Episode 280: Out Of My Control

[00:00:00] Oh shit

[00:00:00] Yo, this is the same

[00:00:01] Let's completely cut that whole conversation out of here

[00:00:03] No, no, no, no, the whole eight minutes gone

[00:00:05] Okay, got it, got it

[00:00:06] That's all I'm saying, the shit that we could say on this pod

[00:00:09] This pod of gold, gold places bro

[00:00:11] Gold in a week

[00:00:15] Gold in a week

[00:00:18] This is What's A Good Guy, this is part two of the episode at this point

[00:00:22] You already know what it is motherfuckers, this is Dom Peasley

[00:00:24] Alongside of LaShawn

[00:00:25] We have a beautiful day here in Harlem

[00:00:29] It's great to be here

[00:00:30] It's all at different boroughs

[00:00:31] Yeah, we outside

[00:00:33] When are we gonna be overseas?

[00:00:34] Boy, I'm trying to go to London

[00:00:35] Why are we in Paris?

[00:00:37] Ask LA for a pass or something

[00:00:38] You know they gave us two spirit passes because of the shit that happened?

[00:00:44] Spirit passes?

[00:00:45] Not Spirit Airlines

[00:00:46] So basically what it is

[00:00:48] Free ticket

[00:00:49] Is a free ticket because of the outage that happened

[00:00:53] Our CEO thought it was best to give us free tickets on

[00:00:56] You got to need a raise

[00:00:57] I ain't gonna ask you on camera

[00:00:58] No you gotta ask me on camera

[00:00:59] No I'm gonna text you later

[00:01:01] No

[00:01:01] To anywhere?

[00:01:02] To anywhere that we fly

[00:01:03] Is there an expiration date?

[00:01:05] Can I come with you?

[00:01:07] That's what we got

[00:01:08] Chill out

[00:01:09] Chill out

[00:01:10] Chill out

[00:01:10] I looked at him

[00:01:11] He started smirking it was over, Marlon

[00:01:13] He's already there

[00:01:16] He's already there

[00:01:16] Yo!

[00:01:17] You know what's funny?

[00:01:20] You seen

[00:01:22] There's this new graphic of like all the sperm swimming in one direction and one nigga in the other direction

[00:01:30] Somebody was like

[00:01:31] Yo what do you think he said that everybody's about fiends?

[00:01:35] Somebody said yo we the nigga asshole

[00:01:40] Yo bro

[00:01:41] Oh nah

[00:01:43] Yo

[00:01:44] Yo

[00:01:45] Nah what?

[00:01:46] Son

[00:01:46] Nah I just need a flight bro

[00:01:48] Shout out to Joe

[00:01:49] Shout out to Quanee

[00:01:50] Shout out to Skrillz

[00:01:51] He's currently taking care of his family right now

[00:01:53] So shout out to him

[00:01:55] LA what's going on with your brother?

[00:01:56] Yo Skrillz fucking

[00:01:58] We told Skrillz to come through at 9 o'clock

[00:02:01] We called him at 1 o'clock

[00:02:03] This nigga now waking up

[00:02:05] Hello

[00:02:06] Hello

[00:02:07] Nigga said nah niggas waiting for you this whole time

[00:02:09] You're not even here yet

[00:02:10] I'm on my way

[00:02:11] I'm on my way

[00:02:11] Nigga sleeping yo

[00:02:13] Yo I'm on my way

[00:02:15] Yo I'm on my way

[00:02:15] I should call him right now

[00:02:17] Live on the pod and be like

[00:02:18] Yo bro you let me down

[00:02:19] This is the third time you wasted our time

[00:02:21] The third time is tough

[00:02:23] I don't know if we should

[00:02:24] I don't know if we should keep you know doing this podcast thing

[00:02:28] What's just kind of your idea for bringing this back and every time you know we try to rely on you

[00:02:33] You kind of let us down

[00:02:34] I ain't gonna fright that nigga was already trying to cry

[00:02:38] Damn I'm so sorry man

[00:02:40] That's bad manipulative

[00:02:41] You know people are like yo why don't you in LA

[00:02:44] Why don't you guys do like a live thing

[00:02:47] Not a live show it's more of like a

[00:02:49] People like I want to call in

[00:02:50] I'm like it's not Hot 97 though

[00:02:53] It's not that

[00:02:56] It's not that

[00:02:58] Nah that would be dope

[00:02:59] I just don't think we have the facilities for that big money

[00:03:02] Yeah so

[00:03:04] When that money come in from

[00:03:05] That would happen

[00:03:06] What's going on with you?

[00:03:08] Nothing much

[00:03:09] We was talking about my job earlier about

[00:03:13] You know the

[00:03:14] There was a

[00:03:15] There was an IT outage

[00:03:18] Microsoft?

[00:03:19] Yeah the Microsoft outage that kind of affected everyone

[00:03:23] And you know the bulk of the blame went to the airlines obviously

[00:03:27] Right?

[00:03:28] But in real life I can't imagine being a hospital and all the systems that were supposed to be

[00:03:34] You know I think the airlines was the premium scapegoat for the IT outage

[00:03:43] And in the midst of that you know as a worker being a part of that being in the midst of that you kinda

[00:03:54] There was a moment of like damn what is next right now?

[00:03:58] Like what is happening?

[00:04:00] You know I got lost in the system

[00:04:04] My

[00:04:04] The company that I worked for couldn't find me couldn't locate me

[00:04:09] So that was a little bit

[00:04:14] Troublesome

[00:04:14] I remember you again you was MSP?

[00:04:16] I was in Minneapolis

[00:04:18] Make no jokes, don't make no jokes right now

[00:04:19] Yeah I won't do that to you

[00:04:21] I was in Minneapolis

[00:04:23] And then I'm gonna tell you a story

[00:04:25] I was in Minneapolis for like a couple of hours till they found me

[00:04:30] Yo stop saying it like that

[00:04:32] No bro, no no no bro

[00:04:33] All jokes aside

[00:04:35] They did not know where we were

[00:04:37] Like mad people

[00:04:38] Pilots and flight attendants were lost across the system

[00:04:41] Because they have this tracking system where they can locate where you are

[00:04:48] And kinda help you

[00:04:49] But with the system, the computers being down

[00:04:54] They don't know where Kojo is

[00:04:57] Last thing they know is Kojo worked a flight from JFK to wherever

[00:05:03] Is Kojo still at the airport?

[00:05:05] Did Kojo say F this shit?

[00:05:08] And take the Greyhound home?

[00:05:10] The Greyhound is crazy

[00:05:12] My man, my man a day was in Atlanta

[00:05:14] They lost him

[00:05:16] He was supposed to get home

[00:05:18] His two day turned into a five day

[00:05:19] Shit, I know he's out there having some time

[00:05:21] Nah, that day is a while boy

[00:05:23] Shouts to the day, I love you K

[00:05:26] But for me it was like

[00:05:28] They sent us, alright this is how tricky it got

[00:05:33] They sent us to a hotel outside of the city

[00:05:36] We get to the hotel

[00:05:38] And we was just there for the night

[00:05:40] We were supposed to work a trip

[00:05:44] Ironically to DC

[00:05:45] We was gonna go to Minneapolis to DC

[00:05:47] Then we were supposed to work DC to LA

[00:05:49] Can you imagine I got lost in DC?

[00:05:51] Baby please, nah let me stop

[00:05:55] Oh!

[00:05:56] I gotta talk about that

[00:05:57] Off the pod though

[00:06:00] Another dream?

[00:06:00] Nah, another dream

[00:06:02] I can talk about

[00:06:03] I'll incorporate that into this episode

[00:06:07] So, I was supposed to work

[00:06:09] Minneapolis to DC

[00:06:10] DC to LA

[00:06:12] My Minneapolis to DC cancelled

[00:06:15] Right?

[00:06:18] So, with them trying to figure out

[00:06:20] Everything that's going on

[00:06:23] They didn't notice

[00:06:24] The flight cancelled

[00:06:26] But they didn't notify the crew

[00:06:28] What's up everybody?

[00:06:29] So we just looked it up like

[00:06:30] But we all knew what was going on

[00:06:33] And usually I don't do this

[00:06:34] I don't exchange numbers with my crew

[00:06:38] Whatever y'all find

[00:06:39] Once we're done working, we done working

[00:06:42] Talking about your work phone though

[00:06:43] Nah, I don't even do that

[00:06:44] I don't

[00:06:45] I'm really not the friendliest

[00:06:49] Social butterfly

[00:06:50] Right?

[00:06:51] But I knew in this situation

[00:06:53] We all we got

[00:06:54] So for the next

[00:06:55] How many days we stuck here?

[00:06:58] You sis

[00:06:58] What's up, sir?

[00:06:59] Yeah

[00:06:59] Hey sis

[00:07:00] Facts

[00:07:02] So

[00:07:05] We all in the group chat

[00:07:06] The flight cancelled

[00:07:07] We noticed the flight cancelled

[00:07:08] Because that was one of the things

[00:07:10] That we had to pay attention to

[00:07:11] Was our flights

[00:07:12] The shit was cancelling

[00:07:14] Left and right

[00:07:16] And we don't want to leave the hotel

[00:07:19] Go to the airport

[00:07:20] It cancelled

[00:07:21] And we got to wait five hours again

[00:07:24] For them to find us

[00:07:25] So cool

[00:07:25] We all said we staying in the hotel

[00:07:28] But here's the situation

[00:07:30] Anytime an adjustment happens

[00:07:33] The airline notifies the hotel

[00:07:36] Like hey

[00:07:37] Don, Cojo, Kwani

[00:07:39] And LaShawn

[00:07:40] Their stay is extended

[00:07:42] Because their flight is cancelled

[00:07:44] But with the mayhem going on

[00:07:47] They never notified the hotel

[00:07:50] That our flight was cancelled

[00:07:52] So they tried to kick you out

[00:07:53] They just tried to kick us out

[00:07:54] What?

[00:07:55] They just tried to kick us out

[00:07:56] Cause now they thinking

[00:07:57] That we overstand

[00:07:59] You know what I'm saying?

[00:08:00] So me

[00:08:01] I say yo

[00:08:02] Don't leave y'all rooms

[00:08:03] Just don't leave y'all rooms

[00:08:05] Put the boat on

[00:08:05] Don't leave y'all rooms

[00:08:06] If they call

[00:08:08] If they call the authorities

[00:08:09] They call the authorities

[00:08:10] We let the authorities know

[00:08:11] What's going on

[00:08:12] They...

