Episode 270: Fragility Of Life

[00:00:00] Alright Bill, You feeling a little tired? You feel like you need a little breath? Ahhhh I will see you I'm gonna lie to you bro Skrillz addicted to that shit now, it's over Alright, I'm ready Let do it, it's yours He's a content whore, look at him

[00:00:16] He's recording himself doing stuff Nigga, bussy out there You got a fat front man Gotta put it all out there sometimes Nigga, what Skrillz lack in the back, he pack in the cab You gotta pop out and show them

[00:00:29] Oh man, you ready to go over there ladies and gentlemen This is Whats A Good Guy, I'm Don Peasley here Alongside of LaShawn It's another beautiful day here at NYC Summertime, Summertime, Summertime I tell you, I told you all something Walking outside with no shirt on now

[00:00:43] You see the thighs, it's a problem You and Skrillz Big outside So you know what's going on But it's great to be here, great to be around the fellas Man, I miss you guys I miss you too Facts What's going on LA? Tired

[00:01:03] When are we all not tired? That's the problem bro I wanna be restful But I'm tired, you know, Rhett do Rhett is due I feel like everything Everything goes like yo You could do this, nah Rhett do Nigga, like the first time I real quick

[00:01:21] It do, it do It do, but I come last People trying to figure out why he just go there every time What's going on brother? Nothing much Just enjoying the new space, you know Trying to put together my home The way I see fit

[00:01:39] I heard you got, you purchased something That's gonna change the game My favorite purchase thus far is my towel warmer For the people that just don't know what that entails Like what's that for? So I make sure, you know Before I go in the shower

[00:01:55] I like to place my towel My nice towel In the towel warmer So when I come out it's nice and warm It gives me that spa feel And my biggest anticipation Is changing the game Okay, we're gonna just leave that there then, huh?

[00:02:11] No, the warm rag is gonna turn into a whole new different That warm rag is gonna be different Should I get one out the closet? Nah, don't worry about it I'm just waiting for it Nah, just put it in there Let it heat up

[00:02:25] So you get a, you know Luxury sex My bed should be coming this weekend I look forward to that I got a bunch of sheets ready That sounded crazy You ain't go for it, you got a sick mind I got myself some throw pillows

[00:02:43] A throw sheet, you know You can turn your crib into a hotel Nah, you know what it is? I want when a woman comes into the house She wanna, you got a girl living here? Nah, I just got good taste, sweetheart

[00:02:57] This ain't that regular shit you're used to Niggas with the red and black Checkerboard shit With the fucking LEDs on You shady, nigga I think Squirrels got LEDs I don't got no LEDs She walk in, ain't nothing in there Nah, this not that

[00:03:15] This not that, this something real nice And yeah, you be in hotels long enough You kinda like, oh nah, I like this I like this Yeah, so I painted my bedroom black You know I got a nice bed coming in From Josh and Main King size bed

[00:03:33] Talk about dark up the place I ain't mad at you, brother Lights out, though I think about LA that fuck with me The nigga said, yeah, I got a couple little air mattress California king If I'm gonna sleep on an air mattress I gotta make sure it's nice

[00:03:51] It take you three minutes to get up the air mattress He gotta roll out of it That's a big air mattress That shit don't inflate, though It don't inflate, though Nah, you just plug it in I said that shit just don't inflate fast, that's what I mean

[00:04:05] Oh, it took a minute If I'm gonna sleep on a I don't even like that He feel sad I'm on an air mattress, bro In your own apartment Yeah, but it's an air mattress I can't have nobody see me like that It's the process, bro Take a picture

[00:04:25] This guy blow up bed I swear, I ain't bougie The one that'll do it on an air mattress She's the keeper Or she from Brownsville I'm sorry I'm sorry Oh my god But yeah Yeah, so just getting used to that I do wanna get to a point

[00:04:47] Where I could enjoy staying home But that'll come over time But we got some questions Shout out to you That was pretty quick, too Nah, they came quick with it The first question we got Is from BossT233 BossT233 She said How do you stay grounded In your faith

