Episode 263: Give Me A Baby

[00:00:00] You already know who it is, ladies and gents, all the humans out there, stop easily.

[00:00:07] I'm on the side of LeShon.

[00:00:08] Another beautiful day here at Whats A Good Guy.

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[00:00:13] We do appreciate y'all.

[00:00:15] Hope you're having a beautiful start to your week or whatever day you're watching this.

[00:00:20] Hopefully your morning is going great or your afternoon or night.

[00:00:25] LA is looking at me and smiling and I'm just trying to make y'all happy.

[00:00:28] That's what I'm here for, I'm trying to make y'all happy.

[00:00:30] LA is a serious guy.

[00:00:32] Whats going on bro?

[00:00:34] I just want to take this picture.

[00:00:37] I like what you're looking at me like that though.

[00:00:39] Whats on it?

[00:00:42] In the nice bedroom.

[00:00:44] I like it.

[00:00:46] Candles lit.

[00:00:48] In here, magic wow.

[00:00:50] I'm not saying Al Green gotta be playing.

[00:00:52] Al Green playing.

[00:00:53] I like who you're looking at better.

[00:00:54] Beautiful day.

[00:00:56] Ignificent.

[00:00:57] Everything went well.

[00:00:59] Take it to the bedroom.

[00:01:01] That's what I'm talking about.

[00:01:02] You doing your thing.

[00:01:03] Doing your thing.

[00:01:04] I'm dreading it.

[00:01:06] Right?

[00:01:07] It's so good.

[00:01:08] You're right.

[00:01:11] It's so good.

[00:01:12] She looks at you and she says.

[00:01:14] She says, was it always like this?

[00:01:19] Right?

[00:01:21] You remind her it's always been like this.

[00:01:24] Yo, always like this.

[00:01:27] How do you allow her to go to the stairs?

[00:01:30] Here we go.

[00:01:32] Getting to that point.

[00:01:34] Feel like you're about to erupt.

[00:01:37] Right?

[00:01:38] Sexual eruption.

[00:01:39] Yo chill out.

[00:01:41] She whispers in your ear.

[00:01:43] Not in me?

[00:01:44] Come and be.

[00:01:45] Come and be done.

[00:01:47] I don't like that.

[00:01:48] That actually made me very uncomfortable.

[00:01:51] What do you do?

[00:01:53] I don't follow directions anyway.

[00:01:58] He's a dog.

[00:02:00] You pull out?

[00:02:02] Yeah, I got to son.

[00:02:04] As long as she ain't on top of them good money.

[00:02:08] So today's episode I want to talk to you about

[00:02:11] when a woman acts as you for a baby.

[00:02:13] Oh.

[00:02:14] Oh.

[00:02:16] One guy a little colder.

[00:02:18] What's up?

[00:02:20] Hot air.

[00:02:22] I can't get hot.

[00:02:24] Bro, I'm telling you.

[00:02:26] Have you ever been in a situation where she

[00:02:28] when a woman says, I'm ready for a baby?

[00:02:30] No.

[00:02:32] No.

[00:02:34] Damn.

[00:02:36] I've been in a situation where a woman said

[00:02:39] you lucky.

[00:02:41] No, she said you lucky.

[00:02:44] I'm on birth control when you'd been having a kid.

[00:02:47] That's as far as I got, brother.

[00:02:49] That's as far as you got.

[00:02:51] So tell me about it.

[00:02:54] We're at this age.

[00:02:56] Well, I'm at this age now where I know that dating

[00:03:02] the next decade of my life,

[00:03:05] slaughterhood is most prominent.

[00:03:08] You know, I went through 20 to 30 without, you know,

[00:03:11] obviously having no kids.

[00:03:13] So I know this is prominent.

[00:03:15] But, um, that conversation of giving me a baby,

[00:03:20] you know, I've been thinking about that recently.

[00:03:25] And it's like we have the advantage now of being

[00:03:34] of not having children to dictate.

[00:03:37] This may get a little triggering who we choose

[00:03:41] to have a kid with, right?

[00:03:44] I think that part is the most control we have.

[00:03:50] Once we not in the woman or exactly in the woman,

[00:03:53] she chooses whether she wants to keep it up or release it.

[00:03:57] But we have the choice of having a child.

[00:04:02] We have the choice of deciding who we want to do this with.

[00:04:07] And I want to talk about what are some of the things

[00:04:10] that goes through your mind if and when you want to make

[00:04:13] that choice of becoming a father.

[00:04:19] I'll eat off.

[00:04:20] Yes, please.

[00:04:21] I'll eat off.

[00:04:23] How do we get here?

[00:04:25] Probably get him.

[00:04:27] The stuff he would be taking the father.

[00:04:29] Yeah.

[00:04:31] Um, there are founded foundational pieces where I think who

[00:04:39] and I don't mean to offend and I promise you I don't mean to offend.

[00:04:43] But I don't want to have a kid in the vibe of a checklist.

[00:04:51] Like, oh, we did this.

[00:04:52] We did this.

[00:04:53] We did this.

[00:04:54] We checked this off.

[00:04:55] We checked this off.

[00:04:56] Let's have a kid now.

[00:04:57] So after so you're saying like marriage, this

[00:05:00] is not even that in the sense of traditional, but in the sense

[00:05:04] of oh, we've done these things.

[00:05:07] Let's have a kid now.

[00:05:08] I don't want it to ever sound so checklisty.

[00:05:12] I wanted to be a one a passionate act.

[00:05:17] You know, obviously you can play it out of the year,

[00:05:20] but I never wanted to make it sound like a checklist.

