Episode 268: Casualties of Love

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[00:00:50] We're gonna start this episode with

[00:00:53] Ari

[00:00:54] First and foremost Ari I want to apologize because you did write us April 1st and we're not responding life just caught up

[00:01:01] I'm a I'm gonna just be truthful. I got caught up in life and I definitely forgot about this one

[00:01:07] So my apologies, but we got you and we're gonna give you our

[00:01:12] Truth, you know and try to give you the best advice possible. Hopefully hopefully you still need it

[00:01:17] Yeah, hopefully yeah, cuz she did hit us up and say hey don't forget about me or did you forget about me?

[00:01:22] And I'm sorry blaming on my head not my heart. So let's start

[00:01:28] Morning my name is Ari. I'm currently in a relationship with a man

[00:01:32] It's only been a month in the relationship, but we've dated five to six months and also we were friends for friends for two years

[00:01:40] During the last three-fourths of the updating this man. Let's call him. Lemon drop. That's a crazy

[00:01:48] Let me drop was

[00:01:51] Full on pursuing and courting me. We are no with this power

[00:01:55] We eventually made it official he would stay over my place for a couple of days and vice versa

[00:02:01] there was a trust situation that happened last month and I feel I feel to know when I

[00:02:09] Feel to know feel reassured. He tells me when he's going to a particular place

[00:02:15] Mmm, not everywhere, but just this one spot. I think she meant fail

[00:02:21] Yes, that's probably he failed to reach

[00:02:23] We'll see

[00:02:26] Let's not everywhere but just this one spot now that I set my boundaries he claims I'm clingy in

[00:02:33] Essence you created an environment where trust has been broken and at this time

[00:02:38] The only way for me to feel comfortable is if you let me know as a courtesy

[00:02:43] his response is

[00:02:46] His response is not I don't even tell my mom where I'm going. Oh, yeah

[00:02:53] Yeah

[00:02:56] Help lol. I told him it's more about me than you

[00:03:01] Calling the gurus on what's a good guy?

[00:03:03] Yes, the behind-the-scenes crew to

[00:03:07] Free to ask additional questions for clarification

[00:03:12] Okay, cool so Ari

[00:03:15] He broke your trust

[00:03:17] By going to a particular place. You are not comfortable with him going

[00:03:22] I'm gonna assume cuz you didn't say that someone of his past was at this particular spot

[00:03:33] Or the strip club

[00:03:36] Okay, so if he can admit that he broke her trust by going to this spot

[00:03:40] I don't think she wants him to stop going. She just wants to know where you're going

[00:03:44] I don't see the issue. I like the thing about it at that's really crazy to say y'all into my mother

[00:03:49] I went to my mother. I'm going when you say stuff like that

[00:03:53] It's just sound you do it

[00:03:57] That was what Sean

[00:04:04] 4g my for Ruby my for bro. Oh

[00:04:08] Boy, I didn't know you was gonna say that though. I didn't know you was gonna say what?

[00:04:13] That a person do it dirt

[00:04:16] But we think about but if she just know it her heart now

[00:04:22] Him going to this spot not telling her cause the insecurity or now she's questioning

[00:04:28] She wants reassurance, but he feels like

[00:04:32] Maybe she's doing too much because now he's calling her clingy

[00:04:36] Maybe she's maybe she's

[00:04:39] Texting him. Yeah. Hey when you coming home? Hey what you doing? Hey, how you doing?

[00:04:43] You know you kind of I get his point of view where he doesn't want to feel like he's reported to a p.o

[00:04:51] My girl shouldn't be my p.o

[00:04:53] But you broke if you have a p.o, then you know why you want parole. Yeah, you did something wrong

[00:04:59] There's something wrong and you know what happens you eventually get off parole. Mm-hmm

[00:05:04] But you know when you get off parole you get trusted so that you're gonna do right in society

[00:05:11] So maybe if we're using that same concept

[00:05:15] Yeah, maybe she is a tough parole officer

[00:05:18] But she wants to make sure that her client is gonna be good back in society

[00:05:23] So do your job and reassure your girl?

[00:05:27] if I fucked up

[00:05:29] You gotta you and it's not like she's she according to this because I want to say we only going based off of what somebody

[00:05:36] tells

[00:05:37] If she is saying that she don't mind him going to the spot or whatever it was. So just tell me

[00:05:44] I don't feel like that's a

[00:05:47] Yo, babe, I'm going to make some fun

[00:05:53] No, that means you're in an enjoyable arena with somebody else that you can comfortably say like

[00:06:00] I'm a little curious. How long did they say those together? She's seven months

[00:06:04] Well, they did. All right. So boom day at this April 1st

[00:06:08] They've been they've only been in a relationship for a month so

[00:06:13] But dating for six, but they were dating for six just growing pains, bro. Yeah

[00:06:17] So that's still learning each other like I this is the boundary does the reassurance you need? Yeah, I yeah, I think it's a very early

[00:06:24] minor

[00:06:25] Like I'm like that's too early for me

[00:06:28] Perfect time she's probably biting her tongue before now

[00:06:30] She kind of feels like oh she's a little more entitled to actually who are

[00:06:33] And now he can set his boundaries and she need to respect it

[00:06:36] Yeah, I respect it or retaliate but do you okay? How do you feel about a boundary created based off of your own fault?

[00:06:47] He fucked up the trust by doing what she hasn't said what he did. Yeah. Okay. She just said

[00:06:55] It got a happy ending probably we all also

[00:07:02] I said we're speculating

[00:07:08] Coach are you all hanging happy endings wrong? No, I need to go to the spot

[00:07:24] I think based off of what la-red we were trying we were assuming that he had gone somewhere where there what there might have been

[00:07:31] But also there might not be no but it could be a thing where let's let's go back wanna know

[00:07:38] Hold on. Hold on. Let's let's actually use her word

[00:07:41] Yeah, cuz I think that part confused us a lemon drop was full-on pursuing and courting me

[00:07:45] We eventually made it official right? He would stay over my place for a couple of days and vice versa

[00:07:51] There was a trust situation that happened last month that I feel to know

[00:07:56] Maybe that's the part down below. Yeah, cuz she did say last month that I feel to know to know feel reassured

[00:08:03] He tells me when he goes to a particular place

[00:08:07] Not everywhere, but just this one spot. So whatever this one spot is, right?

[00:08:14] Some yeah, he on bullshit. You go to Boston me on bullshit. You know what happened?

[00:08:25] I

[00:08:37] Gotta Josh a little bit. We gotta have the funnies. Yeah. No, that's what I'm saying

[00:08:41] Cuz I mean when you put it that way, yeah, it could be that cuz she did she she said she doesn't care about every spot

[00:08:48] It's just this one particular spot

[00:08:52] It may be the bartender

[00:08:55] Whatever it is

[00:08:58] He goes in he goes there and he probably wasn't truthful about going there

[00:09:02] And now she probably is curious or why you hit that food. There's something something's afoot

[00:09:10] So the best thing he could do to dissolve this situation

[00:09:17] Because the next step but she gonna pop up at the spot when he did ah

[00:09:21] But if she know he there cuz he don't tell her ah, she'll be like, oh you are telling me yeah, I know you a starlet

[00:09:28] Let me drop. It's easy. I don't know if you listen to this podcast, bro, but um, it's easy to reassure a woman

[00:09:35] But Ari you also have to you know, take his words for what they are

[00:09:38] You know I'm saying if you got a month into a relationship

[00:09:41] These this sounds like a fixable issue if you really want to fix it. So

[00:09:45] Like do that work. Yeah, I gotta do that work. Oh, yeah, and she gotta be uh,

[00:09:50] That's what I think my thing is

[00:09:55] Love it for a man, right?

