Episode 262: More To A Man

[00:00:00] Oh, you already know whats my good people.

[00:00:02] Whats your favorite degenerate Dom Peasley?

[00:00:04] Alongside of Lechon

[00:00:06] I dont know if its beautiful outside

[00:00:08] but its beautiful to be alive so

[00:00:10] another beautiful day to be

[00:00:12] Shout out to all you guys

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[00:00:16] we do appreciate y'all

[00:00:18] Sorry if I look a little tired

[00:00:20] It's been a long day

[00:00:22] Black man working man

[00:00:24] It's been a long day

[00:00:26] I ain't a freaking bum

[00:00:28] Im happy with that

[00:00:30] Its a proud moment for me

[00:00:32] How you feeling good bro?

[00:00:34] Im good man, Im good

[00:00:36] Finally

[00:00:38] God damn Tom man

[00:00:40] Sheesh

[00:00:42] But uh, yeah for real

[00:00:44] I got my jacket, you know

[00:00:46] Um

[00:00:48] I got my wisdom teeth pulled out

[00:00:50] So my mouth looked type crazy

[00:00:52] No Diddy

[00:00:54] Yo, I don't

[00:00:56] I think now is the time

[00:00:58] Im working on all my insecurities

[00:01:00] I'm losing weight

[00:01:02] My teeth are out so Im steady building

[00:01:04] You know?

[00:01:06] Next is the DDL

[00:01:08] Yo what the

[00:01:10] Yo boy what the fuck is going on

[00:01:12] 5 when its flat, 11 when its packed

[00:01:14] 7 with some veins

[00:01:16] 12 with some gaits

[00:01:18] Yo you gotta chill out

[00:01:20] 12 with some gaits

[00:01:22] What the fuck yo boy

[00:01:24] That's next on my list

[00:01:26] My DDL and I should be alright

[00:01:28] They go with a kickstand

[00:01:30] I'm crazy right now

[00:01:32] Trap on

[00:01:34] Why you hitting it

[00:01:36] Why you hitting it

[00:01:38] Probably that's not on hand baby

[00:01:40] You coming to give you that

[00:01:42] Woo

[00:01:44] But nah, yeah nah

[00:01:46] Thats how I feel Im just working on

[00:01:48] Physical things of myself

[00:01:50] As well as emotional

[00:01:52] Talk to me well

[00:01:54] Random man

[00:01:56] I feel like the biggest mistake we make is

[00:01:58] Man, we put too much value

[00:02:00] In how much money we make

[00:02:02] Thats what we told once today

[00:02:04] I think so

[00:02:06] I think there's more to a man than that

[00:02:08] I feel like society got us fucked up

[00:02:10] As far as thinking

[00:02:12] We just need a bunch of money

[00:02:14] A lot of people do make the money

[00:02:16] Make them though

[00:02:18] Doesn't help as well

[00:02:20] What

[00:02:22] After the money

[00:02:24] There's a lot of corny niggas with money out here

[00:02:26] One more

[00:02:28] Would you rather be a corny nigga with money

[00:02:30] Or a solid nigga without all that money

[00:02:32] Nah I'd rather be corny with money

[00:02:34] I ain't gonna say nothing

[00:02:36] I'm making sure that I make sure we're on the same page

[00:02:38] Corny is subjective

[00:02:40] Somebody go like

[00:02:42] What else do you need to worry about

[00:02:44] But nah, I think

[00:02:46] I think for

[00:02:48] When I speak to

[00:02:50] You know our

[00:02:52] Fellow men

[00:02:54] And you always ask them

[00:02:56] Where they at in life

[00:02:58] Majority of the answers usually

[00:03:00] I just gotta get some more bread

[00:03:02] I gotta get this money up

[00:03:04] Everything is around the financial aspect

[00:03:06] But it's like you get the money

[00:03:08] Then what

[00:03:10] Don't get me wrong

[00:03:12] It can solve a lot of problems

[00:03:14] But I think the problems that we're looking to solve

[00:03:16] Are things

[00:03:18] Can be funded

[00:03:20] Someway somehow there's a lot of work you gotta do

[00:03:22] And then okay

[00:03:24] You get the money and I think there's more

[00:03:26] To us than that

[00:03:28] Every time I think about that I'd be great

[00:03:30] With this amount of money

[00:03:32] But I started looking at other people

[00:03:34] I don't compare myself but it's more

[00:03:36] Like I always bring up Robin Williams

[00:03:38] All these people

[00:03:40] That were excellent in their field

[00:03:42] Making all this money

[00:03:44] She just really not

[00:03:46] Like 99 problems

[00:03:48] And that is why

[00:03:50] I kinda

[00:03:52] Think people need to work on that

[00:03:54] And there's different ways of doing it

[00:03:56] Cause

[00:03:58] I was on a flight recently

[00:04:00] I was working on a flight

[00:04:02] And

[00:04:04] One of the guys

[00:04:06] He wanted to use the bathroom

[00:04:08] So he came to the front

[00:04:10] We was just talking about his career path

[00:04:12] But um

[00:04:14] He's waiting for the bathroom?

