Episode 297: The Limerence Cycle

[00:00:00] Oh damn

[00:00:01] I see, I see short in a minute.

[00:00:03] Nah, we not talking about the same person.

[00:00:06] Nah, we not.

[00:00:07] I don't think, but are we?

[00:00:09] Nah, nah, nah.

[00:00:10] Nah, nah, nah.

[00:00:11] Nah, we not talking about your mans.

[00:00:12] Got you.

[00:00:13] That's how we differentiate people these days.

[00:00:15] Everybody know who the two mans and who the not mans.

[00:00:17] That's not how you do.

[00:00:18] Yo, this the pod that I been holding on?

[00:00:20] What we got over there?

[00:00:21] Let me get a little bev, please.

[00:00:23] We got some rosés and box of neuro.

[00:00:25] Let me get a little bub, please.

[00:00:26] Appreciate it.

[00:00:28] Yo, Jordane, we need you on the team, boy.

[00:00:31] Jordane?

[00:00:32] Jordane?

[00:00:33] Yeah.

[00:00:34] She done a pod with us?

[00:00:36] Nah, I need her behind the scenes.

[00:00:38] Say who?

[00:00:39] Jordane.

[00:00:40] Oh, that's right.

[00:00:42] Yo, Jordane tried to, uh, Jordane sent her home girl to shoot at me.

[00:00:48] We got to cut all this stuff apart.

[00:00:50] Nah, I'm keeping it at you.

[00:00:51] Nah, nah, nah, let's cut this stuff apart.

[00:00:52] Let's cut this stuff apart.

[00:00:53] That one tastes up too.

[00:00:55] Oh.

[00:00:56] Alright, we cut your part.

[00:00:59] But she my sister age.

[00:01:01] Oh, nah.

[00:01:01] Yeah.

[00:01:02] I felt bad though.

[00:01:03] Cause she's a quality girl.

[00:01:05] And she a preacher's kid.

[00:01:06] I don't know if I want to do that again.

[00:01:07] Oh yeah, I don't know if I want to do that again.

[00:01:09] Yeah, she a preacher's kid, but she's pretty.

[00:01:11] You want to go to, um...

[00:01:11] She was really pretty.

[00:01:12] You want to go to, um...

[00:01:13] Nope.

[00:01:14] Poetry, please?

[00:01:14] Nope.

[00:01:15] Nope.

[00:01:15] Nope.

[00:01:28] I mean, that's the nigga named Rush.

[00:01:29] Yeah.

[00:01:30] Yeah.

[00:01:30] I actually saw the Twitter DM the other day and I sent them my work.

[00:01:33] He was like, yo, I'm gonna get back to you.

[00:01:35] But I knew how that went.

[00:01:36] You never know.

[00:01:36] I wish I was...

[00:01:37] Game is a game.

[00:01:38] Poetry, please.

[00:01:40] The whole thing.

[00:01:40] Cause they was looking for a video for the shoot, the whole thing.

[00:01:43] Oh yeah.

[00:01:43] But he hired his mans though.

[00:01:45] Exactly.

[00:01:46] He gave his game.

[00:01:47] Yeah.

[00:01:48] But yeah.

[00:01:48] 20 frat.

[00:01:50] For real?

[00:01:50] Or the Alpha 5.

[00:01:51] Shout out to my...

[00:01:52] Yeah, shout out to them like it's...

[00:01:53] High school brothers.

[00:01:55] Um...

[00:01:56] But yeah, son.

[00:01:56] So shorty, we talked for a little bit.

[00:01:59] Then when she told me her age, it was tough.

[00:02:02] It was tough.

[00:02:03] Like you the same age as my sister gang.

[00:02:06] Like you could be my sister.

[00:02:07] That's right.

[00:02:08] Uh-uh.

[00:02:08] Couldn't do it.

[00:02:09] Couldn't do it.

[00:02:10] She's pretty though.

[00:02:11] You ever feel like you be talking yourself out of something good cause of the age, son?

[00:02:14] Yo, bro.

[00:02:15] I'm eight years older than my sister gang.

[00:02:18] Eight is tough.

[00:02:19] Eight is a lot.

[00:02:20] What we supposed to talk about?

[00:02:21] Social media stuff?

[00:02:22] Nah.

[00:02:22] She got it.

[00:02:23] She got...

[00:02:24] Don't get me wrong.

[00:02:24] She had her shit together.

[00:02:25] She got her shit together.

[00:02:26] She...

[00:02:27] Smart, intelligent.

[00:02:28] Let me ask you a question.

[00:02:28] Niggas, we all got PTSD.

[00:02:30] Niggas, we all shit just now.

[00:02:32] She a smart, intelligent woman.

[00:02:34] I just...

[00:02:34] Make sure you wear a condom, nigga.

[00:02:36] Once the age got into it, it was kind of like...

[00:02:40] Damn, son.

[00:02:40] I wanna ask a question about that.

[00:02:42] Now go ahead, bro.

[00:02:42] So I was watching a show the other day and actually this came up.

[00:02:47] Is it crazy when you're like 50 and she's 40?

[00:02:52] Probably not.

[00:02:52] Yeah, like I think about it like...

[00:02:54] We had a certain age.

[00:02:54] Is it only crazy right now cause we're in our 20s and it sounds weird?

[00:02:59] What?

[00:03:00] Oh, you saw that too?

[00:03:01] Oh shit.

[00:03:02] You saw that too?

[00:03:03] Yeah.

[00:03:03] What was he saying?

[00:03:04] Oh, the girl that live here.

[00:03:05] One of his neighbors.

[00:03:07] Yeah.

[00:03:07] That be in the chair.

[00:03:08] Yeah, she pack a lot.

[00:03:09] Okay, you already know this.

[00:03:11] My favorite lover is always Donald Paisley.

[00:03:13] Alongside the Lashaw.

[00:03:14] Have a beautiful day here in NYC man.

[00:03:16] Shout out to y'all for like, comment, and subscribing.

[00:03:18] Doing everything I do every week.

[00:03:19] We do appreciate y'all.

[00:03:20] Appreciate my brother for handing me another little...

[00:03:22] Damn.

[00:03:24] The garage.

[00:03:25] You know what I'm saying?

[00:03:26] So we got the fellas in the building again.

[00:03:27] Damn.

[00:03:28] It's a good one for your weeks.

[00:03:29] Yeah man.

[00:03:31] Um, Quanee in the building.

[00:03:32] Joe in the building.

[00:03:33] Dane in the building.

[00:03:34] Skrill's in the building.

[00:03:35] Preach in the building.

[00:03:37] Damn.

[00:03:39] Glad to have you fellas here.

[00:03:40] Hey LA, um, what's going on pal?

[00:03:42] What's going on buddy?

[00:03:43] So I have discovered something called a limerence cycle.

[00:03:49] Any of y'all ever heard of the limerence cycle?

[00:03:51] I've never heard of it.

[00:03:52] Can you please?

[00:03:52] I don't know it's familiar, but no.

[00:03:53] Okay.

[00:03:54] So, the limerence cycle is a series of stages that can include infatuation, crystallization,

[00:04:04] and the admiration of a person.

[00:04:08] So, when I was going through a situation, I'm like, damn, do I fall in this cycle?

[00:04:13] And when we get to the end of the cycle, it will, uh, it will kind of, uh, determine,

[00:04:23] it will spin back to our zero to 100 theory.

[00:04:25] Where I am no longer 100, I am now negative two to 100.

[00:04:32] Rob Markman, man.

[00:04:33] You won't even get to know.

[00:04:35] Next thing you're not going to know my real name.

[00:04:37] Exactly.

[00:04:38] My name is Shawn.

[00:04:41] Or I might go by my middle name or something.

[00:04:44] Can somebody get the door for Dane, Preach?

[00:04:46] Get the door for Dane.

[00:04:47] Um, so, so let me, uh, limerence is an intense emotion that can involve extreme emotional highs

[00:04:57] and lows.

[00:04:58] The person may experience feelings of euphoria and reassurance when interacting positively

[00:05:05] with their limerent lover, but can quickly feel despaired if they perceive any signs of rejection.

[00:05:13] Limerence can be caused by anxious attachment styles, which can lead to irritation thoughts,

[00:05:20] emotion dependencies, and intense fear of rejection.

[00:05:23] It can also serve as a coping mechanism for people who are anxiously attached.

[00:05:30] So let's start with the first, uh, one of the first stages, the preliminaries.

[00:05:35] The person long, longs to fall in love, but doesn't have a particular love interest.

[00:05:42] So meaning that the person wants somebody so bad that the first person that come, or we all in.

[00:05:50] That's nasty.

[00:05:51] Right?

[00:05:51] Now, I'm freestyling a little bit, cause I, I kinda like the idea of potting in real time.

[00:05:58] Like lately I've been like, damn, I write too much notes and it sound like I'm, you know?

[00:06:02] Yeah, yeah.

[00:06:03] Scripted.

[00:06:04] Yeah.

[00:06:04] But now it's like, I, I had the thought of the pot.

[00:06:07] I write it down and I'll be winging this shit.

[00:06:10] Do y'all like people who like y'all?

[00:06:12] Or, or, yes.

[00:06:15] Or, no, no, no, no.

[00:06:16] Is this a real question though?

[00:06:17] That's a real question though.

[00:06:19] That's a real question.

[00:06:19] That's a real question though.

[00:06:20] That's a real question though.

[00:06:20] Joe, I ain't on front of me.

[00:06:21] Come give me a kiss.

[00:06:24] Joe, I'm laughing that sounds.

[00:06:25] Yeah, bro.

[00:06:26] You know how real about that term, bro.

[00:06:28] I love that.

[00:06:28] I love that.

[00:06:28] I love that.

[00:06:29] I love that.

[00:06:29] Like, do y'all like who like y'all or do y'all do the chase?

[00:06:33] I got it.

[00:06:33] I don't-

[00:06:33] Go on, Kwanee lead off please.

[00:06:35] Cause you know where I'm going.

