Episode 271: Teach Me

[00:00:00] Everybody Rolling, Everybody Rolling Nobody Knows Me Like You Do I Know Damn, Two Episodes And Two Episodes And We All Gotta Watch This Nigga Bullshit What You Gonna Say, What You Gonna Do I'm Sorry Facing World Facing World Is Crazy Have You Seen What's Going On Nah, What?

[00:00:25] You Leading Over To Saudi What The Fuck I'm Doing Yeah, I'm Out Of Line Let Me Tell You Something Brother, If You Horny You Keep It To Yourself Alright You Already Know Who This Mother Fuckers It's Dom Peasley Alongside Of LaShawn

[00:00:39] Another Beautiful Day Here In The City Of NYC Hope You Guys Listen To Last Weeks Episode If You Haven't Go Do So Do Appreciate Your Support People That We Know That Repost And People That We Don't Know That Repost Means A Lot We Appreciate You

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[00:01:16] I'm Not A Twitter Guy Anymore Either Quick Question If You Were Tweeting And It Was Let's Say June 26th And Rent Was Due In A Couple Days What Would Your Ideal Tweet Be If You Not Stocking My Fridge Hit The Bridge Would You Run Down To Like

[00:01:39] An EBT Mommy Right Now Hell Yeah They Just Opened Up Section 8 They Just Opened Up Section 8 Please Pick Me Up Nah Definitely Hell Yeah Plus That Shit Mad Discreet Now Is It A Regular Visa Card No Whole Foods Takes EBT Nobody Know Ribeyes Included

[00:02:09] Oh Yeah That Is Crazy That Is Crazy But Yeah Nah Some Of Them Are Funny Though The Rent Due Tweets Are Hilarious Some Of Them Are Really Really Funny Some Of Them Do Seem Beggy And The Timing Of It

[00:02:26] I Had A Couple Of Twins In That Last Week But Nah The Funniest Part Would Be The Screen Shot Like But Look At The Date Circle The 1st Of The Month I Got Something Back On Twitter I Don't Really See None Of This Stuff My Algorithm Has Been

[00:02:42] Curated Really Really Well Where I Don't See None Of The As Much As The Fuckery As I Used To You Mute A Couple Of Words As Crazy As It Sounds But I Have The Word Podcast Muted On My Twitter That's How Many

[00:02:59] Because There Was A Point In Time Where Podcasting Was Just Getting A Bad Name And It Was A Lot Of Clickbait And Shit I Know How To Find What's A Good Guy Page So Anything Else I Just Don't Need To See You Got The Password But Yeah

[00:03:15] Nah Yeah We Have Another Question And It Is From I Do Not Know How To Pronounce Your First Part Of Your Name Is It Viva La Kelsey Oh You Know Her No Let Me See If She Follow Kojo Nah I Don't Know That Don't Sound Familiar

[00:03:41] Nah She Don't You Know What's Crazy Nah I Ain't Gonna Say That Joe Already Know Let's Keep It All Fair Shout Out To Joe I Watch The Entirety Of Every Episode Shout Out To You Retention Rate At 100% Come On For A Hug Come On

[00:04:04] And She Don't Follow Joe You Know What How Open Are Y'all To Blonde Dates Baby We Both Blonde I Can't See Right Now What You Mean How Open Am I To A Blonde Date I'm Not Open At All Very Close Minded About That That Is Not Happening

[00:04:27] I'm Kinda With It If I Had A Friend For You You Wouldn't Let Me How Is It A Blonde Date If You Gonna Have To Show Me That Person Look Nah Nah He Just Know That You Gonna Vibe Let Me Tell You Something The Mic I'm Asking

[00:04:47] You Wouldn't Trust Ya Man It Depends Who My Man Is Somebody Who Is Very He Has Good Taste He Knows You Well You Wouldn't Just Yo Bro I Got Somebody For You Just Be Here She'll Be Here Yo What Type Of Friend First Of

[00:05:05] You Know I Got You Some Good Works Before Laughing Let Me Ask Him A Question Why He Walking Right Now Joe You Laughing Too Hard Laughing That Was My Accident Laughing Laughing If I Leave It Up To You I'm Good

[00:05:28] I Ain't Gonna Lie I Throw Fun At You Oh Wow Who Would You Trust To Get You A Shorty A Blonde Date Yeah Quanie He The Youngest She Gonna Be Younger Than You Laughing Huh You Got The Mic Bro Listen In My Previous Life Obviously