[00:09:59] I'll find a drink he ordered on the first date

[00:10:05] Funny got something to say you got something to say corn. You got the mic right there brother

[00:10:11] It's a lemon drop

[00:10:15] Steve Wilco

[00:10:17] I could tell where a lemon drop messed up. She said they he's been courting her for six months or something

[00:10:22] Yeah, so he was applying the pressures of habits. Yeah, so if you if you tell her every time that you go into such and such

[00:10:29] Yeah

[00:10:31] You don't off the algorithm

[00:10:43] This could be a good morning text you could not text him

[00:10:46] You could text him at 8 every day the minute you take them at 810

[00:10:54] They want to know

[00:10:56] Me I hate questions. I don't like I don't like being like I'm interrogate old Tom. Yeah, so I make sure I

[00:11:03] Be on point. I started with keep doing it

[00:11:09] All the time yeah, cuz that one day

[00:11:16] You know what I kind of this is not what I was talking my last episode there was uh, I

[00:11:21] won't say I won't say but I was we went to a

[00:11:29] Fuck what happened?

[00:11:31] We went to one of Kojo's parties

[00:11:33] It was the no use of cities ours parties. Yeah, I went to Kojo's party. I'm not doing that

[00:11:40] That's mad childish. Yeah, bro up. I went to Kojo's party

[00:11:45] Right, and it was it was all of us. It was always all the middle

[00:11:49] Yeah, it was all of us but Marcus and Cheyenne was there right and this the person I was talking to asked me who I went

[00:11:57] with

[00:11:58] Right, and I said people I went with I went with you. Uh-huh

[00:12:03] Quani preach

[00:12:05] Sorry, Joe. I

[00:12:08] Didn't say Cheyenne

[00:12:10] Because I didn't go with Cheyenne but Cheyenne was there and Cheyenne was in the videos

[00:12:14] Uh-huh, so she thought I purposely left Cheyenne out. So now Cheyenne is who is Cheyenne to you that you could not tell me

[00:12:23] Then I'm my art the wash I am my friends literally forgot she was it

[00:12:30] Because I

[00:12:32] Omitted Cheyenne's name. I didn't look like I lied to her

[00:12:36] Ladies don't be that lady. Yeah, so that was a whole

[00:12:47] She said

[00:12:49] Leave it something out is just as bad as lying. Oh

[00:12:53] Yeah, so that whole I spent the whole night bro trying to

[00:12:59] Vindicate yo me and Cheyenne's friendship is

[00:13:06] The verb is Cheyenne you know

[00:13:09] I

[00:13:10] Say it all the time Cheyenne. I'm sorry if you gonna get mad at me. I can't see Cheyenne having sex

[00:13:16] About what I talked about sex. You said yeah, so much. Yeah. Yeah hit that I see

[00:13:24] Cheyenne do the bending to me

[00:13:27] Like I see her in the most homeboyish way so

[00:13:32] I

[00:13:34] Told out every day imagine y'all you the person you talking to you really try and vibe with this person and you gotta defend

[00:13:43] My side yeah, that's my bro like we don't hug she beats me

[00:13:52] So yeah, so I've been in that situation so it was a lot of reassuring that like yo

[00:13:58] My bad, I didn't think nothing of it. I could see how that comes across a little

[00:14:04] Shaky, but I didn't say Marcus Lane

[00:14:06] You know I'm saying Marcus was there too, but I think she was more concerned about

[00:14:12] the

[00:14:13] The image of me saying who I was with obviously there's a video of who I was with

[00:14:19] But I left the only woman that was in there

[00:14:22] So is that like a part of like their past trauma or something like that probably?

[00:14:26] Yeah

[00:14:28] Yeah, I was about to ask um do y'all when y'all deal with somebody do y'all take into account their past trauma?

[00:14:35] Like let me not do this

[00:14:37] No, because I'm tired of fixing hearts. I didn't break so no I don't I don't I don't take account into that anymore

[00:14:45] If I feel like you're working on it or no if I feel like

[00:14:50] You just moved on just because you moved on from a relationship don't mean that you healed from that relationship, so

[00:14:57] Not to say that I'm a rebound. It's gonna go into the story like that not to say that I'm a rebound but

[00:15:04] If they if you got unsolved issues, I'm not here to be

[00:15:09] Detective private Ryan with you to figure this out and heal through you not gonna

[00:15:14] You're not gonna bleed on me cuz that's more that's more baggage that I gotta carry

[00:15:34] But nah, I can't I can't I can't do that I can't I can't do that I've done it and

[00:15:39] That goes into the story

[00:15:42] About how I fell in love with a nigga girl

[00:15:44] I

[00:16:08] Let me preference this statement because a lot of people

[00:16:13] Claim they don't listen be listening. So this was

[00:16:18] Pre a lot of people but this was immediately after Elizabeth. So this predates a lot of people that I dated

[00:16:24] Okay. All right. Okay. So let's give context. I was so we wasn't here. No, no, I was very young

[00:16:30] I was very young fresh off the break up with Elizabeth. I was

[00:16:35] And still doing construction. I was at the Barclays Center still working for B&G electric

[00:16:40] And

[00:16:44] The Gram is early this is early Graham, there's no stories the

[00:16:49] Nasty photos this yeah

[00:16:51] Yeah

[00:16:53] There's no DMS. So you got a random comment. You got it, right? You got it, right?

[00:16:57] 34 weeks ago. Yeah

[00:16:59] Yeah, yeah, and you know how I used to do it

[00:17:02] I used to write my number in numerical order under each photo

[00:17:07] So when they get the notification, it says one three four seven

[00:17:17] That was fly yeah

[00:17:19] Yo

[00:17:19] What you what's the once you look at you once you look at your money over on a date without a car wash in a

[00:17:24] 5500 flowers he talked about that's a lot of work. Shut up

[00:17:28] With a fresh boy

[00:17:34] I just wrote 10 digits

[00:17:36] Got $10,000 flowers, which one was more work out of here, please

[00:17:42] So yeah, that's this is that this is how back it goes right but I

[00:17:48] Was following her she was following me, right?

[00:17:52] We had to we had it was so crazy that it felt like like we dressed the same

[00:17:58] Bob the same, you know, I'm saying so I have my eye on her for a while

[00:18:02] But you know me I ain't shooting

[00:18:05] So she uh

[00:18:08] She reached out to me

[00:18:10] No, I'm lying. I'm lying. I'm lying. We were I want I want to really paint this picture

[00:18:15] She was in a relationship but like anything on social media

[00:18:20] This photo slow down, you know, I'm saying they not deleted but there hasn't been an update in very long

[00:18:27] cool

[00:18:29] she uh

[00:18:31] So somehow we ended up conversing maybe she like she liked the pic I like the pic she comment I replied blah blah blah

[00:18:39] We exchanged numbers

[00:18:42] And my mom I'm thinking she not with the nigga. She just did delete the shit. So we talking we vibing

[00:18:48] and

[00:18:49] The shit the way we clicked scared me

[00:18:53] Badly, it's like everything that you everything to Chicago Bulls fan. Oh

[00:18:58] Shit oh, yeah, I know you ain't Derek bro. I don't front out of

[00:19:02] She was about to be my number one like Derek

[00:19:04] Now she wasn't a Bulls fan, but she had the same affinity for Chicago. Matter of fact, she kind of