[00:05:15] As you navigate the storms of your life And she hit us with a double question She hit us with two questions Is it important for you And your partner to share the same faith What would that look like for you That's actually a good question

[00:05:31] That's a good question I'll start with the last question That has become really, really Important to me In these last couple of years That we share the same faith I think that's the first sign of us being Equally yoked And plus it'll avoid all challenges in the future

[00:05:49] As far as raising a child I think the double religion Can confuse one And it can cause turmoil On how we're gonna raise the kid What views Food, things of that nature I feel like as I got older Certain conversations Must be important And

[00:06:13] As crazy as it sounds Who takes their faith more seriously So just because you grew up Baptist And you don't practice anything of the sort I'm not, I don't think that's fair You're doing it for what You know what I'm saying

[00:06:29] Where as I go to church every week I'm faithfully in my faith I practice my faith more than you Just because you grew up that way That doesn't mean that's who you are now You can transition As we get older you make your own choices

[00:06:43] I also don't want to force Religion on my child either Cause it was forced on me And I didn't fuck with that shit It's kinda like you pushed away I mean you got back to him Yeah I found him on your own Technically

[00:06:59] Technically I found him through vagina Yo Cause I was dating I was gonna make the joke actually But I stopped myself I've seen a Muslim woman And a Christian man The ultimate thing That always comes down to is the child Yeah So to avoid all conflict

[00:07:21] I don't do it I wouldn't object it though Why You don't know who your partner is gonna be though You don't know Imagine the woman of your dreams is Muslim She can't be Why not But she respects your religion to the point Is she dropping her flag

[00:07:41] That's why she dropped the set Nigga said dropping the hijab is crazy It's insane Now this is an interesting perspective Cause my brother He would be a perfect example of this conversation Obviously he was raised Christian He converted to Islam I wanna believe at 17 or 18

[00:08:01] But he raised his child As a Christian Because of just the family dynamic I think he didn't Force Islam on my nephew Because He was just knew that He was the one Or the few out of the family that was Islamic It's a strict religion

[00:08:21] Yeah I think he understood that I didn't convert My sister didn't convert My parents still didn't convert Nor we should enjoy Christmas We should wanna Gift him on Christmas And not be an issue Have y'all watched Suits Nah I never watched Of course I watched Suits

[00:08:43] You know what I'm talking about right What's his name, not Louis He was getting married to Shorty Yes yes yes and that whole big thing Yes Chris Put me on cause I don't know So Louis and his He adored this woman Loved her Bent over backwards Until

[00:09:05] Cause she didn't want kids right Nah she didn't want kids He wanted a child So she was like okay I'll give you a child Cool but then they were talking about Then she got pregnant And then all of a sudden And he felt like

[00:09:21] Cause she was like yo My child is going to have a Christmas He grew up Jewish And his heart broke because It was kind of a linear thing You know all The male, all the men in his family All grew up Jewish They all participated in something

[00:09:39] I can't remember what it was but it was big The Bar Mitzvah thing Not even that Say it was like for us PSAL But it was something for Jewish kids And he wanted his son to partake in that Because his father did it

[00:09:53] So now he felt like damn All of that is broken And he was devastated To the point where she was like we ain't getting married No more we can have the baby But we're not going to do this So avoid all conflict I'm not doing that bro

[00:10:09] So yeah So that's that part And her first question was How do you stay grounded in your faith As you navigate the storms of life Which is interesting I like how life works Because I actually wrote this episode last night While I was working my flight from LAX

[00:10:27] No bad dream though So good flight It's called The Fragility of Life And I think Well this episode is going to come out on Monday So it's going to be a little bit different But I'm going to say So this episode is going to come out on Monday

[00:10:45] So it's kind of new But over this last week This last week has been really really heavy Socially As you see I think I saw two babies Or two young children pass Somebody in a Social group passed And A girl was missing and then she was found

[00:11:07] And then I'm not going to talk too much On her situation because She's going through a lot so that's that But it kind of was like A heavy moment Like this whole week And granted we recorded on a Wednesday And that shit only happened on Monday So

