[00:00:08] I like that game
[00:00:09] I like that game
[00:00:13] I like that game
[00:00:25] What's wrong with this guy's face is crazy
[00:00:28] Nah bro, I used to look at the cameras and I was like why does he look at the faces last thing?
[00:00:36] There's something in there
[00:00:37] I'm not gonna move
[00:00:41] No, I'm just so sorry
[00:00:42] Alright, 42 on a date to talk
[00:00:49] Someday
[00:00:58] Someday
[00:00:58] What? What's up?
[00:01:00] Ready fellas?
[00:01:01] Alright
[00:01:03] 3, 2, 1, you already know motherfucker
[00:01:06] Shmone's favorite lover as always Donald Peasley
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[00:01:19] Just thank you for being here today
[00:01:21] Hopefully you have a beautiful morning
[00:01:24] Whatever time you're listening to this
[00:01:25] Hope your day is beautiful
[00:01:26] And just know that you are beautiful
[00:01:29] We got the good brother Quanny in the building
[00:01:31] And the good brother
[00:01:32] Hey, we haven't seen you here before
[00:01:34] How you doing Dane?
[00:01:36] I'm supposed to talk, man
[00:01:39] Aw man, gotta teach things how to pause
[00:01:42] Nigga LA's like
[00:01:43] I think I made the wrong decision
[00:01:46] I'm gonna make him regret this
[00:01:49] Alright, you're gonna make that thing
[00:01:50] LA start wilding out
[00:01:50] Bye
[00:01:52] What's going on brother, brother LA?
[00:01:55] Dang shit
[00:01:57] Just a sweater by the way
[00:01:57] Thank you man
[00:01:59] A good friend of mine
[00:02:00] Who used to take fashion design seriously
[00:02:04] They usually do that
[00:02:05] The good ones always do that
[00:02:06] Mmhmm, mmhmm
[00:02:09] And then they just stop
[00:02:10] You know
[00:02:13] Cyrus Quanny
[00:02:14] Tragic
[00:02:15] They gotta miss you, man
[00:02:18] They gotta miss you
[00:02:20] Mmm
[00:02:21] What causes somebody to miss you?
[00:02:24] The memories?
[00:02:26] Yeah
[00:02:26] What else?
[00:02:28] Memories
[00:02:28] Um
[00:02:30] Yeah
[00:02:31] What you have to hold on to
[00:02:32] What you have to think about
[00:02:33] All the good times
[00:02:35] Good fits
[00:02:37] Everything
[00:02:38] Something that you just said
[00:02:40] A word you said
[00:02:41] And I'm gonna use that off this episode
[00:02:44] As I freestyle, right?
[00:02:46] The concept of time
[00:02:50] Is time really real?
[00:02:52] And I wrote this episode down
[00:02:55] Because
[00:02:56] Um
[00:02:57] Hold on
[00:02:58] I actually wrote why
[00:02:59] I wrote it down
[00:03:00] That's cause that helps
[00:03:01] I was explaining
[00:03:04] I was explaining
[00:03:05] I was explaining what a red eye
[00:03:06] Was to somebody
[00:03:08] So
[00:03:10] They were like
[00:03:10] Yo
[00:03:11] What time
[00:03:11] What time do you
[00:03:12] Get back to New York?
[00:03:14] And I was explaining that
[00:03:16] You know
[00:03:16] I'm on a time difference
[00:03:18] Between you
[00:03:20] And where I am
[00:03:21] So me getting back to New York
[00:03:23] I was like
[00:03:24] Yo, I'm working a six hour flight
[00:03:25] I leave here at nine
[00:03:26] But she was like
[00:03:28] How is it
[00:03:29] X, Y and Z
[00:03:30] Whatever time that was
[00:03:32] And I'm like
[00:03:33] Well, I'm three hours behind you
[00:03:35] So technically
[00:03:36] If I'm leaving here at nine
[00:03:37] It's twelve when we're your way
[00:03:38] So when I land at six
[00:03:40] I'm traveling
[00:03:41] You know
[00:03:43] Throughout the night
[00:03:44] And landing in the morning
[00:03:45] I'm leaving night somewhere
[00:03:47] And landing in the morning
[00:03:48] Do you know you time travel for a while?
[00:03:50] Exactly
[00:03:51] I do
[00:03:51] I time travel for a while
[00:03:53] Like Jay Z
[00:03:54] In Game Dis remarks
[00:03:55] Mmhmm
[00:03:56] Talk a little louder
[00:03:57] If you gonna say that dumb shit
[00:04:01] Um
[00:04:02] So yeah
[00:04:03] Um
[00:04:04] I think
[00:04:05] My job helps me remain present
[00:04:08] Because I could be in LA where it's five
[00:04:10] And in New York it's eight
[00:04:12] So I can't really worry about what's going on in New York time
[00:04:17] I just have to be present
[00:04:19] In the time that I'm in now
[00:04:21] So for example
[00:04:23] Even with sleep
[00:04:24] My sleep schedule
[00:04:25] Right?
[00:04:26] I can't go to sleep
[00:04:27] At five p.m. here
[00:04:30] Because my body would naturally think
[00:04:32] Oh, get ready for bed
[00:04:33] But if I do that
[00:04:34] That's gonna
[00:04:34] That's gonna mess up my sleep schedule
[00:04:37] Or there was another concept
[00:04:39] Where I was like
[00:04:39] There was one place where
[00:04:41] I think I was in Colorado
[00:04:43] And they were like
[00:04:44] Yo, pick up time is four
[00:04:45] Four a.m.
[00:04:46] I'm like
[00:04:47] God
[00:04:47] Damn, that's early
[00:04:49] Four a.m.
[00:04:51] And then one of the guys was like
[00:04:53] Well just think about it this way
[00:04:54] That's six a.m. in New York
[00:04:56] You would've been up around that time anyway
[00:04:58] So
[00:04:59] Wow
[00:04:59] Yeah, so
[00:05:01] That kinda helped me with like
[00:05:02] Yeah, time really isn't real
[00:05:04] You know
[00:05:05] So just being more present
[00:05:06] And living in the moment
[00:05:08] Opposed to thinking about
[00:05:10] Literally the clock
[00:05:12] And so that's where I'ma start
[00:05:15] I'ma start with
[00:05:18] Putting yourself on a clock
[00:05:19] Or a timer
[00:05:21] You know
[00:05:22] Age
[00:05:23] Age is one of those things
[00:05:25] A lot of pressure
[00:05:25] A lot of pressure comes with that
[00:05:26] Mm-hmm
[00:05:27] Mm-hmm
[00:05:28] Understanding how
[00:05:29] How we're structured around
[00:05:31] Clocks, calendars, and routines
[00:05:32] Mm
[00:05:34] I think that helps though
[00:05:36] Yeah
[00:05:37] I think it helps
[00:05:38] It can help with discipline
[00:05:39] It gives you something to look forward to
[00:05:40] Mm
[00:05:41] I mean it has its pros and cons
[00:05:43] Cause it's like
[00:05:43] Yeah
[00:05:45] Imagine you set a time for this to happen
[00:05:47] And it doesn't happen
[00:05:47] It's like at least
[00:05:48] Is it me or it just feels like
[00:05:50] Yo, as you get older
[00:05:51] Time is just flying by
[00:05:53] Like for me
[00:05:54] I
[00:05:54] As a younger child
[00:05:55] It felt like the years
[00:05:56] Was going slower than it is as an adult
[00:05:59] Like you blinked twice in this
[00:06:00] You know what it is?
[00:06:01] Not in school anymore
[00:06:03] Yeah
[00:06:03] It always felt like
[00:06:05] Yo bro, the school year takes so fucking long to be done bro
[00:06:07] And each day we was writing down a date
[00:06:09] So you kinda knew
[00:06:10] As the page turned
[00:06:11] Top right corner?
[00:06:12] Top right corner?
[00:06:13] Yeah
[00:06:14] As the page turned
[00:06:15] You knew it was a new date
[00:06:16] Depending on how big your handwriting was
[00:06:19] But um
[00:06:21] That was also
[00:06:23] Like the way I work
[00:06:24] I don't even know what date is
[00:06:27] Nah, see that's another thing too now
[00:06:28] Like I'm getting into that habit
[00:06:29] It was like yo bro
[00:06:30] Is today Wednesday?
[00:06:31] Yeah
[00:06:32] I'm getting lost in time
[00:06:33] Fuck
[00:06:34] Like the only way I'll remember
[00:06:35] Is if I look at my phone
[00:06:36] It's like oh shit
[00:06:36] Yeah, yeah, yeah
[00:06:37] That's actually fucking
[00:06:38] It's scary but it's like yo
[00:06:40] I want life to slow down a bit though
[00:06:43] Why?
[00:06:44] What will slowing it down do for you?
[00:06:46] I think I'll enjoy it more
[00:06:48] I think
[00:06:50] Time is moving so fast
[00:06:51] It keeps me
[00:06:52] In a fast pace bro
[00:06:53] Like I have to keep up
[00:06:55] I have to keep up
[00:06:56] Danto
[00:06:58] What's your thoughts on the date?