[00:05:24] Oh, so for example, we've been dating for three years.

[00:05:26] I think it's time for me to first have a big whoa.

[00:05:30] No, I'm not having a checklist.

[00:05:33] I'm sorry.

[00:05:34] I'm just not having a checklist.

[00:05:36] You know, so that's what I mean in the sense of what,

[00:05:40] what, what are some of the things that go through?

[00:05:42] I'll give you another one while you think right?

[00:05:45] Um, what headspace am I in?

[00:05:52] Am I ready?

[00:05:53] Am I mentally prepared to have a kid?

[00:05:56] There was a point of time I really didn't want to because I

[00:05:59] was in a selfish space tomorrow.

[00:06:01] You know, the life I live, the job that I work for,

[00:06:03] I can get up and go to any country in the world,

[00:06:06] any city in the world and do whatever, right?

[00:06:09] But you can, you are am I willing to give up my selfish

[00:06:13] habits and put that aside for another person?

[00:06:16] You saying that now that's the headspace I'm in.

[00:06:19] That's why I don't have it.

[00:06:21] I don't want a fucking dog so bad.

[00:06:24] But it's like, I gotta, I gotta find you a sitter.

[00:06:26] If I'm not there, I gotta, if I'm going flying to him,

[00:06:28] I gotta find you a sitter.

[00:06:29] I gotta do all this, like, I'm not ready for that yet, bro.

[00:06:32] Like that's literally, I'm not ready for that there,

[00:06:34] but I wouldn't think about me first.

[00:06:36] I would think about the other person,

[00:06:37] like how were you raised?

[00:06:38] How was your family dynamic?

[00:06:40] The village.

[00:06:41] The village.

[00:06:42] God forbid we got something going on and I need

[00:06:46] your mom to watch the baby and I got to drop off

[00:06:48] to your mom, your mom will fuck with me.

[00:06:50] Oh, what are you talking?

[00:06:52] Your family will fuck with me.

[00:06:53] Everybody be like, yo, why y'all don't tell Don

[00:06:56] what you, what, this magic don't happen when you

[00:06:59] put the yes.

[00:07:00] I don't want to be prepared, though.

[00:07:02] I don't like studying, I don't like studying.

[00:07:04] No, look, you're sitting in the gospel,

[00:07:06] like the village.

[00:07:07] Your family is like, I told, me and my ex,

[00:07:09] I talked about that shit one time.

[00:07:11] She was like, we was having a discussion,

[00:07:12] like how would that dynamic go?

[00:07:13] I was like, my parents love you.

[00:07:14] Your parents love me.

[00:07:15] So I'd be like, that's understandable,

[00:07:17] but if it wasn't that situation, it's like,

[00:07:19] I couldn't, I could do it.

[00:07:21] I've seen too many of my mans beefing with them

[00:07:23] this, their mother-in-laws, beefing with the father-in-law.

[00:07:26] I mean, not father-in-law, but you know what I mean?

[00:07:28] Like, I just can't see, I can't foresee that.

[00:07:31] Yeah, the village, see, here's the thing, right?

[00:07:34] That, that I think sometimes, sometimes,

[00:07:38] I'm a preference to this, my saying sometimes,

[00:07:41] sometimes people want children in a selfish act

[00:07:44] for selfish reasons.

[00:07:45] I want something to be here for when I'm gone.

[00:07:47] Right?

[00:07:48] A child never acts to be here.

[00:07:50] I did not act to be here.

[00:07:52] You know what I'm saying?

[00:07:53] If I could have picked my family, I'd be up up.

[00:07:56] Bet.

[00:07:57] But here, I'm going to do my life.

[00:07:59] Billy Madison boss.

[00:08:00] I grew up in Brooklyn.

[00:08:02] Maybe I would have chosen family-hills.

[00:08:05] Maybe I would have chose Milan, Italy.

[00:08:08] I didn't ask to be here.

[00:08:09] So if I am bringing somebody into the world

[00:08:13] who did not ask to be here, let me at least put them

[00:08:16] in a world that they can be happy in.

[00:08:19] I think that's only fair.

[00:08:24] I'm thinking, if you want me,

[00:08:25] I'd like that you want to do this episode

[00:08:27] because I got so many thoughts on this.

[00:08:28] Sorry.

[00:08:29] Yeah, boy, like, if I was able to grow up

[00:08:35] in any family, my household, okay, it's financial,

[00:08:38] but boy, the love gotta be shown.

[00:08:40] That's what I'm saying.

[00:08:42] Like growing up around anger and I got group around that,

[00:08:46] bro, like yelling, fights.

[00:08:51] I've said it before.

[00:08:53] I've never seen my parents kiss ever.

[00:08:55] Ever.

[00:08:57] But see, here's the difference, right?

[00:08:59] Joe, I hope you don't mind me throwing you in the mix.

[00:09:02] Joe talks about marriage in the most greatest way possible

[00:09:06] because he saw his family.

[00:09:08] Like he has a role model with his dad and his mom, right?

[00:09:12] That's why he inspired.

[00:09:13] That's why he takes his relationship seriously.

[00:09:15] That's why he don't just cuff anybody

[00:09:17] because he has that choice based off of what he was me

[00:09:21] on the other end.

[00:09:22] Mine is a little bit more traumatic.

[00:09:24] So I don't want to go through what my parents went through.

[00:09:27] So I'm a little my hesitation

[00:09:29] and my choice decision making is a little bit

[00:09:31] more different from him and I are both patients

[00:09:34] in a sense of who we're going to do life with.

[00:09:37] But mine is coming with trauma.