[00:11:25] You know first I want to say rest in peace To everybody That lost their life this week And then at the same time You know somebody loses their life It was my boy Cory birthday this week It was YP's birthday this week

[00:11:41] And it was Imani's birthday this week And I'm like damn Life You really see the balance of Somebody just lost their life And somebody's celebrating their life You know what I'm saying At the same time I'm scrolling and I'm seeing YP Having a grand old time

[00:12:01] And then the next story And then the next story Is a baby And then the next story is a little boy I'm like God damn You gotta sign out after that And you know what sucks for me It's not that like I don't feel like I'm losing empathy

[00:12:21] I just feel like I'm so numb to it It's not that I don't feel bad I think seeing it all together Made me feel sad You know what it is though Remember during the pandemic bro we were seeing mad shit happen And we became numb to it

[00:12:37] Like oh okay that's happening again Even with social media bro With the YouTube and all this other stuff We've seen people get shot People get stabbed We've seen so much shit through social media It's like alright bro We had to learn how to just sign off

[00:12:53] Keep your faith through that So how do you stay grounded In your faith while you navigate the storm I don't know Certain storms are good Do they teach you a lesson Nah I mean like There's certain places Where you're in a drought in life

[00:13:13] Where you kinda need the rain Because nothing's growing You know so There are good storms But it's hindsight Like when you in the storm You're not being like Yo I'm glad it's storming But when it's over And you see what kinda grows from it

[00:13:33] But you just gotta have the mindset You gotta stay through it And I know that's kinda Uh How do you say that to a person that just lost Yeah I don't know I don't know When you see like somebody lose a kid

[00:13:51] I don't know what you say to them I don't know what you say to them Cause that shit made me cry Yo damn what if that was Manny My whole life would've Bro the only thing you can say is yo I'm here for you I'm here for you

[00:14:05] That's literally it Yeah that shit is devastating At one point that was a fair amount of having children We did an episode about it Like yo like I kinda passed up on being a father Cause I'm like god damn What if I go before them

[00:14:21] No I mean what if I gotta I gotta bury a kid That thought alone stopped me from You know wanting to be a father at that moment Cause you didn't see marriages Especially during the pandemic When the whole Black Lives Matter movement was going on

[00:14:35] And you just seen like Young adults And kids getting killed And I'm like damn nah And all these school shoot ins There's a lot of variables man Yeah so I was like So that kinda was like Nah I don't wanna have kids

[00:14:53] Cause I don't wanna bring somebody into this world And this world ain't safe So that was one of my You don't wanna shelter them That too cause when you shelter them You think you protecting them But you kinda crippling them at the same time

[00:15:07] They don't know what the outside world really is Yeah and that's a tough adjustment Being a kid that's inside And then trying to learn outside so late That's like a house dog Finally going outside Yeah And they bougie Them house dogs when they go outside

[00:15:27] To see other dogs You can literally see them frown upon Why you smell like that? Why you smell like that? So that's perspective But you may think the outside dog Is having the time of their lives So you stay grounded by just Knowing that there's something better coming

[00:15:45] You gotta believe in something right Happy Pride man shout out to Frank Ocean Shout out to all the creators But uh nah you gotta I just you have to It's not easy though Especially like I don't wanna come off a hypocrite Like our last episode

[00:16:03] Somebody would be like Oh LA that's a fine tune You changed from one week later but that's life right But When you go through that storm You also gotta find safety too You know cause certain Like Florida They storm heaven You gotta get the right house You know

[00:16:27] You gotta be structured you know You gotta have some sort of Foundation You gotta have some sort of foundation You gotta need Whether it's your faith Right you gotta be strong in your faith You gotta have a strong community You gotta have strong support And you gotta

[00:16:49] You gotta have somebody which Kind of goes to Did y'all see Shorty that So and so everybody thought was missing Yeah I know her Oh you know her Alright so since you know her we gonna show her some grace But one of the things that she said

