm saying Like in this stage of life Is kinda You gotta do the work to maintain it But then you also don't wanna Overextend yourself But at the same time

[00:36:31] I think for I would assume I don't wanna say anything I think for women It may be easier Because they can Express themselves When their friendships are going You know Hey I feel like That don't work I don't That's what I'm saying I don't But I just think it would be weird If I'm like I know down in the gym Like yo bruh I don't feel like we close anymore You know what I'm saying You see the face you see I'm like It's just no I thought you just say it without saying it Like your bruh feel like

[00:37:00] We should hang out bruh I see you in a minute I thought that's what we do But why we gotta fluff it Like we gotta find I'm trying to say I'm getting enough attention from you That's a little That's a little Yeah Joe I don't feel like we spend enough time together You know what I'm saying We gotta We gotta find a way to Like him nigga? Yeah Nigga what you wanna cuddle or something? Like yo bruh What do you mean now? Nah I never wanna see you again Why you I'ma call you like Bro Somebody hatch your phone? Why you talking like that for? Nigga's like yo you on your period I'm not doing that

[00:37:30] Shayan said we should try it Hey my friend I don't talk to that way for a little while It's like yo bruh Are you good? Yes I told you for a minute You know what yo Put up an icebox That's it But see That also goes to knowing your friends Yeah And not taking things personal Mmhmm That's not the easiest thing to do Yeah it's not It's not It's not So You just gotta find your friends Your male friend group This is for the men that listen to the pod You just you know It's okay Be vulnerable with your friends

[00:38:00] Like yo I don't feel like you know We falling off We falling off Let's go Let's do something But Let's hang out You asked And let's go to dinner And we did that for Christmas We did that was fun You know what I'm saying Yo I haven't seen you in a minute I know life has been Fucking us all up Let's all grab dinner for Christmas You know what I'm saying Let's spend Christmas together Yeah I think about all my male friendships And I think about Like how long they've been I always say like My bro Brian is in my house I'm gonna bleep this one I'm gonna bleep this one

[00:38:29] Hold on hold on Alright go ahead Well I would say my boy Brian's in my first birthday picture Right like That's dumb I'm like oh Brian's right next to me and my sister We were talking about that at Thanksgiving But Brian is not somebody who Is gonna pick up the phone and call me He's not gonna answer in the group chat But you know him If I know he's alive I'm good But like what we do share is that You don't want more? Do I? As crazy as it sounds As a friend Yeah No? I don't And the reason why is because When you learn You learn your friend You learn your family You learn your family You realize like

[00:38:59] This is how he is Yeah It's my choice to allow that to be in my life I could've cut Brian off like When I was 25 You know what I mean? But I didn't So who am I to complain Okay can I ask you a question When Were there ever a point where y'all were like Two peas in a pod? Yeah absolutely Okay so when you It was a smooth road When did that When Okay when the separation happened I mean I hate to make it sound like a divorce But when you noticed

[00:39:27] There was like distance being created Did you not try to like Well Yo bro come back Let me tell you what I think what happened was I went to college So you broke up with him I went to college And that was a lot That was a lot of the friendships I was really the only one Out of my crew To leave home To go away to school I went down to Baltimore And it was like Oh yeah Joe down there Like And I was up here

[00:39:55] Missing all my niggas Dean Foot all I'm watching them Run it up in Miami And I'm like I'm gonna fuck at school Like nah You know what I'm saying But they never made me feel bad for leaving They also always applauded me for it And when we got back Yeah things changed Like I saw them getting closer With each other At building more bonds But they never made me feel like left out People always forget the Out of sight out of mind shit though Yeah But you just reminded me of something Kojo Cause like So Wednesday Dave Chappelle was at Radio City Right

[00:40:25] Cool guy So It was amazing We started this was how was your week He ain't even mention that Yeah he ain't I'm sleepy I just wanna let you know You said yo I was just sleepy all week Nigga went to see one of the ghosts Yeah I forgot that I pulled up to Radio City In a Cybertruck To see Dave Chappelle I definitely see what choke you I see what Kyle is Yeah I just Yeah He locked his phones up right He locked your phone up Facts yeah So but I took my arm One of my best friends Matt We've been friends since the second grade He turned 30

[00:40:55] I was like yo bro Like let's go see Dave I bought him a ticket Got him a bottle of Asa Spade Cause he turned 30 And like we went and had a great time Our friendship has had peaks and like valleys though Like we was in school together Best of friends the whole thing We go to different high schools We don't talk as much We see each other a bit But you know After high school we start to get closer again Then he gets closer with other friends of mine But he's still around We fall out for a second