[00:08:13] I'm pretty sure they're mindful enough

[00:08:14] Right?

[00:08:15] Cool, so boom

[00:08:17] One of the members of the crew

[00:08:20] Was already out they room

[00:08:22] But they turned off a key card

[00:08:24] So she couldn't go back in her room

[00:08:27] And we couldn't get in contact with anybody

[00:08:29] To let them know

[00:08:30] Like yo, let this hotel know

[00:08:32] That hey, we're a part of this crew

[00:08:34] I flight cancelled

[00:08:35] We're waiting for y'all to tell us what to do

[00:08:38] So

[00:08:39] The whole time me and this

[00:08:41] And...

[00:08:42] She came back to your room?

[00:08:46] Questions I needed

[00:08:47] You know what's crazy?

[00:08:48] Nothing in my mind even offered

[00:08:51] To...

[00:08:52] You can hang your hand though

[00:08:53] There's two other girls

[00:08:54] I was the only male in the crew

[00:08:58] Nah yeah, you can't hang your hand

[00:09:00] It's a party

[00:09:00] You can't hang your hand

[00:09:03] But...

[00:09:03] So...

[00:09:04] Nah, it's none of that

[00:09:05] I know you couldn't have been said

[00:09:06] You know what's crazy too?

[00:09:08] None of our rooms had microwaves

[00:09:09] So we in this room for X amount of hours

[00:09:13] No food

[00:09:13] We can't leave

[00:09:14] Cause if we leave

[00:09:15] We are trapped

[00:09:15] We trapped here

[00:09:19] So eventually they found us again

[00:09:23] Gave us a flight to go home

[00:09:25] They was gonna deadhead us home

[00:09:27] Deadhead means that they fly us back

[00:09:30] As customers

[00:09:31] Or passengers

[00:09:32] But we still could get pulled to work at any moment

[00:09:36] So you could never get too comfortable on a deadhead

[00:09:38] Because they could be like

[00:09:39] Yo...

[00:09:41] LA you the youngest on the crew

[00:09:42] Not in age but in seniority

[00:09:44] You gotta work it

[00:09:46] Cool, so you always mentally gotta be prepared to work

[00:09:50] We'll see you in circumstances

[00:09:51] Right, so...

[00:09:54] Yeah, so they was gonna deadhead us home

[00:09:57] And...

[00:10:00] That changed

[00:10:01] They was like, yo...

[00:10:03] Y'all gotta work

[00:10:04] A Minneapolis to San Antonio, Texas flight

[00:10:08] I'm like...

[00:10:09] In my mind I'm like, yo...

[00:10:11] We was about to go home

[00:10:12] I don't wanna do this

[00:10:13] You know what I'm saying?

[00:10:14] I don't wanna do this

[00:10:15] I wanna go home

[00:10:16] I'm already off the next day

[00:10:17] Me working this flight

[00:10:19] Is gonna make me have to fly home on my off day

[00:10:24] So it's not really an off day

[00:10:25] Well you get there what time?

[00:10:26] Like 7, 8 in the morning?

[00:10:27] 6 PM

[00:10:28] Oh fuck that

[00:10:30] 6 PM

[00:10:30] And I gotta go to work on Monday?

[00:10:32] Nah, that was a Wednesday

[00:10:34] I had to go to work Thursday

[00:10:35] Oh

[00:10:35] Wednesday was my off day

[00:10:38] So...

[00:10:39] Damn

[00:10:40] So...

[00:10:42] But at that point

[00:10:43] You got no choice

[00:10:44] Cause you ain't really in a battle

[00:10:45] To argue with the airline

[00:10:47] Cause once you tell them you're not gonna work

[00:10:48] Alright, you find your way home

[00:10:49] Flights canceling left and right

[00:10:50] Technically you are my way home

[00:10:52] So I gotta do this to get home

[00:10:55] So...

[00:10:55] That's what we ended up doing

[00:10:57] We ended up working the

[00:10:58] Minneapolis to San Antonio flight

[00:11:01] Thankfully that flight was so late at night

[00:11:03] And it was so turbulent

[00:11:05] That we didn't really get to do service anyway

[00:11:07] Sounds like a good time to me

[00:11:10] Yeah, I'm a fan of that

[00:11:13] So...

[00:11:15] So then we ended up going home the next day

[00:11:18] They dead headed us home

[00:11:20] To JFK

[00:11:23] But we started our trip in LaGuardia

[00:11:26] My car's in LaGuardia

[00:11:28] So I had to go from JFK

[00:11:30] I didn't even know JFK got this new location for Ubers

[00:11:32] So it's not at the regular pickup

[00:11:35] You gotta take one of these buses

[00:11:36] That take you to an off site

[00:11:38] And then you gotta call your cab from there

[00:11:41] Bro...

[00:11:42] When I got home

[00:11:44] And I said to...

[00:11:46] I said to myself like, yo...

[00:11:49] Listen, I did a good job controlling what I could control

[00:11:54] Because...

[00:11:55] That situation in itself was like...

[00:12:00] I've been with my job for now nine years

[00:12:03] And we've been through some situations

[00:12:08] We got hacked one summer

[00:12:10] We had a blackout another year

[00:12:14] It feel like every other year

[00:12:15] If we have a good successful summer

[00:12:18] Next summer bound to be some bullshit

[00:12:20] It just seems like that's what's always happening to us

[00:12:23] But...

[00:12:25] You know, we controlled what we could control

[00:12:28] A lot of people was upset

[00:12:31] You know, and that's one of the things being

[00:12:33] In customer service

[00:12:35] Especially in the airline industry

[00:12:36] A lot of people get mad at you

[00:12:39] For...

[00:12:40] A lot of people project their frustrations onto you

[00:12:43] Because you quote unquote

[00:12:45] Represent the brand

[00:12:48] And...

[00:12:49] That's kinda why I like working on the ramp

[00:12:51] Because bags don't talk back

[00:12:52] I think that's the one thing I dislike about that job the most

[00:12:56] Like customers blame me for their own issues

[00:12:59] Like yo bro, it's not my fault that you

[00:13:02] That you got here late

[00:13:03] Oh, you have to let me on the flight?

[00:13:05] I don't have to let you do anything

[00:13:06] One of the...

[00:13:08] When I was a regular agent

[00:13:10] Two things that I hated

[00:13:11] That we got blamed for

[00:13:14] Mother Nature

[00:13:14] Bad weather

[00:13:16] And TSA

[00:13:17] TSA lines

[00:13:18] Two separate entities bro

[00:13:20] There's a reason why the airlines tell you

[00:13:22] Please come two hours before your flight

[00:13:23] And plus if you have to check in the bag

[00:13:25] Oh I'm here

[00:13:26] I got 30 minutes left

[00:13:27] Then you got...

[00:13:27] Your bag has to be here an hour before

[00:13:29] You know what I'm saying?

[00:13:30] These rules

[00:13:31] If you go in domestic

[00:13:32] I think it's what?

[00:13:33] 45 minutes?

[00:13:34] 45 minutes, yup

[00:13:34] There are rules implemented for a reason

[00:13:38] I'm only walking you through TSA if you're a baddie

[00:13:41] That's a fact

[00:13:41] And they stop people doing from doing that

[00:13:44] War? You can't do it no more?

[00:13:44] Yeah, you can't escort nobody no more

[00:13:46] Cause they noticed that the niggas was escorting the baddies

[00:13:50] Why you so sweet?

[00:13:51] Ain't nothing but that

[00:13:51] You know sweetheart

[00:13:53] Oh

[00:13:56] But nah

[00:13:58] But yeah, that's kind of one of the two things

[00:14:00] But you understand like

[00:14:03] Everybody going through their bullshit

[00:14:04] You know what I'm saying?

[00:14:05] And

[00:14:07] Crews are tired

[00:14:08] Cause there was at one point

[00:14:10] It was at one point that

[00:14:12] We're technically legally allowed to work 15 hours

[00:14:17] And we were close

[00:14:19] We was at the 14th hour and 55 minute

[00:14:23] And I already told niggas like

[00:14:24] Yo, once I time out, I time it out

[00:14:27] I do not work past it

[00:14:29] I do not work past it

[00:14:30] You getting paid for it?

[00:14:32] They do

[00:14:32] I think they do give you it

[00:14:34] But yo, I take my rest

[00:14:35] No, it's not worth it

[00:14:36] I can't go

[00:14:39] I honestly think us flying

[00:14:41] Or having a 15 hour day is extreme

[00:14:44] Like that's ridiculous

[00:14:46] But that's no here no there

[00:14:47] When do you get sick of that boy?

[00:14:49] Like get to rest for real?

[00:14:50] When y'all stop?

[00:14:51] Nah, so technically

[00:14:52] Our rest in those situations

[00:14:56] Start when they give us our key card

[00:14:59] Once you get your keys

[00:15:00] That's when your rest officially starts

[00:15:03] But um

[00:15:04] Son, sometimes you so drained

[00:15:06] You don't even

[00:15:07] It's more than just going to sleep

[00:15:09] You gotta wake up and

[00:15:11] You walking into knowing

[00:15:12] Yo, you have no idea what this day is gonna bring

[00:15:15] And with that mindset

[00:15:17] You just understand

[00:15:19] What's in your control

[00:15:20] And what's not in your control

[00:15:22] Besides your emotions

[00:15:25] What else were you able to control?

[00:15:29] Or was that the most important thing?

[00:15:30] That's probably the only thing I could control

[00:15:32] How I react

[00:15:34] And how'd you feel about that?

[00:15:35] It was cool

[00:15:36] Cause it was like yo

[00:15:38] It's gone

[00:15:38] You like to control things

[00:15:41] Do I?

[00:15:42] I don't think so

[00:15:42] I think I let go of control a lot

[00:15:44] In my last

[00:15:45] Yeah, you learned to let go now

[00:15:48] I'm not as

[00:15:49] I can control what I can control

[00:15:51] I think I let go of the things that I can't control

[00:15:55] Like being in this service

[00:15:57] And being in

[00:15:57] Understanding you

[00:15:59] Yo, you can't control how other people act

[00:16:01] People gonna act how they wanna act

[00:16:04] It's up to you

[00:16:05] What I can control is how I react to said thing

[00:16:09] Your response?