[00:19:12] grew up there

[00:19:13] So I love Chicago and she was telling me all the places to go in Chicago this before I have a touchdown in Chicago

[00:19:21] so

[00:19:22] She's telling me but the reason why I turn my head so fast

[00:19:26] She's a sports fan and let me tell you not the regular fan. She is breaking down front office decisions

[00:19:34] Defensive schemes. Oh shit free agent signers. What year is this? This is

[00:19:41] Nah, yeah, maybe maybe yeah, yeah, yeah Mello in the garden

[00:19:46] so

[00:19:47] so

[00:19:49] She's a sports fanatic and she's a music lover

[00:19:53] Right. So now we having debates on which RB albums is the best

[00:19:59] Top five we we have in verses before versus is even a thing. So on the phone doing it. Yep

[00:20:06] She telling me she telling me

[00:20:09] This song so I got a name of something better than that. She got a name of now

[00:20:13] So we do an RB trivia off the dome

[00:20:16] No looking up nothing right cool

[00:20:19] Yo boy, this is so plain of my hands you seen on I wish I never met

[00:20:26] Now listen listen listen it gets deeper right

[00:20:30] Now at the time I positive still out but you could still burn CDs. Oh here come the romance

[00:20:37] She made me a CD

[00:20:50] Now she sends me the CD my dumbass head over heels gave my address right she sent me the CD

[00:20:58] No, no, no. Nah, the CD is called in due time. Oh

[00:21:04] No

[00:21:13] Playlist I promise you if when I go back to my the crib

[00:21:17] I'm a little I know I still have it in due time. It's called in due time, right?

[00:21:21] I still got I know I still have it you never you ever see you don't got on social normal

[00:21:30] So boom peep game right this is lower trees say yes is the last song

[00:21:38] I

[00:21:45] Know

[00:21:55] I know flow tree was the last song but the song was low-key talking to me

[00:22:01] And it was before a playlist was a thing. I know for she elder shot the Martian brochures now

[00:22:09] So we uh, this is FaceTime not really it's there oh you was on Skype

[00:22:18] Hug hug skin 2013

[00:22:22] Bro clean like you could eat food off her face voice. The voice is warm enough now. I'm boy solid

[00:22:29] It's not scary, but it's solid boss skin the cleanest I could it's to the point

[00:22:34] I know something wrong with me because when a pretty girl like me I'd be like yo, she's all crap

[00:22:47] We get we don't gotta see shit here bro gorgeous I cool so

[00:22:54] What else what happened? Boom?

[00:22:57] We discussing birthdays and all of this shit. Oh

[00:23:00] Oh

[00:23:02] Shit she a whole Leo. I knew it. What what was her birthday?

[00:23:06] I'm yeah, I don't say too much. Yeah. Yeah. Huh? She's a lot of y'all. Yes, she is

[00:23:12] Only got a couple of options on so

[00:23:15] so

[00:23:16] So that's the first time I was like

[00:23:20] You know, I'm not really into the zodiac thing

[00:23:22] But you know how they talk about like your twin flame like we so identical I'm talking about fashion

[00:23:30] music sports

[00:23:32] Now it gets deeper her faith

[00:23:35] crazy Bible study

[00:23:37] We doing the same devotionals

[00:23:40] You know

[00:23:40] So we bought like this devotional book and we would read the page of the day and we will have conversations

[00:23:48] on

[00:23:50] What we thought the Bible meant that devotional meant to us so we would have like full discourse

[00:24:00] Niggas are all while sitting is crazy

[00:24:05] So we would have full discourse

[00:24:08] Or what the Bible whatever whatever and at that point I was like, yo, I think I found my wife bro

[00:24:18] right

[00:24:19] so something in me axed

[00:24:22] Yo, you in a relationship

[00:24:25] Yeah

[00:24:27] I know friend. Why don't you already tend to?

[00:24:30] That's that too in as

[00:24:34] Delusional as it sounded

[00:24:36] You know, we're boundaries gay girls

[00:24:39] Wait the CD

[00:24:41] There was a music thing

[00:24:46] Just try to he try to make it seem like I was

[00:24:50] You guys you guys Lincoln personally nah, okay. Nah. Okay

[00:24:55] I was in a fantasy the link she wouldn't you know

[00:25:06] My mom still do a construction she was in Jersey

[00:25:10] Yeah, she was injured. This is not the Jersey

[00:25:14] That's a hop skip and I was driving back then so yeah go back to like crying stuff out with one

[00:25:19] all right, so we

[00:25:21] Asked her and she uh

[00:25:24] She said yes, but she said it's

[00:25:28] They're on bad grounds and they look like it's coming to an end

[00:25:32] Right now. I wasn't complicated. It kind of had that that feeling like yo

[00:25:38] This shit may not be whatever boy cool, but

[00:25:45] Me now even me back then

[00:25:48] I knew don't pursue this because if this goes there you are never gonna trust them

[00:25:53] I know myself as much as I was feeling her if I cross that line

[00:25:58] Yeah, I'm a start cuz I what do we go through a drought? I gotta worry about nah, so don't do it. So boom

[00:26:05] Remember what I said in the last part. I went against my own moral code

[00:26:10] so

[00:26:11] my mind so we try to

[00:26:14] Establish boundaries, but we did address the elephant in the room if we were both single

[00:26:20] We gonna try to make this happen. But I told her yo, I want you to get over this first so we don't rush into it

[00:26:27] So cool now we talking

[00:26:29] casually every day

[00:26:31] Boundaries are set cool, bro

[00:26:35] Until this one day. I

[00:26:37] Hate I was I got off of work. I'm hella excited. I can't wait

[00:26:42] Nigga giddy cuz we will talk about work. Oh, I left this part out. I

[00:26:49] Don't wanna at that time I never knew what like high level like she is super pro black like before

[00:26:58] Also all this stuff to try spy ideas later

[00:27:01] She was like black pro black black black black black and she will always tell me yo be proud that you were black

[00:27:09] Always like mad reassuring like yo, well black man will handsome black man

[00:27:14] This is like no compliment didn't come without black man

[00:27:18] So cool, but that was at first that was kind of weird

[00:27:22] but like when you get to know somebody and like you understand how

[00:27:27] Strong they take the black man thing. Oh, they're blackness like super proud to be black like Kojo

[00:27:36] Right so

[00:27:40] Prior to that she had a rough time at work and I kind of talked her through it because she was in like sales

[00:27:46] She was making pain. That's a that's what I really started realizing your women make right?

[00:27:52] But I'm doing a construction thing. I'm getting my hands dirty. She really

[00:27:56] making money through sales

[00:27:59] So I guess

[00:28:01] Her numbers wasn't good that week. I'm like, yo, so it's a long week still turning around blah blah blah

[00:28:06] She turned around got some sales blah blah blah

[00:28:08] Everybody loving home. So you see you could do it blah blah blah

[00:28:11] So I knew thank you for being here for me roll over here laughing at because you know, I'm thinking that shit so boom

[00:28:19] Friday come

[00:28:21] Nah, I wish um

[00:28:24] She uh, I hope I got home hit her something to you go FaceTime or Skype whatever whatever

[00:28:33] And I was like, yo, what you doing she said getting ready for getting ready. I said, oh what you about to do going on a date?

[00:28:45] You

[00:28:46] Must I'm not gonna lie the first word that came in my head as a B word

[00:28:50] I'm sorry to think about like that, but she says

[00:28:54] I

[00:28:55] ate it

[00:29:02] On that day, I'm telling you she's such a good girl

[00:29:08] Yeah now with her man, oh they was fixing it they was fixing it and

[00:29:13] Boy, why do you look at that shit hurt?