[00:41:24] He doesn't say why he's upset That's the worst It did but he was I be wanting my niggas to choose my side I don't give a fuck about right wrong and indifference Don't get close to a nigga I brought around But it wasn't even that kind of thing And I was wrong I was wrong but he was wrong Cause he could have said something I'd have fixed it right away You feel me But like he didn't But whatever we passed it He's being a girl I love you Matt But like The girl's crazy Whatever Like uh We're cool again And he's the friend that He's not gonna answer every time I call But he's also the friend that

[00:41:57] We Different Matthew That nigga trying to He's gonna take a spite shit now But yeah so like that's a relationship where like We both could have abandoned it We know each other's parents You know what I mean Like we was locked out of his crib And I crawled in through the window And let us in type shit You know what I'm saying Like we have like stories together And you talking about your married friends Two of my closest friends are married One of them lives out of state I'm the godfather of his new kid Like Like

[00:42:26] If y'all both wanna do it You can and you will And if y'all don't That's fine too Like You don't even need to say it It just is what it is But it's no beef There's no issue It's no smoke It's no We have the relationships we wanna have And we you know Invest in them accordingly Yeah Absolutely For everything For everything So I was gonna ask you I'm gonna bleep the name out for this pod though What about I'm not even talking about this before Nah Nah Nah but I don't think I've

[00:42:55] I was Cheyenne in the room either Okay yeah Cause that's the reason why You know I know her but Right What about him? You've got Yeah Yeah So it's interesting Cause that That was going to my point Where you was like You gotta do the work Yeah And I made the point like Yo you reach out You reach out You don't hear nothing You don't hear nothing It's like that Cause y'all Y'all have all mentioned the word Falling out And Y'all describing it In

[00:43:25] Obviously exclusive to y'all experiences I don't necessarily know what the word Falling out means What does it mean? Before I even get into In depth with this person What does falling out mean? There was an issue of some level There is I have an automated soap dispenser When you stick your hand under it It drops You too used to the projects Yo continue my fall Hold on a second What does falling out How What do y'all What do y'all describe when I say that?

[00:43:53] Okay so falling out could simply be We don't text no more How we used to We don't hang out We don't kick it bro I don't kick it with your skate With your nothing That's it That's a negative thing right? It don't gotta be that It could be a neutral To some level Of some sort of issue It don't gotta be a It could be a positive thing shit Like some friendships A positive falling out I had a falling out way And then you realize Yo That shit was dead weight I was carrying Yeah that shit wasn't serving me anything Yeah yeah yeah So you could have a positive Revelation Of the friendship falling out You know what I'm saying?

[00:44:23] It don't It could be neutral It could be neutral It don't always got to Like the falling out Don't have to be negative You know what I'm saying? Like the always contacting somebody Don't always pushing Why am I the only one fighting For this friendship? Like after a while It's just fucking taxing So when it pertains to the person You just named like That's another thing right? Remember when I said Like I went away to college And that was it But I went away to college And I was still keeping tabs On everybody Still locked in Still making sure That I was you know As involved as I could be In people's lives Letting people know

[00:44:52] What I was doing as well And it wasn't I was I knew there was distance So I had to try to Close the gap manually You know what I'm saying? That was always reciprocated though? When I was in college? Yeah Yeah, pretty much Like my Like yo bro are you eating nigga? Yeah, yeah, yeah I remember my niggas drove To fucking Baltimore Just to chill on campus with me You know what I'm saying? Like that was the effort Like you know what I'm saying? Like when I was up in Bing Like Rain used to go to my crib Get the food from my mom Put it in a Put it in like a A silken package Take the bus

[00:45:21] All the way up Fill my fridge up And hang with all my friends Like that was like the effort Like that was That's what I mean Like I know that Yeah, yeah, yeah So that shit wasn't foreign to me Um, but you know When somebody goes and leaves And naturally they're already hard to reach You create distance on top of that It's like yo bro What are we supposed to do? What are you supposed to do? We could think about all the memories And everything All the shit we did together You could look at all the pictures And all that stuff

[00:45:51] But it's just like Sometimes the work to So that didn't affect you Like you didn't feel sad Or like damn Like I did Where I am in my life Back when I knew you Versus where I am now I did not see If we take a photo Yeah Of what your life looks like Yeah This person's not in it Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah That's what I mean That feeling of like Damn, son Like you were supposed to be Like I say That's why I said I don't think I would have Uh Uh