[00:07:01] Yo bro, please don't embarrass me
[00:07:03] I'm nervous bro
[00:07:04] Bro, just talk
[00:07:06] Why?
[00:07:07] I was about to then you hit me with that
[00:07:09] Could you like re-state or re-praise the question?
[00:07:12] Yo, point on it
[00:07:14] Time's slowing down
[00:07:15] What would it do for me?
[00:07:16] I mean
[00:07:17] I would just have more down time
[00:07:19] I feel like I'm always on going stuff
[00:07:20] And I feel like
[00:07:23] The times I take to try to sleep
[00:07:25] I can't sleep
[00:07:26] Or just something always pops up
[00:07:27] I can't do anything
[00:07:29] Your mind is on go
[00:07:29] The other day I tried to take a 30 minute nap
[00:07:32] I couldn't
[00:07:33] Couldn't even take 30 minutes
[00:07:34] I just couldn't
[00:07:36] Phone going off
[00:07:37] Everything, email
[00:07:38] So, time's slowing down
[00:07:40] If I could add like another hour or two
[00:07:43] In the morning
[00:07:44] Like in between like 4 and 5am
[00:07:48] That would do wonders for me
[00:07:49] You know what's crazy?
[00:07:50] I was talking to my man Joe
[00:07:52] Shout out to Joe
[00:07:53] Run Club
[00:07:55] And he's telling me like
[00:07:56] Yeah, I read this book today
[00:07:57] I did this, I did this
[00:07:58] I said, Joe
[00:07:58] How the fuck you got time to do all this?
[00:08:01] He's like
[00:08:01] Yo bro, darn you got 24 hours bro
[00:08:03] You think we all got the same 24 hours?
[00:08:05] No
[00:08:05] No, I need people to stop
[00:08:06] Nigga, I wake up at 3 in the morning bro
[00:08:07] Ideally
[00:08:08] I still feel like I don't have enough time to do shit bro
[00:08:09] Ideally, yes
[00:08:10] We just do different things with them
[00:08:12] I feel like you have to delegate what's most important
[00:08:14] And after a while I was like
[00:08:15] Yo, the little shit I wanted to do
[00:08:16] I want to go do laundry
[00:08:17] Fuck, I forgot to do my laundry
[00:08:19] It's like, yo bro, what the fuck?
[00:08:20] People be like
[00:08:21] Oh, you can do everything
[00:08:22] I'm like, bro
[00:08:23] You can do everything in 24 hours bro
[00:08:24] That's the gig though
[00:08:26] Like figuring out how to manage it all
[00:08:27] Like that's the job
[00:08:28] Like you gotta
[00:08:30] Get that time management down and figure it out
[00:08:33] I must be getting write ups then
[00:08:36] God damn
[00:08:37] Alright, so the time as a limit versus time as freedom
[00:08:41] Do you see time as a limitation?
[00:08:45] Or viewing it as flexible or subjective that could bring you more freedom and creativity?
[00:08:52] Both
[00:08:52] Yeah, it could be both
[00:08:53] Because time is finite, right?
[00:08:55] Like there are deadlines for things and there's a certain amount of time to get certain things done
[00:09:00] But I think the goal is to be able to do what you want with your time
[00:09:08] Right?
[00:09:09] Like that's why I think most of us are working for doing what we have to do
[00:09:14] So we can do what we want to do
[00:09:16] But
[00:09:17] He part of
[00:09:17] Thank you for joining us
[00:09:19] I think it's important to figure out how to do what you want to do
[00:09:28] In the middle of doing all that you have to do
[00:09:31] Otherwise you're gonna just be miserable and shit
[00:09:34] So finding time for yourself
[00:09:36] I'll say that's freedom man
[00:09:38] Time is freedom?
[00:09:39] Yeah, cause you have
[00:09:41] You have the choice of doing
[00:09:43] You have the choice
[00:09:45] Well most people have the choice
[00:09:47] Well we have the luxury of saying
[00:09:50] We have the choice of doing what we want to do
[00:09:53] And sometimes what we want to do isn't truly what we want to do
[00:09:58] Like nigga, I gotta go to work
[00:09:59] Like man, you don't want to go to work but it's like
[00:10:00] Yeah, exactly
[00:10:01] But you know, I like that
[00:10:04] So what about the time as pressure?
[00:10:07] I felt time as pressure before
[00:10:09] Yeah
[00:10:10] I've had that conversation on the pod where you know
[00:10:14] When I called my ex
[00:10:17] That was an example of time being pressured
[00:10:19] Because now I felt like I was on a
[00:10:21] I was on her clock
[00:10:24] On how long she was going to stay in a relationship
[00:10:28] Before she got that
[00:10:29] Before she get the ick
[00:10:32] She wasn't getting the ick
[00:10:33] I think the conversation showed that
[00:10:35] But in a respectful way, respectfully
[00:10:38] But you know, it was only a matter of time before she left
[00:10:43] Because she didn't think this was going anywhere
[00:10:47] So time being on a somebody's time
[00:10:49] Time aligning
[00:10:52] And just remembering like, yo bro, we're not here forever
[00:10:55] I feel like that's another pressure
[00:10:56] I thought of like
[00:10:59] Yeah
[00:10:59] I thought of like, yo, tomorrow could be God forbid
[00:11:01] But like tomorrow could be the day
[00:11:03] It's like, yo bro
[00:11:05] Shit, why I'm working so hard to pay these bills?
[00:11:08] Why not do crack now?
[00:11:10] I'm joking
[00:11:11] I'm joking
[00:11:13] Shout out to Kojo
[00:11:15] Kojo not on crack
[00:11:18] You gotta clarify
[00:11:19] I think it's crazy
[00:11:21] My man is skinny but he ain't on that shit
[00:11:23] He ain't on that shit, alright?
[00:11:24] You making it worse
[00:11:25] I think I put a crack allegation on Kojo, that's crazy
[00:11:32] Okay
[00:11:35] Past, present and future
[00:11:37] I think I've got good at stop wasting my time on the past
[00:11:44] I know that for sure
[00:11:45] I really, really got good at that
[00:11:47] I got good at
[00:11:51] Not focusing on the future as much but staying present
[00:11:54] Yeah, because what do
[00:11:56] What do, what do, I think somebody said
[00:11:58] Anxiety is stressing about the future
[00:12:00] And something is stressing about the past
[00:12:02] Depression is stressing about the past
[00:12:04] Thank you for joining us, man
[00:12:06] Thank you
[00:12:07] Thank you
[00:12:08] But yeah, depression is stressing about the past
[00:12:11] And anxiety is stressing about the future
[00:12:14] And I felt like I've dealt with more depressive episodes
[00:12:18] Than I ever had anxiety
[00:12:20] Because, like, I don't say
[00:12:22] I'm not gonna say I don't get anxiety
[00:12:24] But I will say I will stress over something behind me
[00:12:28] Way more than I would what's in front of me
[00:12:32] But now I'm just, you know
[00:12:33] I live in the present way more than I've ever
[00:12:37] Had in my life
[00:12:39] Like, I'm always currently in the moment
[00:12:42] And I think my time traveling job allows me to do that
[00:12:46] Because I can't worry about what's going on in New York
[00:12:49] Because I'm not in New York
[00:12:50] That's why I do less worrying too
[00:12:53] Yeah, me too
[00:12:54] Worrying is praising the devil
[00:12:56] I don't know that one
[00:12:58] I don't know that one
[00:12:59] I don't know that one
[00:13:00] Someone along those lines somebody said that
[00:13:01] I was like, okay, I mean, I understand that
[00:13:03] Mm-hmm, mm-hmm
[00:13:05] It's a lack of faith, I suppose
[00:13:07] Because, you know
[00:13:08] You have faith in your higher source
[00:13:10] Then you have nothing to worry about
[00:13:11] That works for some people
[00:13:14] But, you know
[00:13:15] My attitude with that is just
[00:13:19] Because I be fucking up a lot
[00:13:20] So, like
[00:13:21] You just gotta do the best you can do
[00:13:22] Like, in whatever situation you find yourself in
[00:13:25] Mm-hmm
[00:13:25] And however it works out, it works out
[00:13:27] Like, if you did your best and you know that
[00:13:29] Then...
[00:13:30] There's not more you can do
[00:13:31] You did your best
[00:13:32] It was the best of what I got
[00:13:33] Yeah, yeah
[00:13:35] Mm, okay
[00:13:37] So...
[00:13:38] That would go to letting go of the concept of what should be
[00:13:43] So you can't...
[00:13:44] You can't get married to the idea of
[00:13:47] Hitting a certain goal at a certain age
[00:13:49] With your answer
[00:13:50] So, for example
[00:13:51] When I was 18
[00:13:53] By the time I'm 25
[00:13:54] I'ma have my own crib
[00:13:55] I'ma do this
[00:13:56] I'ma do that
[00:13:57] And then when 25 came
[00:13:58] And I felt like I was at home
[00:14:00] Because I was so married to this
[00:14:03] The time limit
[00:14:05] I thought I was...