[00:06:36] I think that, in reality we all would love to like somebody who likes us, but it doesn't

[00:06:43] always go like that.

[00:06:44] There's often times where you're the one doing too much or you're the one, well, you're,

[00:06:48] you're the one doing all this and you might feel like you're doing too much, but you're,

[00:06:52] I guess you're in that, that we, I guess men call it courting.

[00:06:55] Yeah.

[00:06:55] Yeah.

[00:06:56] So we're all courting, we're all doing this and we're all doing that.

[00:06:58] But if she's not really showing you no vibes back and you're still trying to-

[00:07:04] I didn't know you was going to the chase after that.

[00:07:07] So, no, we could go where you think I was going to go.

[00:07:10] No, no, no.

[00:07:10] Cause I was just so focused on that.

[00:07:12] Like those lips.

[00:07:13] So I'm sorry.

[00:07:13] No, no, no, no.

[00:07:14] So for me, I mean, Don has always told me that yo bro, maybe you should stop liking

[00:07:20] who likes you.

[00:07:22] Bad advice.

[00:07:23] Versus, versus, versus, versus why don't you go after what you like?

[00:07:27] You may be happier.

[00:07:28] Like my bad dog.

[00:07:30] That nigga finished his sentence.

[00:07:32] Like, so, so, so a girl may have interest in me and I may look to see what I like about

[00:07:39] her versus-

[00:07:40] I could fuck with it.

[00:07:41] Yeah, I could probably fuck with that versus, oh, I like her.

[00:07:45] Yeah.

[00:07:45] Let me go talk to that.

[00:07:46] Seeking out what you desire.

[00:07:48] Versus what desires me.

[00:07:49] Copy.

[00:07:50] Okay.

[00:07:50] For me, so, I am finally, well, not finally cause you know, we pre-pod and it comes out

[00:08:01] later.

[00:08:02] So I don't know.

[00:08:03] Things might change.

[00:08:03] Things might change.

[00:08:04] But the shooting the shot thing, it's cool and all, but I feel like it's too much.

[00:08:10] And I enjoyed the experience of versus, I may not always have to like who liked me, but

[00:08:18] if she fired.

[00:08:20] I think the problem with waiting for the girl who likes you or whatever the case may be

[00:08:26] is that you, that's, that's something that you are leaving to somebody else to kind of

[00:08:29] dictate.

[00:08:30] Yeah.

[00:08:30] Because a man you have the power to go and look and chase and court.

[00:08:34] And then that, that, that, that keeps the control within you.

[00:08:37] You know what I'm saying?

[00:08:38] So you kind of dictate where it's going to go, who you're going to talk to, who you let

[00:08:41] into your space, who you let into your circle.

[00:08:43] You'll have to do work along that journey, but it is better to have the control than to

[00:08:48] let somebody just like wander their way into your life and then you got to figure it out.

[00:08:52] So you never just like somebody, like just like them.

[00:08:55] Like it don't matter how hard you're trying not to like them cause they're not showing you

[00:08:59] any issues.

[00:09:00] You still like them and you still show them.

[00:09:01] I think I've had experiences where like naturally, the more you talk to, spend time

[00:09:07] with somebody, you end up playing it.

[00:09:09] I might vibe with this person until you, they, until you find out who they really are.

[00:09:14] And here we go, let's go, let's go.

[00:09:16] Under that surface.

[00:09:16] So the next bullet in the limerent stage, right?

[00:09:22] The stages is the infatuation.

[00:09:25] The person is infatuated with the idea of being with their limerent lover.

[00:09:29] So because if we're doing this in the stages of limerence, it's you want love.

[00:09:37] So the first person you find, you put them in it.

[00:09:41] You, you, you, you so thirsty to be in a relationship because maybe you lonely or whatever, whatever the

[00:09:47] reason why you want to be in a relationship.

[00:09:48] So the first person you, you start talking to, you automatically put them in the stage of

[00:09:55] relationships.

[00:09:55] So you're infatuated with the idea of being with them, even in the talking stage.

[00:10:02] And this is where, where I have joked, like, I'll, I'll see, you know, if my last name

[00:10:08] don't sound too good with her first name, you know, it just don't sound right.

[00:10:12] You know, you got it.

[00:10:16] I don't think you're a real lover then bro.

[00:10:18] What's the matter?

[00:10:19] What's the matter about?

[00:10:20] You been pissing me off the last few episodes.

[00:10:22] Coach are not in tune with his soft side.

[00:10:25] Hold up.

[00:10:26] You know, you don't, you know, you don't, you don't, you don't give a 90s love.

[00:10:29] Being in love and, and saying damn shorty name is a,

[00:10:33] I'm hopeless romantic.

[00:10:35] My nigga, what's up with me?

[00:10:36] Yeah.

[00:10:36] You're not a hopeless romantic, Jojo.

[00:10:39] I got hope.

[00:10:40] Joe don't like no hopeless.

[00:10:42] I got hopeless.

[00:10:43] Hope here.

[00:10:43] Nah, dude.

[00:10:44] Yo, cutting the chick off cause her last, her last time.

[00:10:46] Not cutting it off, bro.

[00:10:48] You think of the idea of like, so for me, like, I'm like, I, the way she dressed would

[00:10:54] compliment my style.

[00:10:55] Nah, I can fuck with that.

[00:10:55] I can fuck with that.

[00:10:56] You know, kind of scope her out.

[00:10:58] You fantasize.

[00:11:01] You trying to manage the good times.

[00:11:02] You trying to manifest or envision your life with her before y'all even get to, before

[00:11:09] she even know my first name.

[00:11:10] Before you even get her number, bro.

[00:11:11] Yeah, bro.

[00:11:11] Like you, you know, you just trying to.

[00:11:13] You go on the grill like, oh, I can help out with this.

[00:11:17] Or she could, this is what she into.

[00:11:19] Oh, I could be into that.

[00:11:20] You know what I'm saying?

[00:11:20] Squirrels ain't put on her pedestal already.

[00:11:22] Yeah.

[00:11:22] So that's what we, that's kind of what we talking about.

[00:11:24] Squirrels.

[00:11:25] That's what we talk about today.

[00:11:27] So that is the, the, the infatuation of the person before actually, quote unquote,

[00:11:32] being with them.

[00:11:33] Right?

[00:11:34] Now.

[00:11:35] Isn't that a little bit delusional?

[00:11:36] Yeah.

[00:11:37] I mean, you're writing the script.

[00:11:39] The crystallization.

[00:11:40] The person becomes enamored with their limerent lover and idolizes them.

[00:11:44] This is the pedestal now.

[00:11:45] Idolize is crazy.

[00:11:47] Idolize.

[00:11:47] Yeah.

[00:11:47] That is it.

[00:11:48] That's probably after you.

[00:11:49] Yeah.

[00:11:49] Now you.

[00:11:50] After you hit.

[00:11:50] Yeah.

[00:11:54] You mean the world to me.

[00:11:56] Now, now, now there's no wrong they could do.

[00:11:58] Oh yeah.

[00:11:59] You looking past all the bullshit.

[00:12:01] That's dangerous bro.

[00:12:02] That is a, that's the Chris line.

[00:12:03] That's actually really scary.

[00:12:05] But you, but you've never, you've never been like, you've never felt any of the screws.

[00:12:09] No.

[00:12:10] Oh, screw.

[00:12:10] Ever.

[00:12:11] Cause you're, cause you're.

[00:12:11] Screws a liar.

[00:12:11] Screws a liar.

[00:12:12] Don't let that nigga fool you.

[00:12:13] Don't let that nigga fool you.

[00:12:14] Your face beat is crazy.

[00:12:16] Can we stop?

[00:12:17] Hold on.

[00:12:18] Can we stop?

[00:12:18] Hold on.

[00:12:18] Can we stop?

[00:12:18] Come into the mic.

[00:12:19] Come into the mic.

[00:12:20] Do we, do we not remember last Christmas?

[00:12:28] What I'm asking you is with everything LA is saying.

[00:12:31] Would be the question?

[00:12:32] With everything LA is saying, your face is very like, hell no.

[00:12:36] I would never do no shit like that.

[00:12:37] So I'm asking, have you, you've never felt none of these emotions ever?

[00:12:41] You never put nobody on a pedestal.

[00:12:43] You never felt like there was a, they could do no wrong.

[00:12:46] Nothing.

[00:12:47] Never.

[00:12:49] Okay.

[00:12:49] Hey, hey, hey.

[00:12:50] We don't pull you out of that shit.

[00:12:52] I, recently I'm like, I'm not scoping the scene.

[00:12:55] Looking at the socials like, damn, I can, I can fix her.

[00:13:00] Like, I made a joke the other day.

[00:13:02] I'm like, you know, send them more flowers than the other nigga have, but you know, ain't

[00:13:07] much else.

[00:13:08] So I'm trying my best not to do that anymore.

[00:13:11] I'd much rather like meet somebody and then like no social media.

[00:13:15] Okay.

[00:13:16] Yeah.

[00:13:16] I'm tired of these preconceived notions.

[00:13:18] How can, how can you do that in the nightlife?

[00:13:20] Because most people got Instagram.

[00:13:21] They have Instagram.

[00:13:22] Shit.

[00:13:23] Um, I think I'm gonna start sending them to the sparkling only instead of squirrels.

[00:13:27] You know, you got a burner page called sparkling only.

[00:13:32] Yeah.

[00:13:32] Yeah.

[00:13:32] You know, it's like a burner no more.

[00:13:34] Yeah.

[00:13:34] It's over there.

[00:13:35] I'm gonna start sending them to the sparkling only.

[00:13:37] They see me in the club.

[00:13:38] Yeah.

[00:13:38] I'm just a guest.

[00:13:40] I bought this table to see what happens from there.

[00:13:53] Yeah.

[00:13:54] Yeah.

[00:13:54] You know, crystals shine beautiful in the light.

[00:13:56] You know, you see the rainbow.

[00:13:59] You see the clarity.