[00:09:39] Here's coming with, you know, happiness.

[00:09:41] But so in both aspects,

[00:09:43] y'all know exactly what y'all want.

[00:09:45] Mine is more avoidance.

[00:09:47] His is more pursuit.

[00:09:49] So me, I kind of like, y'all,

[00:09:53] if any signs of that,

[00:09:55] I don't know if kids is wise

[00:09:57] because once a kid is here, it's here.

[00:10:00] Is that when you choose slight or do you?

[00:10:04] I keep pulling out.

[00:10:08] I mean, you got to back up from the jet bridge, right?

[00:10:12] But then when I get this DDL, it might be a...

[00:10:15] Come on, come on, come on, come on, come on.

[00:10:17] Oh, it's not a fast slide.

[00:10:19] Come on, come on, come on.

[00:10:21] We're serious. We're serious.

[00:10:23] Come on.

[00:10:24] But now for real, like,

[00:10:26] that's the mindset that I have going into thinking

[00:10:29] about where I'm gonna become a father.

[00:10:32] You know, who the person I'm with,

[00:10:36] do I feel like how do they treat me when they're upset?

[00:10:40] You add a child to it.

[00:10:42] Let's say she has a solid treatment in Tennessee.

[00:10:46] You add a child, now I'm trying to call you to speak to my kid.

[00:10:50] You're not fucking with me. I can't speak to my kid now.

[00:10:53] Nothing, nothing, my fuckers are...

[00:10:55] Nothing I'm gonna ask you at this age you are currently in.

[00:11:01] Would you have a kid out of wedlock?

[00:11:04] Ooh.

[00:11:08] I wouldn't want to.

[00:11:10] I wouldn't want to.

[00:11:12] But if in the act of slipping up, you know,

[00:11:17] it was a leakage in my pipe.

[00:11:20] What do you mean you got a DDL?

[00:11:22] You should have told her, huh?

[00:11:24] There was a leakage in my pipe and some of the water ran loose.

[00:11:27] Bro, what's happening, you fucking...

[00:11:30] What is this?

[00:11:32] And I so happen to, you know, have a child that way.

[00:11:36] I mean, that's what happened, you know?

[00:11:38] Do you...

[00:11:40] That's why I don't fuck around though.

[00:11:42] So the death is that do you get married at that point though?

[00:11:45] After that?

[00:11:46] No.

[00:11:47] No.

[00:11:50] Because that's a checklist thing too.

[00:11:52] I don't know if I'll see you being like a...

[00:11:55] What's it called again, a co-parent?

[00:11:57] A baby daddy?

[00:11:58] Why she's got a golden...

[00:12:00] What do you mean?

[00:12:02] Hey, your boy, not right now.

[00:12:04] Not right now.

[00:12:10] I know you know what that's for.

[00:12:16] So y'all be thinking he's so serious.

[00:12:18] You know, we with Joshua.

[00:12:20] But yeah.

[00:12:21] I don't see that for myself.

[00:12:23] But if it does happen, because I have been through enough things in life where I would never say not me.

[00:12:29] Never, never.

[00:12:30] You know?

[00:12:31] So we're not gonna do that.

[00:12:33] But at the same time in the same breath, that's the reason why...

[00:12:38] It's one of the reasons why...

[00:12:40] Keep it to yourself.

[00:12:41] Come on.

[00:12:42] Or if I am putting it somewhere...

[00:12:45] It's something responsible.

[00:12:46] I trust the person who I'm putting it in.

[00:12:48] Somewhere responsible.

[00:12:49] Yeah.

[00:12:50] So I think I have the honor and pleasure of saying I slept with women that would make a great love.

[00:12:57] Okay, so you keep it in the bank with your toe.

[00:13:03] That's okay when you make jokes.

[00:13:04] I can't make a joke with you.

[00:13:07] I sleep with women who I feel will make great mothers, right?

[00:13:13] Well, I got like eight jokes a day.

[00:13:15] I had an ex-girlfriend.

[00:13:19] Oh, son.

[00:13:21] But I don't know how we would work as parents.

[00:13:27] So it's one thing to sleep with a woman who you know would make a great mother.

[00:13:31] I just don't know if we would make great parents.

[00:13:34] That, you know?

[00:13:36] So that's why that's...

[00:13:37] That's one of the thought processes that go through my head before becoming a father.

[00:13:41] You know, I have the advantage now of not being a father to kind of choose who I'm...

[00:13:45] Who I can do this with.

[00:13:47] So that's kind of why I kind of, you know...

[00:13:51] Even enough, I know prior to what I was saying, am I like being younger and having a selfish mentality.

[00:13:58] That selfishness is the same reason why now I don't think it's nuts.

[00:14:06] Yeah, I need you to love me.

[00:14:08] Tax, fuck that kid.

[00:14:11] I'm joking.

[00:14:13] I'm joking.

[00:14:15] I'm joking.

[00:14:16] I'm joking.

[00:14:17] But, but yeah.

[00:14:18] No.

[00:14:19] I don't think you're joking.

[00:14:20] Here's my real reason of not dating babies.

[00:14:26] There's a lot that goes into that.

[00:14:28] But my number one reason is I want to do it with somebody for their first.

[00:14:33] Damn, my first gotta be your first.

[00:14:36] How's that crazy?

[00:14:37] Cause one of my favorite things in relationships is experiencing something with somebody's first.

[00:14:42] Should things together? That's beautiful.

[00:14:44] Right? So why would I cut babies?

[00:14:47] The problem, I'm settling now.

[00:14:49] Right.

[00:14:50] I think for young, the settling part, I think of for young men.