[00:46:20] What's that shit called? Um Survivor's remorse He is responsible He is responsible For me meeting My best friends You know what I'm saying? Like But he's going on Maybe that's just the role he plays Right? That's crazy, right? That's crazy So I mean It is It is I think that's the hardest The hardest Uh Morning That you do Is when the person's still alive And he's not around Yeah Yeah Like even if like They're accessible Uh Niggas can go out the way Take the drive Take the toll

[00:46:50] But it's like Brody was telling me like Yo, we gotta You know what I mean? I was like Alright But you know It wasn't like It's not that It wasn't overjoyed to do it I wasn't like Alright Like yo, I'm free If it happens, it happens That's what it was Yeah Can I make an observation Real quick? Yeah So y'all all Had an opportunity Just now To kick this person's back in I would never And y'all didn't That's what I said And like Off mic and off pod I've never seen y'all do that So

[00:47:19] That's what I mean by like It's a choice And a character thing As far as how you choose to carry it Good callback Yeah Good callback That was the He was making fun He was making fun He was making fun He was making fun He was making fun He was making fun Look at words of affirmation Velo in your love language Like I'm just Blushing half That nigga Right like a motherfucker I'm just light skinned in the back Yo He might be I ain't on front Oh shit Nah Fuckin' weird Okay

[00:47:49] Even though Kwani's not here Kwani put a bunch of things That he want us to To talk about Let me see which one makes the most sense None of them do without him You were I ain't gonna lie He was on roll in it Yeah he was Yeah he went crazy He was But We may mention of it earlier The method man thing M-E-T-H-O-T Man To cow I'm sure he's justified bro

[00:48:17] Ain't nobody beating up nobody over their daughter for no reason bro For sure After that much time Pet past two I'm not gonna lie Cause the same way you have beef with somebody bro It's like oh it's on sight That's an on sight thing Bro that's your That is your fucking child Yeah Seven punches Seven punches Who was watching I thought that's like a beat up I thought that's a little lash up Nah I saw this Rest in peace to TikTok By the time this episode comes out If nothing changes TikTok is gone But I saw this girl Give a three piece combo to this guy For touching her butt

[00:48:47] While she was doing squats Oh you peeped that? Yeah I'm sure it was fake but yeah I'm not taking no three punches like that to the face for a skit bro She dropped it How much did she lift it? That looked How many faces she lifted? Nah the way the camera That's why I think it was the surveillance Okay That's why I don't think it was a skit Cause it looked like a surveillance Yeah but you saw him He grabbed her butt Yeah yeah Like he really got in there? Nah like you know when she Don't laugh Well you don't laugh

[00:49:16] You said did he get in there? Oh fool No I'm not trying to laugh at that I'm not trying to laugh at that Yeah sexual assault isn't funny I'm not laughing at that They laughing That was that What the hell in here? What? That was actually working with Kojo Jenner Yeah I was nasty Come on You trying to get me out of here right? What? This ain't right now So she does the squat And he tried to front like he was Yeah pick up helping her Yeah but he cuffed Oh yeah he smiling Once she got up That's funny She turned That's funny right?

[00:49:46] Once she turned around She gave him the sweetest Three pieces Yeah for you deserve it Right? So boom Niggas be doing too much Nah I ain't gonna front bro Unless she asked for help I can't I can't But she didn't ask for help What you bothering her for? Yeah So Boom None of us To our knowledge We don't have any kids Right? As far as being all All no You know what?

[00:50:16] You're not gonna preach When it comes that time And parents The thing about the Method Man thing Did it Did it I think I think what he did was commendable Yeah What are the pros of parenting? The pros? What are you talking? Wait what? Oh watching my kid grow up? Wait what? What's good about being a person? Being responsible for another person? I just

[00:50:46] I just I just wanna evacuate Niggas at cons Oh I don't give my time Uh I gotta change diapers It's a lot of cons It's not expensive Hold on I ain't gonna go You a negative fucker That shit They just put us on the spot Ugh I'm just trying to think about All the things that come with parenting Uh huh Right? Taxes You can write them over in taxes Shout out to Kamala Shout out to Kamala Well we got an expert We got an expert parent in here now

[00:51:15] And I don't know about expert Oh shit Oh shit Um Nah you just think about like All the risk assessment That comes with raising a child Now like I said granted Do it That's where I was gonna go too But continue here Even that Nah boys son He said daughters But boys too Cause I was thinking about What my father said I don't know why this came to my head But he