[00:04:16] I mean he ain't got nothing else to do

[00:04:18] So

[00:04:20] He was telling me what he'd do for a living

[00:04:22] And he make

[00:04:24] Brad

[00:04:26] And I said

[00:04:28] What's some advice you could give me

[00:04:30] He was like remain happy

[00:04:32] No matter what

[00:04:34] Remain happy

[00:04:36] I was happier when I didn't have all of this

[00:04:38] I don't see my family

[00:04:40] I don't get to kiss my wife every night

[00:04:42] You know

[00:04:44] I'm out here providing for everybody

[00:04:46] Everybody

[00:04:48] But I feel like I missed out on the

[00:04:50] Good things

[00:04:52] I was like damn

[00:04:54] He was like yeah my daughter turns 5 next week

[00:04:56] I won't be able to see her

[00:04:58] I won't see her

[00:05:00] Future is bright though

[00:05:02] She got that bright

[00:05:04] When you think about it as a child

[00:05:06] Your parents are providing for you

[00:05:08] It's like how we grew up

[00:05:10] My parents got a 9 to 5

[00:05:12] They provide for us

[00:05:14] For some people the streets is raising

[00:05:16] Other people their grandparents is raising

[00:05:18] So it's like damn

[00:05:20] It's worth it

[00:05:22] But it's really worth it

[00:05:24] So

[00:05:26] I was uh

[00:05:28] He kind of gave me a good example too

[00:05:30] We was chatting

[00:05:32] We were really chatting

[00:05:34] He was going to use the bathroom at that point

[00:05:36] So

[00:05:38] In the first class cabin

[00:05:40] There's only one bathroom

[00:05:42] When the person got out

[00:05:44] He came back out

[00:05:46] He was just like you know tell me what you went to

[00:05:48] I told him all the things

[00:05:50] That I meant to

[00:05:52] He might even watch this

[00:05:54] And um

[00:05:56] He was like

[00:05:58] List to list

[00:06:00] He was like

[00:06:02] What do you do with your money if your mommy asks

[00:06:04] You with my money

[00:06:06] He was like I want you to think of life

[00:06:08] Cause I told him what stocks I got

[00:06:10] And this that and the third

[00:06:12] He was like oh you went to stocks let me see

[00:06:14] He was like I

[00:06:16] Think of your life like an index fund

[00:06:18] So most people

[00:06:20] If you don't know what an index fund

[00:06:22] It's a portfolio that has

[00:06:24] It may have stocks and it may have bonds

[00:06:26] But it never

[00:06:28] And it's at maybe 70 30 split

[00:06:30] But it never is in a position

[00:06:32] To fail

[00:06:34] And he was like

[00:06:36] My life is set up

[00:06:38] Purely on my finances

[00:06:40] He was like as a man

[00:06:42] Make sure your life is

[00:06:44] Set up like an index fund

[00:06:46] Where you got more than just the money

[00:06:48] Like it's your mental good

[00:06:50] It's your health good, it's this that and the third

[00:06:52] He was like because I'm gonna have

[00:06:54] All this money I'm gonna die one day

[00:06:56] I'm not he was like I'm not gonna be

[00:06:58] No matter what I do I won't be able

[00:07:00] To spend all of this

[00:07:02] Pardon me like let me get a dollar if you talk

[00:07:04] That's that's good that's a good thing to go out like

[00:07:06] Let me get a dollar if you

[00:07:08] Talk it like that you know

[00:07:10] So so if

[00:07:12] If in the event

[00:07:14] That you got all this money and you're never

[00:07:16] Gonna spend it I'm like I

[00:07:18] He was like you know

[00:07:20] Make sure your mind is right

[00:07:22] That's the only thing that he was like

[00:07:24] I prioritize my mind

[00:07:26] Over my money because if

[00:07:28] This don't work I ain't gonna be

[00:07:30] If you can if you can think you can

[00:07:32] You can't eat

[00:07:34] So he was he was basically

[00:07:36] Just telling me like

[00:07:38] You know you young that's how they always

[00:07:40] Get me he was like you got any kids I was like

[00:07:42] Nah he was like you married

[00:07:44] I was like nah he was like choose wisely

[00:07:46] Choose wisely

[00:07:48] He was like it's my second wife

[00:07:50] Fucked up the first time

[00:07:54] He was black actually one action

[00:07:56] He was black

[00:07:58] He was like

[00:08:00] Choose wisely he was like

[00:08:02] You young dapper

[00:08:04] He looked like you you know

[00:08:06] My son he's called you bitches

[00:08:08] He was like just make sure

[00:08:10] Your priorities on what you're looking for as a partner

[00:08:12] He was like that's the biggest investment

[00:08:14] Either gonna build you or they're gonna break you

[00:08:20] He was just like you know

[00:08:22] The ones with the

[00:08:24] That get us when we young

[00:08:26] Make sure she good here

[00:08:28] Make sure she good here

[00:08:30] And I was like you know