[00:14:06] I thought I failed or wasted a lot of time
[00:14:09] So I let go of the
[00:14:14] Should be
[00:14:15] I should be this at this time
[00:14:17] This age
[00:14:18] Or I should be here by this amount
[00:14:21] Now, I can still prepare to be on time
[00:14:23] Because I am a punctual person
[00:14:25] But...
[00:14:25] I'm not married to the concept of
[00:14:28] I should be this at this at this
[00:14:31] Because...
[00:14:31] Even if I do get it
[00:14:33] It shouldn't mean as less
[00:14:35] Because I am 36
[00:14:37] Opposed to when I wanted it at 30
[00:14:40] You know?
[00:14:41] So I...
[00:14:41] I have the luxury of that
[00:14:44] Because I'm a male
[00:14:45] I'm not on a...
[00:14:47] Clock...
[00:14:47] On a...
[00:14:48] On a certain type of clock
[00:14:49] But I still think we have our own clocks
[00:14:52] Like financial clocks
[00:14:53] And, you know
[00:14:55] Not having certain things at a certain age
[00:14:59] Because of what society told us
[00:15:02] Or what we see
[00:15:03] You know?
[00:15:04] I don't...
[00:15:05] You know?
[00:15:05] My time is my time
[00:15:06] I stopped doing that as well
[00:15:08] Like the time limits
[00:15:09] Because like bro
[00:15:10] If you don't hit it at that time
[00:15:11] It can bring depression
[00:15:12] It can bring disappointment
[00:15:13] Like...
[00:15:14] So I kind of just...
[00:15:15] Like when it happens, it happens
[00:15:16] But I don't want it to happen too late
[00:15:18] If I want to be financially stable
[00:15:20] Around this time
[00:15:21] It's like yo bro
[00:15:21] It might not happen now
[00:15:22] But give yourself some time
[00:15:23] Be patient
[00:15:24] That's another thing I've learned
[00:15:26] As I've noticed that life
[00:15:27] Is moving fast
[00:15:28] Like just have patience
[00:15:30] You ever heard of this concept called the infinite now?
[00:15:34] No, no
[00:15:34] It is a goal
[00:15:35] So the infinite now
[00:15:38] Is the...
[00:15:39] Is the mindset of
[00:15:41] Everything is always going to happen
[00:15:45] Now when it's supposed to happen
[00:15:47] Now
[00:15:48] So for example
[00:15:53] One second from now
[00:15:54] Two seconds from now
[00:15:56] Three seconds from now
[00:15:57] Somebody walks through that door
[00:15:58] That's the...
[00:15:59] That's the infinite now
[00:15:59] It was going to happen
[00:16:00] So I can't keep chasing the future
[00:16:03] Because...
[00:16:05] Eventually the future will become the now
[00:16:07] So the infinite now of
[00:16:10] Whatever is going to happen
[00:16:11] Is going to happen
[00:16:12] When it's going to happen
[00:16:13] When it's supposed to happen
[00:16:15] That is the now
[00:16:17] No matter how much we think about it
[00:16:19] Ahead of time
[00:16:20] When we get there
[00:16:22] Is the now
[00:16:25] That's not...
[00:16:25] I know for the thought of time
[00:16:27] Cause it's kind of scary
[00:16:27] Because like bro
[00:16:28] Everything keeps moving
[00:16:29] It doesn't matter what you're going through
[00:16:30] It doesn't matter what you have in your mind
[00:16:32] Like time just keeps moving
[00:16:33] Even when I look at like
[00:16:34] People that I've lost
[00:16:35] It's like yo
[00:16:36] I look at them old ass burnt pictures
[00:16:38] That niggas make on Photoshop
[00:16:39] It's like yo bro
[00:16:40] Time really passed crazy
[00:16:41] Like...
[00:16:42] That shit is actually fucking scary
[00:16:44] But it kind of brings a little bit of anxiety
[00:16:46] Cause...
[00:16:46] The future is so slow
[00:16:47] Yeah bro
[00:16:48] What's next?
[00:16:50] Mmhmm
[00:16:51] Mmhmm
[00:16:51] Okay so...
[00:16:53] How do you break free of the constraint of the time?
[00:16:58] How do you reclaim your time?
[00:17:00] To your joy and your purpose?
[00:17:02] If you're so like...
[00:17:04] If the anxiety of the future holds so much weight
[00:17:07] How do you reclaim that?
[00:17:11] I think you gotta define it
[00:17:12] Okay
[00:17:13] And give some meaning to your time
[00:17:15] And the suffering
[00:17:17] And the joy
[00:17:17] And all the different things
[00:17:18] What time mean to you now?
[00:17:20] It's two years ago
[00:17:22] That used to be all that you say
[00:17:24] I need more time
[00:17:25] I wish I had more time
[00:17:27] Still saying that
[00:17:28] Same thing
[00:17:29] Same thing
[00:17:30] More time just gives me more time to work
[00:17:33] And more time to be present
[00:17:34] And enjoy the time
[00:17:35] You know what I mean?
[00:17:36] But...
[00:17:37] But do you feel like you reclaimed your time?
[00:17:39] I have more control over my time now
[00:17:41] For sure
[00:17:42] But that again
[00:17:43] That came with time
[00:17:44] Mmhmm
[00:17:45] You know it's
[00:17:47] It's being patient
[00:17:48] Not by choice either
[00:17:50] Cause like...
[00:17:51] Life teaches you patience
[00:17:52] Yeah like it really isn't up to you sometimes
[00:17:53] It's gonna happen when it's supposed to happen
[00:17:55] But...
[00:17:55] I think the difference now is
[00:17:59] I'm...
[00:18:01] I'm starting to see it
[00:18:02] Right?
[00:18:03] Like the path that I've chosen
[00:18:04] The path that I'm on
[00:18:06] It made sense in my head
[00:18:07] But it's starting to make sense in reality too
[00:18:09] Mmhmm
[00:18:10] And things are aligning with time
[00:18:12] And I know it's just a matter of time
[00:18:14] Mmhmm
[00:18:15] What's more important to me now
[00:18:17] Is that the things that I want
[00:18:19] Happen
[00:18:21] Like...
[00:18:22] When they happen is not completely up to me
[00:18:24] It is to an extent
[00:18:25] Yeah
[00:18:26] But...
[00:18:27] Why do you want that thing?
[00:18:29] Mmhmm
[00:18:29] Like what are you waiting for?
[00:18:30] We're talking about time
[00:18:31] So okay...
[00:18:32] What are you waiting for to happen
[00:18:33] At the end of this time?
[00:18:35] Mmhmm
[00:18:35] Right?
[00:18:36] But why do you want that thing?
[00:18:37] Do you want it because of the noise
[00:18:39] And because of what people say you're supposed to have?
[00:18:41] Or do you want it for you?
[00:18:42] Or that's a true goal
[00:18:43] And a desire
[00:18:44] And accomplishment of yours
[00:18:45] And if that's the case
[00:18:47] I think when it happens
[00:18:49] That happens
[00:18:50] How do you really know what's for you?
[00:18:52] Well, you get to choose
[00:18:54] Do we...
[00:18:55] Do we...
[00:18:56] Do you really do?
[00:18:56] You get to choose
[00:18:57] It's all choices
[00:18:59] Who you like
[00:18:59] What you wear
[00:19:00] What you eat
[00:19:02] I feel like sometimes we don't
[00:19:03] When you work
[00:19:04] You do
[00:19:05] Like it's...
[00:19:07] I'm a creative person
[00:19:09] And I have creative friends
[00:19:11] Like you know what I mean?
[00:19:12] Like...
[00:19:14] I've sought out unconventional things to do
[00:19:17] And I've found other unconventional and interesting people
[00:19:22] You know, the women I attract
[00:19:26] The friends I attract
[00:19:27] Like the opportunities I attract
[00:19:30] You think you choose all of that?
[00:19:31] I keep telling you
[00:19:32] I don't know more than that
[00:19:33] Yeah
[00:19:33] You think you choose the women you attract?
[00:19:35] I certainly have a type
[00:19:37] That's not what I asked you
[00:19:39] That's not what I asked you though
[00:19:41] I think so
[00:19:42] You don't
[00:19:42] You don't?
[00:19:43] You don't?
[00:19:43] Why not?
[00:19:43] Why don't you think you attract?
[00:19:45] Sometimes it's not a choice bro
[00:19:47] I don't choose
[00:19:48] You don't choose who think you...
[00:19:50] If that's the case
[00:19:51] Me and Ashanti would've been together
[00:19:53] I would've been Regina Hall brother
[00:19:54] If I could choose who
[00:19:56] Who attracts her
[00:19:58] If they want her then
[00:19:58] You ain't want her bad enough then
[00:19:59] Cause you should've like put yourself around her
[00:20:01] You know what I'm saying?