[00:14:54] If you're in your 20s, your young 20s to mid 20s, and you dating a woman with a child, you gave up.

[00:15:00] LA writes in the chat on a week, about a week basis.

[00:15:05] Yo, he's saying to G, that yo G, that's another nigga that settled on his life bro.

[00:15:09] His life is over.

[00:15:10] There's no law in my right.

[00:15:11] Come boy, he had a say shit for entertainment purposes, if that extent.

[00:15:15] I really mean that.

[00:15:16] I feel like, you gave up on life.

[00:15:19] Like you have.

[00:15:20] And here's what I want to say.

[00:15:21] I want to precious this by saying,

[00:15:22] That kid's your kid now.

[00:15:23] You're, that doesn't make a woman any less.

[00:15:27] Cool fact.

[00:15:28] She has to chop.

[00:15:29] Cool fact though.

[00:15:30] I'm not taking that away from any woman that's a mother.

[00:15:33] You gave birth, you are a man.

[00:15:34] And the fact there was one, it was a rule to every, I mean that exception.

[00:15:38] I'm just in every rule.

[00:15:39] You're fucking.

[00:15:40] Boom.

[00:15:41] Shout outs to that queen.

[00:15:43] Right.

[00:15:44] But at the same time, I knew deep down inside, even if I did pursue that, it wouldn't work out.

[00:15:48] I thought I would be selling because I want to go through those stages where we figure out this parents and thing together.

[00:15:54] You already know what to do.

[00:15:55] Telling me what to do.

[00:15:57] I don't want to experience like, for me, like I said in my singleness, not singleness as it's not meaning not having

[00:16:03] a significant other.

[00:16:05] Singleness is not having.

[00:16:06] Shout outs.

[00:16:07] Shout outs.

[00:16:08] I have the right to say that.

[00:16:10] You know what I'm saying?

[00:16:11] I have the right to say that because it's my thinglingly.

[00:16:17] I choose where I could be.

[00:16:19] I just don't like this.

[00:16:22] I want to go through the stages of, you know, we do the parenting courses.

[00:16:28] Like you, like you know, you tie in the nigga.

[00:16:30] You tie the nigga diaper with a bow and all.

[00:16:33] Come on, man.

[00:16:34] Come on.

[00:16:35] You make it sound fun.

[00:16:36] I want to feel like, what's wrong?

[00:16:38] I got this.

[00:16:39] You don't even hold the baby head right.

[00:16:40] Whoa, hold on.

[00:16:41] Yeah.

[00:16:42] Like I want to love that with my partner.

[00:16:45] So you're telling me a woman who had a child can't get back into the teaching bag?

[00:16:49] I don't want to be taught.

[00:16:50] I want us to learn together.

[00:16:52] So you think a woman without a child won't do any teaching?

[00:16:56] Of course she's going to do teaching but we're both learning together at the same time.

[00:17:00] Yes, yes, we've always probably, most of us have probably changed a child.

[00:17:04] Yes.

[00:17:05] Most of us have probably changed a child.

[00:17:07] But it's like, that being our first child together?

[00:17:10] That is beautiful, bro.

[00:17:12] I mean, that's to say, I mean that also was...

[00:17:15] We used to have first child together.

[00:17:17] Oh, maybe.

[00:17:18] I remember, why you never should?

[00:17:21] I got to stop the ones.

[00:17:23] But why you never should?

[00:17:24] What's the answer to that?

[00:17:25] They should have been chatting.

[00:17:26] You don't want to work with me.

[00:17:27] I'm asking a question though.

[00:17:28] You brought up this subject.

[00:17:31] I remember, I dated two women in my life.

[00:17:34] No, one.

[00:17:35] Only, before I tell this story, I've also come across a place where I dated big mothers.

[00:17:42] I'm not saying this from a perspective of I've never tried it.

[00:17:45] I've tried it, it's not true.

[00:17:47] That's the one reason why I want to go through this.

[00:17:50] Cool, boom.

[00:17:51] Right?

[00:17:52] I dated a woman before, she was engaged.

[00:17:56] And a part of that, probably to her or not.

[00:18:01] Okay, thanks for clearing that up.

[00:18:03] She was...

[00:18:04] Oh, we weren't engaged.

[00:18:05] I don't want to be so surprised.

[00:18:07] I thought she was engaged while you were dating her.

[00:18:09] I don't know, we'll talk about it here.

[00:18:11] So, is that what you're talking about?

[00:18:13] No, no, no, no.

[00:18:14] Oh, I thought you were talking about...

[00:18:15] No, no, no, no.

[00:18:16] That is true though now.

[00:18:18] No, it's not true.

[00:18:19] We're not even doing that one.

[00:18:21] LA was out here walking.

[00:18:23] She was a wild woman, but you know what I mean?

[00:18:25] She was engaged.

[00:18:27] Not while we were dating, she was engaged prior to us dating.

[00:18:32] Yeah.

[00:18:33] And I was like, damn, you already had a ring on your finger.

[00:18:37] Granted, it worked.

[00:18:38] The way I want to do it, you get like...

[00:18:42] How that first time feeling like...

[00:18:45] I feel like I lost that.

[00:18:47] So why do you feel like the other thing got wound up on you now?

[00:18:50] Why even that?

[00:18:51] So it's more of like...

[00:18:53] The feeling of it being first.

[00:18:55] But what if what you do is better though?

[00:19:00] You got the DDL and everything going on for you?

[00:19:04] It's like you're not taking that woman's virginity.

[00:19:06] Like, you weren't the first to go in there, but you did it better.

[00:19:10] True.