[00:51:44] His way of putting me on a straight path Right? I knew he was the breadwinner Right? In my family But he always let it be known Yo you get locked up Don't call this phone Same way you getting there Same way you getting out Don't call this phone Cause I raised you well enough That if you got locked up You disobeyed something I taught you So that was enough Same You know that concept I get it at first But then it changed I think that's That was early before That was a scare tactic

[00:52:14] I'm not with that That's before life got tricky Where it's like Well not for anything Anything can literally happen Yeah so he's talking about like He's talking about on something like Yo you know you did wrong You got locked up for it Eat that Not on something like Yo my son was uh Wrong place wrong time Wrong place wrong time Prejudice things of that nature Protester He know call that number He knows to call that number But if I'm out Excelling drugs and stuff Yeah

[00:52:43] You didn't say that's crazy One second One second one second Yo I'm not gonna You dead ass can't do that You want to straighten that for me? Yeah the tripod is showing them like Yo you are taking that out That's cool that's cool I just wanted to Seemed off I gotta see the like Yo know how to straighten it Joe? Yeah so Yup Wow You said Joe's on the special? I was insane That's fine You good you solid Joe You did it you did it you did it I had front of the way So this now is kind of It's a little

[00:53:11] Joe was like my left is my right My right is my left Yo that was exactly what I'm doing Nigga look at Boa's head I'm like I'm like It's like This is my right head So I gotta turn it Yo literally That's what I'm doing bro How's y'all catching that? This is the guy creating Everybody's art man I get it done yo That would be so dope If Joe was on the spectrum He's one of the best That nigga is gonna hype that shit up so much He's gonna call my advocate I'm the greatest autistic graduate

[00:53:44] Yo Shaz I just want you to understand That joke that you made that day I laugh at that shit before I go to my bed Nigga said what you leave us watching? Yo What you coming over here for? You gonna hurry up to go make the Oh Bitch where everybody's I'm just laughing at that Before I go to bed Yo Very dark joke but I love you Not even that Last week I read one of the The reassurance statements The clarified questions She was like Shaya was like That was a big sentence What the fuck Yeah

[00:54:15] Yo why are you Nigga be throwing shots Hold on hold on hold on I do a great job just like Yo I walked in here right And we was talking like LeSean had like the glass cleaner I'm like yo what is that? But we were talking about Like some other shit at the same time So he goes So we're talking about When does Trump get inaugurated? Yeah when does Trump get inaugurated right? So uh I'm like yo what is that? He's like the inauguration? I go yo Y'all not gonna talk to me like I'm cold y'all in here

[00:54:44] Like y'all not gonna Y'all not gonna talk to me like Stand behind me Cause I don't like I don't like the way they be talking to you bro Alright? That's crazy Damn we were talking about It's a completely different We were talking about the meth shit though Why I saw the meth shit? You talking about what the pros are having Kids I just feel like yo It comes with a lot of like But just to see something you um You love when grow up I mean Yeah it's legacy, love Um Okay cool Family Family if you value that Value that And you want your own

[00:55:15] Uh Kids There you know My little shit Yeah Don't call yourself You know Free labor I wanna find Free labor Free labor I mean Niggas Niggas be grabbing remote speed for fun Yeah listen I am picking up all my nieces and nephews and godkids Taking them to the farm And be like yeah so today we're We shoveling horseshit So what's a con then? What's a con that sticks out to you? What's one that really sticks out to you?

[00:55:44] It's ironic that we bringing up this in parenting Cause I don't know if y'all saw the little kid who got hurt at the daycare shit That had me furious To me that's always gonna be the con Is that when you're not around your child I'm crashing out though You know what I'm saying? Like what do you do When your son comes back to you Looking like that Yeah And they say he fell He fell It was at first he had a tantrum Then he didn't have a tantrum Like yo monnagga what we I don't even know the What the stories?

[00:56:12] The two teachers didn't have the same What the stories don't add up? Yeah the two two Two two's ain't added up Yeah that's what That's what I mean like yo The The extra Anxiety The extra fear The extra I can't always be there You vulnerable The extra vulnerable You vulnerable Yeah yeah yeah I had to have fear for my kids too It's like that Yeah like You know what I'm saying? Cause here you're bringing I always see parenting in the sense of Yo you're doing a child Um

[00:56:42] A disservice if you're not prepared Right? You're bringing them into the world They ain't asked to be here Yeah You know what I'm saying? So you just don't put You gotta put them in the best positions But then when you You when you're there You think you're doing that Right? Mhm But then when you leave them It's kinda like They freestyling They freestyling They gotta freestyle And technically A two year old can't freestyle Exactly You know what I'm saying? And you know A two year old can freestyle though As a person