[00:14:00] You know, things are beautiful and you kind of get, you know, you kind of-

[00:14:09] You know, you're making excuses for them.

[00:14:11] You don't even see-

[00:14:11] You don't even see that shit dimming.

[00:14:12] You see it, but you making excuses.

[00:14:14] Nah, nah, nah.

[00:14:15] It's a bad day.

[00:14:16] Yeah.

[00:14:16] Yeah.

[00:14:17] Yeah.

[00:14:18] That angle from-

[00:14:20] Bro, when we get into something new and it feels good, it's like, we really become delusional,

[00:14:24] bro.

[00:14:24] But listen-

[00:14:25] That's actually scary.

[00:14:26] The middle, the thin line between the love and limerence, right?

[00:14:30] They both bring excitement, passion, and a sense of connection.

[00:14:35] Bro, I feel like some shit you could do forever.

[00:14:37] Oh, boy.

[00:14:39] I don't know.

[00:14:39] So you have to know yourself enough to know that like, see that I have to get better with

[00:14:50] identifying.

[00:14:51] Like, yo, am I falling for this person?

[00:14:54] Like, am I falling in love or am I in a limerence cycle?

[00:14:58] The thing about it, I would tell myself, yo, am I falling for or am I tripping?

[00:15:03] Okay.

[00:15:04] Like, am I tripping?

[00:15:05] Like, am I tripping?

[00:15:07] Nah, real shit.

[00:15:08] Cause like, yo, man, you know this is not good for you, bro.

[00:15:10] They're not compatible.

[00:15:11] It's like, yo, nah, I'm just fucking with her cause I'm fucking with the vibe.

[00:15:13] Like, I'm tripping, man.

[00:15:15] Well, compatibility is super important.

[00:15:18] That might be the-

[00:15:19] Like your lifestyle don't-

[00:15:20] It's not compatible to my lifestyle.

[00:15:22] And what you want in your future is not compatible with mine, but the vibe we have right now

[00:15:26] is lit.

[00:15:27] Do we just make this a moment thing or just like-

[00:15:29] I mean, there's nothing wrong with that.

[00:15:30] Not everything gotta be forever.

[00:15:32] Okay, so shit goes to-

[00:15:52] What's the flaws in their limerent lover?

[00:15:54] That's a hard day, yo.

[00:15:56] That's a tough day.

[00:15:57] That's self-inflicted, bro.

[00:15:59] Cause you could've seen the flow early.

[00:16:00] Cause the shit, the fucking armor comes off.

[00:16:02] It's like, yo, the makeup comes off.

[00:16:04] All this come off.

[00:16:05] All this persona comes off.

[00:16:06] Bro, everything you thinking about what everybody told you.

[00:16:08] Like when you put-

[00:16:08] When the diamond test them, you touch it.

[00:16:10] Yup.

[00:16:12] Nah, nah, try this one.

[00:16:12] Try this one.

[00:16:13] Try that one.

[00:16:14] It's right here.

[00:16:14] It's right here.

[00:16:15] Silence.

[00:16:15] Yeah, nah, you looking for the good shit there no more.

[00:16:18] Now you looking for the good stuff.

[00:16:19] There's no more good stuff.

[00:16:21] It's all bad now.

[00:16:22] Now you listen, now you be playing what everybody told you.

[00:16:25] Who are you gonna tell now?

[00:16:26] Damn.

[00:16:27] Everybody gonna look at you like-

[00:16:28] I told you.

[00:16:28] I told you.

[00:16:29] I saw Kwani said don't come to his house with that shit.

[00:16:31] Yeah, don't come to my house with that shit.

[00:16:32] I never said that.

[00:16:34] Nigga said you buying something-

[00:16:37] You know what's funny?

[00:16:38] You know about Kwani fans?

[00:16:41] Kwani told me to do it.

[00:16:43] Kwani said, yo, what's the worst that can happen?

[00:16:46] Oh, you're a dick.

[00:16:47] Oh, you're a dick.

[00:16:48] Oh, that is your man.

[00:16:49] That's your man.

[00:16:50] That's not my life though.

[00:16:52] What's the worst that can happen?

[00:16:53] Yeah, nah.

[00:16:54] The worst that can happen!

[00:16:57] He don't know that either though.

[00:16:58] And Kwani didn't wanna stick around for the worst with me.

[00:17:01] That fucked up.

[00:17:02] Nah, that fucked up.

[00:17:03] I'm lying.

[00:17:03] Oh my God, I like calling me a lie.

[00:17:05] I'm like, nigga, Kwani gotta stop answering, nigga.

[00:17:06] Call us up.

[00:17:09] That's actually what I did.

[00:17:10] But nah, for me, okay, so-

[00:17:12] The feeling of, I think this part is where you figure out, yo, do you really fuck with

[00:17:20] the person or you're in a limeret stage?

[00:17:23] Because after the honeymoon stage is over, it is like, yo, do I wanna keep this going?

[00:17:33] Or do I, do I, it wore off so much that, well, I've never taken drugs.

[00:17:38] Preacher, if you wanna come in for this part.

[00:17:40] Oh man.

[00:17:41] Oh, yo.

[00:17:42] You're talking about weed and marijuana.

[00:17:44] He doesn't, I wanna talk about, I wanna-

[00:17:46] I wanna clear that up.

[00:17:51] I mean, finish that part.

[00:17:53] Bro, Kwani said right here.

[00:17:54] Why me?

[00:17:55] I wanted to equate it to like a high.

[00:17:57] Weed.

[00:17:58] I'm sorry.

[00:17:58] Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:17:59] Okay, okay, so boom.

[00:18:00] I didn't know that.

[00:18:01] When the high wears off, right?

[00:18:03] When the high wears off and you're back to normal and you kind of feel it.

[00:18:08] You know what it is?

[00:18:11] I'll take the drugs away.

[00:18:13] I never wanna feel a hangover feeling with a person.

[00:18:16] Like, you know that, the night before we lit, we done drunk so much and then you wake

[00:18:24] up, your body's back to normal and you feel that-

[00:18:27] Everything you did.

[00:18:29] For everything.

[00:18:29] Full of disgust.

[00:18:31] And why did I have so much?

[00:18:33] Like, so the hangover of a person-

[00:18:36] Okay.

[00:18:37] You know, like, damn, like this is who you are?

[00:18:40] But you've already indulged in them or in it.

[00:18:45] You see what I'm saying?

[00:18:46] Okay, so you answered the question that was developing my brain as you finished the statement.

[00:18:49] So I'm glad I let you finish because in my head when I hear a term like honeymoon phase,

[00:18:53] I'm thinking of the positivity of it and the good of it.

[00:18:56] Yeah.

[00:18:57] When you add that, that component of when the honeymoon phase is over, you realize that throughout

[00:19:02] that phase, what you were doing, we're kind of turning a blind eye to shit that you didn't

[00:19:06] like because you were so in love and then you had to sober yourself up after that.

[00:19:10] Like, oh shit, I don't actually like that.

[00:19:13] Okay, that's why I was gonna ask you like-

[00:19:15] So what do y'all do?

[00:19:16] When y'all are in that or if y'all have ever been in that, what do you do?

[00:19:22] Unfortunately, I check out.

[00:19:24] Ooh, that's dangerous.

[00:19:26] I don't wanna be there.

[00:19:27] All the way check out?

[00:19:27] I don't wanna be there anymore.

[00:19:28] So I just-

[00:19:29] Right after the honeymoon?

[00:19:30] It's like, yo bro, if I notice like this doesn't make no sense for me to be in here.

[00:19:34] Damn.

[00:19:35] I don't see a future with this like the world.

[00:19:37] Did you feel that during the honeymoon?

[00:19:38] Nah, because the honeymoon phase is over.

[00:19:39] Okay, so boom, why-

[00:19:40] If you didn't feel that during the honeymoon, why can't you still kind of give the same grace

[00:19:44] to that-

[00:19:45] So I'm gonna have hope knowing that it's not gonna go anywhere?

[00:19:49] You don't know that.

[00:19:50] I gotta stop hanging out with squirrels.

[00:19:51] Yeah, yeah.

[00:19:52] You don't know that.

[00:19:52] That's what I'm saying.

[00:19:53] You gotta give it grace before you made that decision.

[00:19:55] It seems like an immediate after like, okay, boom, I'm outta here.

[00:19:58] So I'm doing this off of hope.

[00:20:01] You keep saying hope.

[00:20:02] I never said the word hope.

[00:20:03] I'm saying the grace that it takes in that time period, right?

[00:20:10] Think about it.

[00:20:11] But Joe, I know this is not gonna work.

[00:20:12] How do you know that?

[00:20:13] Who's giving you the answer?

[00:20:15] The compatibility.

[00:20:16] Something is off.

[00:20:16] How can you confirm-

[00:20:18] I'm gonna keep holding you accountable in this sense.

[00:20:20] How are you confirming that it won't work?

[00:20:23] Or are you just telling yourself that because that's a defense mechanism to tell yourself

[00:20:26] how I wanna do this?

[00:20:28] Since we're playing hypothetical, she doesn't want a kid.

[00:20:29] I want kids.

[00:20:30] Okay.

[00:20:31] I think we spoke about this on the pod before.

[00:20:33] Now it becomes-

[00:20:34] That is a complete deal breaker.

[00:20:35] That's like me saying, that's like her saying, me saying, oh, she might change her mind later

[00:20:40] on in the future.

[00:20:40] In the honeymoon phase, were you, that's what you were telling yourself?

[00:20:43] Like, oh-

[00:20:43] I'm not, I'll tell myself, oh, maybe she'll change her mind in the future.

[00:20:45] It's like, oh.

[00:20:46] So honeymoon ends, you realize, okay, she is still adamant about not producing children

[00:20:51] any longer or at all.

[00:20:55] So then you know definitely.

[00:20:57] And then your decision I can respect.

[00:20:59] And I won't be-

[00:20:59] I won't fight you on that.

[00:21:00] Sorry, Don.