[00:19:11] But I think I don't hold back to the same ranking of parents.

[00:19:16] I want our first child.

[00:19:20] Your child, your first child is my first child.

[00:19:24] It's not that I have a problem with raising somebody.

[00:19:28] It's like I said, I've dated women with children before.

[00:19:32] The second reason on that list is there's a level of selfishness that I...

[00:19:38] Like I said, my job, there are certain dates that I may want to do.

[00:19:42] You can't find a sitter.

[00:19:43] There's that in the third.

[00:19:45] I feel like that takes away, you know?

[00:19:48] That was my biggest thing right there.

[00:19:49] As I first started dating a woman with the kid, I was just like...

[00:19:53] Well, Friday I can't really do it.

[00:19:55] I got to find a sitter.

[00:19:56] I was just like, this won't work.

[00:19:58] Like I'm spontaneous sometimes.

[00:20:00] Like I just want to do this. Let's go.

[00:20:01] And like I said...

[00:20:03] I don't expect that.

[00:20:04] Individual lifestyle before you lock in with a person,

[00:20:10] there's nothing wrong with not being alive.

[00:20:13] People take not being alive with somebody as a person.

[00:20:17] We just don't match.

[00:20:19] They may be a guy that only...

[00:20:21] I don't want any children.

[00:20:23] So you have a kid, you're the woman with a kid?

[00:20:26] Me on the other hand, I may not want to.

[00:20:31] Because yeah, like...

[00:20:34] I never want to be with a kid.

[00:20:36] You're not like that.

[00:20:37] Just do the work, do the work.

[00:20:39] I don't want to deal with that shit.

[00:20:41] Now you're right though.

[00:20:46] That's the way I was at it.

[00:20:47] I told my mom when I had nothing.

[00:20:49] All these...

[00:20:50] Like this conversation where you just have whatever minute,

[00:20:52] 20 minute mark,

[00:20:53] that shit goes through my head in those quick 5, 6 seconds

[00:20:55] that I had to pull out.

[00:20:59] Alright.

[00:21:00] Once...

[00:21:01] I want to get vivid.

[00:21:05] The nigga say he put his shit in his hand.

[00:21:08] Listen to this.

[00:21:09] I know what it is.

[00:21:12] Come here, come here.

[00:21:18] Yo boy.

[00:21:19] What?

[00:21:23] In that moment, it's like,

[00:21:24] do you have a thought of being irresponsible though?

[00:21:28] I'd love to be that.

[00:21:29] We'll figure this out in the morning.

[00:21:34] There you go.

[00:21:35] Killing truth RPG gang.

[00:21:38] Yeah, oh.

[00:21:39] Whole click on.

[00:21:41] I can't...

[00:21:43] Ah, now that's the story.

[00:21:45] Yeah.

[00:21:47] But it's like, yeah you gotta think about it.

[00:21:49] You gotta be realistic with yourself though.

[00:21:51] This the tough people.

[00:21:53] This is part right.

[00:21:57] Do you feel like if you're dating a woman

[00:21:59] with health complications?

[00:22:00] And as Kolder said, which one?

[00:22:05] Like let's use fibroids.

[00:22:07] Fibroids is one of the biggest issues right now.

[00:22:10] Like...

[00:22:11] And it's a serious thing that can

[00:22:15] deter them from having children.

[00:22:17] PCOS and things like that.

[00:22:19] That nature, right?

[00:22:21] Like they don't want me, she has those things.

[00:22:24] And as time progresses,

[00:22:26] she feels like, oh you gotta hurry up

[00:22:28] and damn.

[00:22:32] They put you on the little top.

[00:22:36] But if that person, if you really fuck with that person

[00:22:38] you know that person's gonna be a good parent.

[00:22:40] We're gonna be good parents together.

[00:22:41] We'll mess you up for him.

[00:22:45] But why am I not ready?

[00:22:47] Whatever reason you don't feel like you're ready.

[00:22:49] Is it the selfish moment?

[00:22:51] Whatever reason I could still be selfish in that moment.

[00:22:54] What do you do? How do you nap?

[00:22:56] I really fucked with this person a lot.

[00:22:58] That's my person right there.

[00:23:01] Feel like you giving her the baby because of her clock.

[00:23:04] Not because there's no other reason why you're having this child.

[00:23:07] You're giving her a child.

[00:23:09] Give me a baby.

[00:23:11] Stop talking to me and looking at me.

[00:23:13] My heart has to be...

[00:23:15] No, he just...

[00:23:17] He just...

[00:23:18] I don't even know what to do.

[00:23:20] I'm not gonna talk to him.

[00:23:23] I don't even talk to him.

[00:23:25] He's going out with this fucking mom boy.

[00:23:28] Give me a baby, dawg.

[00:23:31] I mean, the M.I. wanted to make my lady happy though.

[00:23:37] Whose happiness is more important than that?

[00:23:39] Come on, now we're having this conversation.

[00:23:41] Whose happiness is more important than this one?

[00:23:43] That is tough.

[00:23:44] That is a tough one.

[00:23:47] This is easy to put you in these shoes right now

[00:23:49] because at this very moment,

[00:23:51] at the day of this recording,

[00:23:53] you were not in a relationship.

[00:23:55] But let's say you are.

[00:23:57] And you come home after recording tonight.

[00:23:59] It's an irony.

[00:24:01] She had a doctor's blah blah blah.

[00:24:03] She was like,

[00:24:04] as I get older,

[00:24:06] Don, my chances are better now.

[00:24:09] You're in the space that you are in right now.