[00:17:05] Out of the madness Was she didn't feel seen And um Those are her feelings Oh she spoke Cause I didn't follow the story that much Like I saw them post it I was like I hope they find her And then I kind of wonder about my day

[00:17:21] Nah she kind of came out And said I'm sorry for The confusion I'm not missing Blah blah blah but then she went on a rant Not a rant let me use my words A little bit nicer She explained Her mind state on why She disappeared

[00:17:39] So that was a okay I need somebody to explain to me I didn't see any of this But we not gonna use this platform So essentially I feel like What I gathered was she needed Time for herself because she Didn't feel love from anybody So she laid low

[00:17:59] But the only person that she really At the time she Apologized to was the person She was with so imagine we all Out and LA just go Like where the fuck did LaShawn go And now all of y'all Are posting like yo LA's missing

[00:18:15] Because I just dipped off without saying anything But there are times I've been places with a room full Of people and felt alone So I get it But she was like You know she didn't feel seen or she Hasn't felt seen in a while And from that perspective

[00:18:35] Whatever storm she was going through Maybe she felt like she didn't have anybody To Open to that those are her words Not mine because I would Feel some type of way if I felt Like I was an active participant in her life And she said that

[00:18:51] So but look you Can still be active in somebody's life and it Could be what they're dealing with internally The way they receive things so yeah I can understand You know so with her So with that Whatever storm she was weathering I don't she didn't

[00:19:09] She felt so one of the things she pointed Out Which I think I didn't agree With but I Received that was She has said something to the extent Of I haven't heard from nobody in a while and the Many I think I'm missing everybody blowing on my

[00:19:27] Phone but What I will say is With life being so Fragile we all got our own shit And because we're Dealing with our own shit doesn't Mean that I don't care about your shit I just gotta manage Mine and my plate is so heavy Right now that

[00:19:47] I'm sorry if Me dealing with my stuff made You feel like I was a bit of you You know and That's this Thing about life where it's like You constantly juggling Multiple things Your finances your mental I want you to do that to something for bro

[00:20:07] Something's gonna fall short come on Yeah I think about that shit all the time Like I'll be like damn I have not spoken My goddaughter in a month Yeah and it's Not because I don't love her yeah Yeah but it will Hurt if we talk about just out

[00:20:23] Right yeah if just outside culture you Don't love me no more yeah that shit Will hurt but it's like yo you Not that you don't understand because You're a kid I don't want you to understand But at the same point same thing with Manny like

[00:20:37] Do I speak to Manny as much as I would like To no would I like to Speak to him every day of course but Like I got mad shit to Juggle right now not that you the least of my Priorities but

[00:20:49] And not that I feel like I could go back to you when I'm ready but I know that I'm trying To set up my life where I can take on your burden when it's time To but the thing about me

[00:21:01] The thing about me I speak for Manny he's not Somebody you have to hover over right now Yeah interesting enough You said that right We don't really do social Commentary but I saw this therapy Shit with his man and His woman was in therapy together

[00:21:17] And it was a marriage Counseling oh I skipped That video okay now you should have watched It because that's why I don't like Twitter That's why I don't like Twitter because Twitter is so much Content like that is not that it's so much content I don't think there's

[00:21:33] Enough objective listening Before objective respond If you would have said that to me I would have watched it But because I saw it in the So what he so they was talking about His Active participant role In his child's life And he was saying like yo

[00:21:51] The kid is young I think There's a son if I'm not mistaken the kid is Raising a son And He feels like he don't gotta be there For him Until he's like eight because That's when he feel like He'll be he can Resonate with him more right

[00:22:11] Now everybody's like yo that's Some dumb ass shit but then He further explains That's where his father left him And then that's when he was Going through the development stages where he felt Like he needed his father so The first couple of years One through seven was Gucci

[00:22:29] But he was primarily with his mom but now He's going through his male stuff probably His dick getting hard the first time he got a First crush this that and third what I do My dad's not there So that's when he feel like I this is