[00:06:02] You Won't Get Big I Do Have Good Recommendations I Know Great People And Quanie Does Hang Out With Older Crowd So People Would Trust Me To Put Them On To Someone I feel like Juan it would send me a good

[00:06:18] Upstanding woman who's next who else would you do somebody good? You know pick Joe? No, I'm next. Oh, thanks They could be in a club every week so She's only been here once Yo, I've seen her here before CLA

[00:06:50] Nigga says the squirrels last but Joe probably likes a picture so don't matter The tweets Nigga so I'm correcting her Nah, yeah, so no am I over am I open to up to blind dates? No, I'm not. I already can't see no blonde date

[00:07:20] Yeah, I'll take a blonde babe, of course you would you live your life on the edge bro, you can barely see him at night It'll be mad fun, bro It's like out of the state it's a I'm not screws

[00:07:35] So who are you when you in a different state there I Like for you to sit down cuz I don't like that you stand it You stand up like a Steve Wilco Wilco show I don't like that shit what I could talk

[00:07:58] What is your preferred method of um, let's say I do have somebody for you. Oh, you don't want a blind date Okay, what is your preferred method of? Getting in contact with this person want me to send the gram

[00:08:10] Yes, and the gram and then what you take it over from now fuck the grand Oh, well, if I got a friend for you, we all Lincoln Make a group chat like hey, this is all just connect you guys I'll just coach you guys through

[00:08:36] That's crazy cuz that goes to this episode today's episode this today's episode is called teach me oh my god So but that's but because that's insane bro. So in this situation in a hypothetical Well in the past

[00:08:53] People have sent me the gram first cuz they know I'm a little picky little I Don't tell me about somebody without showing me them first don't say their personality and how much they make I don't care Yeah, don't yeah. Don't yeah big account you leave with that

[00:09:16] Don't don't I don't care about none of that how she look I'm not letting nobody ugly stress me out So, I don't care how nice I'm person now I understand like if I can't be mad at Knock your head off, but I look good

[00:09:36] Exactly I gotta look at you and I'm not no doing here. Yeah, we're not doing that so Respectfully the attraction has to be there So cool, and I don't want to stay long enough that I until I find something attractive

[00:09:51] I want to be able to first look. Oh, nah, this is it. I won't be like, oh well, you know, maybe when the Sun You know, but nah so yeah, I need to see I have to see I have to see But to go in today's episode

[00:10:18] Do you think as men you guys are Teachable yes coachable. Yes every day. Absolutely squirrels while teachable Quani, yeah Okay, so I'm gonna be the outlier in the room and say I'm not do you really believe that or you just saying that?

[00:10:41] No, I'm not. I I have come to realize That you know Squirrels talked about it in the last episode When you uh, he said in certain situations, you gotta take your pride and ego out of it my ego

[00:10:57] Prove or my pride not my pride my ego my ego Prevents me from being taught in moments where I feel Hmm Embarrassed that I wasn't knowledgeable before So I'm more in a protective mode of not looking Knowledgeable or lack of better word dumb so I

[00:11:25] Create a defense where I don't allow myself to learn in the moment because I am too worried about defending So I realized I am NOT teachable and I think that also that could stem from Me doing a lot of things on my own

[00:11:43] So I feel a lot of things that I do know was primarily self-taught. So even if I made the mistake Nobody knew I made the mistake So I had time to rectify my the wrong decisions that I made So when somebody points it out, it's like damn

[00:12:00] You see me fuck up or you see me or you see me as Not what I want to be seen as there's something is that something you want to change those? Yeah, I do because it's gonna is it's hurting my relationships

[00:12:14] Because if somebody if my partner is teaching me Something in particular that can benefit no that I Know I love that class So I'm not talking about for the record. I know we little horny fucks

[00:12:41] I'm not talking about sex this episode. You could teach me all you want because I want to pleasure you baby I feel the same way so I'm not so let's take that off the table. I say screws You buddy get a nice blonde date after this

[00:12:53] I'm real not at all. Not at all, but I'm talking about those moments where Your partner is pointing out something you are doing wrong And you not get offended by it by defending you're now learning. Okay this that in the third I also can say