[00:08:32] What is the best thing your wife has done for you

[00:08:34] He was like

[00:08:36] She helps me put things in perspective

[00:08:38] He was like there's days where I get

[00:08:40] They don't go through

[00:08:42] Pissed

[00:08:44] She puts she helps me put things in perspective

[00:08:46] And that's funny because

[00:08:48] Since I was a kid

[00:08:50] I was like

[00:08:52] Because

[00:08:54] Cindy had did something

[00:08:56] Sorry Cindy

[00:08:58] She had did something that I ain't like

[00:09:00] In a sense many grays didn't come in too well

[00:09:02] And she kind of told him to call me

[00:09:04] To let me know his grays didn't do well

[00:09:06] Right

[00:09:08] And I don't want many to view me as

[00:09:10] Detention you're the punisher

[00:09:12] So

[00:09:14] Many grays came in he got 100

[00:09:16] A 76 and a 73

[00:09:18] So you know I boosted him up

[00:09:20] Good job on 100

[00:09:22] You know and then

[00:09:24] I knew what I didn't like

[00:09:26] Growing up and that was like the whole

[00:09:28] You know you get a good grade

[00:09:30] But your parents only focus on what you didn't do right

[00:09:32] So I took that opportunity

[00:09:34] To teach him about averages

[00:09:36] So I said get your calculator

[00:09:38] I was like add 100

[00:09:40] Add 76

[00:09:42] Add 73 then divide it by 3

[00:09:44] It was like 80 something

[00:09:46] I said okay

[00:09:48] Going forward that's a good average

[00:09:50] But you want a better average

[00:09:52] So I said add 5 to the 76

[00:09:54] And add 5 to the 73

[00:09:56] That's a high average

[00:09:58] That's about 85

[00:10:00] So in college that's like a B

[00:10:02] B plus

[00:10:04] Give or take

[00:10:06] So I said you see the difference what 5 points will make

[00:10:08] That's 5 extra minutes to study

[00:10:10] And that's 5 so instead of me getting on him

[00:10:12] About his grades being

[00:10:14] He's having a C's and C plus

[00:10:16] I just showed him how to be better

[00:10:18] And I think

[00:10:20] He left feeling way

[00:10:22] Better because he thought

[00:10:24] He was going to get his ass beat

[00:10:26] Not his ass beat but you know ripped into

[00:10:28] No did he

[00:10:30] Yo

[00:10:32] I'm listening

[00:10:34] You know

[00:10:36] I just think the way you view

[00:10:38] Life sometimes like life is

[00:10:40] Hard

[00:10:42] I don't think anybody

[00:10:44] Well if you got an easy life shout out to you

[00:10:46] But for me life is hard

[00:10:48] Try to figure it out

[00:10:50] So when you're in that

[00:10:52] Space where you're not financially there

[00:10:54] Where do you go mentally

[00:10:56] Like a lot of people shut down

[00:10:58] I used to

[00:11:00] I used to shut down

[00:11:02] Just figure it out

[00:11:04] Why do you do that

[00:11:06] And be social at the same time as the question

[00:11:08] Cause I feel like

[00:11:10] My life

[00:11:12] Or what I offer to people is more than financial

[00:11:14] What I offer myself

[00:11:16] Is more than financial

[00:11:18] You know I don't put

[00:11:20] I used to be

[00:11:22] I used to put all my stock in

[00:11:24] I gotta have money

[00:11:26] To do certain things especially dating

[00:11:28] Obviously

[00:11:30] I'm not going to talk to this particular woman cause I know my

[00:11:32] I can hold a conversation

[00:11:34] I could talk

[00:11:36] I'm romantic I could go outside

[00:11:38] I don't go too far with the

[00:11:40] The whole New York City

[00:11:42] And pick flowers

[00:11:44] I'm bad you mean go there

[00:11:46] I'm just trying to

[00:11:48] Sense to you

[00:11:50] No no no not that city

[00:11:52] Not that city

[00:11:54] I could figure out

[00:11:56] Ain't now

[00:11:58] Ain't now

[00:12:00] You gonna break me I'm gonna see you

[00:12:02] I could figure out different ways

[00:12:04] To

[00:12:06] Offer

[00:12:08] Not my services but

[00:12:10] My ability

[00:12:12] To

[00:12:14] Keep someone interested outside of the money

[00:12:16] Obviously it's a great tool

[00:12:18] And it vances it

[00:12:20] But I know that you know

[00:12:22] If I don't have a dollar I don't lose

[00:12:24] The value of who I am

[00:12:26] So I try to pride myself in that

[00:12:28] So that's another thing I'm trying

[00:12:30] To get my head out of like

[00:12:32] Always putting like money is

[00:12:34] A very important thing yes

[00:12:36] And I always think about when Wainow

[00:12:38] Told us like yo money like you just said

[00:12:40] Money is a tool like don't

[00:12:42] Put too much stock into it but put stock

[00:12:44] Into it. Yeah cause what happens if they

[00:12:46] If the government shut

[00:12:48] Wake up one day and say

[00:12:50] Yo we changing the currency

[00:12:52] Dollar ain't worth nothing