[00:57:12] They don't know That's all they do As a person who is learning to trust Again You have to trust Trust somebody with my In this community That you're leaving your kids in You know what I'm saying? Mhm Even the Method Man situation Right? Like He trust This man to be To do right By his daughter For whatever reason He didn't Because he waited A decade long To spank him To spank him You know what I'm saying? He held that in for ten years

[00:57:41] Probably for Probably for me Pre-workout too I'm about to say He had a fresh gym Like, Method Man's strong He punched him seven songs I can see I said a little nigga though Why you said strong? I don't like that bro Cause he's Are we playing? Nigga said a nigga in heat Okay Alright Cool, cool, cool Nah That's not a little nigga though But so it's like Yo bro You know he been waiting For that moment bro That nigga entered 36 chambers With Method Man For real Telling you nigga Protect your neck for real

[00:58:10] Protect your neck for real Oh I love Wu-Tang funds Keep going But nah, that's what I'm saying Like, when you think about parenting And all that entails Like, that's why it's so important To like, do it when you're ready bro I don't I don't wanna shelter my kid too much though At the same time Like, that's like That's like keeping a kid in a bubble It's like nigga, you're not used to germs nigga You're not used to hurting yourself Alright, tell me Tell me all the cons to sheltering a child

[00:58:40] Since we're all I think Okay, I think They gonna crash out I think The main con Is when They're finally exposed to the world And they don't know how to Handle it They have not Have not had enough time to adapt To the fast pace Especially if you grow up in New York City Like You might fall into the wrong circle Because you don't know what is You don't have the You're not smarts for You're gullible Yeah, you're gullible We all know what happens Somebody's shooting it We all been to parties Where niggas are shooting at the party You can smell it coming You know what's going on

[00:59:09] You watching, you observing You can feel the tension in the air, bro You like It's time Like Like something ain't right If you're not used to being outside You in the backyard party Niggas getting on over there Other niggas is moving You Niggas jumping the fence Niggas getting fucked Ha ha that shit You outta here They say the shelter kids They be the most promiscuous When they pop out Cause like They know the idea of it They know the idea of sex They know it's always around That's like them people that go to the church The church Yeah Yeah, yeah, yeah It sounds like a cliche

[00:59:38] But I know that to be a real thing How? Because I know I know a lot of people that You better clean it up Clean it up Clean it up Clean it up You better start sleeping or something No, no, no, no, no I don't let the letter pop it Just keep going Nah See, I went to church every week Right? But I was in shelter You know what I'm saying? So like I know the kids who were And I saw how they I'm like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah Y'all new here You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? I feel like as a youth I was exposed to

[01:00:07] Probably a little too much You know what I'm saying? I feel like most of us were though Yeah, but you know You gotta be able to like I'm glad you said that, Joe Keep talking about it I think it helped me It helped me more I think it helped me Having strict parents Because my parents were strict I'm talking about African immigrants right here They were strict But they never And I think Circumstantially They couldn't They couldn't keep me My sister and my brother Out of the streets, bro They just couldn't You know what I'm saying? Like you couldn't do it I had a single black mom Good luck Like you always at work I'ma

[01:00:38] I'ma be outside We want We want some pussy Spotted I'ma be outside You're supposed to go to church? Who is that? Two-lop group? Nah nah Shout out to the vinyl though You know what I'm saying? That's the point You were enthusiasts You were a collector I was just looking for some samples Oh I was going through sales Digging for some samples, bro Word Word Word Word Yeah man

[01:01:08] The two-lop joint was there Yeah, okay You know, pick it up and Respect Nah, but you know It's Cooney's enemies, right? I ain't gonna front the guy I let you just keep too many fucking receipts I'ma get out of here But uh But yeah, so it's kinda like Alright Granted The love of your life Your child You know what I'm saying? Family legacy Legacy, legacy, right? I don't know It just seems like a lot

[01:01:37] A lot comes with More than You know? Cause I can't imagine Whatever Whatever Whatever The responsibility that comes with it Mhm Right? It's a high level of responsibility Whereas Something happened to your child And now I can't imagine my daughter comes with Cause what they are saying Well, one of the things they are saying is that You know, after his arrest He showed the police what happened to his daughter

[01:02:07] And more than likely the police Uh, has The police officer has a daughter himself It was like, you know what? Yeah, I would've did the same shit Yo, you valid I ain't seen nothing Waited 10 years though? I ain't gonna front That brother got patience though Maybe maybe 10 years, nigga I don't know if he waited 10 years or something Wait, I mean, so he saw him 10 years later That was my question too Why, yeah, did you wait? Yeah, I don't think Come on It's like He had to wait 10 years to find somebody He could've found somebody Yeah, Ross Oh, I see you now It's on I