[00:13:15] Maybe it's the teacher We hold the mirrors are some things I really just don't want to be taught also like what like what like quantity ready for this promo clip Is it like fat like fat is it fashion or just like light shit? Not give me an example

[00:13:33] Come back to me. I got you so I Remember I was in an argument with a significant other and she said but Sean do you think you coachable? Or you do you think you teachable and in that moment we in an argument

[00:13:52] So I'm like, yeah, I think I'm teachable Well, you know That's where I messed up thing if there's a loss or just or just not saying I'm Certain arguments Get worse when you mistranslate what the person is saying so Maybe I predicted her tone maybe um

[00:14:21] I'm so used to us being heated. I or so used to us being back and forth that I'm Thinking what she means instead of acting what she means. Like I said my egos now in

[00:14:32] This predicament where it's particular Sean we gonna protect your name your likeness an image, you know I'm saying But that's not the case here so But I do think sometimes

[00:14:47] It's the teacher and not the student and I'll give you an example my little boy in May well, I Get a call Man, he's not doing well in school. He's acting up. He wants to be the class clown. He wants to show out

[00:15:04] Now by the time it got to me, it was already bad He spoke to his mother wasn't getting through blah blah blah. His mom hit me up. I call him Call him I say yo, what's going on? Why are you acting up in school?

[00:15:17] He was like, I'm not really learning and I don't know what to do. I saw you speaking to the teacher Yeah, but I don't like the way she speaks to me. I

[00:15:25] Said how is she speaking to you? So he gives me an example of how she's speaking to you That's not right, but that does not give you the right to be a class class. You're not even interrupting the class

[00:15:36] Yeah, you're now interrupting the class right cool or the teacher doesn't like Him access somebody else for help when she's the teacher so he'll ask his best friend. Hey, help me with this He'll get caught talking and instead of him saying hey, I'm just asking for help

[00:15:53] She sees him as talking and disrupting the class cool But I told her this is her classroom her rules got played by her rules But I did say the way she's talking to you if you're telling the truth, it's not nice

[00:16:04] So this is what I want you to tell her. I Understand that I made a mistake, but please don't talk to me like that. That is exactly what I told I Get a call the next day From his math teacher

[00:16:29] Hey, miss Darlene. I just want to speak to you about What a man you are said today in class That's okay what what happened, you know he Everybody's doing their work and he's on his phone. I said, but I just spoke to him yesterday She said I know

[00:16:47] He told me that you don't have the right to speak to me like that Put him on the phone so she calls him in the middle of the class He goes hello What did you What did you say He said

[00:17:14] You told me that she don't have the right to talk to me. That's not what I told you So I put her but I told the teacher I said hey a manual doesn't like your approach of Reprimanding him and

[00:17:31] She explained to me and we met a common ground But I knew something was up when every teacher Except this one teacher his math teacher said his behavior changed

[00:17:45] From the time because everybody was saying he was on his phone. He wasn't paying attention wasn't doing his homework blah blah blah. They had Spring break. This was the week before spring break and I spoke to every teacher and I said yo

[00:17:57] He's going to complete every homework assignment during spring break because he wasn't doing his homework. He did it Everybody said he did a full 180 except his math teacher. So I say yo, what is it about her?

[00:18:11] that y'all are clashing because I feel like we're in the generation where if our younger whoever comes to us and say Yo, this teacher is picking on me we could believe them because we've all had teachers who just didn't fuck with us

[00:18:27] Whereas our parents were so West Indian or no, you know, let's say teacher Yeah We are more open-minded that we're not that far removed from school Whereas our parents had us much older and a much different environment their teachers was allowed to hit them

[00:18:41] That wasn't flying here. You know I'm saying so we could I had a math teacher that literally told my mother I'm gonna be in jail or we'd had Mr. Edwards you were fucking wrong. So maybe Man, he has his mr. Edwards, right?