[00:12:54] Now you gotta get a

[00:12:56] I don't know a chip

[00:12:58] Now we out there searching for chips

[00:13:00] Where you gonna get a chip from

[00:13:02] Now you broke again

[00:13:04] Somebody's eyes you know

[00:13:06] I guess I got into that

[00:13:08] Mindset cause now it's more like

[00:13:10] Everything just hustle

[00:13:12] Mode I can't really chop it up

[00:13:14] With people how I chop it up with people

[00:13:16] But what you hustling for though

[00:13:18] That's what I'm saying

[00:13:20] What you hustling for

[00:13:22] It's difficult to save a certain amount

[00:13:24] When I always gotta dish out certain

[00:13:26] Brands for bills and do that

[00:13:28] I'm not I don't have the two jobs

[00:13:30] I used to have so it's not

[00:13:32] It's like me doing different shit to hustle

[00:13:34] Do this like I'm going on a flight tomorrow

[00:13:36] I remember when I was dead broke right

[00:13:40] And I was in over my head

[00:13:42] Bills was piling up

[00:13:44] I was looking up different ways

[00:13:46] Of like trying to get rid of debt

[00:13:48] And then they had this thing

[00:13:50] Called like there's two different

[00:13:52] Debt reliefs there's debt

[00:13:54] Consolidation and then

[00:13:56] There's a debt relief loan

[00:13:58] So the consolidation part

[00:14:00] I don't

[00:14:02] I don't really rock with that

[00:14:04] So that's one thing

[00:14:06] But the debt relief loan

[00:14:08] Is when a bank gives you a loan

[00:14:10] So say you owe

[00:14:12] Say you owe

[00:14:14] $30,000 in credit cards

[00:14:16] Right

[00:14:18] They give you the 30 grand

[00:14:20] You use that 30 grand

[00:14:22] To pay all of that off

[00:14:24] Right

[00:14:26] And then you just pay back the loan

[00:14:28] But there's no interest

[00:14:30] For three or four years

[00:14:32] So now

[00:14:34] Knock that shit out quick

[00:14:36] Just knock that shit out quick

[00:14:38] So that way you don't feel like you drowning

[00:14:40] Because you know

[00:14:42] You trying to pay off one credit card

[00:14:44] But you got the other credit card

[00:14:46] That's piling on interest

[00:14:48] And even when you pay that off

[00:14:50] They add another whatever whatever to it

[00:14:52] Now you gotta be disciplined

[00:14:54] And you gotta be back to zero

[00:14:56] But you got this 30 grand loan

[00:14:58] Don't think you back at zero

[00:15:00] You know what I'm saying

[00:15:02] So that way you just lock in

[00:15:04] No spending, no going out

[00:15:06] Everything that I'm doing

[00:15:08] How do you get that discipline is my question

[00:15:10] That's why you gotta have more value than money

[00:15:12] That's why I talk to one of our good friends

[00:15:14] I'm gonna say his name is Skrill

[00:15:16] We talk about laying a board

[00:15:18] We gotta stop spending money

[00:15:20] Why do we keep doing this

[00:15:22] See for me

[00:15:24] What's my end goal

[00:15:26] You know I think

[00:15:28] I took as crazy I know in the beginning

[00:15:30] Of the episode I talked about my insecurities

[00:15:32] But it was like that took a minute

[00:15:34] I had to get all my wisdom teeth pulled out

[00:15:36] Now I gotta go

[00:15:38] And

[00:15:40] See another dentist to get my

[00:15:42] Avisaline

[00:15:44] Because one of my insecurities is in my teeth

[00:15:46] So

[00:15:48] Getting that I have an end goal

[00:15:50] My bigger picture is

[00:15:52] That

[00:15:54] The DDL now

[00:15:56] Yo boy

[00:15:58] I'm saying

[00:16:00] Let's see you on a flight back with a wheelchair

[00:16:02] I'm not talking to you again

[00:16:04] You won't see that

[00:16:06] Walk it like I talk

[00:16:08] Alright

[00:16:10] But nah

[00:16:12] So for me it was like

[00:16:14] I'm entering a stage in my life

[00:16:16] At that time

[00:16:18] I bought all the clothes

[00:16:20] In the world

[00:16:22] I had all the sneakers that

[00:16:24] Quote-unquote my looks didn't get me

[00:16:26] To where I needed to go

[00:16:28] You know I stopped

[00:16:30] Quote-unquote competing with others

[00:16:32] In the sense of

[00:16:34] Trying to maintain

[00:16:36] A reputation that I don't even know

[00:16:38] If I had or not

[00:16:40] Or the

[00:16:42] Society's influence didn't really

[00:16:44] Get to me anymore

[00:16:46] So I just knew that like

[00:16:48] Alright there's more

[00:16:50] To life than quote-unquote being

[00:16:52] Fly

[00:16:54] To me

[00:16:56] I just

[00:16:58] Like say I wanted

[00:17:00] What did I want at that time

[00:17:02] Say I wanted a car

[00:17:04] A new car

[00:17:06] Saving up for that car was more than

[00:17:10] Being fly at that moment

[00:17:12] Going on to a nice restaurant

[00:17:14] A sacrifice

[00:17:16] That's one of the things that I feel like