[00:21:01] So you talking about some like trivial nonsense.

[00:21:04] Not everything isn't trivial.

[00:21:05] I think it depends on-

[00:21:06] Yeah, but what's wrong with you?

[00:21:07] I don't think it's trivial.

[00:21:08] You're so serious sometimes.

[00:21:08] Kids ain't trivial.

[00:21:09] I don't think that's-

[00:21:10] No, I'm talking about, cause that was a definite answer.

[00:21:13] Yeah.

[00:21:13] But everything you were saying before, you were talking about just like something

[00:21:16] that you think you can just go back to.

[00:21:17] Yeah, it's like-

[00:21:18] You can't, no, not think.

[00:21:19] You know you can't, it's cause we're human and we're possible and it's possible.

[00:21:22] She like, she, for you she can't, she can't fully dress.

[00:21:24] She can't dress.

[00:21:25] She can't dress.

[00:21:26] I was like, oh I can style her.

[00:21:27] Nigga you wanna style her for the rest of your life?

[00:21:28] And during the honeymoon you was, she had okay fits and you just bypassed them cause

[00:21:31] she was like, damn she fine.

[00:21:33] She's fine.

[00:21:33] You know what I'm saying?

[00:21:34] She's fine.

[00:21:35] And then honeymoon ended, you like, damn that's a bad fit.

[00:21:37] Like why do you have-

[00:21:38] Like why do you have that fit on her?

[00:21:40] You built up enough confidence to be able to tell her, you might have to work on your

[00:21:46] delivery, but you still gonna tell her.

[00:21:48] I ain't gonna say that.

[00:21:48] You still gonna tell her and she might not act on that based on how you tell her.

[00:21:53] Okay.

[00:21:53] And now you can be like, I'm outta here, yo.

[00:21:55] I can't walk around with no wack joint.

[00:21:57] God.

[00:21:58] It's not just wack joint.

[00:22:00] That's a representation of yourself.

[00:22:02] I know.

[00:22:03] So it's deeper than a fit.

[00:22:05] It's a lot.

[00:22:06] I know.

[00:22:06] I know, I know, I know.

[00:22:08] Yeah.

[00:22:09] I know.

[00:22:10] Yeah.

[00:22:11] But I do think, see, I put, I switched, but I do think it can be a one time thing.

[00:22:16] It can't be a two time thing.

[00:22:17] I think you, if you gave yourself grace during the honeymoon period, you can still give yourself

[00:22:20] the same amount of grace and time in the post.

[00:22:23] I do believe that.

[00:22:24] Now does a person's like, is that like a big, like, no, no, like the dressing or whatever

[00:22:31] you say.

[00:22:32] Whatever it is.

[00:22:32] Yeah.

[00:22:33] Compared to who they are as a person.

[00:22:36] Nah.

[00:22:36] Nah.

[00:22:37] Yo, LA, we talk about this very, very much.

[00:22:40] Oh, this is just how I am type of people.

[00:22:43] Yeah.

[00:22:43] Those are the type of people that you kinda wanna, well, I guess we'll talk about it in depth,

[00:22:48] but those are the kind of people you wanna stay away from.

[00:22:49] I thought you were about to say stay hanging around.

[00:22:51] I'm about to say hell no.

[00:22:52] Because if you are dealing with somebody who is very much not receptive to anything.

[00:22:57] No change.

[00:23:00] That's, that's the reddest of flags.

[00:23:01] You're gonna be with the same, I mean, technically you're gonna be with the same person for the rest

[00:23:04] of your life.

[00:23:05] Not saying like, oh, LA's gonna be here.

[00:23:07] No, LA, that means LA doesn't elevate.

[00:23:09] You don't grow.

[00:23:09] Like who wants to be around the same person doing the same shit for the rest of their lives?

[00:23:13] And that sounds like delusion.

[00:23:14] What's the term?

[00:23:15] Limericks?

[00:23:16] Yeah.

[00:23:16] Yeah.

[00:23:17] That sounds like that.

[00:23:19] Yeah.

[00:23:19] Like that sounds like-

[00:23:19] So let's, let's talk about people who are prone to it.

[00:23:22] There, there are a couple more points too, right?

[00:23:26] But, I'm a, we'll get back to that.

[00:23:28] People who are prone to it.

[00:23:31] People with, uh, insecure attachment styles.

[00:23:34] People with insecure attachment styles such as anxious and avoided may be more likely

[00:23:39] to experience limerence.

[00:23:40] This is because they have a strong need for approval and validation and may struggle with

[00:23:46] self esteem and fear of rejection.

[00:23:49] People with unmet emotional needs.

[00:23:51] People who are lonely.

[00:23:52] They talked about that like, uh, like you, you want some, you want a partner so bad that

[00:23:57] you take whatever, you know?

[00:23:59] So people who are lonely and have unmet social needs may be more successful, uh, successful,

[00:24:05] uh, uh, uh, sorry.

[00:24:06] Successful.

[00:24:07] To limerence.

[00:24:08] I know that's what you're talking about.

[00:24:08] They may magnify friendly social contact to keep a deep emotional experience.

[00:24:13] People with mental health conditions.

[00:24:15] People with anxiety, depression, substance abuse, um, are more likely to experience limerence.

[00:24:22] Uh, trauma.

[00:24:23] People who have experienced trauma or other life stresses may be more likely to experience

[00:24:29] limerence.

[00:24:30] Limerence is a state of intense desire for another person and can be confused with falling

[00:24:36] in love.

[00:24:36] Now I'm going to ask and I don't know if we'll be all truthful here so we could play musical

[00:24:42] chairs.

[00:24:44] Have y'all ever confused falling in love with somebody?

[00:24:49] Yeah.

[00:24:50] With limerence?

[00:24:51] Yeah.

[00:24:51] Hell yeah.

[00:24:54] When niggas start clocking out, you can clock out, Joe.

[00:24:58] Nigga got an email quick.

[00:25:00] Nigga got an email right now.

[00:25:02] I promise when this episode come out, I'm going to do a cut to me, you, Cardi.

[00:25:11] I'm going to send ya ya' a beat real quick.

[00:25:13] Oh yeah.

[00:25:15] Just re-ask the question.

[00:25:16] I got it.

[00:25:18] It was a timing.

[00:25:19] It was a timing.

[00:25:20] That was perfect.

[00:25:21] If you ask me bro.

[00:25:25] Oh shit.

[00:25:26] I'm full.

[00:25:26] I'm full.

[00:25:27] I'm full.

[00:25:27] I'm full.

[00:25:27] Oh shit.

[00:25:27] Re-ask the question.

[00:25:28] I swear to God.

[00:25:29] Oh my God.

[00:25:31] That was so organically funny.

[00:25:33] I don't know if we can recreate that.

[00:25:35] Have you ever confused?

[00:25:36] Falling in love with somebody.

[00:25:38] Preach?

[00:25:39] Have you ever?

[00:25:39] Confusing it is crazy.

[00:25:41] Ain't no confusion in that.

[00:25:42] Not for me.

[00:25:43] I'm just saying that before we talk.

[00:25:44] Ain't no confusion with that.

[00:25:46] Nah, don't even bother bro.

[00:25:47] Just-

[00:25:47] Come on, pull up.

[00:25:48] Pull up.

[00:25:49] Just pull up.

[00:25:49] Nah, come right here.

[00:25:51] Yeah, yeah.

[00:25:52] Y'all chill?

[00:25:53] Look at that.

[00:25:54] Yeah.

[00:25:55] Sit on the stool.

[00:25:58] Hey, yo.

[00:25:59] Chill.

[00:25:59] So ask me the question one more time.

[00:26:01] Have you ever confused falling in love with somebody and you was just stuck in the

[00:26:05] deliberate stage?

[00:26:08] All the time.

[00:26:11] It don't always start like that?

[00:26:13] Nah, go on.

[00:26:15] Nah, tell us more.

[00:26:16] Nah, go on.

[00:26:16] Yeah, tell us more.

[00:26:17] Slitch on yourself.

[00:26:18] I mean, tell us more.

[00:26:22] Tell us more, bro.

[00:26:24] So it starts in like the honeymoon phase, right?

[00:26:27] Or delusion.

[00:26:28] Delusion.

[00:26:28] Yeah.

[00:26:29] But it's not though.

[00:26:30] Everything starts with-

[00:26:31] No.

[00:26:32] No, so, so, were you, did you ever realize that yo, I was just going through something

[00:26:37] and I needed somebody in my life.

[00:26:40] Well, I just wanted to be outside.

[00:26:41] I wanted somebody's presence.

[00:26:43] Oh nah nah.

[00:26:43] And you confused me with falling in love.

[00:26:46] No, I've, I don't, I've been able to detach very well.

[00:26:51] So I've gone months and not have nobody.

[00:26:53] Mm-hmm.

[00:26:54] 10 summers, year and not have nobody.

[00:26:58] So I don't, no.

[00:27:00] Short answer for me would be no.

[00:27:03] All right.

[00:27:03] All right.

[00:27:03] Thanks for coming on Jeopardy.

[00:27:07] Y'all niggas not real lovers, man.

[00:27:09] I don't know, bro.

[00:27:10] So why do you come, all right.

[00:27:11] So my younger days.

[00:27:12] Yeah.

[00:27:12] Like you, me, so.

[00:27:13] Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:27:14] No, no.

[00:27:14] I'm not saying that in like this present tense, but niggas said my youngest.

[00:27:17] Niggas said my younger days.

[00:27:19] Niggas 15.

[00:27:20] I was gonna say more, but go ahead.

[00:27:22] No, go ahead.

[00:27:23] Go ahead.

[00:27:23] Like, yeah, I was gonna say in my younger days when I wasn't so like in tune with myself

[00:27:27] emotionally when I wasn't, I didn't know exactly what I wanted or what I wanted things to look

[00:27:32] like.

[00:27:33] So yeah, I meet somebody pretty.

[00:27:34] I have a script in my head of what I want this to look like, how I want this to go.