[00:22:41] What I'm gonna be there but more So you don't have To agree with somebody but If you take the time to Understand their perspective Granted I can understand why people think that was Bullshit but at the same time that's His trauma he got to unlearn

[00:22:59] He's in therapy that's what he's there for Now granted his significant Others her face was kind of Screwed up rightfully so she Probably sick of the shit she doing a heavy burden But that That's the purpose of Therapy like they gotta go through that

[00:23:15] Together learn everything you know And then when you take your emotions out of it Or objective You don't have to agree with it But I can understand why you think like that All right now we can I thought that was a good session because you got

[00:23:29] To the root of the problem Now we gotta unlearn this There's hope for that And the same thing with When you go through the storm When you trying to figure out what this storm Is for you get to the root Of the storm

[00:23:45] All right you know where to start The worst storms are where you don't Know how to you just gotta It just gotta pass And those are the storms that is not in your control Like death You know what I'm saying we all leave the house

[00:23:59] Thinking the goal is to always make it back home But one day we not Gonna make it back home and that might Not be in our control Some bullshit may happen I get on a plane Every day and be like I just hope this land Safe because

[00:24:13] Quite frankly this shit not in my control And it's funny that you bring that up right Just like just circling back on what the Young lady was feeling and she Said as your friends I don't know if y'all do this I know LA is

[00:24:25] In the air every day And I don't have that That morbid thought of damn My bro might not make it home today But I should like you know Should I like send you a message every Morning or like yo make sure you get home Can I talk?

[00:24:41] I send a message I don't want to Everybody but do you like you think you require That or anything like that do I require that Dark that's me neither But I appreciate it You're in the sky bro it's like that's a you're

[00:24:55] In a metal fucking yeah I'm gonna Take in I feel like I would be doing more of A disservice if I put that energy into Your brain You don't know what he had but safe travels I don't know you had this week's a travel

[00:25:07] I ain't gonna say you a million times but okay Safe travels my brother I was going through the work It's cool But that's a but that's a level of thoughtfulness That goes into it you know And maybe okay If I was that young lady in that

[00:25:21] Situation I'm like okay I feel seen by Kojo But maybe she was going Through so much Going through so much that she felt Unseen by anybody now That's me from an objective Non Biased standpoint when I first Saw that shit respectfully

[00:25:39] I curse things out I curse you out My first My first thing was oh I'd have cut that person Off dang from the missing Parts of it out not even a missing part With All due respect I don't know if this will

[00:25:53] Ever get back to her I don't know if she listens I don't want to do that but my First thing would be like Yo that's kind of a slap in the face that you're Talking like that Granted like I said we all got our Own shit bro

[00:26:07] So the fact that we all stopped our Own shit to worry About you shows that we do Care about you but sometimes When you in the middle of it you don't see It like that you know so hopefully You calm Down and you

[00:26:23] Kind of you know that's why these Days I used to be a fast Texter to show that you know I'm a fast responder but now If I'm not sure After I press send if that's what I really Wanted to say I don't do it

[00:26:37] I wait till like I Really know what I want to say before I press Send so Yeah life fragile bro I think I think we do need to do a Little bit more of like Loving on Ourselves and loving on your people

[00:26:55] And loving on your people and enjoying You know The good moments but at the same time Nurturing yourself Because This shit ain't promise bro This shit ain't promise this week Really showed me that I'm pretty sure it was me and you that had the conversation

[00:27:13] Like making like we always think about heaven Like yeah making your heaven here First yeah heaven on earth You know what I'm saying like What does that look like What does peace look like to you We all got like a version of heaven that

[00:27:29] Might not be you know It might not be it's just I mean may not be like No I just think Everybody's version of heaven is Is to their own interpretation of what heaven Looks like you know heaven could be The golden roads and the you know

[00:27:45] Gospel singing from sun Up to the sundown Or you reliving all your good memories Yeah facts for me Heaven is a vacation Man I try to like Go far Any place that I see that looks Unbelievable I do my research on how to get there