[00:29:17] Like I was so but I never really wanted to express that cuz at the same time

[00:29:24] I

[00:29:25] Know I put my feelings aside because it within that week. I

[00:29:30] Asked her like yo, why you won't make this work. Yeah, I've been together for so long. Why aren't you trying to make it work?

[00:29:45] That's really not my Steve, oh

[00:29:48] Please that not even that I'm yo when we say over the phone

[00:29:52] We was gonna do like a real establish some boundaries

[00:29:55] I know and like I said in the back of my mind if I pursue her and this does hit right?

[00:30:03] Eventually our first argument I'm not gonna trust them because I know she gonna go do the same thing

[00:30:08] Yeah, like you know to say how you get them is how you lose them

[00:30:13] I might but

[00:30:15] I'm not the full transparency. I'm not the most confident they get in the world

[00:30:19] So I don't have that high level of confidence where I could be like, oh she won't do this to me now

[00:30:24] Where did it with it my fault? Good job. Where did it go after that?

[00:30:28] This is this is where shit gets rocky, right? Yes, I'm talking about

[00:30:33] Yeah, yeah, I told you when we first when I first started realizing like yo the post stop the post

[00:30:42] He was just sitting there I was huh you were just sitting there watching it

[00:30:47] It's crazy

[00:30:55] Bro, it's dark. Oh, right. The first post is bad with rose petals on it

[00:31:01] quantivibes

[00:31:03] No, no, no bed. Oh why do you never do no shit like that? I'll tell him take me out

[00:31:09] Not want to see that for what I'm sorry

[00:31:12] But so they obviously the romance is back

[00:31:16] That's Sunday. Go Roman, you know what?

[00:31:19] Val is the Sunday come she posting in church. Oh shit. Hi him

[00:31:30] My man still hurt

[00:31:32] That's what if you still hurt right now

[00:31:35] So boom

[00:31:36] so boom, this is where

[00:31:39] We had a convo

[00:31:40] She so that's what no. No. No, she I think she hit me up. Yeah, cuz we stopped speaking

[00:31:46] I stopped hitting her

[00:31:48] Not that I ghosted her but I was kind of like well

[00:31:51] What I'm a fullback so she hit me up on some like yo, how you been this that in the third?

[00:31:56] I'm like yo to be honest with you, you know

[00:31:59] Ever since you started posting your man. I didn't I fell back cool

[00:32:03] And she said bro. This shit is what kind of

[00:32:08] Got me. She was like, yeah, I have to apologize

[00:32:11] Because I let my flesh get in the way

[00:32:14] Here I am thinking we had a real emotional connection like how you whatever you express to the means what you feel to me

[00:32:22] I'm think I I'm head over heels. I know you were your situation but you know in due time, right?

[00:32:27] Fuck it cuz that's what she said. That's what she said

[00:32:31] right

[00:32:33] But for her to say and you know why it triggered me because obviously grew up in our I didn't grow up in the church

[00:32:38] But I understood the Bible enough to know when you lead on your flesh you make bad decisions. So in my mind, I'm like damn

[00:32:45] I was a bad decision everything that we discussed we talked about

[00:32:48] Nigga, it's to the point where we was like

[00:32:52] If this hit we get married in Chicago

[00:32:56] It's only right that we get married in Chicago

[00:32:59] she told me about how and

[00:33:01] That's why I knew he was like twin flames because at that time in my life

[00:33:05] We both overshared like we over sharing was natural I'm glad you recovered

[00:33:12] So

[00:33:14] so that's when I said like I went against my moral code cuz for me I would never

[00:33:20] Prior to that and after that it surely got a man is I don't care who she is

[00:33:24] I'm not it. No can't do that, but I knew that but I think what hurt the most was her saying

[00:33:32] Yo, it was my flesh what that

[00:33:35] Huh? I want to put the accountability on you as well because obviously, you know, I feel like she played into that though

[00:33:41] She did though, but it was how she flashed but she was literally she was probably getting what he was

[00:33:47] I'm in

[00:33:48] She said she wasn't she she fell in her flesh because she wasn't getting the attention or the affection

[00:33:56] That she was missing out on her relationship and in her sight

[00:34:00] In her sight. I understand that

[00:34:03] We did an episode years ago called the wonder in our and I spoke about my wonder and I developed him because I wasn't getting

[00:34:10] the affection that I

[00:34:11] Like like Juan he said don't give me a vibe that you can't

[00:34:16] I'm a I'm a

[00:34:18] affectionate person and I crave affection a woman who's not really affection might

[00:34:24] Overcompensate to keep me happy because that's what she think I need. But if that's not you

[00:34:29] Eventually you gonna give out you gonna burn out you can't maintain that, you know I'm saying

[00:34:33] So that's me

[00:34:36] Putting myself in the person's shoes and realizing I bet cool

[00:34:40] so

[00:34:42] The reason why I put that all together is like yo

[00:34:47] Sometimes it war this casualties and I also think this casualties in love

[00:34:52] You know you go through a hard time in the situations did somebody

[00:34:57] There's always gonna be casualties and I just felt like in that moment

[00:35:00] I was a casualty in a situation now you asked me if we still follow each other we do

[00:35:06] She's still fire. I mean what?

[00:35:09] She's still with him. Yeah, they are

[00:35:12] Now I'm Jack and I

[00:35:14] Don't know I don't know. There's no wedding pictures. I'm Jackie. LA is the reason why those two people fix the relationship

[00:35:20] I'm telling you bro. She's like, oh nah if he couldn't if this man, I don't know could do this for me

[00:35:24] He my man can they go in the church?

[00:35:27] kill now

[00:35:28] prior to that

[00:35:31] Let me give

[00:35:34] Let me give you let me give you context right they were going to church prior to okay, but

[00:35:40] I guess during that shakiness. I don't know if they were going together

[00:35:45] But I don't want to say oh all of a sudden they started going to church. They were doing that before

[00:35:52] but

[00:35:54] Like I said, they were on the rock so a lot of things they would it was no date nights there was no sex

[00:35:59] I don't know. We talked about their problems. So why she

[00:36:03] I'm not sure. I'm not sure

[00:36:06] I'm not your friend

[00:36:08] I'm not your friend. Don't tell me that no, but like I said

[00:36:15] There is a level of delusion I

[00:36:17] Understand that but like I said, I I know for a fact I could call par mental eyes

[00:36:23] Any situation I'm in so we already address the elephant in the room

[00:36:29] There's some tension between us but what can that what is that gonna do so less?

[00:36:34] We already know that's there but nothing can happen from that so let's let's set these boundaries and let's only be friends

[00:36:42] cool

[00:36:43] We even had a safe word where somebody

[00:36:46] Could have possibly crossed the line or you feel like you about to cross the line. You call it time

[00:36:51] What was the safe word? What was the safe word?

[00:36:55] I feel like we should title the episode safe word

[00:36:58] My thing is though. You didn't feel like dirty at any point who me. Yeah, how one of the dirty world

[00:37:05] This whole duration

[00:37:07] It's like it's all like a quick little two week. Nah, maybe like a month

[00:37:13] That's all it that's all it takes sometimes my thing is my thing

[00:37:16] I feel broke cuz you know, they can talk to my show before my street is kind of

[00:37:20] Now, you know what? It is about us Lincoln

[00:37:24] There's gonna get there. It was gonna get there and we both

[00:37:28] Anyone who's grab lunch maybe like three weeks. Oh

[00:37:34] He knew before he even sent the number correct, you know, I knew there was a guy that existed

[00:37:41] Yeah, but why are you missing up what I said?