[00:17:18] As a man you should be able to offer

[00:17:20] A level of discipline

[00:17:22] Discipline in anything

[00:17:24] You in a relationship

[00:17:26] We ain't gonna do no

[00:17:28] We got eyes

[00:17:30] We don't have to touch

[00:17:32] Or we don't have to talk

[00:17:36] Women may come

[00:17:38] And flirt with you

[00:17:40] It's up to you

[00:17:42] You know you in the gym

[00:17:44] And you live the night life

[00:17:46] You don't gotta drink

[00:17:48] Every drink that they offer

[00:17:50] You got shelter

[00:17:52] He ain't drinking before that

[00:17:54] That's what I'm saying it's a level of discipline

[00:17:56] You gotta want it bad enough

[00:17:58] And sometimes that discipline

[00:18:00] The real true discipline is when you want something

[00:18:02] That money can't buy

[00:18:04] Like what give me

[00:18:06] Happiness, mental health

[00:18:08] Yeah peace

[00:18:10] I remember

[00:18:14] Who said it

[00:18:16] I forgot who said it

[00:18:18] So I'm sorry if I don't give you credit

[00:18:20] But he said before

[00:18:22] He used to go out at night

[00:18:24] He always ate at home

[00:18:26] So he served this appetite from within

[00:18:28] So when he go out

[00:18:30] You know what I'm saying

[00:18:32] You out and girl be like

[00:18:34] You know what I'm saying

[00:18:36] You served that appetite

[00:18:38] You're in an appetite

[00:18:40] For the bigger picture

[00:18:42] You know what my problem is

[00:18:44] I would do that

[00:18:46] Nah

[00:18:48] Me, I think you know it's easy

[00:18:50] What's better for me now

[00:18:52] Saying no first and then changing my mind later

[00:18:54] Cause it's easier to do that

[00:18:56] You're like yo LA Lincoln tonight

[00:18:58] Nah I can't

[00:19:00] And then you think about it and you really evaluate it

[00:19:02] I could do it

[00:19:04] Opposed to saying I bet and then saying

[00:19:06] I'd rather say no first

[00:19:08] And then if I change my mind

[00:19:10] That means I gave it some full thought

[00:19:12] But it's easier for me to dismiss it

[00:19:14] Saying nah nah I'm good

[00:19:16] Opposed to offering

[00:19:18] Letting people know that

[00:19:20] I am going to do it

[00:19:22] And then I switch up

[00:19:24] So that's kind of my strategy

[00:19:26] But you know being well disciplined

[00:19:28] It takes time

[00:19:30] It takes time

[00:19:32] And

[00:19:34] It's worth it

[00:19:36] When you achieve what you really want to achieve bro

[00:19:38] It's worth it

[00:19:40] It really

[00:19:42] It's a level of

[00:19:44] It's a reward that like

[00:19:46] Nobody else can give you

[00:19:48] And nobody else can take from you

[00:19:50] And once you're disciplined in one factor

[00:19:52] I feel like it rolls over

[00:19:54] In every other

[00:19:56] Cause you know what it takes

[00:19:58] I'm not even right though

[00:20:00] I remember when I first moved to Atlanta

[00:20:02] Cause

[00:20:04] It's different right here

[00:20:06] Like just to have that

[00:20:08] That bread that I had at that time

[00:20:10] I was like nah I was lit

[00:20:12] Yeah even the money with that

[00:20:14] I wasn't completely happy

[00:20:16] But

[00:20:18] It filled a certain void

[00:20:20] Like that wasn't something I had to worry about

[00:20:22] At that time so it was like I can focus on this now

[00:20:24] So like

[00:20:26] Yeah I would love the money

[00:20:28] I feel like even that

[00:20:30] I think it masks

[00:20:32] The void that we really need to work on

[00:20:34] A lot of people with money

[00:20:36] What they do is

[00:20:38] They have a problem with somebody

[00:20:40] If they have a problem period they throw money at it

[00:20:42] Cause they pay for uh

[00:20:44] What's the term

[00:20:46] I forgot it

[00:20:48] But they pay for uh

[00:20:50] Damn

[00:20:52] Convenience yeah thank you

[00:20:54] They pay for convenience

[00:20:56] So technically you don't gotta work on what you gotta work on

[00:20:58] You just pay somebody to do it

[00:21:00] But sometimes

[00:21:02] You deprive yourself on the

[00:21:04] On the

[00:21:06] Figuring out factor

[00:21:08] That's what

[00:21:10] That's a

[00:21:12] That's a plus

[00:21:14] For having a bread though

[00:21:16] Imagine I don't want to edit a video

[00:21:18] Imagine I don't want to edit a video

[00:21:20] I'm gonna pay you to do it

[00:21:22] Okay I don't want to edit a photo

[00:21:24] Cool

[00:21:26] What happens when that person is too busy to do it

[00:21:28] Pay somebody else

[00:21:30] If you can't find anybody else in that short period of time

[00:21:32] I guess I gotta do it myself

[00:21:34] That's a good thing I know how to do it

[00:21:36] But that's what I'm saying

[00:21:38] Certain people don't know