[00:20:03] And that's worse
[00:20:04] Cause you have examples of what they like
[00:20:05] Well maybe not Regina Hall so much
[00:20:07] But it's like
[00:20:07] If
[00:20:10] Like
[00:20:11] Nelly is a type
[00:20:13] You know what I mean?
[00:20:14] And people tend to have types
[00:20:15] And it's like
[00:20:16] Okay yeah
[00:20:16] Don't talk more about this pop
[00:20:18] Oh I'm sorry
[00:20:19] My my my my pop
[00:20:20] I fucking just
[00:20:23] But you know what I mean?
[00:20:25] Like it's
[00:20:29] You done put yourself around her
[00:20:30] If you really
[00:20:31] You know
[00:20:32] If you didn't have other priorities
[00:20:33] Niggas say you don't want her bad enough
[00:20:34] It's kinda crazy
[00:20:35] Yo for real
[00:20:36] Yo
[00:20:38] I'm just saying
[00:20:38] You done made it make sense
[00:20:40] Right?
[00:20:40] You done like put your profile
[00:20:42] In a place where
[00:20:43] You know
[00:20:43] I done willed my way
[00:20:46] Hey I see niggas figure it out man
[00:20:49] I figure it out sometimes
[00:20:51] That's what I tell myself
[00:20:52] And maybe because
[00:20:56] Control is a funny thing
[00:20:57] And the illusion of control of time
[00:20:58] Is a funny thing
[00:20:59] But it's like
[00:21:01] I only have control over what I can do
[00:21:03] So you ain't work hard enough
[00:21:04] For the love of your life
[00:21:05] Nope
[00:21:06] Nope
[00:21:06] And how does that make you feel though?
[00:21:08] You worked hard for that
[00:21:09] I
[00:21:09] I could've worked harder
[00:21:11] You don't feel like you wasted a lot of time?
[00:21:14] No
[00:21:15] I learned a lot
[00:21:16] So what made you
[00:21:18] What made you stop
[00:21:19] Dedicating your time
[00:21:20] To will that into existence?
[00:21:22] Mr. Work harder?
[00:21:26] Truthfully
[00:21:26] A couple things
[00:21:28] What made you pivot?
[00:21:29] We're on the pod
[00:21:29] Okay
[00:21:34] She made a choice
[00:21:35] And I had an ego
[00:21:37] And explored my options
[00:21:38] You know what I mean?
[00:21:39] Like it's
[00:21:41] Y'all know I'm the hopeless romantic
[00:21:42] But I'm certainly like
[00:21:45] Pragmatic
[00:21:45] And an adult
[00:21:46] And like I
[00:21:48] Have options and things to do
[00:21:50] And whatever as well
[00:21:51] But
[00:21:53] That's up in the air
[00:21:54] That's to be continued potentially
[00:21:55] I don't know what the future
[00:21:57] And what time holds
[00:21:58] With that
[00:21:59] I know what I'm focused on now
[00:22:01] Do you think anything can be considered
[00:22:03] A waste of time?
[00:22:05] Again it depends on how you define it
[00:22:06] Like what value do you put on it?
[00:22:08] Like the person that we're speaking about
[00:22:10] I have nothing negative to say about them
[00:22:12] I speak very highly of them
[00:22:14] I'm doing what I'm doing because of that person
[00:22:16] You know what I mean?
[00:22:17] Like as someone who without dating
[00:22:20] Helped bring meaning to my life
[00:22:22] Helped me find my purpose and shit like that
[00:22:24] Like I fuck with her
[00:22:26] I want the best for her
[00:22:26] Were you never scared to hold somebody that high of a standard?
[00:22:30] The
[00:22:33] I try not to lie to myself
[00:22:36] Right?
[00:22:37] Like where I had her
[00:22:40] Where I have her
[00:22:41] Like that's how I feel and how I felt
[00:22:44] I'm not gonna lie about it
[00:22:45] You know different people get different versions of you
[00:22:47] That's so true
[00:22:49] You know what I mean?
[00:22:50] That's something about Tom
[00:22:52] Where you
[00:22:53] The
[00:22:55] The versions of you
[00:22:56] That
[00:22:56] That developed over time
[00:22:59] Is crazy
[00:23:00] That's why I don't dwell on
[00:23:03] Being
[00:23:03] The villain in somebody's story
[00:23:07] Because
[00:23:08] Shit
[00:23:09] Maybe I was
[00:23:10] In that time
[00:23:12] But now it's like
[00:23:14] You know
[00:23:15] It's lit
[00:23:16] It's crazy
[00:23:17] A person will freeze that
[00:23:18] That memory of you
[00:23:19] In their brain
[00:23:20] And always think that's who you are
[00:23:21] Yeah
[00:23:22] But see
[00:23:25] That's okay
[00:23:26] For me
[00:23:26] Because I know I removed
[00:23:29] them
[00:23:30] Out of my timeline
[00:23:32] So wherever you holding on
[00:23:35] And that's what I was also saying
[00:23:37] About like
[00:23:38] Not one of those things that helped me dwell
[00:23:41] On like
[00:23:42] Not harboring on time lost
[00:23:44] Or getting out of my depression
[00:23:47] Was literally thinking like
[00:23:49] I'm using this time
[00:23:51] To dwell on the past
[00:23:53] They're using their time
[00:23:55] To move on in the future
[00:23:57] We're not even on the same timeline anymore
[00:24:00] So then for me it was like
[00:24:02] All right, why am I sitting here
[00:24:04] Letting time
[00:24:05] Pass me by
[00:24:07] Looking back
[00:24:08] To a person that's not even there
[00:24:11] Yeah
[00:24:12] So
[00:24:12] That's what helped me remove myself
[00:24:15] And remove them from my timeline
[00:24:17] Where it's like
[00:24:18] I'm not gonna spend so much time
[00:24:21] Trying to will
[00:24:22] That person back into my present or future
[00:24:25] And just go the course of life
[00:24:26] And sometimes it's just your turn
[00:24:29] Like
[00:24:29] We talked about that earlier
[00:24:31] Yeah, like sometimes it's just your turn
[00:24:33] And you know
[00:24:35] That off mic conversation was fire
[00:24:37] Yeah, it was
[00:24:38] They usually are
[00:24:41] It wasn't my turn
[00:24:42] And that's okay
[00:24:43] My feelings were hurt
[00:24:44] That it wasn't my turn
[00:24:45] But like
[00:24:45] It don't change how you feel about that person
[00:24:47] And it don't change
[00:24:50] Anything
[00:24:50] You know what's crazy?
[00:24:51] That's how I look at like
[00:24:55] Relationships now
[00:24:57] Like she's like that
[00:24:59] I see she's like that
[00:25:00] I don't know why but I take it very personal
[00:25:02] I feel like I wasted my time with shit like that
[00:25:04] Nah, I'm a better nigga for liking her bro
[00:25:06] She's the elf like
[00:25:08] I'm not yo, I'm not
[00:25:10] That's just her
[00:25:11] Yeah
[00:25:11] I'm talking about I think
[00:25:13] No but I but you
[00:25:14] Come on though, you gotta learn no matter what
[00:25:15] Like even if it's
[00:25:17] Damn I shouldn't do that again
[00:25:19] Or I notice a pattern here
[00:25:20] Or there's something to like get from every situation
[00:25:24] Like it's not a waste of time
[00:25:26] Unless
[00:25:28] Nah, unless you wasting your time
[00:25:29] Unless you know you shouldn't be doing it
[00:25:31] And you're just still doing it just because
[00:25:32] Yeah
[00:25:33] If you're learning as you're having experiences
[00:25:35] Like that's what dating and living
[00:25:38] Life is
[00:25:39] That's true for jobs, that's true for family
[00:25:41] That's true for everything
[00:25:42] Yeah, you gotta learn
[00:25:43] Yeah, and it kinda keeps me on the bright side of things
[00:25:47] Like as much as I talk about y'all mans or whatever
[00:25:51] I learned a lot, a lot about myself
[00:25:57] About levels I didn't think
[00:25:59] I learned, one of the things that that time taught me
[00:26:03] Was
[00:26:06] You really can loosen up
[00:26:08] Because there are a lot of things that were like hard nose
[00:26:12] But like for the right person
[00:26:14] It wasn't money
[00:26:16] It wasn't money
[00:26:19] But it was kinda like
[00:26:21] Like fuck it
[00:26:22] So for example like
[00:26:24] I don't smoke
[00:26:25] Never smoke
[00:26:26] We all know that right?
[00:26:27] But I done went to hookah lounges
[00:26:30] That was like
[00:26:31] What am I going there for?
[00:26:33] Nigga I'm in Atlanta
[00:26:34] In Copper Cove
[00:26:35] Everybody know that is not
[00:26:37] That wasn't my thing
[00:26:38] That's not my vibe
[00:26:40] But it was like yo
[00:26:41] No pun intended
[00:26:43] Why not?
[00:26:43] You know what I'm saying?