[00:28:05] Because I feel like that's the beauty of this world Like it's so It's so beautiful out there There's certain countries I've been to where I've never seen water so clear I've never seen food taste so pure People so happy With nothing Third world countries

[00:28:23] And they are happy with the littlest things That I want to trade my place for them Matter of fact Over the weekend was Torian's summer barbecue Shout out to T Beast on the grill Shout out to T man You cooking too much swine for me though brother

[00:28:39] I knew the food was good But shout out to Mo Mo was there Mo took a bite of the ribs and he moaned That barbecue sauce on that pill That nigga Mo moaned But me and Jamesy Jamesy was talking And shout out to Jamesy

[00:28:59] He's a DJ in New York And he was talking about his next step And he said He didn't want to feel like He was continuing the rat race Of chasing the next gig Chasing the next party Like he wanted to feel more fulfilled With life right

[00:29:21] But then he dismissed his problems And he said I'm not saying But somebody out there got it worse than me I hate when people say that Do you Yes because Yes Somebody got it worse than you But you wouldn't trade New York shoes for them

[00:29:41] So what is the point of saying that Okay good point I can't even You know what I'm saying So if I walk like going to California My homelessness looks way worse than ours But I would not want to be homeless You know what I'm saying

[00:29:57] Like their homelessness is eerie at times Like it's fucking scary San Fran, San Diego, California I mean Los Angeles That's a different level of homelessness Their problems are worse than mine But I'm not trading my problems for theirs But also my problems are real too

[00:30:17] I think it's more to say like cherish what you got Be thankful for what you have Right you can be thankful for what you have But still be Overwhelmed with the problems that you do have Because it's still a problem You know what I'm saying

[00:30:31] When we was in second grade That shit was hard until we learned it Right so but when we got to fifth grade Problems are still hard So as you go on in life It's still gonna be This mad problems So I'm not gonna dismiss my problems

[00:30:47] Because somebody got it worse than me I can empathize But I won't dismiss mine Because these shits was real to me So I was saying yo Don't invalidate What's the situation at hand By saying somebody got it worse Because you know why No matter what

[00:31:09] I feel like that you lying to yourself To make yourself feel like Oh this is not No nigga this shit is bothering you I don't give a fuck what it is You taking away my one thing that we have Things can be worse

[00:31:23] But I want things to be better So why don't we say I want things to be better Opposed to saying things can be worse It's like you're tricking your emotion You're tricking your mind You're just affirming yourself There you go You know how I tell niggas

[00:31:41] Keep trying you're like you're playing in a field But it's like you do, you do your best Now Skrills put something in his close friends Which I don't understand why you do that He put something there Anytime Skrillz put something in his close friends And it's not foolishness

[00:31:57] I watch because I feel like Nah I'm not doing that to all of them Nigga started blushing it's crazy I'm trying to help but Nigga said this food is trash Skrills put something in his close friends And it was two guys talking And he was like yo

[00:32:19] I constantly say I am I am this, I am that, I am this Like I am wealthy I am this And he constantly says it because he's constantly affirming himself Whereas Where someone could say oh Things could be worse Nah I want things Things are gonna be better

[00:32:39] I feel like when you When you switch your verbiage on things You kinda shift your mindset On focusing on Facts, how can I make things be better As opposed to me thinking Well damn shit can't get worse I could get into an accident after this

[00:32:55] You know I could lose my phone Ah yeah you cooking You know what I'm saying So when you switch your verbiage But like I said I know this is This is easier said than done Because like I said I wouldn't trade shoes

[00:33:15] With that person who lost their kid This week, I wouldn't I don't know what I would do If Manny passed I just I don't even want to think like that So That storm for them The best thing that his people could be Is his umbrella

[00:33:35] The more umbrellas the better You know And in most funerals You know you go And everybody shows up But eventually everybody go home And everybody gotta go back home to they shit Where they can't dedicate They can't support you how you wanna be supported And then that's

[00:33:55] That's where you need You know That core strength And hope But it's not It's not easy so my heart goes out to all of them Everybody that's Everybody that lost somebody this week Period, that's still morning I was gonna say cause It obviously hit me very close