[00:24:11] You don't have to share financials,

[00:24:13] mental, you don't have to share that.

[00:24:15] But you're in that space right now

[00:24:17] and she feel like in the next

[00:24:21] two to twelve months,

[00:24:23] she needs you to shoot this shit up

[00:24:25] like did and did back in Ghana.

[00:24:27] Not shy.

[00:24:31] What are you gonna do?

[00:24:33] What are you gonna do?

[00:24:35] Nah, I can't.

[00:24:37] Don't call me that.

[00:24:39] Him and the Piper are the same person at this point.

[00:24:43] Nah, I can't.

[00:24:47] I can't.

[00:24:49] I have to.

[00:24:51] I ain't gonna front in the,

[00:24:53] do I let her go?

[00:24:55] I wanna say I let her go.

[00:24:57] I just say I gotta choose myself.

[00:24:59] I'm not letting her go, but it's like

[00:25:01] I am letting her go without.

[00:25:05] You gotta literally choose yourself

[00:25:07] and people make choosing yourself sound so easy.

[00:25:09] Who are not even in this situation right now?

[00:25:13] And you feel guilty.

[00:25:15] This is a hypothetical situation

[00:25:17] and you feel the guilt.

[00:25:19] And people that go through this

[00:25:21] who are in these situations

[00:25:23] are like, Pam, I know my baby

[00:25:25] right now is going through a lot.

[00:25:27] She wants this for health complications.

[00:25:29] She don't want to lose out

[00:25:31] on being a mother.

[00:25:33] You feel like you're taking mother a little away from her.

[00:25:35] Because you're not ready in this very moment.

[00:25:37] I ain't gonna front that shit

[00:25:39] just kinda fuck me up a little bit though.

[00:25:41] Damn, I ain't like that just now.

[00:25:43] I'm sorry.

[00:25:45] Damn, I ain't gonna front.

[00:25:47] I'd be joking sometimes.

[00:25:49] I didn't really like that one just now.

[00:25:51] I feel mad guilty.

[00:25:53] I'm doing this to you now.

[00:25:55] I'm doing this to you.

[00:25:57] But I'm not rented.

[00:25:59] And in my mind, I don't know

[00:26:01] if it sounds fucked up,

[00:26:03] but should I be giving you a baby

[00:26:05] because your body is dysfunction?

[00:26:07] That sounds crazy to say, right?

[00:26:09] Fuck's crucial.

[00:26:11] Do you do it?

[00:26:13] No, it's...

[00:26:15] If I'm not in the space I'm in now though.

[00:26:17] You're in now.

[00:26:19] 100%.

[00:26:21] 2 to 12 months.

[00:26:23] 2 to 12 months.

[00:26:25] 2 to 12 months.

[00:26:27] Let's do 2 to 24 months.

[00:26:29] Price of brick going up?

[00:26:31] Price of the brick.

[00:26:33] But you're a person when you're gonna hustle your way through.

[00:26:35] Niggas already know how I'm acting.

[00:26:37] I already don't sleep.

[00:26:39] It's an extra...

[00:26:41] That's an extra...

[00:26:43] But boy, do you bring yourself up.

[00:26:45] That's a toughie though.

[00:26:47] I feel like there are

[00:26:49] other solutions.

[00:26:51] You can freeze your eggs.

[00:26:53] You could go a little holistic route.

[00:26:55] There's certain vitamins that you could take.

[00:26:57] Oh, there's teas you could take as well.

[00:26:59] Teas, exactly.

[00:27:01] But you know, let's...

[00:27:03] Me?

[00:27:05] For me, I don't think...

[00:27:07] I don't think I walk away cussing.

[00:27:09] Mm-hmm.

[00:27:11] I don't think I stall easily.

[00:27:13] Mm-hmm.

[00:27:15] I just feel like we could

[00:27:17] go the course of it.

[00:27:19] Mm-hmm.

[00:27:21] Try to make you healthier, in a sense.

[00:27:23] Mm-hmm.

[00:27:25] What has she been doing at the whole time?

[00:27:27] She's went through every avenue.

[00:27:29] She wanted...

[00:27:31] She wanted this baby by 2025.

[00:27:37] Same way I felt.

[00:27:39] Same way you felt. You just breathe the same way I did.

[00:27:41] I would have to have an honest conversation with myself.

[00:27:43] You know how many times

[00:27:45] you talked about you got to be okay

[00:27:47] with being a villain in somebody's story?

[00:27:49] I don't think I want to be the villain.

[00:27:51] I don't know if I want to be the villain that way though.

[00:27:53] I feel like that's what I can't...

[00:27:55] That shit bothers me, bro.

[00:27:57] All right, so you...

[00:28:01] We talked about a child in accident.

[00:28:03] Mm-hmm.

[00:28:05] So you found out...

[00:28:07] Let's say we have this conversation.

[00:28:09] Your child has this...

[00:28:11] Dad, what made you have me, Ramon?

[00:28:13] I mean, Mom wanted to have you.

[00:28:15] That's kind of crazy.

[00:28:17] Now, I'm thinking about it, I'm saying that imagine me saying that to myself.

[00:28:19] That's kind of crazy though.

[00:28:21] But you... That's the truth though.

[00:28:23] I'm alive, of course.

[00:28:25] I mean, Mommy was so happy we thought about you.

[00:28:27] It is the future.

[00:28:29] I mean, your Mom wanted to have you.

[00:28:31] I wasn't ready yet.

[00:28:33] What else do I say after that?

[00:28:35] Because I didn't told you everything.

[00:28:37] Do you tell her what your Mom had?

[00:28:39] Yeah, the full truth.