[00:26:45] Different type of activities
[00:26:47] Shit, I feel like I learned how to bowl playing well
[00:26:51] That sounded crazy
[00:26:53] But
[00:26:55] Let's focus back
[00:26:56] But like yeah, so it's kinda like
[00:26:58] You got you
[00:27:00] It wasn't all bad
[00:27:01] Like when you reflect on time spent
[00:27:04] Don't always think about
[00:27:06] What you lost in the moment
[00:27:08] Cause I gained some things out of that too
[00:27:10] Now, if it didn't end the way it ended
[00:27:12] Would you replay that time back?
[00:27:15] Would you do it all again?
[00:27:19] I'm not confident in my
[00:27:20] Cause
[00:27:23] Cause I know how it ended
[00:27:25] So for me that would always
[00:27:27] Be in the back of my mind
[00:27:29] Like whoa, whoa man, whoa buddy
[00:27:31] You know?
[00:27:32] I think you just cherish what you could
[00:27:34] You take what you can
[00:27:36] And apply it elsewhere
[00:27:38] You know?
[00:27:39] I always say sometimes
[00:27:40] Sometimes somebody make you a better man
[00:27:42] For the next woman
[00:27:44] And then vice versa
[00:27:46] You know?
[00:27:46] You may make a woman better for the next nigga
[00:27:49] It's not your turn
[00:27:50] Yeah, it's all character development
[00:27:52] Yeah, you know?
[00:27:54] How else would you have gotten better?
[00:27:58] You was gonna get better regardless
[00:28:01] But it was who was in front of you at the moment
[00:28:04] And you gon' need that shit
[00:28:05] You gon' need them less things
[00:28:06] Cause time keeps going
[00:28:07] Life keeps going
[00:28:08] Yeah, yeah
[00:28:09] It's gonna show up
[00:28:11] It's gonna show up
[00:28:12] You know?
[00:28:15] As crazy as it sounds
[00:28:17] It's like this
[00:28:19] Philosophical
[00:28:21] Example of the eternal return
[00:28:24] Where
[00:28:25] Things are always gonna come back
[00:28:27] You know what I'm saying?
[00:28:28] So
[00:28:28] It may not necessarily be that person
[00:28:30] But that situation may show its face
[00:28:33] And now that you're more equipped
[00:28:35] You know?
[00:28:37] You know you may have a better lesson
[00:28:39] Or a better understanding
[00:28:40] Of how to deal with the situation
[00:28:42] So things may return
[00:28:43] In ways that
[00:28:45] It just may show differently
[00:28:47] It may show in a different space
[00:28:48] It may not show up in New York
[00:28:50] It may show up in
[00:28:52] Wherever
[00:28:53] I don't know
[00:28:54] But it may show up
[00:28:58] In a different time
[00:28:59] And you gotta be prepared for that
[00:29:01] Cause you can't
[00:29:02] You'll never want a
[00:29:04] A second opportunity
[00:29:05] To do it right
[00:29:06] And make the same mistake twice
[00:29:09] Uh huh
[00:29:09] Question for everybody in the room
[00:29:10] Shout out to YP
[00:29:12] He always says yo
[00:29:13] When he said it on the pod
[00:29:14] My time is now
[00:29:15] Yeah
[00:29:15] You ever had that moment like
[00:29:16] My time is now?
[00:29:19] Um
[00:29:21] Hmm
[00:29:22] That's a good question
[00:29:26] For me to say no
[00:29:28] No
[00:29:29] Would help me identify that I
[00:29:31] As present as I think I am
[00:29:33] I need to be more present
[00:29:34] To identify that my time is now
[00:29:37] That means I'm not present enough
[00:29:40] So
[00:29:40] Because I'ma say no
[00:29:43] That's a clear indication that
[00:29:45] I need to be a lot more present
[00:29:48] To identify my time is now
[00:29:51] What about you Quanny?
[00:29:54] Uh
[00:29:54] I would say
[00:29:55] I think I had that moment
[00:29:58] Maybe uh
[00:29:59] Three years ago
[00:30:00] Yeah three years ago
[00:30:01] When I quit my job
[00:30:03] When I started working for myself
[00:30:04] That was kinda my moment
[00:30:06] To be like
[00:30:07] I'ma figure out this entrepreneurial thing
[00:30:09] And I'ma just do it until
[00:30:10] Wheels fall off
[00:30:12] And at every turn
[00:30:14] I've had to figure out how to
[00:30:15] Keep doing it
[00:30:16] So I think I'm
[00:30:18] Yeah I think I'm in that stage now
[00:30:20] To where everything is
[00:30:21] Yeah to where everything was
[00:30:23] Starting to make sense
[00:30:24] So I think those
[00:30:25] Those two or three years
[00:30:26] It was just
[00:30:28] Figuring it out
[00:30:28] Cause I was very structural
[00:30:29] Like I went to
[00:30:30] Went to school
[00:30:31] Went to college
[00:30:32] Got right into corporate
[00:30:33] Started working
[00:30:34] And I thought I wanted to be
[00:30:35] A financial advisor
[00:30:36] Blah blah
[00:30:38] So then to let go of that
[00:30:39] Took a while to let go of it
[00:30:41] And to do the entrepreneurial thing
[00:30:43] Was like
[00:30:45] I don't know
[00:30:46] It was a lot of like doubt
[00:30:47] And like a lot of just like
[00:30:49] Hesitation and things like that
[00:30:50] But
[00:30:51] I guess at a certain point
[00:30:53] When you feel like your time is now
[00:30:54] You just have that delusion
[00:30:55] And that confidence
[00:30:56] To just
[00:30:57] Say fuck it
[00:30:58] I'ma just go
[00:30:59] Take the leap of faith
[00:31:00] Yeah cause what's the worst that could happen?
[00:31:02] I would go get another job
[00:31:04] So
[00:31:04] Yeah like what's the worst?
[00:31:06] Okay
[00:31:07] As an entrepreneur
[00:31:09] How did you learn to embrace
[00:31:11] Your own pace?
[00:31:14] My own pace?
[00:31:15] My own pace?
[00:31:15] Yeah cause you're in a competitive field
[00:31:16] Yeah
[00:31:17] That's kind of
[00:31:18] Literally dictated by
[00:31:20] Seasons, calendars
[00:31:22] Releases, right?
[00:31:24] And
[00:31:25] You
[00:31:27] You may
[00:31:28] Feel like you gotta force something out
[00:31:30] To stay
[00:31:31] Within the timeline of
[00:31:34] Summer and Spring 2024
[00:31:36] Yeah
[00:31:36] When did you embrace your own pace?
[00:31:41] I think during this break actually
[00:31:43] I think I kinda had to
[00:31:44] I had to like sit down real quick
[00:31:46] To figure a lot of things out
[00:31:49] And I think it's just
[00:31:50] It's fine tuning what your vision is
[00:31:52] And what you want
[00:31:52] So I think at the beginning of
[00:31:54] Whenever you start a business or whatever
[00:31:56] You want the most money
[00:31:57] Or you wanna
[00:31:58] You wanna get the most people
[00:31:59] Or whatever, whatever
[00:32:00] But
[00:32:00] Once you find a niche
[00:32:02] And once you find Tuna
[00:32:03] To say
[00:32:04] I'm only speaking to this
[00:32:05] This people that understand
[00:32:07] What I'm trying to do
[00:32:08] It's gonna be a little easier
[00:32:09] And then you can work at your own pace
[00:32:11] Because
[00:32:12] Those people that love what you do
[00:32:14] They'll understand it
[00:32:16] They'll understand it
[00:32:17] And then they'll
[00:32:18] Appreciate the pace that you go at
[00:32:20] So you won't even really feel like
[00:32:22] It's a
[00:32:22] A different pace
[00:32:24] For anybody else
[00:32:24] Because you'll be so focused on yours
[00:32:27] It'll just be
[00:32:28] Natural
[00:32:29] So I think once you just
[00:32:31] Just focus a bit more
[00:32:33] On what it is that you wanna do
[00:32:35] And just
[00:32:36] Fine tune that and work at that everyday
[00:32:39] And you'll be okay
[00:32:40] Once you feel like you gotta get the most money
[00:32:43] Or you gotta get everything
[00:32:44] Or you gotta fit into the season
[00:32:45] Or this or that
[00:32:46] You just start doing anything
[00:32:47] And then people see that
[00:32:49] And then you're not staying true to yourself
[00:32:50] True to your brand
[00:32:51] And whatever
[00:32:53] Like I could take the
[00:32:54] This break I'm in
[00:32:55] I haven't released anything in
[00:32:56] Since February
[00:32:57] Or in October now
[00:32:59] I don't plan to release anything
[00:33:00] Until next year
[00:33:01] But I know that the things I made
[00:33:03] Will last until then
[00:33:05] And further
[00:33:06] So I don't have to rush
[00:33:07] To go and make anything now
[00:33:08] Cause when I come back
[00:33:09] It's
[00:33:10] Yeah
[00:33:11] So I'm not like
[00:33:13] So I'm just like
[00:33:14] I'm learning everything I have to learn
[00:33:16] And fixing everything up
[00:33:18] To make sure
[00:33:19] A break won't happen again
[00:33:21] But life is life
[00:33:22] So
[00:33:22] Can't really plan for those things
[00:33:24] But
[00:33:25] Yeah
[00:33:26] What about you Don?