[00:27:39] Yeah.

[00:27:39] And regardless of how it goes, in my head, the script is gonna go this way.

[00:27:45] So if she's doing this, all right, cool.

[00:27:48] I'm gonna make an excuse, blah, blah, whatever, whatever.

[00:27:50] But yeah, I think we've all been there at least once.

[00:27:55] Okay.

[00:27:55] So now that you're older, right?

[00:27:59] When did you realize or do you, when did you realize you knew what you wanted?

[00:28:07] I think when I started asking more of myself as like a man, I was doing more work, more

[00:28:15] responsibilities.

[00:28:15] I was thinking more of my future, thinking about kids, things like that.

[00:28:20] Like, what do you want?

[00:28:21] Who do you want that with?

[00:28:22] Who are they?

[00:28:23] What do they look like?

[00:28:24] What does their life look like?

[00:28:25] What can you deal with?

[00:28:28] What can't you deal with?

[00:28:29] That's why I'm so like cutting this.

[00:28:31] Cause I think about this all the time.

[00:28:35] So yeah, I kind of, I have a, right now that I have a good picture of where I want my life

[00:28:39] to be in the next few years.

[00:28:41] So I just have to follow that.

[00:28:43] Marriage and feets and...

[00:28:44] Yeah, hell yeah.

[00:28:44] Why do you always put it?

[00:28:46] No, marriage is a good thing.

[00:28:47] Yeah, nah, marriage.

[00:28:48] Can you say it?

[00:28:50] Marriage and...

[00:28:52] Hold up, hold up.

[00:28:54] Cause I've done everything wrong, so to see.

[00:28:56] Nobody said that.

[00:28:57] Nobody said that.

[00:28:59] Now you want to be a victim.

[00:29:00] Now you want to be a victim.

[00:29:01] Now you want to be a victim.

[00:29:02] I am a victim.

[00:29:05] What the fuck?

[00:29:06] That's all I've been doing in bro since I was 20.

[00:29:08] Marriage and kids, yeah.

[00:29:11] Yeah, marriage and kids, yeah.

[00:29:12] Hold on.

[00:29:13] What did he say?

[00:29:14] Yes.

[00:29:16] Women should start proposing.

[00:29:17] Alright Jim Jones.

[00:29:18] We done.

[00:29:19] We done.

[00:29:19] Nah, nah, nah, nah.

[00:29:21] We done.

[00:29:21] Alright, alright.

[00:29:21] Yo listen, listen, listen.

[00:29:22] It shouldn't be the norm.

[00:29:24] Oh, listen.

[00:29:25] But if you feel confident in that this is your person...

[00:29:35] This one, listen.

[00:29:38] I don't feel that it should be the norm of women proposing to men, nor do I think women should

[00:29:43] get down on one knee.

[00:29:44] But I do feel if you are confident in that this is your person, what's wrong?

[00:29:53] Propose.

[00:29:54] Yo, I want...

[00:29:55] Take him out the street.

[00:29:57] This nigga.

[00:29:58] He want them slinging dicks bro.

[00:29:59] He want a proposal.

[00:30:01] I think I ain't gonna lie.

[00:30:02] You give a pussy, Bobby.

[00:30:03] You got the pussy there.

[00:30:04] Why we doing it?

[00:30:05] Not even.

[00:30:06] It's not about the...

[00:30:08] If you're confident that this is your person as a woman, walk in it.

[00:30:13] Yo, I feel that you are the man for me.

[00:30:16] We should get married.

[00:30:17] You ain't even gotta be...

[00:30:19] I didn't even say and propose.

[00:30:21] Let's take...

[00:30:22] Tell him, I want to marry you.

[00:30:24] I want to marry...

[00:30:25] Yeah, you know...

[00:30:26] It sounds gay because I'm saying it like...

[00:30:28] I understand.

[00:30:28] Yeah, you're good.

[00:30:30] Yeah.

[00:30:31] If you're confident, walk in it.

[00:30:33] Be in it.

[00:30:33] Be in that energy as well.

[00:30:36] I ain't gonna lie.

[00:30:37] That's one of them things you...

[00:30:40] I feel like women don't want to tell the person they're with, yo, I want to marry you.

[00:30:43] Why not?

[00:30:44] Because a nigga might not know and then he might move on.

[00:30:48] Might not know?

[00:30:49] Nah.

[00:30:49] A nigga might not know.

[00:30:50] What do you mean, man?

[00:30:52] I see what preach saying though.

[00:30:53] It has to be reciprocation.

[00:30:55] Women...

[00:30:56] I love the way we party.

[00:30:57] Women get a lot of...

[00:31:01] I want to say...

[00:31:03] Women get a lot of coddling where they're not...

[00:31:06] They don't have to be responsible for their emotions, their finances, their this, this, this.

[00:31:11] And it's like, bro, we're grown now.

[00:31:14] Be...

[00:31:15] Reciprocate the energy that you want him to give.

[00:31:18] If you...

[00:31:19] He don't...

[00:31:20] I'm not saying propose, get down on one knee, but if you want to marry him, let him know.

[00:31:24] I feel like you're the guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

[00:31:27] Because he may be insecure and not knowing that from you.

[00:31:31] But women say they communicate.

[00:31:33] So really communicate.

[00:31:35] And you think that his lack of understanding that that's something that will be used as

[00:31:40] a...

[00:31:41] Seen as a flaw in him and not like manly enough?

[00:31:44] Like you should know.

[00:31:45] Manly to who?

[00:31:46] Other men?

[00:31:47] In society.

[00:31:47] Who gives a fuck?

[00:31:49] Who gives?

[00:31:50] Because you're only focusing on one person.

[00:31:52] Yeah.

[00:31:52] And that's your person.

[00:31:54] Who gives a fuck?

[00:31:55] Yeah.

[00:31:56] So...

[00:31:56] So...

[00:31:57] That's...

[00:31:57] No, you go.

[00:31:58] Stay there.

[00:31:58] The next bullet point is reciprocity.

[00:32:03] If the limerence person feelings are reciprocated, a passionate and obsessive love can develop.

[00:32:09] So, I could be in limerence.

[00:32:13] The girl that I'm dealing with...

[00:32:15] The girl that I'm dealing with could be in love.

[00:32:20] But because she's reciprocating it, it enhances this false feeling of love.

[00:32:27] Start dragging it now.

[00:32:27] Yeah.

[00:32:28] Now I'm...

[00:32:28] Oh, so this whole shit fake.

[00:32:29] Yeah.

[00:32:30] It's a one-sided fakeness.

[00:32:32] But remember, you could be living in like bliss.

[00:32:35] Like yo, I love this girl.

[00:32:36] I'm enjoying it.

[00:32:37] But she...

[00:32:38] You don't know where she was at prior to you meeting her.

[00:32:42] So you don't know that she's just yearning for love.

[00:32:44] Right?

[00:32:45] So now, this comes with, to bring it all in, the easiest way to prevent it is no longer

[00:32:54] going from like 50 or...

[00:32:57] What was yours?

[00:32:58] 75?

[00:32:58] He was 75.

[00:32:59] I was 50.

[00:33:00] 75, 50.

[00:33:01] You was a hundred.

[00:33:02] I was a hundred too.

[00:33:04] I love ass niggas, bro.

[00:33:05] We gotta start slow.

[00:33:07] Now, as a brotherly unit, as some...

[00:33:11] Most of us are head ass in here, Dane included.

[00:33:14] Right?

[00:33:15] Shout out to you, Dane.

[00:33:15] He's actually worse for him.

[00:33:16] Right?

[00:33:18] That's okay.

[00:33:19] We love you to see it.

[00:33:20] Living it, bro.

[00:33:21] Living it.

[00:33:21] Right?

[00:33:22] How do we slow down?

[00:33:26] I don't know, bro.

[00:33:27] I'm not a slow burner.

[00:33:28] I can't.

[00:33:29] Yeah, but we have...

[00:33:29] Well, you got your...

[00:33:31] So you out.

[00:33:31] Yeah, yeah, so...

[00:33:32] But in the grace of like...

[00:33:35] Yeah, he locked in to him.

[00:33:36] Yeah, he locked in to him.

[00:33:37] He locked in to him.

[00:33:38] Oh, man.

[00:33:39] Niggas be locked in.

[00:33:45] I know you ain't talking.

[00:33:47] Oh.

[00:33:49] Niggas proceeded to not talk.

[00:33:51] Niggas said, I know that nigga.

[00:33:54] I think you was like my last JaPaul with jokes.

[00:33:56] And it's gonna come out of nowhere.

[00:33:58] Wait, why are you like...

[00:34:04] I feel like I'm public, but I don't feel like everybody else be public.

[00:34:08] True.

[00:34:09] Nah, but Kwani public.

[00:34:10] And then I'm told by the person, I'm not public.

[00:34:13] So then it's crazy when I meet...

[00:34:14] That is another...

[00:34:15] Hold on, hold on.

[00:34:15] That's another conversation.

[00:34:16] That's another conversation.

[00:34:17] Go ahead.

[00:34:17] Public overrated.

[00:34:18] I ain't gonna lie, man.

[00:34:19] Facts.

[00:34:20] I'm gonna take that out.

[00:34:22] But, but okay.

[00:34:23] So for me...

[00:34:26] You just giggle?

[00:34:28] You just say a giggle?

[00:34:29] I'm gonna have to...

[00:34:30] Niggas said who?

[00:34:31] Niggas said who?

[00:34:33] Niggas said who?

[00:34:33] So, so the limerence, right?

[00:34:36] To avoid or to slowly get to it, right?

[00:34:41] It's, it's uh...

[00:34:44] Take your time.

[00:34:45] I guess talk yourself out of doing the head ass shit.

[00:34:50] Like...

[00:34:50] Imagine, imagine,

[00:34:52] sure, you be like, yo, why we moving so slow with this?

[00:34:55] And you know what's funny?

[00:34:57] That I...

[00:34:57] You gotta tell her.

[00:34:59] Tell her what?