[00:18:58] So I'm like, what is it that y'all are not clicking? What is it about? Yeah, her teaching style that's not getting through to you And he says she talks to me like I'm dumb, but her job is to teach him

[00:19:11] So she's not doing her job. I said boy don't not say that in school, but hey Maybe your partner is teaching you something But she's not communicating or he because you know, it's proud of That

[00:19:28] Maybe your style or how you're saying you want to be taught is not oh The pearl you or you have trauma of your own that you feel you've been belittled before that, you know Are you what is what is something that you were

[00:19:47] In your relationship that you learned or that she taught you That you didn't know about yourself I'm kind of dismissive really I Didn't know about myself I Do something Like everybody joking of me I really did know that I didn't I didn't see you as a dismissive person

[00:20:29] It's more of like I'll do something. Mm-hmm. She but I don't like that. You did that. I play. Oh You tough right What's this mean new to a relationship I

[00:20:42] Never been to a little in that relationship prior to this. So it's more like I had to learn that it took me a while to learn it How did how did she uh? How did she let you know that you would dismiss?

[00:20:55] She explained it's like she's like put your put yourself in my shoes Like if you if I did something to upset you and I'm like, how you be I think Mm-hmm. How would you feel just like that mirror? Yeah, what about you Joe?

[00:21:10] Repeat the question, please. Well if he was paying attention, no, I am Watch the porn. Sorry Wasn't watching the dicks I'm tough What was something in your relationship that you had to be taught

[00:21:44] Whoo, you might have to come back to me. I mean I want to think about can I actually one Or can I ask the room? I want to ask the room. Okay. How do y'all learn romance? Oh good one. Yeah

[00:22:02] Okay, that's good for me. Well, let's all right It depends on individual the way you were romantic with one of one person before isn't it doesn't always duplicate or like, you know

[00:22:12] Follow a relationship. So you have to kind of learn how to what works romantically for the I'm glad you said because I think That's really somewhere. I had to learn Navigating, you know different relationships for sure. I'm glad you said that I was in so prior to

[00:22:29] All my relationships leading up to the last one that I was in I was always told I'm to solution base. I don't hear them out. I don't Listen to their emotions. I don't twin they wanna uh, oh, that's what they tell

[00:22:44] They say listen, you're too quick to solve the problem instead of hearing me out Right, so I said yo, I heard this my whole dating life and I get in the last one, right? Will be a little bit more emotional. I'm a I'm a tent to your knees

[00:23:01] Shorty was a whole Yo, there was one time I'm expressing myself. I want to hear her express herself She literally said I probably could search in my phone the exact word. She said yo, what's the solution here? Oh shit And I usually lead with that right

[00:23:27] So that that is true what that that is something that I had to learn that you don't uh Whatever the same II and what's good for the goose ain't good for the gander. There you go. Damn. Good job That's what I was looking for

[00:23:41] Because I'm thinking I bet be more emotional Listen to our needs talk about what makes how you feel Did it apply? Yeah, it works one person. Yeah. Yeah. So what about what about you squirrels? talking to the mic

[00:24:00] What you have the uh, what was something that a relationship I don't you know, oh You guys Yeah Everything has to be on my time and then that's bad. Mmm, and I really have to be on my terms and that's bad Mmm. Oh, yeah, that's yeah. Yeah Yeah

[00:24:22] Is that something how do you how do you rectify that? Well, what were you taught like to improve that? Yeah, if she didn't teach you would you teach yourself? I ain't learn shit yet

[00:24:31] He's still working. Do you see that as a long-term problem that you're gonna have to fix? Oh, you're not you don't want to fix that or you're just gonna hope that you find somebody who just roll with whatever you say the latter I Respect

[00:24:48] Before right now, you know as many men are I'm a survivor. Mm-hmm. So for right now, is that an excuse? It is excuse fuck you, but you know, I'm not accepting of certain things right now Where am I and what I have to do?

[00:25:04] I have to be on the go things have to be had to fit into my life Mmm, I'm not in a position where I can say, okay, you know, I could welcome certain things tomorrow soon until I'm in that space

[00:25:16] Where I'm a little bit more comfortable and I'm like less hustle. Mm-hmm You have to fit in where you fit in Do you think you'll ever get to that space cuz you're you you're somebody that like once you check off

[00:25:28] Something on your list you add it right back you add so you check off say you have five things Right and you checked off three by the time you get to relax and just only focus on the two You just added three more things. Um Um

[00:25:43] Let's see what the future holds I respect that quantity. What about you? What did you have to what were you taught about yourself? So I'll say a few things honestly First Me too. Yeah me too. Same me too Wow

[00:26:01] I'm easily irritated but it does take me it doesn't take me as well. I'm lying It does take me like a day or two to get over something to hang on what it is Okay, okay certain things yeah, it don't matter I could just