[00:34:17] Like two out of the three Knowing that I wasn't in the best space coming into the week And I told myself deliberately I'm about to have a great week Boom boom boom I'm like Really? But I'm still trying to fight through And all that stuff Oh yeah

[00:34:39] I'm still fighting through I'm not trying I'm fighting One day at a time That too One day at a time Because cheese on bread bro You can't You only got two hands Yeah And I'm still trying to Fight through And all that stuff But it's okay

[00:35:05] I'm still trying to Fight through And all that shit too And it's okay It's okay to like You know certain storms It's okay to do nothing Or not do anything sorry Excuse my verbiage My English You let things play out a little bit

[00:35:27] You know you don't rush to make certain decisions You just take a deep breath And you like And you just break down the problem that's what I do But as a playmaker and a problem solver How do you not solve that problem You ever sank New York traffic?

[00:35:41] I ain't gonna front Sometimes I go on the shoulder You can't I do all the time I see niggas get locked up for that I'm not doing that bro See that's the hasty decision that Skrillex was talking about You get too angsty And you try to

[00:35:57] Whatever the traffic was You didn't cause it But you want to be extra And go on the shoulder You cause another problem You cause a problem And now that problem delayed you Longer than if you would have just sat in traffic Yeah I ain't gonna front

[00:36:15] I stopped doing the shoulder once I saw somebody get I said if you need to get pulled over I said if you can get caught I said if you need to So yeah sometimes you just gotta relax You ain't caused this We ain't going nowhere

[00:36:29] The worst traffic is though When all of a sudden everybody just start moving You have no idea what caused it But at the same time You got through it And you would be a fool To stop heading to your journey Wondering what the fuck caused this

[00:36:45] You wasn't even that late anyway I'm not gonna lie that was a great example I was in traffic a lot today Yeah sometimes you just can't You just gotta sit through it You gotta let it pass This too shall pass Nah that's a crazy analogy bro

[00:37:01] That was great And I feel like most of us been through traffic I was in traffic today I know I'm not where I was And I'm grateful for that And I gotta remember that Because even today I remember Like me forgetting The pelican at the church

[00:37:23] Would've blew mine Years ago That would've just fucked up my whole mood I would've had to pretend I was in good spirits But first thing is Yo what's the solution here Right to it bro What's the solution here I don't got time to be angry

[00:37:41] I gotta figure out this solution right now It's either back in my crib at Queens I called everybody who had keys to that church Somebody picked up Yo bro is this there He checked for me Bet I'ma send a Uber there Boom and then continue my day

[00:37:57] A little inconvenience Could've been a big inconvenience But it's something I controlled And the biggest thing I controlled in that moment Was my emotions Oh my gosh this guy's preaching man My emotions I controlled that first I controlled that first Because that controls my reaction

[00:38:17] I was about to say how do you Take emotions out of it though I didn't take it out of it I controlled it How did you do that Yeah facts the first thing I did was Well the first thing I did Was not talk down on myself

[00:38:31] Like damn you fucked up So I was gentle with myself Shit happens You didn't talk down on anybody else either You didn't take a nap today That's the reality bro I could've chopped it up Damn man so much things is going on Blah blah blah

[00:38:49] Don't fix this right now But after the situation is now done Look we still started on time You know what I'm saying Something that I thought would've been a huge inconvenience We still started on time So with that being said I control my emotions

[00:39:05] How I'ma react to this And then it's like Yo just do a better job crossing your t's and dotting your i's We can't afford another one of these How do you control your emotions During like a hostile environment Like somebody's talking to you a certain way

[00:39:21] That actually goes to our next episode I'm glad you brought that up But we could touch on that real quick I deal with that a lot that's what I was about to say Sometimes yeah I deal with that a lot Especially at night When somebody's talking hostile

[00:39:37] You dealt with that the other night Someone was yelling at me the other day I did? Yeah said Herb get the fuck in bro The fact that Scribd is cursing at me is crazy Oh nah I mean First thing I do I stop taking things personally