[00:37:44] He got it. There was a there was a point of time like yo, bro

[00:37:47] It's like anything that we see now right where a girl post her man

[00:37:52] Stops we talking about like I said, we was following each other for a minute like since the Graham started

[00:38:01] And now we talking because when I was at high school, there was a gram there yeah, maybe in college in first year college

[00:38:07] I'm already 22 now. So let's say the Graham came out when I was 18. This is three years of us following each other

[00:38:14] No real interaction now all of a sudden you like it my pictures. I've been liking your pictures for three years gang

[00:38:21] And you know how I knew

[00:38:23] There's three years. That's a lot of pictures. You like it. You know, I'm saying my money didn't got up

[00:38:30] They went from Aeropostale to Versace. Oh, you know I'm saying it's different. It's no more American Eagle. It's the golden

[00:38:39] Boy my my Versace chain my Versace ring my beep shit

[00:38:43] Yeah, like I was making money and I started dressing like the money I was making

[00:38:47] But she was already on that same

[00:38:50] Tip cuz she was in finance

[00:38:53] so

[00:38:55] Long story less long that's kind of was like yo hearing that yo

[00:38:59] Whatever you felt for me was just your flesh like nothing. I was real. I even a little bit

[00:39:04] I couldn't listen to that CD and then one day I

[00:39:08] Played that shit. Oh, she's mr. Fuck you up. It fucked me up. It just left me confused

[00:39:15] Now do you do you think about that at any moment?

[00:39:18] Like when you win you and you well at that when you was in a relationship

[00:39:21] Did you think about what she did? I guess my story doing the same shit. No, I don't put that on people. I just know

[00:39:29] You know back then the that's when the saying the game is the game

[00:39:33] birth though, you kind of charge it to the game and

[00:39:38] That's crazy because charge it to the game that episode many moons ago was kind of about this same situation

[00:39:44] I just never told the story. Let me ask you a question. Do you feel like you put that upon yourself?

[00:39:48] Well, yeah, cuz I went against my own discernment I knew better I had my own world cold prior to me

[00:39:55] Uh, I didn't it's not like that happened and it was like I bet you made you fold it

[00:39:59] Yeah. Hell yeah, I was I was going to fold

[00:40:02] I was going to fold bro if mean if me and that young lady would have linked

[00:40:07] I don't know if I meet anybody else because

[00:40:10] That but that's what I'm saying. I don't know what type of world

[00:40:13] I was living in where I thought that was real the whole time, but I was so caught up in that world

[00:40:19] It was like yo, this shit is too good to be true now. Imagine if he was a petty nigga hit a man

[00:40:24] No, that's not me. I'm just saying like imagine

[00:40:28] Not think about that like people are man to man

[00:40:31] People people are people are that petty though if he was a real pain, he'll go to the church

[00:40:36] He'll go right to the next

[00:40:39] Are you doing sister? Hey brother

[00:40:42] Y'all look good together. Oh

[00:40:45] Where's the winner ring that's a high level of court. I'm not gonna lie. That is hanging for you. Yes, I caught it

[00:40:50] There's a saying that I've had for years

[00:40:53] Be sad and that would be corny. Mm-hmm

[00:40:56] You can always be sad about the situation when I'll never be corny damn, too

[00:41:01] But I will say there's certain attributes that she has

[00:41:06] That I'm a forever look for in a wife

[00:41:09] Because you know, I know for a fact

[00:41:11] Whether real or not her relationship with God is real was real because that that was some real shit to be to to even say

[00:41:18] Yo, this was my flesh is meaning on my flesh. I

[00:41:23] Need a woman that could pray for me always

[00:41:27] I'm not saying the women outdated in the past. I'm just not sure how confident I was with their relationship with God

[00:41:34] so

[00:41:35] I'm not saying they didn't have one, but she was out with it, you know

[00:41:41] So yeah that that that is vital to a woman having a relationship with God

[00:41:47] that level of reassurance

[00:41:50] Unusual bro, it was to the point where I felt uncomfortable

[00:41:55] But that's because I knew I never had that's me looking back like y'all meant

[00:42:00] being reassured was

[00:42:02] Reassured was uncommon territory. What else?

[00:42:10] Somebody that could match my fly or I match her fly like me we look good together. It gotta be that

[00:42:16] It probably was that in the beginning. I'm saying

[00:42:20] Oh, no, no, I'm cool, you know, I'm cool. I'm

[00:42:26] Bullshit on me. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah facts facts, but I could I kind of like, uh

[00:42:32] Where my nigga Cyrus doing it?

[00:42:52] But yeah, but at the same time I knew there was I took away a lot from that and

[00:42:59] That she's the reason

[00:43:02] Why I would never I never ever ever ever ever talk to two people at the same time

[00:43:07] Because nobody will ever end up being the casualty of love for me. I can't do it

[00:43:13] It's a lot of work because somebody's gonna get hurt in this. I am NOT I've said it before I don't like being the villain

[00:43:21] Purposely like my intent is it to hurt you so I can't talk to two people at the same time. I

[00:43:28] Just can't I know that's a part of dating I get it. It's just not in my DNA

[00:43:33] That's crazy. I've caught that cross pass and now, you know what you're looking for and maybe that's what God sent me

[00:43:39] Salafor I tried I try to find a positive in that situation because

[00:43:45] For her it was her flesh for me. I

[00:43:48] Felt like God sent me my person now after that. When did you talk to your next person? It took a minute

[00:43:59] I took a break. I think that's when I practice celibacy after that

[00:44:05] Two years

[00:44:07] Not even spanking he must be angry

[00:44:11] man focused

[00:44:14] That's where the name came from

[00:44:16] Two years celebrate not not getting old not getting no head

[00:44:21] Not not beating my meat. No porn. No nothing, bro

[00:44:25] Two years no sex no sex full celibacy that first time though. That was disgusting

[00:44:40] I just want you. I just want everybody in the room to understand that we purposely have this thing as a friend

[00:44:47] on purpose

[00:44:49] That was great. That was a lot screws. You ever um, started fucking with somebody's arm

[00:44:55] Girl all the time

[00:44:59] Girls ain't gotta lie about that. I think it's our grid

[00:45:03] In past life past life

[00:45:06] Quan ESU now, but you how about you talking though? He filtered it with past life. Yeah

[00:45:15] In a past life, yeah good job

[00:45:21] What's a long time six seven years probably okay

[00:45:26] That's not bad. I was I'm listening anybody's uh, oh

[00:45:30] I forgot what I wrote down

[00:45:33] Kojo, I'm sorry where I do you got a I got Kojo. No, no, no. No, there's something I wrote down

[00:45:40] call

[00:45:42] Kojo's rule hypocrisy

[00:45:44] It had to do with this episode. Yeah, okay. I

[00:45:47] Won't say the rule. Okay, but there is a pocket see in that rule

[00:45:52] Because he broke that rule and he's happy. Oh, yeah. I know

[00:45:58] Kojo's hypocrisy rule said that on the episode already though. Did I put your name on the bullet? Yeah

[00:46:04] Yeah, I didn't put your name on the police. I said my man's my friends, right?

[00:46:08] But Kojo has this rule

[00:46:10] He stood by this rule, right?