[00:35:00] No, no, no, no.

[00:35:01] Now she moves on.

[00:35:02] Now she moves on.

[00:35:03] This might be true.

[00:35:03] Cause LA was just telling me about something.

[00:35:05] No, no, no, no.

[00:35:06] We pop on, pop on.

[00:35:07] Don't pull back.

[00:35:07] No, I'm saying...

[00:35:09] You...

[00:35:10] I think you had a situation where you were trying to...

[00:35:12] Oh, yes!

[00:35:14] Alright, I'ma tell the story.

[00:35:15] You was trying to move at a little different pace.

[00:35:16] I'ma tell the story.

[00:35:17] So I...

[00:35:19] My last dating experience...

[00:35:21] This nigga Kojo...

[00:35:22] Kojo think I'm pussy.

[00:35:24] That's the problem.

[00:35:25] Kojo think I'm...

[00:35:26] We can go there.

[00:35:27] Nah, we can go there.

[00:35:28] Bro, my bad bro.

[00:35:29] We was...

[00:35:29] We went on a date, right?

[00:35:32] And after the date, we in the car, I put in the GPS, her address.

[00:35:39] Right?

[00:35:39] Cause...

[00:35:40] Drive her home.

[00:35:41] Like a gentleman.

[00:35:42] Like a gentleman, you know?

[00:35:43] I'm trying to go slow, you know?

[00:35:46] You know what I'm saying?

[00:35:46] Like a man.

[00:35:47] She's like...

[00:35:48] She said, um...

[00:35:50] Where we going?

[00:35:51] Mind you...

[00:35:52] It says...

[00:35:53] It says her address.

[00:35:54] It says her address.

[00:35:56] And she was like, nah, you tired.

[00:35:57] You worked a long day.

[00:35:58] Plus we went out to eat.

[00:36:00] You know...

[00:36:01] We could just go to your house.

[00:36:03] I'm like, nah.

[00:36:04] Y'all know LaShawn.

[00:36:05] Yes.

[00:36:07] Shut up.

[00:36:08] Shut up.

[00:36:11] First link.

[00:36:14] It was not the first link.

[00:36:15] It wasn't the first link.

[00:36:16] It wasn't the first link.

[00:36:18] She's still a child.

[00:36:19] Oh my God.

[00:36:20] It wasn't the first link.

[00:36:21] You a sick nigga, bro.

[00:36:25] It wasn't the first link.

[00:36:26] But...

[00:36:27] But...

[00:36:28] I was like, nah, nah, I'm good.

[00:36:29] Like I could get you home.

[00:36:31] You know what I'm saying?

[00:36:32] You know me.

[00:36:34] What's up, y'all keep the shit in his pants?

[00:36:36] Nah, if it's not black and white, I really...

[00:36:38] One thing I really need to say...

[00:36:40] I ain't passing the line.

[00:36:41] You're my nigga, stop giggling.

[00:36:44] You gotta tell me direct.

[00:36:46] I'm not really trying to...

[00:36:48] Wait, so she can't add a little foreplay?

[00:36:49] She gotta tell you?

[00:36:50] Yo, I'm trying to...

[00:36:51] Nah, no, no, no, no, no, no.

[00:36:52] I'm saying, it was early stages.

[00:36:54] This is probably our second date.

[00:36:56] So I ain't trying to push up on it.

[00:36:57] Yeah, I'm not trying to...

[00:36:57] She pushing up.

[00:36:58] That's what I'm saying, but...

[00:36:59] I don't want to know that you pushing up.

[00:37:00] Hold on.

[00:37:01] It's his fault.

[00:37:01] No, no, no, no.

[00:37:02] Peep game.

[00:37:03] Just peep game.

[00:37:03] Hold on, let me tell you.

[00:37:05] I just wasn't sure what was going on.

[00:37:07] I didn't know if she was dead ass.

[00:37:09] Like, yo, I want to go to your crib or you was concerned about how tired I was.

[00:37:14] So I'm saying, nah, I'm valid.

[00:37:15] I could take you home and then still make the trip back to the crib.

[00:37:19] And she was like, no need to chance that.

[00:37:22] So I'm like...

[00:37:24] So she doubled down.

[00:37:26] Yeah, now I'm trying...

[00:37:27] She quadrupled.

[00:37:28] She quadrupled down.

[00:37:30] Now I'm peeping game.

[00:37:31] Oh, you trying to go back to the crib.

[00:37:32] Trying to slam dance.

[00:37:34] Yeah.

[00:37:35] Why do you always...

[00:37:37] Trying to slam dance.

[00:37:38] Why you say that?

[00:37:39] This is not a good idea.

[00:37:40] How did you say that?

[00:37:41] Trying to do the Cupid shuffle.

[00:37:43] Trying to go crazy.

[00:37:44] You're gonna crack some?

[00:37:45] Figure four lock man.

[00:37:47] Ew!

[00:37:49] Why did you say that?

[00:37:51] What is wrong with us?

[00:37:52] Oh shit.

[00:37:53] How did you say that?

[00:37:55] Gotta do the RVD, bro.

[00:38:01] That's a fact.

[00:38:03] So...

[00:38:03] Oh my God.

[00:38:05] Holy shit.

[00:38:05] So she like, don't chance it.

[00:38:07] Yeah.

[00:38:08] Don't chance it.

[00:38:09] I'll just leave.

[00:38:10] I'll just...

[00:38:10] We could go to your crib and then we'll leave.

[00:38:12] So I'm like, yo, if you want to just come to the crib, why didn't you say that?

[00:38:16] Don't mask it behind.

[00:38:17] I probably blew the mood.

[00:38:19] I don't know.

[00:38:20] But it was...

[00:38:23] Shut the fuck up.

[00:38:25] Shut the fuck up.

[00:38:26] Nigga being mad conscious.

[00:38:28] Shut up.

[00:38:28] She's throwing it.

[00:38:30] She's throwing it.

[00:38:31] You talking about?

[00:38:32] I don't think I don't even show it.

[00:38:34] I don't know.

[00:38:34] I don't know.

[00:38:35] You see what society has done to us?

[00:38:41] Edit point.

[00:38:42] That nigga married nigga.

[00:38:43] Fuck you talking about.

[00:38:44] Yeah, he married.

[00:38:45] Fuck you talking about.

[00:38:48] You said he did it right?

[00:38:53] Nigga said bad shit happened to bad people.

[00:38:56] Yeah.

[00:39:03] I don't know.

[00:39:04] We not laughing at what the nigga did.

[00:39:05] We just laughing at how the fuck this shit happened.

[00:39:07] My nigga like...

[00:39:08] That's the end.

[00:39:09] I don't know.

[00:39:09] Yeah, that's the end.

[00:39:11] Like how the fuck this shit happened is crazy.

[00:39:12] My nigga.

[00:39:13] Oh shit.

[00:39:14] I bleeped the name, but that was...

[00:39:15] Oh my God.

[00:39:16] That was too funny to cut out, bro.

[00:39:18] I'm not sacrificing the funnies.

[00:39:20] Keep that.

[00:39:21] Keep that.

[00:39:21] Oh shit.

[00:39:22] But nah, so...

[00:39:24] Long story short, it's kind of like...

[00:39:26] Yo, I try not to...

[00:39:28] Me going slow...

[00:39:31] I'ma just start reciprocating the pace, but then me going slow can also notice if they're

[00:39:38] in limerence.

[00:39:39] Yeah, but you gotta set the pace.

[00:39:41] Nah, see...

[00:39:42] I think...

[00:39:43] You gotta set the pace, bro.

[00:39:44] You gotta be the one...

[00:39:45] But I set it the pace by going slow.

[00:39:47] But they were trying to speed it up.

[00:39:49] Ah.

[00:39:50] Well...

[00:39:51] I'm not saying that...

[00:39:52] Let me rephrase that.

[00:39:55] Our spaces weren't the same at that moment.

[00:39:57] In that moment, right?

[00:39:59] Eventually I got that.

[00:40:00] But then...

[00:40:02] When you feel like, okay, maybe I should up the pace because they're enjoying this.

[00:40:09] And then they kind of detach.

[00:40:11] That's for me?

[00:40:12] Yeah.

[00:40:13] My God.

[00:40:14] You see where it's going.

[00:40:17] They detach...

[00:40:18] Some Rude Juel shit.

[00:40:19] I'm not at it.

[00:40:21] And it's kind of like, damn, maybe if I'd have kept at my pace, the damage wouldn't

[00:40:26] have hurt.

[00:40:27] You know what I'm saying?

[00:40:28] Or I would have seen the crash...

[00:40:30] You would never been so involved.

[00:40:33] Yeah.

[00:40:36] But yeah, so I think that's the best way to...

[00:40:39] To avoid it.

[00:40:42] Yeah, to be preventative.

[00:40:43] But like I said, going back to our question, what is going slow for y'all?

[00:40:52] All right.

[00:40:52] And y'all...

[00:40:53] Let me...

[00:40:54] Damn.

[00:40:55] Let me see.

[00:40:56] I'm just trying to protect everybody by asking this question.

[00:40:58] Do y'all feel like y'all sexually disciplined?

[00:41:00] Oh, I know I am.

[00:41:02] Yes.

[00:41:03] Explain that.

[00:41:05] Yes, I am.

[00:41:06] Can you use that in a sentence, please?

[00:41:08] Please expelled on what you believe is sexual discipline.

[00:41:12] What's it expelled?

[00:41:14] See here at What's A Good Guy, we like to define things, right?

[00:41:18] And so let's just Google sexual discipline.

[00:41:24] Yo, preachers are fucking...

[00:41:26] Hang on, friend.

[00:41:26] You on bullshit, man.

[00:41:28] Hang on, friend.

[00:41:29] I think that's one of my top skills.

[00:41:33] Nita!

[00:41:34] Y'all...

[00:41:36] Sexual discipline.

[00:41:37] Panda, panda, panda, panda, panda, panda, panda.

[00:41:42] We ain't got no front for you, Monica.