[00:33:28] How are you learning to
[00:33:31] Embrace your own pace?
[00:33:35] I haven't really learned yet
[00:33:37] That's interesting
[00:33:38] The thing you say that
[00:33:38] Cause you run
[00:33:40] Even with that
[00:33:41] It's like
[00:33:41] Some days I'll have 9 mile
[00:33:43] Like a 9 minute mile
[00:33:44] Some days it's like
[00:33:45] 12 is more like
[00:33:48] Whatever
[00:33:48] Whatever I can give
[00:33:49] Is what I give bro
[00:33:50] Like
[00:33:51] Sometimes I don't have it
[00:33:53] Yeah I think for me
[00:33:54] It's like
[00:33:55] I've embraced it
[00:33:57] By
[00:33:59] Alleviating control
[00:34:01] Like when I get there
[00:34:02] I get there
[00:34:02] Like I was working
[00:34:04] This morning
[00:34:06] And I had so many moments
[00:34:08] Where it was just like
[00:34:09] Yo are we there yet?
[00:34:11] Like it just felt like
[00:34:13] Like I was on this tin can
[00:34:16] Flying
[00:34:16] So slow
[00:34:18] But I knew we was
[00:34:20] Jetting it
[00:34:22] Like our estimated arrival
[00:34:24] Was I think
[00:34:26] 7.30
[00:34:28] And by like
[00:34:29] 6.55 we touched down
[00:34:32] But it just felt
[00:34:33] So long
[00:34:34] Because
[00:34:36] I was just anticipating
[00:34:37] Like getting home
[00:34:38] That it felt like
[00:34:40] We weren't getting there
[00:34:41] Fast enough
[00:34:42] So
[00:34:44] Just letting go
[00:34:45] And realizing
[00:34:47] I'ma get there
[00:34:48] When I get there
[00:34:49] And when I get
[00:34:50] As long as I get there
[00:34:51] In a healthy manner
[00:34:53] In one shape
[00:34:55] One sound
[00:34:56] And
[00:34:57] Then that's worth
[00:34:59] Getting there at that time
[00:35:01] Versus rushing to get there
[00:35:03] And I'm in an accident
[00:35:05] And it delayed my arrival
[00:35:07] Because I was rushing
[00:35:07] So just embracing that
[00:35:09] You know
[00:35:10] When you get there
[00:35:11] You'll get there
[00:35:12] When did you get
[00:35:13] When did you develop this mindset
[00:35:14] Of just letting go?
[00:35:16] Cause you used to be a person
[00:35:17] That had to be in control
[00:35:18] I hate
[00:35:22] I hate giving this
[00:35:24] All this credit
[00:35:26] To Tepwani Maze?
[00:35:27] Yo yo yo yo yo yo
[00:35:30] Cool it cool it
[00:35:31] I really yo
[00:35:31] I really think
[00:35:33] People are people getting your life for a reason man
[00:35:36] Yeah that situation not working out
[00:35:39] Worked out for you
[00:35:40] Really
[00:35:41] Really taught me so much
[00:35:43] Everyone has that though
[00:35:44] That one
[00:35:44] Yeah
[00:35:45] That situation that really taught you so much
[00:35:47] Yeah
[00:35:48] Yo yo this is not for you to phone
[00:35:49] It's not for you to stay here
[00:35:51] It's for you to learn
[00:35:51] It's not even that
[00:35:53] It's just like
[00:35:56] You control what you can control
[00:35:58] But it's kinda like
[00:35:59] In the same time
[00:36:00] You I feel like
[00:36:03] A lot of things left the way
[00:36:05] A lot of things happened the way it did
[00:36:08] To teach me
[00:36:10] Something
[00:36:11] You know
[00:36:12] At times I hated that I had to learn it with that person
[00:36:16] You know
[00:36:16] But at the same time
[00:36:18] It was kinda the same thing that I was saying with my ex
[00:36:20] Like yo you met me at 17
[00:36:23] We were together at 23
[00:36:25] That's not the same as you meeting me at 28
[00:36:28] And we're 33
[00:36:29] And it's like yo what we doing
[00:36:31] The time is different
[00:36:32] You know what I'm saying
[00:36:34] And where you meet somebody in that space of life
[00:36:37] I felt like that
[00:36:39] That ultimate lesson of everything that I took away from that
[00:36:43] Cause that's one thing like
[00:36:46] You know how they be like
[00:36:48] You know never run back into a burning house
[00:36:53] But sometimes people run back into a burning house
[00:36:56] To try to salvage anything they can get their hands on
[00:37:00] You may not
[00:37:01] I may not be able to leave with the most
[00:37:03] The prized possession
[00:37:05] A few memories
[00:37:06] A few things that can
[00:37:10] Come with me into this new house
[00:37:13] You know
[00:37:13] I can't take the uh
[00:37:15] You can't take the TV
[00:37:17] You gotta take a few pictures
[00:37:18] I can take a photo book or something
[00:37:19] Something
[00:37:19] Or you know
[00:37:20] But it could be a lesson on
[00:37:23] On communication
[00:37:25] It could be a lesson on living in the moment
[00:37:27] It could be a lesson on
[00:37:28] Getting out your own way
[00:37:30] Those is what I could have grabbed
[00:37:31] I can't grab the whole person
[00:37:34] Cause I didn't have enough time to save it
[00:37:36] But what I did take
[00:37:38] You know it's enough to bring into my new house
[00:37:40] And be like
[00:37:41] This is where we gonna stop from
[00:37:44] This is gonna lay the new foundation
[00:37:46] Or add to the foundation
[00:37:48] To the house that I'm trying to build
[00:37:50] So that's
[00:37:51] That's something I could
[00:37:53] Say
[00:37:53] It wasn't all bad
[00:37:54] It just wasn't all good
[00:37:56] You know
[00:37:58] Oh he didn't answer
[00:37:59] I thought you were
[00:38:02] I didn't say so much about your man
[00:38:04] Oh brother
[00:38:05] That's both y'all men
[00:38:06] Who?
[00:38:08] The nigga face telling me by accident
[00:38:10] As far as pace
[00:38:11] She did what?
[00:38:12] The nigga face telling me by accident that day
[00:38:14] Oh
[00:38:15] That's your mans
[00:38:16] That's your mans
[00:38:17] She told you we was gonna get married
[00:38:21] That girl's a fucking asshole
[00:38:23] Uh, pace, right
[00:38:28] Uh
[00:38:31] I don't know
[00:38:32] I don't like being rushed
[00:38:33] Like it's one of my biggest pet peeves
[00:38:35] Like
[00:38:35] So you had to always be on time then
[00:38:38] And I could do a better job of that
[00:38:40] Right?
[00:38:40] But like
[00:38:41] I
[00:38:44] I have bad anxiety
[00:38:45] I know my brain works
[00:38:46] Like I'll be tired
[00:38:47] If I leave and I forgot my earrings
[00:38:49] Like I'ma wanna turn back
[00:38:50] I'ma be tight the whole time
[00:38:51] You feel me?
[00:38:52] So like
[00:38:53] I take my time
[00:38:54] I get my shit together
[00:38:55] I put the things in order
[00:38:57] You feel me?
[00:38:58] And
[00:38:59] Yo leave
[00:39:00] I'll meet y'all there
[00:39:01] Do you have a respect of time?
[00:39:04] Yeah definitely
[00:39:06] I just you know
[00:39:07] Be doing a lot
[00:39:08] Then how are you so tardy?
[00:39:11] Cause I be late sometimes
[00:39:12] And I procrastinate
[00:39:14] And
[00:39:16] You know
[00:39:16] The shit that makes you late
[00:39:18] Yeah like
[00:39:18] I you know
[00:39:19] I could be better
[00:39:20] But it's not as bad as people think
[00:39:21] And you know
[00:39:22] Something used to be late coming into the whole for something
[00:39:24] Like this thing is sick
[00:39:25] Yeah but
[00:39:26] You feel me?
[00:39:27] Like that's different
[00:39:28] No it's not
[00:39:29] No
[00:39:29] I had
[00:39:30] What's that shit called?
[00:39:31] Like
[00:39:34] Gravitas
[00:39:34] And like
[00:39:35] You know
[00:39:36] Seniority
[00:39:36] And like
[00:39:38] Oh I thought he was true
[00:39:38] Do what I want type shit
[00:39:40] Slavin
[00:39:42] Wait
[00:39:44] Yo
[00:39:44] This is ass
[00:39:46] Nah like you
[00:39:47] Like you get to do that when
[00:39:48] Like you know
[00:39:49] Yeah you put in the work
[00:39:50] Yeah like
[00:39:52] Okay
[00:39:52] I left at 1am though
[00:39:54] And work ends at 5
[00:39:56] You feel me?