[00:46:13] But he broke his rule

[00:46:15] Things change I guess right things change

[00:46:19] I

[00:46:20] Was that was not a purpose bottle just now these changed, right?

[00:46:25] But they may have been some casualties because of this

[00:46:30] a lot a lot

[00:46:32] Yeah a lot. You know I'm saying so

[00:46:36] when it comes to

[00:46:38] I had a good ball

[00:46:48] But people have rules or people set something for themselves some type of boundary, yeah, but

[00:46:55] With holding it up. It comes with casualties because you can somebody could want to show you

[00:47:01] You'll break this rule for me and you don't right and they're hurt by that. They don't feel special because of that

[00:47:08] Or they feel like you're using that

[00:47:10] For whatever reasons, but if you break that rule then what?

[00:47:15] There's a lot of casualties in war is the casualties in love. There's a reason why I think Drake they win that beef with Kendrick

[00:47:23] Because for him to win the casualty would have had to been Kendrick's wife. Yeah, and

[00:47:29] And there's a certain level of evil and villain

[00:47:33] That you must possess to want to cross that line and not care about the consequences

[00:47:39] And it's the same thing when with love like there is there are

[00:47:44] Certain things that

[00:47:47] Align you you're not willing to cross but when you do cross them somebody gets hurt so there are casualties in

[00:47:55] in the love

[00:47:57] And that's why I felt like I was a casualty because let me tell you what inspired that episode

[00:48:01] Cuz I wrote I just wrote in my notes

[00:48:06] casualties of love Oh

[00:48:08] Loving two people at one time. That's what made me write that up

[00:48:13] When you write that I wrote this recently. I just didn't when I have an idea

[00:48:19] I just write it down for you with the competition we had some

[00:48:23] No, no, no, no, no, no

[00:48:26] I

[00:48:28] But uh, was there no casualties when you were on your celibacy thing for two years no

[00:48:36] Pull up on you nothing you was in hiding or something you said was I hiding?

[00:48:43] Bailey was outside really start going outside till I met y'all heathens. Whoa

[00:48:56] I

[00:49:00] Bought a ticket to the car watch the detail

[00:49:06] Jersey drive to Chicago and marry

[00:49:10] Yeah, but the bring about

[00:49:13] If I knew y'all then y'all would push me towards it. Oh, that's crazy

[00:49:17] That's pretty good. We really know we really we're really bad people

[00:49:22] we're just I

[00:49:24] Don't even know what the word I think squirrels would have said so yeah, yo count the pedals on the bed. Just double it

[00:49:30] Makes a doubling gives the next person

[00:49:33] But nah, so so yeah, have you ever loved two people at one time? Oh

[00:49:41] No, no, no Joe

[00:49:45] Nah, I never been in love with to be right the same time. I don't think it's possible actually

[00:49:49] It's possible. I would say heavily like not in love but heavily like two people at the same time

[00:49:54] Heavily liked were you with one of the one? I was dating. Oh you was dating

[00:50:00] squirrels

[00:50:01] Yes, heavy like I can like somebody like the temptation or I love somebody else

[00:50:07] So wait, anytime y'all moved on from a significant other and started dating someone else y'all felt y'all

[00:50:14] Were no longer in love with that person

[00:50:16] I just think the feeling of love is too strong of an emotion to be able to

[00:50:22] Lary just read it in between multiple people in that manner

[00:50:26] I don't think I might don't get more than the other one degrees to love. It'll never be the same

[00:50:30] Yeah, I can love spending time with you. But you know, I

[00:50:33] Love you could love different things about people

[00:50:36] I could love some things about you and I could love some things about the other person

[00:50:42] That's thing about the day in life that I just can't get jiggy

[00:50:44] I can't talk to too many people at once like before was cool like mad good morning text

[00:50:49] Who has the time yo, it's too expensive. All right. I got this video a dawn. This is early

[00:50:56] This is 2015

[00:50:58] This is what we first met. I thought dawn was a gigolo, bro

[00:51:05] Yo, bro, I

[00:51:08] Ain't gonna front down so long. I have a video like a long-ass scroll of good mornings just him texting maybe

[00:51:15] No, I'm I know I exaggerate I make things theatrical maybe 15 to 20 people good morning

[00:51:24] Same emoji like well just good morning. Just good morning

[00:51:31] What was your game plan was it the first girl to respond get the what I'm saying good morning, right

[00:51:37] The responses was just coming in

[00:51:40] I

[00:52:03] Ain't afraid to walk in the work lit

[00:52:05] Oh

[00:52:07] It was a dangle for you guys stop walking in a work lit money like you know how people smell like weed

[00:52:12] He smelt like the 1942 eyes

[00:52:15] It was the the the Bronco was coming out the nigga pores, bro

[00:52:21] Thank God for growth right now. I'm saying I can't do that shit. No, bro. I can't sit here text Matthew

[00:52:28] I gotta give you attention. I got no no and another thing total to a person

[00:52:35] I

[00:52:43] Miss that

[00:52:46] That was fire I missed it I missed it that was fire

[00:52:51] That was

[00:52:53] Shit

[00:53:02] But yet talking to mad people I can't give mad people the energy I can't do that shit no more bro

[00:53:07] That's what a dish I can get jiggy with money

[00:53:11] That she was it was cool

[00:53:13] Money, like I loved it, bro. I have the confidence for that. Yeah, I remember when Chris Wednesday

[00:53:18] woman WCW

[00:53:21] Crazy I was going crazy

[00:53:24] On a month Monday Monday's good leg money's was lifting me. I'm having a good time. Oh, I'm your man crush this week

[00:53:31] Oh, yeah. Oh

[00:53:33] Yes, man crush where you have to go there no

[00:53:38] Last thing before we leave right?

[00:53:41] You think we got any casualties of the pod? Oh, we have a lot

[00:53:45] No, he oh, no you

[00:53:48] I said, yeah, I said do you think how do you feel about?

[00:53:53] She's us telling our side of our story and

[00:53:58] People have to remember it's outside of the story though, but the person hearing our side. Oh

[00:54:05] You know, I'm talking about people who matter I'm not talking about yeah random. Yeah

[00:54:10] The

[00:54:12] S casualties there they I've literally been hit up. Oh you told your side of story. I want to come in

[00:54:17] I want to come and tell mom. Yeah, that's me. I'm gonna tell you something. Let me tell you something

[00:54:21] I don't work. It'll work like that

[00:54:25] You can start your own podcast over there

[00:54:33] How would you feel scenario

[00:54:37] You talking about

[00:54:40] You're dating somebody let's say you're dating somebody and as she's dating you she's get to get to know you obviously

[00:54:46] she know you you pod and she uh

[00:54:51] She listens she listens cuz in her mind she's supporting you

[00:54:55] but she listens to you speak on your ex and

[00:55:00] She feels a way about that

[00:55:03] How would you take that?