[00:21:40] How to do certain things in certain situations

[00:21:44] Oh for example

[00:21:48] Two young guys

[00:21:50] Once I tell you the story you'll remember

[00:21:52] They were in a situation where

[00:21:54] They didn't know how to communicate their feelings

[00:21:56] But all they know how to do was

[00:21:58] Exert violence

[00:22:00] Right

[00:22:02] But they would now face in a situation where

[00:22:04] Violence didn't make sense

[00:22:06] But because they don't know how to express themselves

[00:22:08] Or communicate themselves

[00:22:10] You know they don't know how to advocate for themselves

[00:22:14] They then were now faced in a situation where

[00:22:16] Violence wasn't the answer

[00:22:18] What you gonna fight the nigga?

[00:22:20] For what?

[00:22:22] So because they didn't have the tools to

[00:22:24] Express themselves

[00:22:26] In a manner where

[00:22:28] They could articulate how they feel and freely express themselves

[00:22:32] Then they, you know

[00:22:34] All they did was shy away

[00:22:38] I'm really trying to figure out what the situation is

[00:22:40] My brain is on a thousand

[00:22:42] Okay

[00:22:44] Yeah

[00:22:46] So

[00:22:48] That's certain things that money can't buy

[00:22:50] You know

[00:22:52] Talk

[00:22:54] Communication, patience

[00:22:56] That's a different type of

[00:22:58] Certain intangibles

[00:23:00] You gonna have all the money in the world

[00:23:02] And you're not diverse

[00:23:04] Oh boom

[00:23:06] I can tell you, speaking of bank

[00:23:08] I'll tell you a funny story she told me once

[00:23:10] She was on a date

[00:23:12] And she ordered

[00:23:14] A bottle of champagne

[00:23:16] And you know

[00:23:18] You know how the god comes

[00:23:20] And presents the wine

[00:23:22] Like that

[00:23:24] So they're doing that to show you

[00:23:26] The name of the year

[00:23:28] Right

[00:23:30] Dude, she was dating at the time

[00:23:32] I guess he had money or whatever

[00:23:34] But you know what he did when the god did the bottle

[00:23:36] Like this

[00:23:38] Oh you were hurting her

[00:23:42] Without a doubt

[00:23:44] As opposed to like group and hood

[00:23:46] You gotta respect it

[00:23:48] But I think the style of restaurant

[00:23:50] Yeah you can't do that bro

[00:23:52] That's crazy

[00:23:54] Now

[00:23:56] All the money in the world

[00:23:58] Now we're traveling

[00:24:00] Can't buy class

[00:24:02] There you go

[00:24:04] Damn boy, tapping a bottle is

[00:24:06] Ridiculous

[00:24:08] That's ridiculous

[00:24:10] In a five star restaurant

[00:24:12] Boy

[00:24:14] When you get a bottle of Tatiana

[00:24:16] You just tap it

[00:24:18] Come on

[00:24:20] I hope she's gone

[00:24:22] That was

[00:24:24] But yeah, so yeah

[00:24:26] Wow

[00:24:28] All the money in the world

[00:24:30] Damn boy

[00:24:32] I mean

[00:24:34] Gotta diversify your portfolio

[00:24:38] So when you think about yourself as a man

[00:24:40] You can't just say yo my paper straight

[00:24:42] What I would say is

[00:24:44] I am happy with the man I am

[00:24:46] But I can't wait to see the man I'm going to be

[00:24:48] That's beautiful

[00:24:50] With that extra you know

[00:24:52] With that being said though right

[00:24:54] The man that you want to be

[00:24:56] Looking into the future

[00:24:58] How much of that does not involve money

[00:25:04] Some of it revolves around it

[00:25:06] It's more like a

[00:25:08] Just being more responsible

[00:25:10] Management of money

[00:25:14] My mentor of course

[00:25:16] Mentals that's

[00:25:18] I put that over my brain right now

[00:25:20] If I was literally extremely happy

[00:25:22] Yeah money would be

[00:25:24] A thing but it was just like

[00:25:26] You think if God gave you what you want to

[00:25:28] You'd be able to manage it

[00:25:30] No

[00:25:32] That's why I always think of your brother

[00:25:34] That's why I'm got the opportunity I need right now

[00:25:36] Can I trick it off?

[00:25:38] I don't say it like that

[00:25:40] I'm going crazy

[00:25:42] I'm going to talk to you out of this every week

[00:25:44] It's crazy

[00:25:46] I wouldn't be responsible enough to hold that

[00:25:48] Right now

[00:25:50] That's the kind of thing

[00:25:52] Maybe

[00:25:54] The things that are

[00:25:56] That's the next level of discipline

[00:25:58] That I feel like once I get to that level

[00:26:00] I'll unlock a new

[00:26:02] Blessing

[00:26:04] It's lit there

[00:26:06] It's literally how I feel like certain things

[00:26:08] Haven't happened because

[00:26:10] I'm not ready for that yet

[00:26:12] As much as I think I'm ready for that

[00:26:14] God knows if I'm ready for that

[00:26:16] I got to understand that but that's another thing about being patient too