[00:26:16] Do whatever and be okay, and the certain thing is like not I really got me tight No, I'm really just in my but do you sorry to do you express that though? No, yeah expresses

[00:26:25] So the thing with me and my girl now is she's she we have talk about it We have this joke called pivot right? She's easily one to just be like, whatever What's next and I'm just like nah what just happened. I'm tight. Nothing can move

[00:26:41] So I'm learning her ways and she's learning some of mine because some things aren't necessarily it doesn't need to last that long So I want to ask I want to ask all of us a question those who say who said we are easily irritated

[00:26:55] How do we control our irritation where our girl doesn't feel like she's the one irritating us I'm so forgot about this random thing. I saw sometimes Twitter is okay. Sorry, this one thing

[00:27:10] Just remembering like, you know, you're not my enemy right now. I'm mad at something. I'm not mad But if you're getting me tight, I'm gonna let you know just give me a second. Hey, let me go

[00:27:20] I gotta make a call makeup. I'll do something. I have a call real quick I'll just go take a deep breath and come back. Mm-hmm, whatever but if I know it's not her I'll just remove myself What if it is her? How do we how do we?

[00:27:33] How do we? Help to Have disagreements with our partner in a healthy fashion where They don't feel less of a partner to us, but we still get our shit off

[00:27:48] I know that's a total task because we dealing with women keeping you keeping your voice and your tone respectful. That's one thing Yeah, I don't yell what is respectful is respectful monotone cuz I get blacked on for that. Well, that's how you talk nigga. That's Junk

[00:28:03] You think it sounds like you don't care that sounds like Tone is like I'm son in you It's like you're like your model tone is like you're not emotional about it. I used to be also straight not your line I like not your life people

[00:28:22] So if that's my tone on a regular base it is and then and then we get into argument That's still my tone. I think she just she's expecting more out of you

[00:28:31] Let me ask you a question right when you're in these situations, right? You take a second to think correct You talk a little slower When do you talk a little slower in the models on voice was it slow down in cadence slow down it does

[00:28:48] Get some crazy so I'll talk a little slower. I'll talk a little bit more In the mic y'all I'll speak a bit more clearer a bit slower

[00:28:56] But not like I'm son of you slow or more so just to let me not get out of my tone or get beside myself Yeah, I totally understand But where I think you're wrong Yes See in my thing in that situation I'm thinking I'm doing the right now

[00:29:30] I'm calm. I want to show you that I'm gonna tell you bro. You be pissed Well, you do a lot of things that piss me off Like for example last week. I told Don yo when you thumbs up. Yeah, my message. Oh

[00:29:44] You literally did it the next message I told you why I did that though I Express that I didn't like it and I did it and not cuz I feel like you don't care about my family

[00:29:56] But I think about is I communicated and now I reply a little bit more Now you still do it. I still do I'm still gonna put but I reply though. I'll put a ha ha ha If we be a real LA get over

[00:30:11] Tell that to your girl, you know, this is who I am get over that shit No, because that that means you know, you're not willing to grow. Yes, so you're not willing to grow in our but my thing

[00:30:19] I'm I say what was the building today brother? I'm our pie and I let you know like yo sometimes I don't fight talking like don't fucking zooms. I'm fucking annoyed talking

[00:30:29] So what if this is what if this one thing that she doesn't like is something you worked hard to become? Well, you work hard to change in yourself. So let's say I don't know when you get mad You just want to walk away or you want to talk?

[00:30:43] She don't like it whatsoever But you've been through so many situations where you've blown up and many words something you worked on to me reverse that What do you do then? So her nah, you just gotta take yeah, you got out

[00:30:54] You got a way to that or you got it. You got to be careful how you how you phrase that sir? I would say Give me a few minutes a cool. Oh, no. No, no, I would explain babe in the past babe. I've realized that my

[00:31:10] We got the power You know babe listen in the past I've found myself overreacted in intense situations so Before I make any mistake that I am NOT proud of not saying that I'm gonna hurt you

[00:31:26] I just don't want to do anything out of my character. So I need a moment to step away I'm not stepping away from you. I'm not stepping away from the situation

[00:31:33] I just need a moment to regroup so I could be the best my best self going forward in this Should be realistic We're just saying is right you allow me the space to calm down And I would I would I am NOT saying that I'm avoiding the situation