[01:02:35] I mean, I also Don't He was ready to go to jail when he hit him So, like Right Like it didn't really matter to him Right Yeah, I, it's If you're ready to crash out with your friends My nigga over your family members My nigga your child Yeah You're gonna go crazy Did you press charges? If he presses charges They can press charges on him I don't think he's gonna do that If he hasn't, I'm sure he will It's messing me Wouldn't that roles be reversed though? Would he? Not even on a Well Unfortu- probably

[01:03:04] That's a good point because You press charges on me Yeah Oh, what did he press charges on you? Yeah Because whatever he did 10 years ago I don't know the statute of limitations I don't know the statute of limitations Dependent on what he did Yeah, facts I've got some new legal books too Subpoena niggas and shit But Even if he does press charges He might do it civilly Just get him Get some bread But again, I don't care Take it Like you put your hands on my daughter Like I get it You know, so I

[01:03:32] How much thought y'all gave into being a girl dad? I would like to be a girl dad You That's what you would prioritize first? I would like that I would like that First I want a son first Of course If I had kids, I wouldn't mind having a girl I have no issues having a girl If I had kids, I would want a girl I'm not saying issues I'm not Matthew Uh huh Wait, what I'm saying what I'm saying what What mental Uh Thought have you given My daughter If I had a daughter, she'd be ill though

[01:04:02] Like I Cause I look at my like nieces and shit that way Cause They're gonna have like amazing music tastes They're gonna like know like culture And just all the different things I have to offer Yeah, that's cool and all They gon get that We talking about real life Like stuff Going into the world Cause even That's why I said like Joe talks Joe talks about it all the time But like I'm going to have that harsh talk Well that's a part of it Like at the appropriate times But like that's I've downloaded so much information

[01:04:32] From my experiences And from others experiences I'd be doing you a disservice To not share that with you You know? But isn't that the uh Okay, but someone say Oh, you're not protecting them Because why Like you're sharing You know? That's the sheltered part Where you don't share that Right? Because you like I said appropriate time though Like I'm not going to tell a 7 year old What I'm going to tell a 13 year old You know? And But even that 13 I'm going to let my 15 I'm going to let my 15 I'm going to let my 15 17 19

[01:05:01] 24 year old We taking 5 years off the coat Bro So you're rather 7 No, I'm talking about 18 Like I lost my virginity at 18 I think 17 Sorry So I got to tell it 4 years prior to it That's how fast life is advancing Well yeah Cause eventually we going to be old Right? Cause we 30 We in our 36th of a day So any point of us having that conversation Like let's say one of us have kids now

[01:05:31] 13 years from now Joe you 44 Give or take 45 Yeah 44, 45 Right? Depending on when you shoot the club up So then having Like 40 That's That's 3 presidents later Maybe Maybe Maybe Maybe Maybe it's not funny Maybe Maybe Maybe Can you imagine But even that Can you imagine that? Like let's say

[01:06:00] In a weird ass world He He finds a loophole And exit And now he's President 14 years later How do you even explain the world To your daughter That yo We used to vote every 4 years You know what I'm saying? So many things Life has changed And you You have to constantly I think that's one flaw That our parents made They never adapted Yeah They never adapted They didn't They stuck to what they knew They stuck to what they knew You know? So you gotta constantly try to stay young

[01:06:29] But without being the creepy Creepy old guy Mm-hmm You gotta stay hip to technology You gotta keep advancing But Even now in my age I can't keep up with everything You know what I'm saying? So you You're trying to Advance with your child And try to protect them From the traditional dangers But then the new dangers Shit Right? Cause like even when gaming first started My mom didn't know I was talking to Kids In the In the other world You know?