[00:55:05] Then I got taken to taking consideration in that right? Yeah, if you want to be a good guy

[00:55:16] To my story though, so Michael be going through this I

[00:55:19] What if she don't see it that way what if okay, so boom let me take it off for you. Thanks me

[00:55:26] You see how I told this story from 2013 like I could tell it like it happened yesterday

[00:55:31] I feel like that's what I'm good at

[00:55:34] storytelling

[00:55:36] But so boom I could talk about chase and it'll make somebody feel like damn you still in love ball

[00:55:44] No reason I'm talking about it now. I'm over it now. There was a point of time where I wouldn't even mention it

[00:55:50] You know I'm saying but the way

[00:55:53] but the way I tell the story or told those experiences it sound like I'm actively going through it because

[00:56:00] You don't want to talk in past tense in a sense because it's not as engaging or well for me, you know I'm saying so

[00:56:09] So that's how you would that's how you would so so the casualty would be like oh you feel like

[00:56:14] I'm still dwelling on but I could some of these episodes that I wrote to two three years old

[00:56:23] We just took a break from party

[00:56:26] Now if we were part in live during that time, I know friend

[00:56:30] That's cuz I'm not gonna lie to you if we were part in during the times we were don't do shit

[00:56:34] Oh, man, y'all ate that shit up

[00:56:36] certain classic this episodes in the a like real shit that that I won't ever

[00:56:43] record because I know where it stemmed from but some of them I could look back on like like

[00:56:52] Like the first podcast

[00:56:54] Episode that I wrote literally when we thought about it was a sense of normalcy

[00:56:58] That was an episode of time off from podcasting being around fame

[00:57:02] That was around me being around the Holy Fields and seeing what that what their day-to-day life was, right?

[00:57:07] so that episode was called sense of normalcy, right and then

[00:57:11] Baba Baba Baba Baba Baba

[00:57:14] Hmm morning you right morning you this is an episode real shit, bro. Look

[00:57:24] Right that episode was about Amanda's death Tyler's death and dealing with chase while she was still alive

[00:57:29] That was a lot though. I would've been heavy

[00:57:31] Geez, that would have I know from you. I'm pretty sure we'd all cried

[00:57:35] Man, they Tyler died around the same time. Then I went through a breakup. I don't read

[00:57:41] So these are episodes that I got years ago, but if we did that now I would have to talk about it

[00:57:47] I have to really you have to read you have to read during so that's one thing people my phone control

[00:57:51] I don't think people understand that like your bro when we talk about this shit

[00:57:53] You gotta relive this shit

[00:57:54] They go you got a really relive it

[00:57:56] You got a it's like an actor like you have to put yourself in that in that spot

[00:58:00] Just so just so the the viewer could understand here. I am thinking I'm being

[00:58:06] What entertaining creating good content, but somebody could be like?

[00:58:11] Yo, it's tough for me to hear you talk about somebody else oh so passionately

[00:58:17] It's like no, I remember what that felt like. That's all I'm doing. That's all I'm doing. I'm only

[00:58:22] Retelling what I what I experienced and from from another perspective

[00:58:28] What if?

[00:58:31] Your significant other don't want you talking about her on the pod, but you talk about your other significant others

[00:58:36] I just can't so what that's specific one. Yeah, she won't she and her agreement she wants

[00:58:41] She doesn't want your business on the pod

[00:58:44] So cool

[00:58:47] You ain't only X. I've ever had yeah you take away from content

[00:58:52] So so okay boom that's not my set

[00:58:54] Do you put the content because I always felt like if one of your exes told you Don

[00:58:59] I need you to stop potting you would do it

[00:59:04] Jesus Christ and I would be okay with that

[00:59:07] If he prioritized his relationship if I think we all know what I'm talking about yes, if she said yo

[00:59:12] If she was to say yo for us to work you can't pot I

[00:59:21] Would be okay with you doing that. I would not look at you any different here. We can't like sneak pod

[00:59:31] There's nothing there's nothing that we have in

[00:59:35] Sneak pod is crazy. Yeah, like me. I feel like anytime we all together in the same room

[00:59:40] Chilling in the in the clubhouse or I'm just glad some of those not recorded, but that's good especially squirrels

[00:59:48] Days given friends given yeah

[00:59:52] Squirrels and wool is two people and I would never want to do a podcast together

[01:00:00] Squirrels will get so much like

[01:00:03] Hit ups if he say he's the search it so squirrels knows what to say now. He's a performer man, but look look so

[01:00:10] There's certain casualties in that if she was like yo

[01:00:15] Who you are in the pod is not who you are in real life

[01:00:17] I'm not saying that that is case, but I don't like this iteration of you

[01:00:22] For this relationship to work. I think the pot needs to stop

[01:00:26] The casualty of that would be what's a good guy and I think everybody would hate it

[01:00:31] Yes, why you got to think about what it that the cat the next casualty will be there the viewers now the viewers, right?

[01:00:38] What if I still want a pod with you and you everybody want a pod but Don not Potter no more and we can't do

[01:00:43] The part because I can't come outside no more don't kick him up now

[01:00:47] We now the casualty is we don't fuck with whoever told him that he came

[01:00:51] And now how you gonna look at us damn. I just lost my crew

[01:00:55] It depends because if Don really put me aside and say yo so-and-so

[01:00:59] I really I know him wanting to make that work if that's the sacrifice that come with that

[01:01:05] Sacrifice go do it. Was this not an escape? Is this not an escape for you?

[01:01:09] This is not you know what this actually goes into the next episode

[01:01:17] This is good stuff guys, thank you guys for showing what's a good guy and this is um, yeah, it's great here

[01:01:22] Yeah, so so uh, nah real shit. So and there are certain

[01:01:28] decision makings

[01:01:30] Decisions that we have to make within our relationship that shows that we prioritize our relationship

[01:01:38] Because I thought about that the reason why I'm bringing up that scenario to you

[01:01:41] It's because I thought about that I can see one person in particular

[01:01:45] Giving me that ultimatum. I hate all tonight. I'll do a little later

[01:01:53] That is crazy, I can't do

[01:01:56] You remember you remember that scene in Martin where uh the first episode the very first episode where she where she was like

[01:02:04] Well, he did step step and she was like where she was like, it's not what you say on the radio

[01:02:11] It's how you make me feel

[01:02:14] Like she didn't have a problem with him shut the fuck being yeah facts

[01:02:18] So tape is back on DSP enjoy it before they take it down. I played it on the way here. So so

[01:02:26] What we're saying is how the person feels you right though, and if we can't

[01:02:31] There's no one or the other we can't dilute the brain. We can't step on it

[01:02:35] Yeah, like people do people love it. Like I can't so if we will imagine what right? What do we prioritize a bunch of?

[01:02:43] Making people feel good on Mondays that we don't know or making you feel wall

[01:02:48] That we don't know versus the person that we want to be with for the rest of my so tough

[01:02:53] Yeah, you got it you got you got choose a person that's tangible the person that not it's not only about the people that you

[01:03:00] Are entertaining? It's also about yourself. Yes did not start this pod for no gal, bro

[01:03:06] Well, maybe I did but I'm just saying I did it for y'all

[01:03:08] Yeah, I did it for yourselves you guys built this and have continued to build it

[01:03:12] I was so for somebody for somebody to sit there and tell you well

[01:03:15] I know you built this on your own, but for us to continue you have to stop

[01:03:19] I don't have to look at that person that tells me that kind of crazy think it's selfish. What if what?

[01:03:24] All right, hypothetically, what else what if I'm walling on a platform?