[00:31:58] I'm going to come back to it. I just want cool ads to prevent both you said in your past When you try to do that, no, I was successful Mm-hmm I have a suggestion. I think what everything that he just said is what should be said

[00:32:11] It's right and he should be she should say it when there's no conflict at all Regular conversation you let her know when you got that in bliss

[00:32:17] I know when I be going out when I used to be going through probably for x y x y x y Z and then after that I learned that I should do this So if we ever are in a situation like that Mm-hmm

[00:32:29] Don't be alarmed by my reaction because I know myself if you tell her that in a space where there is no conflict When conflict does arise and you do that she knows. Oh shit. I bet she has to remember that though

[00:32:40] She does and that's her job because we're We're both in a heated moment Fucking think about with something that we talked about eight years ago But when you when you when your brain clicks like oh, he did tell me that's how he reacted cuz XYZ

[00:32:52] Then she had to sit and eat now. She What about her you guys are the heated moment? What about her heat? Okay what if she needs to kind of blow up the steam perspective and you kind of got it just like let her blow some steam off

[00:33:04] It didn't kind of go into it. Oh, yeah Like so you like you're hot, you know, I mean you're hot, you know, some people they're hot they gotta punch something They gotta scream. They gotta yell

[00:33:23] But I'm like, you know how some people have to release right what if you walking away stops her from releasing And now she's bottled up and now she feels like you left her a high point

[00:33:34] It's her release healthy. Yeah, it's about to be it's not for individual. It's for the relationship As well, right, you know keep it respectful that you guys find a mutual release point

[00:33:47] Yeah, that's what has to be done because at the end of the day you can walk away from something and now she's like The fuck like you're walking away and I gotta get this off. I gotta say what I gotta say. You're not letting me communicate

[00:33:58] No, where's the middle ground for you? Where is the middle? Okay Bet you got it. That goes to my second point have how often or have you ever? Had maybe it's me

[00:34:17] Like I can't be it can't be all of them. It's always like all these women I've dated and I'm not Married or whatever. It's not always me though. How have y'all ever had? Maybe it's me What is the the thing that makes you say it's me

[00:34:38] I'm the common denominator in my life experience. So for example Me and Quan he said we're both We both get irritated really fast So maybe the meat is my level of irritation and how I show it. What is it for you?

[00:34:57] The thing that makes it saves me yeah I'm quick to shut down. Okay, I think me and Donna's twins bro, cuz I that shit that shit makes me feel so great Think about it though It feels good though. I got like we always say bro. It feels good

[00:35:14] But being in an isolated space, but it doesn't help it doesn't help like look how we acting right now We're all smiling. We don't know what's going on inside, but we're all smiling. We're having a good time You're around your community, bro. You feel a little better, bro

[00:35:25] The lady supposed to make you feel better you say space bro, you shouldn't in conflict I think it's similar to what we were just talking about. Maybe maybe I don't go as far as like walking away but literally I Feel like I need to isolate

[00:35:40] Before I explode I wouldn't okay, so that's that I understand the isolating part I wouldn't isolate too much like I can't go to sleep Knowing now I'm upset with my lady I Was gonna record him walking like George Jefferson

[00:36:04] We check my fucking email they can make me sure yeah You really believe that Going to sleep. We can't go to sleep unless we um, we cool each other change that one. I like

[00:36:15] That's really you like be honest. I know if I never used to be like that My last relationship made me like a bright on front anything happen. I can't go to sleep like mad at my shorty, bro

[00:36:23] I just didn't like that anything could happen at night anything could happen in the morning Like I don't want to so question right? So let's say this is a situation that gets you that We're all human. Not everything is gonna be sold in a day

[00:36:33] So what if you like really mad at something right? Are you gonna lie and be like, we're good No, we're not we're not good, but I don't want to be as heated as the argument first started You get into arguments

[00:36:46] Hang on front bro. I know front cuz I'm gonna twist and turn I'm not gonna be able to sleep It really is me What I can tell you boy after whooping is a you get a good nap

[00:37:03] But I can't I can't sleep like upset bro, cuz I'm gonna keep tossing the turn in my anxiety, bro I'm not gonna let me go to sleep, bro I know that sounds like romantic but not my palpitation. I go and go to sleep

[00:37:14] Question so you're not gonna you know, you want to make sure everything's level before you guys go to bed Yeah, it doesn't have to be like perfect, but I just don't what if it's hurtful You know what's crazy? I like I like what this is going right?