[01:06:57] And she would just hear me cursing back Cause niggas don't know about the old Call of Duty The old Call of Duty That racist as fuck The chat rooms The chat rooms You see what I'm saying? So you know You know you get a laptop With a Who you on? Wait you can see somebody? Mm-hmm You know what I'm saying? They didn't adapt So Who's your little friend? That's what I'm saying

[01:07:27] Who's your little friend? Oh my Get out the room Get out the room You know what I'm saying? Like the Like we talked about the last part Where we have to be on the same front The unifying front What we not doing spankers How we gonna punish? Mm-hmm Punishment changed throughout the years You couldn't tell my mother You couldn't go to 244 Or 135 Or mile 11 And tell Nobody in that school Was gonna tell my mother Yo I'm going to slap the shit out of LaShawn

[01:07:56] And no cops are gonna be called Now you try to do that? Your hand ain't even The thought is You would get a question for the thought Exactly That's As crazy as it sounds I know this is me We don't We don't We don't We don't Condone Abusing children But did you see Adrian Peterson's son? I remember that story I remember that story But he's an elite running back Is he? You go through that? He's a running back And he

[01:08:25] There was one rant He was running up the seam, right? And he dodged a hit And then somebody said You can already predict the thing His journey told him well So You know what we do So it's kinda like It's kinda like Damn like Parenting has evolved And I don't know If I'm Fully equipped To adapt Niggas said Parenting evolved for Ash Whoopins is forever though

[01:08:54] That was my cold joke You've adapted everything else You've adjusted everything else though In your life I'm saying again Like that's the gig You gotta like Keep up I don't see parenting as the gig It is though It's another job It's another role It's another function Everything is everything You know what's crazy? Oh my god I was listening Rest in peace TikTok again, right? TikTok showed this video Of like a guy trying to interview A bunch of people And he was just saying And he was just saying how this role He was It was a job interview

[01:09:23] And at the stage of the interview He was telling them all the job description details Exactly And how it's 24 hours There's no lunch break Maybe Maybe When they was like Yo, when do we take a break? Maybe if you find a pocket of Tom You could eat something Grab something Blah blah blah That's not like slavery Listen That's what somebody said, right? Nah, at least you had a break with that Somebody That's what somebody said, right? And at the end

[01:09:52] You want to get it? Yo I'm not going to sleep You're not going to sleep But at the end of it They were like What we just described Was the job of a mom

[01:11:34] Mmm Get out of here, yo I hate the Omar So So then everybody was like Damn, they reflected Like damn, this is around the clock Yo, that's so crazy Yeah, this is around the clock job type of thing Yeah, being alive Is an around the clock job kind of thing too though Not to minimize that But that's my point Like it's all All of it is To be a good parent You need to be healthy So that's work And that's a job Making sure that you don't just die And like leave your kids and shit You know what I'm saying? So yes Like

[01:12:04] They're all just jobs And roles and functions that we play And If you hesitant Or you not going to Well it's different for guys Cause sometimes like It's not up to you whether or not you having a kid Yes it is I don't agree with that We control that Go on Now you just want Exactly Exactly We play the first card Once you ejaculate Yeah, exactly We play the first card No, but no, no What I'm saying is If you want to keep it And she doesn't If she wants If you want to keep it And she See at that point Exactly At that point

[01:12:34] At that point Once it's in her You hold the card bro When she says When she When she When she When she When she When she It's true We hold the card My comeback is Sean don't like condoms And you get pregnant off of pre-cums So I All right You want to be shady? Cool Let's Let's Let's 33 years old With no child Don't ever Exactly Get your weight up

[01:13:04] why we going here right now like so you can't you can't say that i i understand the ramifications of unprotected sex right right it is it is a ramification right because if i if if the thought alone of asking a woman to have an abortion if i slip up then i should strap up right no but i said other way around you want to keep it and she doesn't but that's not oh yeah and that's true

[01:13:34] right and my larger point was that um have you ever been in that situation pro choice over here no um i wasn't trying to jam you off me i just had to think real quick nah my larger point was like being a some things you can't be like halfway in or you shouldn't be halfway in on you know and like doubts come naturally with anything like will i be a good parent like oh shit this kid is here and i'm not ready and can you ever really be ready you know

[01:14:02] what's crazy that's that's what delayed me on parenthood because i question my own ability of being a good father yeah and i felt like i was too selfish in life to ever think i would make i don't think the idea of somebody saying hey i'm pregnant would drop that selfishness out of me immediately now my thing right my fault to cut you off um when did you have this thought though uh was it before manny or after during the pandemic yeah so after manny okay yeah so after manny but look at what you do manny i feel like that's a good example and that's what all women say

[01:14:31] yeah that like i see you with your god so you will make a great dad you're not my dad yeah i can return him though go back mr tira that's different you know i think i think that thought though is one of the qualities that makes someone if i have like five hundred dollars left you know what i'm saying amiri just got the sale i don't want to feed this little nigga i gotta get fly first you know i'm saying those are the things that come to my mind you're a decent man and your