[00:26:18] I got to meet him halfway

[00:26:20] I got to meet him

[00:26:22] You see me

[00:26:24] I'm consistently

[00:26:26] I read Genesis last night

[00:26:28] Come on brother

[00:26:30] The first page

[00:26:32] You got to stay though

[00:26:34] I do it by Bible

[00:26:36] You know how you just

[00:26:38] I do it a totally different way

[00:26:40] I'll flip through it

[00:26:42] I got my top of this page

[00:26:44] I was an ex-sidist and I was at John

[00:26:46] I said John, joke

[00:26:48] But I'm just going through it

[00:26:50] Every night I go through it and look at a different page

[00:26:52] I'm doing my work

[00:26:54] Brother come on

[00:26:56] He woke me up in the morning

[00:26:58] That's your work

[00:27:00] Yeah that's what I'm saying

[00:27:02] It's just so sad to see

[00:27:04] That like so many men

[00:27:06] Put their stock

[00:27:08] In the dollar

[00:27:10] As if they have nothing more to offer

[00:27:12] In life

[00:27:14] It's crazy because

[00:27:16] The clip that we had put out a few weeks ago

[00:27:18] When it was like

[00:27:20] I think it was a discussion of social media money

[00:27:22] It was one of them

[00:27:24] Yeah I think it was a social media one

[00:27:26] My job actually did a conversation about that

[00:27:28] Last week

[00:27:30] I should have sent them the clip

[00:27:32] So they could watch me

[00:27:34] Trying to get me clipped

[00:27:36] They were like come on

[00:27:38] But the person that we interviewed said

[00:27:40] He was like yo social media has ruined

[00:27:42] The mind of so many men and women

[00:27:44] Gen Z

[00:27:46] Millennials didn't get it as bad as Gen Z

[00:27:48] Has it but millennials have it bad because

[00:27:50] Some of them have a great

[00:27:52] Financial life

[00:27:54] Some of them don't and when you look at somebody else's life

[00:27:56] On social media it's like yo

[00:27:58] Why can't I get that

[00:28:00] Why don't I have that and you start becoming a little jealous

[00:28:02] And

[00:28:04] Go ahead

[00:28:06] That has been a thought in my mind

[00:28:08] Like that was

[00:28:10] Out of my whole two years of being at my job

[00:28:12] That's my first, I said third episode

[00:28:14] I watched, other one was

[00:28:16] Al Sharpton, other one was

[00:28:18] The best role player that was on the Celtics

[00:28:20] They kicked him off because he was

[00:28:22] Sorry to cave but

[00:28:24] Oh oh oh oh

[00:28:26] He changed his name to Frito

[00:28:28] Yes

[00:28:30] That was

[00:28:32] The three episodes I watched that one

[00:28:34] So that one just hit me the most

[00:28:36] That's what I'm like I'm not

[00:28:38] Really on social media like I'm on and off

[00:28:40] You know when I realized money don't really matter

[00:28:42] In a relationship

[00:28:44] When I dated a woman with money

[00:28:48] It ain't matter though

[00:28:50] There's nothing that I

[00:28:52] Could have bought or she could have had

[00:28:54] When you date somebody who

[00:28:56] Don't care about

[00:28:58] That shit then you

[00:29:00] All she want you to do is

[00:29:02] Make a happy, make a feel at peace

[00:29:04] And you can't buy that

[00:29:06] Because with her money she would have bought it already

[00:29:08] So that's when I

[00:29:10] Yup, yup

[00:29:12] She just wanted somebody who could make her smile

[00:29:14] Make her feel safe

[00:29:16] Make her feel sexy

[00:29:18] Come on

[00:29:20] But remember feet

[00:29:22] That's six to a twelve

[00:29:24] Yo boy it's chillin

[00:29:26] Gwani why you allowed him to talk like this

[00:29:28] They could put you on that show

[00:29:32] Hey baby when I'm not here you want to scope of this thing

[00:29:34] Why you want

[00:29:36] Sick nigga though

[00:29:38] Teach her how to pose

[00:29:40] You got one more though

[00:29:42] One more of those

[00:29:44] Nah that's for real

[00:29:46] I think that type

[00:29:48] Of woman but you know like

[00:29:50] She could buy her whatever

[00:29:52] Makes you want to give her everything

[00:29:54] Like you send her that text message

[00:29:56] Like I can't wait to give you everything

[00:29:58] Shout out to my lover boy

[00:30:00] Jop, I'm in the party right there

[00:30:02] I can't wait to give you everything

[00:30:04] But everything don't always include

[00:30:06] Financial stuff you know

[00:30:08] I can't buy you can't buy a true love though

[00:30:10] Yeah

[00:30:12] You know you could buy her a house but is it a home

[00:30:14] You know shit like that so

[00:30:16] You gotta make it that though

[00:30:18] You gotta help that too

[00:30:20] Of course of course of

[00:30:22] But at the same time like I said

[00:30:24] You got a woman

[00:30:26] Who you taking out your car

[00:30:28] She take out her car I got this

[00:30:30] Let me eat that booty

[00:30:34] Hello

[00:30:36] For Don

[00:30:38] So that's when I realized