[00:16:10] Yeah, my response

[00:16:11] So that, so

[00:16:12] You know, I don't tolerate the disrespect

[00:16:17] I understand you frustrated

[00:16:18] We all frustrated

[00:16:19] You wanna go home too

[00:16:22] I wanna go home too

[00:16:23] You don't think I'm stuck here with you?

[00:16:24] Stuck here

[00:16:25] You think I wanna be in the middle of San Antonio, Texas?

[00:16:28] I feel the same way as Charles Barkley

[00:16:34] You feel me?

[00:16:35] So, I don't wanna be here neither

[00:16:37] I wanna go home

[00:16:38] I'm supposed to be here yesterday

[00:16:40] You know what I'm saying?

[00:16:41] And people, people gotta understand

[00:16:43] The way you talk to like certain flight attendants

[00:16:45] Or certain pilots

[00:16:47] In certain cities

[00:16:48] You gotta be mindful of what city

[00:16:51] You talking to somebody crazy in

[00:16:55] Because

[00:16:57] If I say

[00:16:58] If you talking to me

[00:16:59] In like a city

[00:17:00] That does not have a base

[00:17:02] That's not a base for that particular airline

[00:17:04] You at the mercy of that flight attendant

[00:17:07] Because if I call out sick

[00:17:08] Right now this flight cancels

[00:17:10] Or they're gonna delay it

[00:17:12] Until they find another flight attendant

[00:17:14] To bring into the city

[00:17:15] Damn!

[00:17:17] So what would you do?

[00:17:18] You'd have to dead head into that city?

[00:17:19] Right

[00:17:19] So say

[00:17:21] Damn!

[00:17:22] Say for example

[00:17:24] Because safety first, right?

[00:17:26] If I feel unsafe with this passenger on this flight

[00:17:29] And y'all choose to elect him over me

[00:17:32] I'm getting off this flight

[00:17:33] I'm not working here

[00:17:34] I don't feel safe

[00:17:36] Who are you to question my safety?

[00:17:38] Right?

[00:17:39] Cool!

[00:17:39] Now I'm off

[00:17:41] So say we in an off city like

[00:17:42] Wichita

[00:17:44] Right?

[00:17:45] Somehow we in Wichita

[00:17:47] They gotta find the closest base

[00:17:50] Which may be Atlanta

[00:17:52] And then dead head somebody from Atlanta

[00:17:54] To Wichita

[00:17:55] To work that flight

[00:17:58] However long that is

[00:18:00] Yeah, everybody gotta wait for that shit

[00:18:01] Because of your dumb ass

[00:18:03] I ain't afraid of hopping him after that shit

[00:18:05] Imagine being stuck in Spokane, Washington

[00:18:07] I'd be fucking heated

[00:18:09] They would have to dead head somebody from Seattle

[00:18:11] I'd be

[00:18:12] Spokane catch a straight ass

[00:18:14] Bro, cause who the fuck is lying to Spokane, Washington bro?

[00:18:17] So yeah, so that

[00:18:20] That really taught me

[00:18:22] That has helped me a lot

[00:18:26] Navigate through life

[00:18:27] Understanding what I can control

[00:18:29] And what I can't

[00:18:30] I'm more in the space of letting things go

[00:18:33] Not letting it go

[00:18:34] But just letting God just take control

[00:18:36] Cause it's like bro, sometimes you can't do shit

[00:18:39] Sometimes you can't do shit

[00:18:40] And then the stress of

[00:18:41] Oh I wanna control this

[00:18:42] It's not worth it

[00:18:44] I've been trying to control my days

[00:18:47] And then I realized that

[00:18:50] What humbled you to

[00:18:51] I saw something that said

[00:18:52] When I got my phone back

[00:18:53] I was

[00:18:54] I had three days to catch up

[00:18:56] It's something as simple as

[00:18:58] A couple weeks ago

[00:19:00] I'm thinking that we gonna go to the park

[00:19:02] And it's gonna be this lit ass night

[00:19:04] And you know, I'm making sure that

[00:19:06] All these things that need to be in place

[00:19:07] Are in place

[00:19:08] And God says, nah, it's gonna rain tonight

[00:19:10] And y'all not doing none of this tonight

[00:19:12] And you have to be okay with that

[00:19:14] Instead of being like

[00:19:16] Realize like, damn

[00:19:18] That's important

[00:19:19] How

[00:19:21] Like that was gonna be a big moment for us

[00:19:23] And

[00:19:24] Same when we were talking about?

[00:19:25] Yeah, like it was gonna be a huge moment

[00:19:27] The park was gonna be lit

[00:19:28] Niggas was gonna talk about it for the rest of the summer

[00:19:31] Yo, remember what happened that night at Dykeman?

[00:19:33] That's the moment we all wanted

[00:19:34] We've been waiting for it

[00:19:35] We've been waiting to hit the button

[00:19:36] God was like, nah

[00:19:37] At least not now

[00:19:38] How do you

[00:19:39] How do you

[00:19:41] Work on your level of acceptance

[00:19:44] On things that you want to happen

[00:19:46] Or wanted to happen

[00:19:47] And it can't happen for whatever reason

[00:19:51] How you

[00:19:52] How do you learn to accept those things?

[00:19:57] I think it's the belief that something better is over

[00:19:59] Over the hill

[00:20:01] Just being patient

[00:20:03] Optimistic, being optimistic

[00:20:04] Forever optimistic

[00:20:06] I'm forever optimistic about everything

[00:20:10] Which is why when

[00:20:12] When things that are not in my control

[00:20:15] That

[00:20:17] Happen

[00:20:18] I'm more so thinking like

[00:20:19] Yo, whenever I'm able to like

[00:20:21] Control something

[00:20:22] I'm gonna be able to

[00:20:23] Stare back into it

[00:20:24] You know, you know, you know, it's crazy

[00:20:26] I'll focus on you, Joe

[00:20:27] You know, it's crazy

[00:20:28] I was having a conversation with a friend of mine

[00:20:31] They just moved back to New York

[00:20:34] They thought they found an apartment

[00:20:36] They staying with their parents right now

[00:20:38] And it's like, yo, I thought I found this apartment

[00:20:40] But come to find out

[00:20:41] They trying to charge me 8k to move in

[00:20:43] All this other stuff

[00:20:44] I can't find a good apartment

[00:20:45] That shit is tough

[00:20:46] I feel like I'm just stuck

[00:20:47] I'm stuck

[00:20:47] I feel like I'm stagnant

[00:20:48] I'm like, how long you been here?

[00:20:49] I've been back for a month

[00:20:50] I said, yo, bro, patient, man

[00:20:52] You just got here, bro

[00:20:53] You just got here, bro

[00:20:54] It's tough telling somebody who's patient

[00:20:56] When you feel like time slipping

[00:20:57] Yeah, yeah

[00:20:58] Tom is like

[00:20:58] But it's understandable

[00:20:59] But it's like, yo, bro, you gotta be

[00:21:00] You

[00:21:01] Did that person weigh the pros and the cons of their current situation?

[00:21:05] I think it's just

[00:21:06] Under their parents

[00:21:07] I think that right there is the biggest

[00:21:09] That's the biggest

[00:21:10] That's the biggest con, bro

[00:21:12] Like, I don't

[00:21:12] Your parents might not be charging you

[00:21:14] So you live free now?

[00:21:15] Yeah

[00:21:15] Yeah, but that's a cool pro

[00:21:17] But it's just like

[00:21:19] If you have the opportunity to not live there

[00:21:21] It's like, alright, cool

[00:21:22] I don't know

[00:21:22] But right now it's like

[00:21:25] This is New York, bro

[00:21:26] You're gonna get hit over the head with a fucking crazy price

[00:21:29] Right

[00:21:29] What I will say for that

[00:21:30] For that

[00:21:31] The best way to avoid paying so much up front

[00:21:36] I used to find my spot

[00:21:38] I used Street Easy

[00:21:39] And Street

[00:21:40] You could just take it

[00:21:41] You could click

[00:21:43] No

[00:21:44] What is it called?

[00:21:45] Brokers fee

[00:21:46] No broker's fee

[00:21:48] And that saved me a lot of money

[00:21:49] Cause some of the

[00:21:50] You know, I found this

[00:21:51] I have found this beautiful spot

[00:21:53] Fire

[00:21:53] It's always fire

[00:21:53] Right across the street from LA Fitness

[00:21:57] What's up with you?

[00:21:58] When we work out

[00:22:00] Yeah, beautiful spot, bro

[00:22:02] Like I could literally

[00:22:03] It's on the

[00:22:04] Literally on the other side

[00:22:06] Of where the movie theater was

[00:22:07] What?

[00:22:09] Yo, I'm telling you

[00:22:10] Two bedroom

[00:22:12] Two bedroom

[00:22:14] Parking

[00:22:14] Everything

[00:22:15] And that's not that far from work either

[00:22:17] Son

[00:22:18] Damn

[00:22:19] Son

[00:22:19] That's down the fucking block

[00:22:21] Ten minutes, bro

[00:22:22] Damn

[00:22:23] Nigga broker fee was insane, Don

[00:22:26] First and last

[00:22:27] First, last in security

[00:22:30] God damn, nigga

[00:22:32] Nigga, what the fuck?

[00:22:33] You paying damn near 10k to move in?

[00:22:34] Yeah, facts

[00:22:36] I was like, nah, I'm good, bro

[00:22:38] And then when I told him I'm going somewhere else

[00:22:39] He was trying to figure out like

[00:22:41] Oh, what they offering

[00:22:43] I say, yo, they don't even have a broker's fee

[00:22:45] Like, where I'm at

[00:22:47] I just had to pay

[00:22:48] First in security

[00:22:50] That's it

[00:22:52] The things that's out of my control

[00:22:54] Is like the unpredictability of life, right?

[00:22:59] Like what happened at work?

[00:23:02] I couldn't...

[00:23:02] Who would have known that

[00:23:05] Microsoft would have chose

[00:23:06] A bright Friday morning to hit the update button

[00:23:10] Was that Friday?