[00:41:44] Stop.

[00:41:44] Monica, stop.

[00:41:46] No.

[00:41:46] I think I said, well, I can do it.

[00:41:48] Shut the fuck up.

[00:41:51] I'm very...

[00:41:51] You know what I mean?

[00:41:52] I'm very aware.

[00:41:53] You still going, Monica.

[00:41:55] I'm very aware.

[00:41:56] I think I said double down.

[00:41:59] Gotta have discipline.

[00:41:59] Oh shit.

[00:42:00] Cold fact though.

[00:42:01] Hold on.

[00:42:02] Are you researching it?

[00:42:03] Nah, I'm going to have to punch it in because it actually says sexual punishment.

[00:42:11] Slam dance.

[00:42:12] I don't want to...

[00:42:13] I'm just telling you, boy.

[00:42:16] Oh my God.

[00:42:17] Sexual discipline.

[00:42:18] That's what she...

[00:42:19] That's what she want.

[00:42:20] That's what she want.

[00:42:21] That's what she want.

[00:42:21] Alright, you ready?

[00:42:22] You ready?

[00:42:22] That's what she beat you?

[00:42:23] That's what I'm saying?

[00:42:24] Sexual discipline is a practice of self-control following rules and regulating behavior in sexual

[00:42:32] context.

[00:42:33] Sexual discipline can also be seen as a type of self-control.

[00:42:36] This includes the ability to refrain from certain expressions when it's not the right

[00:42:41] time or context to do so.

[00:42:43] Even when the body is screaming for us to do otherwise.

[00:42:46] Screaming is crazy.

[00:42:48] Discipline allows us to control our sexual urges and not let them get the best of us.

[00:42:53] You know what's crazy?

[00:42:54] Because sexual discipline can play...

[00:42:55] It can play a positive role and it can also hinder you sometimes.

[00:43:00] How?

[00:43:01] Nigga said he need that nut.

[00:43:04] I'll say this.

[00:43:06] I'm trying to lie.

[00:43:08] This podcast is getting out of control.

[00:43:10] Nigga said I need that nut.

[00:43:12] I'm not going to lie.

[00:43:13] Three people in the room most.

[00:43:14] This is him.

[00:43:15] I'm trying to be serious, but I don't know how serious anybody don't be.

[00:43:18] But okay.

[00:43:19] I'm trying to nut.

[00:43:21] I'm trying to nut.

[00:43:26] You're trying to be sexually disciplined, right?

[00:43:29] These are the days when I feel like we the best niggas in the room.

[00:43:33] This is fucking crazy.

[00:43:35] So I don't know if we all went through this, but I think growing up I realized how sexual

[00:43:42] women were more than I ever thought, right?

[00:43:45] Like I used to think that men were the sexual ones and all that stuff.

[00:43:48] The horny was.

[00:43:48] We were the horny niggas.

[00:43:49] And then you meet women throughout your journey in life.

[00:43:52] You're like, damn, they might want it just as much or more.

[00:43:54] Mm-hmm.

[00:43:55] Right?

[00:43:56] Wait till they get older.

[00:43:58] But then when you add the sexual discipline part into it, right?

[00:44:00] You might be feeling still that subconscious of, damn, niggas is looked at as hypersexual

[00:44:05] and always want the pussy and you try to draw back because of that when in reality, that's

[00:44:09] what they want.

[00:44:10] And they might want it more than you.

[00:44:11] And that's where the sexual discipline might kick you in the butt.

[00:44:13] And that's how God made you.

[00:44:15] What you mean?

[00:44:17] God made you to be a sexual predator.

[00:44:20] Predator is crazy.

[00:44:21] Well, not predator.

[00:44:22] Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

[00:44:23] Not predator.

[00:44:24] Deadline.

[00:44:25] Deadline was the predator.

[00:44:27] Back from God.

[00:44:28] God?

[00:44:29] You try to par with that, bro.

[00:44:32] God made me the fuck outta here, bro.

[00:44:33] Let's just start over.

[00:44:35] Go back to produce him, nigga.

[00:44:36] I ain't gonna lie.

[00:44:37] God gave you the power.

[00:44:39] God, when God created the first like relationships on the planet, you were able to be a sexual predator.

[00:44:46] You were able to have multiple wives.

[00:44:48] I'm good.

[00:44:50] No, I'm not saying do that today.

[00:44:51] But I'm saying...

[00:44:52] Today is the reception verse.

[00:44:53] Huh?

[00:44:53] Quote your verses.

[00:44:54] I gotta go get it.

[00:44:55] Go get it.

[00:44:56] Go get the verse?

[00:44:57] Yeah, that's what you're saying.

[00:44:58] All right, give me a second.

[00:44:58] All right.

[00:44:59] You can't be screaming that way, man.

[00:45:02] Shoot.

[00:45:03] Yo, I ain't gonna lie.

[00:45:03] Pastor Lois, that's your nephew.

[00:45:06] Yo, bro.

[00:45:07] I know you didn't bring Pastor Lois up yourself, bro.

[00:45:11] Nigga sick.

[00:45:13] But, all right.

[00:45:15] So...

[00:45:15] What's the longest everybody went without?

[00:45:17] Two years.

[00:45:17] Two and a half...

[00:45:18] Oh, wait.

[00:45:20] Technically, I lost that at 18.

[00:45:22] So, 18 years.

[00:45:23] I mean, nah.

[00:45:25] Come on, nigga.

[00:45:26] That's summer.

[00:45:27] What's your longest drought?

[00:45:28] Two and a half years.

[00:45:30] Okay, let's not say drought.

[00:45:31] Yeah, two and a half years.

[00:45:32] Drought.

[00:45:32] Choice.

[00:45:33] Two and a half ain't no water.

[00:45:34] No, wait, wait.

[00:45:35] Drought?

[00:45:36] Like, I couldn't get it?

[00:45:37] Or drought?

[00:45:38] Like, I'm refraining from it.

[00:45:40] It's still a drought.

[00:45:40] Either side is a drought.

[00:45:41] Whatever you want to call it, it's a drought.

[00:45:42] Oh, two and a half years.

[00:45:43] Ain't no water around?

[00:45:44] It's two and a half years.

[00:45:45] Choice a year.

[00:45:47] Yeah, I did about a year.

[00:45:48] Nigga's a nigga dead ass.

[00:45:49] Yeah, I'm dead ass.

[00:45:49] Two and a half years.

[00:45:50] No, a year.

[00:45:51] Two and a half is crazy.

[00:45:53] A year.

[00:45:53] My answer was a year.

[00:45:54] Well, almost a year.

[00:45:55] Two and a half years.

[00:45:56] That's like eight months.

[00:45:57] Damn you, freaky frog.

[00:45:59] Nah, that's not bad.

[00:46:00] Quantic mean nothing.

[00:46:01] All right.

[00:46:03] Oh, nigga wrong.

[00:46:04] Final wrong.

[00:46:04] No, no, no.

[00:46:05] The Old Testament leaned more into while polygamy was culturally accepted in-

[00:46:10] Come on, in the mic, in the mic, nigga.

[00:46:11] Polygamy was accepted in most Old Testament contexts, but in the New Testament it starts to lean heavily towards monogamy.

[00:46:19] First, nigga.

[00:46:20] Shout out to the new.

[00:46:21] Oh, first is, I mean, they gave, ChatGPT done gave me.

[00:46:25] The first recorded, Genesis 419, Lamech took two wives.

[00:46:30] The name of one was Adda, and the other name was Zillah.

[00:46:38] And that is our pod for today, ladies and gentlemen.

[00:46:45] But Genesis 419, the first book, Lamech is the first recorded person to have multiple wives.

[00:46:53] And then it moves on to like David and all the kings and Moses.

[00:46:57] We parted like people not going to watch this.

[00:46:59] I thought he was forgetting the name.

[00:47:02] You know, he was fucking up.

[00:47:06] Nah, nigga.

[00:47:07] I'm talking months without even beating your shit nothing.

[00:47:12] Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:47:12] Oh, wait.

[00:47:13] Hold on.

[00:47:14] Hold on.

[00:47:16] Niggas said my form got a little stronger, nigga.

[00:47:18] Nah, nah.

[00:47:19] Two and a half years.

[00:47:20] No masturbation, no porn.

[00:47:21] Two and a half.

[00:47:22] Yeah.

[00:47:24] No.

[00:47:25] Yo, bro.

[00:47:26] All right.

[00:47:26] So-

[00:47:26] What was the reason though?

[00:47:28] Yeah.

[00:47:28] Once me and-

[00:47:30] Once me and what?

[00:47:31] The reason.

[00:47:32] So after me and Elizabeth broke up, I was like,

[00:47:37] I was in a bad space.

[00:47:38] Okay.

[00:47:39] So at least the first year and a half, I wasn't even in a-

[00:47:45] To look at it.

[00:47:46] I was fucked up.

[00:47:47] I ain't gonna lie.

[00:47:48] I was fucked up preaching though.

[00:47:49] I was fucked up bad.

[00:47:52] So sex was the nigga laughing at my pain.

[00:47:54] You laughing, you're a dick.

[00:47:55] He said you got through it, bro.

[00:47:56] That's all he's saying.

[00:47:58] Yeah, we passed it now.

[00:47:59] I can laugh at you.

[00:48:01] But I wasn't even in the space.

[00:48:02] And then I dead ass started taking like my faith seriously.

[00:48:06] Damn, that sounds bad because I be-

[00:48:08] No, no.

[00:48:09] You're not perfect, bro.

[00:48:10] You're not perfect.

[00:48:12] So it's like, I took my faith seriously.

[00:48:14] So I kind of just went the next year without no sex too.

[00:48:19] So that's what made the year and a half.

[00:48:20] What did it do for you?

[00:48:21] Now that-

[00:48:22] Yo, I was laser sharp.

[00:48:24] I can't front.

[00:48:25] Like I-

[00:48:25] You made some money on that?