[00:37:28] This I was gonna make this a separate episode, but I might as well add it right The taste of my own medicine made me realize yo, I need to change my ways. Oh damn because prior to that

[00:37:42] Like just like Quani. I'm going to sleep one thing about LaShawn No, if he tired how many yards it take for me to leave Come on 815 LaShawn won't sleep. So if we arguing you you argue with yourself, I'm a fall asleep cool, I

[00:38:13] Tasted my own medicine of the silent treatment That whipped me into shape I dealt with a woman who was cold bro Cold and prior to that prior to that

[00:38:26] I used to do the silent treatment all the time because you you you yapping but I need to block the noise out and and And I need my own space I'm here. I'm here Hey, and I'm not a triple text. I'm not a double text. I'm quadruple

[00:38:44] Paragraph you'll hear me talking to you. No response. Why are you so fucking cold? When I dealt with her I say yo never again no more cuz that the taste of my own medicine of dealing with Hey, you know what's crazy?

[00:39:03] She wasn't even the doctor who prescribed it. So all the people that I've been given This medicine to of the silent treatment it wasn't even dished back by them. It was somebody else another example, I Hate it

[00:39:18] I told this story before how I realized I needed to apologize to Elizabeth because Elizabeth used to pull up to my crib and Try to talk it out Never used to open the door crazy, right I Did it once?

[00:39:33] Pulled up shorty crickets. I'm a fight for my relationship. No, we won't talk it out. So he kisses After the second night I said nah not in this neighborhood people gonna think I'm Trying to break in his bed, I realized

[00:39:50] That shit made me realize like okay, and you know what's crazy The way her house was set up. I'm outside. She could look through her window. It is me You can't a fucking dog out Yo open the door

[00:40:06] She won't open the door. I said that's the last time I will ever do some shit like that So tasting your own medicine sometimes make you realize then the shit that I've I can't take what I've been dishing out

[00:40:19] Yes, she did. She did that she one time. She was like, hmm. I said, that's a you'll just upset me. She said Okay I think you got it. That's the Virgo shit, man

[00:40:37] What medicine have y'all tasted of your home that y'all used to dish out that you realize yo now I can't country Have you ever dated a woman who shut who shuts down?

[00:40:52] Yeah, just not like me oh but not to that level but how did her shutdown make you feel Okay But no, you know could you mentioned this earlier to write how you can't sleep nigga like me

[00:41:13] I feel like I have to sleep once I turn my body off. I don't feel the emotion. Mm-hmm Like um, and I hope that I wake up in a better space and then I'm clear about nigga sleeping through their problems Sometimes you need a nap

[00:41:28] I think it's a rent do man. I'm taking that In the mic in the mic I was quick to burn bridges at one point They really care like if we argue like I don't know from my thing is I decide on a mind if I don't see you

[00:41:42] I have to talk to you. Yeah, you've been heavy on that Somebody did it to you and it hurt Or you realize maybe I shouldn't do this so much It did hurt but it was more so like you said like you're getting fed your own medicine

[00:41:57] It was like oh, this is what it feels like to be on the receiving. Why so easily detached? Oh, I'm you know, I'm crazy I'm not it really depends on the on the arm For me. I'm like a principal guy like it's more so a principle thing

[00:42:09] But I'm not doing that to you then why are you doing that or if some shit just don't make sense? You you might just not be there They can say you delayed But yes, I've had to learn I'm still quick to cut a bridge Oh

[00:42:26] but I've had to learn to have more discernment on who and is it even appropriate because like you said Like I said, I get irritated quick certain shit. Don't be that deep. So I that's I have to

[00:42:35] Do you believe in the theory that we are more gentle gentler with our boys than we are with our girl? Not more gentle with y'all Like we're more like I gotta be more protective of my son. I don't know so like but more gentle my daughter

[00:42:52] No, not not parenting wise I'm talking about friend friends and Lover, okay that women would say yo when where we treat our boys Better than we treat our girl. I treat all the are great God, I actually definitely said to chop in that rate. Wow