[00:23:10] Yeah, it was

[00:23:11] I think it was a Friday

[00:23:12] It was either Friday or Thursday

[00:23:13] Cause I know

[00:23:14] You're on track of the days

[00:23:14] I was lost in the days

[00:23:17] I was lost in the days

[00:23:18] I just

[00:23:19] You gotta understand this like

[00:23:21] I don't wanna be dramatic

[00:23:23] But at least niggas in jail knew when they were getting home

[00:23:27] Even if they got like

[00:23:28] They either knew when they were getting home or knew

[00:23:30] I was never coming home

[00:23:31] You said my homie on the countdown

[00:23:32] Yeah, me?

[00:23:33] I was coming home soon

[00:23:35] I did not know when I was coming home

[00:23:37] I did not know when I was coming home, bro

[00:23:38] That was a weird time in life, you know?

[00:23:41] Another thing that we

[00:23:42] We kinda let control us is the past

[00:23:48] And that's kinda how

[00:23:50] Oh, great shit

[00:23:51] Uh huh

[00:23:52] That's true

[00:23:54] One of the things

[00:23:55] You was talking about

[00:23:56] Is your level of acceptance

[00:23:57] There's certain things that I

[00:23:58] I have a hard time accepting

[00:24:01] And I think it's because my mom

[00:24:02] Played tricks on me, bro

[00:24:04] Like a lot

[00:24:05] Like my mind tells me a lot of things

[00:24:08] That I know I should not be

[00:24:10] Considering or

[00:24:11] You know how like the last episode

[00:24:13] Or a couple episodes

[00:24:14] We were talking about

[00:24:15] I think it was 0 to 100

[00:24:16] We were talking about that 1%

[00:24:17] That 1% holds so much weight

[00:24:20] In my mind sometimes

[00:24:21] Like it's heavier than me going to 100

[00:24:22] So like for example

[00:24:23] Y'all gonna laugh

[00:24:25] You know how I say I feel like

[00:24:26] I'm losing the breakup

[00:24:27] I lost the breakup or whatever

[00:24:31] Uh huh

[00:24:32] I wish Instagram had a strong

[00:24:34] Mute button

[00:24:37] Because technically you can't

[00:24:38] Mute somebody if you don't follow them

[00:24:40] On IG

[00:24:41] But on Twitter you can

[00:24:43] So

[00:24:45] I'm on the Explore page

[00:24:46] My Explore page is really

[00:24:48] Exquisite

[00:24:49] I like my Explore page

[00:24:50] And not because there's baddies on it

[00:24:52] Cause it's not

[00:24:52] It's aesthetically pleasing

[00:24:53] It's just aesthetically pleasing

[00:24:54] It literally fits all the things

[00:24:56] That I'm into

[00:24:56] Jim

[00:24:57] Baddies

[00:24:58] Nah, nah

[00:24:59] Yo bro I promise you there's probably

[00:25:01] You gotta show me bro

[00:25:02] It's alright if you got a little porn

[00:25:02] It's alright

[00:25:03] Nah there's no

[00:25:03] There's no porn on IG

[00:25:06] Y'all got porn on IG?

[00:25:07] Oh I about to say put me on

[00:25:12] But um

[00:25:13] But yeah bro

[00:25:14] Is

[00:25:15] Jim

[00:25:16] Clothes

[00:25:16] And

[00:25:19] Food stuff

[00:25:20] Yeah

[00:25:20] Digestive stuff

[00:25:21] Jim clothes, food and like

[00:25:22] Paints and like

[00:25:23] Room paints and shit like that

[00:25:25] So, but

[00:25:27] I don't know what happened

[00:25:30] Y'all mans ended up on my Explore page

[00:25:33] So I'm like damn

[00:25:36] My mind says don't

[00:25:37] Don't click it

[00:25:38] Don't click it

[00:25:39] Fuck it I'm stuck

[00:25:40] Let me click it

[00:25:41] I scroll

[00:25:44] I'm like

[00:25:45] I'm like

[00:25:47] So I'm seeing the dump

[00:25:49] You went through it and they went through the 9 to 10 slides of whatever the problem is to this

[00:25:53] One of the slides, right?

[00:25:57] Congratulations

[00:25:59] You got a new spot

[00:26:00] You got a new spot

[00:26:00] But it had like on the countertop the flowers up on

[00:26:04] And that's where the 1% was like oh you got hope

[00:26:07] No, no, no, no, no, yeah

[00:26:09] Yeah, he trying to trick yourself

[00:26:10] Don't trick yourself, yeah

[00:26:11] So that's why I'm like yo your level of acceptance, right?

[00:26:15] Cause I'm like

[00:26:16] I had to make sure I'm like

[00:26:18] Those look mad familiar

[00:26:20] I'm like oh wow

[00:26:22] I would think me

[00:26:24] I would think

[00:26:25] Oh you dumped everything

[00:26:27] Throw it out, you know what I'm saying?

[00:26:30] But

[00:26:31] I had to accept

[00:26:33] Yo, nah

[00:26:36] This is done bro

[00:26:37] Let it go

[00:26:38] You in a good

[00:26:39] One piece of hope

[00:26:40] You got you in a good space

[00:26:42] And that's another thing like

[00:26:44] Out of my control

[00:26:46] I gotta stop comparing

[00:26:47] Because there was one point

[00:26:49] Like I even said that

[00:26:50] I'm like yo damn I'm losing the breakup

[00:26:52] I'm like yo bro you got your own spot too now

[00:26:54] Like what do you really do?

[00:26:56] Like I gotta talk myself

[00:26:57] I really gotta sit myself down

[00:27:00] You talk yourself off the cliff sometimes

[00:27:02] OD

[00:27:03] You be ready to crash out

[00:27:05] Like nah, nah, nah, nope, nope, nope

[00:27:08] And crash out can all mean different things

[00:27:11] Yeah, it mean different things

[00:27:11] But like yeah, like mentally crash out

[00:27:13] Like yo bro like

[00:27:15] Do not fall for that bro

[00:27:16] You psyching yourself out

[00:27:17] That's just something

[00:27:19] That's on her table

[00:27:21] That ain't not even be the one you got

[00:27:23] She probably threw that out and replaced it

[00:27:25] She like how that arrangement looked

[00:27:28] So

[00:27:28] So

[00:27:29] It was the triple digit joints?

[00:27:31] Yes

[00:27:31] I ain't throwing them out

[00:27:33] Coming with me to the spot, no you're

[00:27:35] Crazy

[00:27:37] Oh, but yeah, yeah, yeah

[00:27:39] So I was looking at that

[00:27:41] I was like damn like

[00:27:43] What that mean?

[00:27:44] Bro, what that mean is

[00:27:46] It's a countertop display

[00:27:48] That's it, let it go bro

[00:27:49] So the pass

[00:27:51] That's one thing I know that's not

[00:27:53] That I don't have control of

[00:27:55] And you know, sometimes you feel like

[00:27:57] If I had another chance to rewrite history

[00:27:59] And this, that and the third

[00:28:01] I would do this

[00:28:01] But you waste so much time

[00:28:04] Pondering what you could do

[00:28:05] Or what you could have done better

[00:28:07] You can't always

[00:28:09] That's not in control

[00:28:10] You can't always control how people treat you

[00:28:13] That's true too

[00:28:13] Yeah, you'd want somebody to treat you the way that you want to be treated

[00:28:16] That's true too

[00:28:17] It's just not reality all the time

[00:28:19] That's true too, that's very true

[00:28:21] That's true

[00:28:23] And also what

[00:28:24] What other people think of you

[00:28:26] And that was another

[00:28:28] That was a hard thing too

[00:28:29] That, that, that

[00:28:31] I found myself

[00:28:35] Really trying to like

[00:28:38] Write the story for other people

[00:28:41] And now I've just accepted

[00:28:42] Yo, whatever you think of me

[00:28:45] Is whatever you think of me

[00:28:46] You know what's crazy?

[00:28:47] I had that conversation

[00:28:48] With someone

[00:28:49] I was like, yo

[00:28:50] Like when you first saw me

[00:28:51] Like what did you think I was?

[00:28:52] How do you think I was?

[00:28:52] She's like, oh you're very standoffish

[00:28:54] You're this, you're that

[00:28:54] I'm like, okay

[00:28:55] And then I was like

[00:28:56] She's like, I see the people you hang around with

[00:28:58] They seem standoffish

[00:29:00] What's the big guy's

[00:29:01] She's like, what's the big guy's name?

[00:29:02] I think his name is Skrills

[00:29:04] I think like

[00:29:05] He seems like an asshole

[00:29:06] I was just like, oh shit

[00:29:07] She's mad judgmental

[00:29:09] She's mad judgmental

[00:29:11] I would've went from 100 to zero

[00:29:13] I'm like, okay

[00:29:14] So let me just clear this up

[00:29:15] One, we could be standoffish sometimes

[00:29:18] But we're like

[00:29:20] We're social butterflies

[00:29:21] When it comes to that

[00:29:22] If you see us in our element

[00:29:24] That's when you're like, okay

[00:29:24] No, they're not like that

[00:29:25] So I don't really care for

[00:29:27] I care about how people will see me

[00:29:29] But I don't care at the same time

[00:29:30] Because I can't put too much stock into that

[00:29:31] And it could change today

[00:29:35] All to tomorrow

[00:29:36] And I don't want that to hold so much stock

[00:29:38] To the point where

[00:29:38] I gotta live up to what that person thinks about me

[00:29:41] Yeah

[00:29:42] Yeah

[00:29:44] Another thing that we tend to deal with

[00:29:47] That's outside of your control

[00:29:49] Well, we talked about what people choose

[00:29:51] The circumstances I was dealt

[00:29:55] That's one thing

[00:29:59] You can't control it

[00:30:00] But I understand that you can't control it

[00:30:03] But damn, you still gotta deal with it

[00:30:05] So how do you tell somebody

[00:30:08] Who's dealing with circumstances

[00:30:09] That they ain't asked to be signed up for?

[00:30:12] You know what I'm saying?