[00:39:56] So like
[00:39:57] Yeah I'm getting here at 10
[00:39:58] Like I'm putting in those extra hours and shit like that
[00:40:00] But that doesn't make being late okay
[00:40:02] Being late is being late
[00:40:04] But you know
[00:40:04] I could be better
[00:40:06] And I have been better
[00:40:07] But
[00:40:09] It's giving myself the time to be late and shit
[00:40:11] Cause I hate rushing
[00:40:12] I hate that anxiety
[00:40:13] I hate the like
[00:40:14] You almost got into a car accident
[00:40:16] Because I'm rushing
[00:40:16] It's just not worth it
[00:40:17] Like you were saying
[00:40:19] You cannot make it to wherever you're going
[00:40:21] Mhm
[00:40:21] You cannot make it
[00:40:22] You cannot make it to your goal
[00:40:24] Mhm
[00:40:24] Right? So back to the time thing
[00:40:26] You can get there
[00:40:28] So many people fall short
[00:40:29] Mhm
[00:40:29] Like there's no guarantee that you get what you want
[00:40:31] Mhm
[00:40:32] You know what I mean?
[00:40:33] People become impatient bro
[00:40:35] Yeah
[00:40:35] And you know that's
[00:40:36] That's
[00:40:36] That only affects you though
[00:40:39] Like
[00:40:39] That impatience
[00:40:41] That's true
[00:40:41] And that turmoil
[00:40:42] That's happening internally
[00:40:43] That's true
[00:40:44] Like the rest of the world is moving on its time
[00:40:47] And everything is going on
[00:40:48] That's true
[00:40:49] You know like there are days
[00:40:50] I've lost people
[00:40:51] Like my uncle
[00:40:52] My grandmother
[00:40:53] Grandmothers
[00:40:54] Like so many people
[00:40:56] There's days that I'm fucked up
[00:40:57] Like I'm sad
[00:40:58] I'm the world is bad
[00:40:59] Yeah
[00:41:00] That shit is so scary to me bro
[00:41:02] Yeah
[00:41:02] It's
[00:41:03] It made me think
[00:41:04] You know
[00:41:06] There's conversations I wish I had with like
[00:41:08] My parents
[00:41:09] As a kid
[00:41:10] Where it's like
[00:41:10] Hey like
[00:41:12] Today I'm having a bad day
[00:41:14] Like I'm really sad
[00:41:15] I miss my dad
[00:41:16] But
[00:41:17] You're still gonna eat
[00:41:19] You're still gonna play
[00:41:20] You're still gonna go to school
[00:41:22] I'ma
[00:41:22] I'ma
[00:41:23] Take the time out
[00:41:24] To make sure that
[00:41:25] Your time is not affected
[00:41:27] And you're okay
[00:41:27] And
[00:41:28] But hey like
[00:41:29] Take it easy on me today
[00:41:30] If you can
[00:41:31] Maybe remember to take the chicken out of the freezer
[00:41:34] Cause
[00:41:34] It's
[00:41:35] Yo they kicking my ass outside today
[00:41:37] You know what I mean?
[00:41:38] But um
[00:41:40] That happens
[00:41:41] And it
[00:41:41] Doesn't like stop
[00:41:43] You know
[00:41:43] So you gotta
[00:41:45] Learn how to deal with it I guess
[00:41:47] What are you gonna ask me bro?
[00:41:49] Oh
[00:41:49] I remember
[00:41:50] I was gonna say
[00:41:51] I was gonna ask
[00:41:52] Is there a lesson that y'all think that y'all have taught someone?
[00:41:56] Or something that's
[00:41:57] Is there a lesson that you think
[00:42:00] Or were you a defining person in someone's trajectory?
[00:42:06] I've taught
[00:42:07] It sounds crazy
[00:42:07] But I've taught somebody patience
[00:42:08] Okay
[00:42:09] If you think okay
[00:42:10] Yeah that
[00:42:11] Not in the best of voice
[00:42:13] I've taught them patience
[00:42:14] I would say the same
[00:42:15] I think
[00:42:16] Um
[00:42:19] I don't know how to answer this without sounding cocky
[00:42:22] Or arrogant
[00:42:23] Just answer it
[00:42:25] But I believe so
[00:42:27] I believe I've taught
[00:42:30] Everybody that I've
[00:42:34] Encountered something
[00:42:36] Now I'm not gonna say it's all good
[00:42:37] I'm not gonna say it's all bad
[00:42:39] Cause that's all relative to
[00:42:41] What it
[00:42:43] What they took away from it
[00:42:45] Right?
[00:42:45] But at the same time
[00:42:47] Um
[00:42:50] I'd rather that than
[00:42:52] Them not learn anything
[00:42:53] Yeah
[00:42:54] Like it has to be like a
[00:42:55] A lesson in something
[00:42:56] Yeah
[00:42:57] I'd rather that than them looking at me
[00:42:59] Overall
[00:42:59] Well you
[00:43:00] Our conversation was a waste
[00:43:02] A waste of time
[00:43:03] Yeah so
[00:43:04] Or maybe
[00:43:05] I could still be considered a waste of time
[00:43:07] Because the end result didn't happen
[00:43:09] You know
[00:43:10] It's fair for Elizabeth to say
[00:43:12] She wasted five years of her life
[00:43:14] Mmm
[00:43:14] If her end goal was for us to get married
[00:43:18] And she looks at that
[00:43:19] She don't look at any of the fun we've had
[00:43:22] She just realized
[00:43:23] Like there are certain teams in sports
[00:43:26] Where it's championship or bus
[00:43:29] You don't
[00:43:30] Like the
[00:43:31] I don't think the Warriors look at it
[00:43:32] And say we're the most winningest team
[00:43:34] In NBA history
[00:43:35] Because they blew a 3-1 lead
[00:43:38] At the end
[00:43:39] So it's like
[00:43:40] Who cares about
[00:43:42] 73 and 9
[00:43:43] When we lost
[00:43:45] When we just needed one more
[00:43:47] Yeah
[00:43:47] You know
[00:43:48] So
[00:43:50] What I will say is
[00:43:51] I don't take time to think about that
[00:43:53] And you
[00:43:54] You know
[00:43:55] That used to hold me back
[00:43:56] Because I used to
[00:43:57] Spend so much time
[00:43:59] Trying to make sure
[00:44:00] I'm not the villain
[00:44:01] Or I
[00:44:01] Now I don't care
[00:44:03] I have to find my balance now
[00:44:05] Cause now you don't wanna be in
[00:44:06] You don't wanna be in
[00:44:07] Yeah cause I was always
[00:44:08] Like this
[00:44:09] You know
[00:44:10] Now
[00:44:10] I'm
[00:44:11] I don't wanna be the villain
[00:44:12] So I endorse shit
[00:44:14] Now I don't care
[00:44:16] So I don't endorse shit
[00:44:17] But now I might be the villain
[00:44:19] So now I gotta find like
[00:44:20] You know
[00:44:21] You know
[00:44:22] My best way of managing my time
[00:44:25] And
[00:44:25] And
[00:44:26] Who I spend my time with
[00:44:29] And
[00:44:30] How I
[00:44:31] And I think I'm struggling with that right now
[00:44:33] Cause you know
[00:44:33] Quote on quote the work life balance
[00:44:36] Um
[00:44:37] I don't even know if there's a balance anymore
[00:44:39] We really got one deal
[00:44:41] True
[00:44:42] But it's like
[00:44:43] I keep telling myself
[00:44:45] Yo
[00:44:46] This is going to benefit
[00:44:48] The time
[00:44:51] Coming up
[00:44:53] And um
[00:44:54] I'm optimistic about that
[00:44:56] Like
[00:44:57] This is gonna pay off
[00:44:59] I'm spending my time wisely
[00:45:01] Even if it don't end up with the results
[00:45:04] At least I know the time that I'm dedicating to whoever
[00:45:07] Whatever
[00:45:08] Whenever
[00:45:08] Wherever
[00:45:10] Is
[00:45:10] Truly
[00:45:12] What I want
[00:45:45] Do anybody have
[00:45:47] Yeah
[00:45:47] You don't gotta get to the end result
[00:45:49] But maybe a particular day
[00:45:50] A particular date
[00:45:51] A particular feeling
[00:45:53] That felt euphoric
[00:45:55] I would love
[00:45:56] Feeling
[00:45:56] I feel like that's
[00:45:57] Yeah
[00:45:57] Yeah
[00:45:58] Yeah
[00:45:58] I don't wanna relive
[00:46:01] Like going to a new place
[00:46:02] Yeah
[00:46:03] Yeah
[00:46:04] Like that feeling of you just
[00:46:05] Like the mouth
[00:46:05] That feeling I felt when I first got to my lawn
[00:46:07] I was like
[00:46:08] Yeah
[00:46:09] Yeah
[00:46:10] I want to explore some new shit
[00:46:12] Yeah
[00:46:14] What you think
[00:46:15] Yeah
[00:46:15] I think
[00:46:15] Isn't that like a high?