[00:39:55] And then I'm like oh okay I remember why Let's take this side next episode Because it we uh I wrote that That episode was written down In that spot? I thought you said in the spot Nah nah nah I had this episode down for a little bit

[00:40:15] We gotta wait a week for these thoughts Yeah he's right leave him in the cliffhanger Let's do an old episode you been here before But to answer I'm sorry I wanna get your act name again I thought these were anonymous Nah if they don't ask to keep anonymous

[00:40:31] Then we don't keep them anonymous So boss T233 How do you stay grounded in your faith As you navigate through the storm You first attest You figure out what How you You figure out if you caused this storm If you didn't If you did Certain things

[00:40:57] Second chances in life doesn't mean That you get a second opportunity With that situation So for example say Say I caused a storm in my relationship That relationship Doesn't work out I can't get back with that person I then reevaluate the mistakes that I made

[00:41:15] To not make it again To make it again To prepare me for the next storm That I'm a better person than I was before That's just one example Now the storms that you do not cause That you did not cause You stay calm

[00:41:31] You understand that this is gonna pass You don't know when it's gonna pass But because you can't control it Don't let it control you And that's how you stay grounded Cause life is fragile There's gonna be ups There's gonna be downs

[00:41:47] But the best thing that we should do Is just plan for more ups So at least when the down come It don't knock us all the way down Because we were already planning to go up Higher highs, higher lows You know what I mean? Yeah, there you go

[00:42:07] You're not all the way down now That's right Higher highs, high lows Squirrels with his pussy out I'm done looking at your front For the rest of the episode Big ol' poops Oh boy You done here? Cause who hollering? It's summer Tight pussy squirrels deserve nice tings

[00:42:29] Chill, relax yourself Shout out to Crape And shout out to Sondé man Yeah facts, Quanie's in the building Quanie working hard Quanie working so hard he ain't bringing us nothing to eat Or access or whatever You definitely had a homophobic chicken earlier Dirk Problem is crazy

[00:42:49] Dirk Problem is crazy He was eating Chick-fil-A Eating Chick-fil-A and Dirk Problem is crazy But it's also Men's Mental Health Month So we gonna focus on our mental health For most of the content Don't look, ain't nothing you can do It's there baby

[00:43:07] But I just wanna say I love you fellas Love you too You guys help me with my mental health a lot I guess I'll see you guys next week Yeah facts But you already know who it is, Don the camera guy, Don Peasley

[00:43:19] You can follow me at Stay Focus LA on Instagram and Twitter Don't forget to like, comment and subscribe All things What's A Good Guy coming out every Monday At 8am On Whatsagoodguy.com, YouTube And of course your local DSPs Hey now sister, sister that wrote on YouTube

[00:43:33] I appreciate the, we not gonna do the cash app though She said put up the cash app Oh yeah yeah yeah Put it up, put it up That was Becky I got too much pride I never did that for my birthday, I ain't doing it here Yeah bro

[00:43:49] To the men who post their cash app for their birthday I don't know but YP got about $500 Nah I don't think he posted it People just donate, yeah Donations, donations, donations Rich get richer bro You see how much he left his party with Donations, donations

[00:44:05] Shout out to YP man You gotta say your Instagram, what's going on J O underscore guy game Now Skrillion, you know Skrillz on this Venezuela Is it Skrillz with a It's with a K this week now You know I don't get that nigga

[00:44:21] That nigga Kilt, that's what you're gonna do That's the only K Mr. Wavy That's the only Instagram you got? Sparkling only What party we got? This come out Monday So what party we got coming out Oh I'm back, I'm back from my break

[00:44:39] I had a two week break so we had Lost in Paradise on the 15th Then we got Golden Hour on the 16th Then it's a weekly after that so every Sunday we outside You know what I mean Skin flourishing and everything, short shorts Run out Don't worry

[00:44:53] My shit gonna be out next episode We outside Yo til next time God save lives, God is good baby