[00:30:13] But they just gotta figure it out

[00:30:15] That always seems to suck

[00:30:19] Because how do you tell somebody, yo

[00:30:20] It's gonna get better

[00:30:22] It's like, man, I ain't really trying to deal with the futuristic

[00:30:26] Because that's something you can't control neither

[00:30:28] Future things

[00:30:29] That's like, not to be so drastic

[00:30:31] But it's like somebody going through an illness

[00:30:34] Yeah

[00:30:35] They didn't want that

[00:30:36] That was out of their control

[00:30:37] They didn't know what the fuck was going on

[00:30:38] So it's like, you tell them I was gonna be better

[00:30:40] Thanks for that

[00:30:41] But it's like, that doesn't do so much

[00:30:43] It does so much

[00:30:44] Yeah

[00:30:47] Like it sucks, bro

[00:30:48] Nah, you really gotta know your

[00:30:50] Come closer, bro

[00:30:53] Yeah, you can't really tell anybody

[00:30:54] Nobody really wants to hear that

[00:30:56] Well, I can speak

[00:30:57] Also speak for myself

[00:30:58] Whenever I'm going through something

[00:31:00] The positive things are the last things I'm trying to hear

[00:31:02] Plus I've already told myself those things

[00:31:04] I think now I'm

[00:31:07] Does it depend on who it's coming from?

[00:31:09] The positive things?

[00:31:10] Nah

[00:31:10] You're shorty, you're going through whatever you're going through

[00:31:13] And I'm not really saying you're shorty, you're shorty

[00:31:15] But I'm saying you're shorty kind of reassures you

[00:31:18] Like, yo, we gonna get through this together

[00:31:19] That don't help?

[00:31:21] You're not biased, you're not alone

[00:31:22] Yeah, I get that a lot

[00:31:23] It depends on what it is

[00:31:24] If it's something that I have to deal with

[00:31:26] Then yeah, that doesn't mean much to me right now

[00:31:29] But if it's something that's like

[00:31:31] If it's a group effort and a go thing

[00:31:34] And it's like, nah, I'm here

[00:31:35] I'm gonna help you, I'm gonna support you

[00:31:36] I'm gonna do this and do that

[00:31:37] Yeah, it means something

[00:31:38] But if it's just

[00:31:40] If it's like a

[00:31:43] Hmm

[00:31:43] Like if it's like a work thing

[00:31:44] Or something that is literally just on you to do

[00:31:46] And for whatever reason, like nothing is happening

[00:31:49] It's not going your way

[00:31:51] Positivity is not gonna help you

[00:31:53] Let me ask you a question

[00:31:54] Do you try to control everything to avoid disappointment?

[00:31:58] You know, it's funny

[00:31:59] I actually got real better at controlling

[00:32:01] I actually don't control much things

[00:32:03] Cause I remember when

[00:32:04] Y'all remember when Quanny first started

[00:32:05] And he would do like the pop-up locations

[00:32:07] And didn't want help

[00:32:09] He wanted to do stock, register, greet, socialize

[00:32:13] I'm like, yo, bro

[00:32:15] It's four of us here, bro

[00:32:17] Like just tell me where to go get it

[00:32:19] And I'm like, now you good, bro

[00:32:20] Now you good, bro

[00:32:22] It wasn't really disappointment

[00:32:24] Well, a part of it was disappointment

[00:32:25] I didn't wanna...

[00:32:27] Yeah, I don't really like asking people to do things

[00:32:29] Cause if you don't do it the way that I would like you to do it

[00:32:32] Then, then yeah, like I'm probably not gonna ask you to do anything again

[00:32:35] I don't wanna look at you in that way

[00:32:37] I'd rather you just be my friend

[00:32:39] It's strict over there, bro

[00:32:42] But bro, there's more than one way to skin a cat though, bro

[00:32:46] Nah, it is, but I actually act this way though

[00:32:48] But this is the way that...

[00:32:50] Yeah, but if this is the way that I act

[00:32:53] Quanny think he don't talk

[00:32:55] Quanny peeking like a motherfucker, man

[00:33:00] If I ask for you to do something specific and you don't do it

[00:33:05] That's your one time

[00:33:07] Damn!

[00:33:08] You know what?

[00:33:09] I kinda got that same tendency

[00:33:12] But that's how you use that though

[00:33:14] But I'm not holding it against you

[00:33:15] That's more so me saying, okay

[00:33:17] I'm not gonna ask you to do nothing wrong

[00:33:18] Yeah, because you don't do it the particular way that I like

[00:33:20] Well, do you ever look at yourself like maybe it's the way that I presented this situation to this individual

[00:33:25] That's why you were asked to why they didn't do it the way that I wanted to do it

[00:33:28] Do you ever look at yourself like, oh maybe

[00:33:30] But you gotta remember, not everybody's gonna think the way you're thinking though

[00:33:33] That's why

[00:33:34] That's the difficult part

[00:33:36] LA's like, yo, Don, I need your set up the camera like this

[00:33:38] And LA will change it, I'm like, I can't see what you're thinking

[00:33:41] I heard you, I did

[00:33:43] I heard what you said, but I'm seeing it in another way

[00:33:45] It's like, yo, can you take out the trash?

[00:33:46] Somebody take out trash a different way

[00:33:47] Like, what the fuck?

[00:33:49] Nigga, why'd you do it like that?

[00:33:50] You gotta understand, not everybody's gonna think like you

[00:33:52] Then now you gotta be like, nigga, why you didn't do it then?

[00:33:54] Nigga, fuck out of here

[00:33:54] And that's why it comes down to me doing it myself like

[00:33:57] So I don't even bother getting

[00:34:01] I'd rather my friends just be my friends

[00:34:04] And then another thing was if

[00:34:05] I feel like if someone's doing something for me

[00:34:07] I have to, it has to be an exchange

[00:34:09] We're reciprocating, we don't have a reciprocating

[00:34:11] If we're friends, you don't have a reciprocating

[00:34:12] It has to be an exchange, yeah, it has to be some type of an exchange

[00:34:14] What?

[00:34:15] Not necessarily in the moment, but I have to

[00:34:18] Oh, oh, oh, no

[00:34:19] I have to feel like

[00:34:20] 95 Jordan

[00:34:22] You ain't that mo

[00:34:23] Not necessarily saying things have to be transactional

[00:34:25] But I don't want nobody to feel like they're doing something

[00:34:28] Say you have

[00:34:29] I need it

[00:34:32] Yeah, but I don't want nobody to feel like they're doing something for me

[00:34:35] And like, they're just doing it

[00:34:36] And I'm like, I'm just like whatever

[00:34:38] So I either try to do something

[00:34:40] But bro, we're friends, I'm just doing you a favor of you

[00:34:43] I'm doing you a solid though

[00:34:43] That's crazy, bro

[00:34:45] Yeah, bro, no

[00:34:46] I feel like

[00:34:46] I feel like you just don't want anybody to have anything over your head

[00:34:51] I think that's what it is

[00:34:52] LA used to be like that too

[00:34:54] I was going to say that

[00:34:55] And I respect it though

[00:34:56] You don't want nobody to have it

[00:34:57] Because you used to be like, oh, that's why it's a transactional thing

[00:34:59] If you take something from somebody, I got to give you something back

[00:35:02] Yo, the way, see I stopped

[00:35:04] I still feel that way

[00:35:05] But I don't, I feel that way lesser with people I love

[00:35:10] Because the love that we, I think we have for each other

[00:35:14] Allows me the benefit of the doubt that you wouldn't pull no shit like that with me

[00:35:18] So if you ask me for something and I do it for you

[00:35:22] And be like, yo, good looking, yo bro don't mention it

[00:35:24] Cause nigga, I fucking love you bro

[00:35:26] Like, so I'm not, if I can help you in whatever situation

[00:35:30] That's kind of what we here for

[00:35:32] Like I don't seek y'all niggas or hang out with y'all because we podcast together

[00:35:36] I really fucking care about y'all

[00:35:38] So anything to, that I can do to help alleviate whatever stresses y'all got

[00:35:43] If I can do it, if I can't do it and then you look at me crazy like I'm not helping

[00:35:48] I can't help you

[00:35:49] Or if I do, if I do something 10 times in a minute I can't do it and it's like, yo, you moving funny

[00:35:54] Nah

[00:35:54] Dan shit changes

[00:35:55] But if I can, yo, go ahead, rock out, do it

[00:36:00] I'm not gonna bring it up, I don't ever bring it up

[00:36:02] And I would expect if I ever ask for a favor and we disagree and you bring it up

[00:36:10] Nothing, nothing, I can't do a favor for you again

[00:36:12] Now here's the thing

[00:36:13] Now I was in a situation where somebody brings it up as a reference point

[00:36:20] Not more so

[00:36:21] Yeah, and for me sometimes

[00:36:25] What I'm learning is, is I can really control how things go

[00:36:33] Based off of my interpretation

[00:36:37] Cause you could say something like, yo bro, but I did this for you then

[00:36:41] Right? And I could look at it as, yo, why you bringing that up?

[00:36:46] Or you just saying it as, yo, you trying to say I don't do, I didn't do this

[00:36:51] But I'm telling you X, Y, and Z

[00:36:53] I got you bro, like I got you

[00:36:56] Yeah

[00:36:57] But I think it's all contextual and circumstantial

[00:37:02] Like, where are you bringing this up?

[00:37:05] Like, what are the circumstances of

[00:37:06] What's the, let's get to the point

[00:37:08] Yeah, why, are we, are we, not even in a spat, but how are you saying it also?

[00:37:14] You know? So, that's kinda why I like, I don't let anybody do things for me

[00:37:20] Because it's like, yo, you bring this up in a moment of

[00:37:24] Now, if I, if I try to play myself, and you trying to, not humble me, but let it be known

[00:37:30] I kinda agree with that

[00:37:32] Don't play in my face like I ain't never do anything for you when the long, when the

[00:37:36] The paper train's long, yeah, don't do that

[00:37:39] So, I would never do that

[00:37:40] But at the same time, don't make it seem like, nigga, I'm a handout

[00:37:45] And that's kinda, I know, that's a big ass flaw

[00:37:49] Um, I know that's all based off of, quote unquote, my ego

[00:37:57] Not letting somebody try to say like, you be dead without me

[00:38:02] That's how it's extreme

[00:38:04] That's insane, 0 to 100

[00:38:06] Nigga, I put food in your, I put food in your plate

[00:38:08] You only bought me dinner once

[00:38:11] Niggas get you a chicken and broccoli one time

[00:38:14] That might actually be the cause of it, bro

[00:38:16] Cause people will be doing like, people will do the bare minimum

[00:38:20] And then drag it as if it's like the biggest thing in the world

[00:38:23] When it's like, yo, you didn't really do that much

[00:38:25] So, that could be a reason as to why

[00:38:28] But you gotta know, you gotta know, you gotta know the person you're dealing with though

[00:38:31] I don't even start it, I don't even accept help off Rip

[00:38:35] Don't even help me off Rip

[00:38:36] So I don't even allow you to show me the 10 times you do it and the one time you don't

[00:38:40] I just don't even wanna, don't even, I'll just be my friend, bro

[00:38:43] It's okay

[00:38:44] So, if that's the case, you wanna control the friendship too

[00:38:49] No, there's boundaries, I'll call it a boundary

[00:38:53] So what can they do?