[00:48:28] Yeah, I mean I was still making money because I was still in construction at that time.

[00:48:32] So the money was there, but I was just-

[00:48:33] No distractions.

[00:48:34] I was just not distracted.

[00:48:37] Matter of fact, that picture with me being Brolic and six pack and all of that, that

[00:48:42] was during that stage.

[00:48:43] Yeah, nigga all that testosterone.

[00:48:45] Yeah, bro.

[00:48:45] I was like, you know what is?

[00:48:46] I was like, I'm gonna back up for real.

[00:48:48] That first not Kojo was disgusting, bro.

[00:48:53] I felt sorry for shorty, bro.

[00:48:55] I felt so bad.

[00:49:00] I was gonna ask what made you say, I'm done and this is the person I'm gonna end it with.

[00:49:06] Like what made her so-

[00:49:08] What made her so worthy?

[00:49:10] Yeah, I guess.

[00:49:11] You just riled up or just like-

[00:49:13] It can't be if he was horny.

[00:49:14] Nah, we would've gathered.

[00:49:16] We would've gathered-

[00:49:16] But how long until you got there?

[00:49:19] That was your joint?

[00:49:20] That was your girl?

[00:49:20] Yeah.

[00:49:21] She knew that she was-

[00:49:23] Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:49:24] So-

[00:49:24] I remember your little Southerbets.

[00:49:26] Bro, what the fuck?

[00:49:29] My little Southerbets.

[00:49:30] My little Southerbets.

[00:49:31] That was two of us.

[00:49:33] Bro, you're a sick.

[00:49:39] So yeah, it was something she wanted to do.

[00:49:44] I was like, all right.

[00:49:46] Nigga said, I guess.

[00:49:48] Me too.

[00:49:49] You finally said, fuck it.

[00:49:51] Yeah, literally.

[00:49:52] Yeah, last one, huh?

[00:49:54] Nigga literally said fuck it.

[00:49:56] I'm surprised how long I lasted that.

[00:49:58] Because I thought once the tip went in, I thought I was going to fold.

[00:50:01] Why not ask him that?

[00:50:02] That's my fault.

[00:50:02] I apologize.

[00:50:03] I thought I was going to fold, but I think I did already in that moment.

[00:50:06] I apologize.

[00:50:06] Listen, I shouldn't have asked him that.

[00:50:07] I think I did already in that moment.

[00:50:09] Were you a sexual demon after that?

[00:50:12] Nah, I've always been sexual.

[00:50:13] Matter of fact-

[00:50:14] No, not-

[00:50:15] Yeah, but after you went so long and you had that first one, were you like, oh shit,

[00:50:19] I'm missing all this?

[00:50:20] Nah.

[00:50:21] So you just went back to-

[00:50:22] Yeah, just in the moment type shit.

[00:50:24] Yeah, so that was that.

[00:50:26] For me, I think I've been sexually disciplined when I moved out.

[00:50:33] That even was a higher one.

[00:50:36] You could have been wildin'.

[00:50:37] I could have been wildin'.

[00:50:38] Matter of fact, yo bro, there was one woman that was like every day she would ask me like,

[00:50:46] yo-

[00:50:47] She wanna come paint the walls?

[00:50:48] Yeah, she wanted her walls painted.

[00:50:50] Yo, yo, Karney, what the fuck is up with you, dog?

[00:50:52] She wanted her walls painted and I keep telling her all the time, like, yo, like, I can't,

[00:50:59] I cannot, because if we start, it's, I can't, I just, no.

[00:51:06] So exercising the word.

[00:51:10] So wait, as a-

[00:51:11] I was gonna jam you up.

[00:51:13] Jam me, jam me, we a homerous.

[00:51:15] He just that way.

[00:51:17] He just that pussy.

[00:51:21] So as a person in a relationship, how do you remain sexually disciplined?

[00:51:28] Yo, it's not a-

[00:51:28] With all these women throwing it at you, every time you go out, you know-

[00:51:32] That's not fair.

[00:51:34] I'm joking.

[00:51:34] It's not even gonna stay in, bro.

[00:51:36] I'm not saying it, but for context.

[00:51:38] Okay.

[00:51:39] So she, yo, she has been, like, when I say weeks building up, nah, just, you gotta just

[00:51:47] keep saying no, no matter, no matter how good of a time-

[00:51:50] Is she being direct?

[00:51:53] Oh, mad direct.

[00:51:55] She's literally throwing it.

[00:51:56] Yeah, fuck me.

[00:51:57] Literally, fuck me.

[00:51:58] Those were her words.

[00:51:59] I want you to fuck me.

[00:52:00] And you're just like-

[00:52:01] Nah.

[00:52:02] She not Gucci.

[00:52:03] Nah, she valid, but just the answer's no, bro.

[00:52:06] That's discipline, bro.

[00:52:08] You got-

[00:52:09] So is it your gut that tells you that?

[00:52:11] Like, nah, I can't do it.

[00:52:12] Nah, nah, it's because I know, first and foremost-

[00:52:15] It can't, it's not gonna just be that and that's it.

[00:52:17] Yeah.

[00:52:18] Like-

[00:52:18] So my girlfriend broke you up, I get out of here.

[00:52:20] You gon' be hooked.

[00:52:22] All right.

[00:52:23] I wanted these nights, one of these nights that, oh, you was just up, can't sleep.

[00:52:28] You ever thought about it?

[00:52:29] Slapped it out.

[00:52:30] Even when I'm thinking, nigga, I think you went out for me birthday for dinner.

[00:52:34] Yeah.

[00:52:34] And he said he put in the chat.

[00:52:36] He's like, hey guys, I'm in the crib here, I'm by myself.

[00:52:39] Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:52:40] Is that true?

[00:52:41] Same person.

[00:52:42] Same person, remember?

[00:52:43] And Quan, he thought I was gonna fall.

[00:52:45] We both thought you were gonna fall.

[00:52:46] You rubbed one out on your birthday?

[00:52:48] No.

[00:52:51] No, nigga.

[00:52:52] Niggas are dead, nigga.

[00:52:53] I'm back.

[00:52:53] He rubbed one out on his birthday.

[00:52:56] Listen, so the person-

[00:53:00] I love you so extreme.

[00:53:01] Happy birthday.

[00:53:01] The person that we're talking about, I displayed my most sexual discipline, not indulging, knowing

[00:53:08] that, you know?

[00:53:11] Oh, wait, hold on.

[00:53:12] Yes!

[00:53:13] With the-

[00:53:14] Yes!

[00:53:15] In a passage?

[00:53:16] Yes!

[00:53:17] No, wait, wait, wait.

[00:53:17] With the flowers and shit?

[00:53:19] No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

[00:53:22] What was the gift that you got?

[00:53:24] No, no, no, we not keeping that at it.

[00:53:27] We not keeping that at it either.

[00:53:29] Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.

[00:53:30] I think I just got one of those stuff.

[00:53:31] Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:53:32] That's what you feelin'.

[00:53:33] Yeah.

[00:53:34] But yeah, nah, nah, nah, nah.

[00:53:35] This nigga's crazy.

[00:53:36] Sexual discipline is a construct made up by women.

[00:53:47] What you mean by that?

[00:53:49] Elaborate.

[00:53:49] If women could fuck the cute guy at they job and not get called a hoe for it, they would

[00:53:54] do it.

[00:53:55] What do y'all think about that?

[00:53:56] They could do it regardless if they wanted to.

[00:53:58] No, no, no, no.

[00:53:59] He said he said but not get called something out of it.

[00:54:01] If they can do it without fear of societal judgment of it, they would.

[00:54:08] So sexual discipline is just something they made up to keep us-

[00:54:12] On the same level.

[00:54:17] She's fine as fuck.

[00:54:19] Why would I do that?

[00:54:20] It sounds crazy.

[00:54:23] It sounds crazy, but-

[00:54:24] We in a group chapter.

[00:54:26] We in a group chapter.

[00:54:27] We're gonna have to cut this shit soon.

[00:54:30] Nigga LA, bro, chill out Lil Wayne.

[00:54:33] Chill the fuck out Lil Wayne.

[00:54:35] It's the $15.

[00:54:36] That's not why they didn't give me that shit at all.

[00:54:39] I ain't gonna lie, this is the $15 too, right?

[00:54:41] I ain't gonna lie.

[00:54:41] This is the $15 too, right?

[00:54:43] I mean-

[00:54:44] We can't do this on Twitch.

[00:54:45] How the fuck we do this on Twitch?

[00:54:46] That would be impressive.

[00:54:48] It'd be fun as fuck.

[00:54:50] I like when we first start out new, cause nobody gonna be there.

[00:54:52] Then they come after it.

[00:54:53] They gotta go back.

[00:54:54] You know?

[00:54:55] So we'll probably be more mature about that.

[00:54:57] But nah.

[00:54:58] We went from a church episode to a while in the-

[00:54:59] Oh man.

[00:55:00] I just made him bring that up.

[00:55:01] That's crazy.

[00:55:01] But yeah, so to avoid limerence, you know, take your time.

[00:55:05] Stay your course, go about your course.

[00:55:07] Pace over speed.

[00:55:08] Pace over speed.

[00:55:10] There you go.

[00:55:11] Till next time you already know it's Donald Peasley, Donald the camera guy.

[00:55:14] Alongside of LaShawn.

[00:55:16] And the crazy guys have a what's good guy, Kwanster, Wavy in it.

[00:55:19] Mm-hmm.

[00:55:20] The underscore got game, Jojo.

[00:55:21] Mm-hmm.

[00:55:22] Preach gold.

[00:55:23] Skrills underscore.

[00:55:24] And Dane, I'm got an Instagram.

[00:55:25] Dane, you off the gram?

[00:55:27] You deleted your gram?

[00:55:29] You just not on it.

[00:55:30] Perfect.

[00:55:32] DBC underscore underscore underscore underscore underscore underscore.

[00:55:35] Till next time.

[00:55:36] Thank you.

[00:55:36] God is the greatest.

[00:55:38] Yeah.