[00:46:17] Yeah it is
[00:46:17] Like when somebody say like
[00:46:18] Yo
[00:46:19] You'll never have
[00:46:20] Your first high you'll never get it
[00:46:22] Why'd you look at me
[00:46:24] Well
[00:46:25] Well
[00:46:25] Kwanee's not sitting so
[00:46:26] Yo
[00:46:26] Just sitting
[00:46:27] You know
[00:46:28] When you have your
[00:46:29] Your first high
[00:46:32] Um
[00:46:33] I'm pretty sure
[00:46:35] I guess
[00:46:36] That's what people chase
[00:46:37] I don't know
[00:46:38] Niggas be getting high
[00:46:39] That's crazy
[00:46:39] I don't think they chasing
[00:46:40] Huh
[00:46:40] Niggas chasing that dragon
[00:46:43] The main zone
[00:46:45] They chasing a dragon
[00:46:46] Chasing
[00:46:46] It seems like this niggas on meth
[00:46:49] Nah
[00:46:50] I guess that feeling
[00:46:51] Not that feeling
[00:46:51] No you sure
[00:46:53] You sure
[00:46:54] And to answer the question
[00:46:55] There's
[00:46:56] There's a bunch of like
[00:46:57] I have great memories
[00:46:58] There's times with y'all
[00:46:59] I want to relive
[00:47:00] Because we had fun
[00:47:01] And there's times
[00:47:02] I look forward to having
[00:47:02] You know
[00:47:03] So I mean
[00:47:05] It's good memories
[00:47:06] And shit like that
[00:47:07] So
[00:47:08] Reliving that first
[00:47:09] You know
[00:47:10] That first night
[00:47:11] That shit
[00:47:12] Crazy
[00:47:13] First time
[00:47:14] I thought I was about to have a seat
[00:47:15] I forgot this is the freaky bod
[00:47:18] The first time you heard a song
[00:47:20] We had a man saying that wild the whole day
[00:47:22] Right?
[00:47:22] That first note was
[00:47:25] Crazy
[00:47:26] I'm like yo
[00:47:27] What is happening right now?
[00:47:30] Yo I don't know
[00:47:31] I wish they just had the birds and the bees totally bro
[00:47:32] Yo
[00:47:33] What the fuck?
[00:47:34] Yo
[00:47:34] That shit was
[00:47:35] You just woke up wet one day?
[00:47:37] Oh shit
[00:47:37] That shit was disgusting bro
[00:47:40] I was like what came out of me?
[00:47:42] I had a problem
[00:47:43] I became a little addicted
[00:47:47] Don't worry
[00:47:47] Nigga said words
[00:47:49] That shit
[00:47:49] That was wild man
[00:47:50] That shit was like
[00:47:51] That's a high that I chased
[00:47:53] Yo
[00:47:53] Why am I telling you so old bro?
[00:47:55] Bro you a young teen
[00:47:56] You like yo what the fuck is this?
[00:47:58] Yo
[00:47:58] You don't gotta do this
[00:47:59] Oh it's up
[00:48:01] Oh it's up
[00:48:02] You got the free
[00:48:03] It's up bro
[00:48:04] That shit
[00:48:05] Oh disgusting
[00:48:09] That's times
[00:48:10] It's hilarious that niggas even remember that
[00:48:13] Your first night
[00:48:14] That was a pivotal time in your life
[00:48:17] That was life changing
[00:48:19] Yeah
[00:48:19] That was different right?
[00:48:20] That was different
[00:48:20] So you go man now
[00:48:24] Damn
[00:48:24] Good times
[00:48:28] Music
[00:48:28] Yeah
[00:48:29] Man I was mad so I wish I could relive like
[00:48:31] concert
[00:48:31] We're going to certain concerts
[00:48:32] Yeah exactly
[00:48:33] Shit like that
[00:48:35] Yeah like
[00:48:36] People that's
[00:48:37] Wait like
[00:48:38] People that passed
[00:48:39] Certain times you go relive with them
[00:48:41] Yeah
[00:48:41] A bunch of stuff
[00:48:43] Traveling
[00:48:44] I think that speaks to the
[00:48:46] The quality of
[00:48:48] Your life
[00:48:49] And the
[00:48:50] The quality of that time
[00:48:51] You know what I mean?
[00:48:52] If you have quality family
[00:48:53] Friends
[00:48:56] Experiences
[00:48:56] Like there's some shit that you like
[00:48:58] You are reliving them
[00:48:59] When you think about them
[00:49:00] And you get with your friends
[00:49:02] You talk about the same stories
[00:49:03] And the same shit that happened like
[00:49:04] Years ago
[00:49:06] Eighties ago
[00:49:08] That's interesting because
[00:49:10] Sometimes
[00:49:12] I want to stop reliving that
[00:49:14] Cause I'm not there anymore
[00:49:16] Sure
[00:49:16] Yeah
[00:49:17] Sure
[00:49:18] And it's like damn
[00:49:19] That's all we have now
[00:49:20] Yeah
[00:49:21] Yeah yeah well you know
[00:49:22] Yeah
[00:49:22] Right but
[00:49:23] Yes for sure
[00:49:24] Yeah yeah yeah yeah
[00:49:25] There's definitely that
[00:49:25] But there's
[00:49:26] Yo I had great times with y'all
[00:49:28] And I look forward to the
[00:49:29] The next Friendsgiving
[00:49:31] Or Friendsmas
[00:49:32] Or this or that
[00:49:33] Or whatever
[00:49:33] I would relive that
[00:49:34] You know what I mean?
[00:49:36] I would relive that
[00:49:37] I would relive that
[00:49:38] I would relive that
[00:49:39] I would relive that
[00:49:43] You know what I mean?
[00:49:44] He was cooked
[00:49:45] I've seen certain things
[00:49:46] See you might want to relive that
[00:49:48] Yeah
[00:49:48] Yeah what like what?
[00:49:50] That's exactly what
[00:49:50] I definitely
[00:49:51] He did what?
[00:49:52] Now before we get out of there
[00:49:53] I want to ask you one more question
[00:49:54] Does Tom always hail old?
[00:49:55] Does Tom always hail?
[00:49:57] He'll old yeah
[00:49:58] Hail's hard to walk
[00:49:59] I'm sorry
[00:50:00] Yeah
[00:50:01] Hail's hard to walk in
[00:50:01] It makes it easier
[00:50:04] It makes
[00:50:05] It heals most things
[00:50:06] The real difficult things
[00:50:07] It just makes it easier to deal with
[00:50:09] It doesn't
[00:50:10] Yeah
[00:50:10] Depends on how deep the pain
[00:50:12] Or grief or whatever is
[00:50:13] Some like
[00:50:14] That's a part of like getting older
[00:50:16] And understanding Tom too
[00:50:17] Some things just don't go away
[00:50:19] It's like even losing somebody
[00:50:21] It's like yo
[00:50:23] Yeah Tom
[00:50:24] You live with it better
[00:50:25] Yeah that's all
[00:50:26] People always like
[00:50:27] Oh nah you feel
[00:50:27] I think Tom
[00:50:28] You get stronger
[00:50:29] I don't think Tom heals all
[00:50:31] But time helps you understand
[00:50:36] If you give things time
[00:50:39] You'll understand things a little bit better
[00:50:41] You know it's kinda like
[00:50:42] When your parents used to be like
[00:50:45] You'll understand when you get my age
[00:50:47] Yeah
[00:50:48] When you
[00:50:48] And
[00:50:50] If you give yourself time
[00:50:51] And live a little
[00:50:53] And experience things
[00:50:56] Then you
[00:50:57] You'll understand better
[00:50:59] I don't think it heals everything
[00:51:00] But understanding
[00:51:03] And learning
[00:51:04] Is essentially part of the healing
[00:51:07] But
[00:51:08] You know you still may have like the scar to show it
[00:51:11] You know
[00:51:12] So I think
[00:51:13] I think
[00:51:14] That's the real thing
[00:51:15] It may not heal everything
[00:51:17] But you'll understand a little bit better
[00:51:20] For sure
[00:51:21] It's a good note to know
[00:51:22] Yeah
[00:51:23] You already know this
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[00:51:50] Damn, damn, don't you talk about me in the park bro
[00:51:53] Shout out to you bro
[00:51:55] But yeah
[00:51:57] Kwani
[00:51:57] Where can they follow you?
[00:51:59] Wavy In It
[00:51:59] Mmhmm
[00:52:00] Sandir
[00:52:01] Oh Sandir New York
[00:52:02] Mmhmm
[00:52:03] And Dane
[00:52:04] Where can they follow you?
[00:52:06] You can follow me on Instagram
[00:52:08] But I don't
[00:52:09] You're not gonna find me on that
[00:52:10] So
[00:52:11] So you're not gonna tell them?
[00:52:13] We're gonna have to put up
[00:52:13] DBC2 Underscores
[00:52:15] Thank you
[00:52:15] Jesus
[00:52:16] Jesus
[00:52:17] You knew I was done
[00:52:19] Yeah
[00:52:19] I was tricked
[00:52:20] Till next time
[00:52:22] God is good