[00:38:55] What are you looking for as a friend?

[00:38:56] What if I'm comfortable with them doing?

[00:38:58] Okay, you know, your body, your choice

[00:38:59] Yeah

[00:39:03] But let's dive into the things we can control

[00:39:08] Oh, we talked about that

[00:39:10] My attitude and intentions

[00:39:13] My attitude on, like I said, my attitude on how I've received things

[00:39:18] perceive things

[00:39:21] and deceive things to be

[00:39:25] really dictates how shit can go for me

[00:39:29] And I know with me having control of that

[00:39:32] I could either make my life a little bit more peaceful

[00:39:35] or I could make it more toxic

[00:39:38] I'm not one of those people who

[00:39:39] who add a little toxicity into their relationship

[00:39:43] Just for the fun of it

[00:39:44] I think that's me

[00:39:46] That's kinda psychotic

[00:39:49] But I do know people who do that

[00:39:51] Just, you know, it's getting a little

[00:39:52] Yeah, a little razzle dazzle

[00:39:53] Yeah, shoutouts to Skrill's

[00:39:56] I thought I had my glasses on

[00:39:57] If you, if you, if you

[00:40:00] Cojo best friend?

[00:40:01] That nigga definitely

[00:40:05] I even made that as a joke

[00:40:07] and the fact that you took it there is insane

[00:40:10] But, um

[00:40:11] That was real

[00:40:16] I mean

[00:40:18] I don't reason the motions

[00:40:19] You know, alright

[00:40:21] But, um, but yeah, I think

[00:40:23] I think, um

[00:40:25] I don't mean in that

[00:40:26] But I do know like

[00:40:27] That's one of the

[00:40:29] The one key intangible

[00:40:31] that I think

[00:40:32] you should instill in all like

[00:40:34] the younger males in your life

[00:40:36] or even your peer group

[00:40:38] Like yo, just control your reactions, son

[00:40:40] I know like we were kinda brought up

[00:40:42] You know, if we walk away we pussy

[00:40:46] By the time this come out

[00:40:47] Yeah, by the time this come out

[00:40:48] I'll be 33 years old

[00:40:52] I'm fully immense in my pussiness

[00:40:56] Ain't a gangster bone inside

[00:40:58] Bro, cause it

[00:41:00] Yeah

[00:41:03] Not cause it, what's the point?

[00:41:04] What's the point?

[00:41:05] You know what I'm saying?

[00:41:05] What's it gonna solve, bro?

[00:41:06] Is that I'm gonna hurt you?

[00:41:07] You're gonna hurt me

[00:41:08] And to be honest with you like

[00:41:10] And I don't mean that in like

[00:41:11] in all physical or acts of danger

[00:41:14] or any of that

[00:41:15] I just mean like yo, you got it

[00:41:17] You got it

[00:41:17] There's no reason to argue

[00:41:18] There's no...

[00:41:19] You got it

[00:41:20] The things I control is

[00:41:22] how I respond to all things

[00:41:25] that come to my doorstep

[00:41:26] And um

[00:41:28] If you give yourself enough time

[00:41:30] to respond

[00:41:33] you'll understand if it's worth it

[00:41:35] I do know

[00:41:35] one thing I know I'm in control of now

[00:41:38] is not reacting in the moment

[00:41:40] You know what I'm saying?

[00:41:42] Not being so

[00:41:46] impulsive

[00:41:47] You know

[00:41:47] on anything

[00:41:48] You know what I'm trying to work on

[00:41:49] is controlling

[00:41:50] how I take things

[00:41:51] as in

[00:41:52] I take things very literal

[00:41:55] Me too

[00:41:55] So that's my

[00:41:56] that's my new task for myself

[00:41:58] trying not to take everything literal because

[00:41:59] How else can you take it?

[00:42:01] And not having emotions

[00:42:03] when I'm doing certain things

[00:42:05] But taking things literal

[00:42:06] I was like

[00:42:07] What's the last thing you took literal?

[00:42:10] Shorty has said something to me

[00:42:12] and I forgot

[00:42:13] what exactly she said

[00:42:15] I'm just like

[00:42:15] yo why would you say that?

[00:42:16] That's kind of rude

[00:42:17] She's like I didn't mean like that

[00:42:18] and she explained to me

[00:42:18] I'm just like

[00:42:20] oh I didn't see it like that

[00:42:23] It was like

[00:42:24] I was like I maybe

[00:42:26] Yeah I was like

[00:42:26] I didn't like that

[00:42:27] I didn't like that

[00:42:28] She was like

[00:42:29] How objective are you

[00:42:30] about yourself?

[00:42:34] What do you mean by that?

[00:42:35] Like

[00:42:36] Alright cool so

[00:42:38] Give me an example

[00:42:39] Use it in a sentence

[00:42:41] Alright

[00:42:43] I know

[00:42:43] I feel like

[00:42:44] there's a level of criticism

[00:42:46] that we

[00:42:47] that people display

[00:42:49] people could either critique you

[00:42:51] or critique what you do

[00:42:52] or critique what you do

[00:42:53] and I feel like sometimes

[00:42:54] when people critique what you do

[00:42:55] they take it as

[00:42:58] them critiquing you

[00:42:59] so I use myself as a subject

[00:43:04] They can say yo LA

[00:43:05] I don't like that you do this

[00:43:08] I may hear LaShawn

[00:43:09] I don't like that

[00:43:10] I don't like you

[00:43:12] I'm not objective

[00:43:14] to hear what they don't like

[00:43:15] I'm taking it as

[00:43:16] they don't like me

[00:43:17] I think I do that

[00:43:18] Oh God

[00:43:20] See me controlling what I can control

[00:43:22] I stop putting podcast clips on

[00:43:24] on Twitter

[00:43:25] because I know the level of

[00:43:27] objectivity on that website

[00:43:29] is not existing

[00:43:30] So to prevent

[00:43:34] any one of us

[00:43:35] anybody feeling like

[00:43:36] they could talk about us

[00:43:37] or to us crazy

[00:43:39] because they on a platform

[00:43:40] like we don't be outside

[00:43:42] you just avoid all of that

[00:43:45] I just avoid it

[00:43:46] that's my control

[00:43:47] you know that's me feeling like

[00:43:50] I'm not letting nobody

[00:43:53] who

[00:43:55] they girl listen to me

[00:43:56] every Monday

[00:43:57] talk to me crazy

[00:43:58] I whisper

[00:44:00] niggas whisper her hair in the daily

[00:44:03] Facts

[00:44:04] niggas whisper her hair in the daily

[00:44:06] She literally wishes that you were mean

[00:44:09] so I'm not gonna let you

[00:44:11] you know

[00:44:11] That's insane bro

[00:44:14] You're just not gonna do that

[00:44:16] so you know

[00:44:17] I understand the world

[00:44:18] I can understand that

[00:44:19] You know you control

[00:44:20] you control your spaces

[00:44:21] you try to control your

[00:44:23] I think Kojo understands now

[00:44:25] I don't like that

[00:44:26] You're not posting on Twitter

[00:44:29] You control your environment

[00:44:31] you control your spaces

[00:44:32] you know you control

[00:44:34] what you allow in

[00:44:36] as much as you can

[00:44:37] and that I think that's a good balance

[00:44:39] of all the bullshit that do come

[00:44:42] that's not in your control

[00:44:44] versus you allowing extra bullshit

[00:44:46] who wants more mess?

[00:44:49] You know what I'm saying?

[00:44:50] I think one of the biggest things

[00:44:52] I'm trying to control now

[00:44:53] is my

[00:44:56] inability to start right away

[00:44:58] and stop putting it off

[00:45:01] I

[00:45:02] I gotta stop

[00:45:04] delaying

[00:45:05] my

[00:45:06] the level of success

[00:45:08] that I'm supposed to obtain

[00:45:10] by me waiting another five minutes

[00:45:13] I know we've said this before

[00:45:14] on previous episodes

[00:45:16] my new thing

[00:45:17] another thing I need to try to control is

[00:45:20] knowing the difference between

[00:45:22] doing too much and doing too little

[00:45:25] I fight with doing that

[00:45:27] I don't know that yet

[00:45:29] I ain't get there yet

[00:45:30] like

[00:45:32] I feel like I do so much

[00:45:34] that even when I start sitting down

[00:45:35] it's like yo bro

[00:45:36] you bullshitting

[00:45:37] like every time I'm sitting there

[00:45:38] I'm like let me play some 2K

[00:45:40] I always hear Quanny's voice

[00:45:41] oh you wasting time

[00:45:42] you wasting time bro

[00:45:43] get the fuck off the game bro

[00:45:45] but in actuality

[00:45:47] bro I spend so much time

[00:45:48] on my fucking computer

[00:45:49] my fucking odds are getting worse

[00:45:53] so

[00:45:53] it's me controlling

[00:45:55] what I can control

[00:45:56] and

[00:45:57] just putting myself first

[00:45:58] that's my

[00:45:58] those controls

[00:46:01] what about y'all?

[00:46:03] is this the objectivity part?

[00:46:05] yeah

[00:46:07] how objective am I?

[00:46:09] oh

[00:46:10] I would say I'm

[00:46:16] see

[00:46:17] there's

[00:46:19] to me it's tricky because

[00:46:23] there's a way I hear

[00:46:24] certain people talk about me

[00:46:26] and there's a way I believe

[00:46:27] and I don't think that these

[00:46:29] two things are like

[00:46:31] even in the same ballpark

[00:46:32] and I've been sitting there like

[00:46:34] yo I wanna ask my friends

[00:46:35] like yo is this how y'all niggas feel about me?