[00:43:11] that wouldn't feel like I would like respectfully like I Fuck out my tool. Yeah, my tool she said there was one time I'm stressed all over It was one time. I'm in her crib. I'm tired, bro. I'm fucking

[00:43:32] Now not even that Joe called me or something like I need you type shit. I'm exhausted Got up Joe say you need me. All right. He loves me guys cool

[00:43:41] Don't do that too often cool, right and then I think the following weekend I was just as tight if not more time Babe I want to do this Fucking cold Joe called you rain needed a music video

[00:44:03] You got time for every fucking body. Well for me, it's like Damn but like you in my mind. Here's my here's my here was my psyche that Here's my psyche right? Yeah, I laugh because they'll probably know what I'm talking about. I'm just here. Here's my psyche

[00:44:21] She see me on a day-to-day So, you know how tired I am Joe called me not knowing how tired I am at all, but Joe Needed I feel like because you see me and my level of fatigue you should be a little bit more understanding

[00:44:38] right, but in that moment back to the top of the pod I Wasn't teachable in that moment cuz I'm sitting here saying yo, you should understand. I'm tired I fly six days out the week only got one day off

[00:44:52] Essentially and even that I'm in church for majority of the day got to come home edit this that in the third It's not that I don't have time for you. I'm just want time for myself to recover

[00:45:02] She's telling me yo, I want you in this busy schedule where all it took was cultural to say Oh, can you come through real quick and do this for me? Find that same energy that you have for Joe for me now You had I had it too

[00:45:26] But here's where I realized I'm not teachable because after that shit calmed down and maybe days passed It hit me again. I was like damn she's right But in that moment, I don't allow myself to be coached like babe I feel like she coming at me

[00:45:44] And maybe she's not maybe she was but either way a couple of something either way something passed That made me realize I Could see that I could work on that and what I need to work on is

[00:46:01] Seeing that or realizing that in the moment instead of having that delay because I feel like that delay Will eventually cause the downfall of a relationship So I need to work on

[00:46:14] Taking my pride and ego out of those teachable moments when my girl is trying to teach me how to love her Or make her feel seen in

[00:46:24] Those moments where I don't ever have to worry about my shorty saying she don't feel seen by me. So I'm working on it. I think for me though relationship wise off gate off the jump

[00:46:39] I don't even you know, I am a person who straight-up tell people how to love me You don't got to worry about it. I give you the manual the book here

[00:46:47] It is like the first day. I don't want you to assume how to love me. This is what I like This is what I don't like. I like when you do it like this. I don't like when you do it like that swallow

[00:47:01] Cuddle me don't you we wasn't talking about Like in the mood but not for I Let people know how to love me you don't never gotta figure it out this ain't gonna be an uphill battle

[00:47:18] This is what I like. I'm not a fan of this. I'm not a fan of that. So you all never gotta worry I think the best relationships are the ones where you tell your person how you want to love them because we're not mind readers

[00:47:31] And if I was at a bad two years ago, what if you don't necessarily know how you want to be loved? Is the end I think that people do deal with that, you know, that's funny You say that cuz that goes into my next I promise you

[00:47:46] Promise you I promise you to get LA with the crossover episodes is crazy But now I wanted an answer. He over here like I gotta wait seven days now, but we could we could talk about that. But uh Let's save that for next week. No doubt

[00:48:01] Let's keep let's keep them engaged and want to come back for more and see but we could talk about that. No problem Well, I'll say thank you guys for showing up again. Mm-hmm, and I'm another great episode and um like before

[00:48:14] I'm a recovery. So, um, that was a classic episode. That's gonna always go back to that recovery episode for sure Yeah, no, that was definitely I get back to doing that and telling people where they should go back to turn episodes

[00:48:25] Sure, we got a whole back catalog bro start from episode one start. Yeah start from episode one Yeah, not a whole conversation about somebody. Oh you guys growing so much. I was like, um, oh Yeah, yeah, that's the purpose of that. That's the purpose of that

[00:48:39] It's a lot of heat in the 150s and 160s and 170s to me that was a crazy Only thing I need you to do don't listen to the Valentine's day one Which one the first one this no, that was a classic episode

[00:48:52] That was a classic. That's when I was coming to come to the fucking pod lit Yeah, but then you see the growth. Yeah, that was Don Julio piece That was definitely Don Julio because she was definitely Spanish around that time. All right No, that was me

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