[00:28:41] But you think your child's going to understand that at that time?

[00:28:43] Hit the plex.

[00:28:45] Hit the plex.

[00:28:47] It depends on what age and when...

[00:28:49] There's no right and a sin to...

[00:28:51] No, it's not though.

[00:28:53] No, no, no, no, no, no, there was no...

[00:28:55] There are situations where...

[00:28:57] That's the decision I can't make overnight though.

[00:28:59] That's what I said like...

[00:29:01] I'm not saying...

[00:29:03] I'm not saying nothing up part, LA.

[00:29:05] Get your mind out the front.

[00:29:07] That's what I'm telling you.

[00:29:09] Ain't going in the back.

[00:29:11] It depends if she can do a...

[00:29:13] It depends if she can do a clinic.

[00:29:15] But...

[00:29:17] I'm...

[00:29:19] Yeah, that's...

[00:29:21] Damn.

[00:29:23] It depends on the situation.

[00:29:25] So I know...

[00:29:27] That's the person from me, bro.

[00:29:29] We all are sacrificed for the person we love, though.

[00:29:31] Ah, so it is one of the...

[00:29:33] That's a...

[00:29:35] Even with those situations, right?

[00:29:37] Pregnancy purpose is a challenge.

[00:29:39] We don't see that...

[00:29:41] I don't see the healthiest people have complications.

[00:29:43] That's a...

[00:29:45] Hoverist pregnancy.

[00:29:47] Especially with certain stuff.

[00:29:49] Conflictations make a pregnancy hoverist.

[00:29:51] You in a situation where they got a...

[00:29:53] Oh my lord.

[00:29:55] I

[00:29:57] I've been to another one.

[00:29:59] I'm sorry.

[00:30:01] Even if me her or not...

[00:30:03] What if she's like, yo, save the baby?

[00:30:05] Nah, hell no.

[00:30:07] You can stay and then you...

[00:30:09] I was like...

[00:30:11] LA, get the fuck out of here, bro.

[00:30:13] You can't...

[00:30:15] She can hate me forever for that.

[00:30:17] Bro, yeah, she's gonna hate you because...

[00:30:19] Bro, what?

[00:30:21] But I understand you...

[00:30:23] She don't think me.

[00:30:25] She don't think me. I like her being mad.

[00:30:27] She gonna be mad every time. How I belong.

[00:30:29] Kwanee, you picking her too?

[00:30:31] She's like a true baby.

[00:30:33] She a lot still.

[00:30:35] She can be mad all she wants.

[00:30:37] Hey, and now...

[00:30:39] She can be mad there!

[00:30:41] That's not funny. That's not funny.

[00:30:43] That's not funny.

[00:30:45] It wasn't funny. It was funny.

[00:30:47] Mad dead.

[00:30:49] But...

[00:30:51] I'm not laughing at it. Please cut this shit out.

[00:30:53] But...

[00:30:55] But yeah, now I'm thinking about the Kevin Hart movie.

[00:30:59] Yeah, yeah.

[00:31:01] I go for it, you need a village if that is to happen.

[00:31:03] If you're a true-true baby.

[00:31:05] Damn.

[00:31:07] Do you have a village to support that?

[00:31:09] It's a question.

[00:31:11] Village, living, bro. I don't know...

[00:31:13] I don't know if it's...

[00:31:15] My child's mother.

[00:31:17] Grandmother.

[00:31:19] My mother's side. Don't fuck with me.

[00:31:21] Like, at all.

[00:31:23] I might not even want you around my kid.

[00:31:25] Yeah, alone.

[00:31:27] I can't...

[00:31:29] You might poison my child.

[00:31:31] I can't... Oh man.

[00:31:33] I don't know.

[00:31:35] This is...

[00:31:37] That's why we don't have kids.

[00:31:39] That's why we don't have kids.

[00:31:41] Because we have...

[00:31:43] I feel like...

[00:31:45] I think we think more than with our dick.

[00:31:47] I mean, I joke a lot about our sexual interwindows.

[00:31:49] But at the same time,

[00:31:51] there is a level of seriousness

[00:31:53] to my sexual out.

[00:31:55] Yeah, I don't...

[00:31:57] I got no how to control myself.

[00:31:59] Facts.

[00:32:01] My ass so quick, boy.

[00:32:03] Treat that shit like no bra.

[00:32:09] Spirit bomb.

[00:32:11] No point in telling it.

[00:32:13] Treat that shit like George Bush,

[00:32:15] like, you know, you're fine.

[00:32:17] You know what I mean?

[00:32:19] I think we're about wrapped up.

[00:32:21] No pun intended.

[00:32:25] I don't even like the wrapped up joke.

[00:32:27] That was a good one.

[00:32:29] No child left bar.

[00:32:31] But nah, there is a...

[00:32:33] I feel like...

[00:32:35] I feel like there's a seriousness that needs to go

[00:32:37] into the thought process of when

[00:32:39] a man wants to conceive.

[00:32:41] You know, because we have

[00:32:43] a lot of kids.

[00:32:45] And I don't ever want to say a child is

[00:32:47] a too late situation,

[00:32:49] but don't be so quick with your meat.

[00:32:51] Yeah, take time to think with

[00:32:53] your head and not the one that's in your pants.

[00:32:55] It's literally that easy.

[00:32:57] True shit makes me too horny, but I mean...

[00:32:59] Control your horny.

[00:33:01] But, um...

[00:33:03] Next time, fellas, you listen to this part,

[00:33:05] and next time you have

[00:33:07] your love making session with your woman,

[00:33:09] she whispers nothing.