[00:46:37] like is it really like this?

[00:46:38] is nobody just not telling me

[00:46:39] until things get like

[00:46:41] too

[00:46:41] too much or whatever the case may be

[00:46:43] but I usually come back to understand that

[00:46:46] I'm objective of myself

[00:46:47] like I don't think there's anything

[00:46:49] that anybody can't tell me about myself

[00:46:51] and I don't look at it and take it

[00:46:53] personally in a good way

[00:46:54] where it's like alright I need to do some work

[00:46:55] you know what I'm saying?

[00:46:57] because I

[00:46:58] I can control the change that

[00:47:00] follows any critique

[00:47:02] you gotta take time

[00:47:03] it's a choice

[00:47:03] it's always a choice

[00:47:05] you know what I'm saying?

[00:47:06] I think if people are around you

[00:47:07] and they love you

[00:47:08] and they're

[00:47:10] giving you this critique

[00:47:12] or just letting you know

[00:47:12] maybe something that you did to them

[00:47:15] made them feel a certain way

[00:47:17] alright well

[00:47:17] that's how you feel

[00:47:18] let me sit down with that

[00:47:20] let me

[00:47:20] let me sit with it

[00:47:23] let me process it

[00:47:24] and then also give me the space to

[00:47:25] you know

[00:47:26] make those changes or

[00:47:28] you know progress forward

[00:47:29] see a lot of people don't have that

[00:47:32] that mindset to like let me work on this

[00:47:33] a lot of people just take that as a slight

[00:47:36] unfortunately

[00:47:36] maybe my personality

[00:47:37] and the way I present myself

[00:47:38] looks like

[00:47:40] a person who is not open to that

[00:47:41] but I think that's also unfair criticism

[00:47:44] because I don't think I've ever sat down

[00:47:45] with somebody and he was like

[00:47:47] yo

[00:47:49] this thing that you do

[00:47:50] affects me negatively

[00:47:51] and I'm just like

[00:47:52] alright

[00:47:54] what if that's who you are?

[00:47:57] what if that's who I am?

[00:47:58] oh that would be terrible

[00:47:59] another thing is though

[00:48:00] another thing is a person will say like

[00:48:02] yo as far as your name

[00:48:03] it's like yeah you know best

[00:48:04] so I'll you know

[00:48:05] man I sat down with this man

[00:48:07] for 30 minutes

[00:48:08] explaining that whole thing

[00:48:10] I mean we started a podcast

[00:48:12] and said

[00:48:13] this ain't about anybody

[00:48:14] and they still sending it to their own people

[00:48:16] it got nothing to do with the knowledge

[00:48:17] but it's about the confidence and the trust

[00:48:20] that's it

[00:48:22] daddy knows best

[00:48:23] does not mean that I know everything

[00:48:26] and that does not mean that I feel like I know everything

[00:48:28] I like to play around like that

[00:48:31] because of things that have happened in the past

[00:48:33] and people calling me arrogant

[00:48:34] and all this stuff

[00:48:35] cool

[00:48:36] and you show what that did to me

[00:48:37] so you know what I mean?

[00:48:39] if people don't know that part of me

[00:48:41] and that side of me

[00:48:42] and they take that as a benchmark to say

[00:48:46] yeah that's who he is

[00:48:47] and everything that happens is all

[00:48:49] yeah you the nigga who says he knows best

[00:48:51] that's on you

[00:48:52] but I know I'm doing the work

[00:48:53] but what I'm saying

[00:48:54] I'm saying as what if

[00:48:56] I can't control that

[00:48:58] true indeed

[00:48:59] what if there's something that

[00:49:03] is a part of who you are

[00:49:04] that somebody just don't like

[00:49:08] and you say well

[00:49:09] that's who I am

[00:49:11] and that's how I do things

[00:49:13] and it doesn't negatively

[00:49:15] doesn't necessarily mean it's a negative thing

[00:49:18] it's just how you choose to cope

[00:49:21] how you choose to grieve

[00:49:22] how you choose to celebrate

[00:49:23] how you choose to

[00:49:24] things that you find peace with

[00:49:27] makes you who you are

[00:49:30] do you then change it because the person don't like it?

[00:49:34] absolutely not

[00:49:35] yeah that's what I'm saying

[00:49:35] that'll be conforming into somebody that you are not

[00:49:39] and that's what I mean by like

[00:49:41] it's one thing to say that

[00:49:42] oh I don't like that you do this

[00:49:46] the next step is

[00:49:47] does it negatively affect you?

[00:49:50] does it negatively affect

[00:49:51] does it truly negatively affect our

[00:49:53] our relationship or bond

[00:49:55] or whatever we have?

[00:49:56] is it something that we can meet in the middle with?

[00:49:58] these conversations that you should be having

[00:50:00] not just

[00:50:00] oh I don't like this

[00:50:01] alright I'm stopped

[00:50:02] nah no way

[00:50:03] that's not how anybody should be living

[00:50:05] like

[00:50:05] not in my opinion at least

[00:50:06] you know what I'm saying?

[00:50:08] where are we starting at?

[00:50:10] the objectivity part

[00:50:11] um

[00:50:13] I'm objective to a certain degree

[00:50:15] when it comes to like

[00:50:16] relationships and things like that

[00:50:18] I like to be objective

[00:50:19] because you're dealing with like feelings and stuff

[00:50:21] so

[00:50:22] it's real nuance

[00:50:23] so you can't really like assume that someone's wrong

[00:50:25] or that they're just talking or whatever

[00:50:28] you kinda gotta hear them out

[00:50:29] and it's making sense then

[00:50:30] you know you make the adjustments

[00:50:32] but

[00:50:34] something like my work

[00:50:35] I'm not objective

[00:50:36] I'm not that

[00:50:37] not that objective

[00:50:38] I'll say

[00:50:40] for you to come tell me something

[00:50:42] or try to fix something

[00:50:43] I

[00:50:43] I gotta see what you're doing

[00:50:46] I'm dead ass bro

[00:50:47] show me your tracker

[00:50:48] yeah bro you're not about to come tell me

[00:50:50] oh you should do this

[00:50:51] you should change this

[00:50:52] you should do this design

[00:50:53] you should do that

[00:50:55] I gotta see what you're doing

[00:50:57] wait a consumer can't

[00:50:58] yeah I was just about to ask you though

[00:51:00] um

[00:51:02] it depends on how

[00:51:04] that has happened before

[00:51:05] but it ultimately depends on

[00:51:06] how they come about it

[00:51:08] what if you hear it so much

[00:51:09] from multiple people

[00:51:11] so for example

[00:51:11] uh

[00:51:14] not necessarily a design

[00:51:16] but maybe a piece of garment

[00:51:18] that's being highly requested of you

[00:51:21] but you opted to say

[00:51:22] I'm not doing that

[00:51:24] not even that

[00:51:26] I'm just being petty

[00:51:26] I don't want some jeans bro

[00:51:28] oh yeah yeah yeah

[00:51:29] you know what I'm saying yo

[00:51:30] yeah you know what I'm saying

[00:51:31] like yo

[00:51:33] we already got the hoodies

[00:51:34] can we get the matching sweats

[00:51:35] and you

[00:51:35] again it depends on

[00:51:37] who's saying it

[00:51:37] and what they're doing

[00:51:38] but what if they're not in fashion

[00:51:39] what if they're just a consumer

[00:51:40] then I would explain to them

[00:51:42] like oh listen

[00:51:42] I'm not doing it because of X Y Z

[00:51:45] and then hopefully

[00:51:46] they will understand

[00:51:47] and then they will kind of

[00:51:48] look at the brand

[00:51:48] the way that I want them to look at it

[00:51:49] opposed to the way that

[00:51:50] they're trying to do it

[00:51:51] and I think that's important

[00:51:52] in a sense

[00:51:53] trying to control

[00:51:56] how you

[00:51:58] give off to the world

[00:52:00] in a sense

[00:52:01] I think there's a

[00:52:03] negative stigma on

[00:52:06] how you want to be perceived

[00:52:08] but who doesn't want to be perceived

[00:52:10] in the way that

[00:52:11] bro I battle with that

[00:52:12] all the time

[00:52:13] you know what I'm saying

[00:52:14] but the

[00:52:15] if you are true to yourself

[00:52:17] then I don't think there's nothing wrong

[00:52:20] with being perceived

[00:52:22] of how you want to be perceived

[00:52:24] why should I

[00:52:26] adjust my light

[00:52:28] because it may be too bright for you

[00:52:30] I don't

[00:52:32] that I don't get

[00:52:33] like you know what I'm saying

[00:52:35] especially if that's who you

[00:52:37] you really are

[00:52:38] like you not faking the funk

[00:52:40] this is not for

[00:52:41] yeah you worked for it

[00:52:42] you earned it

[00:52:43] why do I have to

[00:52:45] you know turn my blinds down

[00:52:47] because it just may be too bright for you

[00:52:50] I think that's conforming

[00:52:52] that's really conforming

[00:52:54] and when you figure

[00:52:55] when you find yourself conforming

[00:53:00] you don't really control the end results anyway

[00:53:02] if I can't control how I'm perceived

[00:53:05] then why should I conform

[00:53:07] you won't perceive me anyway

[00:53:09] so me conforming

[00:53:11] is gonna change your perception

[00:53:13] so I'm still being perceived

[00:53:15] so would I rather be perceived

[00:53:17] for who I really am

[00:53:18] or who you want me to be

[00:53:20] or who you think I am

[00:53:22] or should I dim this down

[00:53:24] because I'm just way too bright

[00:53:27] I just

[00:53:28] I can't

[00:53:29] cause I already can't control

[00:53:31] what you think of me

[00:53:32] at least let me control what I think of myself

[00:53:35] and put it out

[00:53:36] and put out what I want to do

[00:53:37] some people need some control

[00:53:40] some people need to be told

[00:53:42] you need to be more like this

[00:53:44] or more like that

[00:53:45] how you feel

[00:53:47] you can accept somebody trying to humble you

[00:53:50] trying to humble me?