[01:14:58] priorities will like rearrange but that's what that's also what i was thinking too my prior where my naturally naturally right at least 33 yeah when my priorities are naturally right it's kind of like damn i have the choice this little person doesn't have the choice right my little shit don't have a choice right now we all right so it's kind of like damn i don't want to do them a disservice

[01:15:26] of being in knowing that my prior i think your priorities i think children that are planned usually in my assumption turn out for the best not if they're born with like a heart defect or something though like any i'm anything he's thinking of any factor that can happen but i'm saying like you can you cannot completely mitigate those like fears and things like what if your child has like you know serious developmental issues you're not gonna love it like then don't have kids

[01:15:55] true you gotta think about it and you can't do the genetic shit before which you should i think they make that mandatory now but like um there's a lot of factors like even the person you have a kid with can change now it's difficult to even take care of your child because you're not seeing your child yeah kwani kwani has something that's funny that kwani had this hair but i think the fact that kwani put this on here and knew he would not be here he's good i am i ain't like that because kwani put babies causing breakups i didn't know how he wanted us to navigate

[01:16:25] what the fuck i didn't see that one man yeah kwani put i'm i'm throwing kwani i'm throwing you extremely under the bus it says um i think it's i will not be here kwani put babies causing breakups right now we have seen that a lot um but i feel like we don't highlight the ones that work for example matthew the mental work that you have to put in yeah right

[01:16:52] to know like the relationship aspect after the baby is born you gotta one of my uh i won't say her name because but she told me like a lot changed she's married she's been with her man for 10 years but once the baby came their relationship changed all together did he get all the time to the kid my question my question before you even got to that was are we sure that the baby is causing the breakup but no they didn't break up but not not for them

[01:17:21] they changed the topic the topic is wait so are they good are they it did change but they're together in their work yes but it was it was even being with somebody for 10 years this new uh edition hammer in the relationship you can't you can't you can't predict that you know what i'm saying so you got to put in new work to to make sure you stick it out with this person but again that's the gig that is the point of marriage and having a kid with someone it's a

[01:17:49] commitment to figure that shit out and that's why love is never enough of course not it's the fucking work and care and effort and all the other shit like it's a gotta make a choice and just do it or don't because i always say like um i wouldn't necessarily i'd marry someone but it wouldn't necessarily make them a good mother or someone i want to have kids with you know what's crazy i

[01:18:16] thought the opposite i wouldn't marry somebody but they would make a great mother yeah it can it can work it can it can yes it does work both ways yeah you know what i mean in that position yeah like i'm not sure if you would make a great wife because you're not as nice as i would like you to be but when it comes to motherhood right you smoke that shit right and for some people you go you know what i value uh a mother more i'm gonna have like kids with this person and make a relationship work

[01:18:44] with this person not you make it breaking broken families bro how's the broken family because you're not gonna marry her but you but yo sign up for this gig to be a mother i mean maybe you do marry her like what i'm saying is maybe you value how good of a mother she is more than how good of a wife she is people value different things so like the same set of rules don't apply but like you need to be very clear and honest about like what it is that you're looking for if you want to have kids

[01:19:12] you want to have kids if you want to have kids and be married and do all that other shit that's a different thing and it requires like but here what's a good guy we don't promote broken homes oh yeah well as a product of a broken home i'm i'm speaking i'm speaking from my experience but then but also like broken homes happen and they exist so you can't pretend they don't just because you don't endorse them i don't endorse them either

[01:19:39] black you don't have to endorse it but you don't promote it either what is it's not always up to you because what if the kid ain't close to break up and y'all just broke up which is why like i wouldn't just have a kid with anyone i would need to know can we break up but like she's not gonna keep my kid from me she's not gonna have anyone around my kids it's you know you supposed to learn that that is your time to learn that that's what she can foresee bro that's not something you vet you know what i'm saying we don't vet that

[01:20:09] it is nah be serious be serious unless unless you there's no way you can vet there's no way you can vet i don't think y'all paying attention and i'm not and i'm not doing this on a gender thing i'm not talking about male or female no i'm so i'm just talking about i'm talking about life naturally occurring exactly and no but i'm talking about life naturally occurring and you seeing how people like deal with like problems or turbulence and life and shit like

[01:20:35] i know a person who's cruel and evil that doesn't keep their child away from their uh their father you said that's cool and evil cruel cruel and evil like somebody who you would think would would be the one to go put it and they're going child support and keep they they child away from the father and they don't do that yeah bro you can't vet it yeah you can't i'm telling you bro there'll be less children in the world sometimes you can vet that how about this sometimes it's obvious that you shouldn't be having to get with someone that is okay all right cool

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