[00:33:11] Just remember what we talked about today.

[00:33:13] Yo, I'm going to say I apologize

[00:33:15] for any brothers listening to the podcast

[00:33:17] via AirPods.

[00:33:19] You keep hearing L.A. say nothing.

[00:33:21] L.A., don't do it again.

[00:33:23] But I want to say shout out

[00:33:25] to the women that are going through

[00:33:27] any of those complications.

[00:33:29] That is a whole different realm.

[00:33:31] I do think many have those conversations with women though.

[00:33:35] Just leave them in the dark about

[00:33:37] why...

[00:33:39] It sounds real intense, but

[00:33:41] I got to figure out how family health...

[00:33:45] He'll be wondering, oh, how did I get this?

[00:33:47] Your grandmother had that.

[00:33:49] You didn't know that, but

[00:33:51] I know hot blood pressure and all that

[00:33:53] other shit diabetes running in my family.

[00:33:55] All that shit running in my family.

[00:33:57] Yeah, do the history, man.

[00:33:59] Real conversations.

[00:34:01] Like I said, as you get older...

[00:34:03] You get older.

[00:34:05] You get older.

[00:34:07] You don't think about this when you're 25

[00:34:09] and you know...

[00:34:11] You just knuck in and bucking.

[00:34:13] Facts.

[00:34:15] It's a little dangerous,

[00:34:17] but it needs to be said.

[00:34:19] If we offended you, that wasn't our intention.

[00:34:23] Yeah, I didn't say I intended

[00:34:25] to offend.

[00:34:27] It's more to bring

[00:34:29] light to what's going on in our...

[00:34:31] And I thought practice

[00:34:33] would not have its children.

[00:34:35] No.

[00:34:37] Stay wrapped up, miss. Stay strapped up.

[00:34:39] If you're being ready for it.

[00:34:41] This podcast episode was brought to you by NYC Connoffs.

[00:34:43] Yo, you know they changed the rapper to gold?

[00:34:45] It's not the black with the

[00:34:47] train station logos anymore?

[00:34:49] What? It's black and gold?

[00:34:51] No, it's just a regular old Connoff with black.

[00:34:53] They try to finagle the maple,

[00:34:55] so when I was in the hospital the other day...

[00:34:57] You got it with you?

[00:34:59] Nah!

[00:35:01] You know the

[00:35:03] chawplers with the gold rapper?

[00:35:05] You know the what?

[00:35:07] Look at that, look at that.

[00:35:09] Look at the blue over there.

[00:35:13] You ever watched Conn?

[00:35:15] Yeah, that's what LA was about to do.

[00:35:17] Chartoon on the Connoff.

[00:35:19] Yo, I thought it was a chartoon.

[00:35:21] I didn't know what it was.

[00:35:23] What the fuck?

[00:35:25] I don't know what it was.

[00:35:27] This episode was brought to you by NYC Connoffs.

[00:35:29] Stay strapped up.

[00:35:31] If you ain't ready, you don't gotta do it.

[00:35:33] Be careful.

[00:35:35] You know what he needs to talk to?

[00:35:37] I don't do this.

[00:35:39] You say you're from this one.

[00:35:41] Wow.

[00:35:43] I don't...

[00:35:45] Squirrels over there just giggling.

[00:35:47] Mr. Churchimaw over there giggling.

[00:35:55] Nah, bro, I ain't on front, bro.

[00:35:57] As much as I go front,

[00:35:59] I don't understand.

[00:36:01] As much as I was wound as a youngster,

[00:36:03] for I didn't have none of that dough, though.

[00:36:05] What? Huh?

[00:36:07] Nah, let me tell you something, brother.

[00:36:09] Let me tell you something, brother.

[00:36:11] I was strapped up when I hit the club.

[00:36:13] Strapped up when I hit the club

[00:36:15] like old times aside.

[00:36:17] You got to understand,

[00:36:19] I was wound in the streets,

[00:36:21] but I wasn't wound in the streets.

[00:36:23] I done heard 20 bad stories.

[00:36:25] Even though I'm younger,

[00:36:27] my brother used to give me condoms.

[00:36:29] I got two older brothers,

[00:36:31] they gave me condoms from the niggas.

[00:36:33] I just couldn't imagine a kid.

[00:36:35] I remember one of my cousins had a kid at like 15.

[00:36:39] Huh?

[00:36:41] Which way?

[00:36:43] You remember when I saw that young one eating me leaf?

[00:36:45] And he was like,

[00:36:47] y'all had a little shawty on top.

[00:36:49] Nah, suck a little dick.

[00:36:51] That's not funny.

[00:36:53] I'm done.

[00:36:55] Y'all,

[00:36:57] a little suck a little shawty dick.

[00:36:59] Yo!

[00:37:01] That's how they treated you.

[00:37:03] Queen?

[00:37:05] A little suck a little bi-p.

[00:37:07] Thank you.

[00:37:09] Yo, I was going to say a good response,

[00:37:11] but I'm going to let that one go. I'm done here.

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[00:37:15] I think after this episode, I don't know.

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[00:37:19] like I said, if we offended you,

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[00:37:23] This was my idea.

[00:37:25] You could still book me a Donna Carol.

[00:37:27] But yo,

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[00:37:49] Okay, that's cool too. Don't curse at me.

[00:37:51] Oh, LA, like I said, it's

[00:37:53] compensation.

[00:37:55] It's a good combo.

[00:37:57] Should be a 20-metre ambulance.

[00:37:59] Alright, nothing but a shut up. I'm going to keep my high-light shot though.

[00:38:01] Let's go, baby.