[00:53:51] yeah cause that's what that would do

[00:53:52] if somebody needs control

[00:53:55] I think it's all

[00:53:56] it's really all case by case bro

[00:53:58] somebody could be wilding out

[00:53:59] and that's exactly what they should be hearing

[00:54:01] but as a person who's like

[00:54:04] who's not

[00:54:04] nah

[00:54:05] I wouldn't even be listening

[00:54:06] I would tune out

[00:54:07] to be honest

[00:54:08] so Kojo when somebody

[00:54:10] when that person did that

[00:54:11] when you used to call yourself arrogant

[00:54:13] do you feel like they was trying to humble you

[00:54:15] at that point?

[00:54:18] no because

[00:54:22] the person didn't

[00:54:23] where it came from wasn't direct

[00:54:25] that person never told me

[00:54:27] and the way it was delivered to me

[00:54:29] didn't seem like it was a

[00:54:31] it was an attack

[00:54:32] so I didn't take it personal

[00:54:34] from the person that I got it from

[00:54:37] however

[00:54:40] it

[00:54:40] the reason why

[00:54:41] the reason why it shook me is because

[00:54:43] I do think

[00:54:44] I think about that a lot

[00:54:45] I think about like

[00:54:46] oh

[00:54:48] how am I affecting the world?

[00:54:50] you know what I'm saying?

[00:54:51] I'm still trying to build up my name

[00:54:52] I'm still doing this

[00:54:52] I'm working mad hard

[00:54:54] I feel like

[00:54:55] because of my circumstances

[00:54:59] my room for error is

[00:55:01] is small

[00:55:02] and it's fragile

[00:55:03] right?

[00:55:04] so something like this could damage me

[00:55:06] that's what I was thinking at that time

[00:55:07] so that's why those

[00:55:09] that word

[00:55:09] or those words

[00:55:11] affected me

[00:55:12] that way

[00:55:12] because like damn I could fuck around loose

[00:55:14] everything I just built because

[00:55:15] somebody believes that I'm this way

[00:55:17] when that's not true

[00:55:18] you know what I'm saying?

[00:55:19] and I'm sitting there trying to fight

[00:55:20] and show everybody

[00:55:21] no no look look

[00:55:22] that's not

[00:55:23] that was just waste of energy

[00:55:25] because the truth of the matter was

[00:55:27] that's just some way somebody

[00:55:29] somebody thinks about me

[00:55:30] and even if that person is able to like

[00:55:32] sprinkle that thought around other people

[00:55:34] I think the consensus would be like

[00:55:36] more people see you in another way anyway bro

[00:55:39] so don't even really put no energy behind that

[00:55:40] okay

[00:55:41] I will always say

[00:55:42] nobody can humble me the way life

[00:55:44] what life can

[00:55:46] that's a fact

[00:55:47] that I'm being

[00:55:48] Jesus

[00:55:49] I ain't gonna front bro

[00:55:50] just

[00:55:51] we always say now bro

[00:55:52] I ain't gonna front

[00:55:53] higher highs higher lows bro

[00:55:55] because

[00:55:55] boy life will

[00:55:56] I don't care what anybody says bro

[00:55:58] life gonna teach you a lesson every time

[00:55:59] about that

[00:56:00] no I feel that

[00:56:02] one of the things that I controlled

[00:56:07] and it wasn't

[00:56:10] it was a difficult situation but I had to do it

[00:56:16] I ended a relationship because I didn't want

[00:56:19] the person that I was dating mother to be the grandmother of my kid

[00:56:23] I mean

[00:56:24] I feel like

[00:56:25] that is important

[00:56:26] I could control

[00:56:27] the

[00:56:29] what family I enter

[00:56:31] yeah for sure

[00:56:33] I tried

[00:56:35] but her mother was just

[00:56:37] unbearable

[00:56:37] not unbearable

[00:56:38] she was just rude and disrespectful

[00:56:41] unbearable

[00:56:44] and at a situation

[00:56:46] you could kind of see it like

[00:56:49] her and her mom

[00:56:51] I ain't gonna get in between that

[00:56:52] you know what I'm saying

[00:56:53] that's y'all thing

[00:56:54] yeah

[00:56:54] yeah

[00:56:54] and y'all may not be cool now

[00:56:57] but if we ever end up together

[00:56:58] and y'all got cool again

[00:56:59] and she talking about she want to see her grandchild

[00:57:02] no

[00:57:03] because I don't ever have to be cool with her

[00:57:06] so

[00:57:07] nah

[00:57:08] and then the way she talk

[00:57:11] you not gonna talk to my child

[00:57:12] you know I'm not even gonna run the risk of you potentially

[00:57:16] talking to my child about me in that manner

[00:57:20] so

[00:57:21] yeah I love you

[00:57:22] I got mad love for you

[00:57:24] probably always gonna love you

[00:57:25] but

[00:57:27] because that's your mother

[00:57:28] I'm out

[00:57:29] I control

[00:57:29] I control the family that I

[00:57:31] I choose to enter

[00:57:32] well that's tough though

[00:57:33] how do you tell somebody that like

[00:57:36] I feel like I get in trouble for saying just like that

[00:57:40] every time you ask me that

[00:57:41] cause I'm like damn

[00:57:42] that's tough though

[00:57:43] but it's

[00:57:45] it's true like it's

[00:57:46] like it's

[00:57:49] I could see somebody saying yo

[00:57:51] you and your mom's not the best LaShawn

[00:57:54] but that's still your mother

[00:57:56] so if y'all ever work it out

[00:57:57] cool

[00:57:58] but I don't like the way your mother treat me

[00:58:01] and I don't want her to be my mother

[00:58:03] I ain't gonna friend

[00:58:04] okay now as you said it

[00:58:05] I respect it

[00:58:06] you gotta respect it

[00:58:06] like we not gonna ignore

[00:58:08] I'm pretty sure prior to that

[00:58:11] you

[00:58:11] there's been conversations on

[00:58:13] you know why your pops treat me like that

[00:58:15] or why your mom treat me like that

[00:58:17] or you constantly show like

[00:58:18] you know I be

[00:58:20] you know I speak

[00:58:22] she don't speak back

[00:58:24] you know

[00:58:25] she got all these opinions about

[00:58:28] why you ain't married my daughter yet

[00:58:30] my daughter wasting my time with you

[00:58:32] et cetera et cetera

[00:58:33] cool

[00:58:35] you hook your daughter up with somebody

[00:58:37] I'm out

[00:58:38] cause I

[00:58:39] go pick your

[00:58:40] yeah you wanna control that

[00:58:42] yeah everybody got control

[00:58:44] you now control

[00:58:45] you go control your daughter's front

[00:58:46] go ahead

[00:58:47] please

[00:58:49] you know what I'm saying

[00:58:50] cause

[00:58:51] and then at the same time it's like

[00:58:55] you can't control unforeseen circumstances

[00:58:58] but you can kinda see some danger up the road

[00:59:00] mm-hmm

[00:59:00] if you wanna see it

[00:59:02] if I'm at exit 12 and I already see like

[00:59:05] down the line like couple exits down

[00:59:07] yo

[00:59:08] it look crazy up there

[00:59:09] let me get off now

[00:59:11] mm-hmm just take the fucking main roads

[00:59:13] maybe a longer destination

[00:59:16] maybe setting me back

[00:59:17] but I can control not to sit in this traffic

[00:59:20] mm-hmm

[00:59:20] let me get off

[00:59:22] so yeah I feel like

[00:59:24] yeah that's one of the situations

[00:59:25] where I feel like

[00:59:26] I had control

[00:59:27] and the choice of my control

[00:59:30] wasn't

[00:59:31] love but you gotta live with your results

[00:59:33] you make your choices

[00:59:34] you make your bed and you sleep in it

[00:59:35] and mine's a king size

[00:59:39] so yeah

[00:59:40] that was one of those situations

[00:59:43] where you know you just gotta stand firm

[00:59:45] on the decisions you made

[00:59:46] and sometimes ain't no backseas

[00:59:49] and sometimes you

[00:59:51] that could also be a part of something

[00:59:53] where I'd be like

[00:59:53] damn should I have

[00:59:55] should I have

[00:59:57] stayed

[00:59:57] you know was that wrong

[00:59:59] but you know

[01:00:00] there's a reason why you make that decision

[01:00:04] good episode fellas

[01:00:05] yeah facts

[01:00:06] I'm gonna continue to work on what I can control

[01:00:08] and give everything to God

[01:00:11] but you already know what it is

[01:00:12] it's Don the camera guy

[01:00:13] Don Peasley

[01:00:13] also known as Don Fitness

[01:00:15] get your girl right

[01:00:17] I was just making

[01:00:18] just making funnies

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[01:00:53] I won't be there

[01:00:55] they just ain't tell me them how fast

[01:00:57] nah you could

[01:00:58] you could

[01:01:00] matter of fact

[01:01:01] matter of fact

[01:01:02] I think somebody got a pool

[01:01:04] Sandeer New York pool party

[01:01:06] uh labor day

[01:01:07] you know you only

[01:01:09] you gotta set that shit up

[01:01:12] you frustrated but that's a fire

[01:01:15] you gotta only come into Sandeer

[01:01:17] swim pieces you know what I'm saying

[01:01:18] I go for a swan

[01:01:20] a swan with the

[01:01:21] we could take the ice swan

[01:01:22] look at that

[01:01:23] and you can get the floaties

[01:01:26] you not thinking bro

[01:01:28] you not thinking bro

[01:01:29] we gonna take it over side

[01:01:31] how did I know this wasn't even in the notes already

[01:01:32] you ain't tell us

[01:01:34] so it's obviously in our control now

[01:01:36] so shout out

[01:01:37] uh look out for that

[01:01:38] look out for the flyer

[01:01:39] we gonna promote that heavy

[01:01:40] once we get a pool

[01:01:41] you know come through

[01:01:43] come on

[01:01:45] action pack

[01:01:47] action pack

[01:01:47] my man's actually just hit me about

[01:01:48] you know he know a spot that rents pools

[01:01:50] matter of fact

[01:01:51] Skrillz was a lifeguard in his old life

[01:01:53] so he'll be in control of that

[01:01:54] nigga lifeguard and security at the same time as tough

[01:01:56] that's a fact so you know swan

[01:01:58] uh swan deer

[01:01:59] swan deer

[01:02:02] niggas making a bad shit today

[01:02:05] yo let's chill before we turn into goats

[01:02:09] as long as I'm courage probably

[01:02:11] till next time God is good

[01:02:13] God is good baby