[01:03:29] If you're one yeah, it makes sense for her for her I'm wallet

[01:03:34] You want you on your platform talking about your exes talking about your exes you making the page and you making me feel invisible

[01:03:41] Oh my god, okay

[01:03:43] But can't he just alter the way he speaks on the pod rather than stopping doing what nice and nice nice

[01:03:49] Oh my god. Now you step it now you stepping on the nice

[01:03:53] You gotta think about me telling like like I told this story

[01:03:57] Like it's to the point where I could have made it sound like that

[01:04:01] I made it sound like if I didn't preference it by saying this pre-dates this pre-dates everybody except Elizabeth

[01:04:08] Yeah, I think is what they is

[01:04:10] But you know, she should respect your character as a man like you're not out here about to dog around see some crazy shit

[01:04:17] And then this is like there's something important to you. There's something you built

[01:04:21] Something you invested in it's like a release to use like a hobby

[01:04:25] It's more to you

[01:04:30] Baby she's like yo give that up now what you have

[01:04:34] her

[01:04:36] It's a slippery slope too because

[01:04:39] After you I let's say you give up the pod cool. I don't like that friend get that friend out of here

[01:04:46] I don't like I don't like that you do that

[01:04:48] So when are you gonna say? No, you gotta cut that shit from the beginning. Hey, this is me

[01:04:53] This has nothing to do with you. You came after this

[01:04:56] So what if what if what if your significant other has a problem with the women you choose to market?

[01:05:01] Yeah, yeah cuz you you know, you're a woman brand now good to meet us nothing to do where she got eat that

[01:05:07] Yeah, that's a be rude. I have nothing

[01:05:10] To question he's asked a question now

[01:05:13] We with the stepping on the product thing cuz like you guys pod from like a real-life perspective

[01:05:18] So if something in your life changed, that's a real-life perspective

[01:05:21] Yeah, you're changing your way of speaking because that's you not the same single nigga before yeah while out

[01:05:27] So you would change that a little bit?

[01:05:28] So I wouldn't say I'm done with something or change though

[01:05:32] I would just change the way I do it, but make sure that still I still have a standard to uphold

[01:05:36] So and make it respectful. Yeah

[01:05:39] Not gonna stop choosing people to be my models if someone has a problem with it

[01:05:43] That's a yo take that up with the comments get be a little more secure

[01:05:48] Understand who you're dealing with

[01:05:51] Taking pictures and we go home like we're not doing anything

[01:05:54] Yeah

[01:05:56] It's just like me saying well, I'm not still talking to shorty she's in my past we don't even speak exactly

[01:06:03] You get mad at stories

[01:06:06] How old are we?

[01:06:12] So we have to self-reflect I think it's actually really told me that

[01:06:16] Cuz if she doing something that she an actor or something, she gonna be doing a bunch of shit. You might not

[01:06:22] Get a movie now was it? Mm-hmm. Now your enemies know they want. Yeah, let's watch this movie real quick

[01:06:29] You be thinking of the most diabolical shit that's why I know he talked to niggas girl

[01:06:35] But damn it's saying bro

[01:06:37] like this is something you're invested in like even when I'm out sometimes I'm out and dating somebody and

[01:06:42] Like I had to explain this to go yo-ho. Yo-ho brand is catering to women for sure

[01:06:47] So I'm like, yo, I might walk in somewhere and why is that me hugging me and I'm like I have had situations

[01:06:53] I'm like, you're like

[01:06:55] They'll be a little bothered. I'm like, oh this pays the bills. I ain't gonna hold you. I

[01:07:00] Told the story before but for our new listeners, it's on a date

[01:07:07] In the past guys no

[01:07:10] Yeah facts do I got to do that?

[01:07:17] I was on a date and

[01:07:21] a listener

[01:07:24] Was at the same spot, yeah

[01:07:28] I'm with my date. She comes up to me. Oh, no, not the robe

[01:07:36] Sheesh, I love you. Like I really love you. Nah, she wanted to get

[01:07:41] Actually a question Joe. Is there any way you could just stop?

[01:07:44] Anyway you could just stop

[01:07:50] Let's say this is a right let's say this was an issue cuz you know women are oh my god, I love you

[01:07:57] I love you yellow

[01:07:59] Blah blah blah, you know I'm saying cool

[01:08:02] Now what if the pod really pops like pop pop like we selling out Oh to arena

[01:08:09] What you think won't happen left arm and right arm?

[01:08:13] My touch the air if I whisper my you know what that well, you know what happens when somebody whispers in my ear

[01:08:18] We don't

[01:08:23] We don't beat it

[01:08:28] But now like that's that's that's my thing so it's like because tell us is g-spots

[01:08:34] Oh

[01:08:43] We were good you were bad girl

[01:08:45] You were good girl. I almost hit you in your chest

[01:08:51] Yo boy, I'm gonna cut this episode

[01:08:54] I think in love this this is this is this this kind of carries that you are

[01:09:00] That you necessarily don't

[01:09:02] See coming but you know that it's possible

[01:09:08] Even with recovery recovering from a heartbreak or anything like that. There's a lot of

[01:09:13] Yeah, cuz if you don't if you don't do it right and you you out there trying to rebound

[01:09:19] You out there putting your your dead spirit your dead energy. You're so tired into somebody else. I

[01:09:26] Believe in the transfer the energy. That's why I don't really fuck around like that, too

[01:09:30] Cuz I don't know what people going through and I'd be damn sure if you put that on my Willie

[01:09:35] still worse

[01:09:38] I've heard stories are like

[01:09:42] Niggas sleeping with certain women and they life go to shambles after that. Mm-hmm is that it's a bad transfer energy

[01:09:49] I'm really believe that

[01:09:51] Yeah, all of a sudden you depressed all of a sudden you sad and shit

[01:09:55] Like you wasn't doing that before you inserted it in it. So as soon as you pull out now life is all crazy

[01:10:01] What energy you took?

[01:10:03] Same thing with women women date men and all of a sudden they date energy down and shit like that

[01:10:08] It's the nigga you fucking

[01:10:10] Leave that nigga and come to Brooklyn

[01:10:14] That's why I wanted to

[01:10:16] Yeah, I see those up in contact. That's in comedy. That's called a callback. He was down. Thank you

[01:10:24] But if

[01:10:27] Who's interested in me she would think oh you try to get short no in content space

[01:10:32] It's called a callback. I think the fact that you gotta explain this and it takes about it. Yeah

[01:10:38] That's how you end the episode on a callback on the original start

[01:10:45] Like I said, if that was to happen, I wouldn't feel I don't think that would happen

[01:10:51] No, I don't think so neither. I'm just giving a hypothetical

[01:10:55] Just paying

[01:10:57] Yeah, I'm just painting the picture

[01:10:59] well

[01:11:00] Great conversation. Yeah facts great to have you fellas and lady fella in the builders

[01:11:07] Rose in the building. I think it's the first time come into the

[01:11:11] Nice of us actually say last week. Oh, yeah, she was here last week

[01:11:16] Oh

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[01:11:46] And I want to just say this

[01:11:50] Really shout out to y'all for listening and I'm sending y'all

[01:11:53] Questions. Yeah, thanks help y'all. That's on the crack. Shut up on us gurus is kind of like shouts to you

[01:11:58] Are you I'm glad I opinion matters to you

[01:12:01] Because you really pressed us. Also. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Once again, I do want to apologize for

[01:12:06] The delay in the episode we

[01:12:11] I go to life got crazy. I'm kind of share a little bit about that lat next up next week

[01:12:17] But yeah, man as far as this situation just

[01:12:21] One more time before we get out of here

[01:12:24] Ain't nothing wrong with you asking for your reassurance

[01:12:27] With let me drop. Okay, and let's call lemon drop something else. Yeah, come on. Yeah corner. What's the sour whiskey sour whiskey sour?

[01:12:34] Something some old-fashioned Oh call it something. Yeah, let me drop

[01:12:40] What's that what's that shit that was that shit quality put me on with session Oh, bro

[01:12:44] As a year in it or date next 75 French 75

[01:12:50] A lot Quan he's the youngest here, but he act like he's 37

[01:12:55] Yo to next time and got his good