[00:30:40] Like your money can't really do everything

[00:30:42] When you around people

[00:30:44] Who

[00:30:46] They value a dollar but they don't care about it

[00:30:48] At the same time it's not their end all be all

[00:30:50] You know what's funny

[00:30:52] It's funny that we're having this conversation for real though

[00:30:54] Cause like I want to chat

[00:30:56] I've been watching One Love like I watch it

[00:30:58] When I wrote you I sent you a picture

[00:31:00] I already watched it two times that same day

[00:31:02] But watching this I don't know if that's

[00:31:04] Really how his life went

[00:31:06] Because he started when he was already on

[00:31:10] It was like yo he made all of this bread

[00:31:12] He was like I don't really worry about me

[00:31:14] Like worry about the rest of them I'm good

[00:31:16] I got my little one threes I'm good

[00:31:18] And then he's going with the older stuff

[00:31:20] He's like I can't even get a little piece

[00:31:22] Everybody want peace for me I can't even get a little piece for myself

[00:31:24] And you got all this bread and you still got

[00:31:26] Shit going on bro

[00:31:28] I literally

[00:31:30] I'm in a movie theater

[00:31:32] Watching this shit

[00:31:34] I check the tail so it's like this shit

[00:31:36] This shit hard fill this shit right now

[00:31:40] Show me the tab and you say you good I say you're good

[00:31:42] I'm like alright I'm done right now

[00:31:44] This shit is kind of fuckable right now

[00:31:46] Like actually yo

[00:31:48] Why did you say I said yo boy you didn't

[00:31:50] You didn't feel that

[00:31:52] When that shit happened she was like nah I don't

[00:31:54] Like I guess there's a difference

[00:31:56] From a woman and a man

[00:31:58] So totally different like you are meant to

[00:32:00] Provide so that's like

[00:32:02] If you're for sure that providing the bread part

[00:32:04] It's like oh

[00:32:06] But see that's the thing

[00:32:08] That's what I feel like it was drilled in our head

[00:32:10] It was provision right

[00:32:12] But we thought about provision

[00:32:14] In a sense of financially

[00:32:16] Right but

[00:32:18] Pause you good with your hands

[00:32:20] So you're handy

[00:32:22] You can cook

[00:32:24] Like you can really cook

[00:32:26] Anybody been to Don's barbecues

[00:32:28] You see him on the grill

[00:32:30] That's enough you could provide food

[00:32:32] You could provide shelter

[00:32:34] That were all things

[00:32:36] You know there's certain men that know how to fish

[00:32:38] I feel like provision

[00:32:40] For us

[00:32:42] And going forward for the younger men

[00:32:44] That's going along only hear it

[00:32:46] That's yo we just gotta get this bread

[00:32:48] And that's what he was telling me on the plane

[00:32:50] That my provision as a man

[00:32:52] I lost it

[00:32:54] In the sense of just always trying to get the

[00:32:56] Get the bread

[00:32:58] He was like thankfully I got a wife who balances me out

[00:33:00] But if I didn't have that

[00:33:02] That I would just be in the endless cycle

[00:33:04] Of getting money

[00:33:06] And he said yo I will never

[00:33:08] He looked me in my face

[00:33:10] And said I would never spend it all

[00:33:14] I'm just trying to set up my generations

[00:33:16] That we never have to depend on

[00:33:18] Working for another

[00:33:24] But that's his goal

[00:33:26] That's his goal now he made all the money

[00:33:28] So something that satisfies his soul

[00:33:30] That feeds his appetite

[00:33:32] Is to make sure his generation

[00:33:34] That his lineage

[00:33:36] Never has to work for anybody else

[00:33:38] Another goal of mine is to

[00:33:40] I don't want to be like that

[00:33:42] I don't see my wife and my kids

[00:33:44] I don't want that

[00:33:46] I would love to see them every night

[00:33:48] Every morning hug my kids

[00:33:50] Hug my wife

[00:33:52] What are you doing?

[00:33:54] I'm practicing for one of my shit

[00:33:56] No chill the fuck out boy

[00:33:58] My knees crack

[00:34:00] Chill out chill out chill out

[00:34:02] Chill out chill out

[00:34:04] That's another one

[00:34:06] But I guess one day at a time

[00:34:08] One percent bet every day

[00:34:10] Absolutely

[00:34:12] I appreciate you for this episode

[00:34:14] Thank you man

[00:34:16] I bring my life to the pod

[00:34:18] I don't get so much of me

[00:34:22] I knew that shit wasn't gonna last long

[00:34:24] You can follow me at dawn

[00:34:26] I'm easily dawning the camera guy

[00:34:28] Damn my ass

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[00:35:06] Make sure I go get you all your stuff

[00:35:08] Facts

[00:35:10] Facts

[00:35:12] So next time

[00:35:14] We'll make a lot of noise

[00:35:16] We finished

[00:35:18] Almost took your bucket hat off

[00:35:20] I say cool y'all be cool man

[00:35:22] God is good baby